After this year and a 2nd break up with my ex, I now know I would always shut down when it was time to have a conflict with my ex. I have learned that the way I witnessed how my parents would fight and interact with me and my brother played a hand in my development of a fearful avoidancy attachment style. Anytime my ex would come at me in an aggressive tone, I shut down. Therapy helped me realize that I would go back to feeling lime I was just a disappointment and felt only shame because I messed up again. I never truly understood the importance or even how to look within, and I was too scared of what I would see that I buried. Learning all of this and learning how to dig within and be vulnerable with myself had me remembering my ex's words earlier this year and wondering why I couldn't do this then and prevent her from leaving. I know now that I was volatile and incredibly emotionally unavailable. Now the hard part is to not live in a state of shame and guult because of what I lost as a result of my choices. Therapy helps but its still a process and fight within myself to not allow my avoidant ways to stay around. I still get dysregulated when trying to figure it all out and have to remind myself to not try to tackle everything at the same time like I used and ause overwhelm. Thank you fir the info you pass onto us and know that it helps those trying to become better men and partners in tge long run
After this year and a 2nd break up with my ex, I now know I would always shut down when it was time to have a conflict with my ex. I have learned that the way I witnessed how my parents would fight and interact with me and my brother played a hand in my development of a fearful avoidancy attachment style. Anytime my ex would come at me in an aggressive tone, I shut down. Therapy helped me realize that I would go back to feeling lime I was just a disappointment and felt only shame because I messed up again. I never truly understood the importance or even how to look within, and I was too scared of what I would see that I buried. Learning all of this and learning how to dig within and be vulnerable with myself had me remembering my ex's words earlier this year and wondering why I couldn't do this then and prevent her from leaving. I know now that I was volatile and incredibly emotionally unavailable. Now the hard part is to not live in a state of shame and guult because of what I lost as a result of my choices. Therapy helps but its still a process and fight within myself to not allow my avoidant ways to stay around. I still get dysregulated when trying to figure it all out and have to remind myself to not try to tackle everything at the same time like I used and ause overwhelm. Thank you fir the info you pass onto us and know that it helps those trying to become better men and partners in tge long run
Great subject! Great video!
another slam dunk, Connor. thank you!
More men would go to therapy if it were like this. Thank you for yet more valuable information.
WHY didn’t I find this video yrs ago BEFORE the conflict or should I say WWIII…