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  • @stargirl6555
    @stargirl6555 4 месяца назад +49

    Every time you share your struggles in your love life, I’m like how??? You are so fit, beautiful and so down to earth you’d be my dream girl! Anyone would be crazy lucky to have a prize like you.

  • @sherri5912
    @sherri5912 4 месяца назад +5

    I love watching your videos & Tika. You display & share what real life is like, thank you for being so strong & sharing that with us! That ain’t easy.

  • @sherrysimpson4440
    @sherrysimpson4440 4 месяца назад +56

    Ghosting has nothing to do with you it's their immaturity and not willing to do life as an adult😮
    Just do you and live life to it's fullest!! 🎉

  • @Kelly-iv4wk
    @Kelly-iv4wk 4 месяца назад +2

    I hear ya with the extensions 😌 you do you and whatever makes you feel good. Live in the moment ☺️

  • @Ivyjanebrown
    @Ivyjanebrown 4 месяца назад +2

    SO RELATABLE thank you 🫶🏼

  • @IvyV
    @IvyV 4 месяца назад

    Love how real you are thank you for sharing ❤

  • @manfredbismark6688
    @manfredbismark6688 4 месяца назад +1

    Stay calm Melissa! Rudi.

  • @catherinen8547
    @catherinen8547 3 месяца назад +1

    Also, Anthropology can have options.

  • @lianeb.2040
    @lianeb.2040 4 месяца назад

    Where is your checkered sweater from at the end of the video?! Love it 😍

  • @TheTaylorLayne
    @TheTaylorLayne 4 месяца назад

    Sorry you're going through this. Just remind yourself life always ebbs and flows 🤍

  • @Meeshhhh
    @Meeshhhh 4 месяца назад

    What is the blue color on your nails?

  • @ConfessionsdeManon
    @ConfessionsdeManon 4 месяца назад +72

    I loooove how raw and vulnerable you are in your videos 🫶🏼 also you’re dead gorgeous and have THE perfect body… no way you’re single, men are the worst

    • @jackrowlands4590
      @jackrowlands4590 4 месяца назад +7

      I couldn't agree more! If Melissa is single then there's no hope for the rest of us. She's incredibly beautiful, has an amazing personality and she's a ray of sunshine!

    • @sarahkessler2456
      @sarahkessler2456 13 дней назад +1

      She just hasn’t found the right guy yet. She will not be single forever that’s for sure ❤

  • @alexandracojocaru5525
    @alexandracojocaru5525 4 месяца назад +28

    ,,I just wanna die for like a day and then come back to life"😂
    Mellisa, I hope you are ok now. I told you, me too I'm in my 30's, single and stopped dating a while ago.
    Everything will be alright!❤
    You are loved by all of us from here!😊❤

  • @EmaanFatima-hm7dk
    @EmaanFatima-hm7dk 3 месяца назад +1

    Hi what's your shedding condition now . I am also facing telegin effluvium .its heartbroken

  • @officialhoser
    @officialhoser 4 месяца назад +3

    I hope you meet a guy when walking Tika. She has to approve.

  • @LauraReidd
    @LauraReidd 3 месяца назад

    ill hang out w/ u

  • @LC.1990
    @LC.1990 4 месяца назад +1

    I always go back to the concept "he's just not that into you" kind of harsh but realistic. You're the total package and if a guy doesn't see that and value that then he should go f himself.
    Have you considered slightly older guys?

  • @Bibio990
    @Bibio990 4 месяца назад +1

    Hi Melissa! I follow you for years and see you’re feeling a bit of stagnation in life (nothing wrong with it)
    Would you consider applying for some corporate job for a change? You could meet lots of new people and maybe have a different daily routine going to the office and you would feel more accomplished overall.
    That always helps me!
    Love!❤

  • @Margaret_Hemenway
    @Margaret_Hemenway 4 месяца назад +16

    also had such a horrible week. seeing your vlog is so relatable!! Life is so full of ups and downs

  • @Ruby9h
    @Ruby9h 4 месяца назад +15

    Thank you for sharing this vlog because I’ve been going through similar things lately, hope you feel better 💐❤

    • @MelissaMerk
      @MelissaMerk  4 месяца назад +3

      Thank you! You too! 💕

  • @goldier2264
    @goldier2264 4 месяца назад +57

    The fact that you're giving this random person power over you if he doesn't text back tells me that you are not ready to date. No judgment here whatsoever. I have been there trust me. Fill your cup up first, You are doing amazing. You are so beautiful. And always remember the universe will never let anything pass you by that is meant for you... that is universal law. So anything that is forced is not for you. You will never have to chase. Breath and enjoy your beautiful life with tika. Much love. ❤

    • @ichibeh
      @ichibeh 4 месяца назад +51

      I find it refreshing how real she is being about the situation, I don’t think it means she’s not ready to date because she feels bad after getting ghosted by someone she went out with twice..it’s natural and normal to feel a bit rejected and disappointed

    • @bethomens
      @bethomens 4 месяца назад +9

      Agree! ​@@ichibeh

    • @0273345872
      @0273345872 4 месяца назад +1

      I dont normally comment but this comment is absolutely ridiculous.
      Her being upset about being ghosted is completely normal and not saying she's not ready to date. In actual fact it's showing she is ready. She's ready to commit to someone and find that one. Getting upset about wanting something to work and then being upset about being ghosted, something you have no control over is so normal. We can't help there are still peoplenput there who do this. If the guy isn't into it, thats okay, and he just needs to be upfront rather than play her like this. Sorry but seriously.....

    • @raemarie4412
      @raemarie4412 4 месяца назад +8

      Melissa is having a totally normal reaction.

  • @Karolina-fc6ql
    @Karolina-fc6ql 4 месяца назад +1

    ....with anxiety is it really not good idea to drink coffee.... even 1!

  • @dy992
    @dy992 4 месяца назад +18

    Date multiple people. Keep things formal in the beginning and don’t get hung up on anyone in particular. Let them be the ones to pursue you & work hard to prove their value to you.
    Once I changed my perspective from “this guys has potential” to “what has this person shown me so far with his ACTIONS”, everything changed. Men will tell you anything you want to hear, but their actions will tell you everything you need to know!! ♥️

  • @SimplyAl2
    @SimplyAl2 4 месяца назад +10

    I got ghosted about three weeks ago after the best first date I’ve ever been on. Such a bummer. I was torn up and constantly thinking about it for a week, and now I’m over it. It’s such an annoying cycle. I definitely don’t think because your hurt it means it’s “not ready.” Your brain is just grasping to whatever you knew and coping. It’s hard out here!

    • @MelissaMerk
      @MelissaMerk  4 месяца назад +2

      uhg, really is a bummer . Sorry that happened :( The recover time always seems fast though which is a plus lol

  • @jack67102
    @jack67102 4 месяца назад +15

    Are you still friends with Carla?

    • @lynndumas2121
      @lynndumas2121 4 месяца назад +2

      I was wondering that also.

    • @K3q24
      @K3q24 4 месяца назад +1

      @@lynndumas2121 So was I...

    • @jack67102
      @jack67102 4 месяца назад +1

      @@lynndumas2121 I remember she used to be very close to Carla, which is why I was surprised when she said she would have no-one to hang out with once Stephen leaves.

    • @sabrina77769
      @sabrina77769 4 месяца назад +3

      Melissa always seemed more mature than her.. some people grow apart? Who knows..

    • @EmilyZapotocny
      @EmilyZapotocny 2 месяца назад

      I think Carla is her cousin - she still has phone calls with her in recent vlogs I believe!

  • @jenniferberkel7623
    @jenniferberkel7623 4 месяца назад +7

    Sorry that happened to you Melissa that's not very nice of this person so good riddance to him!! He's not the one 😊❤ and don't listen to any excuses when he gets back to u in a month

  • @rockymtmal
    @rockymtmal 4 месяца назад +1

    Think like an economist. Pick the guy who is 10% better.

  • @taylorcahill2986
    @taylorcahill2986 4 месяца назад +6

    Omg your video could not have appeared at a better time. I’m anxious because I feel like I have to force myself to be social and dating these days is just not fun 😐 I’m right there with you!

  • @elevatewithbrit
    @elevatewithbrit 4 месяца назад +1

    Girl, Vancouver is a jungle! For dresses though, Park & Fifth!

  • @IOSALive
    @IOSALive 4 месяца назад +3

    Melissa Merk, Subscribed because your content is fantastic!

  • @lexibiebs3
    @lexibiebs3 4 месяца назад +5

    Girl, you are stunning, you are smart, funny, you’re an absolute catch, fuck these guys! You deserve someone who treats you like a queen and if they don’t, boy bye. Don’t forget that

  • @illestFlavor
    @illestFlavor 4 месяца назад +2

    Where'd you get the blue hoodie from?

  • @laurenbx
    @laurenbx 4 месяца назад

    Feel like your nervous system is sending you a lot of signals that you’re doing things you don’t like - sometimes your comfort zone is the place you need to be. Ghosting is so immature as if grown men do that 😅 hopefully you can look back and laugh, this guy must have the mental age of a 16 year old hun

  • @katrinacool
    @katrinacool 4 месяца назад +5

    I love videos like this as I can relate to anxiety and I find that multitasking exacerbates my anxiety. Breathe! Hug Tika! Exercise! Let it go and don't let someone else cause you to feel overwhelmed- they're not worth your energy. Yes to extensions definitely since you have not done so in a while. I like when you share your thoughts as it helps me deal with my own issues and anxiety. Enjoy Austin and hugs to adorable Tika! And if no one tells you everyone here appreciates and adores you!!!! We care!!! 😍☺️🥰❤️😊🌴☀️🦩❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @elisestarday6372
    @elisestarday6372 4 месяца назад

    I feel like you need to move out of Canada all together and move to the U.S in hopes of better dating horizons. Have you thought about it atleast?

  • @Aelia0.0
    @Aelia0.0 4 месяца назад

    Period hormones are shit everytime i feel that i look like shit that everything is fucke up its normal just chemicals of the body is not us our true self and also the weather really has an impact in our mood too

  • @MsLiLaCoRe
    @MsLiLaCoRe 4 месяца назад

    I recently found out that collagen boosts my anxiety and makes me a little depressed. There are studies about this. Maybe have a look into that? ❤

  • @BG-rr5fk
    @BG-rr5fk 4 месяца назад

    Wish you the best Melissa you deserve it ❤❤ are you still thinking about moving?

  • @rowenazheng3018
    @rowenazheng3018 4 месяца назад +1

    That mucho burrito brings me back to the old Mel Weekly days

  • @Lokeen
    @Lokeen 4 месяца назад +4

    Theres so much pressure as a women to date and find something longterm. Its bs.. guys can mess around and do them for decades, and its encouraged.
    You are a total catch, so dont sweat it. Enjoy being you and getting some selfish time of what you wanna eoo.

  • @diazsab11
    @diazsab11 4 месяца назад +5

    Girl, thank you so much sharing. I got ghosted two weeks ago. And felt the exact same way. Also the same reason why I gave up on dating. I started my period today too.

  • @trueblonde89
    @trueblonde89 4 месяца назад

    Me here thinking, who in their right mind would ghost YOU!!

  • @user-rz5nu9mg7c
    @user-rz5nu9mg7c 4 месяца назад

    All of the US Aldo stores went out of business years ago.

  • @michc4742
    @michc4742 4 месяца назад

    Plenty is one of my fav stores, you may have some luck there

  • @sarahiroman8201
    @sarahiroman8201 4 месяца назад

    Whatever happened to Karla?

  • @Billy33753
    @Billy33753 4 месяца назад +4

    Ghosting brings anxiety cause they disappear without any explanation or warning . Hope all is well!

  • @milliemooie
    @milliemooie 4 месяца назад +4

    I live in Austin and it’s a superrrr casual city! Honestly people wear whatever so don’t worry about not being dressed up enough.

  • @bethomens
    @bethomens 4 месяца назад +4

    This made me feel better because i am in a funk too! Thanks Melissa 🖤

  • @SovereignSelf2095
    @SovereignSelf2095 4 месяца назад +3

    Thanks for being so relatable. You should look into taking l-theanine to calm yourself down, helps me a lot. Also there’s some really cute boutiques in Yaletown for going out dresses

  • @lica8688
    @lica8688 4 месяца назад

  • @samanthahopkinsxo
    @samanthahopkinsxo 4 месяца назад

    Dating is the worst. I got divorced at 27 and getting back in the dating pool again was not fun...guys in their 30s are so hot and cold and some are just absolutely disgusting and atrocious, BUT I did meet a few great guys in the mix and ultimately ended up meeting THE one not soon after feeling like I wanted to give up. We have been married 5 years now and have a sweet baby boy together and life is amazing, hard still at times, but so good! So, don't give up! Good things can happen, I promise. But, keep taking care of yourself and finding that self love because that is so important!

  • @kenzieshea_
    @kenzieshea_ 4 месяца назад

    Would love a podcast episode about ghosting! I’m going through it but I actually hooked up with them and yeah it stings…

  • @mariapt5914
    @mariapt5914 4 месяца назад

    Hi Melissa CityLux in downtown Vancouver on Howe Street is a cute boutique to shop for dresses.

  • @SosoAl-br9hs
    @SosoAl-br9hs 4 месяца назад

    I'm living the same kind of situation in my dating live. It's hard even if no one knows i keep it for my self but i m also tired of dating app...

  • @arin7706
    @arin7706 4 месяца назад +3

    Love the vlogs!! Thank you so much for sharing, and just know that you got this ♥

  • @Cheerleader16011998
    @Cheerleader16011998 4 месяца назад +3

    This was such a refreshing video, felt so validated and supported 😅 manifesting your dream guy soon

  • @garima_pathak
    @garima_pathak 4 месяца назад +3

    Don't be hard on yourself, Mel ❤ you will find the right one at the right time

  • @jessicaalger4525
    @jessicaalger4525 4 месяца назад

    That blue hoodie is your colour! Looks amazing on you.

  • @bugdrawsportraits
    @bugdrawsportraits 4 месяца назад +2

    I (obviously) didn't watch the video yet, but as soon as I saw the title I remembered I wanted to comment in the latest video that your muscles being stiff might be from anxiety and stress 😭

  • @beautygirly18
    @beautygirly18 4 месяца назад

    So this is a universal girl experience 😅 sending love!

  • @PrincessStarwberry
    @PrincessStarwberry 3 месяца назад

    Love you ❤

  • @Sunset-8760
    @Sunset-8760 4 месяца назад +2

    You are a beautiful soul and deserve nothing but the best! Keep you head up and Keep being you :)

  • @kendrasurprise
    @kendrasurprise 4 месяца назад +2

    We alllllll have these days. Be sad about it but not for too too long then carry on. Hope you feel better soon

  • @StaceyHeathxoxo
    @StaceyHeathxoxo 4 месяца назад +1

    I got ghosted too after dating the guy since January. I think there something really wrong with some men. I am 48 and older men are immature too. It’s not you, you are gorgeous and you will find the right guy in divine timing.

  • @ervinsmoviecorner8748
    @ervinsmoviecorner8748 4 месяца назад +2

    Love this one!❤

  • @emiliacarquez5717
    @emiliacarquez5717 4 месяца назад +2

    This vlog is everything I needed

  • @cherylvargas8861
    @cherylvargas8861 4 месяца назад +1

    Your feelings are normal. I'm 44, TX Mom of three graduated, out-of-the-house children. Right before our menstrual cycles our hormones are out of whack!! Especially getting older. You are a very beautiful woman and men have to be intimidated by your beauty. You have an amazing life and surrounded by wonderful people. Just know that the right one will appear. Don't rush. May not be from scrolling. That one will be perfect for you. It will happen when you least expect it.

  • @LorieVlogs
    @LorieVlogs 4 месяца назад +1

    Watching you from San Antonio. If you ever come back to Texas, San Antonio is known to be the culinary city of Texas. ❤ you should plan a San Antonio, Hill Country (wine country), Austin trip in the future!

  • @BabeiIlie
    @BabeiIlie 2 месяца назад

    the Bible is answer for your all questions

  • @cupcaakelover
    @cupcaakelover 4 месяца назад +1

    Would love to learn more about your experience with hair extension and recommendations/salons ❤

  • @raminrandhawa68
    @raminrandhawa68 4 месяца назад +1

    The fact you posted this video today when I needed to relate to someone going through a couple of uneasy situations- involving a trip, personal friendships & getting my period and being super emotional is wild. Appreciate you being real and sharing- and trust you are not alone. Anxiety sucks and as much as we all know not to give other people the power to control us- its SO much easier said than done. Hopefully next weeks a better week mentally for everyone 😂

  • @shayhomeniuk6476
    @shayhomeniuk6476 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for being so real and showing us this side of your life. It’s very relatable❤

  • @CR-tz3vk
    @CR-tz3vk 4 месяца назад +1

    You are my favourite vlogger it’s such a treat when you post a new vlog. Your content is so raw and fresh in like the best way. 🤗 Also, eff that guy.

  • @AlyssaMazur
    @AlyssaMazur 4 месяца назад +1

    Soooo relatable!! I live in Kelowna so if you ever feel like you need a new friend! 🤗

  • @officialhoser
    @officialhoser 4 месяца назад +1

    Happy 3 in kits for good vacation clothing

  • @safedriver3151
    @safedriver3151 4 месяца назад

    You are as beautiful today as you were 14 (14!!) years ago. I hope you get professional help for the anxiety and keep walking, in your case, keep shining!

  • @MultiJanfi
    @MultiJanfi 4 месяца назад +1

    Btw the white flowers are the ones that smelled so good :) one of my favorite ones.

  • @catherinen8547
    @catherinen8547 3 месяца назад

    Oddly, I have a couple of formal dressed from Abercrombie & Fitch. I wore them both to a black tie events. Try there!

  • @MeganTaylor973
    @MeganTaylor973 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for always sharing your emotions - it's truly so helpful. I also got ghosted and it was a lot harder to get over than I anticipated. It's difficult to not take it personally even though it's obviously that person's loss and immaturity. But it's just defeating to start all over again! Your person is out there and they won't make you wonder or question how they feel about you!💜

  • @CarolynK33
    @CarolynK33 4 месяца назад

    Are you still friends with Carla? Haven’t seen you with her in a minute

  • @AsemaB
    @AsemaB 4 месяца назад

    You look stunning in this video, hope you are feeling better

  • @shelleylavallee
    @shelleylavallee 4 месяца назад

    Awwwee.. Melissa you are doing Amazing…Please don’t let all the good .. that you, ve ✅ ..over the last few yrs.. destroy your Living on your own& being happy… You are so intelligent, smart & beautiful.. just be& enjoy your single life.. it will happen.. Organically.❤.. hugs

  • @lisamarie328
    @lisamarie328 4 месяца назад

    I'm 27, from Germany & I can tell you, that it's the absolut same situation with dating & ghosting here. I feel you, don't let yourself down. It will get better, when time is right ✨

  • @lizzie2323
    @lizzie2323 4 месяца назад

    You make me feel not so alone. I'm feeling so anxious and you going through it too makes me feel like I'm not crazy. You are beautiful❤ you deserve the best life has to offer(:

  • @catharinailg9269
    @catharinailg9269 4 месяца назад

    Hi Melissa, I love how real you are! You talk about everything and anything that`s on your mind. For me, this really helps to beat my own anxieties. So thank you!

  • @mrssperanzaa
    @mrssperanzaa 4 месяца назад

    I can relate to so much you‘re saying! Things will be better. And: you look stunning Melissa!

  • @KelsiRheanne
    @KelsiRheanne 4 месяца назад

    I have been watching you for a long time and just wanted to comment that I love your videos, you’re so relatable and not over the top. It’s nice to see the “slow” parts or the “sad days” of someone’s life cause it’s normal! ❤

  • @sweeetsamantha7024
    @sweeetsamantha7024 4 месяца назад

    I love your normal vlogs but this is nice. To see the real you, emotional you and have you really open up is nice to see and more connecting. Thank you for sharing ❤

  • @Anna8765
    @Anna8765 4 месяца назад

    I like the hair extensions, don’t notice anything about the lengths

  • @rebeccawood_
    @rebeccawood_ 4 месяца назад

    Melissa -- You are so lovely. Don't forget it!

  • @msnymin5923
    @msnymin5923 4 месяца назад

    love that you shared this vlog with us ❤ thank you 🙏

  • @rollwithlena5921
    @rollwithlena5921 4 месяца назад

    Where did you get the checkered sweatshirt???

  • @MissOfficialDee
    @MissOfficialDee 4 месяца назад

    Watched your video, and girl.. SAME. *virtual hug* 💕

  • @raemarie4412
    @raemarie4412 4 месяца назад

    Sending you so much love ❤

  • @missdior7764
    @missdior7764 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for sharing your personal life makes me feel like I’m deff not alone when I’m going through the same things 🤍