I get it Murugi@@tmipodcastke just like I found out my bff has her best friend and in her wedding she mentioned me as no. 6 list in her friends when the MC told her to call 10 best friends to come to the front to contribute some cash as friends
The older I get, the more I need: • Peace and simplicity in my life, free from unnecessary stress and drama, esp from my relatives • Quality connections with family, friends, and community, focusing on meaningful relationships over superficial ones. • Self-care and health awareness, prioritizing my physical and mental well-being as my body and mind change with age. • Purpose and fulfillment, whether through work, hobbies, or giving back to others, to feel that my life has meaning. • Patience and understanding, both for myself and others, recognizing that life and people are imperfect. • Comfort and security, creating a stable environment that feels safe and nurturing. • Gratitude and contentment, appreciating what I have rather than always striving for more.
29:40 ~ Sorry Lydia, but I have to disagree with you on this one. Murugi’s point is completely correct. Speaking from experience, I think those who have active and present male and father figures who treat them consistently “bad” or “happen to be emotionally closed off” or “ are inconsiderate about your well-being or how their action affects you” throughout their childhood, actually deter and run further from an emotionally unavailable man. Just like Murugi said, you grow up detesting and not wanting to be attracted to that feeling of constant pain and disappointment from men. The latter however, which is Lydia’s theory I think only resonates with women who didn’t have that “active” & “present” male figure, and as a result of that you yearn that presence of said “man / type of man”. You grow up with the feeling of wanting their attention because you never really had it consistently enough to understand or recognize how ugly and painful it actually is.
THANK-YOU Murugi for speaking on Palestine, Sudan etc and the little we can do to help. Lydia ignorance is not bliss in the case of oppression, genocide and war. Being deliberately ignorant with sensitive issues is crazy. Like Murugi said, every little helps, like donating also boycotting has shown to work and raising awareness.. Come on now.
The older i get, ( being my birthday tomorrow) 😂 the more i need peace, mental wellness. I recently quited a job because of toxic environment, i can't explain how peaceful I've been feeling the last one week.
I have enjoyed this episode like any other girls🥂🥂 Lyd please put murugi in your emergency contact in all devices😂😂😂 For the clan🤗🤗 Looking forward to the mum episode 😂🫶🏼🫶🏼
Kiambuu market was just chilling... then gbaaam!! On a serious note though, convenience is everything as I get older! I wish people would realize that!!
I found my people. Lyd, I resonate with you on inviting people to my house. Like, it feels like an invasion of privacy! Why are you here? You didn't need to see my bed, my kitchen, now you know I'm a germaphobe 😢 Let's meet outdoors😅
Oh Lord, I had the most consistent boyfriend, jealous and he used to follow me everywhere I go, it was love before I learned words stalking and narcissism and how toxic these are. This guy showed me real Pepe in the end😅😅
Hi. A suggestion for the episode with your mothers… Therapy: Embracing it as an older person/You Are Not Too Grown for therapy. I don’t know whether they did go through therapy following their experiences with their first husbands, or what they think of therapy. Perhaps speak of, if they are comfortable to, the circumstances that led to them knowing they needed/wanted a professional to lean on. And speak on the (definitely misplaced) shame associated with therapy as viewed by the older generation. Xxx
The older I get, the more freely I get. As if free to forgive easily and say sorry freely. Basically the more I’m at peace with myself and anything around me.
The older I get the more I need to take tender care of me, sleep enough, eat healthy, smell really really nice, spend money on me without feeling guilty, make my living space beautiful.....
Watching this after a heated conversation here about how sex changed after we got a baby.Its almost like quickies is the normal now. You can't even cuddle after😂😂😂 the baby is already awake. 😢😂. I am sexually frustrated 🥴.I love you son❤
Loved the episode. @Murugi btw same sex relationships women on women don’t always include penetration and its still sex. I like how you framed it from your perspective, but a different POV here that you may not have considered as a podcast that’s working to be inclusive. Also certain disabilities even in hetero relationships exclude the act of penetration and the act is still complete without it. Can’t wait for the mom episode about the men they married. Great energy ladies and looking forward to the live experience in Dec.
28:05-33:15 I discovered a podcast called The High Powered Podcast by Princella. She talks about how women are love but men are incapable of love. That men invest and choose to stay with a woman because there is something he is taking from her. Like sex, the womb to continue his legacy, connections, influence, a positive reflection of himself. Like men are transactional beings and the only reason to allow a man to stay around you is if he is investing in you. Investing money, a good home, a car, land, peace, elevation, choosing to have the willpower over his biological tendencies. Therefore men can't love so it's obnoxious for him to claim to do so. The theory tickled my curious and if it's true it changes everything about love and all those fantasies. It therefore challenges patriarchy and the mental conditioning about the place of a woman and denotes romance simply as a game that women need to play and win. Most women don't think of romance as a game but it is for men. I am interested in hearing such a pov being debated here.
This is an unpopular opinion, but the more people you date and sample sexually, the less satisfied you will be settling down with someone at the end of the day. Reason is, you will always be comparing. Yes some people will stay married despite abuse or cheating, but this might be because they do not want to raise kids on their own or lose financial comfort. These comparisons is also why divorced people are twice as likely to divorce again. The more the divorces, chances of future marriage failure exponentially increases. Look into the lives of these therapists and sexologists that are giving us all this advice. Are they happily married? If the answer is no, you will often find that they are the ones with the attitude of "do whatever makes you happy, you define your own morals, love is love etc etc". As failures themselves they simply throw "responsibility" away. We need to go back to the blueprint as given by God! If you think I have lied, just look at all these beautiful radio personalities like Sanaipei Tande, Adelle, Ciku Muiruri, Kalekye, etc. Why can't they hold down a meaningful relationship?
This is so true. I don’t know why you said “if i lied” because you didn’t. Yes, the more you sample the more dissatisfied you’ll be. Its true. We just live in a society where people don’t want truth. It goes on for both men and women
Your opinion isn’t necessarily unpopular but somewhat hateful in that it relies on negative biases to convey its essence and or motivation: “ a need to go back to the blueprint as given by God.” Now, going to your first premise that dating and having multiple sexual partners before marriage lead to marital instability. Now, I’d have to argue that it is a little bit more complex than that. That it is in fact a case of: correlation does not equal causality. In that there are far more factors that could explain the growing rate of divorces. Let’s consider what virginity means in a patriarchal structure vs the bible. Virginity (with the bible as justification) has been used as yet an other tool for immature masculinity a.k.a patriarchy to have dominion over women. So when you claim we need to go back to the blueprint as given by God, you’re asking us to go back to a reality that has never existed or has yet to materialize in our societies!
And yes to your point, as comparison is said to be a killer of joy and so perhaps it is to marriage as well! But, seeing how a lot of men have been having sex before marriage since time immemorial why is comparison suddenly the key factor in the erosion of marriages. I’d think it has perhaps to do with various shifts in our society (economical, ethical, educational& intellectual development etc ). Those shifts forced a slight loosening of patriarchy, which in turn created instability in gender dynamics, leading to a re-evaluation of gender norms, an ongoing arduous and complex process. Now if comparison is indeed harmful so is its evil twin negative judgment! Now, this type of judgement is an evil trapping that many religious people fall under by assuming, unwittingly I imagine, God’s omniscience in their judgment of others! Believing in God does not afford you His omniscience! Case in point, your views on therapists and sexologists, was quite biased, and because their viewpoints, processes, ideology etc do not align with your idea of “divine blueprint”, you look for their failings and of course find it or assume it in some of them and refer to them as irresponsible failures. Not all of them, mind you, however the bias is in the scrutiny and double measure! Therapists and sexologists like any other profession are not perfect individuals with perfect personal lives. Should we be vigilant and aware of the limitations of said professionals and others while engaging with them? Absolutely, it’s imperative to live consciously! Anyways, it’s the double measure for me where you conveniently look for fault in therapists and professionals and find justifications/ excuses for women who choose to stay in dysfunctional marriages.
The older I get the more I need GOD.
😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
For sure
🔥🔥🔥
The biggest one!
REAL
The older I get, the more I need genuine connections, authentic friendships, and healthy circles...
I can tell Murugi was genuinely hurt that she's not Lyd's emergency contact 😢...
Yeah I literally almost cried.
true
Our lovely Murugi ❤
I get it Murugi@@tmipodcastke just like I found out my bff has her best friend and in her wedding she mentioned me as no. 6 list in her friends when the MC told her to call 10 best friends to come to the front to contribute some cash as friends
I really felt bad for her😢
Aaah..can we appreciate this shooting... The set up .cameras.editing. it's a good work!!!
The older I get, the more I need:
• Peace and simplicity in my life, free from unnecessary stress and drama, esp from my relatives
• Quality connections with family, friends, and community, focusing on meaningful relationships over superficial ones.
• Self-care and health awareness, prioritizing my physical and mental well-being as my body and mind change with age.
• Purpose and fulfillment, whether through work, hobbies, or giving back to others, to feel that my life has meaning.
• Patience and understanding, both for myself and others, recognizing that life and people are imperfect.
• Comfort and security, creating a stable environment that feels safe and nurturing.
• Gratitude and contentment, appreciating what I have rather than always striving for more.
29:40 ~ Sorry Lydia, but I have to disagree with you on this one.
Murugi’s point is completely correct. Speaking from experience, I think those who have active and present male and father figures who treat them consistently “bad” or “happen to be emotionally closed off” or “ are inconsiderate about your well-being or how their action affects you” throughout their childhood, actually deter and run further from an emotionally unavailable man. Just like Murugi said, you grow up detesting and not wanting to be attracted to that feeling of constant pain and disappointment from men.
The latter however, which is Lydia’s theory I think only resonates with women who didn’t have that “active” & “present” male figure, and as a result of that you yearn that presence of said “man / type of man”. You grow up with the feeling of wanting their attention because you never really had it consistently enough to understand or recognize how ugly and painful it actually is.
Was actually relistening to an older episode and thought it would be fun to have your mums in one of the episode. Looking forward to that day
THANK-YOU Murugi for speaking on Palestine, Sudan etc and the little we can do to help. Lydia ignorance is not bliss in the case of oppression, genocide and war. Being deliberately ignorant with sensitive issues is crazy.
Like Murugi said, every little helps, like donating also boycotting has shown to work and raising awareness.. Come on now.
The older i get, ( being my birthday tomorrow) 😂 the more i need peace, mental wellness. I recently quited a job because of toxic environment, i can't explain how peaceful I've been feeling the last one week.
Happy birthday, girlie!
❤
May all that you need more locate you :)
Murugi talking about Palestine is beautiful ❤️God bless you
I have enjoyed this episode like any other girls🥂🥂
Lyd please put murugi in your emergency contact in all devices😂😂😂
For the clan🤗🤗
Looking forward to the mum episode 😂🫶🏼🫶🏼
Jo you need to give Lydia access to your house lest we come for you. When Jo said it's you, my husband, my sisters and mum ooo teared. That's love
😂😂😂
🎉 to those of us who have never commented but today's episode is special. I'm even here in the first minutes😘
Wow love the matching phone cases ❤
That episode with your moms should be "The Man She Married"
You are welcome. 😃
Savannah slow down. 🥹
😅😅😅@@tmipodcastke
😂😂😂@@tmipodcastke
@@joymtenzi2646It's like dang, Mama!😂😂
Fiiinneeee we're getting beducated🖐️😂😂💯
I've read this picturing you in defeat/surrender mode 😂
Finally 🤣🤣🤣🤣
''I'm not driving to Kiambu Market, Oh yeah , that's crazy.'' Put that on a Tshirt.
Good topic for the Mums - Things I know for sure!
1.Relationship/marriage edition
2. Parenting edition
3. Money as you get older and near retirement edition
The emergency contact bit😭
h for hurttt
Kiambuu market was just chilling... then gbaaam!!
On a serious note though, convenience is everything as I get older!
I wish people would realize that!!
It's the handshake as you do the intro😂😂😂
You both are awesome❤
I resonate with Lydia on not wanting people in my house,I literally don't invite anyone and I make sure no one comes😂😂😂😂 its my house,my space
Oh tmi..you inspire our new podcast...thank you
I don't really care for sex, never really have so the older I get, the less I require sexual intimacy!
TMI fans in Kenya y'all go enjoy on our behalf this December. Watching from 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳
Please please bring mums, topic navigating your youth 18-40, relationships and choosing partner's. Lessons they wish we hold up on all this
I found my people. Lyd, I resonate with you on inviting people to my house. Like, it feels like an invasion of privacy! Why are you here? You didn't need to see my bed, my kitchen, now you know I'm a germaphobe 😢
Let's meet outdoors😅
You and I both 😂😂
My crib is a sanctuary. I can't ascertain where someone has been and nobody is bringing random energy to my house 🏠
@@the_sunshinesunflower Underline energy ✨️
The older I get the more I let go of people who don't put in the same effort I put in our relationship
Oh Lord, I had the most consistent boyfriend, jealous and he used to follow me everywhere I go, it was love before I learned words stalking and narcissism and how toxic these are. This guy showed me real Pepe in the end😅😅
The older I get the more I need healthy and loving people around me
The older I get the more less but genuine friends I need
Loovee the earrings on both of you❤❤
Murugi is funny 😂😂
The older i get the more i need Quality over Quantity❤️
When Lyd says "Let sit with that" whew🔥. 15:54 Yessss please TMI Mums episode ikuje haraka upesi😍.
The...More I need Therapy & Alone time❤
Ya'll doing a *segment* on YT comments is so validating! It's the acknowledgement for me😊
Also...yes to a *moms episode* ❤❤
I loved the James(sng) moment Murugi pulled on the DND point.😂😂😂
"is the kind of podcast you run?" yo 😂
You both look awwww.. Keep up with this, proud of youuuuuuu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The older i get the more i enjoy my own company
Exactly bubu
Hi. A suggestion for the episode with your mothers… Therapy: Embracing it as an older person/You Are Not Too Grown for therapy.
I don’t know whether they did go through therapy following their experiences with their first husbands, or what they think of therapy.
Perhaps speak of, if they are comfortable to, the circumstances that led to them knowing they needed/wanted a professional to lean on.
And speak on the (definitely misplaced) shame associated with therapy as viewed by the older generation. Xxx
I came here today because I knew I'd find people with similar minds, and here we are.
yes we need mom lyd and mom joan hereeeeeeeee🥰🥰
My favorite go to podcast 🎉❤
The older I get, the more freely I get. As if free to forgive easily and say sorry freely. Basically the more I’m at peace with myself and anything around me.
The older I get the more I need to work out
18:02 The doctor hosted by Lyn Ngugi said head is technically masturbation and not oral sex...well🤣
To the moms episode, how to navigate life after separation and starting afresh. Lessons learned, mistakes and ways to navigate life afterwards.
The more I need financial stability ❤
The older I get, the more I need peace (no drama) 😌
The older i get the more i need a long shower
The older I get, the more peace I need
Good topic for the Mums - Things my Mum told/warned me about! Demystify
About the moms episode,also do a QnA where the moms answer our questions...
Its definitely a Wednesday..our online big sisters doing the thing ..yeiii 😂😂🙌
the more i need myself 😊
Lydia,"call the police."😂😂😂
The older i get the more I don't need black tax, like jitegemee msee‼️
Mum topic: what my mum needs to warn me about!
Eating my favourite meal🎉 and watching tmi❤ makes me want to go,jumping in the street,,,pure fulfillment ❤❤
Bit by bit I've become part of the premier gang
The older I get the more I need to unlearn alot😢
Murugi considers Lydia as her best friend, lydia doesn't😢its clear
The older I get the more I need to take tender care of me, sleep enough, eat healthy, smell really really nice, spend money on me without feeling guilty, make my living space beautiful.....
Could we please get the link to the sleep podcast Lydia was referring to?
Watching this after a heated conversation here about how sex changed after we got a baby.Its almost like quickies is the normal now. You can't even cuddle after😂😂😂 the baby is already awake. 😢😂. I am sexually frustrated 🥴.I love you son❤
What’s the actual annual amount after the using the code because I used but not sure if it was calculated
The more i grow the more i want to come home to peace
The older I get the more I realize the importance of a small circle ...2 .power of therapy 3.having your own stability ❤
Louder please💯💯💯💯💯💯
Loved the episode. @Murugi btw same sex relationships women on women don’t always include penetration and its still sex. I like how you framed it from your perspective, but a different POV here that you may not have considered as a podcast that’s working to be inclusive. Also certain disabilities even in hetero relationships exclude the act of penetration and the act is still complete without it. Can’t wait for the mom episode about the men they married. Great energy ladies and looking forward to the live experience in Dec.
the older i get the more i need to watch TMI
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yes i wrote it down “ consistency is not loyalty”….
If a romantic partner can't teach me anything, why am I with them even😢
Please do the episode of the mums I’ll be on my seat
The Older I get the more I need prayer, a community to worship with and pray for me and with me and to feel closer to GOD juu life heh
🎉no.1 to comment,tell me why am excited 😂
28:05-33:15 I discovered a podcast called The High Powered Podcast by Princella.
She talks about how women are love but men are incapable of love.
That men invest and choose to stay with a woman because there is something he is taking from her. Like sex, the womb to continue his legacy, connections, influence, a positive reflection of himself. Like men are transactional beings and the only reason to allow a man to stay around you is if he is investing in you.
Investing money, a good home, a car, land, peace, elevation, choosing to have the willpower over his biological tendencies.
Therefore men can't love so it's obnoxious for him to claim to do so.
The theory tickled my curious and if it's true it changes everything about love and all those fantasies. It therefore challenges patriarchy and the mental conditioning about the place of a woman and denotes romance simply as a game that women need to play and win.
Most women don't think of romance as a game but it is for men.
I am interested in hearing such a pov being debated here.
Murugi some of us don't wear socks with sneakers and it's absolutely normal for me😂
13:16 I felt that 🥺🥺
The older I get the more i need Peace
Murugi reaction sound🎊😅
The older I get the more I need peace
Wagwan premier gang
The older i get the more i value my peace...and my sleep
Lydia resembles Lethu on the SA film Umjolo, the gone girl. Ama ni mimi tu naona😊
Here for Lyd's English 👌
The older I get, the more I need therapy,money
If she's been dependable then you'll feel the need...but for others the older we are the less we need our mums.. Yes please,plan for a mum episode
Murugi and me!!! Loves a man who knows things... not just ignorant ass😂
Please the sleep podcast link.
Just started watching nobody wants this and yes what she said about their podcast is sm like y’all’s podcast
Gorgeous Queens 👑❤
This is an unpopular opinion, but the more people you date and sample sexually, the less satisfied you will be settling down with someone at the end of the day. Reason is, you will always be comparing. Yes some people will stay married despite abuse or cheating, but this might be because they do not want to raise kids on their own or lose financial comfort. These comparisons is also why divorced people are twice as likely to divorce again. The more the divorces, chances of future marriage failure exponentially increases. Look into the lives of these therapists and sexologists that are giving us all this advice. Are they happily married? If the answer is no, you will often find that they are the ones with the attitude of "do whatever makes you happy, you define your own morals, love is love etc etc". As failures themselves they simply throw "responsibility" away. We need to go back to the blueprint as given by God!
If you think I have lied, just look at all these beautiful radio personalities like Sanaipei Tande, Adelle, Ciku Muiruri, Kalekye, etc. Why can't they hold down a meaningful relationship?
This is so true. I don’t know why you said “if i lied” because you didn’t. Yes, the more you sample the more dissatisfied you’ll be. Its true. We just live in a society where people don’t want truth. It goes on for both men and women
@@aokookello5564 You are right, it was a typo. I meant to say "if you think I have lied". Edited!!
You were right until you started mentioning names😢........ that's not demure honestly.
Your opinion isn’t necessarily unpopular but somewhat hateful in that it relies on negative biases to convey its essence and or motivation: “ a need to go back to the blueprint as given by God.”
Now, going to your first premise that dating and having multiple sexual partners before marriage lead to marital instability. Now, I’d have to argue that it is a little bit more complex than that. That it is in fact a case of: correlation does not equal causality. In that there are far more factors that could explain the growing rate of divorces. Let’s consider what virginity means in a patriarchal structure vs the bible. Virginity (with the bible as justification) has been used as yet an other tool for immature masculinity a.k.a patriarchy to have dominion over women. So when you claim we need to go back to the blueprint as given by God, you’re asking us to go back to a reality that has never existed or has yet to materialize in our societies!
And yes to your point, as comparison is said to be a killer of joy and so perhaps it is to marriage as well! But, seeing how a lot of men have been having sex before marriage since time immemorial why is comparison suddenly the key factor in the erosion of marriages. I’d think it has perhaps to do with various shifts in our society (economical, ethical, educational& intellectual development etc ). Those shifts forced a slight loosening of patriarchy, which in turn created instability in gender dynamics, leading to a re-evaluation of gender norms, an ongoing arduous and complex process.
Now if comparison is indeed harmful so is its evil twin negative judgment! Now, this type of judgement is an evil trapping that many religious people fall under by assuming, unwittingly I imagine, God’s omniscience in their judgment of others! Believing in God does not afford you His omniscience! Case in point, your views on therapists and sexologists, was quite biased, and because their viewpoints, processes, ideology etc do not align with your idea of “divine blueprint”, you look for their failings and of course find it or assume it in some of them and refer to them as irresponsible failures. Not all of them, mind you, however the bias is in the scrutiny and double measure! Therapists and sexologists like any other profession are not perfect individuals with perfect personal lives. Should we be vigilant and aware of the limitations of said professionals and others while engaging with them? Absolutely, it’s imperative to live consciously! Anyways, it’s the double measure for me where you conveniently look for fault in therapists and professionals and find justifications/ excuses for women who choose to stay in dysfunctional marriages.
Wooo, early squad ya'll a babe is happy
more I need clarity.
Better late than ever🎉
Where is the sleep pod??😃😃
The older I get the more I need my family
I'm i the only one hearing echo from murugi???
Premier gang😘