Dispelling Autistic Stereotypes pt 2
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thank you!!! as an autistic person, I crave human connection, community, belonging but people lack the empathy to even establish healthy communication with me. So it’s easier to keep myself. We are not the problem. Our ableist society is. ❤
I fully identify with you so much! It’s as if you took the words out of my mouth. 🙏❤️
same for me ❤
I feel a similar way.
Well said 👍🏼 people even sometimes family won't except us. I told my cousin when I was diagnosed and she responded with do you want to be healed. What the actual heck! I said I don't need to be cured from autism I was born on purpose God created me and others autistic no mistakes were here. I said that's ridiculous what if someone said to you don't be Black. She got silent then I said I and my husband and brother in law and others are autistic and unashamed and maybe people like you need to adjust your lens and realize we're people too and we're here and not going anywhere 😉💪🏼😎
Infantilization to me is like gaslighting me on my own self-awareness. It's the fastest way for me to lose any respect to anyone that does this.
Same
Thank you for what you said at the beginning of the video. As a level 2 autistic, it is such a relief to hear a level 1 autistic with a pretty big platform reminding everyone that you are not trying to speak for every autistic out there, because everyone's experiences are so different. I've grown so tired of many low support needs autistics with big platforms sharing that "being autistic is like this" and "being autistic is like that" and "all autistics do this" or "all autistics don't do that," when really they are speaking about their own personal experience, and not considering higher support needs autistics who can't relate to those things, or even other low support needs autistics who can't relate to everything they mentioned. I know that those particular autistic influencers mean no harm, but when they generalize it, they are unaware that they are spreading misinformation about MANY autistic people, and that is ultimately harmful.
But you are a breath of fresh air in the midst of all that! So really, thank you!
Hi, I am not aware of "levels" of autism (I'm guessing we live in different countries) but I'm eager to learn more about that system.
I totally agree with you and this video, I am undergoing an assessment at the moment and I'm very confident either way I have autism, but I was talking about it with an acquaintance who is self diagnosed and considering formal diagnosis, and I found him really hard to talk to because while he has challenges he's also employed, doing stand up comedy and in a relationship. Although I can be very high masking, my life is not like his at all. There were ways he was gently trying to relate to me without realising I found it very alienating, and there are other people I know including family who have learned from his behaviour and needs and think that's the end of it, but they don't understand mine. He seems to take a certain level of ownership over his experience that others take to be an authority.
The stereotype that autistic people are intellectually disabled is so incredibly ubiquitous that I ended up losing friends over revealing my diagnosis. To these individuals, I went from being a fully functioning adult (with "gifts") to a drooling toddler that needed to be spoken to slowly in oversimplified hyper-literal language because all of a sudden I was the "R" word to them. Nothing hurts more.
It does hurt so much!
I get infantilized constantly because it's fairly obvious there's something wrong with me. I don't know how to get it to stop politely, so I mostly just put up with it.
this video is so relevant to me right now. i just had an interaction with a family friend who was a SLP many decades ago. She was handing out candy to kids on halloween and we started talking about autism and i brought up that autism looks different for every autistic person and that i myself am autistic and she straight told me to my face that there was no way i was autistic and spouted all the normal nonsense and then proceeded to tell my partner that she was going to have a conversation with them later about me. only for both of us to say that we are both autistic and we tried to explain how we in fact are autistic and she just couldn't comprehend it.
i have been battling with this since it happened. i feel upset , angry and confused about how to handle and deal with these feelings.
I want to be open about my autism in my life but i'm scared of the reaction of others around me. especially because my job revolves around talking with and socializing with people, so i have to be vocal about how I might behave differently from others but that doesn't mean that i cant do my job or that i cant learn and grow in this job.
i appreciate your time and effort making this video. i needed this
I totally agree. I don't think that we are the ones who lack empathy. NT people don't think about how their actions affect other people but generally we do. We are working so hard to TRY and understand others so it is always at the front of our mind. We may not be great at it naturally but at least we try. NTs generally assume they know how it works or they just don't think about it at all. I'm not saying all NT people lack empathy but I find that a lot of them just don't think or don't care. In the same way as all ND people are different, NT people are too.
I am very open about my ND now as I feel it is important for people to understand what autism looks like (it's not just stereotypes) and I have found that since I have been diagnosed and open about it, I am finding that more people treat me like I have learning disabilities, cannot understand or am stupid. I have a degree, I am constantly learning and am pretty smart but people definitely infantalise me now. Suddenly the baby voice has kicked in quotes from tradesmen have basically doubled and my boundaries are apparently now non-existent. I am now apparently a child without any autonomy or the right to respect. It's shocking how people will either treat you like a baby or an easy target for manipulative or dishonest behaviour.
What they don't know is that with a diagnosis I am more confident and self-accepting than ever.
i hear you. I'm surrounded by medical professionals in my friend group and family... none of whom have any current info on autism. none of them believe me... because i mask well... despite me also having an ADHD diagnosis by 7 years old (which my parents strongly supported). My healthcare providers have informed me that autism is a fad, and gave me the general garbage about why it wasnt possible. one even said "autism isnt a psychiatry thing... you probably have a personality issue" ... the same provider that was prescribing my adhd medication. It's all super disheartening. It helps knowing others are also experiencing this.
@@Thislifeisawildone the urge to punch them when they say 'it's a fad' would be so difficult to resist. Not because they are being rude necessarily but because I can't stand opinionated people who have made no effort to have any accuracy in their opinions. If you think you deserve an opinion then you have a responsibility not to be an ill-informed fool
I personally have had a similar experience, but that was my therapist. He said that I didn't show any symptoms (oh, what a wonder, could that be masking) and therefore I can't be autistic. And now my family is invalidating everything that has to do with autism because the therapist said I wouldn't have it.
the infantilism thing makes me cringe so hard because I don't even like to talk to ACTUAL children like that😖😖yuck
Omg you’re so right. I talk to kids normally too and I always feels weird about that
@@thethoughtspot222 That's what makes it so terrible when it's done to autistic people. I save my "baby voice" for my CAT, a literal animal (and only half the time!) No autistic person, no matter the support needs, deserves that😖
Just wanted to drop in and say I finally got my autism diagnosis. Yours was one of the channels I pulled videos from to make a playlist for my parents to watch to understand a bit more so thank you ❤
Ugh, it’s pretty hard to shake the idea “I must be fixed.” Even before diagnosis, I was bombarded with “don’t do this, act like that, you’re deficient, you’re too much, this needs improvement, etc.” If someone is being horrible to me, I don’t always see it because Ive been drilled so hard with “I need fixing.” Even if I do realize the other person is awful, I still “need fixing” because disagreeing with my tormentors is heinous.
I have got the "your autism must not be that bad" comments, often on the phone with companies trying to get services. That's really the worst time because it takes so much mental effort for me to even engage in that way and I'm just trying to mask to make it go as fast as possible...
After intensively researching for this past week, I highly suspect that I have Autism and ADHD and I keep having flashbacks to awkward social interactions. I remember being so confused in high school as to why some of my classmates would suddenly act really friendly and talk to me like I was a child. At times it was more obvious that they were doing it to make fun of me, but I think they thought I would not realize it. This happens to me still with some adults even throughout my 20s.
I'm also remembering how since elementary school, some popular kids who I barely interacted with would just give me dirty looks for no reason. I considered myself a pretty nice person, but I kept wondering if I had accidentally offended them at some point in time.
I had a group of friends in high school and was quite social in college, but as an an adult, work relationships are very difficult to navigate and I feel like I've forgotten how to do the socializing 🤦🏻♀️ It's like I get with a group of people and just get overwhelmed by all the conversations and don't know how much is appropriate to share or interject, so I just don't. And I find it kind of pointless to use social energy on someone who I don't share a lot of interests or values with even though they could be very nice people. So I think people just assume I am stuck up or shy..?? 🫤
we live the same damn life. my mind is blown... ❤️🦖
Mean girls always manage to spot your autistic before you do
Once again, thank you for being so articulate, skillful, insightful, and vulnerable in addressing the nuanced issues of life on the spectrum.
Yes. When I went to get my disability card with my parents, the psychologist only talked to my parents. She said to me like talking to a child "meanwhile, you can draw a house on this paper". I draw a house and she said in the same tone "is it your house?". I said "no, it's the casa Batlló". We were near Barcelona and that building is in the top 3 most famous buildings in the city, everybody knows it there and I draw in proportion every detail in it. It's a really surrealistic looking building and that woman thought first that I draw my house in a weird way than that I draw well enough to easily recognize it a building she knows.
Im an autistic extrovert and im social. My social battery is very important in family gatherings they always get me a room when im overstimulated.
You should take about the stereotype of autistic people not being into romance or sex
Yes. I was not into it until recently, when I got my first boyfriend. I didn't realize that I was in love with him until after he broke up with me, although I had suspicions while dating and confessed to him that my feelings for him were growing.
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I was born disabled with spina bifida. When I was born the doctor told my mom that I was most likely autistic too. I'm not sure if I was ever tested or not. I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety and PTSD because of how I was treated as a child. I've been seeing psychiatrists and psychologists since I was 6 years old.
I get infantilized, and it's compounded by my age and soft-spoken demeanor around people older than me. They don't know how to relate to me and they don't look for the meaning of the words I'm saying unless I say them firmly. It's the "you're young, therefore you must be dumb" situation too. Loud personalities turn me off as there is no point of entry for me. There has to be the same level of communication, otherwise, it becomes a one-way street, which makes me become neglected and infantilized. Granted, I don't tell everyone my autistic traits. Those that are amicable don't see me that way either, or at least it never crossed their minds. I want to feel loved and connected with others, it's just that I prefer more intimate ways of doing it when my acts of service are being taken advantage of or make me feel used rather than useful or wanted.
Yes. That part with the loneliness / preferring to be alone because masking all the time is soo exhausting.. This is impacting my life so so much. 😮💨
As a person with level 2 autism I did feel a little invalidated by the last video. But I understand that it is hard to be inclusive without speaking for someone else.
Overall your videos are great. You are doing a good job. Keep up the good work!
Thank you for sharing your perspective!
When I didn't knew I probably was autistic, I went to a therapist that was refered to me by a clinic I went to because of Depression and Anxiety and told him about all of my problems and he basically said to me "think of someone without a hand and leg. The world can't just magically change for that person, so he can do whatever he wants and get the help he needs, so you just have to accept that no one can help you, do you understand?" I instantly went into shut down and just said "yes" and he asked if I wanted to see him again and I also said "ok" and after I had such an intense meltdown and felt completely hopeless. That completely changed my view of mental health "professionals" in a way that I never want to open up ever again, because whats the point if no one wants to understand anyway.
This is a good video. I'm autistic myself. My nephew is autistuc, too. But I find some people in the autistic community think they are experts in autism because they are Autistic themselves. Therefore, they think they can speak for all of the autistic community. But I always say that despite me being autistic, I'm not an expert in other people's experiences in autism. I'm an only expert on my autism and how it affects me.
I find it a bit arrogant from some neurodivergent people thinking they can speak for all people with autism, adhd, etc.
Also, I have met other neurodivergent ppl in real life, and they think because they got autism or adhd, they think they can automatically relate to me because I share a similar diagnosis to them.... But as we know, everyone's experience is completely different. Even though I may have the same or similar diagnosis as another person but it doesn't mean we are the same or can relate to each other.
Keep making good videos 📹 by the way.
It's a constantly conflicting confused emotion to be perpetually misunderstood; triggers ongoing intellectualising and rationalising thoughts 😅Your next video idea is super exciting and inspiring to see you take steps toward your healing and progress 🤩
I appreciate this video and topic as well. I hold a job, can make eye contact when needed, socialize, etc. But people don’t see what’s under the hood. They don’t see how much energy, struggle, and anxiety it costs me. I’m completely drained after those things to the point I get anxiety with small transitions moving from one room to the next. Heavily dysregulated, burnout, and if I didn’t take medicine it’d be agorophobic. No doubt in my mind.
THISSSS. I think something you can do to help include more autistic people, or not generalize on our experiences is to say something in the lines of "autistic people TEND TO..." (like, for example, "high-masking autistics tend to be people-pleasers" or "autistic people tend to crave alone time") when you aren't talking about your specific experiences or of autistics you personally know. I, for instance am quite an extroverted autistic person so i don't relate to people when they say they need like, days or weeks to recover from social outings, but i understand that most autistic people are like that, but still it feels off when people generalize it. Love you btw!!!
(english isn't my first language, srry for any grammar or spelling mistakes or oddities)
No one can make a video about groups of people without some use of generalizations; no two are alike, but there are enough similarities that they are not without use. I read comments about people seeing themselves in videos about autism or others' autistic conduct.
The lengthy disclaimers, like the one at the start of this video, I find insulting, as if I need to have spelled out that people come in a variety. If a piece of info in a prerecorded video doesn't fit me, why should I be surprised or insulted? It's a bit much to go from inaccurate to "This content creator hates me!"
@@FlamingCockatieli guess i didnt phrase it the best way, its that i find it a bit odd when people generalize on autistic experiences (or any group experience for that matter) knowing that we are such a diverse group of people. With that being said, i dont think in any way that Irene is somehow excluding certain people or even generalizing, as she speaks from her perspective only.
Also, sometimes you gotta spell out the obvious, that autistic people come in all forms, just so there arent any people thinking that its somehow a personal attack or whatever
On the 4th of July my coworkers and I had plans to visit a lake. The lake was extremely busy and all of the people in the car with me were getting mad and frustrated, and it was loud and bright, overall.
When we finally managed to get to the meeting spot with the rest of our coworkers I put my tent up and laid in it with headphones on the entire time.
Being an a big group can be a daunting task for me, so I simply decided to opt out. I was there and part of it. But I didn’t talk to anyone.
A lot of people, when they see that I like to wander off and do my own thing find it odd, especially if it’s a party setting. But it is the person I am, and I only have a certain tolerance for crowds.
I don’t explain to anyone I have autism, because no one ever believes me until I explain it. But I make room for myself by always being myself and doing what makes me comfortable.
Oh man, I am CONSTANTLY being infantilized. Often times, I don't even know why. I'm kind of short for a man, and I'm not that good at regulating my emotions, but the person doing it usually knows next to nothing about me, let alone that I have ASD. It's painful as a man, so often being put on that lower rung.
For me, the "savant" part is really hard.. I am a woman working as a software developer and around me almost all the guys are autistic, but also extremely good at software (it also is their sole special interest as far as I know) Since they are the only autistic people I know in my life, it is hard to not compare myself with them and feel like I am just "not autistic enough".. and since my special interests are things like knitting, musicals and alpacas, it's also pretty hard to connect with anyone at work
Your special interests are all awesome. I don't know many autistic people but of the ones I know they are all male and paraded around as their skills and talents that have come from special interests. I really dislike that this is how they are valued by others, and although I don't want to be presented like that it also annoys me that people value me less even when my special interests are useful, but also they don't seem to expect me to have any because I'm a woman.
Hello there, these things have all been true for me.
I've experienced infantilization, and I was annoyed by it, and I do like human connection sometimes lol.
Autistic/ADHD people can be extroverts and love to socialize, but they will face major social rejection and ostracization, and neurotypical people will yell at them saying that they are weird, dumb and annoying, so then they become quiet and reserved, due to social anxiety and trauma from people.
Honestly even as a child I couldn't stand infantilizing baby talk, its so embarrassing! I dont understand how some adults dont recall being that age and having basic understanding on conversational flow instead of just cute babbling? So baffling to me still when I see it LOL
My Family, took my kids sent me to a place where prisoners can stay or live after being released from Jail, abandon me & constantly in hospital for abdominal pain. And I cry for myself for the amount of torture I received there. I was so innocent they just didn't believed very strongly on Mental Health.
I want to say humble thank you, you are like the voice of my inner child beging to heal, i was feeling soulice and just a living zombie surviving, people dont understand the high functioning is very exhausting every day in life alone. Humble thank you for your voice.
I agree. I also don't have the capacity unlike some people to judge hate and being negative or blatantly ignorant
As an Autistic myself, I want interaction, connection, and belonging. But sadly, it is quite difficult because in a modern society where it is still stigmatized, all you can do is mask which can be exhausting at some point.
That is why I left my home in San Francisco because I did not feel comfortable, especially with family that think I am normal to them.
In Seoul, where I live now, it's not any better because that is really stigmatized. Yes I only have 2 friends who I can unmask, but most of the time, I have to mask and it has now reached a level to where it's getting exhausting.
It’s the infantalizing that gets me every time. I get that all the time and I’ve actually began rolling me eyes. They ask what is the attitude and I simply reply, “I’m autistic, not an idiot. Please don’t talk to me like I’m five.”
Don’t even get me started on my boss always saying, “I’m a little special” when she messes up on something. The inner rage I feel.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It makes me feel less alone as an adult with a late autism diagnosis. Infantalization is not an accommodation and it's one of the things I hate that comes up any time someone finds out. I am not a child, I just process differently than most adults. Don't talk down to me or treat me like a child unless that is an accommodation I specifically ask for.
Not being seen as a person is the reason that I mask so much because it's a horrible feeling. Not only am I not being understood, but I'm being "othered" in an unproductive, unhelpful way. I just want to be seen as a valid person who is trying their best. Give me support, especially when I ask. Don't treat me like I don't deserve to be happy.
Office background is giving me calm vibes, and I'm here for it 🎉
Some people seem to think that any time someone expresses a different point of view from them that that is somehow “ invalidating “ them. I think you are right to speak from your own experience and to avoid making sweeping statements (who else’s experience could you be expected to speak from but your own, after all?)
Honestly, being recently diagnosed, I’m taking all that I can get!-I never realized I was overworked from spending ALL of my OFF-TIME trying to understand why they can’t understand MY perspective….here I am again!! 🤦🏾♂️
I can relate sooooo much to infantalization
I've been kinda pushed into the anti social stereotype, I've tried hard making friends but usually get finacially taken advantage of or the butt of jokes and not realizing that till I got home . Just realized when I'm alone I can just have my gaurd down and not be used .
Lol I'm definitely not a savant. I have special interests and I had some different developmental patterns than other kids but I don't have any "super powers." I have a super strong sense of taste and smell but that's a problem more than it's helpful! I have plenty of learning disorders too. Anyhow I'm glad I'm not held to savant standards because I definitely wouldn't match them!
I definitely crave human connection, but I do get incredibly dysregulated socializing. It’s tough lolz
Also... Thanks if anyone actually relpies it means so much to me.💜
This feeling of imposter syndrome permeates every part of my life, work, family, and relationships, I even experience imposter syndrome about having ASD... If it wasn't for the trauma caused by society while growing up with undiagnosed ADHD/ASD, and all of the mental work brought on by trying so hard to fit in, I would think some levels/aspects of ASD should be considered an evolution of the human mind, but right now, I'm really struggling to feel good about who I am, be productive and trying hard not to dissociate from other people. I'm glad channels like this exist, I don't feel quite so alone.
There are some of us, maybe more Asperger’s side just don’t care about the social side. They do not need it, and do not put a high value on it. Dont seek the approval of others we just keep living our lives. Ignore them they either do not understand or do not want to do the research to understand. I live my life with some level of apathy and that works great! Look forward and not behind
Completely off topic, but you look soooo beautiful in this vid!!! At first I couldn't even concentrate on what you were talking about. It's like you're radiating warm light, really.
Thank you. Your content is super helpful.
Thanks again for sharing and informing us. A great channel❤
Thank you for another great video!! When you mentioned that you weren't traditionally 'academic' at school, something that struck me was how everything you say has a deep emotional-intelligence to it, that many of my teachers could not emanate, and I really appreciate how valuable your content has been. I wish more emphasis was placed on the strengths we have, especially when we don't conform to NT standards.
Secondly, I'm aware that I was privileged to experience this, but I was fairly popular at school. I definitely played up the 'odd' traits that people found endearing to hide the side of ASD that others viewed as me being 'neurotic'. I always craved human connection, it's just that it needs to be the right kind of people! I was lucky to (unknowingly) find other autistic people earlier in life, but maintaining friendships gets harder the more I've learned to unmask
Thank you so much for continuing to make such amazing content. I feel like your channel is such a safe space. Your videos make me feel seen as an Autistic person. I love how knowledgeable they are and how they are also from your own perspective. I love hearing about your experiences and I have bought 2 of your notebooks. They helped me so much when uncovering my stims and learning about masking. Your channel is a gem. The only video I didn’t like was the Bipolar one. It’s tricky to talk about something that you haven’t experienced yourself and spreading misinformation can be really dangerous. your journey with endometriosis and autism are so relatable and I can tell they come from your personal experience and truth and not projections. You are so creative and I love the vibe of your channel. Thank you for putting so much time and effort into your content. As a creator myself I know how much goes into making videos consistently. Have a wonderful day
Thank you 💚 I privated that video since I didn’t really like it either.
Omg I needed this
The thing that bothers me the most since learning I’m autistic is when people straight up tell me I am not and that I’m probably the way I am because I suffered a traumatic event. I can see that they would prefer me being traumatized and raped by my dad (the one thing people ask me the most) rather than being happily autistic 🤯 I don’t know how to react to that yet but I’m considering saying « why is it that it would be more comfortable for you that I was raped and traumatized rather than autistic? » and watch them lose it
You’re doing a good job 🫡
Hearing the baby talk filled me with unspeakable rage
I really appreciate your perspective on this because people’s preconceived ideas about what autism is and how and who it can present in has been a huge hindrance for me in getting the support I need as an afab poc and getting diagnosed in the first place
You are awesome and perfect as you are irene you are someone i really connect as an autistic person you are so relatable iam a lone wolf and i don't relate with most people but it is wrong to associate all autistic people love you're channel
I've been watching a few of your videos recently after they showed up on my page and I feel like you've put a lot of my life experiences and how I handle life in a way that feels like there is finally an explanation for a lot of my life. I've never been diagnosed medically for anything related to my mental health, due to the lack of resources and the threat of being shunned by my family. At this point I'm not sure how to proceed with the possibility of being autistic, but I was wondering if there is anything I can do to find the help I need. I just feel lost with it all..
I feel like I don't belong with people whom are outgoing due to being autistic man. It's hard for me to make friends these days, especially when going to a technology school for autistic adults. I've been plenty of situations that causes my emotion function/operate like a roller coaster and no one was willing (not counting family) to help.
Ohhh honay have I been perceived a certain type of way and infantilized my entire life by people of all ages lmfao now barely as an adult am I realizing stuff
I’m really new to realizing I’m on the spectrum. My husband got angry at me because I told him. I guess he thought I was going to be different but later he went back to being understanding. So I felt like the rug was pulled out from underneath me.
I hate when people infantalize me too
Oh boy infantilization can be bothersome. I work at a grocery store now which I like working at but I used to work at El Pollo Loco. But the main manager at Pollo Loco was really rude. Let’s explain: I was cleaning tables with my coworker when i was there and the manager came up to us. Being Autistic (also highly suspect inattentive ADHD) I sometimes struggle with understanding how to do tasks correctly or quick enough. So when I was cleaning, the manager said something like this from what I remember (last part is exactly what she said): “Nikhil still doesn’t know how to clean tables. You’ve been here for some time so you should know how to do it right? Do you need a babysitter” bruh what the heck. Completely out of pocket for her to say that. I was hurt after she said that and went to the bathroom to have my usual autistic easy offended cry after. Pretty much was treated like a little kid for struggling with some things. Another sign that I think might’ve been infantilization was that at this place, they really only got me to work 2 hours a week and did train me on cashier at first but refused to let me be able to learn more on it later on when I asked after working there for a while. My grocery store job now gives me good hours and the management is much nicer over there.
Long response but wanted to share my experience feeling infantilized because it hurt me.
My mom and older sister believe I have autism and I agree but the problem is they don't consider the struggles I have daily because of my autism and it frustrates me because I have to constantly remind them. They won't put in the effort to sit with me and learn about my struggles with autism. When I try to speak up I go nonverbal and if I can't get it out I end up in my closet all day. Do you know any ways I can communicate this to them?
Write an essay.
@itsmeitsme54 If you mean write a essay and give it to them, I've done that before and nothing changed
@@antoinettefuller5519 I understand what you are going through as I have shared this struggle. If you already wrote them an essay containing your feelings and they made the DECISION not the change then the next step is to accept them as they are. You cannot CONTROL another person any more than they can control you. You want to be seen and understood; There are people that will give you that. These are not those people. It is not your job to FORCE people to understand you and fighting against the current will only cause you more pain. Accept reality. Accept yourself. Listen to your internal compass (your emotions). Seek more meaningful connections.
@itsmeitsme54 ok thank you for the advice.
I’m pretty antisocial, NTs take psychopathy as empathy. I don’t really see the value in most people besides those truly handicapped, children, or the elderly. Also, I fall into the savant category, I pretty much have to adopt a clown persona or people loathe how dumb I make them feel even when I’m trying hardest not to.
I don’t really understand what’s wrong with stereotypes, i dont see how they differ from the word culture. Just the feeling for one is bad and the other is good? I really need an explanation about why generalizations are fine to autistic people until it applies to us or a group that will get you in trouble for criticizing in polite company. Really don’t get it.
There’s really only like 20 different NT personalities, so them stereotyping us doesn’t bother me.
Irene since you have such bad TMJ, I think braces will only end up making it worse, not better. My TMJ initially developed in my teenage years as a RESULT of my braces. I’ve seen dental experts in the last year who told me I have extreme osteoarthritis in my jaw joint due to the braces of my teen years (I’m now 24). It only got better by me wearing a brace at night which moved my bottom jaw forward, giving the joint ligaments space to regrow and recover (since normally it was getting ground against my skull bone 24/7). Braces push your jaw back into your skull, not forward, which is what causes the wearing down into the joint. Mewing has also helped me tons, not only has my palette expanded but it’s helped move my bottom jaw forwards a bit as well, also helping to relieve pressure on the joint. If your dentist REALLY recommends braces, I think Invisalign is much better, as I know it can also be used to move the bottom jaw forward more safely than with regular braces. Good luck and sending u good energies 💗💗💗💗💗
These are pre surgical braces for TMJ replacement & corrective jaw surgery :)
@@thethoughtspot222 Okay good!!! :)))
I've been infantalized my whole life, but not because I'm autistic. It's because I'm asian.
I hate the whole "savant/genius" stereotype because it makes me feel like I'm less than because I'm not a genius or a savant and I'm not fucking good at math (in fact, I hate math with a fucking passion). Especially since considering my IQ is lower than average.
I know i am autistic! But dr told i just have general anxiety
Why did you say that your hair is blue when it looks dark green? Genuinely asking
Yeeeeeeaaaaaa😂
Ur very beautiful. I love ur videos thank u 💓
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The infantilisation part becomes worse when you immigrate into a country where you first have to learn the language…. Prepare for some toddler level behaviours from people towards you 😮
I agree on the savant skills. With vaccines lodging catalysts all over the inside of our body, most of our special skill are not even able to be accessed. I was in kindergarten when I received my first vaccines, I feel strongly after being able to identify in my body how it affected me consciously that I would definitely be damaged had I had shots at birth(beyond repair)
YES, the medical community is lost.