My Adoption Story | The Truth About Chinese Adoption 🇨🇳

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  • Опубликовано: 3 фев 2023
  • This is my personal adoption story, told by someone who got adopted herself (from China) when she was 1,5 years old. Every adoption is different and I am aware that every adoptee has a story, journey, and experience.
    However, I do believe that there are some things that every adoptee can relate to, and certain emotions and feelings that only adoptees experience and understand. Hopefully, there are some things in this video that other adoptees can relate to. Also, with this video, I hope to educate other people who might have never really heard of/understood the concept of adoption.
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  • @chennabay
    @chennabay  11 месяцев назад +14

    Little did I know that my next visit to China would be 10 years later when the orphanage invited us to come back. This trip was very special, as I didn't only see where I grew up as a baby, but also met my foster grandma and much more. I made a video about it, which you can check out over here ➡ ruclips.net/video/JpoXmDaRIGk/видео.html

  • @elsachen1429
    @elsachen1429 Год назад +659

    I was also born during the one-child policy in china. I was the second child in the family and only had my first passport when I was four because our family decided to move to Canada. I'm so glad I was never caught and I couldn't imagine my life with another family and away from my biological parents. I'm so glad you're adopted by wonderful people because if not, who knows what happens.

    • @leesuzie6493
      @leesuzie6493 Год назад +15

      Im touched by your story and it's wonderful❤

    • @bayarea7898
      @bayarea7898 Год назад +28

      Born in 90s, went to elementry, middle, high school in a city in China, each class has 1-4 people that have siblings. Their family are usually higher middle class so they pay a fine. In 2001, the fine was about

    • @AdeleiTeillana
      @AdeleiTeillana Год назад +8

      They must have paid the fee if they were able to get you a passport. Many second children were never able to be registered and therefore couldn't attend school or get basic services. Getting a passport definitely wouldn't have been possible.

  • @revj7397
    @revj7397 Год назад +498

    My mom actually had to get an abortion because she found herself pregnant years after having me. No, she was not forced, at least not to a degree. However, if she decided to have the baby, she would lose her job for sure at the time. So I guess she didn’t think much of it and just did it. Not until 20 years later she first told me all about it. I could see it in her eyes that she regretted that decision and felt sad about the baby. That’s what was happening in major cities of China, a lot of abortions. She also told me that if you knew the doctor, you could even find out about the baby’s gender during the pregnancy which was prohibited at the time, she did. That was just a tragic time for all women in China. Some had to give up their babies. Some were abandoned. Some were even killed because of it. And now they start to blame women for not having enough babies.

    • @julianabarros3253
      @julianabarros3253 Год назад +63

      I don't think most people discuss how damaging this one-child policy was. Yes, it was important to control population growth, but there were other, less tyrannical ways to raise public awareness. How many women have suffered having to abort their children or having them hidden? the bravest moved to other countries or had their children hidden. I know a Chinese woman who lives here in my country, Brazil, and she said that her mother had to approach her 3 or 4 times. To what extent did these procedures affect her mother psychologically and even physically? Now China is suffering the consequences.

    • @becklyn3
      @becklyn3 Год назад +26

      This breaks my heart. Communism is from the pit of hell.

    • @nobodystaysawaketotheend9848
      @nobodystaysawaketotheend9848 Год назад

      Let CCP rot in hell!

    • @cshe2142
      @cshe2142 Год назад +12

      My mum went through the same thing but much worse. I think she was already a few months pregnant and tried to somehow keep the baby but failed. She never shared the story with me until last year after I turned 35. This is pure tragedy, and I can’t imagine the amount of agony my parents had to go through both mentally and physically. I hate CCP.

    • @ManiyaVinas
      @ManiyaVinas Год назад +9

      It is not like chinese people love daughters so

  • @jop7672
    @jop7672 11 месяцев назад +7

    My daughter I adopted from Guiping Guangxi. I tell my daughter she is adopted due to one child policy. We pray everyday for her birth parents. She’s my daughter and the greatest of my life.

  • @WannabeWriter100
    @WannabeWriter100 Год назад +78

    This is a bit of a random takeaway but in your childhood videos, it looks like your sister just adored you. I’m glad you were treated like a blessing. Thank you for sharing your story!

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +23

      Thanks for your comment! Haha, yes she was very happy when I arrived and she finally got to met her new little sister 🥰

    • @honeydewgurlfriend
      @honeydewgurlfriend Год назад +7

      ​@@chennabay ah man, I can definitely relate, when my little sister was born I was so so so so so happy and wanted to be her mini mom haha. It's so sweet that you have these videos showing how excited she was ❤️

  • @dianethompson2458
    @dianethompson2458 Год назад +281

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm so glad that you had a good childhood. I am unable to have children. I adopted my son 37 years ago. I am so grateful to his birth mother for trusting me to raise her baby. He means the world to me and I love him with all my heart. In the adoption process the child is obviously the most important person. That being said the birth mother has also done something so brave to give up her child. She loves this child more than she loves herself. There are no words to adequately express my thanks and admiration to birth mothers everywhere. ❤

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +37

      You're absolutely right. Although I'm not a mother myself, I cannot imagine how it must feel to give up your own baby. All I know is that it takes immense courage and bravery. As you said, the child itself is the most important person, however, there are more parties involved in this complicated process. Those other parties also deserve recognization. You sound like a great mom. I wish you and your family the best! 💖

  • @MJsaBitterLemon
    @MJsaBitterLemon Год назад +73

    Both of my sisters were adopted from China as babies during the one child policy. Ive always felt so mixed up about the policy because it was horrible and resulted in so much pain, but without it my sisters wouldn't have been a part of the family. I couldnt imagine growing up with anyone else. People always told us that we (my parents) blessed them by adopting them, but i dont think thats true. They were the ones that blessed us.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +9

      Beautifully said ❤️❤️

  • @didjaseemyjams1582
    @didjaseemyjams1582 Год назад +71

    I knew this was gonna make me cry but when you said you maybe your biological parents were praying for you and wondering about you, and then when you said that you were doing the same for them, really hit me in the feels. I'm so happy you got to grow up in a happy home and become such a wonderful person.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +7

      Thank you for your comment 💖

  • @lizstar1998
    @lizstar1998 Год назад +78

    I was born in Urumqi, China and adopted to American parents at almost 3 years old. My story is the exact same as yours…no knowledge of my birth parents or past life. It’s so interesting to see where many of us orphans ended up due to the one child rule…I am so grateful to be adopted to a wonderful family since I often think about the children who weren’t as lucky. Glad you had a loving childhood as well!

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +11

      Thank you for your comment! I also find it very interesting to see where us adoptees ended up. I wish you the best! 💕

  • @estherhaines249
    @estherhaines249 Год назад +14

    Home is not a physical place,but it is where you are loved. Adoption is a journey and it is a journey of love and journey home.

  • @peggybuetow1026
    @peggybuetow1026 Год назад +6

    My daughter was 13 months old, and from Foshan. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @onemoregodrejected9369
    @onemoregodrejected9369 Год назад +256

    There are unwanted kids. And then there is you. Your parents wanted you beyond their biological limits and beyond their country frontier. And your biological parents who took the risk to have you instead abortion wich is a very dark chapter on that country history You are beyond wanted and loved 👍🏻✨ a whole new epic level, loved by two sets of parents who did the best for you

  • @paracasnazca1439
    @paracasnazca1439 Год назад +164

    In third world countries there are many children in danger, extremely poor, abused, ... ; To have had a beautiful childhood, protected, cared, ...it is a blessing.

    • @cyberspace7208
      @cyberspace7208 Год назад +40

      Forget the third world. In first world countries are many children suffering the same.

    • @francanm8754
      @francanm8754 Год назад +16

      @@cyberspace7208 thank you, is like they find relief in saying third world countries, while the same things happen in « first world « countries too

    • @vivianaugusta3000
      @vivianaugusta3000 Год назад +3

      There is no such thing as a third world country or frist world country anymore. This label was used during the cold war to describe what type of system a coutry used. Frist world country: capitalist industrialized countries that sided with the USA (Canadá, Austrália, and England), Second world countries: Socialists countries allied to the URSS (East Germany, and the URSS) and third world countries: capitalists countries that industrialized late and remained neutral or on the side of the US (Brazil,México, Argentina, South Africa). The right term NOW is develop, developing or underveloped country.

    • @vivianaugusta3000
      @vivianaugusta3000 Год назад +3

      This also happend in the so called "first world" too. Don't think just brcause you live in a developed country your moral standards are higher than ours. I know personally of multiple histories of mothers doing the close to impossible to feed their children and to keep them safe. Also, isn't the U.S. The country with the highest rate of missing people?

    • @vivianaugusta3000
      @vivianaugusta3000 Год назад

      ​@@francanm8754 They think they are better and have highest morals to the people living in the so called "third world".

  • @humannotacat5486
    @humannotacat5486 Год назад +25

    I'm glad I watched this. Your adoptive parents clearly did an amazing job raising you and helping you to understand the world YOU live in.

  • @adriennehilll
    @adriennehilll Год назад +4

    This video brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing your story ❤

  • @GirlWithTummyaches
    @GirlWithTummyaches Год назад +11

    I was adopted from Nepal at three months old. I struggle with my identity very often, it I am slowly starting to become happpier.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +3

      Glad to hear that you're slowly starting to become happier. It takes time. I know it sounds cheesy, but it's really a journey when it comes to accepting yourself and the situation. And it can be a rollercoaster of emotions haha, at least for me 😉. I wish you the best!

    • @BE-bs8oe
      @BE-bs8oe Год назад +1

      Dear Unique You, I hope for good support and blessings on your path. Recognizing the here and now as your's and your's only to create , the mixing of the unknown and the experienced past will feed and need some time. But step by step I wish you to acknowledge the strength you will get out of confronting pain and anger might lead to leaps of creativity and acceptable for what can't be changed. It lead ( past tense) to the posdibility of You having a future. A gift to yourself.
      You're not alone in this. Welcome helping hands, considerate input and your own natural wisdom. Calm balm blessings.

  • @gweisa899
    @gweisa899 Год назад +53

    I am watching this. I am also adopted from China around 2002 at 3 years old to United States. Your video so accurate. We basically the same age. We just live in different country. I was adopted at 3 years old, happy you have good life in Netherlands.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +13

      Thanks for your response, wish you the best in the US as well 💗

    • @gweisa899
      @gweisa899 Год назад +4

      @@chennabay Thank you !

  • @gloriayashuanglopezguerra9321
    @gloriayashuanglopezguerra9321 Год назад +33

    I'm another adoptee but my parents adopted me at 8 months. I was a baby and I do not know anything about my time in China. I was born in Fengcheng, a city in Jiangxi, and nowadays I live in Spain. I would like to go to China one day to see the place I was born in ❤ I love watching these videos as they make me feel I'm not alone and there are a lot of adoptees who lived the same story as me

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +4

      Thank you for your comment! I'm so happy to hear that you enjoyed the video ❤️ Yes, we all share the same story and you are definitely not alone!

    • @sui-milian
      @sui-milian Год назад +1

      Asi que vives en España, tu segundo nombre es curioso, chino me imagino.

  • @irenetan9987
    @irenetan9987 Год назад +5

    U r a very resilient n smart person. U shared from the heart n appreciates ur position n took it positively n has become a very matured person with empathy. U will hv ur own family n shares ur joy with others n one day hv ur own family.
    Hopefully one day ur mum or dad will be brave enough to come forward.
    Looking forward is the best thing in ur life. Keep up the open attitude n love for ur adopted parents n children. U r loved too....n regardless its unconditional love being given when they chose to adopt.
    So study hard n be somebody n help others to be better...❤❤❤

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад

      Thank you for your comment and your encouraging words! 🙏🏽❤️

  • @velfcookie4734
    @velfcookie4734 Год назад +52

    I love your story. So many people think it's a requirement to reunite with birth parents and demonize birth parents who don't want to reunite with the birth children. You were safe, loved and happy. Many people were safe, loved and happy. And that is enough.

  • @judyrobertson9479
    @judyrobertson9479 Год назад +5

    You are very wise. Not everyone has all the answers no matter who, or where they were born. I do hope you find the answers you are looking for.

  • @lilgeorge34
    @lilgeorge34 Год назад +11

    I'm so happy you had a good up bringing with parents that loved you.

  • @omnium_gatherum
    @omnium_gatherum Год назад +7

    That little group hug 🥺❤️

  • @kellybraun7048
    @kellybraun7048 Год назад +18

    It’s lovely that your family made so many wonderful videos during your childhood! Thank you for sharing this piece of yourself with us.

  • @princessmarlena1359
    @princessmarlena1359 Год назад +33

    I knew a woman who was adopted after being airlifted out of Vietnam after the fall of Saigon, she was one of the children in “Operation Baby Lift” during the US Embassy evacuation.
    It took years before her parents could get out of the country and eventually found her in the USA, as she was finishing high school. Her adoptive family was very good to her, so she enjoyed having two sets of parents. She was my oldest sister’s classmate.

  • @jo9984
    @jo9984 Год назад +4

    Family who adopted you seem very loving and caring. You were lucky and blessed to be with them. Hope you will find your birth family someday

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад

      Thank you so much for your kind comment!❤I hope too!

  • @jusk8lp
    @jusk8lp Год назад +4

    Your story is so beautiful. You are so loved.

  • @naturalnaiad
    @naturalnaiad Год назад +14

    I teared up at your reflections on how your parents must wonder about you daily. And how you hope for their wellbeing also. Yes people have commented you were lucky given the situation, but every child deserves a safe and loving home. I'm glad you got that, and you are at peace enough to have compassion for your birth family. It can't always be easy, but I personally think feeling complete and content with with who you are is the foundation for true happiness. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +1

      Thank you so much for your sweet comment 🥰 !! I totally agree, being 100% comfortable and content with who you are will bring you peace and happiness. It does take some time and hard work tho haha but in the end it's worth it. I wish you the best!

  • @Sunyi_park
    @Sunyi_park Год назад +6

    Nice to hear last words 😢really it must be very tough to live in orphanage and then adopted but you accepted and happy is good 😊

  • @Jenyingyi
    @Jenyingyi Год назад +30

    As a Chinese adoptee, your story hit close to home. I’m in Orange County, California now where I’m always surrounded by Asian people who assume I have Asian parents. Your story is relatable and I wish I could like your video a million times over! Thank you for sharing your story!

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +4

      Hi Yingyi, thank you so much for your sweet comment! Very glad to hear that you can relate to it 😊. Wishing you the best! 💕

    • @GirlWithTummyaches
      @GirlWithTummyaches Год назад +4

      I am adopted from Nepal and lived in Orange California for 17 years.

    • @carolinekilpatrick7569
      @carolinekilpatrick7569 11 месяцев назад

      I am also a Chinese adoptee and lived 10 years in Orange County, California. Unfortunately, my adopted parents both passed away when I was 19. I am almost 27 now and have had to go through the journey on my own. I am just now unpacking what it means to me to have been adopted at the age of 3 from China when it was really never talked about in my American family. It is comforting to know that I am not the only one out there. And that there are many who have found a positive outlook of their adoption story.

    • @krauthead4
      @krauthead4 8 месяцев назад

      I live in OC and have two children adopted from China. When my older daughter started kindergarten, she was so excited to tell me that there were lots of other children adopted from China at her school. I gently explained that most lived with their birth families and were likely of Vietnamese descent, although they could be of Korean, Chinese, Japanese, etc. descent. She ended up making a very good friend whose parents came from China, and I was grateful they taught her some of the traditions of her homeland. Lovely people! We thought long and hard before adopting, and with a large Asian-American population here, we knew our daughters wouldn't feel like they didn't fit in to the larger society. We have been highly blessed to have both of them (now in college) in our lives.

  • @LaRissa-ve9nb
    @LaRissa-ve9nb Год назад +6

    The Dutch family is very caring. I think they really love you. I hope it helps with the acceptance of who you are. Take care and thanks for sharing

  • @griffin2263
    @griffin2263 Год назад +8

    So glad you posted your story. So many times we hear the horror stories nice that you are able to be at peace with your life

  • @Liliarthan
    @Liliarthan Год назад +19

    Thank you for sharing your story. I was born in one child China also. But I was the firstborn as the child that came before me died in our mother’s womb when our father pushed her down the stairs during a fight. I wasn’t given up for adoption, though after seeing stories like yours, I kind of wish I was. I was physically and psychologically abused until I moved out of home as a teenager, though the psychological abuse continued until I finally cut my birth family off, painfully, last year at the age of 37. It wasn’t a decision I took lightly at all, especially as I have a younger half brother (born in New Zealand, where we ended up eventually) who was loved much more than I was (and I was constantly reminded that it’s because he’s a boy and I was born a girl). And I now have two very young children of my own that I wanted to raise knowing the Chinese side of their heritage. But things are so toxic with my family that I decided not to teach my children Chinese so they wouldn’t understand what my mother and aunt says in front of them.
    Your family seems like wonderful people, from travelling all the way to China to adopt you, to the amazing welcome party at the airport where your extended family came to greet you and show their acceptance of and support for you. I hope you have a great connection with them still, and that you can go through life knowing that regardless of what happened before the age of 2, you are and will always be very loved and very wanted and very much a part of a family. ♥️

    • @dlsneadduffy
      @dlsneadduffy Год назад +6

      My heart goes out to you. Your parents had problems before you were born. You certainly didn't cause them to be the way they were. I can tell that you are giving your 2 children the safe and loving home that you wished you could have had. And loving your own children will fill your heart and help replace some of what your parents were unable to provide for your own happiness while growing up. Sadly, many parents are not whole inside when they bring children into the world. And they inadvertently pass in their instability to their children. God bless you and the love in your home. One loving mama can change the world for her children. 🙏

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +3

      Hey, thank you so much for sharing your own story. I am sorry to hear about the abuse you went through. I cannot imagine how it must have felt to be treated so differently only based on your gender. Family relationships can be complicated, and I can understand the struggle of wanting to pass on your own heritage (language) to your children, without passing on the family trauma (your children being able to understand your mom and aunt). I hope that they eventually will come around. I wish you the best! ❤

  • @jwr1309
    @jwr1309 Год назад +102

    I was adopted from China at around the same age you were (to an American family). The part where you said you don’t self pity and that sometimes you even forget… I can relate to that so much:’-) Thank you for sharing your story and touching on the One Child Policy aspect, I feel like this is something that impacted so many people and yet so many people don’t really know about it. The positive feelings you give out towards your biological parents is very similar to how I feel, you articulated things I agree with in my own experience. The part you said about it helping you understand yourself when you were younger… I had such a similar experience, being exposed to things like what makes a family and what it means to be “real” as soon as I was old enough to talk and understand… man, I love my family so much. Just… Thank you

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +9

      Thank you so much for your comment! I am very glad to hear that you can relate and happy to hear that you have positive feelings toward your biological family. And as you said about the One Child Policy, I agree. Not enough people are aware of this and understand the immense impact it had on the lives of so many people... I wish you the best! 🥰❤

  • @dorisho9311
    @dorisho9311 Год назад +16

    Life is not lived for reasons, nor for answers, which only lead to trouble. Learn to accept things and be grateful for the help and people who are kind to you, and your life will be full of light.

  • @gerrimongrain1120
    @gerrimongrain1120 Год назад +5

    I watch the one video "Meet me on the bridge"where one adoptee found her blood parents.Very heart felt story .

  • @shayandevi9870
    @shayandevi9870 Год назад +49

    As an adopted child I am delighted that you were able to make peace with your past and approach your present as you !
    I wish you the best ! 💝

  • @ernolercha
    @ernolercha Год назад +18

    I'm sure every person who had to made such a difficult decision to abandon its own child would be very happy to know that the child grew up like you did .

  • @throne988
    @throne988 Год назад +7

    Thank you for taking good care of her and God blessed you and your families for all you've done, amen.

  • @amandarecoveryjones8216
    @amandarecoveryjones8216 Год назад +14

    Who wouldn't be able to adopt that ADORABLE face!! ❤ God bless you and your family.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +4

      Haha, thank you 😊💞

  • @nick_aurorav2964
    @nick_aurorav2964 Год назад +7

    I absolutely enjoyed this video. Although I’m not adopted, your childhood clips made me realized that I was loved by my parents even though I felt outcasted because I had 6 other siblings fighting for their attention. I’m so happy you are loved and was raised by wonderful caring parents. 🥲🥹

  • @emmacamarena9616
    @emmacamarena9616 Год назад +23

    Hi! I'm adopted Mother, and listening your story, has really helped me, to understand many facts about my girl, and what is comming in her heart, I love her so much, I will be there for her in her process of acceptance ❤

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +5

      Thank you for your sweet comment! I wish you and your daughter the best ✨️❤️

  • @JupiterXin
    @JupiterXin Год назад +5

    Im also adopted

  • @marge2548
    @marge2548 Год назад +43

    This was very uplifting to see…
    Oftentimes we as human beings tend to focus on those events or stories that „went wrong“ - while the opposite, events that resulted, eventually, in happiness and a good life, are just as important and worth hearing.
    Wishing you and your family (actually, both of your families) all the best and bright times ahead.

  • @acat3652
    @acat3652 Год назад +4

    May you live a happy life ahead.

  • @em945
    @em945 Год назад +9

    What a cute Kid you were! Looks like you were very very wanted by your adopted family.
    Good luck with life.

  • @ZhangJ
    @ZhangJ Год назад +17

    Bedankt voor het delen van je verhaal. Als iemand die ook geadopteerd is uit China vind ik het altijd mooi om te leren hoe anderen tegen de adoptie kijken!

  • @niharikaprasad619
    @niharikaprasad619 Год назад +10

    Your feelings towards both your families show you were well raised and loved ❤. More strength to you!

  • @mackss9468
    @mackss9468 Год назад +12

    You seem incredibly emotionally mature and self-aware.

  • @mrmoshe8157
    @mrmoshe8157 Год назад +10

    I am in tears seeing how very sweet child You were and how beautifull it is to witness the beautifull bound and unity that developed between you and your Parents❤.
    Thank You for sharing with us .

  • @courtneyprice7644
    @courtneyprice7644 Год назад +5

    Thank you for sharing your story. I was adopted from South Korea by an American family. I relate to your story. ❤ Namaste ❤

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +2

      Thank you for your comment! Happy to hear you can relate ❤️ Wish you the best!

  • @yujuanwang1277
    @yujuanwang1277 Год назад +74

    I got really surprised when I found that you began your very early life in my hometown, Huanggang. I grew up in a small and distant village of Huanggang e lived there for 18 years before going to university in Wuhan. I am happy to know that you are not resentful to your biological parentes and have a positive mentality to the past and to life. As time passes by, we get wiser, more peaceful and more considerate to others, including our parentes. All my best wishes to you!

  • @Mariagrace4
    @Mariagrace4 Год назад +7

    Thank you for sharing your story!
    I think that parents who adopt children and devote their time, finances, energy and love to their adopted kids are hero’s even though the birth situation is not easy of such kids.

  • @ellenphilpotts-troy2098
    @ellenphilpotts-troy2098 Год назад +5

    At least you got two lovely parents who gave you a lot of love. ❤

  • @cheowweikoay2601
    @cheowweikoay2601 Год назад +16

    Even adoption can be more blessed than many growing up in biological family............... Love is what makes a family, not bloodline.

    • @MC-fw5vt
      @MC-fw5vt Год назад +1

      Definitely. Because adoptive parents who pay $20K to get a kid from China, and even go to the country to get the baby, absolutely want the child. How many of the rest of us here grew up unloved, neglected, just one more kid that was maybe not even wanted at all

    • @What.s_the_Truth
      @What.s_the_Truth 3 месяца назад

      True that!

  • @lisanidog8178
    @lisanidog8178 Год назад +11

    They did it because they loved you and knew you would find a new family. You are a treasure to your adoptive family and to your real family because they knew you would find your way. I’m so happy that you’re happy, and that your new family loves you.
    My family had a custom. I don’t know where it came from but I learned it when a doctor friend of the family used to visit. My parents said Dr. Brooks(now long passed away) is your Dutch Uncle. Well I’m not Dutch I’m American, and I already had an uncle, my father’s brother. I don’t know where the expression came from. But in our family, a Dutch relative is a person you’re close to, thought of as blood, treated like blood, considered family. So in a way my family adopted Dr. Brooks as a member. He passed away while I was still a child and when he did I mourned him like he was a blood relative like my real uncle whose also passed on.
    I have a neighbor whose like a grandmother to me. I love her like a grandmother. It doesn’t matter that she’s not my race. I love her with all my heart and she loves me. Not exactly like a relative but as a loved friend. She’s like a third grandmother to me.
    When you’re loved by others that’s family. Doesn’t matter whether you’re born into it. When you have a close friend or friends, they’re family.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +2

      Hi, thanks for your comment and for sharing your story. Beautifully said. Family is not only based on blood. Everyone can become family, as long if there's enough love, respect, and understanding ❤️. I wish you the best!

    • @lisanidog8178
      @lisanidog8178 Год назад +1

      @@chennabay you’re welcome and thanks.

  • @noemiecomeaugodin3138
    @noemiecomeaugodin3138 Год назад +148

    As an adoptee from china also (now in 🇨🇦), I could relate a lot to your story. Great video you made. If you ever plan on trying to find your biological family, I hope you’ll make a video about it since I myself would like to look for them one day. Hope you the best! 😊

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +17

      Thank you for your comment ❤️ Yes, if I hopefully ever find them I will definitely make a video about it! Wish you the best as well 😘

    • @barchinbarchin9903
      @barchinbarchin9903 Год назад +7

      "сколько волка не корми, он все равно в лес смотрит"... есть такая пословица(

    • @Ptitnain2
      @Ptitnain2 Год назад

      Bonne chance.

  • @sudiptapanja5108
    @sudiptapanja5108 Год назад +13

    I live in the Netherlands, a guy I knew once told me his neice is adopted from China. Hope life is not throwing me surprises by showing me a video from her, in a way I also want you to be her, because I have thought of the neice many times later. Have a good day 🙂

  • @lindaopperthauser2284
    @lindaopperthauser2284 Год назад +5

    You have parents that live you. That really is all that matters!! GOD BLESS YOU!!

  • @minhee7
    @minhee7 Год назад +35

    I'm an adoptee from China, your story is very similar to mine, it's very touching. A Canadian family adopted me from Jiangsu, in Gaoyou. That's has much I know about where i'm from. I have been curious to know about my ancestry for many years, curiosity get to me quite often so i might try a DNA test soon. My biological parents probably has their reasons and all i hope is for them to be well and safe. Knowing about my birth doesn't mean that I don't love my adoptee family, I love them.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +8

      Thank you for your comment ❤️. I totally agree, wanting to know more about your birth has nothing to do with not loving your adoptive parents/family! I wish you all the best ✨️

  • @deepthirosejoseph8419
    @deepthirosejoseph8419 Год назад +9

    Your good life is a result of your parents prayer

  • @joanofarc6402
    @joanofarc6402 Год назад +4

    I think your parents found the most brilliant baby girl in China yo bring home with them.
    I love your story.
    Big hugs from 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

  • @laddaevans2227
    @laddaevans2227 Год назад +4

    Thank you for sharing. I'm glad you are doing well and well loved by your new family. God bless them for having a kind heart.

  • @Vietnam-mintDotCom
    @Vietnam-mintDotCom Год назад +5

    I grew up in the Netherlands and must admit I had a great childhood here.

  • @xiaoling5734
    @xiaoling5734 Год назад +20

    Hello there! Beautiful story, which I also relate to. And it also makes me tear a bit. Being born in China, Dongguan and adopted by Dutch people. I wss 2.5 years old. Now living a happy life in the Netherlands (Amsterdam). 🇱🇺
    With almost every sentence I could relate: not knowing your parents, not knowing where being born exactly, and all.
    The one child policy, girls being less worth than boys. I was born with a cleft in my upper lip. I guess poverty also played a role. Giving me away for someone to find me and give me a surgery.

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +2

      Thank you for your comment and for sharing your experience! I'm really happy to hear that you can relate to it ❤️. Wishing you the best! ✨️

  • @susysubiono2001
    @susysubiono2001 Год назад +8

    Congratulation you were adopted by good Family...God cares with you so deeply, JBu more🙏✨

  • @Blufftonbeatch4602
    @Blufftonbeatch4602 Год назад +10

    Thank you so much for sharing. As an adoptive parent, it makes me so grateful to see successful adoption stories.

  • @xixinscholz6887
    @xixinscholz6887 Год назад +7

    Hi Chenna, I admire you to make this Video. I was also adopted from china when I was 6 years old. I stayed in a orphanage for a year. I know exactly how you feel. I think it is very nice that you share your story with us 💓💓💓

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +3

      Hi Xixin, thank you so much for your comment ❤️. It's great to hear that you can relate to it. Six years is quit old! Can you still remember a lot of your time in China? And have you ever gone back?

  • @dr.verbena
    @dr.verbena Год назад +4

    Ты счастливая девочка. Надеюсь твоя кровная мама тоже рада за тебя и любит тебя. И приёмная мама тоже любит.

  • @lthomas3623
    @lthomas3623 Год назад +8

    I am adopted although not international adoption I always enjoy hearing other peoples journey ❤

  • @tingluma2825
    @tingluma2825 Год назад +5

    Thanks for sharing, of course you should not have self-pity, you are lucky and you are great!

  • @ByulSo
    @ByulSo Год назад +5

    Thank you for sharing! Wishing you the best in life and on your continued story.

  • @kerryquinn6218
    @kerryquinn6218 Год назад +7

    What an amazing young woman you've grown up to become. While it's sad for you to think that your birth parents were unable to care for you at that time, it must also be lovely to know that your parents loved you so much they picked you to be their daughter.

  • @chibywallah
    @chibywallah Год назад +8

    Beautiful video! You are so loved!

  • @lordtette
    @lordtette Год назад +18

    RUclips recommended me the video. Glad I watched it. The video was beautifully made and very touching. Thank you for letting us hear your story.
    I resonated with the part about acceptance; it can be hard but it's so freeing.

  • @renacleerican7824
    @renacleerican7824 Год назад +31

    I wish your parents see one day your video. You are right, they did nothing wrong, and certainly prayed every day for you to be safe and happy🙏
    I ve been abandonned at birth and adopted too, but not from 🇨🇳,
    I have met my biological Mother, once, when I was 23( she died since, may her rest in peace⭐), she told me exactly what you have said about your parents somewhere, praying for you, and loving you, everyday, she did it too🙏
    This link is unbreakable❤
    I want to go to my biological country, but I am scared, only my mother knew my existence, and I dont speak the language. But I feel I must go there, to find me.
    I wish you a good life🌈

  • @janego2018
    @janego2018 Год назад +8

    My second child is 2,5 ys old and sleeps upstairs next to my 5yo. She has a similar hair cut to you in your early years. My heart breaks for your biological mom and what she must have gone through giving up her baby girl. 💔 I am so blessed to get to keep my babies and see them grow up.

  • @yolandaagnir2528
    @yolandaagnir2528 Год назад +5

    Thanks. For sharing your story!! 😊❤😊.. such an amazing journey!! From Northern California!!

  • @Dua958
    @Dua958 Год назад +4

    U r so loved ❤ its all over the videod❤

  • @kathrynsinclare8459
    @kathrynsinclare8459 Год назад +5

    Hey thanks for sharing! We’re here for you. Just more support from all over the world. You are loved. ❤❤❤👋🏻😊🧑‍🦳🤶

  • @FrancesWeyr
    @FrancesWeyr Год назад +13

    Lovely video. A lot of young people go through a time of feeling lost and angry without being adopted. It’s nice to see that you have worked through it and become a good person. The only possible downside I can see is not knowing medical history, but I guess there are DNA tests to take care of that now.

  • @leylanaley8174
    @leylanaley8174 Год назад +4

    My god!!!I had no idea that this was the 1 child policy in china.How brave from all of you🙏👏💫

  • @TheKfler
    @TheKfler Год назад +7

    Being loved must be a nice feeling

  • @alexgilbert
    @alexgilbert Год назад +4

    Thank you for sharing your story here on RUclips Chenna! Adoption is special and unique for everyone involved. I was adopted myself and share my own journey but it still continues. I am still trying to find more of my extended birth family but like me I am sure you agree, a journey never stops. Thank you for sharing!

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +3

      Thanks for your kind comment, always great to hear from fellow adoptees! Wishing you the best and good luck on your journey 🙏🏽✨️

  • @momo14117
    @momo14117 Год назад +8

    As a Chinese, I'm truly happy for you.

  • @nielz38
    @nielz38 Год назад +60

    Very inspirational, as an adopted person myself it is very cool and relateable the story you tell. Keep making videos❤

  • @pd6380
    @pd6380 Год назад +9

    you are blessed to have loving adoptive parents. that's better than having abusive or irresponsible parents like some unfortunate kids grew up in.

  • @DBWorld_YouTube
    @DBWorld_YouTube Год назад +10

    ❤❤❤ thank you for sharing your story. We just adopted our son from South Korea almost 3 months ago. We vlogged the experience as well. It amazing to hear your experienced and feelings. Thank you again. New subscriber and follow!

  • @justmejenny7986
    @justmejenny7986 Год назад +11

    Oh my goodness you were such an adorable baby. So happy to hear that you have a loving family.

  • @Gurotori
    @Gurotori Год назад +8

    A friend of mine has pretty much the same story as you. She was found on the streets in China (I don’t know if she even knew the city) and got adopted by a Dutch couple too!

  • @emmahunk5692
    @emmahunk5692 Год назад +30

    Thank you for sharing your story. I have had a fascination with watching ‘adoption videos’ on you tube. It is good to see the story from the other side! I am so pleased that you can view your adoption as a real positive & that it has given you a good start in life. May your life continue in a positive direction!❤️

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +7

      Thank you for your reaction! Very happy to hear that you enjoyed the video 🥰 I wish you the best as well ❤️

  • @00smodels
    @00smodels Год назад +6

    This made me tear up, in a good way! ❤

  • @asif.rahman
    @asif.rahman Год назад +4

    I'm blessed to have a chance to hear your story. Bless you.

  • @frayinch
    @frayinch Год назад +5

    I love your history I'm a latin mother with struggles but I found hope in your words thank you ❤

  • @GeekyShyMama
    @GeekyShyMama Год назад +5

    Thank you for sharing your story with us, it brought tears to my eyes, may you continue in this path, being loved and being strong, blessings to both of your families.

  • @gerrimongrain1120
    @gerrimongrain1120 Год назад +4

    When your a child you don't know all the difficulties the both set of parents lived through with your birth ,then having to face letting you go & new beginning with your now family pray u find some blood relatives to help you grow as a adult..

  • @elizabethkelly6902
    @elizabethkelly6902 Год назад +3

    Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️

  • @fariedmaya3617
    @fariedmaya3617 Год назад +7

    I'm happy for you, and others were adopted, that's how God's show you HIS love. May you'll be bless always.

  • @bigworld4089
    @bigworld4089 Год назад +4

    Thanks for sharing⚘️🙏🌷

  • @animetoonshd3889
    @animetoonshd3889 Год назад +19

    I’m also adopted from China and Dutch lol say hi
    EDIT: maybe I should say some more stuff
    I was probably born in the Yujiang area near Nanchang (because they found me there). I visited my orphanage with another adopted friend in 2017 when I was 11 years old. Growing up, I experienced very blatant racism, but it never affected me too greatly. I never struggled with the fact that I’m different.
    Morgen heb ik LSD (laatste schooldag) en daarbij hoop ik van de HAVO te slagen :)

    • @chennabay
      @chennabay  Год назад +4

      Bedankt voor je bericht! Fijn om te horen dat je niet veel last hebt gehad van de rasistische opmerkingen. En natuurlijk heel veel succes alvast met je examens, ik duim voor je! 🙏🏽

    • @animetoonshd3889
      @animetoonshd3889 Год назад +1

      @@chennabay heel erg bedankt!