Growing Up Gay In a Small Christian Texas Town

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  • Опубликовано: 17 дек 2024

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  • @laatmezijn6047
    @laatmezijn6047 4 года назад +20

    Lieve Joey, dankjewel voor het delen van je verhaal! Bijzonder om zo meer over je achtergrond te leren 🙂
    Je kunt ongelofelijk trots zijn op jezelf, dat je dit allemaal hebt doorstaan en zo beetje bij beetje bent geworden wie je nu bent! Het inspireert! Het inspireert mij om ook meer eigen keuzes te maken. Ondanks dat veel mensen die ik lief heb dit afkeuren. Loslaten is moeilijk, maar nodig om echt jezelf te kunnen en mogen zijn. Echt dankjewel voor het delen en voor wie je bent😘♥️

  • @NickyBouwers
    @NickyBouwers 4 года назад +23

    Thank you for sharing this very personal story. I thank God for being able for being able to marry my wife in The Netherlands. We married also in a very liberal church that opened marriage for gay couples in 1986 (so before Dutch government).

  • @JasmijnPP
    @JasmijnPP 4 года назад +13

    Thank you for being so open with us. As a dutchie i love being real. Lots of love and respect, you are a beautiful person!

  • @EduardoRamos-do2ur
    @EduardoRamos-do2ur 4 года назад +21

    Kinda remind me of my own childhood and teenage years, except, I´m mexican and beinga gay boy/teen during 90s and early 2000s was awful, my dad beat the crap out of me (left arm broken and purple right eye) when the principal of my highschool (Catholic school) saw me sharing a kiss with my first boyfriend (i was 13 at that time) two weeks later, my parents throw me out home and well.... happy to say now I´m 30 I have a law degree and if things goes as I plan in a couple of years I´ll be moving to Uthrecht with my boyfriend A.K.A Mijn kleine zonnestraal.

    • @doosenco
      @doosenco 4 года назад +8

      When I read a story like yours I always get angry and a little upset. As a mom of a gay son (same age as you) I truly don't understand parents like yours. There was never a moment in my life that I thought that my son being gay was something bad. It certainly wasn't a reason loving him less.
      I'm glad you find your way out and I hope you will be happy in Utrecht with your boyfriend.
      Be who you are, and never never never think you are less because you are gay.
      Be happy, you deserve it.

    • @EduardoRamos-do2ur
      @EduardoRamos-do2ur 4 года назад +3

      @@doosenco thank you, wish I could've had a mom like you :)

    • @julianhage8468
      @julianhage8468 4 года назад

      Wow, heftig

  • @VitaCleo
    @VitaCleo 4 года назад +9

    So proud of you!!! ❤️❤️❤️

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад

      Thanks baby!! 😘

  • @JK-xl6xp
    @JK-xl6xp 4 года назад +17

    As a bisexual who lives in a Christian family I know this is gonna hit me😭
    Edit: Omg I'm so happy for you!

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +2

      Sending you so much love!!! ❤️

    • @fleurbloem5462
      @fleurbloem5462 4 года назад

      Your lucky to be bisexual. That wat you can still be with the opposite sex and have a happy love life in term of religious laws. I feel more sorry for full gay that dont have an option to fall for opposite gender and not be confliced with the word of God.

    • @jeanetteb2347
      @jeanetteb2347 4 года назад +1

      jasmine, did you know 70 % of women are somewhat bisexual? We are the majority.

    • @fleurbloem5462
      @fleurbloem5462 4 года назад

      @northern_lights hi understand what your saying, but in many ways a hetero relation gives less problems, of your conflicted in your religion by it for example, but also when theres a desire to have children. 2 moms or 2 dads, and the fuss to get there is just harder then in hetero relations. Not to mention what the possible effect on the children can be in such a scenario. Many people dont want to be gay and struggle a lot with that. So of your bisexual you at least have another option, which full gay people dont really have. But I respect your reaction and the polite way you responded!

  • @Jod3lay
    @Jod3lay 4 года назад +2

    Wow, you came a long way... I'm so glad to see you so happy and confident with yourself and your life right now. You're a beautiful person! Stay safe & healthy ❤️

  • @pol684
    @pol684 4 года назад +2

    This is the best video you ever made! Dit is zo persoonlijk en echt heel goed. Hoop dat je meer vertelt hierover.

  • @AD-xn9uw
    @AD-xn9uw 4 года назад +1

    You are AMAZING, i love the way you tell you’re story, so strong but so emotional in “a good personal way” and i just love you! And really respect you, because of how strong you tell you’re story and experience❤️

  • @myrrhsense
    @myrrhsense 4 года назад +4

    I am so sorry you went through this all, but so happy you got to a better place. I am very curious to what you believe as of now.
    To me, I am brought up Christian as well, however, homosexuality, it always seemed normal to me. I remember, in primary school people started to use "homo" as a swear word, and I honestly never understood. But what really broke my heart was when I found out a lot of Christians have such hate for homosexuals. And that's just wrong. Real Christianity is about love, not hate.

  • @naaaaaaatalieeeee9620
    @naaaaaaatalieeeee9620 6 месяцев назад

    Honestly, i can relate so much. I clung to religion for a while to try and get some sense of belonging. But as time went on, i slowly realized that i simply dont fit the mold that had been socially laid out for me. That i never would. And once i let go of Christianity and started seeing it for what it was i became more and more comfortable with myself.
    Now that im 21, i want to be more active in the lgbtq+ community. I want to go to pride. I want to protest and help others like me. Now that ive moved down to Texas its harder to find people like me. Hopefully i can find my way around and start making a positive impact.

  • @dananieddu4097
    @dananieddu4097 4 года назад

    So inspired by this. Just comes to show that when you go and be who you really are great things happen!

  • @ronaldderooij1774
    @ronaldderooij1774 4 года назад +8

    I recognise a lot. I am not gay, but I am an (extremely) high functioning (extremely) Asperger. I was only diagnosed during my divorce at 50.. Difference between you and me, I had supporting parents but, to get to the extremely high functioning level, I had to do things beyond my reach every single day of my life. I did not know better. I thought that was how life was. Challenging, you might say. And yes, I learned endurance and perseverence too. And besides my great parents and sister, the fact that I really always have liked myself a lot, helps too. Especially sitting alone in my own bubble :-) The major difference with you is, I cannot start another life in a culture that accepts Aspergers as normal. Because Aspergers and normal people simply do not mix very well.

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад

      So interesting to read this, you are right it’s difficult as currently there is a stigma sadly.

    • @doosenco
      @doosenco 4 года назад

      Ik vind je normaal, maar ik ben een hoogfunctionerend autistische ADD'er.
      groetjes vanuit mijn bubbel! ;-)

  • @hunk1967
    @hunk1967 4 года назад +1

    Brave man, been wondering what yr story was. I value very much you sharing this.

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад

      I appreciate that

  • @SmallegangeGilkes
    @SmallegangeGilkes 3 года назад

    joey❤️ i cried when i say this video! love you❤️

  • @riannewiesjek
    @riannewiesjek 4 года назад

    Dear Joey, thank you so much for sharing this personal story. What an amazing journey you made. Your core identity suppressed trying to be someone else. You had to be so strong to endure this all, staying true to yourself, choosing to live the life YOU want for yourself, following your dream, your goals and your heart.
    Love to hear more from you on this subject.
    Lots of love.

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +1

      Thank you so Much lots of love!!

  • @nadine264x
    @nadine264x 4 года назад +1

    So much love and respect for you!❤️❤️

  • @PriscillaMck
    @PriscillaMck 4 года назад

    From Texas here and I'm so sorry you had that kind of childhood. Sensing you love from Texas.

  • @vincenzodigrande2070
    @vincenzodigrande2070 4 года назад

    Ik vind het geweldig dat je kwaliteit van je videos altijd prevaleren boven kwantiteit! En begrijp nu ook veel beter wat jou gevormd heeft tot wie je nu bent, en je bent prachtig!

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад

      Dankjewel!! ❤️

  • @celestegallardo2769
    @celestegallardo2769 4 года назад +1

    Missing you the most, sending you love and peace 🤍

  • @Anna-yw2bk
    @Anna-yw2bk 4 года назад

    I love this video of you thank you so much for opening up

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +1

      Thanks so much babe!! ♥️♥️♥️

  • @thilin3005
    @thilin3005 4 года назад

    So much respect for you!! 💕💕

  • @DoDo12312
    @DoDo12312 3 года назад

    Nothing but respect for you

  • @MelissaPressler
    @MelissaPressler 4 года назад

    Thanks Joey for sharing!!! 💜💜

  • @MedzFightingGames
    @MedzFightingGames Год назад

    I'm currently growing up in smalltown east Texas as a closeted gay teen. It really sucks to live a lie to my family, to the point of repulsion. My boyfriend got jumped for being openly gay. And right now, I'm living in constant fear that I'm next. My heart aches for all the queer folk out in this area. Sorry for the rant, but if you're in a similar situation, know it's going to be okay. You all are worthy ❤️

  • @LAU-ik6dp
    @LAU-ik6dp 4 года назад +3

    It's sad that it still exists these situations with religion and being gay. In The Netherlands there's churches that do accept gay people, lucky we live in 2020. (I had to search for it, not all are like that yet) Good to see you in a better place Joey :D

  • @astridsandifort-joffer9792
    @astridsandifort-joffer9792 4 года назад

    Mooie vlog, dank je voor het delen van jou verhaal. Ik hoop dat er een tijd komt dat jouw familie je waardeert om wie je bent. Ikvind je een mooi mens💋

  • @josineoudeveldhuis3032
    @josineoudeveldhuis3032 4 года назад

    Heel veel respect voor jou!❤️ we support you

  • @itsme-ih2cx
    @itsme-ih2cx 4 года назад

    I grew up in a similar way, I grew up super conservative home were we also couldn't wear pants and no secular music. I had a huge fallout with my family and now am a exotic dancer and love my life. I feel liberated and in my power.

  • @allydea
    @allydea 4 года назад +6

    I understand perfectly how you feel. I was raised in a very Christian conservative family. Going to the church every day, not allowed to have friends from "the world" and I was put under discipline for wearing pick at the church.. apparently a "brother" considered the color too sexy. I tried very very hard to believe what they were telling me and to be a "real Christian" but at the end I just couldn't pretend anymore. I became a non-believer when I was studying religion at the university. One thing that was the most difficult for me was the constant self-doubt, it was difficult to believe in your own conclusions when everybody around you things the opposite. BTW, I am not gay but the experience was similar.

  • @helenapeytchev5031
    @helenapeytchev5031 4 года назад

    a lot of respect! already love you

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад

      Thanks so much!! ❤️

  • @jackyberg
    @jackyberg 4 года назад +1

    Dear Joey, I am happy for you that you can live your life the way you want and the way you are. Personally, I am not happy with any religion that doesn't accept people and has too many rules. It feels like injustice is done. It also seems to me that some groups of people just aren't any wiser. They don't know about gay and transgender people.

  • @kentfountain8847
    @kentfountain8847 4 года назад

    I live in a small town in southeast texas. I'm gay but slipping away from my christianity

  • @hummel3479
    @hummel3479 4 года назад

    Hello Joey. Oh my god. What you had to go through. You are a great guy and a wonderful person. Maybe you can go to somebody that can help you with coping with your past so that you can leave this behind and fully enjoy your life here with Nick. Love you friend and hope you make more vlogs about everything you do. Groetjes Erwin

  • @javian4742
    @javian4742 2 года назад

    New braunfels tx here

  • @carolavanlaerhoven9379
    @carolavanlaerhoven9379 4 года назад

    kun je iets vertellen over hoe je familie in de US kwam, ook een verhaal op zich lijkt me. En benieuwd naar jouw verhaal

  • @emmelyvandervalk4763
    @emmelyvandervalk4763 4 года назад

    I think you are a beautiful soul, I love your vlogs.

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +1

      Thanks love!!! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @Nynke_K
    @Nynke_K 4 года назад

    The world would be so much better off if every society had a sense of group identity that included a lot of variety between people and their personalities bodies and and lifestyles! When I got bullied as a little kid for being smart/weird, I figured 'gek is normaal en normaal is gek' and I still stand by that. But really, everyone should be raised that way!

  • @regntonne
    @regntonne 4 года назад

    Very touching.

  • @BiteBolt_77
    @BiteBolt_77 4 года назад

    So happy for you that you found yourself in life

  • @mauuuddd
    @mauuuddd 4 года назад +3

    I grew up in a ' Catholic Christian' family in Belgium. My grandparents were Christian so my mum and dad baptised me and I did my communion. But my mom and dad both became atheist. We never went to church. Belgian is a really free country with liberal values like the right of abortion, euthanasia, gay marriage, the right to have a child for every couple, etc. Those values are kinda normal in our society. The fact that the Pope and the Catholic church are against gay marriage, abortion, euthanasia and birth control is total bullshit. Those were my parents opinion and my own. I grew up watching teenage series with gay characters. In school I had Religion an we learned about Bible stories and other religion and the meaning of life. I am only a couple of years younger than you but it is so weird that our educaton is so different. I believe Jezus was a good person and I believe in the Christian value of loving other people and kindness. But do I believe in a heaven or a hell or in God? I don't know and the truth is we will never know. Only when we die. So I am kinda an a agnost. When I was in New York I went to a church but with gospel music. I did liked that.

  • @Mariska1983
    @Mariska1983 4 года назад +1

    yay it's Joey!!!

  • @thegreyareabeard2041
    @thegreyareabeard2041 3 года назад

    OMG are you one of my tiktok friends?

  • @TTTzzzz
    @TTTzzzz 4 года назад

    I'm glad you are you.

  • @julian4605
    @julian4605 4 года назад

    So weird to think about what would have happened if you weren't smart enough to get into NY schools or didn't have the resources to go. I can't imagine being stuck in a environment where you really don't fit in... Anyway love your videos! Stay safe in these weird times ❤️

  • @aliekegeerse
    @aliekegeerse 4 года назад

    Love learning more about your story! Thank you for sharing it with the world.

  • @MadesignMamavan4
    @MadesignMamavan4 4 года назад +1

    Hoe is je relatie met je familie nu?

  • @maryvanakkeren4428
    @maryvanakkeren4428 4 года назад

    Dear Joey

  • @thegreyareabeard2041
    @thegreyareabeard2041 3 года назад

    Is this Joseph?

  • @AppleCore360
    @AppleCore360 4 года назад

    So sorry you had to go through that, but it speaks to how strong of a person you are to get out of that situation. Do you still talk to your parents/siblings/family? Do they know you're in the Netherlands now? (Don't need to answer if it is to personal)

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +1

      Hey love thanks so much. No I no longer speak to them.

  • @fabrice-seanmarenel9091
    @fabrice-seanmarenel9091 4 года назад +1

    Rings kind of a bell to me..

  • @jeanetteb2347
    @jeanetteb2347 4 года назад

    How did you become such a lovable guy with such an upbringing?

  • @Overwijn01
    @Overwijn01 4 года назад

    Respect ❤️

  • @chimenerf
    @chimenerf 4 года назад

    Ohh i am so happy for you that you left,

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад

      Me too!! ♥️♥️♥️

  • @p-mx9cs
    @p-mx9cs 4 года назад

    oke ik wou even zeggen LOVE IS LOVE en als een oekel het niet goed vind dan zeg je gewoon je hoort niet in mijn leven want ik ben wie ik ben en ik verander mezelf niet. iedereen mag zijn wie hij of zij is ookal is het gay of pansexual of transgender, iedereen is 1 groot comunity die zecht f*** de rest ik wil zijn wie ik wil zijn. ps: ik vind het echt tof dat je het zo gezecht hebt voor de camera. LOVE YOU AND Im SO HAPPY FOR YOU

  • @AD-xn9uw
    @AD-xn9uw 4 года назад

    Do you still see your family?

  • @kristinakorenkova3340
    @kristinakorenkova3340 4 года назад

    How come you dont have Texan accent?

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад

      Where I come from they don’t have the typical Texas accent.

  • @chaoticgoodgh0st286
    @chaoticgoodgh0st286 4 года назад

    I grew up a Christian but now I feel like I'm leaning towards being agnostic....
    It hurts to hear stories about 'family' shunning their child bc they have a different sexuality/identity. There is NOTHING wrong with being gay/lesbian/bi/pan/ace/aro/trans etc etc
    Love is love
    ❤🧡💛💚💟💙💜

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +1

      Same, I now just believe in the power of self! ❤️

    • @chaoticgoodgh0st286
      @chaoticgoodgh0st286 4 года назад

      @@JoeyJaq that's a beautiful thing to believe 😁 I think I believe in love most ✌💞

  • @riannekruizenga7283
    @riannekruizenga7283 4 года назад +1

  • @alexysq2660
    @alexysq2660 4 года назад

    Ohhhh, *Liefje:* eigenlijk ik begrijp het - echt, ZO goed - alles wat je daar zegt...!

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +1

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @alexysq2660
      @alexysq2660 4 года назад

      @@JoeyJaq ...

  • @Anna-yl7xu
    @Anna-yl7xu 4 года назад

    Joey ben zo trots op je❤

  • @MarionKamp1978
    @MarionKamp1978 4 года назад

    ❤...

  • @romyvandel7126
    @romyvandel7126 4 года назад

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @S1Mariska
    @S1Mariska 4 года назад

    ❤️

  • @ericburbach632
    @ericburbach632 4 года назад +4

    Isnt it amazing how Christians dont know that Jesus taught us to accept........ blah blah , I left the church so long ago, best decision ever !

  • @TerryVogelaar
    @TerryVogelaar 4 года назад +1

    Up until my teenage years, I never felt accepted until I discovered God's unconditional grace for me. Christianity to me was a warm welcoming relief after a terrible childhood. So it breaks my heart to hear anyone who doesn't feel accepted by Christians. Fortunately, I see a big shift lately: more and more churches become increasingly welcoming towards gay people. A big virtual hug from me!

    • @JoeyJaq
      @JoeyJaq  4 года назад +3

      I totally hear you on this. I think for me what was the most special was finding unconditional love for myself which in my book is more important than any love anyone or anything can give you. Self acceptance and self love is the key to true happiness. ❤️

    • @TerryVogelaar
      @TerryVogelaar 4 года назад +1

      @@JoeyJaq I would agree, but it is a bit more complicated. Humans are social beings; our psyches can't cope if we ourselves are the only ones who love us and the rest of the world doesn't. We need at least some love from others. For me, this started with God.

  • @marjolijnzuidema1475
    @marjolijnzuidema1475 4 года назад

    Damn Joey! Wat moeilijk :(

  • @Gisela_aka_gies
    @Gisela_aka_gies 4 года назад

    OMG Joey so sad...You say it made you who you are right now but what if this did not happen and you were in a loving accepting family? Don't you think you were you PLUS? This "abuse" is not a great start to adulthood imo. I am glad you do not seem to have a trauma from it so that is good, however sometimes it feels like ( i can be wrong cause i do not know you personally) it is hard for you to talk about it and really show your emotion about this period in your life..
    I'm glad you went to NY because you met Nick..And we (the dutch) met you sooooooo yeah i'm happy..
    OMG Gisela (that's my name) you are so corny..
    Gonna stalk you some more on IG..I asked you a question and you answered me..which is worse 30 min in bed with trump or 30 min in bed with snakes, was my question..And no i did not ment having sex...(dirty dirty Joey)😂
    Hastalapasta boo
    😘

  • @trisky210
    @trisky210 7 месяцев назад

    Black? I though most nuns and pastors wore black.

  • @adambereznicki5198
    @adambereznicki5198 4 года назад

    I am sorry for the environment you grew up in... probably that is why you dont believe in God anymore. You were not in true christian community, because true christians are respectful and supportive to gay people, since we are all Gods childrens. Your story is really amazing and you should definitely make a movie about it :)

  • @Emma-zm2us
    @Emma-zm2us 4 года назад

  • @CleoCam
    @CleoCam 4 года назад

  • @xwiljax
    @xwiljax 3 года назад

    Pfff ik ben christelijk opgevoed maar gelukkig lijkt dat in niks op jouw verhaal😱 christen moet liefhebben, een ander respecteren en niet oordelen. Het geloof wat jullie hadden met de rokjes dragende vrouwen noemen wij altijd “de rokjes kerk”😄 veel te streng als je het mij vraagt en weinig liefde en jezelf kunnen zijn😬

  • @marga7694
    @marga7694 4 года назад

    ❤️