He didn't try very hard either...and she could've taken the DNA test....stop blaming your mom you and your husband made choices....he gave up his rights
As much as I think this is fake, the amount of grown ass adults with zero communication skills that could potentially allow a situation like this to happen is staggering.
As fake as you think this is and sorry to burst your bubbles but this kind of situation do happen . Something similar happened to someone in my family ; the mother thought the husband wasn’t wealthy enough to support her daughter and her so she started this whole scheme with an old friend of her daughter to separate them … so yeah pretty similar minus the money given and the baby but overall a narcissistic parent who had no remorse divorcing her happily married daughter for her own benefit
"I need money, and I don't want to ask my Daughter. Looks like I'm going to ruin her marriage so I can get money from a loser who she never had any interest in." Mother of the year on this one. Get paid in advance and let the moron act like he got what he wanted. Daughter never liked him anyway.
If this is actually real, my non-existent faith in humanity is going into the deep negatives that I thought were impossible. How can a person do such thing to his/her child???? Motherly instinct my a-s-s.
My mother can be the same way. Does something only for her own interest or peace of mind, damning the consequences. And when you confront her? It's all on you for not taking it well. Some people just can't accept that their reasons are not an excuse, or even good half the time.
There's news about a daughter suing her mother, turn out the mother was pimping her to a lot of men. Also don't forget women who did late stage abortions without remorse.
@@HeoBaby24most people must stop look at the paternity test like lose of trust because making a man to live a life in fake family that dosent involve his blood is even worse you not only lose trust the partner but also your young years people like you are very hypocritical if he really had nothing to hide why she didnt take the paternity test?
Looking at Ex's perspective: Your MIL initiated that her child (your wife) is cheating on you, you have doubts since it's your MIL's words, but some moments happened between wife and another man and your doubt deepened. After that you ask your wife for a solid proof such as paternity test, which if positive, can be a slap in your own face and clear up your doubts, but your wife aggressively refused, then she started the divorce soon after. OP cannot blame Ex, he was lied to by OP's mother, asked his partner for a scientific proof and it resolved into an argument and divorce in a short period of time, even tried to reconcile and be there for the child again once his doubts cleared up
@panshul5633 And rightfully so. He never revealed the source of his doubts. There was zero reason for him not to tell her that he got that info from her mother. If he did, the root of the problem could have been addressed right there and then.
He never once mentioned his conversation with MIL to his wife. Had he done so,they could have all sat down and ashed everything out and it wouldn't have came to this. He also signed his rights away during the divorce,why didn't request Paternity test during the proceedings? The judge would have given it to him,but instead he simply signed his rights away. She is not at fault at all. Someone hits on you and you tell your husband instantly and then kick that person out,only for your husband to start staying late and not coming home. Then he starts picking a fight with you and accuse you of cheating and Paternity fraud.
Lied to or not, from OP's perspective he just started thinking his wife had an affair. She tells him Dan is crossing lines and she wants him out, and then MIL says her own daughter was sleeping with the guy. Ex decided not to be civil and talk it out. Instead he stews and makes accusations with only word of mouth. The Ex is not innocent. He basically takes everything as evidence that his wife was unfaithful without ever having an actual conversation. He doesn't even say the source of his information.
@@ianmoritzplatapino3684how can you evenly distribute blame all she had to do was take a paternity test but she’s too entitled to even do that…. the man was told his wife is cheating by her own mother that would create doubts for anyone but she ended a loving marriage because she couldn’t take one test and prove him wrong…. Enjoy being a single mom
Yeah, but I understand her point of view. Hormonal imbalances + the fact she didn’t cheat, it’s understandable to be livid when someone basically tells you they have no trust in you. Of course logically speaking if you’re faithful there’s no need to worry about such a test, but specifically asking for one would probably feel really terrible when the person on the receiving end was actually faithful. I agree about them being mandatory however, would save all this trouble and help ensure no father raises another man’s child
While I feel bad for OP in the context of what her mother did, it in no way, shape, or form justifies divorcing your husband over him asking for a paternity test. Her refusal to get one fueled his doubt, whereas if she'd tried to sort things out without immediately jumping to divorce, it's likely her mother's schemes would've been exposed far sooner, and her son wouldn't have had to grow up fatherless. Of course, given her track record here it's kinda obvious she would've found some other disagreement to be worth the divorce further down the line and canned it then.
Had he had a fucking spine he would have spoke about what the mom said or ask for a paternity test in court when he signed his rights away, he shut down and it cost them their marriage
He asked out of the blue a week after he threw a drunk out of a party, and decided not to have a conversation or tell his wife what her own mother was saying. As far as OP knew, her Husband thought she cheated because some drunken moron said he love her.
@@Nique0920 He did not know of what the mom said until Dan told him. and he did ask for a paternity test but she just divorced him over that so he thought he wasnt the father
@@ryuta2657 no, she planted seeds in his head, he only learned after 6 years the mother and Dan where plotting against his marriage. He let her mom get to his head without talking to him, she denied cheating and he didn’t ask the court for a paternity test when he SIGNED AWAY HIS RIGHTS. They didn’t just divorced he disowned his son without fact checking. You might have not been in a situation « like this » but people close to you, even you parent, will actively try to ruin your life by lying, so you have to beware of everyone and clear a situation before acting off of emotions; and this applies to both parties because she could have calmed down and try to push him more.
13:37 OP has spent more time deflecting blame when she was the one who refused the paternity test and initiated the divorce, then has the nerve to say that Ex abandoned her? How did he abandon you when you pushed him out
Because instead of oh I don't know ACTUALLY SPEAKING he decided to sign does paper and instead of asking for a paternity during court he signed his rights away. Op is in no way in the wrong for a grown ass man throwing a tantrum over believing someone who didn't have any proof
Honestly this is something my mum would do. I’m 23 and can’t even post about my relationships because although my mum isn’t in my life she always finds out and has to interfere and harass my partner and me until eventually my partner has enough and ends things and luckily they get to escape her bs but I’m left alone with it😅✌️
Just get the paternity test. That is no time to pull out the "you don't trust me card." That can alter too many lives. No reason to play around with it.
@@HeoBaby24 its not about "should" at that point. imo paternity test should be mandatory either way. it prevents arguments, bad choices, life defining changes, doubt, etc. If the only reason why you shouldnt is because of her principle of "trust" then im sorry but thats not moving me.
@@vanilelle That's the issue. Many fathers get trapped into raising kids that are not theirs because they trusted their partner too much. These snakes have talent on hiding stuff. As a woman, I advocate for mandatory paternity tests at birth, and until then, if a father has doubts, he can do it behind the mother and nobody has to ever find out. It's easy and somewhat cheap.
Poor communication this woman acts like she didn't do anything wrong her everyone sucks here this is what happens when you act on emotions and not on reasons they need to sit at table and drop everything they got to find solutions but nope they acted like kids and everyone run for the hills for them self
So she thinks dna tests are fine, but not for her? Sees asking for it as a accusation of cheating, but refusing not suspicious at all? Says her mother deprived her son of a father, but she had no part in that? The husband also should have communicated better and made the test happen. Everyone is an asshole here, some bigger than others.
@@thedreamer6930 Wanting divorce is not even the worst part. She could have given the dna test and divorced, no need to alianate father from child. but yes she was selfish and did what she wanted, as did all of them. Poor child.
The context is very different. He is not asking for a dna test out of some mandatory check, he is asking for it while accusing her of cheating. She didn't want to be with a man who didn't trust her, despite her having been open and honest, and told her husband about what Dan said, and divorced. He instantly removed his parental rights and abandoned his own child, without even checking if he'd made a mistake in accusing her of cheating.
how do you blame someone for leaving you when you initiated the divorce? he never abandoned you, you abandoned him. he is also well within his rights to ask for a paternity test.
@@stephenlawrence554shes allowed to be offended but if she chooses to end the marriage over not taking a paternity test then thats on her regardless of how she feels
@@stephenlawrence554 if both where in their rights to do so, then no one is in the wrong, but here is she puttting blame in everyone but herself, i´d say both where at fault, him for keeping to himself what the mother had tell him and her for dipping as soon as her loyalty was at doubt
yeah but divorce then say he abandoned you? she was looking an excuse the fact that after she got after her pregnancy and never thought of reaching out@@stephenlawrence554
@@Ileechhisytred she said in the story that she didn’t mind the idea of a paternity test, it was the context in which he asked for one. She wasn’t okay with the fact that he was essentially calling her a lying cheater who had so few morals that she’d let her husband raise and pay for another man’s child. From what she wrote in the story, he also didn’t ask for a court mandated paternity test, nor did he ask one when he crawled back. If it really was such a big deal for him, don’t you think he would have actually made some attempt at proving the child was his?
People in the comments section really think just blindly accepting a request for paternity testing will protect relationship health lol. All it’s for is knowing whether or not a guy is the father. That’s it. But if one is requested based on little to no actual evidence of cheating, then it’s gonna bomb the relationship. Y’all need to grow up.
yes that is true but dont forget the college friend out of nowhere proclaims his love for op then you get texts from her mom the person she trusts and respects the most (her mom) who from what i can hear never did anything wrong till that moment telling you that your wife is cheating on you and with all of that planted in his head the 1 thing he asks for just to hold on a little hope that it may or may not have been all a lie it get denied and yes i know a paternity test only tells him if he is the dad or not it also tells him that it his child and not the other guys child
Lack of communication skills and not wanting to resolve things to the end, like bitter and rather cut ties then actually finding out what is the root of the problem.
everyone, EVERYONE (clearly not the child) in this situation has contributed to the failure everything. OP, OPs ex and OPs child life were negatively influenced because OP didnt give her ex the asked Paternity test or sat down and talked about the situation out and instead jumped STRAIGHT to divorce OPs Ex didnt sit down and rationally talk to his wife about the accusations her own mother was laying down at OPs feet (To be fair to the Ex OP even outright says her mother was a massive influence in her life and such a thing was so unbelievable, so if OP would have never thought her own mother would have done this and even out her on a pedestal how would the Ex see that the mother was absolutely insane) And the mother for being an absolute greedy monster All the situation needed was for at the bare minimum OP or her Ex to act like proper adults and try to communicate about everything happening and not one of them did when they should have
Talk about mother of the year. She ruined her daughters marriage and relationship for the sake of self preservation. If she was that desperate for money she should’ve just asked.
Wait so she says “under usual circumstance a paternity test isnt something to shy away from” What tf constitutes a usual circumstance if not this And then she says shouldn’t me showing loyalty and having his baby be more then enough proof its his baby and i was loyal lol no it clearly isnt u saying you’ve been loyal isnt proof you’ve been loyalty
And my god you have to take some accountability, u keep saying she ruined your marriage but you’re ultimately the one that ended things. Instead of giving your husband the paternity test, proving your innocences then actually sitting down and having a conversation about why he felt this way U immediately jumped to the extream Your mother sucks but u get no pity from me either
There are many ways to get money that don’t involve hurting your own child and ruining their happiness. I’m a mum and would never do that to my daughter no matter how much I’m struggling, I’d rather struggle and see my daughter happy
While I agree that the mother's manipulations played a substantial factor in the marriage falling apart, OP is a moron for ending it with such frivolity. She says she wants to raise her kid in a happy environment but never even attempted to work towards that and threw everything away the moment things took a misstep.
How can you work towards happiness with someone who doesn’t trust you? Yeah it’s all OPs fault 🙄. Not the husband who broke his vows and didn’t communicate what was going on. Smh
@@yaoilover0 A common marriage vow goes like, "I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part..." Betrayal is possibly one of the most powerful, consuming emotional vices someone can find themselves in. People can be irrational and single-minded even with their thoughts clouded with static. This was not a moment where he was in control (not in a "controlling" way but regarding feeling secure). There are still consequences for things said and done in that state, but I wouldn't fault someone who is not fully there. He didn't break any vows since trying to confirm a spouse's fidelity is exactly what a genuine person who loves and cherishes their spouse would do, because in that snapshot moment before OP made ANY sort of decision, this marriage was still on (even if his mind was clouded). OP's decision to have immediately ended the marriage (at least according to this post since we are only getting snapshots) at the first sign of "..., or worse, ..." was a shit decision. The mother infected OP's marriage with a "sickness" which took form in OP's husband's growing insecurities and trust issues and OP choosing to leave him is ultimately why the marriage ended. She didn't love or cherish him enough to even attempt to bandage his wounds because the act of verifying fidelity was an attack on her honor. Big wall of text but believe me it's not intended to express anger at anyone.
@@yaoilover0You work towards happiness with someone who don't trust you by proving that you're trustworthy and not egotistical like op. Not once did she try to understand his side. That's not what wives do..
@@thousandyardgavri2785 you have no relationship without trust. It’s just as much the husband’s responsibility as it is hers, yet somehow it’s only OPs fault for having normal feelings and reacting? Sure 🙄
@thousandyardgavri2785 so, standing up for yourself and having a spine is "egotistical"? And nice, giving Idiot hubby a free pass. Jumping to conclusions and abandoning your spouse with no real evidence of infidelity...that's not what HUSBANDS do.
Look how it looks from the husband’s pov the man who got them together confessed his love they were close and she refused a paternity test. Only women know 100% paternity
there was cases where the women didn't know neither. babies switched at birth, parents having two sets of DNA instead of just one, etc. so sometimes even the mom needs to test themselves too.... lol
This shit has me in tears after the husband explained the situation. Like how can you destroy your child’s and grandchild life for money? The fk is wrong with the woman? Just pure evil
EX chose to accuse OP. He chose to abandon his pregnant wife. Period. That kid deserves better than this loser. And Joint Custody should be a big no-no.
Just wanted to stop the video on @1:54 and say, "What more proof does a guy need" Yeah.. if he's asking for a paternity test then obviously he doesn't think you've actually been loyal thus the baby could not be his! like I don't have a kid but I can only imagine the terror of thinking your child is NOT yours..
7:13 just putting this out there... But I don't think she deserves him, the very moment the marriage went into "The worst" she just dipped... the husband was getting psychologically attacked by the mom and his paranoia was getting confirmed and then all it took was a paternity test but nope.. that very instant she just dipped (and I get her side btw.. btw c'mon..)
@@mannyparrilla1807 Why didn't the husband show her the messages the mother was sending? The guy's an idiot for not showing her those messages which would have resulted in his wife confronting her mother for lying. Also you can get a DNA test behind her back. The guy had a number of avenues to resolve this succinctly he chose not to.
@@GuyShōtōyou actually can’t get a dna test behind someone’s back back because even if he did and the child wasn’t his he couldn’t use that in court. The woman if she was loyal and I’m starting to suspect she wasn’t she’d agree to it especially since
@@eaglewarrior7979 You literally have zero proof she to back the idea she wasn't faithful, also no one said anything about legality. I noted there were a number of steps that could be taken which would have easily avoided divorce and he failed to take them. You're now just inventing narratives (with zero proof to back them) because of some axe to grind with women.
It’s crazy that if this is real she blames everything on everyone but her. She even blames her ex husband oh it’s all his fault that he couldn’t trust me and made me take full custody of the kid and I ran. She won’t take any of the blame.
It's just a blood test, women ☕ refused because think their significant other are not trust her. But the point was they are the one who's making their partner doubt it. Stupid game with stupid prize
If your wife comes and asks you to do a paternity test on the child of your female close friend cause her child looks like you, will you be happy with that? It happens all the time. If women starts asking men to do paternity test on children that looks like them, you are telling me that not implying cheating? Married or in relationship men cheat and impregnate women too.
What? Cave and stay married to an idiot who will believe words coming from his mother in law? I do blame him because i instead of talking like a fuckin human he cause his end of his marriage. No one fault but his. Why do you expect people to want to stay married to you after you threw a tantrum and show you got no trust in them?
What stopped the husband not taking his own son for a paternity test? He didn't need her permission. He could've gotten that part cleared up. Good for OP for cutting off her financial support to her mom. That woman only cared about herself.
So again this is another situation where the father just signs his rights away and it's never mentioned again like that's not something you just do and then you come back to that is life-changing for the child as in a birth parent is literally scrubbed from that child's permanent record in this is like the four-story where it's just offhandedly mentioned oh he signed his rights away and he came back here later it does not work that way in real life
Sorry but I don’t feel very bad for OP. She sounded like she was halfway out anyway since the dude had good reasons to be concerned. Didn’t even stop to hear him out.
I don't feel bad for the ex. Instead of talking you went straight to yelling and throwing accusations at your wife. Why should she hear him out when he never made shit clear? And then expect to be welcome back with open arms? After you signed away your rights. And and then you expect her not to divorce you because you accused her of something she didn't even do but "she filled his doubts"
@HeoBaby24 no he started by being distant and then said he couldn't help but think she was cheating on him with him. He handed it well and all went down hill when she couldn't handle her ex asking for a paternity test. He is the real victim in this story...also the OP stole a father from her son for years by not having that test
@@HeoBaby24 when your SO’s parent comes to you and tells you they’ve been cheating it’s hard to ignore. Plus the dude confessing his love didn’t help. If she’d sat down and talked it out her son would’ve had a father. Her mom isn’t the only one that took that from her son.
@@ScanTronIndustries dude confessed his love and op IMMEDIATELY Told HIM If that not enough proof then your a fuckin idiot. And yes even if it comes from your so parent. Without any proof why would you believe them without any proof And if he acted like a civil person he would be in his child life. He done this to himself not op
Somehow women never really consider that men always get the short end of the stick. Men NEVER know for sure if the baby is theirs, however women do have that privilege. To deny any certainty that the man might seek is just cruel.
Women also don't know if their husband's close female friend's child is his or not. Married men cheat too. Are you fine if your wife comes to you and asks you if you cheated as your female friend's child looks like you? What security women have when a married man cheats and impregnate another woman and hides it?! Paternity test should be mandatory by the court, not men just suddenly ask for it, thats not trusting your partner.
You reminded me of a few cases where the woman wasn't sure: in one case being that a negative paternity test resulted in discovering the child was switched at birth.... But the funniest one was a woman arguing that she should take the dang test cause it's just as likely not hers.... obviously forgetting where the kid popped out of.... and yes, turned out she's the mom and the bum down the street was the dad.
Ao what should woman do? Cave to a mna child that proven time and time again that they don't trust them because of what other woman do? It's always "woman can't take accountability" Why Should they when they're not the one's that did it? Op didn't cheat. Yet she has to be punished because someone else said she did without any proof?
first and last thing you need to understand about women, is that they consider themselves 100% justified in just going with their emotions like the story here, there was never the slightest attempt to see things from his point of view, to calm down and breathe, to investigate why he'd be asking, to consider why he'd want that there was only her feeling insulted
One thing ppl don’t get is what would they do if the mother of the person u luv disclosed such information to u? U might know ur partner well but if the situation puts them in this kind of place?? U will find urself doubting too
I feel like everyone's forgetting that the husband didn't tell OP why he wanted a paternity test. It's one thing if you know he wants a test because several people have told him you had an affair. It's another if he just asks for a paternity test with seemingly no reason. And that's what he did. To some people, the whole "A person will only ask/acuse something if they would/are doing it" thing is real. So in that case, maybe the husband was up to something (from the POV of the wife). I do think she should have done the paternity test. But obviously, since she was hurt (valid, from your POV your husband doesn't trust you), they probably should have done couples therapy. Honestly, everyone was at least a little to blame.
That's one stellar mother of an OP right there. Her own mother gets mother of the year raspberry award, but she herself is absolutely acing the single mother life. Good for her, honestly.
There Will Come A Time When your Son Will Question you why Granma Is not In The Picture Anymore,,Makesure To tell him she's the Reason Why You don't Have A Father,,Like Judas She also took 30...
While I understand it on one side, you really can’t be surprised that women feel betrayed and don’t want to stay with their partner after being accused of cheating.
@@kelseygraham875 imagine sacrificing your body for you and your partners happiness just for him to ask if you fcked around? I get that there’s situations where babies ain’t the fathers. It’s shtty. But discuss paternity tests before trying for a baby otherwise it’ll end like this relationship here. Don’t accuse your wife of sleeping around and expect her to stay.
@@vanilelle I would agree, EXCEPT there have been MANY cases of a father getting a paternity test years later, finding out the child is a bastard, not his,.divorces the wife, and he still has to pay for the bastard
Damn, she divorced bro was stating his worries. He was insecure and worried about the situation. Didn't blow up at her just stated his worry and needed some reassurance and she decided to divorce him for that 💀 wth man
I don’t feel bad for nobody but the son smh all these adults with no communication skills and now the son spend years without a father 🙄🤦🏽♀️ And the way Op acting as if she ain’t play no part is CRAZY
she didn't though. she wasn't against the fuckin test. why didn't he demand one from the courts? and was so quick to sigh away his rights? that boy better off without him as a father. also what part did op play in this? zero? she JUST HAD A FREAKING BABY for crying out loud. he's the only one who didn't communicate
@@HeoBaby24 Girl I’m not about to go back and forth with you I said wtf i said she played a part just as much as anybody else you doing too much to defend this lady and if you can’t see that then I don’t know wtf to tell you sis
@@HeoBaby24What are you talking about?she was against it REWATCH the video like are you a little slow?… the ex is at fault for not communicating better and Op is at fault for not doing the paternity test tf you so mad at the truth like calm down sis
Bro can I just say the OP is also a POS in my opinion. She refuses to accept fault by not having the paternity test which in turn stole the kid from a father for 6 years (yes the mum did manipulate her ex but she ultimately stole the father from the child). I also love how she was more ready to forgive the aggressor rather than the biggest victim in all this at the start, he deserves better being honest
Honestly, if a man has a reason to suspect you of cheating, just prove him wrong. Otherwise, you're suspicious. I mean ffs, what she said were classic cheater lines like "I can't believe you would accuse me of that"" so you don't trust me?"
So women should just oblige and let themselves be accused of cheating so she they look suspicious? Y’all hearing yourselves? You think they’ll just be okay with that?
@@vanilelle This situation only comes about when there is doubt. The doubt didn't just materialize out of thin air it came from somewhere. If you love and care about your SO then you should do what you can to make them feel safe, its not about being a door mat its about communication and allowing trust to grow. After an event like that the father would have been way more trusting of the mother as all of his doubts are gone. If I was a woman and my partner asked me that I would do everything I could to prove that I am faithful. I think anyone who refuses to do so either doesn't respect their partner enough or aren't ready for a relationship in the first place.
@@ardentparagon159 you can’t expect a women to not be offended after falsely being accused of cheating? I get that he was manipulated and so was OP. but imagine from your pov how you would feel sacrificing your body for both of you just to be accused of sleeping around?
When you say put the word people, as the husband didn't even verify anything. Yes, when she didn't refused the paternity test she looked guilty, but as it turns out he is the father and missed out on 6 yrs with his son. Don't try saying she should have just done it, she was mad het husband was accusing her of something she didn't do. It's called verification.
Husband had very poor communication, but that wife really estranged her son from his father over being asked to take a paternity test. Then she said her son has "everything that he could ask for" as if he wouldn't even want a father in his life, only to lament shortly after that about how her mother "deprived her grandson of his father for six whole years." This is all over someone doubting her one time. I don't think I'll ever understand why people feel so deeply entitled to other people's trust. Hopefully this story is fake.
@@vanilelle Only blaming her? The very first words in my comment were about his poor communication. She got indignant about a very reasonable request and used divorce to run away from the problem. He probably believed based on her actions that the kid really wasn't his. The situation was primarily her and Dan's fault and she acted like she was purely the victim.
@@MattPieti you saying she estranged him from his son was considered only blaming her because he has the right to order a paternity test during court but nothing was said about it. Only that he signed his rights away. People are acting like she schemed them whole thing with her mother to take the child away from him.
@@vanilelle Part of his poor communication was not putting in enough effort, yes. She yanked his son away and convinced him, even if unintentionally, that it wasn't his. He simply didn't fight back hard enough when he clearly already felt defeated. His wrongdoing is comparatively very mild.
@@MattPieti I’m sorry but if I’m getting accused of cheating out of nowhere I wouldn’t do it either. She didn’t yank the son away. She didn’t kidnap him. She didn’t make sure to keep the child away. He simply signed his rights away and went on with live. They’re both at fault for the poor communication but saying she took the son away when the das didn’t fight in the first place is a reach.
First, a denial for a paternity test IS an admission of GUILT!!! Talk to any family lawyer!!! Second, the OP is more like her mother than she knows. She can’t see her mother’s traits that she has!!! The lack of accountability and the justification for anything she does are 2 of them!!! Third, her EX didn’t abandoned her, she basically admitted the child wasn’t his and SHE left!!! Forth, to the Ex, FDB, she is crazy her mother!!! Link up with your son when he turns 18! Keep all this for him to see.
Justification? He asked for a paternity test after throwing out a drunk guy that hit on his wife. He never even said he spoke to her mother. Just spent a week avoiding her and asked for the test because "Well he said some suspicious things". The dolt was drunk, people tend to say things when they're drunk. And of course a Lawyer would say that. To any Lawyer denial is an admission of guilt. "If they were innocent they would do it no problem". It's just a courtroom tactic.
@@Olimar92 he needs no justification to get a paternity test, he doesn’t need her approval at all. He asked for it to see her reaction, to see if what her mother said was true!!! Also, it’s not a courtroom tactic, if a woman goes to court for child support, the orders a paternity test to establish paternity. But the woman doesn’t allow the child to take the test, what happens to the request for child support????
@@Reggy2000 Yeah, if the court orders it, the woman has no choice. At that point it is an admission. And the Husband my not need justification, but just acting like an asshole and asking for one when all you have is a drunkard and the word of another is just being a dick. He didn't trust her at all, and accused her with so little evidence no sane person would come to the same conclusion. Does not matter that it was her mother, the situation from the other side makes him look insecure in the worst possible way. As far as his wife knew, this was all because an old friend said I love you while drunk. Which is insulting to say the least, and after she had given birth to her son. If my MIL said that kind of shit, I'd make sure my wife knew what her mother was saying. I also wouldn't be convinced anything happened if all a drunk guy said was I love you. I chose to marry the woman, I have enough respect to actually talk about it and not jump to "That kid may not be mine because someone else said I love you".
@@Olimar92 You know your argument is fishy when you refers to one of the involved parties with an adjective ("drunkard") yet refuse to name who's "another" within the context of the story. Guess saying "OP‘s Mom" didn’t made it look unreasonable enough.
even with all this, the dad still doesn't deserve to be in the kids life. he was fine to sign over the rights, fine to believe a drunk guy when his wife literally told him the moment something happened, then doubted the kid was his based on his own insecurities
The mom was wrong, but the daughter putting blame on the husband for not trying hard enough, after her mother lied about everything. Just goes to show the daughter was a piece of trash as well, and the only victim here was the ex husband who lost time with his son.
Nah. The husband is a victim here too. She kept says “her son” but that’s his son too. Bro got manipulated and when he tried to confirm whether or not the love of his life and mother of HIS son was cheating, she blew up at him and refused to ease any doubt.
He's not a victim bro lol He chose to believe his mil without any proof He chose to sign the divorce papers He chose to not ask for a paternity during of after thr divorce. Buddy did this to himself he ain't no victim
@@lucarioshipper4498 that's on him! Not her. Especially when she didn't cheat. He chose to believe his mil who didn't have any proof over his wife. That's on him
@@HeoBaby24 she chose to not ask him why he was doubtful, she chose to Rob her son from a father figure, she chose to not ease any doubt leading to a divorce, she chose to let her mum talk to her husband. OP ain't a victim...literally your retarded logic
@@HeoBaby24 you keep saying on almost every comment, that be believed without proof but that isn't true at all. If he'd believed without proof, HE'D have been the one to get a divorce. Instead, he came to his wife to COMMUNICATE and every one of her actions confirmed his doubts. Are you the OP or a friend of hers? It's okay to admit fault, but trying so hard to twist the truth by claiming he believed the MIL right away is just not right!
Agreed. My heart bleeds for the son, I mean, when that poor kid hits his teens, bonds with friends who are negative male role models, gets into trouble, cuts class to on partying sprees, and drops out of high school, dates/has unprotected intimacy with numerous girls he dates, gets them pregnant, and leaves them to fend for themselves, that's when karma knocks on the wife's door, plus, she won't deserve to be a grandma, when her son's baby mamas give her grandkids up for adoption.⚠️
Ex seems like the only decent person. He was told she cheated, asked for a paternity and denied, then she put zero fight in court to say he was the father. He doesnt seek any form of revenge, just leaves the area until he is told that he actually probably is the dad cuz Dan admits they never hooked up. He immediately tries to step up and be the dad.
Paternity tests are 99.99% reliable. What about that rare 0.01%? There are strange medical cases; A case of a fetus absorbing its sibling fetus. What happens is the DNA of the mom is not passed on to her baby! 😮
This is why you have to take women’s sob stories with a grain of salt until further notice. She said he left her, uh, no ma’am, he asked for a paternity test and then YOU got mad and divorced him, which is a very sketchy reaction. At that point it clearly looks like you’ve been caught, you didn’t do anything to at least show him that this is his real son(even if you still divorce) so it’s kind of natural for him to assume that he was right in his assumption. For your son’s sake, she should have done the test because it would have given him a father figure, but she was too caught up in her feelings.
@@lucarioshipper4498 yah he came inside her. Again instead of throwing a tantrum he chose to throw accusations over someone's words. Tell me would be upset that your spouse accused you of cheating? I know I would especially when I know I didn't do it. But op In the wrong for rightfully divorcing him for showing he has zero trust in her
@@HeoBaby24 She was in the right for divorcing him but she was wrong to pretend he wasn't the dad and deny her child their father. He asked for a paternity test and he divorced him and asked for SOLE custody. The only 3 reasons to ask for sole custody 1) father is a bad father. 2) he isn't the biological father 3) the woman is evil and wants to deny her child their father.
@@HeoBaby24. He told her what the problem was. He offered her a solution. She didn’t took it, filled for divorce right away and then said it was he who abandoned her. She can divorce him as many times as she wants for any given reason, it doesn’t, can’t and won’t change the fact that it was she who dipped after he told her about his concerns. As mind you, you have two separate stances about "believing someone without proof" in a single argument when it’s the husband whom asked for the proof in the first place. She refused.
OP don't realize it but when she grow older she will turn just like her mother. She's acting all tough but it will just make her bitter and cynical with the world. Wanna bet she will do some manipulative thing to her son when she's desperate for money.
I would argue sue already did by refusing the paternity test. She robbed her son from a father figure for 6 years because of her ego. If she really wanted to leave him after that, whatever, I think it would be dramatic but if it means that much to her fair...but what she did is steal a son away from his dad and vice versa for 6 years
Divorce is also on OP as well one paternity test and everything would be fine but being a woman she has to be indignant. Like after that situation with Dan what is a smart non naive man suppose to think. Again Mom and Dan are awful but OP is also at fault for not getting the paternity test and going psycho on ex husband the only victim is OP’s ex-husband. I do find it hilarious that OP has never accepted responsibility for being the terrible person to her ex and still doesn’t see that that her divorce is lot her fault.
I feel like if it had been the other way around, the guy would've been urged to get back toghether. lmao, guys don't have a lot of say in these things.
Why didn't you just take the paternity test? Maybe he would have believed you. Idk, seems pretty short-sighted to just divorce him b/c he wants a paternity test LOL
@@thousandyardgavri2785 I don’t want to make this a competition at all. Ofc he sacrifices smth too but that bulk of it falls on the wife. Her body. Her mental health. Etc.
@@vanilelle Of course I wouldn't "like" it. But still, if she entertained this & insisted to know WHY he was accusing her, perhaps her own mother would have been outed quickly instead of it taking 6 years.
Both of them get their fair share of blame here. She should of least attempted to do the paternity test if anything just to prove her loyalty and they could sort of then (I understand postpartum played into this decision) and he could of just said that he got the information from her mother. Both of them had the opportunity and failed and that sucks but so is life. The real fucking snakes tho got off pretty Scott free. That man child bastard Dan tried to BUY HER and her useless mother SOLD HER. And when that didn’t work tried to milk money out of her still by setting her up with a rich guy. “Oh I didn’t want to bother you.” And YET- she was paying for her mother while and after living with her after the divorce she caused?! Evil asf
The only people who are not jerks in the story, are the ex-husband and the child! If a man is ever suspected of cheating, a woman wants a military tribunal launched to clear him of any accusations ( because when you’re a man, you’re guilty until proven innocent ). The husband ask for a test of paternity so that he would be sure the things his MIL told him weren’t true, the wife proceeds to flip out and says that he’s horrible for not trusting her. I hope The ex-husband has a great relationship with his kid, but I hope the wife and the mother never have any other relationships because obviously they are bad people!
From the viewpoint of the wife, the husband was asking for a paternity test because a college buddy drunkenly confessed to her. Do you really think, you wouldn't be mad as fuck, if some girl from your past suddenly confesses their love for you, you go "no, I'm married" and your wife suddenly starts acting like you are a dirty cheat and you cheated WITH THAT GIRL. That's the experience of the wife. She had none of the extra information. She had a husband suddenly going mental after a weird interaction.
Husband wife and kid are not the AH be so fr? Why act like she knew his mother manipulated him? You have to see it from both POVS. He got fed lies while she was falsely accused of sleeping around. Stop acting like you wouldn’t have felt this way of sour partner randomly accused you of smth you didn’t do.
@@vanilelle Something you didn't do WITH A SPECIFIC PERSON! It's one thing to go: "Hey, you are acting weird, working late, don't want to snuggle anymore. Are you cheating?" It's another thing to go: "I think you are fucking THAT DUDE!"
@@JyS1991being mad is one thing. Its understandable.... Deciding based on that anger is entirely on her. It would've been more forgivable if they didn't have a child
@thousandyardgavri2785 If someone doesn't stop the bad behavior, wont admit that its bad, insists that you are the bad one...then how do you stop being mad?
Your mother manipulates your husband by telling him you're lying about an affair. Your husband believes your mother because...it's your mother. You find out your mother lied to your husband and you go NC on your mother because of the damage she created. You now make your husband--who was lied to by the person _you_ trusted the most--jump through every hoop imaginable to have a life with _HIS_ son, because he believed your mother, the person you trusted the most. If your mother didn't lie to your husband, none of this would have happened and you, your husband, and your son would be living happily ever after. Chris Rock was right; only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally, especially by women.
The dude asked for a paternity test to clear his doubts and you divorced him? You basically asked to be a single mother instead of a good partner. Your son deserves so much better
He asked for a dna test and expected to still be married? Why didn't asked for a paternity during court? He's the one who signed away his rights not op Is op supposed to just accept that her husband believes that she is a cheater? When there no proof of it? He chose to miss out of 6 year's of his sons life Bec of what someone said but not a lick of evidence
@@bomon6654 still someone. He just believes her without any proof It could be my FUCKIN son and I wouldn't outright believe them without some sort of proof. Not her word against his Still on his idiot ass
@HeoBaby24 her refusing to have one is like an admission of guilt...and using the same logic, if she wanted her child to have a dad why didn't she push for one during the court case...maybe she just didn't want her baby to have a dad
@@kingofgames2992why didn’t HE push for one during the court case?? the way y’all expect women to be okay with being accused of cheating and act like nothing happend? be so for real?
The comments are funny. She should’ve done this she should’ve done that. She didn’t do a test because she was accused of cheating by the one she loved. Literally her other half. He could’ve asked for a test during court. But he didn’t. He immediately signed his rights away. So don’t say she kept him away from his son. She didn’t. Now. From his POV it was fcked up yes we know, but so was it from her POV. he was manipulated and it ruined their marriage. But it still doesn’t change the fact that OP Is in the right to NOT continue the relationship. Once trust is broken, it can’t be repaired. Let’s be for real, y’all trashing OP as the villain when she has every right to feel the way she did just like the husband did. and I’m sick of people acting like they would’ve reacted differently if they were in EITHER shoes.
The amount of people acting like they would be ok with their partner basically ignoring them for a week, and then immediately accusing them of cheating is fucken laughable.
Not gonna be ok but its worth a conversation about how they got to that point and not worth abandoning your spouse tbh. Its a rough patch that she walked away from. And because of that, the child was fatherless
OP really should've taken accountability with her marriage ending. Look, i get it. He doubted her but like if he wanted a paternity test then he should be able to get one. I hope i make sense.
Not just that but she robbed her child from a dad. If she was that offended by him not trusting her and wanting to leave him, whatever, but she actively refused the test when it could of proven he was the dad in turn keeping a father figure in her sons life
@@kingofgames2992you don’t get to accuse your wife of cheating and think she’ll bow down to you 💀 he could’ve asked during court where it’d have been way easier but he signed his rights away without looking back. Don’t blame just her when he’s one to blame too.
@vanilelle I see both sides, and ultimately, I'm on OP's side, but there were some things she could've done differently as well which was just let him have the paternity test at least in court to get child support and stuff but ultimately, he gave up his parental rights but I get it. OP gave him every reason to believe the child wasn't his.
@@vanilelle since he didn't want his parental rights, what I would've done was give the positive test to him after he signed his rights away. Because then he could realize he fucked up.
I also don't like how OP is not taking responsibility for her marriage. Husband had a serious concern and her feelings prevented her from deescalation and hearing him out.
Not even thinking about starting things over with the actual dad in my opinion is a boneheaded move. In my opinion it just shows that your mother has trained you well to believe lies instead of separating lies from truth.
So your husband gets upset and bothered by the idea that you and an old friend of yours could've been a thing and then YOU decided to start a fight with him about it Ya no wonder he wanted a perversity test
![[FULL STORY] I’m getting married, and my family is trying to get my golden child sister to walk...](/img/1.gif)
Nothing screams unconditional love and support like telling your child, “Sorry I ruined your marriage, but it is what it is. A woman’s gotta eat.” 🙃
I love you sweetheart but I also love money. Make money for me so I will love you x2
She'll eat the dirt of a potter's field, because I doubt OP will claim her mother when she kicks the bucket.
:(
I... think i need to stop looking up reddit stories. This is... a bit much.
He didn't try very hard either...and she could've taken the DNA test....stop blaming your mom you and your husband made choices....he gave up his rights
As much as I think this is fake, the amount of grown ass adults with zero communication skills that could potentially allow a situation like this to happen is staggering.
It is fake. The story starts off with one title and then ends up asking if they're TA, but yeah art imitates life, and that.
It does give off RomCom/romance drama movie vibes.
@@Bijecarli the guy changes the titles for some reason, very annoying for tracking down the original story
I can assume you're a bot?
As fake as you think this is and sorry to burst your bubbles but this kind of situation do happen . Something similar happened to someone in my family ; the mother thought the husband wasn’t wealthy enough to support her daughter and her so she started this whole scheme with an old friend of her daughter to separate them … so yeah pretty similar minus the money given and the baby but overall a narcissistic parent who had no remorse divorcing her happily married daughter for her own benefit
"I need money, and I don't want to ask my Daughter. Looks like I'm going to ruin her marriage so I can get money from a loser who she never had any interest in." Mother of the year on this one. Get paid in advance and let the moron act like he got what he wanted. Daughter never liked him anyway.
If this is actually real, my non-existent faith in humanity is going into the deep negatives that I thought were impossible. How can a person do such thing to his/her child???? Motherly instinct my a-s-s.
My mother can be the same way. Does something only for her own interest or peace of mind, damning the consequences. And when you confront her? It's all on you for not taking it well. Some people just can't accept that their reasons are not an excuse, or even good half the time.
It's fake Bro
@@yeyosilver7067You sure?
@@SpiderkillersInc Yeah, was about to say. And even if it is, my point was that people like that mother do exist.
There's news about a daughter suing her mother, turn out the mother was pimping her to a lot of men. Also don't forget women who did late stage abortions without remorse.
Family can often be your worst enemy
It is that way because we are taught to unconditionally rely on family growing up.
Facts 💯
Agreed.
These people have the communication skills of Avengers movie characters..
Not gonna lie,if op did the paternity test,this would prove to the ex husband that her mother were a snake.
And what will that solve? "Oh your mother lied to me"
Yet he still showed he had no trsut in op
Not really. It would just prove that the kid is his. She still could have cheated on him for all he knew.
@@HeoBaby24most people must stop look at the paternity test like lose of trust
because making a man to live a life in fake family that dosent involve his blood is even worse
you not only lose trust the partner but also your young years
people like you are very hypocritical
if he really had nothing to hide why she didnt take the paternity test?
@@HeoBaby24 and her refusing to shows she has no respect for him or her child for that matter. She robbed her son from a father
@@kingofgames2992 that's exactly what I'm saying,she refused and that fueled his distrust,if she went with it, would open his eyes towards MIL lies.
Looking at Ex's perspective: Your MIL initiated that her child (your wife) is cheating on you, you have doubts since it's your MIL's words, but some moments happened between wife and another man and your doubt deepened. After that you ask your wife for a solid proof such as paternity test, which if positive, can be a slap in your own face and clear up your doubts, but your wife aggressively refused, then she started the divorce soon after.
OP cannot blame Ex, he was lied to by OP's mother, asked his partner for a scientific proof and it resolved into an argument and divorce in a short period of time, even tried to reconcile and be there for the child again once his doubts cleared up
@panshul5633 And rightfully so. He never revealed the source of his doubts. There was zero reason for him not to tell her that he got that info from her mother. If he did, the root of the problem could have been addressed right there and then.
He never once mentioned his conversation with MIL to his wife.
Had he done so,they could have all sat down and ashed everything out and it wouldn't have came to this.
He also signed his rights away during the divorce,why didn't request Paternity test during the proceedings?
The judge would have given it to him,but instead he simply signed his rights away.
She is not at fault at all.
Someone hits on you and you tell your husband instantly and then kick that person out,only for your husband to start staying late and not coming home.
Then he starts picking a fight with you and accuse you of cheating and Paternity fraud.
Lied to or not, from OP's perspective he just started thinking his wife had an affair. She tells him Dan is crossing lines and she wants him out, and then MIL says her own daughter was sleeping with the guy. Ex decided not to be civil and talk it out. Instead he stews and makes accusations with only word of mouth.
The Ex is not innocent. He basically takes everything as evidence that his wife was unfaithful without ever having an actual conversation. He doesn't even say the source of his information.
@@Olimar92both are at fault, he for not digging enough and the ex for not doing that paternity test.
@@ianmoritzplatapino3684how can you evenly distribute blame all she had to do was take a paternity test but she’s too entitled to even do that…. the man was told his wife is cheating by her own mother that would create doubts for anyone but she ended a loving marriage because she couldn’t take one test and prove him wrong…. Enjoy being a single mom
paternity tests should be mandatory. is not wrong to ask for one
FR Op took no accountability for her part in the marriage ending.
you can do the test behind your wife's back. he wanted to antagonize her bc of resentment.
@@gostavoadolfos2023 thats even dumber, but then he wanted closure from her
Yeah, but I understand her point of view. Hormonal imbalances + the fact she didn’t cheat, it’s understandable to be livid when someone basically tells you they have no trust in you. Of course logically speaking if you’re faithful there’s no need to worry about such a test, but specifically asking for one would probably feel really terrible when the person on the receiving end was actually faithful. I agree about them being mandatory however, would save all this trouble and help ensure no father raises another man’s child
@@Ciscorover88exactly it's not like cheaters will just go ahead and tell you the truth.
Your mom tried to sell you and failed lol
While I feel bad for OP in the context of what her mother did, it in no way, shape, or form justifies divorcing your husband over him asking for a paternity test.
Her refusal to get one fueled his doubt, whereas if she'd tried to sort things out without immediately jumping to divorce, it's likely her mother's schemes would've been exposed far sooner, and her son wouldn't have had to grow up fatherless.
Of course, given her track record here it's kinda obvious she would've found some other disagreement to be worth the divorce further down the line and canned it then.
Had he had a fucking spine he would have spoke about what the mom said or ask for a paternity test in court when he signed his rights away, he shut down and it cost them their marriage
He asked out of the blue a week after he threw a drunk out of a party, and decided not to have a conversation or tell his wife what her own mother was saying. As far as OP knew, her Husband thought she cheated because some drunken moron said he love her.
@@Nique0920 He did not know of what the mom said until Dan told him. and he did ask for a paternity test but she just divorced him over that so he thought he wasnt the father
@@ryuta2657 no, she planted seeds in his head, he only learned after 6 years the mother and Dan where plotting against his marriage. He let her mom get to his head without talking to him, she denied cheating and he didn’t ask the court for a paternity test when he SIGNED AWAY HIS RIGHTS. They didn’t just divorced he disowned his son without fact checking. You might have not been in a situation « like this » but people close to you, even you parent, will actively try to ruin your life by lying, so you have to beware of everyone and clear a situation before acting off of emotions; and this applies to both parties because she could have calmed down and try to push him more.
thats a classic, when women get offended when theyre asked for a paternity test, refusing to do one is always a suspicion for infidelity
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OP has spent more time deflecting blame when she was the one who refused the paternity test and initiated the divorce, then has the nerve to say that Ex abandoned her? How did he abandon you when you pushed him out
Because instead of oh I don't know ACTUALLY SPEAKING he decided to sign does paper and instead of asking for a paternity during court he signed his rights away.
Op is in no way in the wrong for a grown ass man throwing a tantrum over believing someone who didn't have any proof
Given what her mother's like, is it any wonder she's so narcissistic?
Frankly, I would sue the mother for alienation at the least. That is disgusting!
Honestly this is something my mum would do. I’m 23 and can’t even post about my relationships because although my mum isn’t in my life she always finds out and has to interfere and harass my partner and me until eventually my partner has enough and ends things and luckily they get to escape her bs but I’m left alone with it😅✌️
Just get the paternity test. That is no time to pull out the "you don't trust me card." That can alter too many lives. No reason to play around with it.
She shouldn't have too.
@@HeoBaby24ah yes, because women have never cheated before on their husbands.
@@HeoBaby24 its not about "should" at that point. imo paternity test should be mandatory either way. it prevents arguments, bad choices, life defining changes, doubt, etc.
If the only reason why you shouldnt is because of her principle of "trust" then im sorry but thats not moving me.
@@sorinnoctis652don’t have babies with someone you can’t trust.
@@vanilelle That's the issue. Many fathers get trapped into raising kids that are not theirs because they trusted their partner too much. These snakes have talent on hiding stuff. As a woman, I advocate for mandatory paternity tests at birth, and until then, if a father has doubts, he can do it behind the mother and nobody has to ever find out. It's easy and somewhat cheap.
Poor communication this woman acts like she didn't do anything wrong her everyone sucks here this is what happens when you act on emotions and not on reasons they need to sit at table and drop everything they got to find solutions but nope they acted like kids and everyone run for the hills for them self
She didn't.
How is it on her when he's the one throwing a tantrum over what someone said without any proof?
Op isn't in the wrong here
Op is the victim here and ex husband is worthless - its gross how some of you think you are entitled to EVERYTHING based on deluded assumptions
So she thinks dna tests are fine, but not for her? Sees asking for it as a accusation of cheating, but refusing not suspicious at all? Says her mother deprived her son of a father, but she had no part in that? The husband also should have communicated better and made the test happen. Everyone is an asshole here, some bigger than others.
Exactly lol.
She just wanted a reason to divorce.
100% she most definently didn’t want anything to do with him, refuse partenity and file for full custody? Yeah right, everyone are assholes
She might've been suffering from postpartum. But in the end: Both were idiots. Bad communication.
@@thedreamer6930 Wanting divorce is not even the worst part. She could have given the dna test and divorced, no need to alianate father from child. but yes she was selfish and did what she wanted, as did all of them. Poor child.
The context is very different.
He is not asking for a dna test out of some mandatory check, he is asking for it while accusing her of cheating. She didn't want to be with a man who didn't trust her, despite her having been open and honest, and told her husband about what Dan said, and divorced.
He instantly removed his parental rights and abandoned his own child, without even checking if he'd made a mistake in accusing her of cheating.
how do you blame someone for leaving you when you initiated the divorce? he never abandoned you, you abandoned him. he is also well within his rights to ask for a paternity test.
He may be within his rights to ask for the test, but she’s also allowed to be offended that he’s accusing her of cheating
@@stephenlawrence554shes allowed to be offended but if she chooses to end the marriage over not taking a paternity test then thats on her regardless of how she feels
@@stephenlawrence554 if both where in their rights to do so, then no one is in the wrong, but here is she puttting blame in everyone but herself, i´d say both where at fault, him for keeping to himself what the mother had tell him and her for dipping as soon as her loyalty was at doubt
yeah but divorce then say he abandoned you? she was looking an excuse the fact that after she got after her pregnancy and never thought of reaching out@@stephenlawrence554
@@Ileechhisytred she said in the story that she didn’t mind the idea of a paternity test, it was the context in which he asked for one. She wasn’t okay with the fact that he was essentially calling her a lying cheater who had so few morals that she’d let her husband raise and pay for another man’s child. From what she wrote in the story, he also didn’t ask for a court mandated paternity test, nor did he ask one when he crawled back. If it really was such a big deal for him, don’t you think he would have actually made some attempt at proving the child was his?
Why wouldn’t the husband fight for the paternity test?
He didn't care about her or the child - he was angry hes not the only one who slept with her
People in the comments section really think just blindly accepting a request for paternity testing will protect relationship health lol. All it’s for is knowing whether or not a guy is the father. That’s it. But if one is requested based on little to no actual evidence of cheating, then it’s gonna bomb the relationship. Y’all need to grow up.
yes that is true but dont forget the college friend out of nowhere proclaims his love for op then you get texts from her mom the person she trusts and respects the most (her mom) who from what i can hear never did anything wrong till that moment telling you that your wife is cheating on you and with all of that planted in his head the 1 thing he asks for just to hold on a little hope that it may or may not have been all a lie it get denied
and yes i know a paternity test only tells him if he is the dad or not it also tells him that it his child and not the other guys child
Lack of communication skills and not wanting to resolve things to the end, like bitter and rather cut ties then actually finding out what is the root of the problem.
Please do a second part of this story thank you
everyone, EVERYONE (clearly not the child) in this situation has contributed to the failure everything. OP, OPs ex and OPs child life were negatively influenced because
OP didnt give her ex the asked Paternity test or sat down and talked about the situation out and instead jumped STRAIGHT to divorce
OPs Ex didnt sit down and rationally talk to his wife about the accusations her own mother was laying down at OPs feet (To be fair to the Ex OP even outright says her mother was a massive influence in her life and such a thing was so unbelievable, so if OP would have never thought her own mother would have done this and even out her on a pedestal how would the Ex see that the mother was absolutely insane)
And the mother for being an absolute greedy monster
All the situation needed was for at the bare minimum OP or her Ex to act like proper adults and try to communicate about everything happening and not one of them did when they should have
Talk about mother of the year. She ruined her daughters marriage and relationship for the sake of self preservation. If she was that desperate for money she should’ve just asked.
Wait so she says “under usual circumstance a paternity test isnt something to shy away from” What tf constitutes a usual circumstance if not this
And then she says shouldn’t me showing loyalty and having his baby be more then enough proof its his baby and i was loyal
lol no it clearly isnt u saying you’ve been loyal isnt proof you’ve been loyalty
And my god you have to take some accountability, u keep saying she ruined your marriage but you’re ultimately the one that ended things. Instead of giving your husband the paternity test, proving your innocences then actually sitting down and having a conversation about why he felt this way
U immediately jumped to the extream
Your mother sucks but u get no pity from me either
There are many ways to get money that don’t involve hurting your own child and ruining their happiness. I’m a mum and would never do that to my daughter no matter how much I’m struggling, I’d rather struggle and see my daughter happy
While I agree that the mother's manipulations played a substantial factor in the marriage falling apart, OP is a moron for ending it with such frivolity. She says she wants to raise her kid in a happy environment but never even attempted to work towards that and threw everything away the moment things took a misstep.
How can you work towards happiness with someone who doesn’t trust you? Yeah it’s all OPs fault 🙄. Not the husband who broke his vows and didn’t communicate what was going on. Smh
@@yaoilover0 A common marriage vow goes like, "I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part..."
Betrayal is possibly one of the most powerful, consuming emotional vices someone can find themselves in. People can be irrational and single-minded even with their thoughts clouded with static. This was not a moment where he was in control (not in a "controlling" way but regarding feeling secure). There are still consequences for things said and done in that state, but I wouldn't fault someone who is not fully there.
He didn't break any vows since trying to confirm a spouse's fidelity is exactly what a genuine person who loves and cherishes their spouse would do, because in that snapshot moment before OP made ANY sort of decision, this marriage was still on (even if his mind was clouded).
OP's decision to have immediately ended the marriage (at least according to this post since we are only getting snapshots) at the first sign of "..., or worse, ..." was a shit decision. The mother infected OP's marriage with a "sickness" which took form in OP's husband's growing insecurities and trust issues and OP choosing to leave him is ultimately why the marriage ended. She didn't love or cherish him enough to even attempt to bandage his wounds because the act of verifying fidelity was an attack on her honor.
Big wall of text but believe me it's not intended to express anger at anyone.
@@yaoilover0You work towards happiness with someone who don't trust you by proving that you're trustworthy and not egotistical like op. Not once did she try to understand his side. That's not what wives do..
@@thousandyardgavri2785 you have no relationship without trust. It’s just as much the husband’s responsibility as it is hers, yet somehow it’s only OPs fault for having normal feelings and reacting? Sure 🙄
@thousandyardgavri2785 so, standing up for yourself and having a spine is "egotistical"?
And nice, giving Idiot hubby a free pass. Jumping to conclusions and abandoning your spouse with no real evidence of infidelity...that's not what HUSBANDS do.
Look how it looks from the husband’s pov the man who got them together confessed his love they were close and she refused a paternity test. Only women know 100% paternity
there was cases where the women didn't know neither. babies switched at birth, parents having two sets of DNA instead of just one, etc. so sometimes even the mom needs to test themselves too.... lol
What a selfish monster.
This shit has me in tears after the husband explained the situation. Like how can you destroy your child’s and grandchild life for money? The fk is wrong with the woman? Just pure evil
EX chose to accuse OP. He chose to abandon his pregnant wife. Period. That kid deserves better than this loser. And Joint Custody should be a big no-no.
Just wanted to stop the video on @1:54 and say, "What more proof does a guy need" Yeah.. if he's asking for a paternity test then obviously he doesn't think you've actually been loyal thus the baby could not be his! like I don't have a kid but I can only imagine the terror of thinking your child is NOT yours..
Yup, if she knew the husband was the father, she wouldn't hesitate and would take the test to throw in his face.
7:13 just putting this out there... But I don't think she deserves him, the very moment the marriage went into "The worst" she just dipped... the husband was getting psychologically attacked by the mom and his paranoia was getting confirmed and then all it took was a paternity test but nope.. that very instant she just dipped (and I get her side btw.. btw c'mon..)
@@mannyparrilla1807 Why didn't the husband show her the messages the mother was sending? The guy's an idiot for not showing her those messages which would have resulted in his wife confronting her mother for lying. Also you can get a DNA test behind her back. The guy had a number of avenues to resolve this succinctly he chose not to.
@@GuyShōtōyou actually can’t get a dna test behind someone’s back back because even if he did and the child wasn’t his he couldn’t use that in court. The woman if she was loyal and I’m starting to suspect she wasn’t she’d agree to it especially since
@@eaglewarrior7979 You literally have zero proof she to back the idea she wasn't faithful, also no one said anything about legality. I noted there were a number of steps that could be taken which would have easily avoided divorce and he failed to take them. You're now just inventing narratives (with zero proof to back them) because of some axe to grind with women.
It’s crazy that if this is real she blames everything on everyone but her. She even blames her ex husband oh it’s all his fault that he couldn’t trust me and made me take full custody of the kid and I ran. She won’t take any of the blame.
It is HIS fault.
If he been loyal husband it would NEVER happen
Wtf is op on? Ex didn't abandon her. He asked for paternity test that she egotistically refused and kicked him out. Op is at fault for the divorce.
Still blaming women huh
@@jgrAnimations23still blaming men huh.
It's just a blood test, women ☕ refused because think their significant other are not trust her. But the point was they are the one who's making their partner doubt it. Stupid game with stupid prize
If your wife comes and asks you to do a paternity test on the child of your female close friend cause her child looks like you, will you be happy with that? It happens all the time. If women starts asking men to do paternity test on children that looks like them, you are telling me that not implying cheating? Married or in relationship men cheat and impregnate women too.
@@koyelimukherjee.3115you really think you said anything? It's not hard to do a paternity test. I couldn't care less to take one
When i heard the name dan i got flashbacks about the do it for dan story
She literally did the exact opposite of what you should if your partner is having doubts. Honestly, I don’t blame the guy
What? Cave and stay married to an idiot who will believe words coming from his mother in law?
I do blame him because i instead of talking like a fuckin human he cause his end of his marriage.
No one fault but his. Why do you expect people to want to stay married to you after you threw a tantrum and show you got no trust in them?
Yeah i would have ran too if my partner immediately denied getting tested and threw papers at me.
What stopped the husband not taking his own son for a paternity test? He didn't need her permission. He could've gotten that part cleared up. Good for OP for cutting off her financial support to her mom. That woman only cared about herself.
Hes worthless - he didn't cared for her or for the kid. He was self obsessed with own hurt ego
So again this is another situation where the father just signs his rights away and it's never mentioned again like that's not something you just do and then you come back to that is life-changing for the child as in a birth parent is literally scrubbed from that child's permanent record in this is like the four-story where it's just offhandedly mentioned oh he signed his rights away and he came back here later it does not work that way in real life
Sorry but I don’t feel very bad for OP. She sounded like she was halfway out anyway since the dude had good reasons to be concerned. Didn’t even stop to hear him out.
I don't feel bad for the ex.
Instead of talking you went straight to yelling and throwing accusations at your wife.
Why should she hear him out when he never made shit clear?
And then expect to be welcome back with open arms? After you signed away your rights.
And and then you expect her not to divorce you because you accused her of something she didn't even do but "she filled his doubts"
@HeoBaby24 no he started by being distant and then said he couldn't help but think she was cheating on him with him. He handed it well and all went down hill when she couldn't handle her ex asking for a paternity test. He is the real victim in this story...also the OP stole a father from her son for years by not having that test
@@HeoBaby24 when your SO’s parent comes to you and tells you they’ve been cheating it’s hard to ignore. Plus the dude confessing his love didn’t help. If she’d sat down and talked it out her son would’ve had a father. Her mom isn’t the only one that took that from her son.
@@ScanTronIndustries dude confessed his love and op IMMEDIATELY Told HIM
If that not enough proof then your a fuckin idiot. And yes even if it comes from your so parent. Without any proof why would you believe them without any proof
And if he acted like a civil person he would be in his child life. He done this to himself not op
He started becoming distant if the genders were reversed yall wouldn't be talking 😂😂😂
Girl mom don't do that I am very sorry for you
In an asian novel, 💯% she would've taken him back😂😂
Mom: I didn’t ask for help because I knew you were struggling. So I decided to destroy your whole life for money.
When she mentioned her mum insisting she gets married again.. yeah bet she was gonna do it all over again if she did
Somehow women never really consider that men always get the short end of the stick. Men NEVER know for sure if the baby is theirs, however women do have that privilege. To deny any certainty that the man might seek is just cruel.
Women also don't know if their husband's close female friend's child is his or not. Married men cheat too. Are you fine if your wife comes to you and asks you if you cheated as your female friend's child looks like you? What security women have when a married man cheats and impregnate another woman and hides it?! Paternity test should be mandatory by the court, not men just suddenly ask for it, thats not trusting your partner.
You reminded me of a few cases where the woman wasn't sure: in one case being that a negative paternity test resulted in discovering the child was switched at birth....
But the funniest one was a woman arguing that she should take the dang test cause it's just as likely not hers.... obviously forgetting where the kid popped out of.... and yes, turned out she's the mom and the bum down the street was the dad.
Ao what should woman do? Cave to a mna child that proven time and time again that they don't trust them because of what other woman do?
It's always "woman can't take accountability"
Why Should they when they're not the one's that did it? Op didn't cheat. Yet she has to be punished because someone else said she did without any proof?
first and last thing you need to understand about women, is that they consider themselves 100% justified in just going with their emotions
like the story here, there was never the slightest attempt to see things from his point of view, to calm down and breathe, to investigate why he'd be asking, to consider why he'd want that
there was only her feeling insulted
@@dotanuki3371 exactly. she did not try to understand him...
One thing ppl don’t get is what would they do if the mother of the person u luv disclosed such information to u? U might know ur partner well but if the situation puts them in this kind of place?? U will find urself doubting too
I feel like everyone's forgetting that the husband didn't tell OP why he wanted a paternity test. It's one thing if you know he wants a test because several people have told him you had an affair. It's another if he just asks for a paternity test with seemingly no reason. And that's what he did. To some people, the whole "A person will only ask/acuse something if they would/are doing it" thing is real. So in that case, maybe the husband was up to something (from the POV of the wife). I do think she should have done the paternity test. But obviously, since she was hurt (valid, from your POV your husband doesn't trust you), they probably should have done couples therapy. Honestly, everyone was at least a little to blame.
Does anyone else have the original poster or Reddit post cause I have some words… 🧐
That's one stellar mother of an OP right there. Her own mother gets mother of the year raspberry award, but she herself is absolutely acing the single mother life. Good for her, honestly.
And a dude willing to waste 30K bribing dear mother. If op turn out to be a 6/10 that will be wasted money.
There Will Come A Time When your Son Will Question you why Granma Is not In The Picture Anymore,,Makesure To tell him she's the Reason Why You don't Have A Father,,Like Judas She also took 30...
Shit, people's lives out there man
Yup... Thou I hope its fake and men out there aren't that dumb... But than you have the comments 🤣
This is why paternity tests should be mandatory.. because apparently, asking for one ruins marriages
While I understand it on one side, you really can’t be surprised that women feel betrayed and don’t want to stay with their partner after being accused of cheating.
@@vanilellewhy not, they often accuse the man of cheating or wanting to cheat.
@@kelseygraham875 imagine sacrificing your body for you and your partners happiness just for him to ask if you fcked around? I get that there’s situations where babies ain’t the fathers. It’s shtty. But discuss paternity tests before trying for a baby otherwise it’ll end like this relationship here. Don’t accuse your wife of sleeping around and expect her to stay.
@@kelseygraham875 which always turn out to be projection
@@vanilelle I would agree, EXCEPT there have been MANY cases of a father getting a paternity test years later, finding out the child is a bastard, not his,.divorces the wife, and he still has to pay for the bastard
Damn, she divorced bro was stating his worries. He was insecure and worried about the situation. Didn't blow up at her just stated his worry and needed some reassurance and she decided to divorce him for that 💀 wth man
I don’t feel bad for nobody but the son smh all these adults with no communication skills and now the son spend years without a father 🙄🤦🏽♀️ And the way Op acting as if she ain’t play no part is CRAZY
she didn't though. she wasn't against the fuckin test. why didn't he demand one from the courts? and was so quick to sigh away his rights?
that boy better off without him as a father.
also what part did op play in this? zero? she JUST HAD A FREAKING BABY for crying out loud.
he's the only one who didn't communicate
@@HeoBaby24 Girl I’m not about to go back and forth with you I said wtf i said she played a part just as much as anybody else you doing too much to defend this lady and if you can’t see that then I don’t know wtf to tell you sis
@@HeoBaby24 Girl I’m not about to go back and forth with you I said what i said Op played a part they are both at fault
@@HeoBaby24What are you talking about?she was against it REWATCH the video like are you a little slow?… the ex is at fault for not communicating better and Op is at fault for not doing the paternity test tf you so mad at the truth like calm down sis
I say take responsibility for your actions
Bro can I just say the OP is also a POS in my opinion. She refuses to accept fault by not having the paternity test which in turn stole the kid from a father for 6 years (yes the mum did manipulate her ex but she ultimately stole the father from the child). I also love how she was more ready to forgive the aggressor rather than the biggest victim in all this at the start, he deserves better being honest
Your husband should Sue your mother and Dan for for 30,000 for emotional damage.
"I had a baby with him, what more proof does a guy need?" Really?
Yeah really.
Don't reproduce.
Maybs that is wrong but still
Honestly, if a man has a reason to suspect you of cheating, just prove him wrong. Otherwise, you're suspicious.
I mean ffs, what she said were classic cheater lines like "I can't believe you would accuse me of that"" so you don't trust me?"
So women should just oblige and let themselves be accused of cheating so she they look suspicious? Y’all hearing yourselves? You think they’ll just be okay with that?
@@vanilelle This situation only comes about when there is doubt. The doubt didn't just materialize out of thin air it came from somewhere. If you love and care about your SO then you should do what you can to make them feel safe, its not about being a door mat its about communication and allowing trust to grow. After an event like that the father would have been way more trusting of the mother as all of his doubts are gone. If I was a woman and my partner asked me that I would do everything I could to prove that I am faithful. I think anyone who refuses to do so either doesn't respect their partner enough or aren't ready for a relationship in the first place.
@@ardentparagon159 you can’t expect a women to not be offended after falsely being accused of cheating? I get that he was manipulated and so was OP. but imagine from your pov how you would feel sacrificing your body for both of you just to be accused of sleeping around?
@vanilelle to be offended? Yes I understand. Divorce, no I don't understand.
@@ardentparagon159 from her pov he was accusing her of cheating out of nowhere. Asking for a test shattered her trust for him. So yeah.
Damn…that’s crazy…
how’s everyone’s day?😊
Good? Im just dont know how to feel cuz u went from shaming to "hiws everones day?😊 like...
A woman will say anything except accept responsibility
They want the authority of a man
The privilege of a woman
The accountability of a child
@@legiontepes3474 Andrew taint in jail
When you say put the word people, as the husband didn't even verify anything. Yes, when she didn't refused the paternity test she looked guilty, but as it turns out he is the father and missed out on 6 yrs with his son. Don't try saying she should have just done it, she was mad het husband was accusing her of something she didn't do. It's called verification.
@@jgrAnimations23actually Andrew Tate is not in Jail
@@jgrAnimations23 idk what this has to do with the story, but no. He's free in Romania, waiting for trial. He's not in jail.
Husband had very poor communication, but that wife really estranged her son from his father over being asked to take a paternity test. Then she said her son has "everything that he could ask for" as if he wouldn't even want a father in his life, only to lament shortly after that about how her mother "deprived her grandson of his father for six whole years." This is all over someone doubting her one time. I don't think I'll ever understand why people feel so deeply entitled to other people's trust. Hopefully this story is fake.
she didn’t estrange him??? He signed his rights away and disappeared. Stop only blaming her ffs
@@vanilelle Only blaming her? The very first words in my comment were about his poor communication. She got indignant about a very reasonable request and used divorce to run away from the problem. He probably believed based on her actions that the kid really wasn't his. The situation was primarily her and Dan's fault and she acted like she was purely the victim.
@@MattPieti you saying she estranged him from his son was considered only blaming her because he has the right to order a paternity test during court but nothing was said about it. Only that he signed his rights away. People are acting like she schemed them whole thing with her mother to take the child away from him.
@@vanilelle Part of his poor communication was not putting in enough effort, yes. She yanked his son away and convinced him, even if unintentionally, that it wasn't his. He simply didn't fight back hard enough when he clearly already felt defeated. His wrongdoing is comparatively very mild.
@@MattPieti I’m sorry but if I’m getting accused of cheating out of nowhere I wouldn’t do it either. She didn’t yank the son away. She didn’t kidnap him. She didn’t make sure to keep the child away. He simply signed his rights away and went on with live. They’re both at fault for the poor communication but saying she took the son away when the das didn’t fight in the first place is a reach.
Technically your mom sold you for her own personal Gain....That's just So Sick!
How did he abandon her?
Husband was lied to and denied a paternity test then she initiated divorce if anybody is to blame it’s you and your mother
First, a denial for a paternity test IS an admission of GUILT!!! Talk to any family lawyer!!!
Second, the OP is more like her mother than she knows. She can’t see her mother’s traits that she has!!! The lack of accountability and the justification for anything she does are 2 of them!!!
Third, her EX didn’t abandoned her, she basically admitted the child wasn’t his and SHE left!!!
Forth, to the Ex, FDB, she is crazy her mother!!! Link up with your son when he turns 18! Keep all this for him to see.
Justification? He asked for a paternity test after throwing out a drunk guy that hit on his wife. He never even said he spoke to her mother. Just spent a week avoiding her and asked for the test because "Well he said some suspicious things". The dolt was drunk, people tend to say things when they're drunk.
And of course a Lawyer would say that. To any Lawyer denial is an admission of guilt. "If they were innocent they would do it no problem". It's just a courtroom tactic.
@@Olimar92 he needs no justification to get a paternity test, he doesn’t need her approval at all. He asked for it to see her reaction, to see if what her mother said was true!!!
Also, it’s not a courtroom tactic, if a woman goes to court for child support, the orders a paternity test to establish paternity. But the woman doesn’t allow the child to take the test, what happens to the request for child support????
@@Reggy2000 Yeah, if the court orders it, the woman has no choice. At that point it is an admission.
And the Husband my not need justification, but just acting like an asshole and asking for one when all you have is a drunkard and the word of another is just being a dick. He didn't trust her at all, and accused her with so little evidence no sane person would come to the same conclusion.
Does not matter that it was her mother, the situation from the other side makes him look insecure in the worst possible way. As far as his wife knew, this was all because an old friend said I love you while drunk. Which is insulting to say the least, and after she had given birth to her son.
If my MIL said that kind of shit, I'd make sure my wife knew what her mother was saying. I also wouldn't be convinced anything happened if all a drunk guy said was I love you. I chose to marry the woman, I have enough respect to actually talk about it and not jump to "That kid may not be mine because someone else said I love you".
@@Olimar92 You know your argument is fishy when you refers to one of the involved parties with an adjective ("drunkard") yet refuse to name who's "another" within the context of the story. Guess saying "OP‘s Mom" didn’t made it look unreasonable enough.
even with all this, the dad still doesn't deserve to be in the kids life. he was fine to sign over the rights, fine to believe a drunk guy when his wife literally told him the moment something happened, then doubted the kid was his based on his own insecurities
The mom was wrong, but the daughter putting blame on the husband for not trying hard enough, after her mother lied about everything. Just goes to show the daughter was a piece of trash as well, and the only victim here was the ex husband who lost time with his son.
Nah. The husband is a victim here too. She kept says “her son” but that’s his son too. Bro got manipulated and when he tried to confirm whether or not the love of his life and mother of HIS son was cheating, she blew up at him and refused to ease any doubt.
He's not a victim bro lol
He chose to believe his mil without any proof
He chose to sign the divorce papers
He chose to not ask for a paternity during of after thr divorce.
Buddy did this to himself he ain't no victim
@@HeoBaby24He asked her proof.
She said no.
That’s on her.
@@lucarioshipper4498 that's on him! Not her.
Especially when she didn't cheat.
He chose to believe his mil who didn't have any proof over his wife.
That's on him
@@HeoBaby24 she chose to not ask him why he was doubtful, she chose to Rob her son from a father figure, she chose to not ease any doubt leading to a divorce, she chose to let her mum talk to her husband. OP ain't a victim...literally your retarded logic
@@HeoBaby24 you keep saying on almost every comment, that be believed without proof but that isn't true at all. If he'd believed without proof, HE'D have been the one to get a divorce. Instead, he came to his wife to COMMUNICATE and every one of her actions confirmed his doubts.
Are you the OP or a friend of hers? It's okay to admit fault, but trying so hard to twist the truth by claiming he believed the MIL right away is just not right!
This woman filing for divorce right after refusing a paternity test thinking she isnt being suspicious at all.
Shes not suspicious at all - thats exactly what any loyal and self-respecting woman would do.
The wife doesn’t deserve to be married, or to have a child. Selfish to the highest degree. Ex husband is better off without her.
Agreed. My heart bleeds for the son, I mean, when that poor kid hits his teens, bonds with friends who are negative male role models, gets into trouble, cuts class to on partying sprees, and drops out of high school, dates/has unprotected intimacy with numerous girls he dates, gets them pregnant, and leaves them to fend for themselves, that's when karma knocks on the wife's door, plus, she won't deserve to be a grandma, when her son's baby mamas give her grandkids up for adoption.⚠️
Ex seems like the only decent person. He was told she cheated, asked for a paternity and denied, then she put zero fight in court to say he was the father. He doesnt seek any form of revenge, just leaves the area until he is told that he actually probably is the dad cuz Dan admits they never hooked up. He immediately tries to step up and be the dad.
Ex is responsible for ALL of this.
If he be loyal to his wife it would never happen
Paternity tests are 99.99% reliable. What about that rare 0.01%? There are strange medical cases; A case of a fetus absorbing its sibling fetus. What happens is the DNA of the mom is not passed on to her baby! 😮
No one cares about that...
Cause you see no one here cares about facts... They care about imaginary men being cheated by imaginary wifes...
considering what you did, you're not that different from your mother, i guess the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree.
1:50 seriously? It's such a trope nowadays for men to have been raising another man's child, blindly. She contradicted herself
Where do you get your stories from mine are not as enthusiastic
This is why you have to take women’s sob stories with a grain of salt until further notice. She said he left her, uh, no ma’am, he asked for a paternity test and then YOU got mad and divorced him, which is a very sketchy reaction. At that point it clearly looks like you’ve been caught, you didn’t do anything to at least show him that this is his real son(even if you still divorce) so it’s kind of natural for him to assume that he was right in his assumption. For your son’s sake, she should have done the test because it would have given him a father figure, but she was too caught up in her feelings.
He did by signing those papers
@@HeoBaby24. She was the one who delivered them, so no.
@@lucarioshipper4498 yah he came inside her.
Again instead of throwing a tantrum he chose to throw accusations over someone's words.
Tell me would be upset that your spouse accused you of cheating? I know I would especially when I know I didn't do it.
But op In the wrong for rightfully divorcing him for showing he has zero trust in her
@@HeoBaby24 She was in the right for divorcing him but she was wrong to pretend he wasn't the dad and deny her child their father. He asked for a paternity test and he divorced him and asked for SOLE custody. The only 3 reasons to ask for sole custody 1) father is a bad father. 2) he isn't the biological father 3) the woman is evil and wants to deny her child their father.
@@HeoBaby24. He told her what the problem was. He offered her a solution. She didn’t took it, filled for divorce right away and then said it was he who abandoned her.
She can divorce him as many times as she wants for any given reason, it doesn’t, can’t and won’t change the fact that it was she who dipped after he told her about his concerns. As mind you, you have two separate stances about "believing someone without proof" in a single argument when it’s the husband whom asked for the proof in the first place. She refused.
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OP don't realize it but when she grow older she will turn just like her mother. She's acting all tough but it will just make her bitter and cynical with the world. Wanna bet she will do some manipulative thing to her son when she's desperate for money.
I would argue sue already did by refusing the paternity test. She robbed her son from a father figure for 6 years because of her ego. If she really wanted to leave him after that, whatever, I think it would be dramatic but if it means that much to her fair...but what she did is steal a son away from his dad and vice versa for 6 years
Divorce is also on OP as well one paternity test and everything would be fine but being a woman she has to be indignant. Like after that situation with Dan what is a smart non naive man suppose to think. Again Mom and Dan are awful but OP is also at fault for not getting the paternity test and going psycho on ex husband the only victim is OP’s ex-husband.
I do find it hilarious that OP has never accepted responsibility for being the terrible person to her ex and still doesn’t see that that her divorce is lot her fault.
I feel like if it had been the other way around, the guy would've been urged to get back toghether. lmao, guys don't have a lot of say in these things.
But the thing is you divorced your husband because he was insure a bit and was trying reason out all his doubts about your past 😅.
Why didn't you just take the paternity test? Maybe he would have believed you. Idk, seems pretty short-sighted to just divorce him b/c he wants a paternity test LOL
do you like being accused of cheating after sacrificing your body?
@@vanilelle Oh pls! A man sacrifices his life too... I'd ask why he is accusing me instead of just being livid...
@@thousandyardgavri2785 I don’t want to make this a competition at all. Ofc he sacrifices smth too but that bulk of it falls on the wife. Her body. Her mental health. Etc.
@@vanilelle Of course I wouldn't "like" it. But still, if she entertained this & insisted to know WHY he was accusing her, perhaps her own mother would have been outed quickly instead of it taking 6 years.
@@LuKiSCraft well, of he could’ve explained why he had those accusations. It would’ve been revealed quicker too.
Get back with your Ex?
no
I don't like the op at all, she got soo pissy and ended the marriage over a simple paternity test wtf
Both of them get their fair share of blame here. She should of least attempted to do the paternity test if anything just to prove her loyalty and they could sort of then (I understand postpartum played into this decision) and he could of just said that he got the information from her mother. Both of them had the opportunity and failed and that sucks but so is life.
The real fucking snakes tho got off pretty Scott free. That man child bastard Dan tried to BUY HER and her useless mother SOLD HER. And when that didn’t work tried to milk money out of her still by setting her up with a rich guy.
“Oh I didn’t want to bother you.” And YET- she was paying for her mother while and after living with her after the divorce she caused?! Evil asf
The only people who are not jerks in the story, are the ex-husband and the child! If a man is ever suspected of cheating, a woman wants a military tribunal launched to clear him of any accusations ( because when you’re a man, you’re guilty until proven innocent ). The husband ask for a test of paternity so that he would be sure the things his MIL told him weren’t true, the wife proceeds to flip out and says that he’s horrible for not trusting her. I hope The ex-husband has a great relationship with his kid, but I hope the wife and the mother never have any other relationships because obviously they are bad people!
From the viewpoint of the wife, the husband was asking for a paternity test because a college buddy drunkenly confessed to her.
Do you really think, you wouldn't be mad as fuck, if some girl from your past suddenly confesses their love for you, you go "no, I'm married" and your wife suddenly starts acting like you are a dirty cheat and you cheated WITH THAT GIRL.
That's the experience of the wife. She had none of the extra information. She had a husband suddenly going mental after a weird interaction.
Husband wife and kid are not the AH be so fr? Why act like she knew his mother manipulated him? You have to see it from both POVS. He got fed lies while she was falsely accused of sleeping around. Stop acting like you wouldn’t have felt this way of sour partner randomly accused you of smth you didn’t do.
@@vanilelle
Something you didn't do WITH A SPECIFIC PERSON!
It's one thing to go: "Hey, you are acting weird, working late, don't want to snuggle anymore. Are you cheating?"
It's another thing to go: "I think you are fucking THAT DUDE!"
@@JyS1991being mad is one thing. Its understandable.... Deciding based on that anger is entirely on her. It would've been more forgivable if they didn't have a child
@thousandyardgavri2785
If someone doesn't stop the bad behavior, wont admit that its bad, insists that you are the bad one...then how do you stop being mad?
your mom's a certified hustler 😂😂😂
Your mother manipulates your husband by telling him you're lying about an affair. Your husband believes your mother because...it's your mother. You find out your mother lied to your husband and you go NC on your mother because of the damage she created. You now make your husband--who was lied to by the person _you_ trusted the most--jump through every hoop imaginable to have a life with _HIS_ son, because he believed your mother, the person you trusted the most. If your mother didn't lie to your husband, none of this would have happened and you, your husband, and your son would be living happily ever after. Chris Rock was right; only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally, especially by women.
Coop aren't and visitation rights aren't going too far it's appropriate your husband is a victim
The dude asked for a paternity test to clear his doubts and you divorced him? You basically asked to be a single mother instead of a good partner. Your son deserves so much better
He asked for a dna test and expected to still be married?
Why didn't asked for a paternity during court? He's the one who signed away his rights not op
Is op supposed to just accept that her husband believes that she is a cheater? When there no proof of it?
He chose to miss out of 6 year's of his sons life Bec of what someone said but not a lick of evidence
@@HeoBaby24that “someone” was his wife’s mother… someone that’s know his wife the longest out of anyone… not just random “someone” context matters 😂
@@bomon6654 still someone. He just believes her without any proof
It could be my FUCKIN son and I wouldn't outright believe them without some sort of proof. Not her word against his
Still on his idiot ass
@HeoBaby24 her refusing to have one is like an admission of guilt...and using the same logic, if she wanted her child to have a dad why didn't she push for one during the court case...maybe she just didn't want her baby to have a dad
@@kingofgames2992why didn’t HE push for one during the court case?? the way y’all expect women to be okay with being accused of cheating and act like nothing happend? be so for real?
The comments are funny. She should’ve done this she should’ve done that. She didn’t do a test because she was accused of cheating by the one she loved. Literally her other half. He could’ve asked for a test during court. But he didn’t. He immediately signed his rights away. So don’t say she kept him away from his son. She didn’t. Now. From his POV it was fcked up yes we know, but so was it from her POV. he was manipulated and it ruined their marriage. But it still doesn’t change the fact that OP Is in the right to NOT continue the relationship. Once trust is broken, it can’t be repaired. Let’s be for real, y’all trashing OP as the villain when she has every right to feel the way she did just like the husband did. and I’m sick of people acting like they would’ve reacted differently if they were in EITHER shoes.
Please shut up
@@alesosoutonope.
she refuses to take responsibility for any of her own shortcomings, and when she did it was in entirely the wrong direction
The amount of people acting like they would be ok with their partner basically ignoring them for a week, and then immediately accusing them of cheating is fucken laughable.
Not gonna be ok but its worth a conversation about how they got to that point and not worth abandoning your spouse tbh. Its a rough patch that she walked away from. And because of that, the child was fatherless
Oh boy, everyone in this story (minus the kid) is sucky.
How is the husband sucky?
Do (it for) DAAAN
This woman is an atah for a couple of reasons
OP really should've taken accountability with her marriage ending. Look, i get it. He doubted her but like if he wanted a paternity test then he should be able to get one. I hope i make sense.
Not just that but she robbed her child from a dad. If she was that offended by him not trusting her and wanting to leave him, whatever, but she actively refused the test when it could of proven he was the dad in turn keeping a father figure in her sons life
@@kingofgames2992you don’t get to accuse your wife of cheating and think she’ll bow down to you 💀 he could’ve asked during court where it’d have been way easier but he signed his rights away without looking back. Don’t blame just her when he’s one to blame too.
@vanilelle I see both sides, and ultimately, I'm on OP's side, but there were some things she could've done differently as well which was just let him have the paternity test at least in court to get child support and stuff but ultimately, he gave up his parental rights but I get it. OP gave him every reason to believe the child wasn't his.
@@vanilelle since he didn't want his parental rights, what I would've done was give the positive test to him after he signed his rights away. Because then he could realize he fucked up.
I also don't like how OP is not taking responsibility for her marriage. Husband had a serious concern and her feelings prevented her from deescalation and hearing him out.
Not even thinking about starting things over with the actual dad in my opinion is a boneheaded move. In my opinion it just shows that your mother has trained you well to believe lies instead of separating lies from truth.
So your husband gets upset and bothered by the idea that you and an old friend of yours could've been a thing and then YOU decided to start a fight with him about it
Ya no wonder he wanted a perversity test
Husband was right to ask for a paternty test
and she right to leave him