Don’t you just love a parents who prioritize step children over their actual children and act like they’re still good parents? Why should OP have to sacrifice his own birthday just because the mother wants to take the stepdaughter to a freaking concert, why can’t they schedule the concert day on another day?
I said out loud "why isn't dad taking her to the concert?" Wow, this guy must be a big earner or thrilling her like no other because she is literally ignoring OP. I wonder if either set of grandparents/family is around for support. "You're just jealous", f off with that crap.
It’s absolutely disgusting why can’t Cam’s dad take Cam to the concert. The narrator is correct: she wants to act like an egg donor only treat her as such, this hurts you less. Seems like she only married the husband to get closer to his daughter. What about the step dad can he take you to celebrate your bday?
She needs to tell her mum, i don't mind sharing. Sharing means equal time for both of us. Not shove me aside everytime cam want something. You don't share you abandon.
How many bridesmaids? This sounds like a 2-3K gift on top of all the other crap. I would personally say no to a destination wedding unless I had some other compelling interest in going there. The problem with these kinds of weddings is that there's all kinds of crap you get dragged to beyond the wedding. It's like being an extra in a movie.
i would want to see prove the others are paying 500 too first and then refuse pointing out that if they can afford that they can all chip in for the other 500
Story#1 you have lost two parents in the space of a decade 😔 he would rather neglect his own child than to disappoint another’s man kids , your mother must be rolling in her grave . Start preparing to leave the second you hit 18 , I’m certain your college fund will be given to his step kids so start studying hard to get into one on scholarships . The second you get out from among those neglectful losers , go no contact and don’t look back, good luck.
This. While I have sympathy for Jen's kids and none of this is their fault, Jen and OP's dad need to realize that those kids have had 2 loving parents for the last 6 years while OP had none, only legally obligated custodians. And Jen needs to come to terms that while OP did indeed act childish (as a child) hurting his father once on his birthday, she and OP's dad have been childish (as adults) for 6 years hurting OP constantly.
@@evanundefined430 maybe cruel but op should have told jen 'or maybe you should have found a husband that had no kids or not have kid with a lousy walk out husband'
3 Story, the mom is gonna really surprise in the future if OP goes no contact with her and complain of “oh why don’t you want to spend time with me!?” despite how she treated OP
She's going to be even more surprised when the boyfriend leaves after his daughter becomes an adult. Maybe OP's view is skewed but it doesn't sound like he is as involved with Cam as he may have been before they moved in.
Story 1: Op's poor excuse for a father and biased step mother are lucky he's "acting like a child instead of a 16 year old." An neglected teen can be a holy terror emotionally and financially. If the dad doesn't course correct their mistreatment, Op will go nc the moment he is able to move out.
9:12 Your mom is trying to make you feel guilty for HER favoritism. Don’t let her. She’s 1000% in the wrong. Let her know if she doesn’t see you as a daughter, she’s not your mother either.
Story 2: NTA. It wasn't a "disagreement" it was a refusal to abide by reasonable rules and responding like a five year old to being told such. Good for OP for putting her foot down, good for dad.
Since when is a wedding an excuse to shakedown your friends? $500 for a gift and all the expense of a destination wedding? Such unrealistic expectations.
Last story: anyone else get the vibe that the MOH is gonna pick out a gift that costs less than the amount she collects, and pocket the difference? Very sus to me that she doesn't have something specific in mind already, just wants to collect cash from other people and then decide what the group project will be. And probably hog all the credit for this brilliant idea, while being reluctant to provide receipts to anyone wondering if their money was well spent.
Story2: NTA. So glad the dad had OP's back and was willing to take the bratty sister in. The entitlement of some people is just mindboggling. Wish I could say I was surprised, but I've seen it personally. My brother has a friend who has main character syndrome and took advantage of people. He moved in with a mutual friend of ours, ate all the food, used the gf's shampoo (after being repeatedly told not to), used friend's laptop (after being told not to), stole friend's gf's housekeys so she couldn't get back in while he went to another town 2hrs away & then he wanted her to get a ride to come get them and really didn't want to give them back bc he didn't want to have to ask to be let in when he got back, invaded their privacy by just barging into their bedroom without knocking and then argued and asked "why?" when told to get out. After the keys were taken away and he was told he was no longer welcome he broke into the house again and took an hour long shower. He made messes and didn't clean up after himself. He did not contribute a dime and stayed for over 2 months. He then had the gall to whine that the friend wasn't doing anything to help him bc the friend couldn't afford to give him money to go get a haircut. Oh, and he deliberately antagonized the gf constantly. OP was smart to nip things in the bud and tell his sister to GTFO when she was acting entitled and crazy.
Late for Work: Meetings tend to be planned. Which means she knew when it was, and still didn't plan ahead. I don't know how she got promoted. But I think I know how she'll get fired.
Story1: Dad abandoned his son and now is whining that he is getting it back in return. Then his big promise I will try to flake less. That's a nothing promise literally. Keep up that same energy. Give Dad his consequences
Your sister was 1000% wrong,you did her an incredible favor. She blew it, live here in op home plus expecting op to watch her brats instead of doing their job! It is ridiculous. I don’t think dad should be stuck with her though.
Why can’t the kids stay with their dads? Why isn’t she staying with a friend if she doesn’t want to move? This isn’t on OP especially how she took a mile from OPs inch.
Cam story: This story is going to the way all the other stories like this will, the golden step kid is going to turn out to be an entitled kid/adult from the OP's mom spoiling them *or* the mom is going to end up having a Cats in the Cradle moment when Cam grows up and grows distant and mom will come crawling back and go surprised Pikachu face when OP doesn't want anything to do with her, probably play the victim too.
Last story - I'll tell you who is the real AH here: the bride [and groom] for having a destination wedding. If you want your friends to attend your wedding, have it at home and save the so-called destination for the honeymoon.
Wedding story: you do not owe $500 for a wedding gift. At this point I wouldn’t even want to go to the wedding. If the gift is so important the maid of honor can fork the money over herself.
Husband you need to stop this behavior right now. It is your wife’s responsibility to get herself ready for work. Stop all this behavior now. Do not let your wife become a dependent on you for her well being.
Story 2-glad dad saw straight though it. Last story: what MOH sees a 2k + present and goes "people will be happy contributing $500. Guaranteed MOH is putting zero money towards it but taking 100% credit.
10:20 "She prefers Cam and everybody else over you." Didn't the Mum take Cam out to dinner on the first day of moving in while ASLO leaving the boyfriend at home with her daughter. I suspect the boyfriend is being ignored too.
Story #3 I wouldn’t take the word of your mother about your father either, look into getting in touch with grandparents,find out if they know about you want to get to know you. If your mother told me the sky was blue I would get a second opinion 🙄, she cannot be trusted and I get the feeling she took you away from everyone for spite, not love see if you can contact relatives and get to hell away from your toxic neglectful mother, you deserve better.
Story #4: the lateness/tardiness is a her problem. Setting your snooze alarm one half hour later than you're supposed to be up is just plain stupid. She needs to take responsibility for potentially failing her probationary period and being demoted.
The 1st story, seriously, what is with parents like these? I just don't understand it. The stepkids dad isn't in the picture so he stepped up but continued to let OP down, his actual bio kid. He tells OP he doesn't want the kids to feel rejected and unloved but yet it's okay that OP feels rejected and unloved? Make it make sense. It's like parents who remarry and have stepkids think that he or she no longer has to be a parent to his child.Well, I hope his father won't be shocked when OP moves out at 18 and goes no contact with him. OP is NTA.
Your mom is a huge disappointment as a parent? Your mom has a golden child but it isn’t you! She isn’t a mom to you! Start referring to her as Cam’s mom! Stop any Mother’s Day gifts tell your mom that you have an obligation to an aunt or a friend’s mom
Story1: NTA. OP should mention to his dad that the stepkids at least have a mom to fall back on and OP has no one. His dad is essentially making him feel like an orphan because he won't be there for him and refuses to ever prioritize him. The dad should say to the stepkids, "I love you just as much as OP but keep in mind he lost his mother, I've been letting him down by canceling plans on him and excluding him from things so I need to attend some his events and be there for him too so he doesn't feel abandoned. I'm not abandoning you, I just need to take turns spending time with each of you". Or something like that. I know blood doesn't make family in some regards, but the father really is crappy by overcompensating. And Jen can piss off with complaining that OP is acting like a kid when he is literally still a child. OP can tell his dad "You know how hurt you felt that I didn't buy you a gift or spend your birthday with you? That is how I feel every single time you choose to spend time with your stepkids instead of with me"
Destination Wedding: Is it that OP can't afford to chip in for the gift, or she can't afford to go to the wedding and do anything else? That's the bigger cost. And if she's going to be the bad guy no matter what, I'd cancel those reservations and get as much refund as I could. If it costs this much to be a good friend, be a bad one. Or a former one.
Last Story: Honestly once it became a shake down I'd have contacted the bride (and/or groom) "While I have been happy to be a part of your big day up to this point I want you to hear from me that contributing $500 to a gift is just beyond my means and [MoH]'s attitude about it is really making me rethink of I am welcome or not." or something to that effect Let their reaction dictate if you still attend or auction that dress off on ebay and get back your money where you can. Because the thing is OP agreed to the expenses of the wedding, they did not agree to be bullied and belittled by people who aren't even the person that invited them. If I found out my friend who was going out of their way to attend my event was being bullied by my other guests over money I would be PISSED.
Story 1: I love how Op’s sperm donor says “these kids lost their dad so i dont want them to feel bad” …that’s…exactly what he’s doing to Op… God what an awful parent; also stepmom needs to shut her mouth
Call the bio dad the name of the two boys he cares more about when he asks why you calling me that because you act like him so until you act like a real dad that’s you’re name now
Don’t you just love a parents who prioritize step children over their actual children and act like they’re still good parents? Why should OP have to sacrifice his own birthday just because the mother wants to take the stepdaughter to a freaking concert, why can’t they schedule the concert day on another day?
I said out loud "why isn't dad taking her to the concert?" Wow, this guy must be a big earner or thrilling her like no other because she is literally ignoring OP. I wonder if either set of grandparents/family is around for support. "You're just jealous", f off with that crap.
It’s absolutely disgusting why can’t Cam’s dad take Cam to the concert. The narrator is correct: she wants to act like an egg donor only treat her as such, this hurts you less. Seems like she only married the husband to get closer to his daughter. What about the step dad can he take you to celebrate your bday?
She needs to tell her mum, i don't mind sharing. Sharing means equal time for both of us. Not shove me aside everytime cam want something. You don't share you abandon.
If the maid of honor asked me to give a $500 wedding gift the only text reply she would get is me laughing my ass off
How many bridesmaids? This sounds like a 2-3K gift on top of all the other crap. I would personally say no to a destination wedding unless I had some other compelling interest in going there. The problem with these kinds of weddings is that there's all kinds of crap you get dragged to beyond the wedding. It's like being an extra in a movie.
i would want to see prove the others are paying 500 too first and then refuse pointing out that if they can afford that they can all chip in for the other 500
Story#1 you have lost two parents in the space of a decade 😔 he would rather neglect his own child than to disappoint another’s man kids , your mother must be rolling in her grave . Start preparing to leave the second you hit 18 , I’m certain your college fund will be given to his step kids so start studying hard to get into one on scholarships . The second you get out from among those neglectful losers , go no contact and don’t look back, good luck.
This. While I have sympathy for Jen's kids and none of this is their fault, Jen and OP's dad need to realize that those kids have had 2 loving parents for the last 6 years while OP had none, only legally obligated custodians. And Jen needs to come to terms that while OP did indeed act childish (as a child) hurting his father once on his birthday, she and OP's dad have been childish (as adults) for 6 years hurting OP constantly.
@@evanundefined430 maybe cruel but op should have told jen 'or maybe you should have found a husband that had no kids or not have kid with a lousy walk out husband'
@@velvety2006 absolutely this. Jen gives zero foxes that her husband is ignoring his child for hers.
Way back during a wedding frenzy, I told people that "destination weddings" were a no-go for me, so save the postage.
3 Story, the mom is gonna really surprise in the future if OP goes no contact with her and complain of “oh why don’t you want to spend time with me!?” despite how she treated OP
And Cams dad doesn’t care since he gets free childcare from his squeeze.
Mhm
That's unrealistic
Egg donor is TOO cowardly to admit that
She's going to be even more surprised when the boyfriend leaves after his daughter becomes an adult. Maybe OP's view is skewed but it doesn't sound like he is as involved with Cam as he may have been before they moved in.
Story 1: Op's poor excuse for a father and biased step mother are lucky he's "acting like a child instead of a 16 year old." An neglected teen can be a holy terror emotionally and financially. If the dad doesn't course correct their mistreatment, Op will go nc the moment he is able to move out.
9:12 Your mom is trying to make you feel guilty for HER favoritism. Don’t let her. She’s 1000% in the wrong. Let her know if she doesn’t see you as a daughter, she’s not your mother either.
Story 2: NTA. It wasn't a "disagreement" it was a refusal to abide by reasonable rules and responding like a five year old to being told such. Good for OP for putting her foot down, good for dad.
Since when is a wedding an excuse to shakedown your friends? $500 for a gift and all the expense of a destination wedding? Such unrealistic expectations.
I would want prove that all the other paid the 500 and then point out if they can afford that they can afford to pay the difference lol
💯@@velvety2006
Last story: anyone else get the vibe that the MOH is gonna pick out a gift that costs less than the amount she collects, and pocket the difference? Very sus to me that she doesn't have something specific in mind already, just wants to collect cash from other people and then decide what the group project will be. And probably hog all the credit for this brilliant idea, while being reluctant to provide receipts to anyone wondering if their money was well spent.
Ding ding ding! We have a winner!
Story2: NTA. So glad the dad had OP's back and was willing to take the bratty sister in. The entitlement of some people is just mindboggling. Wish I could say I was surprised, but I've seen it personally. My brother has a friend who has main character syndrome and took advantage of people. He moved in with a mutual friend of ours, ate all the food, used the gf's shampoo (after being repeatedly told not to), used friend's laptop (after being told not to), stole friend's gf's housekeys so she couldn't get back in while he went to another town 2hrs away & then he wanted her to get a ride to come get them and really didn't want to give them back bc he didn't want to have to ask to be let in when he got back, invaded their privacy by just barging into their bedroom without knocking and then argued and asked "why?" when told to get out. After the keys were taken away and he was told he was no longer welcome he broke into the house again and took an hour long shower. He made messes and didn't clean up after himself. He did not contribute a dime and stayed for over 2 months. He then had the gall to whine that the friend wasn't doing anything to help him bc the friend couldn't afford to give him money to go get a haircut. Oh, and he deliberately antagonized the gf constantly. OP was smart to nip things in the bud and tell his sister to GTFO when she was acting entitled and crazy.
Late for Work: Meetings tend to be planned. Which means she knew when it was, and still didn't plan ahead. I don't know how she got promoted. But I think I know how she'll get fired.
Story1: Dad abandoned his son and now is whining that he is getting it back in return.
Then his big promise I will try to flake less. That's a nothing promise literally.
Keep up that same energy. Give Dad his consequences
Your sister was 1000% wrong,you did her an incredible favor. She blew it, live here in op home plus expecting op to watch her brats instead of doing their job! It is ridiculous. I don’t think dad should be stuck with her though.
Why can’t the kids stay with their dads? Why isn’t she staying with a friend if she doesn’t want to move? This isn’t on OP especially how she took a mile from OPs inch.
@@lorilancaster5917 child support
@@lorilancaster5917 based on how she acts I’m willing to bet she has 0 friends.
@@lorilancaster5917kids had better access to stuff with op.
Perhaps she has no friends
Story 2: OP's sister is treating the OP like they were the one that knocked her up. Good riddance
and kudos on dad for just taking her away instead of telling op to 'give her another chance' and 'she is going through a lot'
1: NTA...bring on the hate people!! Dump him!! It's just like yesterday's story!!
Cam story: This story is going to the way all the other stories like this will, the golden step kid is going to turn out to be an entitled kid/adult from the OP's mom spoiling them *or* the mom is going to end up having a Cats in the Cradle moment when Cam grows up and grows distant and mom will come crawling back and go surprised Pikachu face when OP doesn't want anything to do with her, probably play the victim too.
Last story - I'll tell you who is the real AH here: the bride [and groom] for having a destination wedding. If you want your friends to attend your wedding, have it at home and save the so-called destination for the honeymoon.
Wedding story: you do not owe $500 for a wedding gift. At this point I wouldn’t even want to go to the wedding. If the gift is so important the maid of honor can fork the money over herself.
someone already suggested the gift she has her eye on is much cheaper and she is gonna pocket the rest
Husband you need to stop this behavior right now. It is your wife’s responsibility to get herself ready for work. Stop all this behavior now. Do not let your wife become a dependent on you for her well being.
and this why people need to live together before marrying lol
Story 2-glad dad saw straight though it.
Last story: what MOH sees a 2k + present and goes "people will be happy contributing $500. Guaranteed MOH is putting zero money towards it but taking 100% credit.
Honestly i would not want people to decide on my honeymoon, that's between me and my future husband
10:20 "She prefers Cam and everybody else over you." Didn't the Mum take Cam out to dinner on the first day of moving in while ASLO leaving the boyfriend at home with her daughter. I suspect the boyfriend is being ignored too.
Story 1 dad reaped what he sowed. Go no contact at 18 and never speak again.
Poor dad got his fee fees hurt. Now he knows how OP feels every time they get rejected by dad. Reap what you sowed dad.
Story #3 I wouldn’t take the word of your mother about your father either, look into getting in touch with grandparents,find out if they know about you want to get to know you. If your mother told me the sky was blue I would get a second opinion 🙄, she cannot be trusted and I get the feeling she took you away from everyone for spite, not love see if you can contact relatives and get to hell away from your toxic neglectful mother, you deserve better.
Aye im FIRST🤗🤗. Merry Christmas everyone!! Stay blessed & sending love, happiness and positivity to you and yours☃️🎁🎄
Story 2: NTA. Mom is a neglectful gaslughting failure of a parent.
Story #4: the lateness/tardiness is a her problem. Setting your snooze alarm one half hour later than you're supposed to be up is just plain stupid. She needs to take responsibility for potentially failing her probationary period and being demoted.
The 1st story, seriously, what is with parents like these? I just don't understand it. The stepkids dad isn't in the picture so he stepped up but continued to let OP down, his actual bio kid. He tells OP he doesn't want the kids to feel rejected and unloved but yet it's okay that OP feels rejected and unloved? Make it make sense. It's like parents who remarry and have stepkids think that he or she no longer has to be a parent to his child.Well, I hope his father won't be shocked when OP moves out at 18 and goes no contact with him. OP is NTA.
“Dad and Jen fell in love quickly.” Kiddo, single moms of multiple kids with 0 dads in the picture tend to do that.
Merry Christmas XO!! Please stay safe everyone.
Merry Christmas everyone!
Your mom is a huge disappointment as a parent? Your mom has a golden child but it isn’t you! She isn’t a mom to you! Start referring to her as Cam’s mom! Stop any Mother’s Day gifts tell your mom that you have an obligation to an aunt or a friend’s mom
Story1: NTA. OP should mention to his dad that the stepkids at least have a mom to fall back on and OP has no one. His dad is essentially making him feel like an orphan because he won't be there for him and refuses to ever prioritize him. The dad should say to the stepkids, "I love you just as much as OP but keep in mind he lost his mother, I've been letting him down by canceling plans on him and excluding him from things so I need to attend some his events and be there for him too so he doesn't feel abandoned. I'm not abandoning you, I just need to take turns spending time with each of you". Or something like that. I know blood doesn't make family in some regards, but the father really is crappy by overcompensating. And Jen can piss off with complaining that OP is acting like a kid when he is literally still a child. OP can tell his dad "You know how hurt you felt that I didn't buy you a gift or spend your birthday with you? That is how I feel every single time you choose to spend time with your stepkids instead of with me"
OP's mother is a gaslighting liar. She couldn't even be bothered to act like she likes her own kid on her birthday.
Merry Christmas 🎅
Destination Wedding: Is it that OP can't afford to chip in for the gift, or she can't afford to go to the wedding and do anything else? That's the bigger cost. And if she's going to be the bad guy no matter what, I'd cancel those reservations and get as much refund as I could. If it costs this much to be a good friend, be a bad one. Or a former one.
Id tell sarah ahead of time If shes a good friend she will understand.
Last Story:
Honestly once it became a shake down I'd have contacted the bride (and/or groom)
"While I have been happy to be a part of your big day up to this point I want you to hear from me that contributing $500 to a gift is just beyond my means and [MoH]'s attitude about it is really making me rethink of I am welcome or not."
or something to that effect
Let their reaction dictate if you still attend or auction that dress off on ebay and get back your money where you can.
Because the thing is OP agreed to the expenses of the wedding, they did not agree to be bullied and belittled by people who aren't even the person that invited them. If I found out my friend who was going out of their way to attend my event was being bullied by my other guests over money I would be PISSED.
Story 1: I love how Op’s sperm donor says “these kids lost their dad so i dont want them to feel bad” …that’s…exactly what he’s doing to Op…
God what an awful parent; also stepmom needs to shut her mouth
Are your grandparents still alive or you can live with them
Call the bio dad the name of the two boys he cares more about when he asks why you calling me that because you act like him so until you act like a real dad that’s you’re name now
1st... had to watch the same thing and its soul-destroying. Please get therapy.
Pretween years = Immediately reporting the video for being AI.
He does that to avoid being demonetized by the app. If you don't like the practice, find another narrator.
And what does reporting it accomplish?
7:45 13 isn’t a tween age 💀
Thirteen