STILL SITTING SHIVA | Jewish Mourning Customs | Orthodox Jewish Mom (Jar of Fireflies)
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- Опубликовано: 11 июн 2024
- We are about halfway through the shiva (Jewish mourning period). We continue to see visitors, share stories, and I get to learn new traditions. Now that the shock of my father in law’s death has worn off, my husband continues to observe the shiva according to our Jewish traditions. I continue to help him as well as handle regular life (which is up in the air and on pause) as I wade and middle through this learning curve.
Hello and welcome! My name is Chana, I’m married to my best friend, and we have three wonderful children together. We also happen to be Orthodox Jews and we homeschool our kids. This video is a sneak peek into our daily lives :) You can see how this particular Jewish homeschool mom sets up her days, rolls with the punches, and gets it all done. Thanks for watching!
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Tell me something good folks! What’s a happy thing you’ve seen / done / experienced recently?
Pumpkin creme cold brew from starbucks lol👌 I make them at home now like three a day.
@@stephanieh.3302 sounds delicious! That’s so cool that you can make them at home! I haven’t had coffee in forever... I kinda miss it :)
I got some new scarves from one of my favourite Tichel vendors and bought some new clothes from my favourite tznuis clothing store but I have been unwell lately so I’m trying to make things positive for me, I’m even missing out on seeing my beloved All Blacks rugby team in my home city next month.
@@ChasingTheOddShapedBall New scarves and clothes are always a treat! I hope you are feeling better soon!!!
An out of the blue email from a new homeschooler friend I hadn't seen since summer, she was just checking in. It made my day.
I think the concept of Shiva being about caring for the mourners is so beautiful. Awesome sense of community, and not something I personally have ever felt at a wake or repast. Its a year later that i am catching up on videos, but having lost both parents young, I know you never stop grieving. Condolences to you all.
Thank you 💜 And I’m so sorry for your losses
Haven’t seen you “old” or original, kitchen before this. The redo turned out to be wonderful, didn’t it.
So sorry for your family’s loss, the death of your father-in-law. May his memory be for a blessing.
Thank you Maribeth ❤️
My happy thing was finding your channel because I am more isolated than normal with Covid for some years. My sympathies to your husband. The year my Dad died was a hard.
I am so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
May his memory be for a blessing to your entire family.🙏
Thank you
Of course, I just watched this video. I am so sorry for your loss. Blessings.
I just saw this video today and it is so heartwarming to see that your friends and relatives give you emotional and religious support--I am happy for you. When my mother died, I got no support or visits from anyone and was all alone without anyone to talk to. Jehovah G--d has truly blessed you.
I recently discovered your channel and was sad to see your husband and your family went through this sad time last fall. You are a great wife and mother, sensitive to all of the people in your care and faithful to your faith. Also your eyes are gorgeous, they look so green when you wear green.
Thank you 💜
I recently found out (doing my family tree) that my grandmothers on both my mother and father's side of the family are Jewish. My father wasn't a religious man and never told me any of this (never met my mother). Thank you for sharing what you are doing and why. I feel like I've missed out on so much.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting! And wow what a find on your family tree! That’s very cool! Hatzlacha (much luck) on your journey of discovery!
You were a key part to this shiva, working so hard to take care of everything, getting ready to move, cooking, I can see why you are a stay at home mom, you have a lot of responsibility! I am sorry your father-in-law died right in the middle of Covid, but I think you did an outstanding job managing it all.
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words! I appreciate you
Hanna when someone passes on ,you need people and to go slowly,shiva I think is a wonderful custom.In Ireland it is called a wake ,people call pray,eat ,drink .In olden times there were woman called ( I am not sure of the spelling) keeners,they would cry and cry ,then the family would cry or perhaps sing.Men would smoke from clay pipes,that would be broken.In city’s nowadays there would not be support like we have here in the country.Food is brought to the house by friends and neighbours , they also direct traffic,provide parking in a field,stay at position to stop or divert traffic.It happens automatically so no stress to the family.I hope I am not boring you Hanna.
This is such an insight to me. I grew up with an atheist jewish mother who was the "blacksheep" of the family, by choice alongside my grandma who left Judaism in adulthood. All my aunts, uncles, cousins returned to the community. I missed out on so much culture. Im doing a giyur lechumrah to return to the community and have found your videos invaluable.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make them!
Wow what a story! That’s amazing! I’m so glad you have found my videos helpful. That is such an inspiration to me. Thank you for telling me! What an amazing thing. Hatzlacha!
Even though I am watching this nearly a year after, I offer my most sincere condolences and prayers to you and your family...much love to you, my sister...
Thank you
May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you
My daughter had a little boy and the bris was yesterday. He was named for my father who was niftar 5 years ago after a long battle with alzhiemers
Mazal tov! That’s really beautiful 💕 thank you for sharing!!!
Because I am a new-ish subscriber I am binge watching, catching up, and commenting kind of out of context maybe. I am so impressed with how you managed all you have to do during this time being a rock for your husband and family. Then the added stress of moving house....that must have been overwhelming! Job well done Chana
Thank you :) I really appreciate that :)
I'm so sorry for your loss . from a fellow Frum Jew . Baruch hashem
Thank you 💜
Hana, I am a new subscriber, I think its great that you're sharing your life with us, I too was raised Catholic but I'm now a Buddhist, I find your life very beautiful and interesting and educational for me . I watch your channel as much as I can... Thank you....
Welcome! I am so glad that you are here! Thank you for watching and for sharing some of your story!
Chana, I've just subscribed and am in awe! You are teaching me so much, I thought I knew but never really understood. As a non Jew, I try to understand and learn so that I can respect where my Jewish friends are coming from. I try not to say or do anything to offend them, obviously, but you are teaching me why, and perhaps how I might be unintentionally offending, which is so important to me.
I hope you don't mind me praying for you and your family in this sad time. May God's love and blessing be upon you now and always.
How are YOU ?
Thank you! Thank G-d I am well 💜
I'm so happy that you are all doing a little better. Le'at, le'at. Sending a big hug!💚🙌
Thank you!!! 💜
I wish i could have known of you sooner. Light, love, and blessings always upon you and your beautiful family.💐
Thank you so much! I’m glad you’re here now!
You are a very very good Wife and Mother. I am so sorry for your family's loss. Continued prayers for you and your family. 🙏🙏
Thank you so much
I appreciate you too🇦🇺👋💕
Hannah, I know it's been a while but losing a loved one is hard.. I hope as time goes by you all learn to heal.. God Bless you and your family.
Thank you so much 💜
Wow thank you for sharing ! Giving thanks to God for the food and blessings even in sadness
Always 💜
I am new to the channel. First I am very sorry for your families loss. My heart and my prayers are being sent your way. I am bing watching your videos. Your voice is very calming and warm and I am enjoying learning about things I do not know.
Thank you for your kind words and welcome! I’m so glad that you are here :) Thank you for watching my videos 💜
Chana, my sincere condolences for your loss. I know it’s been a few months.
Thank you for sharing all this with us. You are so respectful of your husband and children, thinking of their needs first in everything.
Thank yo uso much
By the way your videos really keep me focused where I definitely feel HaShem is taken me!!!
Happy to hear it!
So sorry for your loss. 🙏
Thank you
Shalom Chana! I've been enjoying your videos!! Firstly may your husband be comforted among the mourners of Zion and may you all know no more sorrow. Only the true and final Redemption!!
I have been ill with the Delta variant apparently. Much better now thank G-d. Doctor says recovered actually but it takes time to get one's strength back. It is nice to be be able to share with you. You seem a very sincere and nice person!! Continued success in all your endeavors, in good health!!
Thank you for your kind words. I hope your recovery is complete and speedy and without complications!
It doesn't sound quite right to say that I enjoyed this vlog when your husband is grieving his father, but I did. Death is something which people in my culture don't seem able to talk about and use words like 'passed away', or 'we lost our father' rather than saying someone has died. Death isn't really discussed. I find the way that you mark a loved one's death to be profoundly moving.
We definitely recognize what grieving people are going through. It is a beautiful thing. I understand what you are saying. I’m glad this resonated with you.
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢
Thank you
Seeing your Shiva customs is good to learn from. I was reviewing that, and The Chosen, and the autobiographical story of Judy Blume. What I saw in both of those is how some families do Shiva when their adult children stray from the Jewish faith; whether by refusing to follow the family customs, or marrying a non-Jew. And it is a grief. As is a lot of other life things; losing a job, house fires, break-ups/divorce........do you do Shiva for those things too?
The Kaddish is such a beautiful sound, soul sad, but beautiful
Sorry for your family’s loss
Thank you
I know that this already happened but as you know I am catching up. I am so sorry for your loss and the difficult time your husband and family went through. As you know my husband passed away at 54 and we also sat shiva. I also had a lot of questions for rabbi since I had never experienced this. My in-laws and I were so grateful for friends and family stepped up to help us through this painful time. It seems you have a wonderful community that is very present for each other. May I ask if your neighborhood is primarily orthodox? In Maryland where I am from and my husband is buried there is a very large Jewish community and certain areas are orthodox. In Az very small Jewish population but ironically where I moved in my neighborhood we have a very large pocket of orthodox which I love!
I am so sorry for your loss. My neighborhood has a lot of Jews, but we are definitely a minority here. Because there is an orthodox shul here, many jews move here for that so its more than a lot of places for sure but not like the neighborhoods in New York or New Jersey that are almost entirely Jewish.
I'm a new subscriber and this is my second vide. I would like to say I'm sorry for the loss.
Than you. And welcome, I’m s glad you’re here
Praying 🙏 HaShem is strengthen your dear husband in his grief!! Even though I haven't converted yet.....I feel like Jewish blood runs through me , I found out a few years ago and maybe why?? Israel has been on my heart for years is because my Grandmother , my dad's mom is Jewish unfortunately they changed their names in WW2 AND EVERYTHING abt being Jewish ......however since my conception I have lived under HaShem's curses AND I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO SEES IT.......I can't wait to Convert and even though I can't speak Hebrew yet (( brain damage since the womb vaccine))-- long to know Hebrew one day soon!! I am trying HARD to bless anything I eat or drink!!! My family is PAGAN and unkosher and needing A huge Red Sea opening .......it will be a Miracle to Marry or have kids..... unable to have kids at the moment!!!!! I can barely sustain my own body being sickly as I am my whole life!!! Hugs ❣️ ❣️❣️ to your entire family!!!! I DID HAVE A MIRACLE 😇 😇😇 THIS PAST WEEK BOTH A FRIEND AND I NEEDED IT IN THE MESSES WE ARE IN!!!!
I have a three year old Shephard/Lab named Bella Grace. Love and Grace.
How fun! Love that!
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My condolences to your husband and family on the passing of his father - I know all too well the pain that causes. I'm curious, is your husband camera shy or not showing his face, etc. because it's shiva? I'm enjoying your videos learning about your religion and culture.
Thank you. I am respecting his privacy during his grieving.
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Hello Chana. Interesting that these shiva videos are coming up now. The family is still sitting shiva in Chicago for Bubby Elaine. I was thinking of them this morning. It is Labor Day weekend. On a different topic, do you belong to any Jewish ladies organizations like Hadassah, ORT, or at schule? 🌹
I do not belong to any ladies organizations like that. Too busy with my kids :)
@@jaroffireflies I always belonged to ORT even with a full schedule. But when my kids were little it was hard to get out of the house. When you get time, you might like time out. These are great organizations that support Jewish life worldwide and in Israel. Shalom!
It’s not a bribery it’s an incentive 💕🇦🇺
In my family I knew as much as could understand from a young age about death. We would go the the funeral, reception and a small explanation of death, then more as I got older. Being young it was more common not to have young children at weddings so I never went to one till I was about 16. As I got older I thought that it was odd to know more about death than weddings but it helped as I grew older. My family is mostly Christian.
I really enjoy your video started watching them a few days ago .I know that its a late respond from a fellow jew to another BDE to you and your family..
Thank you
@@jaroffireflies did you ever find it hard converting to orthodox jew at first with all the rules..
@@alexanderprince7539 great question! For me it was a very slow process, I did not try to take on the rules all at once. I talk about it in my conversion story which starts here: ruclips.net/video/2S-gytUEbc8/видео.html There is a link in the description of that video to the next part of the story. Enjoy!
@@jaroffireflies I know a few who are on the conversion process they are enjoying it lots to process all at once but its a wonderful mitva too..
@@alexanderprince7539 absolutely!
Hey what was the blessing for the soda?
I would love to have a group of neighbors praying out loud where i can hear them😍👂
It is really nice to have neighbors who share our traditions for sure. The blessing in English (I say it in Hebrew) is this:Blessed are You, L-ord our G-d, King of the Universe, by Whose word all things came to be.
Oooh the same one for the water right? I didn't know you could use it for other drinks too .
Im not jewish but i serve the same G-d. I am starting to learn hebrew, to celebrate the holidays and to do the prayers. Its very hard to get used to ,or to remember to pray everything, but i force myself to it because i understand the big blessings behind all this. Its so beautiful 😍
@@sharleen006 yes, it’s a blessing used for things like drinks, candies, dairy, eggs, fish, things like that.
I just found your channel from Megan Fox's channel. Thank you for sharing your life, especially in such a hard time, that must be difficult. In one video you said you haven't always been Orthodox, did you convert to Judaism or were you just not observant before?
Thank you so much for coming by and saying hello! I love Megan’s channel too! And thank you for your kind words 💜 I converted to Judaism, I’m planning to do a whole video on that story, I just need to find the time where I can focus on filming it without the kids distracting me 🤷🏼♀️ With Covid babysitter isn’t much of an option. Anyways, it will come! It’s a fun story :) Thank you for being here! I appreciate you!
@@jaroffireflies That's wonderful, I can't wait to hear the story. I had a fairly easy transition to a similar Christian culture to the one I was raised in after a hiatus in my 20s. I can't imagine changing to a different tradition entirely.
@@erinkimmel9479 it was rough on my parents for sure, but it was worth it!
it’s weird how they gave you the code when they assume you were showing up the next day. i would have gotten everything done before giving someone the keys.
Right?!? Not a good first impression at all
Yes, Life goes on even in the midst of sorrow...which is comforting in its own way. The new house looks nice. Will you store your furniture while your house is being remodeled? I love the fact that the men are coming to your house to have services with your husband. How did you meet your husband, Chana? I love a good love story.:)
We will have to store all of our furniture, its a lot of work but the new floors will be worth it! I love that the men come here to us as well. Its such a comfort to my husband and is so helpful. Truly a beautiful thing :) I'll need to do another video for our how we met story, its a pretty good story!
So, it doesn't appear at first glance that the house you're renting has been lived in by a frum family, although it's being rented furnished. How difficult is that going to be in terms of keeping kosher, for example?
So I addressed this in a recent video, so I’m going to point you there for your answer: ruclips.net/video/uty7BDYL-pw/видео.html
I can address it a bit more fully in the q&a though ❤️
Chana. Hello. I am confused as how you would have a dog. Are you able to keep things ritually clean having an animal in the house? Are there any rules about having a pet?
There are some rules about pets like I need to feed my dog before I eat for example, but there is no issue with my dog being unclean or anything like that.
Hi I went to a Shiva for the first time today. The host lost their father. While at Shiva I noticed both brothers who were mourning their father,both brothers their shirts were both torn. What was the meaning behind this? I was curious.
May his memory be a blessing. Here is an article about the tearing of the clothing: www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/248163/jewish/Why-Do-We-Tear-Our-Clothes-After-a-Death.htm
I think it's beautiful that they come to your house to daven and say Kaddish. B"H
It really is! It’s so nice that the mourner doesn’t have to worry about going anywhere or driving etc.
I hadn't realized there are set times for people to call during Shiva. Is it standard, or decided by individuals?
That’s something set by individuals and not necessarily something everyone does.
Is that an air b&b?
Its a short term rental, that's all I know. Our insurance company took care of all of that for us. It was really nice not to have to deal with that.
Did you convert to Judaism? I am not Jewish however, my mother did have Sephardic Jewish heritage. I have not been able to trace it. I have been rsised Christian but love n feel a kingship to Sephardic Jews.
Yes! I did convert to Judaism. I did a short series on my conversion that starts here if you are interested: ruclips.net/video/BfJxZH3rKKI/видео.html part two is linked in the description of that video