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  • Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
  • Join us in this heartfelt episode of the Dear Future Wifey Podcast as Former Miss USA @SourLossSweetLessons - Deshauna Barber and her fiancé, Marvin Echols, share their beautiful love story. From their fateful first meeting to overcoming challenges in their relationship, Deshauna and Marvin open up about the realities of love, trust, and commitment. Whether it's dealing with past heartbreaks or learning to trust again, their story is one of resilience and faith.
    In this episode, we delve into how their connection grew stronger over time, the importance of timing in relationships, and the power of patience and understanding. Get inspired by their journey and discover valuable lessons for your own love life. Former Miss USA, Deshauna Barber and Marvin Echols, share their powerful story of "The Fateful Journey."
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Комментарии • 657

  • @Iamlonndanicole
    @Iamlonndanicole Год назад +456

    I am forcing myself to listen to your podcasts so that I won’t give up on love, marriage, and family. I use the Bible, prayer, fasting, and this podcast to heal. I see myself healed for real this year! Hello Future Hubby, meet Future Wifey!

    • @RhondaR4
      @RhondaR4 Год назад +24

      You got this sister! Your future husband is near. Pay attention to what GOD has you doing. Sending blessings and hugs your way.🙏🏽❤️🌻

    • @Unalunallenadeluz
      @Unalunallenadeluz Год назад +13

      In the name of Jesus!

    • @janicetaylor1272
      @janicetaylor1272 Год назад +18

      Remember what Pastor RC said "You don't need to be married if you need to be married ". Let's spend our single time enjoying life and doing what God wants us to be doing. Single and satisfied 😌. Blessings to you my Sister

    • @Iamlonndanicole
      @Iamlonndanicole Год назад +10

      @@janicetaylor1272 I understand and I’m doing just that but I also know through the relationship I have with God, that part of my legacy and destiny includes marriage. If you knew my story sis….. bloodlines and legacy can end when you’re an only child and you don’t continue the legacy…it’s much deeper than a title and ring for me (edited)

    • @Unalunallenadeluz
      @Unalunallenadeluz Год назад +8

      @@janicetaylor1272 I love how God is preparing me so I start to say, "I'm not waiting, I'm training" haha

  • @fareedhawilliams-appah3560
    @fareedhawilliams-appah3560 Год назад +187

    Please have them back 6 month to a year after they have gotten married. I would love to hear about their newlywed journey. Great podcast!❤

    • @herfamiller139
      @herfamiller139 Год назад

      I beg to second this ps.👏🏾👏🏾

    • @lafranceandco
      @lafranceandco Год назад +6

      I agree because I think there is still some work that needs to be done here. If they continue to openly communicate, things will be worked through just fine.

    • @jesusisable7052
      @jesusisable7052 16 дней назад

      They married now and there marriage video is posted ❤

  • @jerlynnghee207
    @jerlynnghee207 Год назад +295

    I admire the way that he disagreed with her. He kept touching her and reassuring her lovingly. Also not bending and dating while he was focused on his goals.

    • @timbawangu3038
      @timbawangu3038 Год назад +7

      Right👌

    • @ajordan1847
      @ajordan1847 Год назад +3

      Yes, I observed that too. ❤

    • @rachelmcpherson6010
      @rachelmcpherson6010 Год назад +5

      I loved that as well. Very Beautiful The Two of Them ! God Bless Their Union ❤

    • @stephf4175
      @stephf4175 Год назад +3

      Meeee toooo. Also loved how he spoke the words "I love you" in the midst of a convo, too. He bedda cover her! 🙌🏽
      P.S., I do get the vibe that she covers him, too...😉

  • @teachandinspire437
    @teachandinspire437 Год назад +212

    He's such a true Leader. He will continue to teach and love her in ways she's never known!♥️🙏🏾

  • @tylynn256
    @tylynn256 Год назад +198

    This is a man who knew/ knows what he wants. He wasn't so pressed to be in a relationship that it trumped his goals. I love it!

    • @asills423
      @asills423 Год назад +11

      I love how he dated with the intentionality of finding a wife. He did not date to hurt or use women as objects. A man that was able to discern and refrain from poor decisions, not too many men can do that. His mind was not disrupted by the foolishness, and this was how he could find his Queen. She is a very lucky woman, and s is he. I can only imagine how this will go. To God be the glory.

    • @georginachibbamulilo5968
      @georginachibbamulilo5968 4 месяца назад

      I agree. I also love her courage😊

    • @smf427
      @smf427 Месяц назад +1

      some women do not want to accept some men are not into them. i love that he did not lead her on. so many men are guilty of doing that.

    • @NIAEMANI
      @NIAEMANI 14 дней назад

      So good. I think that was the type of process she needed for sure.

  • @mika4eva314
    @mika4eva314 Год назад +87

    I went to high school with Marvin and when I say him and his sister Focus in on their goals THEY ARE FOCUSED!!! They are really great, loving people. I wish Marvin and Deshauna the best in their future endeavors. #BlackLove ❤

  • @MzzTPC
    @MzzTPC Год назад +111

    Whew...The maturity of this young man is SOOOOOOO refreshing! All in decency and order while also knowing how to care and communicate with a woman! Love it!

    • @angelstatum2584
      @angelstatum2584 Год назад +1

      THIS!!

    • @ajordan1847
      @ajordan1847 Год назад +1

      Their story had me revisiting my perspective of men and my impatience with intention, and now I understand why; my "bar" needs adjusting. Agree; so refreshing.

    • @aielnod
      @aielnod Год назад +6

      Seems out of order to me. She doing the persuing

    • @MzzTPC
      @MzzTPC Год назад

      @kiuleiaable They all addressed that point and she def noted and saw the error of her ways. I'm speaking the order in which HE pursued when ready. Not her approach. I would Never! Lolbvvs

  • @nosindisomyeni
    @nosindisomyeni Год назад +108

    Praying for more men who are this intentional like Marvin, don’t play with people’s feelings while looking for the one.

  • @williaminaloftin3814
    @williaminaloftin3814 Год назад +55

    I love Marvin's intentional approach towards dating and marriage. His parents did an outstanding job of living out a beautiful example for him to emulate.

  • @ladiesofiron
    @ladiesofiron Год назад +65

    He was protecting his heart at the beginning whether he knew it or not.❤😊

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Год назад +3

      He definately was. I wish I was that intentional in my previous relationships. It's a very laudable thing.

  • @socasoul
    @socasoul Год назад +52

    Their level of communication is really good. Love that he didn't let his ego come into the conversation. He was so calm and respectful and they clearly 'hear' each other.

  • @cavellfrancis6449
    @cavellfrancis6449 Год назад +96

    This episode was hilarious 😂😂😂😂 I love them for each other. He is so reassuring and leads in a quiet, gentle way

    • @aielnod
      @aielnod Год назад +2

      I think she leading

    • @keepthechange1
      @keepthechange1 Год назад

      @@aielnod She definitely is leading. I don't think he will marry her. She is too much of a DRAMA QUEEN!

    • @aeriel4972
      @aeriel4972 Год назад +1

      I can tell she respects him. He's knows how to handle her, and she admires him. I like this couple's realness.

  • @jinajames3525
    @jinajames3525 Год назад +86

    I wasn't sure where this interview was going at first....BUT the nuggets that were dropped were worth the wait. They are the cutest couple and have a great future ahead of them. They've already shown they can work through adversity and differences. Keep going yall.

    • @adinahj.9212
      @adinahj.9212 Год назад +11

      I agree l had to force myself to continue to watch this episode 😬

    • @nnena3631
      @nnena3631 Год назад +6

      @Adinah J. Same, and I still don't feel good about it

    • @jinajames3525
      @jinajames3525 Год назад +2

      @@nnena3631 hang in there. There really is some good stuff here.

  • @cshell75
    @cshell75 Год назад +51

    This was so interesting to watch. I almost think it should have been titled “Managing expectations” or something related to “Timing.” I appreciate the honesty in this interview. All relationships don’t start like a fairy tale.

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Год назад +1

      Facts. Many definately don't start with bells and whistles.

  • @mostdefmodest
    @mostdefmodest Год назад +32

    Marvin's approach to relationships, in terms of how deliberate & intentional he was in taking his time paired with his discernment, is commendable!

  • @kayfleming5180
    @kayfleming5180 Год назад +47

    When DeShauna talked about vetting people and raising the bar!!!! I ran around the room!! 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️THAT is so critical! As a society, we’re so ready to microwave the courtship (vetting) process with just anybody. We need to set that thang on simmer. It’s important to see a person in all seasons (temperaments). Kudos to Marvin’s parents for raising an upstanding & outstanding young man! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Год назад +58

    Please bring them back in years to come. I'd like to see their growth, kids, and hear their stories.❤

    • @Love_Child
      @Love_Child Месяц назад +1

      Agree 🤝

    • @RhondaR4
      @RhondaR4 Месяц назад

      @@Love_Child, Bless your beautiful heart in JESUS' mighty name.🙏🏽❤️🌻

  • @reginaclaxtonministries
    @reginaclaxtonministries Год назад +15

    That's why she felt anxious... She was operating outside of her position as the woman who would be pursued. I respect he was true to himself/his goals.

  • @jerlynnghee207
    @jerlynnghee207 Год назад +34

    I love the way she was unashamed to speak about anxiety.
    Her "No" pageant video is so inspiring.

  • @kishah4799
    @kishah4799 Год назад +58

    I love their transparency. They are indeed on a fateful love journey, and I am happy the decided to trust the process. Thank you for this episode, Laterras!

  • @genikathompson5432
    @genikathompson5432 Год назад +42

    MY GOD ..... SHE SAID A WORD 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 CAN THEY REACH THE BAR ??

    • @rebecca9519
      @rebecca9519 Год назад +4

      When the bar is low it's easy too easy to walk over it without making any effort. Well said. This couple will make it as they communicate with each other openly and lovingly.

    • @genikathompson5432
      @genikathompson5432 Год назад +3

      @@rebecca9519 Yes exactly, that analogy was just amazing.

    • @nnena3631
      @nnena3631 Год назад +1

      I appreciated her saying that as well.

  • @adriennenicolewilliams1366
    @adriennenicolewilliams1366 Год назад +60

    This is so good...and he is correct...understanding is EVERYTHING!!!!! I'm glad they are where they are today ❤️🙏🏽

  • @mgm2923
    @mgm2923 Год назад +60

    A man of honor! What a great example to other men.

  • @loisbanks4030
    @loisbanks4030 Год назад +40

    Timing is everything with open honest communication!
    Great interview!

  • @tiffmat9475
    @tiffmat9475 Год назад +12

    This was actually refreshing coz it's not the typical love story, it almost seems very real, and they are also not too lovey dovey. This is actually the realest conversation, it was raw and honest!

  • @sheistamikawells
    @sheistamikawells Год назад +28

    He has great communication skills and also has such an engineer-analytical mindset. 😊

  • @kristinesmith1665
    @kristinesmith1665 Год назад +13

    There's nothing better than reassurance from a man who is so intentional - a true leader, methodical, caring and empathetic. He was very transparent without throwing smoke. He could see her pain and uncertainty and sought guidance to make sure he can be her trusted partner in their journey.
    I absolutely loved this episode ❤️ #gems

  • @womanofgod2948
    @womanofgod2948 Год назад +12

    I loved this episode. Their love story didn't go the traditional way, but God bought them back together. What is for you, will truly be yours ❤

  • @c.j.promiseland6456
    @c.j.promiseland6456 Год назад +14

    This was such a good interview. Brother knew what he wanted and him standing on what he says and thinks, let's us know he is a man of his word and he means what he says. They are communicating effectively, glad they are growing together. Patience on both sides is so key. I am glad she was willing to push past the fear, take it one day at a time.

  • @beat4broadway203
    @beat4broadway203 Год назад +18

    Ok.... all the comments say watch till the end, so I will. But the first 30 minutes sound like run sis run, because he did not pursue you.

  • @ladydee7099
    @ladydee7099 Год назад +51

    I look forward to Wednesdays because I know Laterras is going to drop another GREAT DFW episode!!!! I can’t wait to watch this one!!!!

  • @roea7846
    @roea7846 Год назад +48

    This was a great story. More men and women need to take their time to get to know each other. People can be so in a rush to be in a relationship with someone they don't take the time to get to know the other person. I am happy it worked out for this couple. There is nothing like a man who knows what he wants.

  • @atlantasfaithsmom
    @atlantasfaithsmom Год назад +50

    He was strategically reeling her in. He was interested the whole time, but felt taken for granted and ignored in the very beginning.

    • @aielnod
      @aielnod Год назад +20

      I don't like that. He playing games. and its Not that she wasn't interested in the beginning , she didn't even know him . he liked her in secret for a whole year before speaking . I don't like Their relationship. it's kind of sketchy

    • @atlantasfaithsmom
      @atlantasfaithsmom Год назад +6

      @@aielnod It may work, but I had the same feeling....

    • @nnena3631
      @nnena3631 Год назад +6

      @Ariel Nod He's giving red pill, and cut her down a notch vibes. I observed something else and I mean no harm. But his determination to not big her up or pursue her like other guys screamed insecurity, and when I saw their engagement video he appeared to be vertically challenged. There are men of a certian stature that have serious chips on their shoulder and take it out on women they feel have a high opinion of themselves and "neg" them to keep them under thumb I didn't even like her countenance in the interview it appeared self protecting and his distant and aloof..😠

    • @nnena3631
      @nnena3631 Год назад +3

      That sounds like a fragile ego to me. How were you taken for granted when she wasn't available and all you're doing is liking pictures on IG?

    • @mzbrown6969
      @mzbrown6969 Год назад +4

      @@nnena3631 exactly those who know know, no regard for her timeline, waited two years put her in the terrain of a geriatric pregnancy and the fact that she keeps entertaining him when he gave her nothing but negs is wild to me

  • @cleaningcrew6657
    @cleaningcrew6657 Год назад +11

    Marvin gave Deshauna a safe place for her trust and stability for her heart. Love these two. Ever lasting love.

  • @IkeRuffRyder
    @IkeRuffRyder Год назад +20

    Stating your intentions is a KEY FACTOR

  • @AllThingsTiffanyTV
    @AllThingsTiffanyTV Год назад +31

    I was locked in after Laterras said “he’s not that into you”… i wonder how they were able to move forward because she did all of the initiating from beginning to end. I was watching with one eye open, hoping that one of them wouldn’t let the realization set in and they begin to overthink if they’re really meant for each other…. Let me keep watching

    • @CEC805
      @CEC805 Год назад +13

      This is an interesting story because she mentioned having anxiety which would be a red flag for me personally or maybe the anxiety is from her pursuing him....

    • @jakhyiajohnson7812
      @jakhyiajohnson7812 Год назад +12

      Your thoughts are valid. I'm happy for them, but honestly if it was me, I would have dropped him like a bad habit and moved on with my life. From the outside looking in, it certainly appears that he just was not that interested. I would have felt differently if once they started speaking he was more intentional about courting and marrying her but he purposely waited until the end of the two years for the proposal. To me, he play too many mind games. I've learned through THIS podcast that it takes NO time for a man to know if a woman is the one. 6 months tops! NO way on God's green earth should MISS USA, as beautiful as she is have experienced mixed signals from a said man that was interested in her. Nonetheless, I wish them the best and pray they have a happy union.

    • @kingleyo9277
      @kingleyo9277 Год назад +4

      @@jakhyiajohnson7812 stop it lol you don’t know anyone in 6 months!! Stop lying

    • @jakhyiajohnson7812
      @jakhyiajohnson7812 Год назад +2

      @@kingleyo9277 I said a man knows within 6 months. These are the words from multiple men who have sat on that yellow couch. But as for me, I would certainly know if a man is the one within that same time frame. It definitely wouldn’t be two years.

    • @ThirtySomethingDiaries
      @ThirtySomethingDiaries Год назад

      It is incorrect to assume that because it us said here by a few men, it goes for alllll men. Some men may know, not ALL. BUT even those who know from 6 months or earlier, they will take their time. We are often rushing our way into relationships...starting it before it should, making it permanent before it should begin. There is no set formula for relationships...this worked for them, it worked for others too...we have to respect differences.

  • @Samone681
    @Samone681 Год назад +14

    This whole podcast is a word!! It's not how you start but how you finish!!! Both Deshauna & Marvin had amazing nuggets❤😍🥺

  • @Itsbrittanykerr
    @Itsbrittanykerr Год назад +6

    As always Laterras, I like how you really dig and ask the important questions.
    I think they have a good shot but I’m concerned that the man is concerned with getting the upper hand in the relationship, out of his own insecurities. I hope that he changes his mindset so he can truly open up to all the intimacy that marriage has to offer.

  • @renembongn.5877
    @renembongn.5877 Год назад +9

    Nice episode. I feel the guy was just being a gentleman as should be. A lesson learnt here, ladies should present and not pursue. I think the lady here crossed into the pursuit zone to ask him out to the trip then expectations were not met. I’m glad though that you both ended together, so keep it strong🙏🏿

  • @godsfav
    @godsfav Год назад +22

    Packed a punch in the beginning with setting the bar. Whewww Def watching til the end. Love this podcast. So many teachable and beauitful moments. 😇

  • @VonnieVon86
    @VonnieVon86 Год назад +7

    Their love story is so relatable as love can have challenges. Best of luck and love to them both.❤

  • @carojenn
    @carojenn Год назад +15

    Watching this episode was quite enlightening.. Listening to Dashauna really made me think because I was able to recognize some similarities in my own mindset. It was refreshing to hear her articulation of how how her unmet and unexpressed expectations caused her experiences to be a different/negative one than Marvin's.
    I was also pleased that the Bahamas was positively mentioned and factored in their relationship.
    I am also hoping to attend your upcoming session in Nassau, and to meet you as well.

  • @izaiahgoodwin4831
    @izaiahgoodwin4831 Год назад +9

    He's serious and she's fun and playful❤They helping each other grow❤

  • @OptimisticKTV
    @OptimisticKTV Год назад +11

    I LOVEEEEE this LOVEEEE STORY!!! I love that he took his time to really get to know her and go through the process!! I can relate to her husband’s approach I’m definitely a person that takes my time to vet people especially when it comes to my heart! I’m definitely going to always uphold my standards. I’ve never had a serious relationship because I’m not trying to attach myself to anyone that I don’t see a future with! I take relationships seriously! You’re not about to be saying you dated me. Lol I love seeing this example in living color. This is so beautiful.

  • @thamingobeni7075
    @thamingobeni7075 Год назад +5

    I believe this guy. He's so honest, and we're not used to it. I love that he wanted to know her first.

  • @leanetta3673
    @leanetta3673 Год назад +17

    OMG! If only Marvin's "strange" could be more common with men, this world would be more like Heaven!! Fewer Heartbreaks and less damage all around. Ooooh I can only wish.
    But I'm older, more seasoned and experienced, so romance isn't my go-to. Can we enjoy one another's conversations and company first... and then, let's contemplate if we both want something more.
    I LOVED this episode Laterras. Thank you all for sharing so honestly. (I believe y'all learned some additional things about one another and yourselves whilst you talked this out on the podcast).

    • @leanetta3673
      @leanetta3673 Год назад +1

      Happy belated birthdays Laterras and Mother 🎉

  • @sharoncisneros8637
    @sharoncisneros8637 Год назад +10

    He's solid. He had all his bases covered and was not going to let anything side track him from his goals/purpose. He wasn't interested in a microwaved relationship.

  • @JustUdoro
    @JustUdoro Год назад +8

    WOW…such a beautiful and wonderful testament of who God is and how God works all things together for our good! This was beautiful and needed. Thank you again! 🙌🏾❤️🙌🏾

  • @CherryCalypsoCoffee
    @CherryCalypsoCoffee Год назад +13

    I agree why pursue an unavailable person. Healthy pursuit. He definitely had his head on straight. Glad connections happened has it should.

  • @marlenapetty7561
    @marlenapetty7561 Год назад +24

    This episode was so resourceful! Insightful of terms that communication and clarity is essential. This was good. Super way of unpacking that timing should be considered.

  • @rrnn6472
    @rrnn6472 Год назад +9

    Another great episode. This young man is so honourable! Hope he has the time to mentor and share his skillset!

  • @SandraJamesmentor
    @SandraJamesmentor Год назад +59

    📌He is not interested! When he is interested you will know it, you won’t be confused.

  • @yeyeni9893
    @yeyeni9893 Год назад +16

    I love how they worked through that! TRANSPARENCY AND COMMUNICATION!

  • @ladiesofiron
    @ladiesofiron Год назад +6

    I love how he touches her, it’s so sweet and assuring ❤

  • @rebeccaemmanuel8074
    @rebeccaemmanuel8074 Год назад +20

    From 1:14:28 to 1:15:00 Love that! Sometime people shame or think people who don't have many relationships before getting married are weird or strange but I feel like that should be a normal thing.

    • @nnena3631
      @nnena3631 Год назад +2

      I'm a bit curious about that because in this day and age people don't have to be in relationships to deal with and sleep with a lot of people which could cause as many if not more problems as the relationship baggage..

    • @chimakalu41
      @chimakalu41 Год назад +2

      Agree that should be a normal thing. One does not want to go around wasting time with different people. If they check the boxes with the one person they feel they can settle down with for marriage. Quantity does not equal quality.

    • @rebeccaemmanuel8074
      @rebeccaemmanuel8074 Год назад +1

      @@nnena3631 Yeah I see what you mean. I did not mean it in that way (sleeping around or having flings). I'm talking about just not dating or sleeping with people until you're ready for a committed relationship.

    • @williaminaloftin3814
      @williaminaloftin3814 Год назад +1

      Amen, Rebecca! That was definitely one of my favorite parts (take-aways) of the whole conversation.

  • @islanddreams1072
    @islanddreams1072 Год назад +10

    Really nice couple. Great wisdom received from both parents. I pray they have a long marriage and that they get premarital counseling to make them and their foundation stronger before the wedding.

  • @wpooh6181
    @wpooh6181 Год назад +12

    I loved this episode! It is Hands down my favorite to date!!! You must do an update!!!!! It reminds me of the conversations I have with my adult son who has a similar spirit to the young man in the video. These two young people make me feel hopeful for love. Just beautiful. It's great to see values and beliefs being displayed period! The world has gotten so far away from that! You must do a follow up to all of your most beloved episodes! Definitely this one!!! I don't expect perfection from these young couple but I do see something very special that is truly missing in the world today and it is inspiring! Well Done!!!!!!

  • @angelaphelps9986
    @angelaphelps9986 Год назад +13

    Beautiful! Beautiful! Beautiful couple! The genuineness and intentionality is refreshing. Thank you Marvin and Deshauna for sharing your love story!
    Laterras is an instigator!!!! But, I like it. Great podcast!!!

    • @DearFutureWifey
      @DearFutureWifey  Год назад +5

      Lol. How was I instigating? I was trying to get to the bottom of it?

    • @angelaphelps9986
      @angelaphelps9986 Год назад

      @@DearFutureWifey OH, you definitely got to the bottom of it, sir!!! Lol 😆

  • @janicetaylor1272
    @janicetaylor1272 Год назад +6

    My bar was low. Unfortunately i was not taught about relationships. This podcast has definitely changed how i see myself. Thank you for another good episode 🙏

  • @luvsgod2
    @luvsgod2 23 дня назад +2

    I could listen to this young man's point of view daily. He cleared Laterras regarding his view about "the one that got away!" I listened to that part 3 times. I would rather not be led on by a person who wasn't ready just for them to live in regret about losing me! This guest was teaching throughout this podcast.

  • @jakhyiajohnson7812
    @jakhyiajohnson7812 Год назад +19

    I learned way too much through this podcast that men know within six months or sooner if a woman is his wife. The fact he intentionally waited until the two year mark to pop the question unsettles me. I would've went on 'bout my business personally. He playing too much chile.

  • @butterflyj08
    @butterflyj08 2 месяца назад +1

    This was a fantastic episode. Deshaun said something profound she said she couldn’t longer sit in her anxiety and fear and just embrace and be optimistic. There’s a-lot of things that she has learned along the way with Marvin. I believe that purpose partners definitely help you uncover things that you may not see and will help you heal.

  • @ANGEL_MONIQUE
    @ANGEL_MONIQUE Год назад +8

    Talking about being honest open and transparent.. This was a beautiful episode, I laughed 😂and smiled 😊 the entire time watching.

  • @dfromtheblock1537
    @dfromtheblock1537 Год назад +19

    She has the patience of a saint. Sis, I don’t think I would have been able to deal with one in the beginning honestly. He’s a nice guy but would need just need way more pressure.

    • @nnena3631
      @nnena3631 Год назад +4

      Yeah it's sounding like he got red pilled during that wait period to me 🤷🏾‍♀️🤔

    • @aielnod
      @aielnod Год назад +9

      I dislike their story. Out of order and backwards

    • @nnena3631
      @nnena3631 Год назад +21

      @@aielnod I was able to finish and I kept waiting on the point where he professed his love, like, devotion to her but it was never expressed, he remained rather cool, distant and unaffectionate the whole way through.
      A running theme was him waiting for her to prove herself to him. It came off like role reversal. It also seemed like he was determined to knock her down a peg or two to prove something.
      The only time I heard him speak highly of her was when SHE proved herself again by ordering the helicopter ride for HIM. In the engagement video I didn't observe him actually asking her to marry him just getting on one knee and putting the ring on. That's a move a lot of men with fragile egos do, (if that part wasn't cut out.)
      I'm not trying to be a downer she seems like a great girl, with a lot of confidence but she appeared to physically shrink around him, and he seemed to like to dim her light. I honestly hope im dead wrong. Wishing all a healthy love.

    • @mzbrown6969
      @mzbrown6969 Год назад

      Well she is taking him off the market thank you lord

    • @kingleyo9277
      @kingleyo9277 Год назад

      @@nnena3631 you need therapy!!! Lonely ass lol hating on this black couple

  • @chblck
    @chblck Год назад +3

    Wow!! I just met Deshauna as the keynote speaker at Develop Her Women's Summit in Memphis and now here she is on one favorite podcasts. Keep shining Queen 👑

  • @graceali-grap9919
    @graceali-grap9919 Год назад +7

    I wish he just admitted that he was not ready at the time... truth is most men who are interested don't need that much opening given to them to make their intentions known. I am struggling with the fact that he can't admit he was not ready, I can 't really say I would have encouraged my sisters to wait for him. listening to him talk he is a great guy...but he almost messed up...BUT GOD!

  • @SheSharpNotFlat
    @SheSharpNotFlat Год назад +11

    This episode came together so well. In this case, it was healthy to witness a couple work through their individual perspectives together. Marvin exemplifies strong leadership which will benefit their marriage and family forever. Laterras, your input & authenticity was enjoyed! You are a natural in front of the camera & I admire that about you.

  • @IAmMonicaDenise
    @IAmMonicaDenise Год назад +14

    This intro just preached! 🙌🏾(Great editing skills Laterras.)😊I can’t wait to receive this full message. I’m sure it will bless me as always. ❤

  • @NIAEMANI
    @NIAEMANI 14 дней назад +1

    Marvin is STAND UP! I actually liked how he didn’t pursue her in the beginning especially with how she was used to certain attention. Marvin is traditional and she was not used to that. I think it was good for her because she had to trust the process because he was the one but getting to know him would actually open that up for her. Timing is definitely important. Great episode…also watching their wedding brought me here 🖤🤍

  • @ajordan1847
    @ajordan1847 Год назад +5

    18 minutes in, and my face is like...😕😕🤓😮😌🤗😮😕😕😂. Learning so much about communication and intention. So good. ❤ Now, adding my thoughts after watching this all the way through, and I've gained so much clarity about what to expect. Intention takes time and patience. Thank you for bringing this couple on; so refreshing to hear both perspectives. 🙏🏾❤

  • @WoundstoScars
    @WoundstoScars Год назад +6

    Another great episode. I love the respectful way they disagreed with each other and give each time to share their perspective. Many lessons that can be learnt here about communication and managing conflicting points of view.

  • @Allthingztiff
    @Allthingztiff Год назад +9

    The beginning message of the video !!! She said what she said 😫

  • @eb4478
    @eb4478 Год назад +15

    Let’s be real. This guy was playing games because A. He didn’t want to come off as thirsty so decided to downplay his interest(insecurity)
    B. Is one of those guys that get pleasure from seeing a desired woman beg(a form of punishment)
    Or
    C. Knew he wasn’t interested and wanted to keep her attention to boost his ego
    Let’s be real and cut to the chase 🙄

    • @TajLuvsJB
      @TajLuvsJB Год назад +1

      This comment.

    • @beencouraged4163
      @beencouraged4163 Год назад +1

      I was a little concerned for her when she said she felt she was experiencing anxiety when she met him in person. That’s most times a 🚩 red flag.

    • @dkgnew
      @dkgnew Год назад +2

      C.. And, I kinda feel (now that I have watched further), maybe as beautiful as she is - she is NOT really his type!...Speaking for myself - I particularly have been hit on by women who would do what she did...but I love my women with booty etc. skinny model types just don't Grab my attention for long term...IMJS

    • @angelgreen9945
      @angelgreen9945 Год назад

      @@dkgnew thank you for this information. Makes sense

  • @ashunt29
    @ashunt29 Месяц назад +1

    We need to have his parents on here. I agree with the interviewer, it made me question the relationship in the beginning but I am glad I stayed until the end. I learned that at least one person in the relationship has got to be optimistic.

  • @missadug
    @missadug Год назад +3

    Oh my goodness! I love her, I just taught a lesson on grit and showed the video of her Miss USA journey to the group of ladies I was teaching.

  • @its.jasminesmith
    @its.jasminesmith Год назад +8

    29 seconds in & Deshauna already preached I so relate to her def watching this whole video. So happy for her congrats to this beautiful couple! 🎉❤😊

  • @Sierra.Collins
    @Sierra.Collins Год назад +10

    This was really good. I say it wasn’t fate but God’s divine providence.

  • @IAmJamieAlexander
    @IAmJamieAlexander Год назад +5

    Laterras!! I take my hat off to you brother! Season 6 just keeps getting better and better. This couple/episode has me on the edge of my seat!!!!! 🔥🙌🏾😩🥰

  • @brendagreen5853
    @brendagreen5853 19 дней назад +1

    I Love This Couple, May God Continue To Bless This Union 🙏🏾❤️

  • @denisehouston7805
    @denisehouston7805 Год назад +6

    Thank you both for being transparent with your relationship this is so beautiful y'all being transparent about the negative & the positive. This interview was amazing & the clip made me cry. I wish you both the best - I pray God's Blessings for you both.

  • @ileniepowell
    @ileniepowell Год назад +5

    This was such an interesting and honest story by this beautiful couple. Seems like a solid foundation has been established. God bless your unión and a happy life❤

  • @leatricewalker8038
    @leatricewalker8038 Год назад +5

    This was great! I loved how they are so comfortable with each other and authentic.

  • @abzozo
    @abzozo Год назад +7

    The start was so weird but wow ,I wish them all the best.

  • @keelioness
    @keelioness Год назад +2

    I like this young man a lot . He is dropping knowledge. He let it be known he was interested in her then he respectfully stepped back when he was told she wasn’t ready. He went about dating with intention when the time was right…we women often confuse a man hounding us , chasing us down to mean oh he really likes me when really he’s only thinking about the thrill of the chase and nothing more

  • @chayilevents7979
    @chayilevents7979 Год назад +7

    This was interesting and the more I listened I understood more. He is definitely methodical they do balance each other out. I hope they get married soon ❤❤

  • @missnurseeri
    @missnurseeri Год назад +8

    “I’m going to go where I’m celebrated and not just tolerated.”
    First Right of Refusal - WOW
    Let me go ahead and add that to my arsenal right now 😂

  • @charloettejohnson4672
    @charloettejohnson4672 Год назад +7

    I love the interaction between the two of them 😊

  • @ladytinag4276
    @ladytinag4276 Год назад +8

    Great love story! I predict longevity. Blessings!

  • @Angela-qs4cz
    @Angela-qs4cz Год назад +13

    I also think the church pressure female in finding a partner. Especially if you finish college and working, then everyone is asking when you are getting a boyfriend etc. I was still not ready but the pressure caused me to get a boyfriend and that was a disaster.

  • @Letstalk_LoveHopeFaith
    @Letstalk_LoveHopeFaith Год назад +2

    Wowww amazing talk, thank you for allowing us to chime in on these!! Straight gems!!! But i have to say that my favorite part of these podcasts are your letters to your future wifey.. they are so poetic, real, and powerful!! you can feel the love you have for her with every word expressed even in the painful times!!! I'm praying for you and her and everyone connected to this journey!!!

  • @tikerachisley6028
    @tikerachisley6028 Год назад +2

    I so appreciate this episode! We often have these Pollyanna stories of love that make you think relationships have to start that way to work. Thank you for your honesty, transparency and vulnerability.

  • @rebeccadoree3226
    @rebeccadoree3226 Год назад +3

    I love this conversation.
    Dear women, get out of your head and use your words with the person you’re supposed to use them with. I appreciate Marvins approach to it all. He wasn’t hung up on her beauty he was focused on building a foundation and knowing if he even liked her. And we women gotta be more patient.
    You two are beautiful

  • @yourgirlshani
    @yourgirlshani Год назад +4

    This is beautiful. So many women (me including before meeting my husband) don't understand how men think in relationships and vice versa. Have a wonderful wedding!

  • @tkan1909
    @tkan1909 Год назад +9

    I am so glad that these two did not say “God told me”. Many times we’re so caught up in the love so strong thinking about that person all day and we think those thoughts and feeling are God but it is not.
    With sensitivity and understanding I know that relationships end for all kinds of reasons. However, when relationships do end and the ones ending it started it with “God told me” I have to question did God really tell you, do you feel like God is wrong for telling you and then it ends, did God give you a timeline?
    I love these two and their story. Grateful for this platform and space where we can be open and share our thoughts and feelings.
    (I wrote this comment just now on the Destene and Brandon’s video S5 Ep 514. Share your thoughts with me, am I tripping. I am newly single healing, knowing my husband needs to find me healed. With that said I’m also gonna side eye any man that says God told me you’re my wife. Real talk lol)

    • @Courie11e
      @Courie11e Год назад +4

      I understand your comment, because some men will say that but end up being Counterfeits. At the end of the day, God has to confirm on BOTH the men and women when it comes to your mate. As a single woman, I always pray for my future hubby and that both he and I are prepared for each other and that God confirms to BOTH of us that we are each others purpose partners.
      I can count on both hands how so many men came up to me with the BS " You're my wife", "God told me that I'm your hubby"...like GTHOH! LOLLLL! I know I'm wifey material, but I need God to confirm if you are my hubby.

    • @tkan1909
      @tkan1909 Год назад +1

      @@Courie11e yesss sis you’re preaching to the choir. It’s like they like idea of you being their wife and then it’s the God told me.
      Thanks for giving your thoughts 🙏🏾

  • @altheatucker3259
    @altheatucker3259 Год назад +6

    Oooo. I'm crying now Deshauna. The bar. All those relationships I would not have been a part of. The bar goes BACK up. I am worth it. Society has caused so much destruction to what relationships should be, especially for black women.

  • @deyaonsotti9594
    @deyaonsotti9594 Год назад +3

    Very healthy conversation. Thank you all for being vulnerable.

  • @chiomafamilyandparentingexpert
    @chiomafamilyandparentingexpert Год назад +5

    Thank you @laterras 🎉 for your obedience and telling us the unadulterated truth.

  • @Rashaadthegr8
    @Rashaadthegr8 Год назад +5

    We need Ling and Lamb next! That would be a soul food video. Laughter is good for the soul.

  • @thegardineventvenue5052
    @thegardineventvenue5052 Год назад +5

    I REALLY loved and enjoyed their story! Super inspirational and 💎💎💎💎💎 GEMS. 🥰🥰 Thank y’all!

  • @cannon5041
    @cannon5041 Год назад +5

    I came across your podcast on Instagram today and have been hooked ever since. I love hearing about the love stories from my people it's freaking amazing.