When Life Gets Hard: 12 Stoic Lessons To Change Your Life Before 2024 | Cal Newport

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  • Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024

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  • @2sancap
    @2sancap 3 месяца назад +1

    This is such a fantastic episode, coming back and relistening

  • @delancyj67
    @delancyj67 Год назад +6

    13:30 "Your inbox will bother you in The Bahamas as easily as it can in the suburbs." I live in The Bahamas and here are two takeaways from Cal's truth:
    1. With two work email addresses and three personal email addresses, I will confirm that email inboxes cause enough anxiety to totally ruin your day even if you are in The Bahamas.
    2. I watch American tourists on a daily basis. They work harder 'vacationing' than I work on my job. Their demand to 'get it all in' is cause for dismay and their insistence that we play along is sometimes problematic. It's no wonder there are epidemic levels of burnout, self-harm, and overdose in the US.
    Meditations' has much to teach on how we can better experience the world and with less stress.

  • @EnginerdBrian
    @EnginerdBrian Год назад +5

    12:15 Seneca has a similar idea in letter CIV - "The man who spends his time choosing one resort after another in a hunt for peace and quiet, will in every place he visits find something to prevent him from relaxing. The story is told that someone complained to Socrates that traveling abroad had never done him any good and received the reply: 'What else can you expect, seeing that you always take yourself along with you when you go abroad?'"

  • @lampyrisnoctiluca9904
    @lampyrisnoctiluca9904 8 месяцев назад

    This is just the thing I needed hearing right now. Since the last few weeks I am under a lot of stress. It is supposed to end together with February. I should try and have external outlook on my situation. I see myself being frozen by a fear. Fear of the stuff I can't control.
    What is the worst thing that could happen? Failed exam. OK. Why am I scared of that happening? If I do the job wrongly I will need to repeat the test. Maybe in the less ideal circumstances. Yes. Circumstances can be worse, but they probably won't be. Not studying a subject that was on the to-do list placed before something more important is either a way of not doing the important thing, or if transferred to the later date would free my time in a way that I could use my full energy on the important, but when the list was being made undervalued activity.
    Yeah, I know what I should be doing now. The important activity I underestimated. I have a week left in February. March is too late. This can definitely be done in a week. The other thing could be done as late as July. So, two things tomorrow, one the day after. Two things will remain to be done. First the harder thing will be done and then the easy thing is about copying the first thing while pretending that is not a copy. Removing one thing from my list to continue with the next thing is a good idea.
    And there is more. I don't want to be one of those whose slothfulness is stopping from doing their purpose in life. I have a plan now. Plan on how to get to my purpose. Once I get there everyone is to be surprised by it. I will work on it quietly in the shades. In a year and a half maximum my family will know my purpose. There won't be me telling them something just to realise I am not listened. They will see with their eyes. They will be surprised. 😊
    I should definitely add this book to my watch later list

  • @yuriyparamonov831
    @yuriyparamonov831 7 месяцев назад

    I love his practical achievements with stoicism

  • @anjanitripathi4447
    @anjanitripathi4447 Год назад +5

    Thank you Professor you are making positive changes in my life. Salute to you 🙏

  • @DirkSorensby
    @DirkSorensby Год назад +2

    Following that "by the end of the year plan," you laid out. Effective. 👍🙏

  • @natanribeiro6536
    @natanribeiro6536 Год назад +27

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
    00:13 📜 Discussing the relevance of stoic teachings from Marcus Aurelius's "Meditations" to modern concerns of living a deep life amidst distractions.
    01:21 🌌 Emphasizing human value as a basis for justice, a core philosophical underpinning diverging from Stoicism's focus on natural order (logos).
    03:29 🧠 Highlighting stoicism's enduring relevance due to its deep psychological truths and nuanced understandingof human mind.
    05:31 📚 Introducing a structured discussion on 12 selected ideas from "Meditations" to explore connections with modern fight against distractions.
    07:35 🚫 Advising against getting sidetracked by trivial pursuits and focusing on what truly matters.
    08:57 📵 Emphasizing the need to create time for self-learning instead of being pulled in all directions by external distractions.
    10:57 💭 Advocating for a reflective approach to thinking and the significance of controlling one's thoughts.
    12:36 🌄 Disputing the notion that a radical locational change will alleviate personal discontent or anxiety.
    13:42 🏞️ Stressing the importance of finding peace within regardless of external circumstances.
    16:14 💪 Emphasizing the importance of resilience and getting back on the right path after failures.
    19:48 💀 Employing a stoic exercise of contemplating death to appreciate life and avoid wasteful living.
    21:10 🎯 Urging to confront and define one's purpose in life beyond mere pleasure or distractions.
    22:05 🚫 Recognizing anxiety as a self-created perception and discarding it to escape its grip.
    22:18 🧠 Discussing the physical sensations associated with anxiety, and distinguishing between the physical sensations and the mind's interpretation of anxiety.
    22:47 💡 Marcus Aurelius' insight on anxiety being a perception and a labeling of physical sensations.
    23:16 👁️ The analogy of a healthy mind being prepared for anything, just as eyes should see everything and not be choosy about what they perceive.
    23:42 🌊 Acknowledging the inevitability of ups and downs in life as a part of the human condition, and not fixating on avoiding bad events or perceptions.
    24:24 🌿 Marcus Aurelius' resilience through hardships, debunking the idea of needing perfect conditions to function as a human.
    24:53 🎭 Emphasizing the importance of having a vision for your life, and a philosophical approach towards life to avoid flailing.
    25:48 📱 The value of having a philosophy in engaging with modern technology, pointing out the two groups of people - those with a value-based philosophy and those without.
    26:15 🤔 Discussing the significance of how the mind conducts itself and reacts to events and perceptions, not the events themselves.
    27:11 📖 Mentioning the success of the book "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius and its translation, showing the enduring appeal of Stoicism.
    27:54 🔄 The pragmatic approaches of Roman Stoicism towards life, emphasizing on psychological realism and its relevance to modern life.
    43:42 🔄 Discussing a transition in academia and the challenge of feeling inadequately competitive or ambitious towards achieving a senior position at a different university.
    45:42 🌱 The speaker advises recognizing one's own achievements and not to rush, but rather take time, especially when personal circumstances such as having a baby are present.
    47:46 🕰️ Suggestion to embrace the long-term nature of life, and to re-engage with personal values and communities, hinting at a more holistic approach to life and career planning.
    49:53 🔄 Advises to downshift, reflect and re-engage with different life aspects before deciding on the next professional move.
    52:38 🚀 Transition to a question about managing stress and focusing on important tasks in a CEO role of a growing startup, with stress increasing over the last five years.
    53:34 🗂️ Practical advice on hiring a Chief of Staff to delegate tasks and manage information flows, and restructuring communication and management strategies to handle workload efficiently.
    56:37 🛑 Recommending a stop to morning meetings to reserve time for strategic thinking and important work.
    57:19 🔄 Introducing a philosophical approach from the book "Company of One" by Paul Jarvis, to choose between growing the company or maintaining a balanced life by charging more and working less.
    01:01:16 🔄 Addressing a question on handling work setbacks, advising a slower pace and embracing a natural, seasonal rhythm to work, allowing for periods of rest and recharge.
    01:02:50 🌊 Suggesting a go-with-the-flow approach post setback, allowing time for recovery and re-evaluation before taking on the next project.
    01:03:31 📖 Cal Newport discusses early humans' work patterns during the hunter-gatherer period, suggesting a modern adaptation involving intense work periods followed by rest.
    01:04:23 📚 Promotion of Blinkist app, which provides 15-minute summaries of non-fiction books, aiding in deciding whether to read the full book.
    01:06:00 🪦 Mention of Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" leading to a segue into discussing the importance of life insurance via Policy Genius.
    01:08:07 💼 Discussion on Elon Musk's life insurance policy during his PayPal days, as a signal of his importance to the company.
    01:09:02 📚 Cal shares books he read in September, including "Full Wolf Moon" by Lincoln Child, "The Underworld" by Susan Casey, Oliver Burkeman's "4,000 Weeks", "Rethinking Fandom" by Craig Calcaterra, and "Ice Station Zebra" by Alistair MacLean.
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  • @hopelessatusernames
    @hopelessatusernames Год назад +13

    Lots in here that resonates with me this week, and confirms my instinct to continue the deep life stack /4 month reboot instead of making hasty decisions about my career. The values phase has coincided with a work crisis where i realised my values don't jibe with the office culture. However, i have a tremendous amount of security, flexibility over my time, and a lot of leverage for at least the next 2 years, so am going to try doing things differently. I may leave, in which case i can take time to prepare. Or i may find a way to make it work for me.
    Also burnt out! So it's a good idea to take the 4 months to recalibrate.

  • @2sancap
    @2sancap Год назад +2

    I really like the question about bouncing back from a setback, and your response.
    I have often felt guilty when I’m not performing at a consistently high professional level. I think the whole hustle / productivity culture enables this guilt. I also need a lot of unstructured downtime after completing a project, to be able to function at my best and be able to produce good work. I have a deep loathing of being overwhelmed and over scheduled.

  • @HuxsMom
    @HuxsMom Год назад +1

    Your response to Margot was spot on and you delivered it in such a kind way. Thanks for all you do.

  • @railzip
    @railzip Год назад +1

    Just picked up this book!

  • @maximelagace
    @maximelagace Год назад +13

    "The intelligent desire self-control; children want candy."
    -Rumi

  • @fofikos6128
    @fofikos6128 Год назад +4

    Actually, Meditations was written in Ancient Greek.

  • @brettkeller
    @brettkeller Год назад

    this show has a lot of good stuff but its unwatchable because of the ads being stuffed into my ears. have never made it more than 2-3 episodes in a row before i stop listening for months because i cant stand hearing them anymore. eventually i forget and try to listen to more episodes and am reminded.

  • @BreezeTalk
    @BreezeTalk Год назад +1

    Cal it seems to me that you are a serious/smart and well meaning person. Why then do you write the emotionally charged headings on your videos and use a face of surprise or almost disbelief.
    I want to feel calm and I want to feel like I can believe you, both of which I know I can because usually you are serious with what you present in your videos.
    I know RUclipsrs who are part of the realistic and well meaning part of the internet and they don’t use the same emotionally charged forms that you use.
    It makes me feel better getting my feelings about the disconnect between what I think your videos are about and what I think your captions are about.
    I found your video about identity really interesting.

    • @BreezeTalk
      @BreezeTalk Год назад

      What I am trying to say is I think your thumbnail won’t work with the audience you have.
      We got here because RUclips knows we are thinkers first and reactors second and then thinkers again.

    • @BreezeTalk
      @BreezeTalk Год назад +1

      Like sometimes you do say some pretty normie stuff like “stay off social media” which sounds like advice to avoid the problem instead of understand it. But generally I think you have interesting advice and that is why I check in.

    • @epistafi
      @epistafi Год назад

      @Saveself99 I almost never look at thumbnails. their function is intive new people to videos. Almost like his books, the most meaning is inside, not on the cover

  • @frank2067
    @frank2067 Год назад +1

    If you’re like the Adam Sandler character in Uncut Gems when you’re always one step ahead of getting your arm broken and Idina Menzel yelling at you, then that’s going to hold you back from your true human nature -Calvin C. Newport

  • @mountainspark
    @mountainspark Год назад +16

    Just curious why "nonsence" is spelled that way, is that a reference to something? Sorry, I'm new here, I may have missed it!

    • @sang-jinchung3959
      @sang-jinchung3959 Год назад +9

      I think it is just a typo

    • @kahyui2486
      @kahyui2486 Год назад

      It's called being shit at spelling

    • @will-la
      @will-la Год назад +2

      Seneca is stoic philosopher

    • @_aiborie
      @_aiborie Год назад +1

      The typos are just lousy, it doesn't cost much to do quality checks. He needs someone better to handle his RUclips Channel, the graphics aren't even impressive. The recent red thumbnails look very amateurish.

    • @nancydeppandhamlet
      @nancydeppandhamlet Год назад +6

      Typo. It’s all ok! He is brilliant and chooses to spend his time with more important manners. To the comment criticizing his video… just be grateful he spends his time to give you this knowledge. Don’t be picky.

  • @roberts6099
    @roberts6099 Год назад

    You read it the other day???

  • @beckscald3855
    @beckscald3855 Год назад +3

    Does anyone else take notes or is it just me? ?

    • @2sancap
      @2sancap Год назад +1

      I have a Cal notebook, I write outlines of each episode so I can circle back to topics.

    • @beckscald3855
      @beckscald3855 Год назад

      @@2sancap I was writing down all the quotes. Other episodes have been more of a bullet point type thing similar to yourself.

  • @OLOSBARBELL
    @OLOSBARBELL Год назад +5

    The logos. Cal that's Jesus.and yes, You should follow him.

    • @mintoness62
      @mintoness62 Год назад +1

      Amen! Following Jesus is what we were made to do.

  • @anjanitripathi4447
    @anjanitripathi4447 Год назад

    You didn't talk about Hinduism

    • @nomansyt
      @nomansyt Год назад

      Hinduism is different from these religions. Basically the philosophy behind Hinduism is different. For example Buddhism is somewhat similar to religions he is talking about.

  • @theencryptedpartition4633
    @theencryptedpartition4633 Год назад

    Why is Jesse looking at you like you started doing pot

  • @leonardoxford9043
    @leonardoxford9043 Год назад

    Thats a 20 year old translation

  • @matthewcaldwell8100
    @matthewcaldwell8100 Месяц назад

    Oh I knew it was just a matter of time before your self-help grift converged with the Stoic self-help grift. I had that on my bingo card as far back as Deep Work.