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My boyfriend and I take turns saying how glad we met (dog park), how lucky we talked for months and became friends until 6 months later and I leaned in for a kiss, how calm and easygoing we both are together. I’ve never felt so comfortable around a human being like I feel with him. Now we both have been single for years and we both just thought we would be alone; and we were each fine with that. I think just knowing we choose each other really puts this relationship in another galaxy compared to what I’ve had.
Doing the inner work is a MUST!! To have freedom from emotional and mental trauma is so rewarding, whether you have a relationship or not in the long run.
He answers at 10:45. He says that missing someone usually involves anxious attachment-fear of losing the other. He says what is more important than having someone miss you is having them be grateful for you.
THANK YOU for telling the truth!!! I JUST found you, I subbed. Generational "stuff" is critical, read Harville Hendrix a long time ago "your subconscious mind has NO idea what time it is" I love him/Helen too. I think being honest with each other, albeit shocking is key, men and women could also STOP being so mean to each other. Thanks for the great analysis and information.
@@JonathonAslay Thank you Jonathon. That is most kind of you. Would you mind if I asked this question please. With regards to men expressing their feel ings for a woman. Does this apply to both sexes or not?
I think you are the most authentic coaçh for life I have ever seen and i have seen and read a lot. I am damaged with BPD, CPTSD, DEPRESSION ANXIETY ETC.Those i am getting help with. But i am an authentic, kind, honest, respectful 59 yr old woman. I have been in recovery for 30 yrs. I work the 12 steps, i am cognitive, i am in love with love ie giving loving acts to Spiders, insects, wildlife, etc. i would love to be in a relaxed and trusting relationship with a man where we can both contribute to one another. But right now i am living below the poverty line. I had a stroke a month ago because of stress. My responsibility. I don't want anything for free from you except a first direction step. A book, a practice, etc. i am prideful but i have enough humility to hear what i need to do.. if not no worries as i dont want to devalue your work. Thank you for being real ❤
Watching Moonstruck tonight❤ Ronny Cammareri: Loretta, I love you. Not like they told you love is, and I didn't know this either, but love don't make things nice - it ruins everything. It breaks your heart.
Someone told me one time,I missed you . I told I don't want to be missed because you'll get sad and i don't want someone to be sad because of me. My WHY is to inspire to motivate even one person. I don't like the idea don't chase her don't chase him don't. Some advise don't initiate. Who will initiate to whom? Yes I have also insecure especially I'm not no longer 4ever21😊. We need assurance JA in relationship that how flawed we are our someone can accept us while we are trying to be better. I want you as calm JA 😊
I just returned from 47 days at my BF’s cabin … I’m missing him & EXTREMELY grateful for the time we had together. We met 16 mos ago & have spent 275 days together … our $ are similar but we have FUN doing almost anything together & our chemistry is awesome 😎 It’s NOT perfect by any means but I feel this distance gives us the chance to reflect & APPRECIATE each other. But I do miss him especially when I wake up in the middle of the night & he’s not next to me. :/
There's definitely talk in the red pill community of men being replaced by 'Chad from Sales' and teach men how to avoid it from happening in their relationships.
Character is not number one in relationship. Nor is friendship. Feeling is. It's mysterious, instantaneous, & palpable & you can't calculate it in Excel. It's there or it's not. Everything else is failure & fitting square pegs in round holes. It will never be the dream.... All else is mediocre at best & is what most relationships are primarily. I agree w Stephan speaks on this. Most will never experience it.
@delorisharrison6731 barometer of what? friends are friends. You don't want to sleep w them. ...that's why they're friends in the first place. & if you're not ignited in that's special way by feelings, all the x's & o's just don't matter bc it ain't going nowhere.
Jonathan, would like your thought on this from another relationship coach....'Ladies, in general stay away from spiritual men unless they very clearly know how to lead. You can thank me later.'
After watching many different coaches I tend to stick with you. I was brought up on the rules. It works well to increase self esteem and chapter 1 is definitely the most useful. The rules of marriage the follow up book is awful. But back to the point. After watching many of your videos I'm thinking my life would not match with anyone. I still have young children even though I'm older.
@@JonathonAslay ahh Okay I'll try what I can do as if we're close hahahaha 🤣. I admire Mark Laita though sometimes I don't want to watch his content because I feel pain with some people's stories.
Friendly suggestion 🙏 check out the book "Sex at Dawn" it will help you when you reference "pre historic" people ... Also you probably have discovered this via plant medicine 🌵🌸 but "modern" people are not really more advanced. There is plenty of evidence that the "cave man" story is actually more of a Flintstones cartoon. And that humans have an unbelievably complex and often times highly conscious past 🙌 In fact, we might be dumber now than we've ever been 😅
I’m going to say this…. and I Respect you. When your Life is about to end and we don’t know when….. There Will Be No one else to be accountable to , But Our Lord JESUS.! All roads do not lead to GOD! 11:18 only Jesus ! It’s simple, you don’t have to go get a mushroom experience!❤
What I don't understand is psychologists say to communicate and express your feelings and everything but then like you get all the opposite like on social media and Facebook and when you actually talk to people it's like the complete opposite. You know that you're supposed to wait for the man and he's supposed to you know you're 4 hours back you're supposed to text him or wait for a response and you're supposed to do everything the way he wants you to and you know people say you know since the 60s females have rights females matter but it's almost the same thing only twisted or worse it almost seems like women just don't matter nowadays and according to the culture in psychology and you know the decades in the 60s and 70s and the previous ones from then on. Movement and everything else I just don't see how anything has changed I think well women still get treated like property and worse than dirt and still don't have opinions about that matter according to other people and everything else they get probably treated just as bad or worse than they did in the 60s and 70sand honestly I think they have probably gotten better treated better than 1950s even up to the 1800s then they do now
@@JonathonAslay How is it manipulative? It's an appeal to a falsehood to justify an argument or position that has no provable evidence in the present or past. Back in the day, we used to say "out of sight, out of mind." It's the same as when folks say that specific chemicals cause certain behaviors. It's nearly impossible to prove objectively. However, to say it creates a cultural reification--a cultural dictate or norm. Attachment after copulation is supposed to bond a woman to a man. If it doesn't, she's labeled & seen as a tart. It becomes a self-imposed behavior. The woman unconsciously self-judges as the cultural norms dictates.
❤ luv it. What about the opposite? What if women could pick, pursue, & propose to her heart's desire? Think of how powerful that is vs choosing from only those who have chosen you. Free rein. Women still don't have it, & it must be why women initiate divorce more often & orgasm at a rate of 25%. They're not with the one they love, instead they're loving the one they're with. ..& it makes all the difference. Let's hope it changes for the young ones 🤞
Burden is on the man. Most women have family and lifelong extended family, neighbors and acquaintances. After breeding years no real drive to pair off.
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@@JonathonAslay I have considered it
My boyfriend and I take turns saying how glad we met (dog park), how lucky we talked for months and became friends until 6 months later and I leaned in for a kiss, how calm and easygoing we both are together. I’ve never felt so comfortable around a human being like I feel with him. Now we both have been single for years and we both just thought we would be alone; and we were each fine with that. I think just knowing we choose each other really puts this relationship in another galaxy compared to what I’ve had.
Doing the inner work is a MUST!! To have freedom from emotional and mental trauma is so rewarding, whether you have a relationship or not in the long run.
This is so refreshing to hear. Suddenly all the other dating coaches I’ve been listening to sound so generic!!! Taking notes!!! Thanks Jonathon. 👌🏾
Glad it was helpful!
He answers at 10:45. He says that missing someone usually involves anxious attachment-fear of losing the other. He says what is more important than having someone miss you is having them be grateful for you.
Exactly
@reginasimon8784 yes, thank you, I got so much out of this video... :o)
Thank you!! I'm like when is he going to get to the point lol
So a key ingredient of successful relationships is working that gratitude muscle
Yes, exactly
THANK YOU for telling the truth!!! I JUST found you, I subbed. Generational "stuff" is critical, read Harville Hendrix a long time ago "your subconscious mind has NO idea what time it is" I love him/Helen too. I think being honest with each other, albeit shocking is key, men and women could also STOP being so mean to each other. Thanks for the great analysis and information.
Thanks for the sub!
Damn you are speaking such truth!
Thank you very much Jonathon for your very wise, true and kind words and advice as always. Much appreciated.
My pleasure!
@@JonathonAslay Thank you Jonathon. That is most kind of you.
Would you mind if I asked this question please.
With regards to men expressing their feel ings for a woman. Does this apply to both sexes or not?
Mutual gratitude sounds amazing!
It really is!
I think you are the most authentic coaçh for life I have ever seen and i have seen and read a lot. I am damaged with BPD, CPTSD, DEPRESSION ANXIETY ETC.Those i am getting help with. But i am an authentic, kind, honest, respectful 59 yr old woman. I have been in recovery for 30 yrs. I work the 12 steps, i am cognitive, i am in love with love ie giving loving acts to Spiders, insects, wildlife, etc. i would love to be in a relaxed and trusting relationship with a man where we can both contribute to one another. But right now i am living below the poverty line. I had a stroke a month ago because of stress. My responsibility. I don't want anything for free from you except a first direction step. A book, a practice, etc. i am prideful but i have enough humility to hear what i need to do.. if not no worries as i dont want to devalue your work. Thank you for being real ❤
I've read this 3 times, thank you 😊
Watching Moonstruck tonight❤
Ronny Cammareri: Loretta, I love you. Not like they told you love is, and I didn't know this either, but love don't make things nice - it ruins everything. It breaks your heart.
Love the tree Analogy.Dumb and dumber like 1 in a million seriously, great video.
Lol 😆
Someone told me one time,I missed you . I told I don't want to be missed because you'll get sad and i don't want someone to be sad because of me. My WHY is to inspire to motivate even one person. I don't like the idea don't chase her don't chase him don't. Some advise don't initiate. Who will initiate to whom?
Yes I have also insecure especially I'm not no longer 4ever21😊.
We need assurance JA in relationship that how flawed we are our someone can accept us while we are trying to be better.
I want you as calm JA 😊
I just returned from 47 days at my BF’s cabin … I’m missing him & EXTREMELY grateful for the time we had together. We met 16 mos ago & have spent 275 days together … our $ are similar but we have FUN doing almost anything together & our chemistry is awesome 😎
It’s NOT perfect by any means but I feel this distance gives us the chance to reflect & APPRECIATE each other.
But I do miss him especially when I wake up in the middle of the night & he’s not next to me. :/
I think parental issues are more responsible for abandonment issues, my ex has them
Yes
❤... a great read of truth... thank you... ❤️
Any one who abuse you either psychologically or emotionally always leave to dv in the relationship! Run 🏃♀️
Indeed
Yes❤ Jonathan thank you❤
Good talk
There's definitely talk in the red pill community of men being replaced by 'Chad from Sales' and teach men how to avoid it from happening in their relationships.
What is it?--chad from sales?
Character is not number one in relationship. Nor is friendship. Feeling is. It's mysterious, instantaneous, & palpable & you can't calculate it in Excel. It's there or it's not. Everything else is failure & fitting square pegs in round holes. It will never be the dream.... All else is mediocre at best & is what most relationships are primarily. I agree w Stephan speaks on this. Most will never experience it.
Noted
Feelings lie!….certainly NOT a good choice of a barometer
@delorisharrison6731 barometer of what? friends are friends. You don't want to sleep w them. ...that's why they're friends in the first place. & if you're not ignited in that's special way by feelings, all the x's & o's just don't matter bc it ain't going nowhere.
I think intermittent reinforcement is just plain 100% toxic. When I see someone deliberately doing that I’m just plain out of there. It’s toxic!!
It can be
Jonathan, would like your thought on this from another relationship coach....'Ladies, in general stay away from spiritual men unless they very clearly know how to lead. You can thank me later.'
@@tristamarie7115 i'd love to know why that person said that!
Who said this?
By the way... a lemming might lead someone over a cliff.
After watching many different coaches I tend to stick with you. I was brought up on the rules. It works well to increase self esteem and chapter 1 is definitely the most useful. The rules of marriage the follow up book is awful. But back to the point. After watching many of your videos I'm thinking my life would not match with anyone. I still have young children even though I'm older.
There a pot for every lid...
JA how about your email to Mark Laita about your desire to be in his channel SWU ? I want to see you there also.
I've not heard from him
@@JonathonAslay ahh Okay I'll try what I can do as if we're close hahahaha 🤣. I admire Mark Laita though sometimes I don't want to watch his content because I feel pain with some people's stories.
Message done on his channel via comment section. Hopefully he will see it.
Another self
Yes
Friendly suggestion 🙏 check out the book "Sex at Dawn" it will help you when you reference "pre historic" people ... Also you probably have discovered this via plant medicine 🌵🌸 but "modern" people are not really more advanced. There is plenty of evidence that the "cave man" story is actually more of a Flintstones cartoon. And that humans have an unbelievably complex and often times highly conscious past 🙌 In fact, we might be dumber now than we've ever been 😅
Those men protecting their tribes from the Dinosaurs. Heroes and damn sexy, no wonder the womenfolk were scared to lose them - genetics.
Wait, what? Small correction: dinosaur extinction happened 66 million years ago. Homo erectus appeared 2 million years ago.
My bad, I meant wooly mammoth
I’m going to say this…. and I Respect you. When your Life is about to end and we don’t know when….. There Will Be No one else to be accountable to , But Our Lord JESUS.! All roads do not lead to GOD! 11:18 only Jesus ! It’s simple, you don’t have to go get a mushroom experience!❤
Noted
What I don't understand is psychologists say to communicate and express your feelings and everything but then like you get all the opposite like on social media and Facebook and when you actually talk to people it's like the complete opposite. You know that you're supposed to wait for the man and he's supposed to you know you're 4 hours back you're supposed to text him or wait for a response and you're supposed to do everything the way he wants you to and you know people say you know since the 60s females have rights females matter but it's almost the same thing only twisted or worse it almost seems like women just don't matter nowadays and according to the culture in psychology and you know the decades in the 60s and 70s and the previous ones from then on. Movement and everything else I just don't see how anything has changed I think well women still get treated like property and worse than dirt and still don't have opinions about that matter according to other people and everything else they get probably treated just as bad or worse than they did in the 60s and 70sand honestly I think they have probably gotten better treated better than 1950s even up to the 1800s then they do now
It's confusing indeed..
❤
Probably best not to superimpose personal ideas on history. It's manipulative and presumptive IMO.
How so?
@@JonathonAslay How is it manipulative? It's an appeal to a falsehood to justify an argument or position that has no provable evidence in the present or past. Back in the day, we used to say "out of sight, out of mind."
It's the same as when folks say that specific chemicals cause certain behaviors. It's nearly impossible to prove objectively. However, to say it creates a cultural reification--a cultural dictate or norm. Attachment after copulation is supposed to bond a woman to a man. If it doesn't, she's labeled & seen as a tart. It becomes a self-imposed behavior. The woman unconsciously self-judges as the cultural norms dictates.
Cut it out!!
You've said everything but have not said anything. Come on get to the point
Men play games. Why in the hell should women have to go after a man at all? An older woman doing this is a sad and pathetic mess.
❤ luv it. What about the opposite? What if women could pick, pursue, & propose to her heart's desire? Think of how powerful that is vs choosing from only those who have chosen you. Free rein. Women still don't have it, & it must be why women initiate divorce more often & orgasm at a rate of 25%. They're not with the one they love, instead they're loving the one they're with. ..& it makes all the difference. Let's hope it changes for the young ones 🤞
Effort is not pursuit
Burden is on the man. Most women have family and lifelong extended family, neighbors and acquaintances. After breeding years no real drive to pair off.
@mariad1151 wouldn't work out. A man is drawn to the physical attributes the most. Not changing anytime soon.
@stephaniepersin4222 It's the same for women. You've lost me.