It means a lot seeing the perspective of your daughter growing in the polygyny atmosphere seeing each perspective of different types of marriage and seeing the bigger pictures and structuring herself as she was enriched in the family atmosphere you create with the family and working on making it work
It speaks a lot to the example of the family for her to desire this type of marriage. Very beautiful! May Allah continue to bless you all and give you the success! May He make you all better than what anyone of us thinks! Ameen ❤️
I see women who practice polygamy as being very selfless. By recognizing if they have a great man and leader that they would want that for their fellow sisters as well. And that's not to take anything from anyone else who does not choose to practice polygamy. We all have different attributes at different times in our lives. May Allah's blessings continue to fall upon you and your family
🎉What a fabulous interview with this young sister! It’s great to hear opinions from our youths whether we like them or not. So many people don’t respect ✊🏾 our ☪️ youths enough to care about what they think. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Es Salamu Walaikum, presentation greatly influences how many people feel about anything. My daughter has a companion whose husband has three wives, and the sister wants for nothing, so my daughter has a positive outlook on palygny. More money less problems! ( I'm just being cute, I know money doesn't make people happy. )
You are actually right. Polygyny in Poverty ends up in Domestic Violonce and i know Familys they must beg others for most basic daily stuff. So its important to have Money so everyone is provided for and every Wife has her Place.
In many counties like the the UK and US it is only possible to legally marry one person. I know that you and Coach Nazir are married Islamically but I'm wondering if this leaves you with less legal rights under US law as it could be an issue here in the UK where I am. It would be interesting to hear if you have any tips for incoming wives for ensuring that you have the financial and legal protection of a wife if you happen to live in a country where you aren't legally married to your husband. I mean no disrespect with this question but am interested in how you ensure that you are protected if things go wrong.
An interesting observation that people have, especially when it comes to marriage, is that the government is efficient, helpful, impartial, and just in providing people their rights. I've never heard anyone whose dealt with bureaucracy and thought, I love it, let them run my family and personal affairs 😂. Nevertheless, properly utilizing things like corporations, companies, and trusts allows people to exert control on how things operate.
As a 28 year old lady, I think my opinion is worth giving because I’m woman myself. From women’s perspective these are our pains&fears: 2. Unworthiness& not feeling special anymore- We as women feel less valued and loved if we are one of many women our husband might have versus the case when we are the one and only. Our minds be like: ‘If he loves me then why he has still a need for another woman’. Moreover 1 husband = 4 wives in our minds sometimes translates as 1 man is equal to 4 women, hence women have less value comparing to a man. So, the implication of unworthiness, not being special haunts us each time polygyny is mentioned. 2. Women feel really cheated on by emotional cheating(our beloved one falling in love with someone else) that’s why I’m fine with my husband having short affairs rather than having another wife. I would prefer my husband cheating on me every day of my life than him taking second, third or fourth wife. And since if a man marries another woman he develops feelings as a consequence this is the ultimate betrayal to a woman - loving someone else besides her. While men can have affairs without being in love with the particular woman, hence affairs do not scare us as second wives do. 3. His heart will always side with one of the women. In Qur’an is stated that men can never be just with their wives even if this is their ardent desire. So, is quite possible that our husband’s heart sides to the better looking wife in this case the second wife because the first one is usually older and consumated by children and helping the husband building life together. Hence, a woman knows that she probably isn’t going to be the most loved wife and she asks herself: ‘ if Allah gave me one husband and to my husband many wives, than why can’t I have the right to have a husband that truly loves me more than anything else. I deserve to be the most loved one because I have no one besides him. Having one man and being in the second or third place in his heart is pretty much offensive and implicates that the woman is unworthy, because if she would be worthy she would be the most loved and the only one’. I would like to add the fourth point: 4. Sacrificing wifely rights for the husband. Many many times women in their marriages let go of many rights Allah gave women, such as having her own abode(she instead lives with in-laws), financial privileges and the mahr (she is the bread winner too and works many hours in labor just to help a husband with a responsibility that originally is his only), helps a husband building something while sacrificing her time and energy instead of going out and having fun as a woman, she might preoccupy her life with heavy issues that are designed for men’s strong shoulders, hence she can end up overstressed and consumed, and many many other rights a woman can let go off only and only for the sake of the husband. So the question is, if one party let’s go of its rights to ease the life of the other party, how on earth is fair for the other party to keep all its privileges. In short, if I let go of my rights for you, I expect you to leave your rights for me. Another thing is that in today’s age, women invest in their homes and husbands life too, and with investment comes entitlement. You feel entitled that something is yours(and yours only) if you invested in that thing. Let’s say I finance my husband studies on university, him buying a house and getting a career(things that Allah hasn’t obligated me), does it feel right now for him to go to the new wife ‘brand new’ made by his first wife?? Is like investing in a house and then someone else taking it without contributing anything in it. Remember, if we invest anything outside women’s original duties that we feel entitled that we own you(meaning we are your only partner). Just like men invest in their wives and rightfully feel they own their wives(by being the only husband). When the husband brings up the topic of polygyny she recalls all her rights that she let go because of her husband, just to make his life easier, and as a consequence she let go the peace of mind, the comfort as a lady, instead she got involved in heavy manly duties hence having hard life.She feels stupid and deceived. She lost her rights, her priviledges given by Allah and the husband = a real looser. She realizes that she could get a billionaire and be his third wife, now he has a regular guy and still have cowives. If I knew that I would end up with cowives I would choose an alfa rich man and NOT a regular dude. So the wife is in the loose- loose situation. Is like getting for a wife an old barren lady and she being high maintenance, as a man you would accept this from a young pretty one and not by the old ugly one. I hope this makes sense to you(men that are reading this).
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😄You didn’t choose wrong with those other brothers sister. You were probably just young & didn’t know any better. A lot of men deceive women into marriages by presenting themselves as someone they’re not 🎭 .
Yeah we don't think there's such thing as a marriage with more than two either. Polygyny is a man married to multiple wives, he has separate marriages, they aren't mixed.
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi I dont think the marriages are really seperate. In the olden days it was necessary for survival. Many children died before reaching adulthood .
@@olivia9408 I also would have difficulty with that. Because I know thats not easy. I understand what you are saying, but for me its not totally the same. If depends on how he goes around with them. If I suspect that they are still sexually involved its over. I cannot have a real relationship with someone if there are other wives. Its also very one sided in these relationships because a woman cannot have multiple husbands. They can have all the fun and you are very restricted with a niqab etc in your head.
Love the emotional intelligence and just the aura of these women. I pray one day to find women as aware of the bigger picture as you wonderful ladies
It means a lot seeing the perspective of your daughter growing in the polygyny atmosphere seeing each perspective of different types of marriage and seeing the bigger pictures and structuring herself as she was enriched in the family atmosphere you create with the family and working on making it work
It speaks a lot to the example of the family for her to desire this type of marriage. Very beautiful! May Allah continue to bless you all and give you the success! May He make you all better than what anyone of us thinks! Ameen ❤️
beautiful amazing bonding between daughter and mother.
Having a Polygyny conference in Dubai would be ideal
🎉I wish they could do a national polygany tour!
I see women who practice polygamy as being very selfless. By recognizing if they have a great man and leader that they would want that for their fellow sisters as well. And that's not to take anything from anyone else who does not choose to practice polygamy. We all have different attributes at different times in our lives. May Allah's blessings continue to fall upon you and your family
🎉What a fabulous interview with this young sister! It’s great to hear opinions from our youths whether we like them or not. So many people don’t respect ✊🏾 our ☪️ youths enough to care about what they think. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
It's interesting to see how aonther religion handles polygamy, starkly different from fundamental Mormonism.
Es Salamu Walaikum, presentation greatly influences how many people feel about anything. My daughter has a companion whose husband has three wives, and the sister wants for nothing, so my daughter has a positive outlook on palygny. More money less problems! ( I'm just being cute, I know money doesn't make people happy. )
You are actually right. Polygyny in Poverty ends up in Domestic Violonce and i know Familys they must beg others for most basic daily stuff. So its important to have Money so everyone is provided for and every Wife has her Place.
I can’t wait to hear this convo!
What is the significance of the 1st wife vs the 2nd? Does each wife sleep in her own bed or in their own room?
In many counties like the the UK and US it is only possible to legally marry one person. I know that you and Coach Nazir are married Islamically but I'm wondering if this leaves you with less legal rights under US law as it could be an issue here in the UK where I am.
It would be interesting to hear if you have any tips for incoming wives for ensuring that you have the financial and legal protection of a wife if you happen to live in a country where you aren't legally married to your husband.
I mean no disrespect with this question but am interested in how you ensure that you are protected if things go wrong.
Additional wives can have an LLC or operational agreement with the husband that specifies these.
An interesting observation that people have, especially when it comes to marriage, is that the government is efficient, helpful, impartial, and just in providing people their rights. I've never heard anyone whose dealt with bureaucracy and thought, I love it, let them run my family and personal affairs 😂.
Nevertheless, properly utilizing things like corporations, companies, and trusts allows people to exert control on how things operate.
Toot toot....yaeah!!!!! Beep beep!
GO POLYGYNY ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You and me both
As a 28 year old lady, I think my opinion is worth giving because I’m woman myself. From women’s perspective these are our pains&fears:
2. Unworthiness& not feeling special anymore- We as women feel less valued and loved if we are one of many women our husband might have versus the case when we are the one and only.
Our minds be like: ‘If he loves me then why he has still a need for another woman’. Moreover 1 husband = 4 wives in our minds sometimes translates as 1 man is equal to 4 women, hence women have less value comparing to a man. So, the implication of unworthiness, not being special haunts us each time polygyny is mentioned.
2. Women feel really cheated on by emotional cheating(our beloved one falling in love with someone else) that’s why I’m fine with my husband having short affairs rather than having another wife. I would prefer my husband cheating on me every day of my life than him taking second, third or fourth wife.
And since if a man marries another woman he develops feelings as a consequence this is the ultimate betrayal to a woman - loving someone else besides her. While men can have affairs without being in love with the particular woman, hence affairs do not scare us as second wives do.
3. His heart will always side with one of the women. In Qur’an is stated that men can never be just with their wives even if this is their ardent desire. So, is quite possible that our husband’s heart sides to the better looking wife in this case the second wife because the first one is usually older and consumated by children and helping the husband building life together.
Hence, a woman knows that she probably isn’t going to be the most loved wife and she asks herself: ‘ if Allah gave me one husband and to my husband many wives, than why can’t I have the right to have a husband that truly loves me more than anything else. I deserve to be the most loved one because I have no one besides him. Having one man and being in the second or third place in his heart is pretty much offensive and implicates that the woman is unworthy, because if she would be worthy she would be the most loved and the only one’.
I would like to add the fourth point:
4. Sacrificing wifely rights for the husband.
Many many times women in their marriages let go of many rights Allah gave women, such as having her own abode(she instead lives with in-laws), financial privileges and the mahr (she is the bread winner too and works many hours in labor just to help a husband with a responsibility that originally is his only), helps a husband building something while sacrificing her time and energy instead of going out and having fun as a woman, she might preoccupy her life with heavy issues that are designed for men’s strong shoulders, hence she can end up overstressed and consumed, and many many other rights a woman can let go off only and only for the sake of the husband.
So the question is, if one party let’s go of its rights to ease the life of the other party, how on earth is fair for the other party to keep all its privileges.
In short, if I let go of my rights for you, I expect you to leave your rights for me.
Another thing is that in today’s age, women invest in their homes and husbands life too, and with investment comes entitlement. You feel entitled that something is yours(and yours only) if you invested in that thing.
Let’s say I finance my husband studies on university, him buying a house and getting a career(things that Allah hasn’t obligated me), does it feel right now for him to go to the new wife ‘brand new’ made by his first wife??
Is like investing in a house and then someone else taking it without contributing anything in it.
Remember, if we invest anything outside women’s original duties that we feel entitled that we own you(meaning we are your only partner). Just like men invest in their wives and rightfully feel they own their wives(by being the only husband). When the husband brings up the topic of polygyny she recalls all her rights that she let go because of her husband, just to make his life easier, and as a consequence she let go the peace of mind, the comfort as a lady, instead she got involved in heavy manly duties hence having hard life.She feels stupid and deceived. She lost her rights, her priviledges given by Allah and the husband = a real looser.
She realizes that she could get a billionaire and be his third wife, now he has a regular guy and still have cowives.
If I knew that I would end up with cowives I would choose an alfa rich man and NOT a regular dude. So the wife is in the loose- loose situation. Is like getting for a wife an old barren lady and she being high maintenance, as a man you would accept this from a young pretty one and not by the old ugly one. I hope this makes sense to you(men that are reading this).
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@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi My apology!
😄You didn’t choose wrong with those other brothers sister. You were probably just young & didn’t know any better. A lot of men deceive women into marriages by presenting themselves as someone they’re not 🎭 .
For me a marriage between more than two people is not a real marriage. I would rather stay alone
Yeah we don't think there's such thing as a marriage with more than two either. Polygyny is a man married to multiple wives, he has separate marriages, they aren't mixed.
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi I dont think the marriages are really seperate. In the olden days it was necessary for survival. Many children died before reaching adulthood .
Astagafirullah
@@wendycarty6958so what is your opinion of a man with 2 baby mothers?
@@olivia9408 I also would have difficulty with that. Because I know thats not easy. I understand what you are saying, but for me its not totally the same. If depends on how he goes around with them. If I suspect that they are still sexually involved its over. I cannot have a real relationship with someone if there are other wives. Its also very one sided in these relationships because a woman cannot have multiple husbands. They can have all the fun and you are very restricted with a niqab etc in your head.