My mom always called me a lazy piece of shit, cause I wouldn’t do my school work, I was slow doing chores, I half-assed everything. Even took forever to eat. But when it came to something I was interested in, I was super focused, attentive, and driven. I just wish life wasn’t so daunting….your videos are so spot on, sending you bountiful amounts of gratitude mate. You the man Stan
I have struggled with this all my life and finally I feel a catharsis... an awakening so deep. Finally the self-loathing turns into self-love and appreciation. I thank you . Now to get treatment.
@@sulla1537 hi knowing that nothing was wrong with me all along really set me free! I finally got to understand that I wasn’t just lazy , I wasn’t just weird , I wasn’t just messy etc… and knowing that allowed me to fully accept myself… and replace the tape of self loathing with one of acceptance and love. I really recommend you try to get help; you have a whole life ahead of you and you are worthy of happiness and joy and love… I wish you freedom and peace my dear internet friend
We are always reinventing ourselves..to drive ourselves forward. Creativity and nature help me think better. Being around water helps me think clearer.. Music motivates me always
The reason people with ADHD can't keep interest up for prolonged rewards are due to lower dopamine levels. Normal people can "feel" the sweetnes of the reward in the future but people with ADHD don't have that. In return the reward, when it comes, brings us a higher dopamine kick than it does with normal people. It's like having glitter in your whole body! No wonder people with ADHD often become addicted to fast dopamine kicks.
the pomodoro technique is so hard for me.. one of my problems is just starting, so if I don’t start with the timer, i feel guilty that I didn’t. or I just reset the timer over and over until i actuLly start, defeating the purpose
Yeah it's not a cure trick unfortunately. It takes some real dedication and strong willpower to stick with it. Maybe keep practicing even if it's just for 2 minutes at a time until your brain enters hyperfocus.
I study civil engineering and tried the pomodoro technique a few times. It works great when I have to concentrate on the more "practical" side of studying like solving equations, calculating what I need, etc. I like finding the solution to a problem (of course only when it doesn't seem impossible for me). But I'm super bad at the theory behind it. I get so easily distracted and keep checking the clock if my time is over so I can do the more fun things instead of pushing this dry material into my brain that is way too complicated anyway.
I almost cried watching this because you hit the nail on the head with the bit about perceived laziness. When you're told something enough you end up believing it, but it is so refreshing to be reminded that I'm not alone and this is normal for some. Thank you so much for your insight. Subscribing now!
I have ADHD, as well Bipolar Disorder, and I am in a bit of a depressive episode right now, so motivation is really hard to come by right now. Something I find helpful is checking in with myself to see how much energy I have, and how much I think I can do without getting burned out or getting bored. My energy and focus were at about 50% capacity today, so, I did only three big things that I absolutely had to do, and I took longer breaks in between them, or take more brakes than usual. Today, I took a 30-minute coffee break in my car after visiting a noisy supermarket before an appointment to de-stress and get back into my window of tolerance because that alone was really overwhelming for me today, so, I really needed that long break to calm down.
"Today, I took a 30-minute coffee break in my car after visiting a noisy supermarket before an appointment to de-stress..." I think I've heard someone refer to this as "transition time" (the time it takes to transition from one task to another)... and some days it definitely takes longer than others. It's awesome that you know what you need and what your limits are with respect to your mood... and that you neither try to push yourself beyond those limits and end up burning yourself out nor beat yourself up for needing that extra time. :] Kudos! (P.S. Please teach me your ways!)
I wish i had these videos when i was failing all my high school classes and everyone called me lazy and irresponsible because when they asked me WHY i said “because i don’t want to”. didn’t have a good enough understanding to explain how not wanting to actually prevented me from doing it.
I'm a teen with ADHD and I have just accidentally found your channel at this very moment and Ironically it was because of my in-attentivity. finding your channel was like finding the cure for a zombie disease.
I have to say you're very good at explaining it all. I identify with most, if not all of what you talk about; being recently diagnosed (at 52) it's been a great help to find people like yourself to help me make sense of it all. To learn how to live by a new set of instructions after a lifetime of using the wrong life manual.
personally i actually prefer it because i get overstimulated really easily.. it's why the homeschooling has actually helped me clear some spaces in my mind where i'd normally stress about things like weather and what to wear or what shoes would be best for the day in terms of comfyness (i can't wear most cheap shoes because my feet will hurt like hell..)
I've never been diagnosed (I'm 30), but all your videos are spot on in terms of what I experience. Thank you for such clear and direct advice, it would be amazing to get even a little more focused and motivated in my life.
Wow, I've taken my first concerta one hour ago and I'm actually listening to you. Normally I would've cut a 10 min video in 3. My thoughts are also at a minimum, normally I think a 100 thoughts.
Recently, I rearranged my bedroom (which is where I have been teleworking since March) for the fifth time since the pandemic started, and the positive effect that it has on my motivation level is interesting. I think it is because 1. it's exercise, 2. I tend to put things away and vacuum the floor as I go, so the space is more organized, and 3. it changes my environment just enough that, for a few weeks, it doesn't feel like I'm working, eating, sleeping... living... in one room (though that is exactly what I've been doing this entire time).
OMG!!!!! You are a gift to the earth. I can’t stop watching all of your videos. They are helping me stop the self hatred that I have. I am so happy to have came across you.
I believe this advise would help anyone who is struggling to motivate themselves. I always incorporate babysteps, to do lists and try to keep life simple.
I went the other way. I paid attention for the first few minutes then got distracted by the image he showed of a cup of coffee which made me think I really want some coffee right now. Then I realized I'd forgotten about the video and the coffee and was instead down here reading the comments.
Just found out i have adhd at 40, University diagnosed me. It explains alot in my life previously and today. I love your stuff and would love to do a video with you or interview of the condition like you have with others... Much respect and love to you, please keep up the good work. You're an inspiration as far as im concerned.
Every time this guy speaks about ADHD, I can mostly see myself in every point he has. I am real bad about being lazy, distracted, and not even touch the things I need to get done. I am about to take more stronger edges to get off my butt and complete the tasks I have got to do. Like doing my laundry, straighten up my home. Just get motivated. As I said, I will be taking a higher does of Adderall per day. I am sure the stronger dose I will get motivated to do the deeds needed to be done. Thank God, my Doctor who is a Florensic Psychiatrist. He is an older man and he knows me very well just by listening to me. I am very great full he understands me just by the way I answer his questions, and the way I carry myself, the to an of my voice, he gets me. He is such a great Doctor!
pills dont build skills they help you focus on a task but you have to start it. Plus daily planning is a skill which with pills will be way more effective than just pills.
Linear LPS Hello, you are very correct. It’s ALL about scheduling your day, and have time sets and organizing the tasks at hand everyday. Thank you for bring up the subject of basically the tasks each day requires planning. I do realize that for me, I have no problem focusing, I have learned to focus on one thing at a time. I use to focus on everything at once causing racing thoughts, and feeling over that there was too much to do. And where to start. Now, with medication, I. Have learned to hyper focus on 1 subject of things to do, at one at a time. I still hyper focus but I am learning to focus on one thing at a time, thanks to meds. I now have to discipline enough to get my ass off the soft and do that which needs to get done. I have been a kept man for about 21 years I was always taken care of. I didn’t have to want for nothing. Now I am on my own. I am still getting use to being alone. My partner has past away. And he was the one spoiling my by taking care of everything for me. Now, I have. To prioritize my chores each day and I am learning to know what is most important to least important. I am doing much better. Thank you for your input. I really appreciate it. You are radical for making comment that, it’s not just the meds to get me organized, it’s self discipline I am learning to achieve each day. Have a wonderful life, and keep up that thought, it’s not just the meds it’s making a plan, and sticking to the plan. Bye!
Thanks for the video. I actually keep playing and pausing to take notes because your tips are really practical and useful. Straight to the point and not something up the clouds and unachievable. I can really relate to what you say. In my previous corporate job, I thrived because I work in a kind of disaster recovery. Almost each day there are new emergencies of some kind, new issues to solve. No one wanted my job but because my role was important, my bosses and colleagues were willing to put up with my eccentricity. You are right, it was the novelty, discovering and solving sometimes complex issues. But it is so mentally exhausting and draining. You are right..the emotional compel is very important. I stuck to my first job for 9.5 years and second one for 6.5 years where both companies have extremely high turnover rates because of my desire to help my staff to help customers. This was the emotion compel that made be able to get up and go to work each day for so many years.
I'm just can't concentrate, I start to study online and puff within 5 min. I get distracted, I was just diagnosed with ADHD 5 months ago and on the positive note I have atleast finish 3 task per day, still putting my clothes away or organizing my bedroom seems so daunting. I hope to put to use this tips.
I love starting this video, closing the app getting distracted with something, forgetting I was watching the video, and then finally coming back to it 45 minutes later when I open RUclips again and remember
Thanks for the input I have lied to myself saying that I can only stay motivated to go to the gym with my aderall and now I’m going to try a week without using it to try to strengthen my brain
It is possible to get the internal drive to hit the gym without meds. I go in the evening, after mine have worn off. The feeling of accomplishment keeps you going.
this is so fkn amazing, i've only realised just recently, at 45, and it's like you're just speaking about my experiences. I'm not crazy. thank you so much brother ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Thanks for the video I recently was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 40s this video was spot on I really wish I was diagnosed much early in life I would be in a much better place thanks again
@@ADHDMastery From what I have read - it is a co-factor - complication - in ADHD more often than you would think... Not necessarily genius level. Say 120 or above?
I have inattentive. I am also adopted. Literally NO ONE in my birthfamily had ADHD. I was known most of my life as "blew his life" and "not up to potential." Honestly, the only way I could have seen this was on meds. I had no point of reference. I am hesitant to do coaching, because it always seems scammy to me-when compared to the meds- but I am impressed with your videos. Regarding being late- I call it using a wall to push against-thing. A time to be somewhere I used as a deadlinefor motivation...It has always been great way to focus my mind. I am late because I am doing all the things that I haven't been motivated to do until then. To someone else, when I show up 15 mins late, it looks like I am not respecting them. I was not able to see this until I was on meds. Now I don't always need a deadline, but it doesn't hurt.
sl5311 My own experience is I got group coaching for asd after having been on medication and gone over to supplements and it gave me really valuble tools now looking at getting that adhd diagnoses so I can get that tool box as well. Don’t see it an an either or ie meds or but meds of some kind plus in my case but wanting to get a tool box together which works for me with tried and tested tools from others that have been are / there.
Thank you 💗 I have been struggling with studying science, at home online. I am a visual, kinaesthetic learner and with too many options of content, with a lot of text, I have become overwhelmed. This is given me lack of motivation. My tutor noticed when on a zoom chat that I have ADHD characteristics whilst talking with her. I'm hoping my doctor will help me to see if this is true.. Your video was very reassuring and helpful. Thanks again 💗
Grounding yoga poses really really helps with ADHD. The more time you spend daily in grounding yoga poses the more stable, calmer and emotionally strong you will be.
Wow, your videos are a great encouragement to me. It’s so good to hear someone who has experienced the same things. You’re an effective communicator and you deliver a clear message. I’m a new subscriber and am watching some of your past videos. I don’t know if you still make videos but if not, I’m sure that I’ll benefit from what you’ve already done. I appreciate your channel. Blessings 🌿
thanks for the video ! little confusion between cause and consequence though. We're easily distracted because we lack motivation (kind of), not the other way around. Motivation is essential, and you need dopamine to achieve it. When what you're doing doesn't stimulate your dopamine release, then you get distracted, so that you may find the motivation you lack (dopamine) elsewhere. That means we're very dependant on environment for motivation. It also means it might be very hard to persevere more than a few minutes if a task needs you to generate your own motivationnal state. That is why ADHDers actually need the carrot and the stick in sight (immediate consequences), when most other people can do motivation with only the thought of the carrot and fear of the stick (delayed consequences). We can't handle delay. Exactly like children ! (has you said). Though children might eventually learn to handle delay when they understand how much better delayed consequence tend to be for their longterm wellfare (through developpement and education). They will then be able to anticipate reward to release dopamine and get motivated even in the absence of immidiate consequences.
I hope you're doing well. I also have ADHD, major depressive disorder, and dysthymia. ADHD and depression are so synergistic. Depression can cause lack of motivation and concentration issues by itself. They feed into each other. You get depressed because you can't do what you need/want to do, so you lose even more motivation. That makes it even harder to accomplish things and you can't focus even more because you're hyperfocused on your lack of ability. It's not for everyone, but a doctor can prescribe a stimulant medication that gives you a motivation surge after you take it. Just enough so you can at least envision accomplishing something.
So much is making.more sense in life and I am glad I came across your channel. Is there any tips.for.more immediate results for motivation and depression?
Bro!!! Literally all of this applies to me!!! I found 12 Rules for Life and a Pomodoro timer naturally way before this video… this is so weird how much this lines up perfectly with my experience
i mean since i write story i literally made a better me.. now i did give her a different name than my real name because she's not human but instead Romulan.. basically she's the better version of me.. the version of me that is reliable headstrong and a leader trough and trough.. she is the captain kirk to my spock.. where i struggle she excels and vice versa.. so i guess i already visualised that part.. i just need to implement the asking part
And now I understand why I've set (so I called it myself) the "decade plan" I said that in my 20s I didn't care about anything, I explored life, I had this sex, drugs and rock and roll life. Now in my 30s I settled down, I'm doing my nursing degree, so in my 40s I can be qualified nurse and get onto the senior role (band 6) then in my 50s I'd like to go part time to find more time for my hobbies and finally retire in my 60s.
Great videos Stuart - im very impressed. I always knew I was different to others (and im always being told so by others). However when you described your behavioural traits - the exact similiarities were actually quite eye opening for me - particularly the constant need to create a sense of urgency to stay motivated and stimulate hyper focus to accomplish tasks, particularly in the workplace. You have helped me understand that while being viewed as different and somewhat wierd to others, my behaviour is in fact very normal for someone with adhd. Thanks again.
Mostly I only notice that I got distracted because people refer to what they just said before, just like this: Video: "Another way you can do this is bargaining with yourself" Me "Wait, another way?"
I set 6 alarms this morning to go to class and still didn’t wake up in time although i wanted to go to prove my friends wrong. They keep teasing me because i miss class a lot, struggle waking up, have difficulty keeping up with conversations, or just generally seem lost and confused and i’m sick of this. But seems like even when i actively want to shove it in their face my brains like “nope, no no” lol such a pal that brain of mine.
I have wanted to start a YT channel since 2020. Ive planned it out. But have been saying "I'll feel better tmrw" you have shown me how bad I've been. I need help but I think I need meds? I've been trying to get a grip for months. & Am only getting worse trying to focus on catching mistakes. I make more!
The thing is, it’s so tiring to have to wake up every morning and go “THIS is the day, this is where I’m going to start being more motivated I’m gonna do great” then failing at things, waking up the next morning and doing it again
OMG YES!!! I am a caregiver to two French people who dont speak English. Yes that would be awesome to learn French, but damn its hard and i cant sit 3 minutes on a video for a French course. My excitement for learning a new language is there but the building blocks of assembling that skill are out to lunch. Mmmmm
Man I went through 20 years on bs, wondering why antidepressants didnt work on me, why I am so prone to living in daydreams, lack motivation to do anything. I sat down every day and wondered, for a moment, maybe I don't feel the same rewarding feeling with going about daily life as most people? Why is it so, so hard for me to feel achievement unless I do something that feels like mental slavery? Hmm. I feel like I'm a lazy shit most of the time, but I have two modes: batshit crazy working, or do nothing for 6 months.
I love everything guns. Working on them, cleaning them, and training with them. Finding motivation is a daily struggle with normal task but with guns I always seems to have motivation 🤷♂️. When I get motivated to do something though, look out because I’m a storm.
This makes me think also of George RR Martin -- both with the difficulty of finishing his great work but also that he created such a wonderful body of literature.
Do you struggle with being educated more than other people diagnosed, so people expect you to use your knowledge for yourself ? Im always having to tell people more than anything that JUST BECAUSE IM SELF AWARE, DOES NOT MEAN IM ANY LESS SELF DESTRUCTIVE. Its honestly worse having a better understanding on the chemical side and still not being able to change over to neurotypical.
Combo of education and Intelligence and yes It makes it less obvious that we also need the help, perhaps even more since honestly already used what we have to compensate for stuff and that leaves little room to compensate for health and outside matters.
Good points! Just like you can be obese and incredibly knowledgeable about nutrition. Just like you could be an addiction counselor and struggle with your own addiction. Just like you can be a fantartic baseball coach that can't throw or hit a ball. Us ADHD people know what we need to do. That's not the problem. The problem is having to put in 100x more emotional effort to achieve the same results, leaving us completely drained. Many people just can't understand. ADHD is so poorly understood by the general population.
I can relate, I accidentally talked myway out of receiving medication for it during a consultation. Years later the waiting list is now like 2 years and I need it now, everyday is a uphill battle.
I just hate ADHD so much. It's destroyed my entire life so far. I absolutely can't focus at boring but necessary stuff. People don't like me around, I have a job I hate, my life is stupid too.
I feel like having adhd is Just a natural reaction to the oberstimulating and chaotic world we live in, but for some reason people without adhd can cope better with this mental world we live in.
I currently have no motivation, zero. But I want to do it, I need to do it the Exam is in 11 days I just need to read the booklets but I've been doing coursework for another subject which is taking a ridiculously large amount of time. I don't know what to do. I only have for months left then I'm done with sixth form. But I feel nothing. The list helps but not much cause I don't get enough off it each day for me to be proud of anything so to try to achieve my goal I don't sleep and will then the lose of hope and crushing pressure to succeed is beginning to crush me but I feel like other people think I don't care. I lie to my mum about my work on a regular basis and if she was seeing the little amount of work I was getting done each day she'd be disappointed to say the least. So basically I can't work, exercise, eat properly, drink water and sleep because I have no motivation. :) Class
Dr. Jordan Peterson's ideas on RUclips, including his book (12 rules for life) work really well for persons struggling with ADHD. Make your bed, eat a large breakfast, set a schedule, etc. You can also look at the Pareto distribution and 20/80 rule. Start by doing those tasks (20% of tasks) that will give you 80% of the results. Use it in time management ;)
Something I realised is that I need to be motivated to engage into an activity (this is obvious) even games but then I noticed that I am really easily influenced by publicities and the like which had me try something : Let's say I want to play Diablo but I don't feel the urge you know? If I see a review for the game or a 'let's play", it will instantly trigger the urge to play. Now, knowing this, I know that since I can chose to put videos about any subject and it will make me want to partake in that activity, I find myself wondering why I cannot just skip the middle man and go straight to XYZ activity ahahah :P You'd think that it would be feasible but apparently I am unable to do so which means I still have to trick my brain into wanting to play/do something even if I am 100% aware of the trickery :P à I love your videos man! You helped me clean my place and this is something I have been putting off for the last 10 years :P I have been diagnosed late (4 years ago. I am 39) and since I know about my ADD, I won't stop discovering new tricks and ways to manipulate the inner child that steers the the shipwreck that I used to be :P
Draw a dot on a piece of paper and tape it somewhere across from your desk or favorite chair and stare at it for 1 min, 2 or 3 min. This is a law of attraction technique. The average person can only focus on something for 2-3 seconds before getting distracted by a sound, person, notification etc. If you do this technique, you will have 99% better focus than your family members, peers, loved ones, etc. The universe rewards you for focusing on the dot by giving you more focus. The dot wants to focus on you.
I literally almost never have a sense of urgency when it comes to actual important things 😭
Its quite debilitating
Damn
I get it way too late and end up missing the goal, no matter if I tried the hardest I can or not at all.
Til it’s too late
BRUH HI 💀 LOVE Y'ALL
"Set an alarm on your phone" reminded me that an alarm on my phone went off 4 hours ago to do a task and then I forgot to do it. Thanks!
Haha same here ! 😅
I thought I was crazy but I do the same thing with my reminders and my friends and family wonder why I don’t use my reminders
🤣🤣🤣 That happens to me all the time!
This does happen tbh. 🥺
Alarms scare TF out of me but sometimes I forget about it 3:
My mom always called me a lazy piece of shit, cause I wouldn’t do my school work, I was slow doing chores, I half-assed everything. Even took forever to eat. But when it came to something I was interested in, I was super focused, attentive, and driven. I just wish life wasn’t so daunting….your videos are so spot on, sending you bountiful amounts of gratitude mate. You the man Stan
You are gifted ; the way you articulate everything is a GIFT! And thank you for helping me finally find my tribe
Thanks for that, I'm hoping I can utilise this gift in my future career 😊
I have struggled with this all my life and finally I feel a catharsis... an awakening so deep. Finally the self-loathing turns into self-love and appreciation. I thank you . Now to get treatment.
Exactly where I'm headed!!
Ewwwwwww
Hey how are you now? did you manage to get treatment?
What was your catharsis? I’m perpetually stuck in self loathing
@@sulla1537 hi knowing that nothing was wrong with me all along really set me free! I finally got to understand that I wasn’t just lazy , I wasn’t just weird , I wasn’t just messy etc… and knowing that allowed me to fully accept myself… and replace the tape of self loathing with one of acceptance and love. I really recommend you try to get help; you have a whole life ahead of you and you are worthy of happiness and joy and love… I wish you freedom and peace my dear internet friend
We are always reinventing ourselves..to drive ourselves forward. Creativity and nature help me think better. Being around water helps me think clearer.. Music motivates me always
The reason people with ADHD can't keep interest up for prolonged rewards are due to lower dopamine levels. Normal people can "feel" the sweetnes of the reward in the future but people with ADHD don't have that.
In return the reward, when it comes, brings us a higher dopamine kick than it does with normal people. It's like having glitter in your whole body!
No wonder people with ADHD often become addicted to fast dopamine kicks.
U explained my whole school life. But I knew that
Beautifully spoken
Amen
@nimbleneedle Yeah, they will never understand. Meds might help though
@nimbleneedle nope logic doesn't work with nureo chemistry tell her that.
the pomodoro technique is so hard for me.. one of my problems is just starting, so if I don’t start with the timer, i feel guilty that I didn’t. or I just reset the timer over and over until i actuLly start, defeating the purpose
Yeah it's not a cure trick unfortunately. It takes some real dedication and strong willpower to stick with it. Maybe keep practicing even if it's just for 2 minutes at a time until your brain enters hyperfocus.
I study civil engineering and tried the pomodoro technique a few times. It works great when I have to concentrate on the more "practical" side of studying like solving equations, calculating what I need, etc. I like finding the solution to a problem (of course only when it doesn't seem impossible for me). But I'm super bad at the theory behind it. I get so easily distracted and keep checking the clock if my time is over so I can do the more fun things instead of pushing this dry material into my brain that is way too complicated anyway.
same here.. it would be impossible because it's the start that is the issue not the end..
I almost cried watching this because you hit the nail on the head with the bit about perceived laziness. When you're told something enough you end up believing it, but it is so refreshing to be reminded that I'm not alone and this is normal for some. Thank you so much for your insight. Subscribing now!
I have ADHD, as well Bipolar Disorder, and I am in a bit of a depressive episode right now, so motivation is really hard to come by right now. Something I find helpful is checking in with myself to see how much energy I have, and how much I think I can do without getting burned out or getting bored. My energy and focus were at about 50% capacity today, so, I did only three big things that I absolutely had to do, and I took longer breaks in between them, or take more brakes than usual. Today, I took a 30-minute coffee break in my car after visiting a noisy supermarket before an appointment to de-stress and get back into my window of tolerance because that alone was really overwhelming for me today, so, I really needed that long break to calm down.
"Today, I took a 30-minute coffee break in my car after visiting a noisy supermarket before an appointment to de-stress..."
I think I've heard someone refer to this as "transition time" (the time it takes to transition from one task to another)... and some days it definitely takes longer than others. It's awesome that you know what you need and what your limits are with respect to your mood... and that you neither try to push yourself beyond those limits and end up burning yourself out nor beat yourself up for needing that extra time. :] Kudos! (P.S. Please teach me your ways!)
I took a hr break walking to a food truck and eating a burger and smoking a cigarette in a nice grass field
I wish i had these videos when i was failing all my high school classes and everyone called me lazy and irresponsible because when they asked me WHY i said “because i don’t want to”. didn’t have a good enough understanding to explain how not wanting to actually prevented me from doing it.
I'm a teen with ADHD and I have just accidentally found your channel at this very moment and Ironically it was because of my in-attentivity. finding your channel was like finding the cure for a zombie disease.
I have to say you're very good at explaining it all. I identify with most, if not all of what you talk about; being recently diagnosed (at 52) it's been a great help to find people like yourself to help me make sense of it all. To learn how to live by a new set of instructions after a lifetime of using the wrong life manual.
Thank you so much, I really needed this. Homeschooling really hasn’t been easy for me these couple of weeks.
Been there... adhd homeschooled sucks
SethJG3D really does, and to be honest, I really hate it.
personally i actually prefer it because i get overstimulated really easily.. it's why the homeschooling has actually helped me clear some spaces in my mind where i'd normally stress about things like weather and what to wear or what shoes would be best for the day in terms of comfyness (i can't wear most cheap shoes because my feet will hurt like hell..)
Litch The Shinigami what about figuring out what to wear makes you stressed? Is it possibly because of what other might think or is it something else?
@@neonred6026 I wore what was comfortable and sensible. Dressed well due to having a good color sense and what went well together.
You’re channel deserves so much more attention. I love it !
Slowly growing. Thanks 😊
I've never been diagnosed (I'm 30), but all your videos are spot on in terms of what I experience. Thank you for such clear and direct advice, it would be amazing to get even a little more focused and motivated in my life.
I am 27 years old and only last year did I realize I have ADHD. It's taken me a year to even find people which helpful advice. Thank you
Wow, I've taken my first concerta one hour ago and I'm actually listening to you. Normally I would've cut a 10 min video in 3. My thoughts are also at a minimum, normally I think a 100 thoughts.
Weeponybjorn how is your medication going so far?
@@hermes.trismegistus616 jo
Concerta has saved my life
@@amandamiller3693 That's great. Any side effects you can share?
LP I only had a headache. But after two days it was gone!
Involuntary selective attention. Well put.
I found if I do one small step to do paperwork. Pile it on my table, wait a day, sort through it, wait a day, do it on the 3rd day.
Recently, I rearranged my bedroom (which is where I have been teleworking since March) for the fifth time since the pandemic started, and the positive effect that it has on my motivation level is interesting. I think it is because 1. it's exercise, 2. I tend to put things away and vacuum the floor as I go, so the space is more organized, and 3. it changes my environment just enough that, for a few weeks, it doesn't feel like I'm working, eating, sleeping... living... in one room (though that is exactly what I've been doing this entire time).
OMG!!!!! You are a gift to the earth. I can’t stop watching all of your videos. They are helping me stop the self hatred that I have. I am so happy to have came across you.
I believe this advise would help anyone who is struggling to motivate themselves. I always incorporate babysteps, to do lists and try to keep life simple.
Watching a video on adhd and accidentally not paying attention for the full first three minutes
🤣😂🤣🤪
I went the other way. I paid attention for the first few minutes then got distracted by the image he showed of a cup of coffee which made me think I really want some coffee right now. Then I realized I'd forgotten about the video and the coffee and was instead down here reading the comments.
meanwhile i just zoned in and out over the whole span of the video.. 😂
@@johnplaysgames3120 I noticed the book shown on screen in the stock footage was in Spanish.
Just found out i have adhd at 40, University diagnosed me. It explains alot in my life previously and today. I love your stuff and would love to do a video with you or interview of the condition like you have with others... Much respect and love to you, please keep up the good work. You're an inspiration as far as im concerned.
This has to be the best video on the internet. Thank you!
So simple, yet so innovative. Find a way to emotionally inspire yourself to do the thing. Thank you!
Every time this guy speaks about ADHD, I can mostly see myself in every point he has. I am real bad about being lazy, distracted, and not even touch the things I need to get done. I am about to take more stronger edges to get off my butt and complete the tasks I have got to do. Like doing my laundry, straighten up my home. Just get motivated. As I said, I will be taking a higher does of Adderall per day. I am sure the stronger dose I will get motivated to do the deeds needed to be done. Thank God, my Doctor who is a Florensic Psychiatrist. He is an older man and he knows me very well just by listening to me. I am very great full he understands me just by the way I answer his questions, and the way I carry myself, the to an of my voice, he gets me. He is such a great Doctor!
pills dont build skills they help you focus on a task but you have to start it. Plus daily planning is a skill which with pills will be way more effective than just pills.
Linear LPS Hello, you are very correct. It’s ALL about scheduling your day, and have time sets and organizing the tasks at hand everyday. Thank you for bring up the subject of basically the tasks each day requires planning. I do realize that for me, I have no problem focusing, I have learned to focus on one thing at a time. I use to focus on everything at once causing racing thoughts, and feeling over that there was too much to do. And where to start. Now, with medication, I. Have learned to hyper focus on 1 subject of things to do, at one at a time. I still hyper focus but I am learning to focus on one thing at a time, thanks to meds. I now have to discipline enough to get my ass off the soft and do that which needs to get done. I have been a kept man for about 21 years I was always taken care of. I didn’t have to want for nothing. Now I am on my own. I am still getting use to being alone. My partner has past away. And he was the one spoiling my by taking care of everything for me. Now, I have. To prioritize my chores each day and I am learning to know what is most important to least important. I am doing much better. Thank you for your input. I really appreciate it. You are radical for making comment that, it’s not just the meds to get me organized, it’s self discipline I am learning to achieve each day. Have a wonderful life, and keep up that thought, it’s not just the meds it’s making a plan, and sticking to the plan. Bye!
Thanks for the video. I actually keep playing and pausing to take notes because your tips are really practical and useful. Straight to the point and not something up the clouds and unachievable.
I can really relate to what you say. In my previous corporate job, I thrived because I work in a kind of disaster recovery. Almost each day there are new emergencies of some kind, new issues to solve. No one wanted my job but because my role was important, my bosses and colleagues were willing to put up with my eccentricity. You are right, it was the novelty, discovering and solving sometimes complex issues. But it is so mentally exhausting and draining.
You are right..the emotional compel is very important. I stuck to my first job for 9.5 years and second one for 6.5 years where both companies have extremely high turnover rates because of my desire to help my staff to help customers. This was the emotion compel that made be able to get up and go to work each day for so many years.
I feel motivated by the way you say motivated.
Banger video. Having you explain exactly how my brain works to me is... Mind blowing.
Just feeling emotional watching this.
I'm just can't concentrate, I start to study online and puff within 5 min. I get distracted, I was just diagnosed with ADHD 5 months ago and on the positive note I have atleast finish 3 task per day, still putting my clothes away or organizing my bedroom seems so daunting. I hope to put to use this tips.
All of your videos describe the emotions and thoughts I experience! Thank you for this channel!
Excellent video man. Much appreciated!
Thanks for sharing these with us! I’ll definitely try these!
Good for you! 😊
I love starting this video, closing the app getting distracted with something, forgetting I was watching the video, and then finally coming back to it 45 minutes later when I open RUclips again and remember
Brilliant video... Hit the nail on the head there...
Thanks for the input I have lied to myself saying that I can only stay motivated to go to the gym with my aderall and now I’m going to try a week without using it to try to strengthen my brain
It is possible to get the internal drive to hit the gym without meds. I go in the evening, after mine have worn off. The feeling of accomplishment keeps you going.
this is so fkn amazing, i've only realised just recently, at 45, and it's like you're just speaking about my experiences. I'm not crazy. thank you so much brother ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
I didn't realize that all these habits i created and taught people about was me dealing with inattentive (hypoactive) ADHD on my own. 😮
Thanks for the video I recently was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 40s this video was spot on I really wish I was diagnosed much early in life I would be in a much better place thanks again
THIS is the most VALUABLE channel I have ever discovered!
Great to read this!
@@ADHDMastery Now I have to unravel a combination :(
BOTH ADHD and high level IQ? Any tips for that?
@@brianmarshall3931 High IQ? I wouldn't know anything about that sorry 😂
@@ADHDMastery From what I have read - it is a co-factor - complication - in ADHD more often than you would think...
Not necessarily genius level. Say 120 or above?
I have inattentive. I am also adopted. Literally NO ONE in my birthfamily had
ADHD. I was known most of my life as "blew his life" and "not up to potential."
Honestly, the only way I could have seen this was on meds. I had no point of
reference. I am hesitant to do coaching, because it always seems scammy to
me-when compared to the meds- but I am impressed with your videos.
Regarding being late- I call it using a wall to push against-thing.
A time to be somewhere I used as a deadlinefor motivation...It has always been great way to focus my mind. I am late because I am doing
all the things that I haven't been motivated to do until then.
To someone else, when I show up 15 mins late, it looks like I am not respecting them. I was not able to see this until
I was on meds. Now I don't always need a deadline, but it doesn't hurt.
sl5311 My own experience is I got group coaching for asd after having been on medication and gone over to supplements and it gave me really valuble tools now looking at getting that adhd diagnoses so I can get that tool box as well. Don’t see it an an either or ie meds or but meds of some kind plus in my case but wanting to get a tool box together which works for me with tried and tested tools from others that have been are / there.
12 Rules For Life changed my life. Great video! 👌
Thank you 💗
I have been struggling with studying science, at home online. I am a visual, kinaesthetic learner and with too many options of content, with a lot of text, I have become overwhelmed. This is given me lack of motivation. My tutor noticed when on a zoom chat that I have ADHD characteristics whilst talking with her. I'm hoping my doctor will help me to see if this is true..
Your video was very reassuring and helpful. Thanks again 💗
Dude talking about exactly what I go through, I get halfway, wonder what comments say
Thank you for this. This is me alright. I love the information you have put out. I'm sharing and subscribed to you
Grounding yoga poses really really helps with ADHD. The more time you spend daily in grounding yoga poses the more stable, calmer and emotionally strong you will be.
This was a GREAT VIDEO! This was me ALL day today..however l didnt have the solution. Thank you!!
This video explains so much. Thank you ❤️
Wow, your videos are a great encouragement to me. It’s so good to hear someone who has experienced the same things. You’re an effective communicator and you deliver a clear message. I’m a new subscriber and am watching some of your past videos. I don’t know if you still make videos but if not, I’m sure that I’ll benefit from what you’ve already done. I appreciate your channel. Blessings 🌿
Fantastic video with helpful insights. If I'm creating my motivation is abundant. Thank you
you are helping me so much thanks
thanks for the video ! little confusion between cause and consequence though. We're easily distracted because we lack motivation (kind of), not the other way around. Motivation is essential, and you need dopamine to achieve it. When what you're doing doesn't stimulate your dopamine release, then you get distracted, so that you may find the motivation you lack (dopamine) elsewhere. That means we're very dependant on environment for motivation. It also means it might be very hard to persevere more than a few minutes if a task needs you to generate your own motivationnal state. That is why ADHDers actually need the carrot and the stick in sight (immediate consequences), when most other people can do motivation with only the thought of the carrot and fear of the stick (delayed consequences). We can't handle delay. Exactly like children ! (has you said). Though children might eventually learn to handle delay when they understand how much better delayed consequence tend to be for their longterm wellfare (through developpement and education). They will then be able to anticipate reward to release dopamine and get motivated even in the absence of immidiate consequences.
@1.46 I'm glad it's not just me I get so angry because it makes me feel lazy but I can't help it
OMFG I wish I had motivation!
I also have Clinic Depression so it's a double whammy 🙄🤦♀️ can bearly get off the couch most days 😢
I hope you're doing well. I also have ADHD, major depressive disorder, and dysthymia.
ADHD and depression are so synergistic. Depression can cause lack of motivation and concentration issues by itself. They feed into each other.
You get depressed because you can't do what you need/want to do, so you lose even more motivation. That makes it even harder to accomplish things and you can't focus even more because you're hyperfocused on your lack of ability.
It's not for everyone, but a doctor can prescribe a stimulant medication that gives you a motivation surge after you take it. Just enough so you can at least envision accomplishing something.
So much is making.more sense in life and I am glad I came across your channel. Is there any tips.for.more immediate results for motivation and depression?
Involuntary selective attention . Fighting selective attention to get things done I need to is so hard .
Great video!
I relate to 95% of your content but I don't know if I have add. Perhaps I should consult a psychologist.
Bro!!! Literally all of this applies to me!!! I found 12 Rules for Life and a Pomodoro timer naturally way before this video… this is so weird how much this lines up perfectly with my experience
A big thing is also identifying as someone who gets things done. Or asking yourself, what would your greatest version do?
i mean since i write story i literally made a better me.. now i did give her a different name than my real name because she's not human but instead Romulan.. basically she's the better version of me.. the version of me that is reliable headstrong and a leader trough and trough.. she is the captain kirk to my spock.. where i struggle she excels and vice versa.. so i guess i already visualised that part.. i just need to implement the asking part
And now I understand why I've set (so I called it myself) the "decade plan" I said that in my 20s I didn't care about anything, I explored life, I had this sex, drugs and rock and roll life. Now in my 30s I settled down, I'm doing my nursing degree, so in my 40s I can be qualified nurse and get onto the senior role (band 6) then in my 50s I'd like to go part time to find more time for my hobbies and finally retire in my 60s.
I just suscribed to your channel, I really hope to see more videos I am just stating to learn about this in many ways
near the end, i almost forgot this was a video for people with adhd and not just a motivational video.... the irony.
Great videos Stuart - im very impressed. I always knew I was different to others (and im always being told so by others). However when you described your behavioural traits - the exact similiarities were actually quite eye opening for me - particularly the constant need to create a sense of urgency to stay motivated and stimulate hyper focus to accomplish tasks, particularly in the workplace. You have helped me understand that while being viewed as different and somewhat wierd to others, my behaviour is in fact very normal for someone with adhd. Thanks again.
Mostly I only notice that I got distracted because people refer to what they just said before, just like this:
Video: "Another way you can do this is bargaining with yourself"
Me "Wait, another way?"
I really love how you explain things, Its very helpful. Thanks alot :)
I set 6 alarms this morning to go to class and still didn’t wake up in time although i wanted to go to prove my friends wrong. They keep teasing me because i miss class a lot, struggle waking up, have difficulty keeping up with conversations, or just generally seem lost and confused and i’m sick of this. But seems like even when i actively want to shove it in their face my brains like “nope, no no” lol such a pal that brain of mine.
I have wanted to start a YT channel since 2020. Ive planned it out. But have been saying "I'll feel better tmrw" you have shown me how bad I've been. I need help but I think I need meds? I've been trying to get a grip for months. & Am only getting worse trying to focus on catching mistakes. I make more!
Thanks for the videos they are awesome and really support the adhd community
Thanks!
Thank you for all your great videos! These tips really are helpful
Hello there my dear Stuart. Hope you are ok. Have not posted videos anymore. Hope you are good and we really miss you. You are an amazing person
The thing is, it’s so tiring to have to wake up every morning and go “THIS is the day, this is where I’m going to start being more motivated I’m gonna do great” then failing at things, waking up the next morning and doing it again
I've usually done it when I've hit rock bottom and can't stand my situation any more
@@ADHDMastery yeah I’m sort of just highlighting that us ADHDers have a lot more frequent rock bottoms, or at least it feels like it
OMG YES!!! I am a caregiver to two French people who dont speak English. Yes that would be awesome to learn French, but damn its hard and i cant sit 3 minutes on a video for a French course. My excitement for learning a new language is there but the building blocks of assembling that skill are out to lunch. Mmmmm
Man I went through 20 years on bs, wondering why antidepressants didnt work on me, why I am so prone to living in daydreams, lack motivation to do anything. I sat down every day and wondered, for a moment, maybe I don't feel the same rewarding feeling with going about daily life as most people? Why is it so, so hard for me to feel achievement unless I do something that feels like mental slavery? Hmm. I feel like I'm a lazy shit most of the time, but I have two modes: batshit crazy working, or do nothing for 6 months.
Thanks so much
Just subscribed amazing video
Thank you!
I love everything guns. Working on them, cleaning them, and training with them. Finding motivation is a daily struggle with normal task but with guns I always seems to have motivation 🤷♂️. When I get motivated to do something though, look out because I’m a storm.
I can get through a book if it interests it just takes a bit longer. I prefer to jump around
I sometimes hyperfocus on a book by using it as my procrastination tool and finish reading it in a ridiculously short amount of time
Omg you are a godsend 🙀
Thanks 4 these videos , they are being truly helpful for me, cheers from Portugal
This makes me think also of George RR Martin -- both with the difficulty of finishing his great work but also that he created such a wonderful body of literature.
Do you struggle with being educated more than other people diagnosed, so people expect you to use your knowledge for yourself ? Im always having to tell people more than anything that JUST BECAUSE IM SELF AWARE, DOES NOT MEAN IM ANY LESS SELF DESTRUCTIVE. Its honestly worse having a better understanding on the chemical side and still not being able to change over to neurotypical.
Exactly and especially with some other mental illness and it can be life threateningly frustrating at times.
Combo of education and Intelligence and yes It makes it less obvious that we also need the help, perhaps even more since honestly already used what we have to compensate for stuff and that leaves little room to compensate for health and outside matters.
Good points!
Just like you can be obese and incredibly knowledgeable about nutrition. Just like you could be an addiction counselor and struggle with your own addiction. Just like you can be a fantartic baseball coach that can't throw or hit a ball.
Us ADHD people know what we need to do. That's not the problem. The problem is having to put in 100x more emotional effort to achieve the same results, leaving us completely drained.
Many people just can't understand. ADHD is so poorly understood by the general population.
I can relate, I accidentally talked myway out of receiving medication for it during a consultation. Years later the waiting list is now like 2 years and I need it now, everyday is a uphill battle.
It’s tough! Of If I keep my home clean and especially wash my sheets I feel on top of the world. It’s so weird.
I just hate ADHD so much. It's destroyed my entire life so far. I absolutely can't focus at boring but necessary stuff. People don't like me around, I have a job I hate, my life is stupid too.
Are you going to wallow in self pity forever or try to improve your situation? Life's a marathon rather than a sprint. ✌️
@@ADHDMastery then I'm pretty much dead already
@@LKBeatbox that's the spirit!
browse for jobs that excite you!! life’s too short to be stuck in something boring :/
@@penelopeabreu4083 but that's a job I can keep I guess. I've been fired so many times, disappointing everyone around me constantly
How did you get started. Me doing things feels like the end of the world.
I feel like having adhd is Just a natural reaction to the oberstimulating and chaotic world we live in, but for some reason people without adhd can cope better with this mental world we live in.
I currently have no motivation, zero. But I want to do it, I need to do it the Exam is in 11 days I just need to read the booklets but I've been doing coursework for another subject which is taking a ridiculously large amount of time. I don't know what to do. I only have for months left then I'm done with sixth form. But I feel nothing. The list helps but not much cause I don't get enough off it each day for me to be proud of anything so to try to achieve my goal I don't sleep and will then the lose of hope and crushing pressure to succeed is beginning to crush me but I feel like other people think I don't care. I lie to my mum about my work on a regular basis and if she was seeing the little amount of work I was getting done each day she'd be disappointed to say the least. So basically I can't work, exercise, eat properly, drink water and sleep because I have no motivation. :) Class
Well said
Thank you xx
Bro this shit helping so much 😭
We are stuck in a world where 99% of things we have to do are boring. It makes life feel like it’s not worth living.
Dr. Jordan Peterson's ideas on RUclips, including his book (12 rules for life) work really well for persons struggling with ADHD. Make your bed, eat a large breakfast, set a schedule, etc. You can also look at the Pareto distribution and 20/80 rule. Start by doing those tasks (20% of tasks) that will give you 80% of the results. Use it in time management ;)
Wish I could get through this whole video in one sitting
Something I realised is that I need to be motivated to engage into an activity (this is obvious) even games but then I noticed that I am really easily influenced by publicities and the like which had me try something : Let's say I want to play Diablo but I don't feel the urge you know? If I see a review for the game or a 'let's play", it will instantly trigger the urge to play. Now, knowing this, I know that since I can chose to put videos about any subject and it will make me want to partake in that activity, I find myself wondering why I cannot just skip the middle man and go straight to XYZ activity ahahah :P You'd think that it would be feasible but apparently I am unable to do so which means I still have to trick my brain into wanting to play/do something even if I am 100% aware of the trickery :P à
I love your videos man! You helped me clean my place and this is something I have been putting off for the last 10 years :P
I have been diagnosed late (4 years ago. I am 39) and since I know about my ADD, I won't stop discovering new tricks and ways to manipulate the inner child that steers the the shipwreck that I used to be :P
Laying down watching this. In that mood but his voice is calming me to sleep xD
Draw a dot on a piece of paper and tape it somewhere across from your desk or favorite chair and stare at it for 1 min, 2 or 3 min. This is a law of attraction technique. The average person can only focus on something for 2-3 seconds before getting distracted by a sound, person, notification etc. If you do this technique, you will have 99% better focus than your family members, peers, loved ones, etc. The universe rewards you for focusing on the dot by giving you more focus. The dot wants to focus on you.