Figuring out BOUNDARIES for Your Christian Marriage
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- Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024
- Boundaries are important for every Christian marriage, but it can be hard to know what to talk about or where to start. What sort of boundaries should you consider? What would be helpful? Although the word "boundaries" might sound restrictive at first glance, boundaries should be there to serve you and ultimately help your marriage thrive. Whether you're married, engaged, dating, or single, this is a great topic to dig into and begin thinking through now.
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First marriage boundary tip at 6:30
Why does Girl Define take forever to get to the topic? In journalism, that's called burying the lede -- and its frowned upon.
@@morgan3918 Yeah, I’m not sure why they do this so often. Also I thought it was kinda funny that after she gives her first point she’s like “hmm, let me see… just trying to think of another one off the top of my head” … like why wouldn’t she have already had a list with her going into this if that’s what the video is about lol? I’m not a content creator so I don’t feel I have the right to criticize anyone who puts themselves out there on YT (the court of public opinion is hostile enough) but just found that funny.
@@morgan3918 money bruh, the longer the video, the more money she gets for it
Thank you I was about to give up
How do you tell the difference between a boundary and simply not trusting your partner and being insecure/worried.
A healthy relationship requires trust and good communication. Talk to your partner about what your marriages bounties looks like. Once you agree on bounties, it would be easier to see what is “crossing the line”
Well to start don't listen to GirlDefined, as requiring cutting off all personal friendships with those of the opposite gender is entirely based on insecurity and a lack of trust.
Also, healthy boundaries vary from case to case, but basing your boundaries on what someone else thinks your boundaries should be (such as God) always leads to unhealthy boundaries.
A good source of boundaries would show you how to form your own healthy boundaries, not tell you what they should be.
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Honest question, why do you bother to watch their videos if it bothers you so much?
If it triggers you, why don’t you watch something you would actually enjoy?
I wouldn’t watch cat videos if I hated cats. Why would you watch videos meant for Christians if your not a Christian?
@@evelynaaspidov123 this is such a dense response. It’s intriguing to watch content that’s different from yourself. If I watched people that were just like me all the time, I’d be bored.
@@evelynaaspidov123 I love watching content that makes me consider other viewpoints.
I love this! One thing I've had to work on in our marriage is respectful nicknames. I'm a big nick namer (I come from a long line of them 😂) and will often call my husband a name just in fun, but some of those have been hurtful to him, so I've learned to not be so flippant about that ("seriously, I was JOKING. Why are you upset by that?") and really honor him with my words, even if I'm being silly.
Love your channel! ❤️
Thank you for bringing this to the light!! 💕 amazing stuff. It’s to SERVE!!!!!! 🙏🏽
I think it’s sooo beautiful how you two saved your first kiss 💕 BEAUTIFUL! 🌺🌸🌺🌸
I also love how the haters can’t put out your ministry’s flame 🔥 you go girl!
“Why should we defend ourselves when we are misunderstood and misjudged? Let us leave that aside. Let us not say anything. It is so sweet to let others judge us in any way they like. O blessed silence, which gives so much peace to the soul!”
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I’m a married gal, twice. In my first marriage, we never discussed boundaries which was a mistake. The problem wasn’t about individual boundaries but about boundaries for us as a couple. For example, we both allowed single friends to request a lot of our time so we ended up not spending enough time together and exploring interests we could develop as a couple. IOW we acted more as if we were still single and that hurt our intimacy and connection. There was never infidelity there just wasn’t connection. That marriage ended in divorce after 15 years. I strongly suggest you discuss the questions, “What boundaries do we want to set to protect our growth together?”
Thank you so much for sharing that. Such wise advice 👏🏻
Cudos to you for figuring out what you want and finding happiness!
How about boundaries with inlaws?
According to the Bible, it says for a man to leave his parents and become one with his wife. They are no longer under the authority of their parents. But the Bible says to honor your parents. Respect your parents and show them kindness. But parents should never have any authority in their children’s marriages.
Boundaries are good. That is why we don't dance on the edge of a cliff.
Thank you for bringing wisdom!
I got engaged to my boyfriend of over 4 years last night. I am so excited! Thank you for your advice, Bethany! The boundaries that we have set in place have blessed our relationship so much and we have zero regrets!
Great wisdom 👏🏼 🙌 👌
Love the color of your nails! The red is so pretty
Ikr??? That’s what I was thinking.
Really great and insightful advice-thanks for the practical examples as well!
Your hair looks very nice!
Aww thank you!!
Thank you for making this video!! Already have some of these boundaries in place in my marriage, but got some great new ideas too :)
You look gorgeous Bethany! Great topic!
Love all of this! Love you sister!!! So thankful for God’s hand in your life and your unashamed love for the Gospel and living a godly life 💖
By his hand
What about when someone does break boundaries? How have you and Dave handled that as it has come up in your marriage?
It’s super important to communicate about those things. Figure out why the boundaries were broken and better plan for the future. If it’s something big, I would bring in wise counsel.
My girlfriend is just so touchy and i just need a little space. i just keep telling her i wanna wait until marriage, but she just wontttt listen. Do you or anyone else have any tips on how to deal with this?
Simply don’t wait until marriage. Do some inner work/healing. Do it when you feel ready, not until you sign a magical piece of paper.
Confront her about how this makes you feel uncomfortable. If she can’t respect your boundaries now, she won’t be able to respect boundaries later in life. This is definitely a major red flag
If she cant respect your wishes now, she wont respect them in future issues
Your a couple, don’t be afraid to touch each other
I'm not religious and don't advocate for waiting for marriage necessarily but if that's something you've chosen for yourself then you should be with someone that respects that and/or shares your beliefs. Be with someone who respects you fully.
Great time tested tips! Loving your hair, make up & nails.
What if 1 of your sister's texts your husband or offers to give him a ride? How do you handle that when it's family.
Like drive your husband in a car somewhere? What about that makes you uncomfortable? I’d try to look inside and ask yourself why your husband talking to/ being around your sisters makes you feel that way. Then when you can honestly answer yourself, tell him why it makes you feel that way.
Why don't you talk to your sister and tell her you're not comfortable with it. It's your marriage and your husband, you should call the shots.
It depends on each families relationship.
For some marriages/families, this is a totally normal.
For others, it is not.
These are bounties that are set in your marriage. Once you know and agree on some bounties, you can see what is/isn’t appropriate.
If she’s just giving him a ride then there’s nothing wrong with that, if she’s been flirting with him and being weird around him then gives him a ride she might have I’ll intentions and talk to your partner about how it makes you feel uncomfortable. Again tho is she JUST gives him a ride somewhere then that’s nothing to worry about, you can’t have a relationship without trust
This advice came in the right time for me. Eventhough I'm not married yet, I'm gonna use your advice for my marriage in the future. God bless you🙏
Thank you! I’m 19 and my fiancé and I decided (divorce) will NOT be apart of our marriage vocabulary.
Such a wise decision!
You look so beautiful!
Great video! Thanks Bethany.
So good!🎯💯
Very helpful 👐
Bethany, your hair looks -so nice-!! What do you ask for?
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