I struggled for a long time on how to let go of intrusive thoughts. The way she describes “naming” thoughts is exactly how I’ve gotten over them. If someone is struggling with this I recommend journaling and logically trying to deduce what is going on in your brain. I personally found writing thoughts on paper allow me to think about them in a more critical way instead of emotionally.
"Name it to tame it" is a concept that Dr. Dan Siegel discusses. If you haven't heard of him, I recommend looking him up. It bad be stuff you already know, but he's good to listen to. All the best, internet friend. ❤
Oh, and I also find writing my thoughts/anxieties out helps. I read them back to myself and realize how silly some of it souds, especially any fears. I'm glad you found some strategies that work for you.
I have been using the self-awareness of my driving anxiety and the frustration I used to get with other drivers. Picturing every slow driver in front of me as my mom or grandma helped quite a bit.
This is true. Moreover, the subjective narrative is your own experience. Therefore, the goals and visions we hold are entirely our own. So choosing a positive narrative is in a way, our individualistic-Subjective choice or experience, and continuously adding or building on that experience, encourages a positive snowball effect. With that, the brain possibly gets addicted to the positive pull, and rewire the perception we have about ourselves, i.e., the individual you.
I started finding more value in the things I am doing when I started to take some time and think about what my "roles" and "identity" were (friend, musician, rationalist, reader, playful, curious...) and looked at each of them to find how they really connected emotionnaly to my intrinsic value (courage, integrity, connexion with others, care, happiness...). It has been eye opening and made me connect much more deeply to life (starting new activity or engaging differently with existing one to notice and focus on the part I care/value the most). Hopes it help !
I've been meditating for a few years and noticed pain is tightly bound to anxiety. Opening up to that anxiety makes the pain disappear. It changed my life & doesnt take too much - not expecting anything, sitting down regularly and observing thoughts like leafs in a river
This is so true. Some people can do this earlier than others, which is why siblings brought up in the same household (esp with difficulties) can turn out different.
I have struggled with anxiety and depression at such a young age and it is hard for me to step outside of myself to change that narrative as a grown adult. I've been in and out of therapy for the last several years trying to change. This video was very helpful information and I would like to see more of her on Big Think. Thank you!
There is no replacement for proper therapy and medication (I've had to learn this the hard way myself), but I will say that for what you want I'd strongly recommend looking into existentialist philosophy. An EXTREMELY succint version is: existence precedes essence. In layman's terms, "you" is your existence/awareness, the part of you that's doing the experiencing/thinking/metacognition, any characteristics (sex, race, religion, occupation, hobbies, etc.) about you secondary to the fact you exist. If someone asks "who are you?" Many people would answer something like "I am [name], I am [age], from [location], but grew up in [hometown]. I am a [job title], and like to [hobby 1] and [hobby 2]" for an existentialist "I am" is the most complete and important answer. Because of this belief, they have very similar beliefs to the ideas in the video. Namely that once you realize that the roles/personas of [occupation], "the [character trait] one", and/or [franchise] superfan #1, you have adopted are not who you are at your core ("I am."), then you realize you have the freedom to change many of these traits *any* time you want. Obviously it's a lot easier to change hobbies than rewire your brain, but that's where the philosophy ends and the neuroscience begins 😅
This is great. I realisd the other day the reason I avoided weighing myself was my mothers reaction to an increase on the scales and I decided I wasn't going to react like that anymore. I will weigh myself and it is just a number. An indication of progress. I won't avoid myself any longer because of my mothers insecurities
As individuals, we are asked to bring our attention to our small wins to stack them. Yet we have our negative bias. Nicole Vignola flipped that on it's head, as a the exterior friend who brings your attention to your wins. That's why surrounding yourself with the right people is important.
It's also why IGNORING people is really important. No one knows your idea like you do. That's what makes it yours. No one has to believe in something that they can see, and if you believe in yourself and work on things in creative ways, you are bound to fail and succeed. Both, always, until the end of time. No one is perfect and no one hits grand slams every time they step up to the proverbial plate. Striking out means you took 3 swings, and, sure, you might very well have missed all of em... But it's not the first time, won't be the last, and you aren't the only one. Go out into the world and do something. Anything. That's positive and exciting to you. Anyone's opinion is irrelevant, especially if they have never tried to do anything outside the box. Don't colour within the lines. Draw right off the page. Don't box yourself in -- that's society's job 😂 You aren't perfect. We are all flawed. Embrace everything good and bad and see them as analogous to each other. We don't exist in a vacuum, and anything (within reason) is totally possible.
A very hopeful message. Yes, change is possible. It’s just very hard. And often, trying new techniques for change just provides an opportunity for your established belief systems to adapt and more expertly resist new threats to their claim on your mind. You should still try. But it is not quick and easy. It is likely an endeavor of nearly Sisyphean difficulty.
I find it fascinating that humans now start to perceive themselves as computers programmed by life so learning about themselves from the experiences in creating artificial intelligence like a mirror evolution of awareness.
Every negative thought or a negative thing has a very small but crucial positive inside of them, if you can get to that it's basically like creating a story about a hero struggling with a happy ending, it will become a positively ended narrative when you find it. Have a good one!
Honestly, I’ve been feeling completely overwhelmed by the flood of information out there, but Simplicity Through Simulation: The Algorithm of Humanity by Karl K. Dondaneau changed that for me. It’s like everything clicked-this book blends quantum mechanics, psychology, and mathematics in a way that actually makes sense of the chaos we’re all swimming in. It’s already starting to shift how I see reality, giving me a framework to understand things on a deeper level. If you’re craving something meaningful that cuts through the noise, this might be the book that does it. I can’t recommend it enough. It's on Amazon….
This isn't a simple matter of thinking positively and having everything fall into place through repetition. Neurons and perception don't work by just "believing and changing" - there are too many variables that need to align before you can excel or even succeed at an average level. Changing your thoughts doesn't guarantee a positive outcome. What this neuroscientist should have emphasized is that the strategies she mentioned-imitation, conditioning, and reinforcement-work best for tasks that can be learned through repetition. For example, if someone asks you to disassemble an air conditioner or cook a Beef Wellington meal, it might seem hard at first. But if someone shows you how and has you practice it 50 to 100 times, it will eventually become second nature. Not because "the brain can change," but because it's a case of "monkey see, monkey do"-imitating, emulating, and simulating. Now, take that same person and teach them chess for 10 years, put them through Navy SEAL training (BUD/S), enroll them in a rigorous academic program to become a theoretical physicist, or ask them to lose 70 pounds. There's a 99% chance they won't succeed because our abilities and achievements are heavily influenced by our DNA, genetic makeup, and cognitive predispositions. That's why athletes like Cristiano Ronaldo, Messi, Jon Jones, and Tom Brady are extraordinary,thats why physicists like Stephen Hawking, Edward Witten, Roger Penrose, Frank Wilczek, Kip Thorne are exceptional-not just because they thought positively or worked hard, but because they are part of a small group of gifted individuals who found what they excel in or were guided to the right path and they pushed hard on top of their dna and cognitive predispositions. These neuroscientists today often oversimplify things for the sake of gaining attention,views,click or god knows what. They need to be more realistic and convey their ideas in a way that resonates with and to the average person.
My former partner would fall into these traps at work, and I finally started asking her, "What's a good thing that happened today?" It pushed her to think of relief or delight and cling to that while I did my part to broaden her relief now that she's made it home.
My understanding of the world has been shaped by habits like masturbation, gaming, and procrastination, but I've recently decided to leave those bad habits behind. Am I on the right path now?
00:26 Wait, what?! The narrative we've lived our entire lives by might not even be our own? 😱 Imagine the power of reshaping who we are just by rewiring our thoughts! This is mind-blowing! I need to know more about this Perception Box-how do we break free from it?
Meditation and journaling help because they make you observe your thoughts, especially your ANTs (automatic negative thoughts). You cannot change a thought that you’re not aware that you’re having. So once you are aware of your thoughts, you can choose to let them go, as if you were watching a car driving away; you can choose to challenge your thoughts, questioning if they’re true; and you can choose new ways to think about things. Best of luck in your self-discovery journey. ❤
What if I'm actually being critical and not just emotional, I have an assignment in a few days an haven't done nothing, I struggle reading everyday and end up doomscrolling on social media, I'm trying to fix my life slowly but I know i have no time to fix it "slow" because I'm supposed to finish college next year my mom pays for it and she doesn't want me working so I can focus on my studies yet I'm not even giving my best on it. I also want to make some money so i don't feel that bad in general, I started learning 3d modeling and programming but until i can make money out of it it's gonna take time. I'm 21, I try to think I'm not that bad and I'n a few years I will be fine, but right now I'm in misery even though I have thing my mom gives me I have nothing I have achieved myself and that eats me by thinking I'm an useless parasyte whenever i get a good grade i don't feel like i've earned it because i just studied last day I hate it being here today. That sound very emotional but at the end I'm effortlessly going through college and being mediocre and not making any money.
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i used to be be overly pessimistic in life as a teenager and i wonder how i'm feeling happy when i just broke up with my bf plus i just did my morning stretches 😂
You can recognize when you start thinking something about yourself or feeling a specific way. when you think of something that makes you sad you can recognize that it makes you sad and that you sre now feeling sad. Creo
Try imagining your mind as a place - a room, a library, a house. And observe what goes in and out of it. She talks about narratives in the video and I think it's as simple as that - stories we tell ourselves about who we are. We can tell stories about what goes on in our brains. For example, at night perhaps you're more likely to think of sad and lonely thoughts. You can give these thoughts a name. John, Alice. They come knocking in at night and it's up to you how you deal with them. Do you ignore them and sleep? Do you ask them to come in for tea? Anthropomorphise your feelings and thoughts, and perhaps, over time, you'll start to tell a new story about who you are.
When ever I notice that my thoughts are going somewhere useless or negative, I right away say "monkey brain" it works for me. Then I force my self or remind my self to think of something happy or positive or thankfulness or my do-to-list. Lol
My only current thought that is damaging me is the feeling thar one specific coworker does a shitty job. I depend on her a lot of times, she should give me information and it is never correct. I just don't trust her and nowadays I feel it is on purpose. She won't ever check what she delivers. We hace different bosses and her boss just tells her how great she is and while I listen to that my blood boils. Today I had to stay at work until 8 because she delivered something wrong and that made me late to start an assignment that was due tomorrow. Just writing thia I feel my face turning red from anger. Anyway, I don't know how to deal with these incompetent people, but I know I need to reframe this shit or my life will be miserable. 😂
Have you tried documenting what happens and the impact each time it occurs? Use specific, descriptive language that isn’t emotionally charged, and show cause and effect. Either it will be useful in asking for changes to be made, or you might realize something that lessens your distress.
I started having anxiety 18 months and I am in a cycle I get feeling of dizziness and faint with headaches I went to see a psychologist but I am still stuck in a cycle what can I do
Not everyone has a negativity bias, so don't buy into that idea, People develop their own nevagitivy bias by how they charatiarize, label people, situations etc.
Absolutely if your plan is to to be a sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon. Just be the very best sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon you can be!
Humans are not machines to be ON , made "right" in click of a button. Make space for incremental growth . For that recognizing and building upon small wins is important, is what the video says. Even one hour devoid these habits in a week is a win if want to change. All the best.
Know your true enemy, not yourself, not others thought, not the world and not life itself but everything that goes wrong and can be right. To give an example I am a pacifist, I hate crowd, the air that I breath, the food that I eat, the thoughts of others and myself. Then it was a joke, life is meaningless I don't know the answer too.
00:02 Neuroscience empowers changing self-perception and breaking free from limitations. 00:57 Observational knowledge shapes our self-perception. 01:44 Parental influence can shape fixed mindsets 02:33 Perception is influenced by pre-programming and biases 03:21 Our thoughts shape how we perceive the world. 04:11 Recognize and celebrate small wins to create new pathways in the brain 04:52 Develop metacognition to control thoughts and emotions 05:41 Our brains are capable of change at any age.
What made many like the Yule father Odin great was their love of nature and animals that resulted in the creation of a real life supernatural way of life that has shaped this world with advanced technology from nature. The magic smithing hammer of Thor son of Odin and Jord is about goats its about the hammer head which i believe taught Thor the survival skill known as boxing.
Ok but how do you know you're not overvaluing yourself. Without outside objective validation, how can you know you're not Tommy Wiseau thiking himself a brilliant director, or a crooked politician thinking themselves to be a great person
BIGTHINK, much like most individuals and places in contemporary society, has become a parody of its former self. With no ironic detachment. Hey, I can be a surly curmudgeon with a ripped six pack of abs. The two are not mutually exclusive.
@@summerbreeze5115 There is nothing else to be. ALL you are is your brain. There are ways to change some pathways, but unless you have an injury, that's about it.
What you'll do :
- Notice the small win
- Labeling your thoughts
- Self-reflect your narrative about the world
I struggled for a long time on how to let go of intrusive thoughts. The way she describes “naming” thoughts is exactly how I’ve gotten over them. If someone is struggling with this I recommend journaling and logically trying to deduce what is going on in your brain. I personally found writing thoughts on paper allow me to think about them in a more critical way instead of emotionally.
"Name it to tame it" is a concept that Dr. Dan Siegel discusses. If you haven't heard of him, I recommend looking him up. It bad be stuff you already know, but he's good to listen to.
All the best, internet friend. ❤
Oh, and I also find writing my thoughts/anxieties out helps. I read them back to myself and realize how silly some of it souds, especially any fears.
I'm glad you found some strategies that work for you.
I have been using the self-awareness of my driving anxiety and the frustration I used to get with other drivers.
Picturing every slow driver in front of me as my mom or grandma helped quite a bit.
No other way mate 😅
Videos like this are what make living better
The way she smiled at the end when she said that the narratives can change brings so much hope. Thank you for this!
This vedio reached me at the right time. Time to work on myself.
Her smile alone can change someone else. I can only imagine het expertly thought out and educated seed-planting casual questions.
This is true. Moreover, the subjective narrative is your own experience. Therefore, the goals and visions we hold are entirely our own. So choosing a positive narrative is in a way, our individualistic-Subjective choice or experience, and continuously adding or building on that experience, encourages a positive snowball effect. With that, the brain possibly gets addicted to the positive pull, and rewire the perception we have about ourselves, i.e., the individual you.
I started finding more value in the things I am doing when I started to take some time and think about what my "roles" and "identity" were (friend, musician, rationalist, reader, playful, curious...) and looked at each of them to find how they really connected emotionnaly to my intrinsic value (courage, integrity, connexion with others, care, happiness...). It has been eye opening and made me connect much more deeply to life (starting new activity or engaging differently with existing one to notice and focus on the part I care/value the most).
Hopes it help !
I've been meditating for a few years and noticed pain is tightly bound to anxiety. Opening up to that anxiety makes the pain disappear. It changed my life & doesnt take too much - not expecting anything, sitting down regularly and observing thoughts like leafs in a river
"There is no scientific study more vital to man than the study of his own brain. Our entire view of the universe depends on it." ~ Francis Crick
This is so true. Some people can do this earlier than others, which is why siblings brought up in the same household (esp with difficulties) can turn out different.
Love the image of dirt road changing into high way!
I have struggled with anxiety and depression at such a young age and it is hard for me to step outside of myself to change that narrative as a grown adult. I've been in and out of therapy for the last several years trying to change. This video was very helpful information and I would like to see more of her on Big Think. Thank you!
There is no replacement for proper therapy and medication (I've had to learn this the hard way myself), but I will say that for what you want I'd strongly recommend looking into existentialist philosophy. An EXTREMELY succint version is: existence precedes essence. In layman's terms, "you" is your existence/awareness, the part of you that's doing the experiencing/thinking/metacognition, any characteristics (sex, race, religion, occupation, hobbies, etc.) about you secondary to the fact you exist. If someone asks "who are you?" Many people would answer something like
"I am [name], I am [age], from [location], but grew up in [hometown]. I am a [job title], and like to [hobby 1] and [hobby 2]"
for an existentialist "I am" is the most complete and important answer.
Because of this belief, they have very similar beliefs to the ideas in the video. Namely that once you realize that the roles/personas of [occupation], "the [character trait] one", and/or [franchise] superfan #1, you have adopted are not who you are at your core ("I am."), then you realize you have the freedom to change many of these traits *any* time you want.
Obviously it's a lot easier to change hobbies than rewire your brain, but that's where the philosophy ends and the neuroscience begins 😅
Her English is beautiful! Amazing video! Thanks a lot.
This is great. I realisd the other day the reason I avoided weighing myself was my mothers reaction to an increase on the scales and I decided I wasn't going to react like that anymore. I will weigh myself and it is just a number. An indication of progress. I won't avoid myself any longer because of my mothers insecurities
As individuals, we are asked to bring our attention to our small wins to stack them. Yet we have our negative bias. Nicole Vignola flipped that on it's head, as a the exterior friend who brings your attention to your wins. That's why surrounding yourself with the right people is important.
It's also why IGNORING people is really important. No one knows your idea like you do. That's what makes it yours. No one has to believe in something that they can see, and if you believe in yourself and work on things in creative ways, you are bound to fail and succeed. Both, always, until the end of time. No one is perfect and no one hits grand slams every time they step up to the proverbial plate. Striking out means you took 3 swings, and, sure, you might very well have missed all of em... But it's not the first time, won't be the last, and you aren't the only one. Go out into the world and do something. Anything. That's positive and exciting to you. Anyone's opinion is irrelevant, especially if they have never tried to do anything outside the box. Don't colour within the lines. Draw right off the page. Don't box yourself in -- that's society's job 😂 You aren't perfect. We are all flawed. Embrace everything good and bad and see them as analogous to each other. We don't exist in a vacuum, and anything (within reason) is totally possible.
This felt so much like therapy, much enjoyed!
A very hopeful message. Yes, change is possible. It’s just very hard. And often, trying new techniques for change just provides an opportunity for your established belief systems to adapt and more expertly resist new threats to their claim on your mind. You should still try. But it is not quick and easy. It is likely an endeavor of nearly Sisyphean difficulty.
Absolutely love this! Not just research and info about how our brains work but actionable steps to help ourselves. ❤🧠
Thank you! Needed to hear this
I find it fascinating that humans now start to perceive themselves as computers programmed by life so learning about themselves from the experiences in creating artificial intelligence like a mirror evolution of awareness.
That's an interesting thought. I'll make sure to add it to my program
What an impact it had on me !
Thank you
Such a relief knowing that You can change.
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THIS VIDEO IS POWERFUL!!!
IM GONNA KEEP COMING BACK HERE WHEN I FEEL SOME TYPA WAY!!!
I overanalyse everything i do and feel.I am very well aware of tge biases and weaknesses i have.
Why bigthink is not on Spotify 😢
Thanks
You can start with understanding there is no "your" brain. "your" is a thought.
Thank you!
Thank you for posting this video.
This was quite helpful.
A very important topic, especially in these truly terrifying days.
I really enjoyed this one.
Yes, pigeon-holing can be so frustrating.
complex to hear and understand but good to watch
This was great! ❤
Ayye NicoleNeuroscience for the win !
this is a great topic, can you please bring in more in-depth knowledge on it
Great content
Every negative thought or a negative thing has a very small but crucial positive inside of them, if you can get to that it's basically like creating a story about a hero struggling with a happy ending, it will become a positively ended narrative when you find it. Have a good one!
A technique to work on changing a (disfunctional) limbic system is DNRS. Just a tip :)
thank you
Honestly, I’ve been feeling completely overwhelmed by the flood of information out there, but Simplicity Through Simulation: The Algorithm of Humanity by Karl K. Dondaneau changed that for me. It’s like everything clicked-this book blends quantum mechanics, psychology, and mathematics in a way that actually makes sense of the chaos we’re all swimming in. It’s already starting to shift how I see reality, giving me a framework to understand things on a deeper level. If you’re craving something meaningful that cuts through the noise, this might be the book that does it. I can’t recommend it enough. It's on Amazon….
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This isn't a simple matter of thinking positively and having everything fall into place through repetition. Neurons and perception don't work by just "believing and changing" - there are too many variables that need to align before you can excel or even succeed at an average level.
Changing your thoughts doesn't guarantee a positive outcome. What this neuroscientist should have emphasized is that the strategies she mentioned-imitation, conditioning, and reinforcement-work best for tasks that can be learned through repetition.
For example, if someone asks you to disassemble an air conditioner or cook a Beef Wellington meal, it might seem hard at first. But if someone shows you how and has you practice it 50 to 100 times, it will eventually become second nature. Not because "the brain can change," but because it's a case of "monkey see, monkey do"-imitating, emulating, and simulating.
Now, take that same person and teach them chess for 10 years, put them through Navy SEAL training (BUD/S), enroll them in a rigorous academic program to become a theoretical physicist, or ask them to lose 70 pounds. There's a 99% chance they won't succeed because our abilities and achievements are heavily influenced by our DNA, genetic makeup, and cognitive predispositions. That's why athletes like Cristiano Ronaldo, Messi, Jon Jones, and Tom Brady are extraordinary,thats why physicists like Stephen Hawking, Edward Witten, Roger Penrose, Frank Wilczek, Kip Thorne are exceptional-not just because they thought positively or worked hard, but because they are part of a small group of gifted individuals who found what they excel in or were guided to the right path and they pushed hard on top of their dna and cognitive predispositions.
These neuroscientists today often oversimplify things for the sake of gaining attention,views,click or god knows what. They need to be more realistic and convey their ideas in a way that resonates with and to the average person.
Agree, hard work and positive only get you through day to day task. It doesn't guarantee that you could archive anything high quality or exceptional
My former partner would fall into these traps at work, and I finally started asking her, "What's a good thing that happened today?" It pushed her to think of relief or delight and cling to that while I did my part to broaden her relief now that she's made it home.
I'm loving this comment section. So many inspiring journeys. I hope everyone here can feel proud of their wins and how far we have all come thus far.
We are what we think
My understanding of the world has been shaped by habits like masturbation, gaming, and procrastination, but I've recently decided to leave those bad habits behind. Am I on the right path now?
There's nothing inherently wrong, or "bad", with any of those things. It becomes an issue when it's unbalanced and affects your daily existence.
Depends where you want to go friend
00:26 Wait, what?! The narrative we've lived our entire lives by might not even be our own? 😱 Imagine the power of reshaping who we are just by rewiring our thoughts! This is mind-blowing! I need to know more about this Perception Box-how do we break free from it?
I think by identifying the story you are telling yourself.
Meditation and journaling help because they make you observe your thoughts, especially your ANTs (automatic negative thoughts). You cannot change a thought that you’re not aware that you’re having. So once you are aware of your thoughts, you can choose to let them go, as if you were watching a car driving away; you can choose to challenge your thoughts, questioning if they’re true; and you can choose new ways to think about things. Best of luck in your self-discovery journey. ❤
Thanks : )
What if I'm actually being critical and not just emotional, I have an assignment in a few days an haven't done nothing, I struggle reading everyday and end up doomscrolling on social media, I'm trying to fix my life slowly but I know i have no time to fix it "slow" because I'm supposed to finish college next year my mom pays for it and she doesn't want me working so I can focus on my studies yet I'm not even giving my best on it. I also want to make some money so i don't feel that bad in general, I started learning 3d modeling and programming but until i can make money out of it it's gonna take time. I'm 21, I try to think I'm not that bad and I'n a few years I will be fine, but right now I'm in misery even though I have thing my mom gives me I have nothing I have achieved myself and that eats me by thinking I'm an useless parasyte whenever i get a good grade i don't feel like i've earned it because i just studied last day I hate it being here today. That sound very emotional but at the end I'm effortlessly going through college and being mediocre and not making any money.
I relate to Martha :(
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Beautiful Nicole. My mood and anxiety was lifted when I became aware of small wins 🏆
i used to be be overly pessimistic in life as a teenager and i wonder how i'm feeling happy when i just broke up with my bf plus i just did my morning stretches 😂
any technic how can we change our perspectives?
this finally made it really click in my brain how helpful consciously practicing gratitude can be
but how do you name the thoughts? can someone give an example? 6:11
You can recognize when you start thinking something about yourself or feeling a specific way.
when you think of something that makes you sad you can recognize that it makes you sad and that you sre now feeling sad.
Creo
You can try a simiar strategy we use to identify objects or feelings.
Try imagining your mind as a place - a room, a library, a house. And observe what goes in and out of it. She talks about narratives in the video and I think it's as simple as that - stories we tell ourselves about who we are. We can tell stories about what goes on in our brains. For example, at night perhaps you're more likely to think of sad and lonely thoughts. You can give these thoughts a name. John, Alice. They come knocking in at night and it's up to you how you deal with them. Do you ignore them and sleep? Do you ask them to come in for tea? Anthropomorphise your feelings and thoughts, and perhaps, over time, you'll start to tell a new story about who you are.
When ever I notice that my thoughts are going somewhere useless or negative, I right away say "monkey brain" it works for me. Then I force my self or remind my self to think of something happy or positive or thankfulness or my do-to-list. Lol
Everything is netral. When u give meaning to something in your brain. it will give you a perception of the meaning of something and a feeling
My only current thought that is damaging me is the feeling thar one specific coworker does a shitty job. I depend on her a lot of times, she should give me information and it is never correct. I just don't trust her and nowadays I feel it is on purpose. She won't ever check what she delivers. We hace different bosses and her boss just tells her how great she is and while I listen to that my blood boils. Today I had to stay at work until 8 because she delivered something wrong and that made me late to start an assignment that was due tomorrow. Just writing thia I feel my face turning red from anger. Anyway, I don't know how to deal with these incompetent people, but I know I need to reframe this shit or my life will be miserable. 😂
Have you tried documenting what happens and the impact each time it occurs? Use specific, descriptive language that isn’t emotionally charged, and show cause and effect. Either it will be useful in asking for changes to be made, or you might realize something that lessens your distress.
I wonder how people are so confident about themselves. How can they be so igborsnt of tgeir Incapabilites
I started having anxiety 18 months and I am in a cycle I get feeling of dizziness and faint with headaches I went to see a psychologist but I am still stuck in a cycle what can I do
Lol it's gonna take 30000000 positive vibes to info the word schizophreeeeeeniaaaaassyeeehhhaaaa
So by watching my thoughts i can change myself into the person i want to be...interesting
the thing is, my body starts how i think and observe, Interoception i guess.
Not everyone has a negativity bias, so don't buy into that idea,
People develop their own nevagitivy bias by how they charatiarize, label people, situations etc.
I legit thought she was gonna say Rachel as Samantha's sister
5:58 lol
Alhamdulillah❤🎉
Music is really overkill distracting
My perception box is constructed from masturbation, drug abuse, playing video games and procrastination. Am I on good way?
Absolutely if your plan is to to be a sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon. Just be the very best sticky, Cheeto dust covered grease stain on a futon you can be!
Humans are not machines to be ON , made "right" in click of a button. Make space for incremental growth . For that recognizing and building upon small wins is important, is what the video says. Even one hour devoid these habits in a week is a win if want to change. All the best.
as long as you don't get radicalized on the internet to be a hateful psycho, you're good in my book
Know your true enemy, not yourself, not others thought, not the world and not life itself but everything that goes wrong and can be right. To give an example I am a pacifist, I hate crowd, the air that I breath, the food that I eat, the thoughts of others and myself. Then it was a joke, life is meaningless I don't know the answer too.
As long as you believe that in the areas you are an expert in you are the best you can be haha
So in line with the bible
These are conceptions, not perceptions.
00:02 Neuroscience empowers changing self-perception and breaking free from limitations.
00:57 Observational knowledge shapes our self-perception.
01:44 Parental influence can shape fixed mindsets
02:33 Perception is influenced by pre-programming and biases
03:21 Our thoughts shape how we perceive the world.
04:11 Recognize and celebrate small wins to create new pathways in the brain
04:52 Develop metacognition to control thoughts and emotions
05:41 Our brains are capable of change at any age.
The music is too much. Tone it down by 50%
POV: guides on how to gaslight yourself
should we apply this thinking to Israel?
What if I'm happy with myself now, and could truly care less how I appear to the world anymore? I'm good thanks!😊
Who are here in 2024
'couldn't care less'
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. - Romans 12:2
I reclaim my brain every day: NO
Background sound is irritating, stop using it.
It is a bit too loud. I can barely hear the person speaking half the time. *and she is speaking perfectly clearly I think
Big think, can you pls dub this whole video in HIndi?
Welcome to Eastern Christian ascetics. Proudly serving humanity to deal with itself for two millennia.
What made many like the Yule father Odin great was their love of nature and animals that resulted in the creation of a real life supernatural way of life that has shaped this world with advanced technology from nature. The magic smithing hammer of Thor son of Odin and Jord is about goats its about the hammer head which i believe taught Thor the survival skill known as boxing.
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I hope my channel change my financial problems❤
not another book promo...
Ok but how do you know you're not overvaluing yourself. Without outside objective validation, how can you know you're not Tommy Wiseau thiking himself a brilliant director, or a crooked politician thinking themselves to be a great person
just become mentally strong ez
BIGTHINK, much like most individuals and places in contemporary society, has become a parody of its former self. With no ironic detachment.
Hey, I can be a surly curmudgeon with a ripped six pack of abs. The two are not mutually exclusive.
Don’t forget, the Pacific/Atlantic Ocean/pool party show is complete different from this diatribe.
Try as you might, fail you still will. Downvote this.
this neuroscientist has no idea how cooked my brain is
Remeber
You are not your brain stuffs (thoughts, emotions, hurts,etc)
@@summerbreeze5115 There is nothing else to be. ALL you are is your brain. There are ways to change some pathways, but unless you have an injury, that's about it.
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Yup
But This realisation that I'm just a conditioned biological robot is Bliss
@@summerbreeze5115 Yes, but it is also something that our brains just can seem to conceptualize. So it won't do you much good.
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How is that a concept/perspective to the mind.
Isn't it a fact?
She has pretty nails
This video is not groundbreaking at all...
I don't trust anyone.
How is this any different from CBT basic techniques. Such a big video title for shallow a speech.
cock and ball torture?
PS5, gambling or cocaine?
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