why vulnerability is a superpower
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Shaaba you are an amazing human being
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I agree with this statement
It's never weak to be vulnerable, it can show how strong you are by showing you're not afraid to show your emotions and are okay being in uncomfortable situations sometimes.
Vulnerability, is a reed in the wind. It bends, weeps and discovers how to become flexible and renewed
Yes! When you are taught growing up to not express your emotions it is so hard to unlearn that and move towards being more vulnerable with others. The older I get, the more I can see how those walls impede both personal growth and my relationships in every form. And just because the harm was not being done consciously does not mean it was not being done.
"I am allowed those lows or highs wouldn't be highs!" - Shaaba
So true♡
I always say do not mistake my kindness for weakness.
We all want to be cool and together so others will like us, but I find I like someone more when they expose a weakness or laugh at themselves over a silly mistake. I try to remember that and admit my flaws in a way that invites friendship rather than trying to maintain an impossible image of being superior, when of course I'm not.
I'm very emotional and I constantly feel guilty about it - like I shouldn't be showing this much emotion, I should be able to control myself better, why can't I squash these feelings down deep inside myself like everyone else does? But my therapist has spent a lot of time working with me to understand that concept of it being a super power - it was so nice to hear Shaaba talk about it from her experience too.
kizzyneetyan I feel similarly. Thank you for sharing your experience. You are not alone in feeling like an over-sharer. Feelings are important to not bottle up even if it’s inconvenient for people around you.
Oh my goodness I really needed this video right now, my cat who has been with me my whole life died two weeks ago and I've been feeling completely awful thank you so much for talking about these kinds of things, you're really helping a lot of people
A month and a half ago, my world shattered. My Dad was killed in an auto accident. He was one of two people who I could share with. It has been a horrible time of trying to grieve and trying to sort these feelings without being able to share with one of the people I used to talk things out with 🥺 much love to you
I'm so sorry for your loss
Such a terrible loss - not only a parent but someone who really gets you. My heart goes out to you.
Before she says anything yes it’s okay guys love you shabba and I hope everyone’s day is great I’ve been very vulnerable right now becuase my grandpa died so yes thanks for marking this type of content
I hope you are feeling better, also I hope you cherish and remember all the moments you had with your grandpa. My heart is with you right now, even tho we don't know each other
I feel like once you find the fine lie between bottling everything up and oversharing that is being vulnerable, things get both easier and harder. easier in the sense that there is so much weight off your chest, but hard in the sense that it makes all those feelings and thoughts and emotions so
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When Shaaba said "turn it off" my mind jumped to the Book of Mormon song and now i'm playing it on loop in my head
Like a liiiight switch 🎶
@@beccitatefitzjohn7804 just go click click click, what a cool little Mormon trick! 🎶
No!!!!! Your authenticity is so beautiful, as is Jaime’s. Just stunning. That’s what was so gorgeous about #RBG.
happy BiVisibility day!
This video really spoke to me being the first kind of person, clamming up and avoiding all intimacy. But then when I found a person that made me feel safe, I was able to let go a little. Vulnerability really does come from a place of security.
Being vulnerable is defo a superpower.
We as humans need to learn to be vulnerable with each other, but only when it is safe to do so, anyone reading this please dont put yourself in any danger ♡
Tbh most people lied when they were younger. I used to lie about where I was going and what I was doing so I could be around the people I wanted to be around.
Im glad your at peace with your past :)
Being vulnerable requires u to be quite strong, to expose what hurts u or affects u to the world, knowing that u r a human being and therefore u r not a robot and u have emotions, and u show em cuz u know u need to, as Freud said emotions u don't show they don't vanish but remain in ur be and become mental illnesses, but u r so strong that u get a screw em set of mind, and do what u need to do, knowing or wipo judge, but u do it cuz u need to, as John Green said pain demands to be felt
Shaaba always makes me smile
II love seeing something like this been shared! Yes, its a damn big problem that so many of us are so afraid of showing true vulnerability - myself included.
'm generally speaking a very sensitive person meaning I pick up on and internalize whatever people are feeling around me. Growing up I definitely didn't have the healthiest of family situations which resulted in me crying A LOT as a kid. Throughout my childhood I was told to stop crying by parents, teachers and peers (I was bullied by one kid throughout several years due to it). I was basically told not to feel whatever it was that I was feeling and I shut down emotionally FOR YEARS. I was basically living and feeling like a robot.
It took me another couple of years (including therapy) to turn up the volume of my own emotions so I can feel more like a human being - but even now I have a VERY difficult time figuring out what the hell I am feeling and I have to actively sit down and write things out or just start rambling stream-of-conscious style for me to actually know what I'm feeling. And IF I find out I'm feeling something like sadness, shame or hurt I am afraid of letting other people know about it, exactly because I've been told the majority of my life that is a sign of weakness.
Hey there shaaba just wanted to say hey from South Africa 🌍
I have to add to the voices recommending Brene Brown, who is a 'researcher-storyteller' whose work is around shame and vulnerability. I'd start with her two TED Talks (older then newer), and then depending on what medium suits you best she has books, a Netflix special, a podcast... take your pick! She speaks about vulnerability being a way to live a wholehearted life, while acknowledging how difficult it is. Her research backs what we know instinctively, and provides guidance on how we can work towards living wholehearted lives. Just go check it out already... 💕
It's almost 1 AM, I have to get up early tomorrow but I don't care, my queen Shaaba posted a video and I'm watching it
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Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. Being vulnerable is something that I need to work on.
I've been nervous about releasing my latest video (it's still in progress, but I hope it'll be ready soon), because I was worried about how people would react to me being far more vulnerable than I was in previous videos. But you've helped me think about vulnerability in a new way, and it's giving me the courage to pursue the things I want to pursue with my channel, even if it means doing things that are vulnerable.
thank you for addressing the potential danger of showing vulnerability for some people. abuse and trauma is often invisible and can sometimes take a lifetime to overcome in order to embrace vulnerability and heal. thanks for being inclusive in your opinion on it.
vulnerability is so important! i had a best friend and we were extremely vulnerable to each other and in my case it clearly was because i loved her and trusted her so much that i was able to share the ugly and embarrasing with her
For anyone interested in learning more about this topic, Brene Brown's books, TED Talks, and website are all great resources! She's a shame and vulnerability researcher so everything she talks about is backed up by facts and her writing style is very personable. 10/10 would recommend!
I was raised to not show any feelings of any kind, and it created a big problem in a lot of my relationships, now after being with my current partner of almost 14 years, they still mention that I don;t know what I'm feeling now and then, and they want me to tell them what's going on, and they've never met another person who "never cries". It's been an interesting journey in therapy, but I'm getting there! I feel more human than I ever have before, knowing what to call an emotion, because before I never knew what to call things because I wasn't allowed to talk about them.
It's NOT a horrific ramble by any means Shaaba! 💖💕 This is a wonderful video, I really needed to hear this to be honest.
Lately I've been putting up that "Happy Face" and I'm feeling like I'm going to implode. This helps me come back to reality and know there are people out there who care, want to help, and are willing to listen to what I feel I need to say 🥰👏 I have therapy on Friday and will be bringing this up so I can get a dialog going with my therapist to help me sort out how I've been feeling, many thank you's and safe distance subscriber hugs to you! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
First comment finally!!!
love the way you spoke on this topic, thanks shaaba ❤️
Honestly, I needed this. Last week I told my health class (it amounts to about 23 people from school that I normally like to show my positive side only to) that I have anxiety and low self-esteem. It was very nerve wrecking and I was shaking after I told them. I felt like I was being judged and honestly, it was kinda refreshing as well.
I'm bipolar, and that has made me always vulnerable emotionally. When I was a teenager, I could not get affected by what others thought, did, or said, and my parents, family, and friends always told me to grow some scar tissue. It was tough for me. Now I have found that being vulnerable made me a lot more empathetic and that people open up to me really easily because they feel they can. I can only be vulnerable with certain people now, but I love that I gained so much empathy to give. It actually made me stronger; it is a superpower that helps you understand others' points of view and value your own ups and downs.
I wrote that mid-video. If you would like to know about mental health in Mexico, or about my case (I was diagnosed at 13, which is weird) I'm here! Also all my friends with borderline, depression, etc. We are trying to make it ok to talk about it here.
Lies devastate lives, & the best liars do it with the aid of bags of charm & devastating smiles on their faces.
Sadness can be a bonding experience. Also showing vulnerability can help others express feelings. Like this with me xx thank you
I always say, emotions have a purpose even the "bad" ones. they help us process. We don't need a reason to feel sad or angry. We don't need to justify. You just are feeling this way. If you push it away the wound festers and resentment or mistrust happen. Feel it. Don't judge it, just let it happen and the wound heals cleanly. In that moment you don't judge your emotion you gain control over it as well.
Thanks so much for sharing! You're a joy and inspiration
All of that was very reassuring to hear! As a person who is very emotional and open about their emotions by nature, I spent years trying to learn how to "keep it in". It's scary how good I became at hiding struggles, emotions and truth at some point, just because I felt it was how it's supposed to be, and I'm glad to now be in a position to unlearn all of that, to unpack my need to build huge walls to keep everyone out instead of letting myself be vulnerable and authentic.
Thanks for giving us a more positive point of view on vulnerability and talking about it so openly! I wish this was a more widespread way of seeing and handling it, since the usual "vulnerability = weakness" causes so much harm.
I loved this video! It’s the first one of yours that I have been relatively early for. Since I live in my fandoms, I couldn’t help but relate it back to Katara from Avatar the Last Airbender. I have seen people making fun of this 14 year old character for sometimes grieving the loss of her mother. I am happy to report that I have seen even more people defending her and explaining why it is not only okay but great for her to grieve the way she did.
Another fandom thing is shipping and I think that discussions about it should have more vulnerability and understanding on all sides. Shipping is very personal and I think that it is important to be patient with people who like things you think are abhorrent. It might be less insidious and destructive than you think. There are some lines that should be crossed less often than they are now, but I think people should be allowed to try out bad opinions in their formative years because they likely will discard them with time.
I love the way you talk through your thoughts. I always feel like it’s unacceptable for me to do, but I really love hearing someone else doing it. Helps me understand what you’re thinking and also makes me feel better about myself that it’s ok when I do it.
it’s hard to be vulnerable.... it’s rly hard
Wow is all I can say. I've been working on becoming more vulnerable with my partner and this video came when I needed it. Thank you!!!!
Thank you for this video, I've never thought of vulnerability as strength before. 💙
Ooo perfect 👌 something feel good to watch while I eat my food . 💕
Living the dialectic! 💓💗💓💗
I've always felt really uncomfortable crying around anyone or making anyone worry so I would always lock myself in the bathroom or hide under my blanket and silently cry even though I've always been a happy kid and I don't have depression, anxiety, or any mental problems really. I think it stems from being yelled at for certain reasons as a kid and getting triggered or just feeling embarrassed to cry.
This reminded me that I haven't cried in forever(probably more than 10 years) - I simply can't do it anymore.(even when I want to)
I really admire your ability for both self reflection and self-relegation ....I feel ! should I feel ? if I do ? Others do ! So let’s teach , let’s empower ! ...very good/noble/“woke” to do ..sincere ....sometimes worry if putting this much of your young life on line is a “sustainable” model for happiness? ...but I’m old .., lol .. so mostly your a delight to listen to and great at educating us on a “new” ways in a open world ...thank you !
I was in a car accident and I constantly felt useless/worthless. Because I felt I could not be vulnerable I ended up in a spiral of suicidal thoughts. I’m in a better place now but It’s a fight not to fall back into not communicating my feelings.
Love your talk videos so much! You discuss the stuff that needs to be discussed and in the most respectful, relatable way. Much love 💕
I just had the friendliest break-up in the history of break-ups, but it was horrible nonetheless. And since it happened yesterday I'm struggling to not get all jaded and allow myself to properly feel how much it hurts. Also today is the 7 year anniversary of my father's passing... So yeah, thank you, Shaaba, your video just came out at the best possible moment
U lil angel 😊
Such a valuable ramble. Thank you Shaaba!
"Inside Out" in 25 minutes
I think you would love Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. It's an excellent book about vulnerability and shame (which she studied for 12 years at least), there is also a Netflix special that she did too!
This is such a good message! I'm happy that you're in such a healthy mental state 😁
Yay new video 🥺 lol you can't have happyness without sadness. Best of vibes to you hunny 💝 you still amazing and love you bunches 💞❤️💜 another good video.
This has helped me SOOOO much!! Thank you! I've saved this video for future reference, shared it with friends, written down insight, liked the video AND subscribed. I was really having a hard time with this and this was just the video I needed!!
Haven't watched the video yet but I can just _tell_ from the title that this is going to hit close to home
Edit: I was right but this did actually help, so thanks!
You, ma'am, are a wise woman.
This is so, so good. One of the best youtube vids on here dude. Thank you!
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So insightful, as always
This video is great! Thanks for opening up about this topic in this wonderful way! You give us a lot to think about and I love it! :)
Hey shaaba
this was such a lovely video thank you shaaba!
Shasta, where were you when I was in my 20s? It took me so long to learn this and be free! I appreciate you.
This helped me so much!
This was whay to relatable for ..me.
For some of us words do have colors, and for me "vulnerability" is not gray 😉
"I wouldn't have the balls"
*cough cough* the bi balls
Frozen live-action, Shaaba as Elsa. Who's with me?
Sorry if I missed it, but I really like supporting trans youtubers, so can you share the make up artist who does tutorials?