you're so right about the honoring each other and life happening. Alot of people who only concentrate on what makes them happy as individuals but don't consider how it affects them as a team. I'm of the belief that everything we do affects someone, so just because it makes me happy doesn't mean it benefits my family and partner. Communication is the key, never assume you know how the other person feels about something no matter how long you've known them xx
You are truly one of the most non BS people! It's amazing. I love your explanation of the 'good' love triangle. I have no idea how I ended up on You Tube tonight, but I'm glad I did, because you have been very inspirational. Maybe it's God's way of giving me hope that I'll survive. I know I need to toughen up, because right now I'm scared ^*^%less! And KNOW I need to find ME again. I remember ME and I miss ME, and internally I REALLY like me. But there's this damn brick wall that I keep hitting and this freaking depression that's paralyzing me. I am a tiny woman about 4' 10" and I have lost a lot of weight. I'm near 80 #'s. I'm scared all the time. I live alone in a huge three level home with a gorgeous golf course as my back yard that I refer to as my pretty prison. I can barely function. I'm so depressed all the time. I suffered losing 9 souls in 2011 from Feb. to Dec. First my Grandpa, who was my very best friend in the whole world. Then the weekend after that I found myself at a funeral for a dear dear friend. Then I lost my God Father. Then more friends, and then the worst day of my life came on Oct. 18, 2011 and I lost my Dad, and the sickening thing is, is that my ex was so happy and so satisfied and so elated, it's like it supercharged him. His arrogance knew no bounds, his audacity, everything mean became stronger and more open. It hurt deep. He even went at me for mourning and told me to get over it. He was cruel. So why in the hell do I even give a ^&%$ about him. Why do I even love such a demonic evil spirited person. Why do I even give a damn about him? He is a loser and a failure at life. All he is, is a war monger, that's all I've ever known him to be. Ever since I married him, he had hidden multiple lawsuits that HE started. Then it turned into having me fight his battles for him. I was only of use to him if I was being a Mom to his kids or fighting his battles. My life slowly and painfully eroded away and I lost me. He has messed with me in evil ways that I'm not comfortable putting up online. But believe me they were pure evil. I want to feel ME again and be happy, but I became financially dependent on him, by his doing and didn't even see the sabotage. Now that I'm dangling from this cliff, I don't know what to do. I have become partially disabled from an injury so some days are harder than others to walk because of a severe back injury, but I plug on. I wrongly placed to much love and faith in him, because I grew up in a large loving family where there wasn't any BS. My parents were happily in love and married for over 50 years! I just wanted a happily ever after. I truly truly gave it my all. I'm lost and scared and I don't even have the strength to pull myself up. I'm petrified! Thanks again for what you do. You are a good person, who is actually trying to make a difference and help other people. So far, in itsy bitsy baby steps maybe a miracle will happen and I'll survive this. But right now I just feel like a pining dolphin who is slowly and painfully dying from the inside out because of the massive betrayal after I dedicated my heart and soul to this man and his ungrateful kids. How in the world do I find me again, or even want to? Gem
Hi Joe, I absolutely love what you had to say in your video. Life does and will throw s&^* at people and couples and in my opinion, although it sucks, it also can and often will define who people are as couples and how they interact and where their strengths and weaknesses are. It can be a great gift, in that, it can afford a couple the opportunity to be in a pile of crap together and come out of it better for it. And as for what you said about being in 100% for your wife, kudos to the both of you! :) That's beautiful! But I KNOW it didn't come easy. And you also said something that really impacted me, you said that the fact that you're there for your wife 100% doesn't make you a better man, it means that you're a good partner - now there I disagree with you. Being a good man, woman, just being a good person, in my personal interpretation means giving your all, 360 degrees. And I think your triangle is awesome and that you are in fact a better man for it being a good partner. You are a good partner because you are a better man. So just my take. I continue to enjoy and be very grateful for your level of care. You're not out there pitching something for $29.95 saying how much you have all the answers, you're down in the mud getting your hands dirty helping to unbury those of us who have fallen down or have been purposely buried up to our necks in deception and that differentiates you Joe, leagues and leagues from them all. Thank you! Gem
I've watched a few of your videos already (ok, maybe about 10 of them...lol), and I have to say, that I enjoy your honesty, your integrity and your deliverance of what's the underlying mishaps in relationships overall. Thank you for being REAL! Thank your wife, too! ;) Peace. Adrienne
Thank you so much, I do agree with you. I have been watching so many other people on here and I feel I am on the same page as you are. It does seem like so many other relationship. Coaches complicate their videos and BS. You don't. Thank God. You are really appreciated and have a self awareness that is amazing.
But when only one person is honoring, trying to work together. But obviously not enjoying it because she is the only one giving and trying to work at it, while the other person is basically just doing what is convenient for him and looking out for himself and his needs... then, it is not compatible.
I agree with everything you said but I feel you left out something very important. Where does having the same values come in? Yes, we must respect and support each other. But, what if we have different goals or lifestyle choices? Like one partner wants kids and the other one doesn't
Ginell, I agree but that is kind of a no brainer. Why would anyone want a relationship with someone who didn't have the same goals & lifestyle choices? two people can love, honor and respect each other but if they don't want the same things out of life and they're not on the same page why would they even consider being in a relationship?
Ginell Parra Osorio Yes, I understand. I was in one of those relationships once And what I learned from it was that I would rather have a relationship with someone I didn't have to change (or hoped they would change). That one lesson is one of the reasons I now have the marriage/relationship I wanted. You have to give up the good to go for the GREAT!
@@JoeandNat Absolutely! You are point on! It is so easy ! Same goal, same life value, same life style do make a relationship last forever. Love all your video Joe. I just find out about you just a week ago. Your topic are real to help women to find true love, to open their eyes to find true happiness.. Instead of talking" how to make a man commit to you ." You talk about signs that make us to see the man truly commited to us and want a relationship. Thank you Joe!
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you're so right about the honoring each other and life happening. Alot of people who only concentrate on what makes them happy as individuals but don't consider how it affects them as a team. I'm of the belief that everything we do affects someone, so just because it makes me happy doesn't mean it benefits my family and partner. Communication is the key, never assume you know how the other person feels about something no matter how long you've known them xx
You are truly one of the most non BS people! It's amazing. I love your explanation of the 'good' love triangle. I have no idea how I ended up on You Tube tonight, but I'm glad I did, because you have been very inspirational. Maybe it's God's way of giving me hope that I'll survive.
I know I need to toughen up, because right now I'm scared ^*^%less!
And KNOW I need to find ME again. I remember ME and I miss ME, and internally I REALLY like me.
But there's this damn brick wall that I keep hitting and this freaking depression that's paralyzing me.
I am a tiny woman about 4' 10" and I have lost a lot of weight. I'm near 80 #'s. I'm scared all the time. I live alone in a huge three level home with a gorgeous golf course as my back yard that I refer to as my pretty prison. I can barely function. I'm so depressed all the time. I suffered losing 9 souls in 2011 from Feb. to Dec.
First my Grandpa, who was my very best friend in the whole world. Then the weekend after that I found myself at a funeral for a dear dear friend. Then I lost my God Father. Then more friends, and then the worst day of my life came on Oct. 18, 2011 and I lost my Dad, and the sickening thing is, is that my ex was so happy and so satisfied and so elated, it's like it supercharged him. His arrogance knew no bounds, his audacity, everything mean became stronger and more open. It hurt deep. He even went at me for mourning and told me to get over it. He was cruel. So why in the hell do I even give a ^&%$ about him.
Why do I even love such a demonic evil spirited person. Why do I even give a damn about him? He is a loser and a failure at life. All he is, is a war monger, that's all I've ever known him to be. Ever since I married him, he had hidden multiple lawsuits that HE started. Then it turned into having me fight his battles for him. I was only of use to him if I was being a Mom to his kids or fighting his battles. My life slowly and painfully eroded away and I lost me.
He has messed with me in evil ways that I'm not comfortable putting up online. But believe me they were pure evil.
I want to feel ME again and be happy, but I became financially dependent on him, by his doing and didn't even see the sabotage. Now that I'm dangling from this cliff, I don't know what to do. I have become partially disabled from an injury so some days are harder than others to walk because of a severe back injury, but I plug on.
I wrongly placed to much love and faith in him, because I grew up in a large loving family where there wasn't any BS. My parents were happily in love and married for over 50 years!
I just wanted a happily ever after. I truly truly gave it my all.
I'm lost and scared and I don't even have the strength to pull myself up. I'm petrified!
Thanks again for what you do. You are a good person, who is actually trying to make a difference and help other people.
So far, in itsy bitsy baby steps maybe a miracle will happen and I'll survive this. But right now I just feel like a pining dolphin who is slowly and painfully dying from the inside out because of the massive betrayal after I dedicated my heart and soul to this man and his ungrateful kids. How in the world do I find me again, or even want to?
Gem
Hi Joe,
I absolutely love what you had to say in your video. Life does and will throw s&^* at people and couples and in my opinion, although it sucks, it also can and often will define who people are as couples and how they interact and where their strengths and weaknesses are. It can be a great gift, in that, it can afford a couple the opportunity to be in a pile of crap together and come out of it better for it. And as for what you said about being in 100% for your wife, kudos to the both of you! :)
That's beautiful! But I KNOW it didn't come easy. And you also said something that really impacted me, you said that the fact that you're there for your wife 100% doesn't make you a better man, it means that you're a good partner - now there I disagree with you.
Being a good man, woman, just being a good person, in my personal interpretation means giving your all, 360 degrees. And I think your triangle is awesome and that you are in fact a better man for it being a good partner. You are a good partner because you are a better man. So just my take. I continue to enjoy and be very grateful for your level of care. You're not out there pitching something for $29.95 saying how much you have all the answers, you're down in the mud getting your hands dirty helping to unbury those of us who have fallen down or have been purposely buried up to our necks in deception and that differentiates you Joe, leagues and leagues from them all.
Thank you!
Gem
I've watched a few of your videos already (ok, maybe about 10 of them...lol), and I have to say, that I enjoy your honesty, your integrity and your deliverance of what's the underlying mishaps in relationships overall. Thank you for being REAL! Thank your wife, too! ;) Peace. Adrienne
Thank you so much, I do agree with you. I have been watching so many other people on here and I feel I am on the same page as you are. It does seem like so many other relationship. Coaches complicate their videos and BS. You don't. Thank God. You are really appreciated and have a self awareness that is amazing.
Makes sense, totally!!! Thank you for coming up with that definition. You are right that most people leave out the ‘work together’ aspect.
But when only one person is honoring, trying to work together. But obviously not enjoying it because she is the only one giving and trying to work at it, while the other person is basically just doing what is convenient for him and looking out for himself and his needs... then, it is not compatible.
You explained it so well..
This is my favorite too! Excellent work! I also love mbti as well to come to a deeper understanding of myself and the other persn.
I AGREE WITH, EVERYTHING YOUR EXPLAIN.. AWESOME..
Joe I love all your videos, you always give the best advice! Thank you!
I agree with everything you said but I feel you left out something very important. Where does having the same values come in? Yes, we must respect and support each other. But, what if we have different goals or lifestyle choices? Like one partner wants kids and the other one doesn't
Ginell, I agree but that is kind of a no brainer. Why would anyone want a relationship with someone who didn't have the same goals & lifestyle choices? two people can love, honor and respect each other but if they don't want the same things out of life and they're not on the same page why would they even consider being in a relationship?
You'd be surprised how many of us have been in that situation, we fall into the trap of thinking we can change him/her
Ginell Parra Osorio
Yes, I understand. I was in one of those relationships once And what I learned from it was that I would rather have a relationship with someone I didn't have to change (or hoped they would change). That one lesson is one of the reasons I now have the marriage/relationship I wanted. You have to give up the good to go for the GREAT!
@@JoeandNat Absolutely! You are point on! It is so easy ! Same goal, same life value, same life style do make a relationship last forever. Love all your video Joe. I just find out about you just a week ago. Your topic are real to help women to find true love, to open their eyes to find true happiness.. Instead of talking" how to make a man commit to you ." You talk about signs that make us to see the man truly commited to us and want a relationship. Thank you Joe!
beautiful!!! thank you so much for sharing your beautiful wisdom!!! so helpful to listen to....!!
Thank you for this valuable information!
Check out the book titled The Compatibility Quotient - which includes quizzes. It's quite interesting and dove tails with this video.
hey thanks Joe, you rule in these subjects , I am listening. have a nice day and year also
Thankyou
Thanks, i learnt so much and i can relate....