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ENTJ. Since adulthood, I've always had better self-esteem than my peers. I've always felt that I didn't do anything special to get that self-esteem, but this efficacy equation with my dom-Te would make sense: I set out to do a thing; I did the thing; I feel good for accomplishing my goal! That was, until recently. In recent years, and especially as I've been medically unable to do much at all, my self esteem has more to do with whether I think/feel I'm a good person. In fact, I find that these days, that's how I judge all people. Of course, "good person" aligns with my subjective values, but the shift in my basis for judging people (including myself) is apparent.
This made me think of holism. Being a high Te user works well for accomplishing things, but I need to frequently ensure that I’m checking in with myself so that things are more in alignment.
The thought of being or becoming a "Good Person" never occurred to me. However, being an "Effective Person" is what matters the most. I would love to see how you mesh Enneagram with the Personality types.
Thanks Roops for the comment. We have created a bunch of Enneagram + Myers-Briggs mashup content. Here’s one video you will like: ruclips.net/video/SqZqoosu4Gw/видео.html -Joel
As an INTJ, love the data and feedback for a sometimes course correction. I also an a student of Stoicism, which helps me try and grasp the chaos around me and remain calm. Thank your helping me get a better understanding of the self-esteem part.
INTJ. A few things hit very close to the vest.. I’m definitely struggling in this “new world” as I always just want to get away lol. I prefer to stick to the facts but the “am I good person” has been over riding the facts more often now. But at the same time I can’t ignore what’s real/fact. A girl I’ve been dating recently said I judge literally every thing and she says it’s annoying 🥴. I told her I honestly don’t know how to be anything else. It comes from a “good” place and I just want to see the best from ppl. I want ppl to criticize/critique me so I can become better!! I can’t sit on the sidelines and watch ppl destroy themselves. If I don’t say anything then I don’t feel I’m being “good person”. Long winded to say it’s hard finding balance. Any advice is welcome. Love the channel/pod!!
Im.ESTJ and get the feedback-- Im that way too. Im also a nurse and what I learned is what others need is different than what I need. Study what they need and follow that template to get feedback. And ask them specific questions: do you like it when I do ______? My bf is istj and hes not used to dating someone up front but I ask him specifically and tell him what I need or when Im not able.to.communicate I say I want hugs. He trusts i will.tell him if I can and I know he doesnt want.to hear the long story when hes tired and do that when we are both having a good day. Most peoope.find critique negative so id be careful.giv8mg it unsolicited in personal.settings or find your friends that get you.
Wow! Thank you for helping me understand myself, I am all about data. But not being a computer I definitely care how my actions have affect others and the world, and it does really create doubt in myself that definitely undermines my confidence.
Watch The Full Episode: ruclips.net/video/cWt4lGYtE_g/видео.html
Thank you for watching. If you found this valuable - would you take a moment to like & subscribe... then share this with someone you think would enjoy this conversation. Thanks. 🙂 Also - you can come over and take a free personality test here: www.personalityhacker.com/genius-personality-test
ENTJ. Since adulthood, I've always had better self-esteem than my peers. I've always felt that I didn't do anything special to get that self-esteem, but this efficacy equation with my dom-Te would make sense: I set out to do a thing; I did the thing; I feel good for accomplishing my goal!
That was, until recently. In recent years, and especially as I've been medically unable to do much at all, my self esteem has more to do with whether I think/feel I'm a good person. In fact, I find that these days, that's how I judge all people. Of course, "good person" aligns with my subjective values, but the shift in my basis for judging people (including myself) is apparent.
Thank you for sharing your experience Rachel. ~ Joel
This made me think of holism. Being a high Te user works well for accomplishing things, but I need to frequently ensure that I’m checking in with myself so that things are more in alignment.
Thank you Arlinda for letting us know what you are patterning. ~ Joel
The thought of being or becoming a "Good Person" never occurred to me. However, being an "Effective Person" is what matters the most. I would love to see how you mesh Enneagram with the Personality types.
Thanks Roops for the comment. We have created a bunch of Enneagram + Myers-Briggs mashup content. Here’s one video you will like: ruclips.net/video/SqZqoosu4Gw/видео.html
-Joel
As an INTJ, love the data and feedback for a sometimes course correction.
I also an a student of Stoicism, which helps me try and grasp the chaos around me and remain calm.
Thank your helping me get a better understanding of the self-esteem part.
Thanks Ron for stopping by and sharing this with us. ~ Joel
INTJ. A few things hit very close to the vest.. I’m definitely struggling in this “new world” as I always just want to get away lol. I prefer to stick to the facts but the “am I good person” has been over riding the facts more often now. But at the same time I can’t ignore what’s real/fact. A girl I’ve been dating recently said I judge literally every thing and she says it’s annoying 🥴. I told her I honestly don’t know how to be anything else. It comes from a “good” place and I just want to see the best from ppl. I want ppl to criticize/critique me so I can become better!! I can’t sit on the sidelines and watch ppl destroy themselves. If I don’t say anything then I don’t feel I’m being “good person”. Long winded to say it’s hard finding balance. Any advice is welcome.
Love the channel/pod!!
Im.ESTJ and get the feedback-- Im that way too. Im also a nurse and what I learned is what others need is different than what I need. Study what they need and follow that template to get feedback. And ask them specific questions: do you like it when I do ______? My bf is istj and hes not used to dating someone up front but I ask him specifically and tell him what I need or when Im not able.to.communicate I say I want hugs. He trusts i will.tell him if I can and I know he doesnt want.to hear the long story when hes tired and do that when we are both having a good day. Most peoope.find critique negative so id be careful.giv8mg it unsolicited in personal.settings or find your friends that get you.
I think the title of this youtube video needs to include ESTJs and ISTJs.
Agree. Fixed. Thanks for the comment. ~ Joel
As INTJ, facing uncertainty: Ni dom relies on Te aux AND Fi tertiary, as well on the un-biased 6th function: Ti.
Thank you for sharing this info. - Joel
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Wow! Thank you for helping me understand myself, I am all about data. But not being a computer I definitely care how my actions have affect others and the world, and it does really create doubt in myself that definitely undermines my confidence.
Thank you for sharing your feedback. - Joel