I related so much with what you said about the news. I grew up in a household where my dad was watching the news 24 hrs/day. I never noticed how much that negativity and sensationalism had impacted my mental health until I moved out and left the country. I moved to Ireland, the place where I don't pay for tv channels and I choose not to subscribe to new channel feeds on social media. Within a few months I felt like a weight was lifted off my chest. Now every time to go home, I choose to ignore the news, even though it's difficult with him watching it all the time. I still feel it impacts me, but on an incredibly smaller scale that I only need a day to reset. Our minds are so incredible ❤
It's all propaganda anyway, gotta search deeper for the real truth. Stay above the fray but do seek knowledge about protecting yourself and loved ones. ❤️
The discussion with your life coach was a much needed conversation for me and when she said, “You just find ways not to think of it as pressure” that hit me hard! I think I’ll be listening to this several more times because there were so many gems! Thank you for sharing this episode.
The idea of driving in your car and maintaining calm and grace because you owe it to yourself and the people you are driving to spend time with seems like such an easy concept! It's an amazing reminder of a small way to make a big impact on our own happiness.
@@lydiamillen hi, just a quick note, I thought Jaclyn was excellent. I have done that whole reset journey (learning from the top 3 in the world) and feel incredible. It is absolutely THEE BEST thing you can ever do for yourself. I stopped all social media and TV too . I would highly highly highly recommend Dr Joe Dispenza (on RUclips with Lewis Howes) who is explains very clearly how everything in your life is a reflection of how you think and feel. And that your brain can only bring you thoughts equal to your feelings. ps really enjoyed the mints! I resonate with you on this hahaha. XOX
Lydia you are fabulous. My January saw me leave a job that did not serve me. I had only been there 4months and after a 30yr stint in my industry I very quickly realised this was my lesson to not chase money in a job. So with that I left to the shock of people I worked with. So if something is not serving you then change it to something that does. 🙏✨
Jesus, I'm sorry but I had to respond to your comment. There's nothing like finding out that a complete stranger is living/experiencing life exactly the same as you - quit my job in January, four months after starting a job that boosted my already high salary. I haven't been in the industry as long but 11 years was enough. The sad realisation that money isn't worth it all, even as we all navigate the cost of living crisis is scary! It takes guts to leave with no clear direction ahead (I also have a young family weekly!) So, I wanted to wish you the very best. May the odds be in our favour!
This was such an inspiring video Lydia! I was especially moved by the part where you said: “I vlog to show you show great your life could be” because this resonates with the hope I often feel watching your videos. Thank you so much for what you’re doing. x 🩷
I have to admit I scrolled through this pretty quickly, now that I find myself struggling with my weight I have gone back and listened even though I am a counselor, a family counselor and I know all the right things to say to someone else I needed to hear this today. Thanks Lydia!
I love how Jacqueline pointed out it’s not okay for other people to choose what’s too little or too much news for YOU to consume. It’s such a good point!! I too am very careful about what news I am consuming. While I believe it is important to be aware of what’s going on in the world around me I think it is equally important, for my mental well-being, to not become distressed over situations that are out of my control. I can consume the news under my own terms and not let this chaotic world consume ME. I have family members who tune into the news like it’s an addiction and are constantly on edge, angry and pessimistic about the state of our country (I live in the US) and they look at me like I have ten eyes when I say I am not actively following the doom cycle that is the news. And I think it’s important to mention there is so much hyperbolism, sensationalism and misinformation out there! Anyway! Ignore those who are trying to tell you how to live your life! You know what’s best for you. Be selfish as J would say ❤
Totally agree. There is so much shaming going on at the moment and what purpose is it serving. We are all just trying to do our best and as Jacqueline says: no one else can know what our best is on any given day.
Have been watching your content over the year Lydia. Absolutely loving where you are and this content. On another note (not having watched your channel for a while due to running my own business and being super busy with that), your home really reflects who you have always been. Classic, elegant, timeless. Well done and thank you for sharing xx
Lydia i would just like to thank you for your support and help during these dark months I get very depressed and after my daughter bought your book for me I have started to see things differently I know now you can’t make everyone like you or you like them I always used to put everything before me and what I wanted to do now I see how wrong I have and am going to try my best to have some kind of life Thank you you Lydia
That's the type of video I am here for! So fulfilling! I appreciate so much that you share your personal ways of handling things, there's so much wisdom and for someone who is ready to grasp it can be life-changing
Life is all about our minds and emotions... so yeah, I agree with you: everything that we are going to think at the end of our lives will simply be how we felt and how we really lived life. So it is worth living! Thank you Lydia for bringing the reality of simpling living ❤
Everything in life is relative. When my late husband was fighting leukemia, I would go to work and a co-worker would come in the office and say something like "Ug, it's raining, my whole day is ruined." It would just floor me how some live their lives skimming the surface. I suppose if one is lucky enough not to have tragedy in life, a little bit of rain is a huge deal.....
I feel like I am simply hustling through life and I am really exhausted, this video really triggered me, and made me cry a bit. I am a work in progress, I hope to improve.
Thank you Lydia for sharing your session with your Life Coach. I have to say I cried in part of it, because it validated to me that when I was young I knew who I was, but somehow lost part of that between my mid 20s to now in my 50s. Watching what Jackie was saying told me that I was right all along to believe in myself and the values I hold of treating everyone with love and respect. To me, life isn't about what others think of you, it's about how you can be happy in living your life. That is just part of why I like your channels because you are sharing your life, the good, the crap, the funny, your family, and you being You! So thanks and remember, we can't Edit life but we can live it the best we can, and that's all anyone can ask of you! ❤
Gosh, this vlog was so intense. I stopped it and when and got my notebook and pen and started over. Had to pause it several times. Even went for a walk to help me absorb this info. Took me quite soon time to get through this. THANK YOU ❤
This video was like a podcast for me. It was so lovely and such an important conversation to listen to. It felt like a hug, and I thoroughly enjoyed it while knitting - because that’s one of my goals this year: make more things with my hands. It makes a world of a difference to my mental health.
I started taking a meditation and coloring class which I find very relaxing. Today I listened to your vlog while coloring and that helped me destress from a rough afternoon. Thanks 😊
I have not been feeling motivated recently but this video has inspired me to get my journal and diary back out since December and get planning my February. Thank you Lydia🤍
I must say .. I keep my little dog treats in a tin ☺️🐾 I gave all my family an empty jar, a pen & notepad each at New Year. A ‘good things’ jar & for them to write down at the end of each week, date it, a good thing that had happened, however big or small. Then at the end of the year take out all the pieces of paper & read them .. & remember the good things & be grateful ☺️ My good thing this week was that there was a crisp blue sky, the birds were singing & my first daffodil bloomed & it made me smile 😊
I honestly enjoyed this video and I have to say for myself, January was a really stressful month with my job. I was starting off with my challenge I signed up for and it kicked me in the butt about the second week in. I like the idea of going back over your goals at the beginning of the month and seeing what you need to work on or maybe adjust
Lydia, thank you for your vlog today! You are a ray of sunshine even if it is overcast outside & your laughter brings smiles. The session with your life coach was wonderful, positive & insightful. So many lightbulb moments that made sense after she says it. Thank you for sharing this session. I hope you will share more in the future. 😊❤️
I may not be able to afford a life coach but I can afford her book. Thank you for this Lydia. I think it is possible to change your mindset at any age - my goal for 2024!😊
I overcommitted in my small business and October and November nearly did me in. I made a goal to slow down and enjoy my life more. I’m not setting a financial goal other than, not be in the red because I am fortunate that my family wellbeing does not depend on this. It’s a creative thing I am supposed to love. So January was pretty fabulous. I feel successful and it has nothing to do with money.
Dear Lydia, I have never left a quick comment, but I want to tell you that your videos, your life, the way you work on yourself to become better helps and inspire me a lot. I love the lifestyle you present, the honest conversation and the natural atmosphere you create online. I think it's quite unique and I'm grateful to watch this kind of content to level up my own life to. So keep it up! We all need a little Lydia in our lives. - Lots of love from the Netherlands!
Lydia, please acknowledge how lucky you are to mute distressing news updates. Those updates are the only word others will hear about their loved ones in affected areas. Muting is not just a self-care thing, its a privilege.
love your outfit Lydia, and I absolute agree we have to be kinder to ourselves. I think as women we are so self critical and yet so willing to forgive other peoples' faults.
Lydia I really enjoyed this Video today. I have been feeling stuck lately, empty nest syndrome, and listening to you planning new things to do for 2024 has motivated me into writing my own list of new activities for this new year. Thankyou. I also loved your chat with Jacqueline, I’m a great believer in if you can’t say anything good then don’t say anything ❤.
Obviously only share what you want to and feel comfortable with, but honestly thank you for sharing your period journey. It’s been super helpful! Also, I’m loving the pursuit of peacefulness on your channel. ❤ get it girl!
I love your emphasis to learn! What great way to improve yourself. Nice handbags can come and go, but your brain is yours for the rest of your life. I learned how to bake sourdough almost a year ago. There is a big learning curve, but how satisfying to practice and learn something new!
My first time commenting here, but I've been subscribed for a while - I have to admit that I was utterly confused by my feelings towards you at the beginning of my journey along your vlogs - you were indeed Marmite for me on a vlog by vlog basis for a while - but I want to say it here in front of witnesses (!) that I really appreciate your content and your life philosophy ... I think kindness, reflection and the willingness to reset your mindset on a regular basis, and being always open to change are the most important facets of life as you trundle along your journey. They open you up to love and laughter. I'm in my 60s and have always tried to be kind, but never really nailed the kindness to myself, and by dint of that, was probably more instantly judgmental of others. I'm working on that. You have been the conduit 💕
Oh my gosh!! I am not usually a commenter but a loyal follower of your content- and I must say, I am SO EXCITED to see you expanding into the world of foraging! I have loved and been inspired by your kitchen gardening and chicken raising content living here in rural Ohio (America)- we bought a house that has a kitchen garden last year and I can’t wait to start that process. However, learning to forage is what brought back my joy during lockdown, and hiking in the woods foraging is my happy place! I can’t wait to see how you get on with it!
Lydia I’ve followed you for a long time. I loved seeing your mindfulness session. Thank you for all of the tips re thought processes around positive thinking. I really, really need it. I want to be the best version of me. I’m a mum to a five year old and I have Trigeminal Neuralgia and 3 MRI’s down they don’t know why. It’s changed my life. I want to be a wonderful mum. I don’t know where to start again as it’s been 2 years. Thank you for all that you do as you don’t realise the positive impact you have on me. PMA! I want to live and be happy. Thank you. 🤍
These are the things that make my heart smile. I love this, since the middle of last year, the changes bit by bit are making my heart sing. Thank you for what feels like a Journey of self worth for all of us.
This is an uplifting vlog Lydia! We all need to hear this. We are so absorbed in what is going on in the world that we have forgotten how to take care of ourselves and our thoughts. Thanks to you and Jacqueline for this very important topic it is well needed in our lives these days.♥♥♥♥♥
How sweet are you called us your friends in the video! Continue to be your authentic self it is beginning to show and I love it your humour is shining through
My friend is a holistic therapist she is so warm and never talks about herself , she coaches disabled and injured clients . I do think you have to gel with any coach or therapist and if the person isnt right for you , there will be another therapist that is and can help you .
I live on a large piece of property and also have a kitchen garden. We have very similar weather here in the Seattle area, so gray and gloomy conditions are the norm for most of our winters. I have struggled with this for years. I’m wondering why you don’t take a trip to a sunny spot during the winter? I find it a great way to shorten the gloomy season. Also, I’m trying to embrace the fact that I don’t have both the inside and outside to keep up with cleaning, etc. I love to cook new recipes for my husband during the winter, it’s been a fun way to try new things! Cheers from the US ❤
Thank you, Lydia! I love your old posts AND your new ones!! You are showing yourself to be beautiful on the inside AND the outside! I sought help four years ago. My husband died 7 years ago, and I finally started help three years later. What a difference! It is so easy to speak poorly to ourselves, or to assume incorrect judgements. So good to learn new ways to think! Kindness to ourselves as well as to others. Wow! Thank you, Lydia!
I haven’t been in the best mindset this January though I’ve really tried. I’ve taken the long walks in the cold, and snuggled up with wine or tea, and read your Evergreen book, but life has had other plans for me. It’s so nice to see you talk more about it in a video, because it’s another touch point/reminder to reset and take life for what it is.
I struggle with winter, but some things have really helped me. 1--Dress appropriately. I froze my butt off for years because I wanted to look cute, but now I wear tight fleece long underwear under my clothes and thick polar socks and this has made my winter life so much more enjoyable. 2--I still garden in the rain and cold. It's mostly clean up, raking leaves and debris, pruning perennials, little jobs, but it's so nice to be outside. 3--I view shoveling snow as a day at the gym and the exercise feels good and I like to see my progress on my apple watch. 4--Be around friends and family more. We tend to hibernate more in winter. We do the holidays and then retreat into a hermity existence.Go have fun! 5--Get creative! Paint, make next year's Christmas decorations, learn to knit, make a scrapbook, Give yourself something to be proud of :)
Can't thank you enough Lydia for sharing your chat Jacqueline with us! I'm really proud of and inspired by your growth after years of being subscribed. Everytime you have a heart to heart with us in vlogs I really learn something ❤
I have watched you since 2016 when I was in my 3rd year of high school so I feel like I have grown up with you🥰 I remember when you first introduced Jaclyn to us and it’s so special to me to see that what I have worked on over the last year is so well aligned to what you are working on and what you both chatted about. It’s the putting conscious effort into enjoy everyday instead of just letting the day happen and pass you by!
Hey Lydia, as someone very much on a journey of self discovery and self improvement I love these types of videos. I've been implementing big life changes too. I've learnt a lot from you and your book helped me greatly. It's been one of my favourite reads for a very long time and something I know I will come back to many times over. Take care and lots of love 💖 xx
Gratitude journalling is a great idea, I often find i keep reaching for the next goal and feel I don’t measure up, or im not enough and when I look back at what I’ve achieved and what I have I realise I need to practise gratitude and celebrate achievements to feel more at peace and content. Its ok to not always be moving forward and hitting that next goal, Taking time to reflect and be grateful is so important and has improved my happiness in day to day life xx
Thank you for sharing your conversation! I’ve been working night shift, with have an hour commute to and from work. I’ve been struggling with my mood and emotions recently, especially on the drive. I really appreciate the advice on how to handle a commute. Just wanted to share and say your videos are a joy and helpful! 🤍
One of your best Vlogs Lydia. Jacqueline is so insightful and knowledgeable, I really enjoyed your discussion. I am a trained Exec coach and always advocate the power of self reflection and “choice” of reaction to situations, Jacqueline’s advice is so aligned to my approach. Lydia, I have followed you for years and the transformation in your approach to life and how you are developing your knowledge and understanding how to curate a life that serves you and brings you joy has been wonderful to see. You have always led the way with interesting content and continue to set the bar high for others, newer to the industry. Love the journey of exploration you are following, it’s very inspiring!
Accountability. Interesting word. Have you taken accountablity for when you hurt someone or were wrong. Aplogized. Not just to yourself but others or do you feel accountability is just within yourself and not towards others. I hope that made sense.
Jaqcueline’s words resonated with me so much that I started listening to her book. I love that it isn’t like the American self help books. I just love her style of communicating and the fact that it is very CBT based. I do CBT journaling but the book is like a personal cheerleader reminding me not to believe my thoughts and to change my negative base assumptions. And instead of reacting - de-escalating, I use this metaphor of detaching train carriages. If the train of emotion runs away, detach the carriages that are action. Contemplate, feel your feels and find out what got you triggered and why. And then, keeping in mind your values and the outcome, use diplomacy to handle the situation. But all of this is hard and reminders and cheering is great! Such high value content, thank you Lydia ❤
Absolutely loved this vlog. Thank you for sharing your discussion with Jacqueline and also for updating us on how your intentions are going. All very interesting and thought provoking xx
Such a beautiful video ! Seen your growth from unboxing days to the beautiful vlogs that you now create ! Wonderful ❤ keep growing keep learning and keep showing us with such beautiful content !
Just a little thing about calling rainy weather, “miserable”. It’s so British and Irish. My ex is from Ireland, I asked him, just after he mentioned it was miserable out, what was so miserable about the weather? We live in California, and had been in a drought. There was a light rain, his lawn was partially green, and the birds were chirping. He said nothing. It’s just what you say. I pointed out how tortured he looked as he said it, so it wasn’t just a word. It seems like a hurdle, but thinking about our words, and changing them is needed sometimes. I’m enjoying your content! 😃
Hiya,,This is called metacognition. Knowing what you are doing and why you are doing it. Awareness leads to improvement and neural plasticity ! 85% of people are walking around not using this skill. Hope to meet you one day, this mindfulness is now being taught in schools here in America. Self preservation is especially important for women as we cannot do it all, but one little piece at a time is okay💕 Cannot wait for Evergreen- Are you signing any books in NY?
Thank you for this Lydia, I felt like this vlog was made for me, I am trying so very hard to be in a better place, and controlling my brain to think differently, anything like this is a massive help to me and hopefully others too xxxx ❤❤❤
Beautiful vlog. Hearing about your plans for the year is so inspiring! I choose a word to guide each year, and “evolution” is the word for 2024. My approach to health needs to evolve, and it is inspired by the poor health of the elders in my life. I am taking a year to change everything, and I am already feeling better. A gentle approach seems key. ❤
I am on a journey of self discovery and you are very very lucky to be in that journey… it’s most beautiful trip ever… from the head to the heart … the most wonderful trip is 30 cm … from the head to the heart… ♥️
that bag is a good size and color. I actually think this brand is over the top because of the price but the color sure is a nice hue very different. I can't enough about this life coach really breaking down one's direction with a positive outturn.
What a lovely lady is Jacqueline she has such a calm voice too very interesting listening to her 💕thank you for taking us a long 😊 . And piper aww adorable doggie 🥰🥰..Both my Grandmothers would have a tin of mints in their handbags when i was younger day trips they would bring them out 😜. Have a Lovely weekend 🥰take care
This was really hard to watch as someone who has been diagnosed with ptsd. Hearing Jacqueline say the word war-zone really hit me. Thank you for filming this conversation. You two are an inspiration.
I hear u Lydia, I mute out as well. Volgs like urs brings me a nice little escape from these chaotic times.. it’s so easy to get caught up with all that’s happening. I def could’ve used that advice the other day. I could’ve lost it really bad on this reckless driver but I thought this random girl isn’t worth it n I have much to lose. The Old me with no kids god knows what would’ve happened! It’s also a good thing I just left my hyperbaric appointment I felt calm, sharp, n almost like I could handle stress a lot better.
I related so much with what you said about the news. I grew up in a household where my dad was watching the news 24 hrs/day. I never noticed how much that negativity and sensationalism had impacted my mental health until I moved out and left the country. I moved to Ireland, the place where I don't pay for tv channels and I choose not to subscribe to new channel feeds on social media. Within a few months I felt like a weight was lifted off my chest. Now every time to go home, I choose to ignore the news, even though it's difficult with him watching it all the time. I still feel it impacts me, but on an incredibly smaller scale that I only need a day to reset. Our minds are so incredible ❤
It's all propaganda anyway, gotta search deeper for the real truth. Stay above the fray but do seek knowledge about protecting yourself and loved ones. ❤️
@@missybelmont9830 exactly! Turned off tv in 2020.
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Yes ,the constant news feeds can be so toxic and half the time who even knows whats truth and whats propaganda?:
The discussion with your life coach was a much needed conversation for me and when she said, “You just find ways not to think of it as pressure” that hit me hard! I think I’ll be listening to this several more times because there were so many gems! Thank you for sharing this episode.
The idea of driving in your car and maintaining calm and grace because you owe it to yourself and the people you are driving to spend time with seems like such an easy concept! It's an amazing reminder of a small way to make a big impact on our own happiness.
Isn’t it 🥰🥰🥰
@@lydiamillen hi, just a quick note, I thought Jaclyn was excellent. I have done that whole reset journey (learning from the top 3 in the world) and feel incredible. It is absolutely THEE BEST thing you can ever do for yourself. I stopped all social media and TV too . I would highly highly highly recommend Dr Joe Dispenza (on RUclips with Lewis Howes) who is explains very clearly how everything in your life is a reflection of how you think and feel. And that your brain can only bring you thoughts equal to your feelings. ps really enjoyed the mints! I resonate with you on this hahaha. XOX
A drive or commute without children is like a holiday for a mum - it is peace unlike any other, to be savoured.
Lydia you are fabulous. My January saw me leave a job that did not serve me. I had only been there 4months and after a 30yr stint in my industry I very quickly realised this was my lesson to not chase money in a job. So with that I left to the shock of people I worked with. So if something is not serving you then change it to something that does. 🙏✨
Jesus, I'm sorry but I had to respond to your comment. There's nothing like finding out that a complete stranger is living/experiencing life exactly the same as you - quit my job in January, four months after starting a job that boosted my already high salary. I haven't been in the industry as long but 11 years was enough. The sad realisation that money isn't worth it all, even as we all navigate the cost of living crisis is scary! It takes guts to leave with no clear direction ahead (I also have a young family weekly!) So, I wanted to wish you the very best. May the odds be in our favour!
This was such an inspiring video Lydia! I was especially moved by the part where you said: “I vlog to show you show great your life could be” because this resonates with the hope I often feel watching your videos. Thank you so much for what you’re doing. x 🩷
This this this! 🤍🌱
I have to admit I scrolled through this pretty quickly, now that I find myself struggling with my weight I have gone back and listened even though I am a counselor, a family counselor and I know all the right things to say to someone else I needed to hear this today. Thanks Lydia!
I love how Jacqueline pointed out it’s not okay for other people to choose what’s too little or too much news for YOU to consume. It’s such a good point!! I too am very careful about what news I am consuming. While I believe it is important to be aware of what’s going on in the world around me I think it is equally important, for my mental well-being, to not become distressed over situations that are out of my control. I can consume the news under my own terms and not let this chaotic world consume ME.
I have family members who tune into the news like it’s an addiction and are constantly on edge, angry and pessimistic about the state of our country (I live in the US) and they look at me like I have ten eyes when I say I am not actively following the doom cycle that is the news. And I think it’s important to mention there is so much hyperbolism, sensationalism and misinformation out there!
Anyway! Ignore those who are trying to tell you how to live your life! You know what’s best for you. Be selfish as J would say ❤
Here here well said
Totally agree. There is so much shaming going on at the moment and what purpose is it serving. We are all just trying to do our best and as Jacqueline says: no one else can know what our best is on any given day.
Have been watching your content over the year Lydia. Absolutely loving where you are and this content. On another note (not having watched your channel for a while due to running my own business and being super busy with that), your home really reflects who you have always been. Classic, elegant, timeless. Well done and thank you for sharing xx
Lydia i would just like to thank you for your support and help during these dark months I get very depressed and after my daughter bought your book for me I have started to see things differently I know now you can’t make everyone like you or you like them I always used to put everything before me and what I wanted to do now I see how wrong I have and am going to try my best to have some kind of life Thank you you Lydia
That's the type of video I am here for! So fulfilling! I appreciate so much that you share your personal ways of handling things, there's so much wisdom and for someone who is ready to grasp it can be life-changing
I completed a 30 day Yoga practise as one of my intentions and feel proud of myself for doing so and feel so much better mentally too.
Life is all about our minds and emotions... so yeah, I agree with you: everything that we are going to think at the end of our lives will simply be how we felt and how we really lived life. So it is worth living!
Thank you Lydia for bringing the reality of simpling living ❤
Everything in life is relative. When my late husband was fighting leukemia, I would go to work and a co-worker would come in the office and say something like "Ug, it's raining, my whole day is ruined." It would just floor me how some live their lives skimming the surface. I suppose if one is lucky enough not to have tragedy in life, a little bit of rain is a huge deal.....
I feel like I am simply hustling through life and I am really exhausted, this video really triggered me, and made me cry a bit. I am a work in progress, I hope to improve.
Thank you Lydia for sharing your session with your Life Coach. I have to say I cried in part of it, because it validated to me that when I was young I knew who I was, but somehow lost part of that between my mid 20s to now in my 50s. Watching what Jackie was saying told me that I was right all along to believe in myself and the values I hold of treating everyone with love and respect. To me, life isn't about what others think of you, it's about how you can be happy in living your life. That is just part of why I like your channels because you are sharing your life, the good, the crap, the funny, your family, and you being You! So thanks and remember, we can't Edit life but we can live it the best we can, and that's all anyone can ask of you! ❤
Gosh, this vlog was so intense. I stopped it and when and got my notebook and pen and started over. Had to pause it several times. Even went for a walk to help me absorb this info. Took me quite soon time to get through this. THANK YOU ❤
I've loved your vlogs for a while, but the last few have been, dare I say, profound. You're glowing and confident and absolutely lovely. Keep shining!
This video was like a podcast for me. It was so lovely and such an important conversation to listen to. It felt like a hug, and I thoroughly enjoyed it while knitting - because that’s one of my goals this year: make more things with my hands. It makes a world of a difference to my mental health.
I started taking a meditation and coloring class which I find very relaxing. Today I listened to your vlog while coloring and that helped me destress from a rough afternoon. Thanks 😊
I have not been feeling motivated recently but this video has inspired me to get my journal and diary back out since December and get planning my February. Thank you Lydia🤍
Yes yes yes! Do it! 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for sharing your visit with Jacqueline. I appreciate the reminder to take care of my thinking.
I must say .. I keep my little dog treats in a tin ☺️🐾 I gave all my family an empty jar, a pen & notepad each at New Year. A ‘good things’ jar & for them to write down at the end of each week, date it, a good thing that had happened, however big or small. Then at the end of the year take out all the pieces of paper & read them .. & remember the good things & be grateful ☺️ My good thing this week was that there was a crisp blue sky, the birds were singing & my first daffodil bloomed & it made me smile 😊
I honestly enjoyed this video and I have to say for myself, January was a really stressful month with my job. I was starting off with my challenge I signed up for and it kicked me in the butt about the second week in. I like the idea of going back over your goals at the beginning of the month and seeing what you need to work on or maybe adjust
Lydia, thank you for your vlog today! You are a ray of sunshine even if it is overcast outside & your laughter brings smiles. The session with your life coach was wonderful, positive & insightful. So many lightbulb moments that made sense after she says it. Thank you for sharing this session. I hope you will share more in the future. 😊❤️
I may not be able to afford a life coach but I can afford her book. Thank you for this Lydia. I think it is possible to change your mindset at any age - my goal for 2024!😊
How exciting 🤍
I was watching her on you tube. She has short videos..little tidbits, but great advice and reminders :)
me too I have her book and its good.
I've never needed this more - thank you!
You’re such an inspiration Lydia! Keep being you! Discovering Evolving what ever it is!.. I’m here for it 💯 ❤
I overcommitted in my small business and October and November nearly did me in. I made a goal to slow down and enjoy my life more. I’m not setting a financial goal other than, not be in the red because I am fortunate that my family wellbeing does not depend on this. It’s a creative thing I am supposed to love. So January was pretty fabulous. I feel successful and it has nothing to do with money.
Dear Lydia, I have never left a quick comment, but I want to tell you that your videos, your life, the way you work on yourself to become better helps and inspire me a lot. I love the lifestyle you present, the honest conversation and the natural atmosphere you create online. I think it's quite unique and I'm grateful to watch this kind of content to level up my own life to. So keep it up! We all need a little Lydia in our lives. -
Lots of love from the Netherlands!
Lydia, please acknowledge how lucky you are to mute distressing news updates. Those updates are the only word others will hear about their loved ones in affected areas. Muting is not just a self-care thing, its a privilege.
I was going to comment this but you said it perfectly.
What do you mean by mute distressing news updates? I just started watching the video so maybe I am not there yet.
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You’re so right, I do this every morning in my journal. hopefully my words will help someone balance how they are feeling a little more too. X
@@lydiamillen Great to hear🩵
love your outfit Lydia, and I absolute agree we have to be kinder to ourselves. I think as women we are so self critical and yet so willing to forgive other peoples' faults.
Lydia I really enjoyed this Video today. I have been feeling stuck lately, empty nest syndrome, and listening to you planning new things to do for 2024 has motivated me into writing my own list of new activities for this new year. Thankyou.
I also loved your chat with Jacqueline, I’m a great believer in if you can’t say anything good then don’t say anything ❤.
Don't apologize for this video!! Yes your handbag purchases and style videos are fun, but it's so inspiring to see these kinds of videos too!
Obviously only share what you want to and feel comfortable with, but honestly thank you for sharing your period journey. It’s been super helpful! Also, I’m loving the pursuit of peacefulness on your channel. ❤ get it girl!
Im living the 50:21 hardest days of my life ,watching you is one of the few things that can bring joy to me
I love your emphasis to learn! What great way to improve yourself. Nice handbags can come and go, but your brain is yours for the rest of your life. I learned how to bake sourdough almost a year ago. There is a big learning curve, but how satisfying to practice and learn something new!
I love the accountability check in, please continue to do these. Thanks so much. 😊 x
I loved Jacqueline's "getting selfish" advice!
My first time commenting here, but I've been subscribed for a while - I have to admit that I was utterly confused by my feelings towards you at the beginning of my journey along your vlogs - you were indeed Marmite for me on a vlog by vlog basis for a while - but I want to say it here in front of witnesses (!) that I really appreciate your content and your life philosophy ... I think kindness, reflection and the willingness to reset your mindset on a regular basis, and being always open to change are the most important facets of life as you trundle along your journey. They open you up to love and laughter. I'm in my 60s and have always tried to be kind, but never really nailed the kindness to myself, and by dint of that, was probably more instantly judgmental of others. I'm working on that. You have been the conduit 💕
This is such a wonderful comment Sarah thank you x
You’ve literally echoed my thoughts !
Oh my gosh!! I am not usually a commenter but a loyal follower of your content- and I must say, I am SO EXCITED to see you expanding into the world of foraging! I have loved and been inspired by your kitchen gardening and chicken raising content living here in rural Ohio (America)- we bought a house that has a kitchen garden last year and I can’t wait to start that process. However, learning to forage is what brought back my joy during lockdown, and hiking in the woods foraging is my happy place! I can’t wait to see how you get on with it!
Lydia I’ve followed you for a long time. I loved seeing your mindfulness session. Thank you for all of the tips re thought processes around positive thinking. I really, really need it.
I want to be the best version of me. I’m a mum to a five year old and I have Trigeminal Neuralgia and 3 MRI’s down they don’t know why. It’s changed my life. I want to be a wonderful mum. I don’t know where to start again as it’s been 2 years. Thank you for all that you do as you don’t realise the positive impact you have on me. PMA!
I want to live and be happy. Thank you. 🤍
These are the things that make my heart smile. I love this, since the middle of last year, the changes bit by bit are making my heart sing. Thank you for what feels like a Journey of self worth for all of us.
Dear Lydia, your videos themselves are a therapy for me ❤ thank you for what you’re doing 💐
This is an uplifting vlog Lydia! We all need to hear this. We are so absorbed in what is going on in the world that we have forgotten how to take care of ourselves and our thoughts. Thanks to you and Jacqueline for this very important topic it is well needed in our lives these days.♥♥♥♥♥
How sweet are you called us your friends in the video! Continue to be your authentic self it is beginning to show and I love it your humour is shining through
My friend is a holistic therapist she is so warm and never talks about herself , she coaches disabled and injured clients . I do think you have to gel with any coach or therapist and if the person isnt right for you , there will be another therapist that is and can help you .
I live on a large piece of property and also have a kitchen garden. We have very similar weather here in the Seattle area, so gray and gloomy conditions are the norm for most of our winters. I have struggled with this for years. I’m wondering why you don’t take a trip to a sunny spot during the winter? I find it a great way to shorten the gloomy season. Also, I’m trying to embrace the fact that I don’t have both the inside and outside to keep up with cleaning, etc. I love to cook new recipes for my husband during the winter, it’s been a fun way to try new things! Cheers from the US ❤
going on a trip during this time is highly recommended
I loove these kind of videos!! Thank you Lydia!
Thank you, Lydia! I love your old posts AND your new ones!! You are showing yourself to be beautiful on the inside AND the outside! I sought help four years ago. My husband died 7 years ago, and I finally started help three years later. What a difference! It is so easy to speak poorly to ourselves, or to assume incorrect judgements. So good to learn new ways to think! Kindness to ourselves as well as to others. Wow! Thank you, Lydia!
Hi Lydia, it will be really useful to hear on your channel about menopause as so many young women coming into this horrible stage
I loved everything about this video especially the end with you sitting in your office! Love love love ❤
I haven’t been in the best mindset this January though I’ve really tried. I’ve taken the long walks in the cold, and snuggled up with wine or tea, and read your Evergreen book, but life has had other plans for me. It’s so nice to see you talk more about it in a video, because it’s another touch point/reminder to reset and take life for what it is.
I struggle with winter, but some things have really helped me. 1--Dress appropriately. I froze my butt off for years because I wanted to look cute, but now I wear tight fleece long underwear under my clothes and thick polar socks and this has made my winter life so much more enjoyable. 2--I still garden in the rain and cold. It's mostly clean up, raking leaves and debris, pruning perennials, little jobs, but it's so nice to be outside. 3--I view shoveling snow as a day at the gym and the exercise feels good and I like to see my progress on my apple watch. 4--Be around friends and family more. We tend to hibernate more in winter. We do the holidays and then retreat into a hermity existence.Go have fun! 5--Get creative! Paint, make next year's Christmas decorations, learn to knit, make a scrapbook, Give yourself something to be proud of :)
I have learned so much. What a beautiful conversation! ❤
Piper is the cutest. Very informative and interesting to see so many people who think alike. ❤❤
Can't thank you enough Lydia for sharing your chat Jacqueline with us! I'm really proud of and inspired by your growth after years of being subscribed. Everytime you have a heart to heart with us in vlogs I really learn something ❤
I have watched you since 2016 when I was in my 3rd year of high school so I feel like I have grown up with you🥰 I remember when you first introduced Jaclyn to us and it’s so special to me to see that what I have worked on over the last year is so well aligned to what you are working on and what you both chatted about. It’s the putting conscious effort into enjoy everyday instead of just letting the day happen and pass you by!
Hey Lydia, as someone very much on a journey of self discovery and self improvement I love these types of videos. I've been implementing big life changes too. I've learnt a lot from you and your book helped me greatly. It's been one of my favourite reads for a very long time and something I know I will come back to many times over. Take care and lots of love 💖 xx
Dear Lydia and Jacqueline many thanks x sharing all this info with all of us. It is completely a game changer, very grateful.
I journal everyday and occasionally let my partner fill in a page just so he can join in my gratitude also 😊
Gratitude journalling is a great idea, I often find i keep reaching for the next goal and feel I don’t measure up, or im not enough and when I look back at what I’ve achieved and what I have I realise I need to practise gratitude and celebrate achievements to feel more at peace and content. Its ok to not always be moving forward and hitting that next goal, Taking time to reflect and be grateful is so important and has improved my happiness in day to day life xx
I enjoyed this blog. It resonated with me in so many areas. I will be investing in all of her books! Thank you so much!
Easier said than done... until you do it! Thank you for this wonderful video, Lydia!
Lydia darling, I can almost hear the birds and smell the flowers.. the light is going to come through, again. Sending you love and light.
Thank you for sharing your conversation! I’ve been working night shift, with have an hour commute to and from work. I’ve been struggling with my mood and emotions recently, especially on the drive. I really appreciate the advice on how to handle a commute. Just wanted to share and say your videos are a joy and helpful! 🤍
Lovely conversation with the life coach.
One of your best Vlogs Lydia. Jacqueline is so insightful and knowledgeable, I really enjoyed your discussion. I am a trained Exec coach and always advocate the power of self reflection and “choice” of reaction to situations, Jacqueline’s advice is so aligned to my approach. Lydia, I have followed you for years and the transformation in your approach to life and how you are developing your knowledge and understanding how to curate a life that serves you and brings you joy has been wonderful to see. You have always led the way with interesting content and continue to set the bar high for others, newer to the industry. Love the journey of exploration you are following, it’s very inspiring!
Accountability. Interesting word. Have you taken accountablity for when you hurt someone or were wrong. Aplogized. Not just to yourself but others or do you feel accountability is just within yourself and not towards others. I hope that made sense.
Seems so different to what she says on the Grace Beverley interview.
Thank you for sharing Jacqueline with us. She shared some much needed information!
Jaqcueline’s words resonated with me so much that I started listening to her book. I love that it isn’t like the American self help books. I just love her style of communicating and the fact that it is very CBT based. I do CBT journaling but the book is like a personal cheerleader reminding me not to believe my thoughts and to change my negative base assumptions. And instead of reacting - de-escalating, I use this metaphor of detaching train carriages. If the train of emotion runs away, detach the carriages that are action. Contemplate, feel your feels and find out what got you triggered and why. And then, keeping in mind your values and the outcome, use diplomacy to handle the situation. But all of this is hard and reminders and cheering is great! Such high value content, thank you Lydia ❤
This is such an important conversation! Thank you Lydia. ~Love&Light♥️C.
Choosing to use your platform to speak up against injustice is definitely powerful. Not easy but powerful!
Thank you for sharing Jacquline with us! Your journey and her advice is great content.
Always looking forward to Mondays and Thursdays at 5pm. Anyone else feel the same?
Yes ❤
So grateful 🤍
Me r too I love watching Lydia I so look forward to watching x
I really loved the session with your life coach. Thanks for sharing it
Love love these videos you are a gift to us that want to grow
I needed this more than any other thing you have shared ...thank you it really showed me who you truly are ❤
Absolutely loved this vlog. Thank you for sharing your discussion with Jacqueline and also for updating us on how your intentions are going. All very interesting and thought provoking xx
Jacqueline is so inspiring.. I immediately ordered her book, can't wait to read it! 😍
Such a beautiful video ! Seen your growth from unboxing days to the beautiful vlogs that you now create !
Wonderful ❤ keep growing keep learning and keep showing us with such beautiful content !
Just a little thing about calling rainy weather, “miserable”. It’s so British and Irish. My ex is from Ireland, I asked him, just after he mentioned it was miserable out, what was so miserable about the weather? We live in California, and had been in a drought. There was a light rain, his lawn was partially green, and the birds were chirping. He said nothing. It’s just what you say. I pointed out how tortured he looked as he said it, so it wasn’t just a word. It seems like a hurdle, but thinking about our words, and changing them is needed sometimes. I’m enjoying your content! 😃
Hiya,,This is called metacognition. Knowing what you are doing and why you are doing it. Awareness leads to improvement and neural plasticity ! 85% of people are walking around not using this skill. Hope to meet you one day, this mindfulness is now being taught in schools here in America. Self preservation is especially important for women as we cannot do it all, but one little piece at a time is okay💕
Cannot wait for Evergreen- Are you signing any books in NY?
Thank you for this Lydia, I felt like this vlog was made for me, I am trying so very hard to be in a better place, and controlling my brain to think differently, anything like this is a massive help to me and hopefully others too xxxx ❤❤❤
These are always the best videos, they are my favorite. It helps put in perspective what it means to be a whole person who is living a great life
Beautiful vlog. Hearing about your plans for the year is so inspiring! I choose a word to guide each year, and “evolution” is the word for 2024. My approach to health needs to evolve, and it is inspired by the poor health of the elders in my life. I am taking a year to change everything, and I am already feeling better. A gentle approach seems key. ❤
I just love this for you and can so relate to your reasoning sadly! Mine is definitely “conciousness” if you hadn’t realised x
@@lydiamillen a heartfelt thanks to you. So sorry to hear that, but I look forward to your consciousness growth. Your life coach is a gem.
I am on a journey of self discovery and you are very very lucky to be in that journey… it’s most beautiful trip ever… from the head to the heart … the most wonderful trip is 30 cm … from the head to the heart… ♥️
Much prefer these kinds of vlogs Lydia, really beneficial to watch 🙏🥰
I love all of this Lydia!!!!
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that bag is a good size and color. I actually think this brand is over the top because of the price but the color sure is a nice hue very different. I can't enough about this life coach really breaking down one's direction with a positive outturn.
Lovely talk with Jacqueline ❤❤
Dear Lydia, thank you for this video❤ it’s very helpful! I so needed to hear this!❤️
Really enjoyed this video Lydia, especially your chat on the sofa with Jacqueline. I love how real you both are❤
What a lovely lady is Jacqueline she has such a calm voice too very interesting listening to her 💕thank you for taking us a long 😊 .
And piper aww adorable doggie 🥰🥰..Both my Grandmothers would have a tin of mints in their handbags when i was younger day trips they would bring them out 😜.
Have a Lovely weekend 🥰take care
I really love her book i discovered through you and always just pick a page to read to have a refresh.
I love this kind of videos, thank you!
This was really hard to watch as someone who has been diagnosed with ptsd. Hearing Jacqueline say the word war-zone really hit me. Thank you for filming this conversation. You two are an inspiration.
I hear u Lydia, I mute out as well. Volgs like urs brings me a nice little escape from these chaotic times.. it’s so easy to get caught up with all that’s happening.
I def could’ve used that advice the other day. I could’ve lost it really bad on this reckless driver but I thought this random girl isn’t worth it n I have much to lose. The Old me with no kids god knows what would’ve happened! It’s also a good thing I just left my hyperbaric appointment I felt calm, sharp, n almost like I could handle stress a lot better.
Goodmorning Beautiful!!!!❤❤❤you've come a long way in your personal growth already, happy you're still working on your emotional intelligence ❤❤❤
Hi Lydia, thanks so much for your sharing; it’s all positive and healthy for me.