OVERCOMING RELATIONSHIP DIFFICULTIES & BALANCING WORK, HEALTH & HAPPINESS | Q&A THE MILLEN-GORDONS

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  • @rawganic5183
    @rawganic5183 5 месяцев назад +66

    You know what stands out to me - you still make eachother LAUGH!!! Such an important ingredient for a long lasting relationship ❤

  • @lorettarascon2009
    @lorettarascon2009 5 месяцев назад +131

    Beautiful couple-I am 70 years old in Las Cruces, New Mexico-been watching you for years and love you💕I had my son at 39 and he is the love of my life. It’s great to be a parent after so many dreams are fulfilled. Follow your hearts. One child is very doable and gives new experiences full of love and keeps you young. Never had a dog, so getting my Samoyed Snow White in June. Thank you for ALL the joy you bring to my life. God bless and keep you both.🥰

  • @kv7654
    @kv7654 5 месяцев назад +117

    Can I just say…..as a 60 year old woman…….if you don’t have a BURNING desire to have children, don’t feel that it’s a must. I always had it. I had my children young, then a great career, and now have grandchildren but I honestly feel that some have children because they think they’re meant to. Not fair to the children nor the parents. Having said that…..your happiness with your lives shines through, and you’d be wonderful parents should it happen.
    Also, as a 60 year old woman, I don’t believe in forever homes (for us and for people like you) because you’re reflective people who enjoy growth and are happy to acknowledge when your tastes change. We have had our desires for different lifestyles change several times- and are again in the midst of another. I love that we are fine with acknowledging that we no longer suit what we wanted ten or fifteen years ago. It’s growth. And I feel that you’re both the same way. Lovely vlog !! Hilarious at times.

  • @helsdels9324
    @helsdels9324 5 месяцев назад +86

    This is the best video you have both done for ages and ages. Please do more of these types of things 😂

  • @lynkenway6998
    @lynkenway6998 4 месяца назад +48

    Never usually feel compelled to comment but you have such a genuine, playful, loving relationship. It’s heartwarming and beautiful to see.

  • @beijingballerina1740
    @beijingballerina1740 5 месяцев назад +53

    Deciding to have children is a very personal decision, if you choose to, you will both be incredible parents - you both seem to have SO much love to give!!! Will children change your life, absolutely - but much like adding animals, your heart will grow in ways you couldn’t even imagine. Parenting is the hardest, most rewarding thing I’ve EVER done!

  • @user-ko3tr5lz5x
    @user-ko3tr5lz5x 5 месяцев назад +93

    GET OFF THE TOILET!!!! This was gold! Great vlog!! I rarely laugh out loud and I did a few times throughout this! Thank you for being open and authentic!

    • @monstermusicish
      @monstermusicish 5 месяцев назад +6

      I was crying!! :D
      They are amazing!

    • @drdnicebeaugelin
      @drdnicebeaugelin Месяц назад

      My middle son is so Alli…hours at time🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @sunshinegalkw9675
    @sunshinegalkw9675 5 месяцев назад +26

    I’m 49 in a long term relationship and we have never had a burning desire to have children. We have cats! lol!I enjoy you guys so much, thanks so much for sharing with us!

    • @primrosed2338
      @primrosed2338 4 месяца назад

      "We have cats!" made me giggle!

    • @BySamWithLove
      @BySamWithLove 4 месяца назад +1

      Same!!! We have no kids too. To each their own.

  • @juliaherz6148
    @juliaherz6148 5 месяцев назад +32

    Oh my god! I‘am laughing so hard 🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is the best Q&A I‘ve ever seen!!! 🎉🎉🎉

  • @kaylalewis1319
    @kaylalewis1319 5 месяцев назад +37

    Countryside couple goals!🌱--I promise watching your own children play, run around, and gather eggs from your fur babies...that is another kind of joy. Much love from Montana 🇺🇲

  • @falusitablet8747
    @falusitablet8747 5 месяцев назад +15

    My husband and I just let a child happen naturally, I was 38 when it happened for us, I lost that one, a year later it happened again, we only have him. It took us 10yrs. If it didn't happen, we would have been fine with that too. Babies for some are everything, we didn't have that belief. Family or friends pressure is ridiculous for a couple, who would be just fine, and Happy without children. Thanks for the updated Q&A you guys are a fabulous couple.

  • @hayleypowers1017
    @hayleypowers1017 5 месяцев назад +21

    So so funny, you two are absolute relationship goals. I’m just sat here chuckling to myself over Ali’s toilet habits 😂😂😂 made my day 😂😂😂

  • @delesejones2764
    @delesejones2764 5 месяцев назад +16

    I just love Porty just sat there like he is taking everything in ♥️😂 love you guys ❤

  • @joanneaustin7767
    @joanneaustin7767 5 месяцев назад +2

    This was brilliant and as a Brit living in Oz it makes me miss the humour and banter we do so well and made me feel a bit closer to home.I watched this twice as on my way to work and needed a giggle.I do believe that laughter is such a key element to life, therefore you seem to have it in droves.Keep up the great work and more of these.xx

  • @user-mx4ip4fk2l
    @user-mx4ip4fk2l 4 месяца назад

    I love you two! there is nothing further to be said. Watching you both in your videos is so therapeutic, everything just feels so calm and beautiful to watch from the Q and A's to your day to day videos. I would really like it if you both did a collaboration every month where you together do a video just pottering around the house, cooking, gardening, trips together..etc

  • @rebeccahickman2713
    @rebeccahickman2713 5 месяцев назад +3

    You have found the key to success, lots of laughter, will diffuse even the worst moments

  • @user-tm4wv2vg4g
    @user-tm4wv2vg4g 5 месяцев назад

    Loved this chat soooo much! It was so relatable and relaxed and real. You guys are a beautiful couple and I love following your lives, it gives me inspiration to create a slower paced life of my own.

  • @cathrins.2542
    @cathrins.2542 5 месяцев назад +10

    You two are just GOLD!! Thank you for sharing, I love your energy and that your two souls have found each other❤

  • @eveoliver6846
    @eveoliver6846 4 месяца назад +1

    You were presented with hard and thought provoking questions, but love it. Two of my favorite people, stay happy, be super kind to each other and make lots of love together.

  • @magdalenacwizyk1605
    @magdalenacwizyk1605 5 месяцев назад +6

    I have the same with animals - everytime I look at my 2 cats I think : „I can’t believe they are with us, and I’m so greatful”. Great chat and Q&A! 🖤

  • @carleehenderson
    @carleehenderson 5 месяцев назад +1

    Loved this so much! Cheers to you both for continued inspiration. All the love. x

  • @judimeyers769
    @judimeyers769 5 месяцев назад +1

    Love you both. This was truly enjoyable! Would love a video about all the things you are doing for health, wellness, new ways of eating, etc!! ❤️

  • @kimberlyhallett3637
    @kimberlyhallett3637 5 месяцев назад +7

    Such a beautiful couple. Always lovely seeing you together ❤️

  • @Asia.8
    @Asia.8 5 месяцев назад +15

    Thank you for this Q&A, I appreciate both sharing stories.
    I definitely can see both of you expending your entourage work and life wise.
    Parenting topics could be very private and intimate, so thank you for responding to some noisy questions.
    I wish both of you the best of success ❤ May all your dreams come true 🎉

  • @nerinetterivera9133
    @nerinetterivera9133 5 месяцев назад +6

    This was so much fun! I laughed so much seeing you two be silly. A great way to end my Wednesday. Thank you!

  • @FSPREV2011
    @FSPREV2011 4 месяца назад +1

    Loved this vlog Ali, you both are beautiful humans inside and out. It’s so lovely to watch you both growing together. Keep enjoying life!

  • @petradee7192
    @petradee7192 4 месяца назад

    I loved this Q&A. So lighthearted and fun. I hope you do another one soon ☺

  • @KellyParki
    @KellyParki 5 месяцев назад +17

    Very enjoyable discussions 😊 .. and you seem to bounce off each other in different ways yet with a mutual outlook on life, a match made 😍 x

  • @emmadurant9188
    @emmadurant9188 5 месяцев назад +13

    Bloody brilliant 😂 burst out laughing with the toilet story. Brilliant vlog. Thank you for sharing. Love you both so very much. X

  • @AlyssaWorks
    @AlyssaWorks 5 месяцев назад

    Loved this very sweet, transparent and fun talk. Thank you for making us smile and being so willing to answer deep questions and some in very funny real ways. ❤😂

  • @RosaLisa1844
    @RosaLisa1844 5 месяцев назад +8

    Lovely video with such a nice mixture of sincere seriousness and happy laughters.. such a joy to watch. And by the way, I’ve always thought my dad is the only man on this earth to sit thaaat long on the toilet, but voila.. he‘s not alone 🙈🤣 somehow I feel relieved 😌

  • @salmanzulfekhar9141
    @salmanzulfekhar9141 5 месяцев назад +2

    God Bless you both....you living posh life compared to the messed up quarreled city living....you both have done great job building each other.

  • @sharonevans6261
    @sharonevans6261 5 месяцев назад

    I really love seeing you together. You have a great relationship. Thanks for the q&a

  • @leonieyeah
    @leonieyeah 4 месяца назад

    Love seeing this side of your personalities 😊 really enjoyed listening to your answers xx

  • @lauraloops...
    @lauraloops... 5 месяцев назад +1

    Loved this! My fav couple on RUclips. I laughed so much, Thank you!!

  • @traceyclark3125
    @traceyclark3125 4 месяца назад

    What a lovely couple you are I have followed you both for ten years you are a inspiration

  • @glenda7846
    @glenda7846 5 месяцев назад

    I respect the transparency and honesty the two of you shared. Also, I appreciate the humor which made me laugh! Best wishes to you both!

  • @mfes14
    @mfes14 4 месяца назад +1

    What an incredible vlog …. Ali you are so funny and such a joy to watch… Thank you for answering the hard hitting questions with honesty

  • @jaderomaine7841
    @jaderomaine7841 4 месяца назад +2

    I’ve been following you both since before the move and the journey has been so inspiring and a joy to watch, thank you for taking us along with you ♥️ I am a parent to a now-toddler and I am almost 35. Given how thoughtful and intentional you both are, when and if you choose to take that step to have children, I suspect it will be a very natural process for you. There are always ups and downs and unexpected things that occur with starting a family. But all things being equal, I have found that intentionality, being present, and also having the right support team (family/friends, and also professionals to support your health or help with stability like pediatric sleep consultants, etc), makes family life feel manageable and you can just lean into the joy of it all. Wishing you both the best ♥️

  • @lilwhit28
    @lilwhit28 5 месяцев назад +4

    Loved this video!! You two are such a joy to watch, your connection to each other is fabulous and Ali's dad jokes are the best! If you don't have children, trust me, it's ok 🙂 I think the whole "you're married now, it's time for kids" is ridiculous. Sometimes the desire just isn't there. We are just as happy with our sausage dog Zena. And I agree with the forever home thing to a degree. We lived in Texas for 15 years, I knew that home was not our forever home. For one, it didn't feel like home. Moved back to West Virginia and "thought" we had our forever home. Loved it. Wanted to do all these things to it and just settle down and be there forever. Then 2020 hit, the year of pure hell as I refer to it. We lost my husbands parents within 4 months of each other (cancer, not covid) and we ended up moving into the house they had bought. NOW, we are in our forever home! Home is where you hang your hat but, you gotta love the home your in. And you have a fantastic home!! I now want chickens, lol.

  • @livinginthealgarveportugal3357
    @livinginthealgarveportugal3357 5 месяцев назад +18

    I believe in meant to be….if it’s meant for you to have children it will happen ….if not you will still have the most amazing life together…much love from Portugal 🇵🇹 Algarve 🌞🇵🇹🌻 where it’s sunny 😹

  • @michelle-fi9rb
    @michelle-fi9rb 5 месяцев назад +6

    😂 oh I loved your Q&A specially the bit about what annoys you about each other. I laughed so much as so real. It’s nice to know that you also have toilet troubles and messy house keeping 🤣🤣

  • @cococrazyoilstm4476
    @cococrazyoilstm4476 5 месяцев назад

    This was fantastic! Love it so much. ❤ And your bathroom story…it had me rolling in laughter.😆

  • @catherinewenek3510
    @catherinewenek3510 5 месяцев назад +4

    What a lovely Q&A. Genuine and humorous.😄

  • @sarenanisbet1287
    @sarenanisbet1287 5 месяцев назад +7

    Love the kitty cat behind you on the table.
    So cute.
    Also loved listening to you both

  • @dawnlai881
    @dawnlai881 4 месяца назад

    Oh my gosh you two are so funny. Laughed out loud. Of course we all were visualizing Ali sitting on the toilet. ❤❤❤

  • @manishrasal2000
    @manishrasal2000 5 месяцев назад +16

    Your swagger is elegant. I always get old money vibes from your videos❤

  • @MissShatteredteacup
    @MissShatteredteacup Месяц назад +1

    "GET OFF THE TOILET" had me in tearsss, hilarious

  • @bebot_pinay8693
    @bebot_pinay8693 5 месяцев назад +1

    Well verse conversation. I love seeing you both and you look so lovely. I love watching you both. You give so much inspiration and new ideas.

  • @justnikki23
    @justnikki23 5 месяцев назад +2

    This was great, very authentic and funny…more please

  • @Jayne-Ann
    @Jayne-Ann 5 месяцев назад

    Ah loved your chat together.
    Thank you for sharing.
    Enjoy your life and we all look forward to following you both. Take care of each other, always. ❤❤

  • @reem7710
    @reem7710 5 месяцев назад +1

    Awesome vlog , the best ever.. both of u r great.. and seeing Lumi just stroll in behind you was soooo cute... more Ali please... He is great !

  • @lisadudley5260
    @lisadudley5260 5 месяцев назад +1

    😂 you guys made me laugh out loud tonight! This was so much fun after a long teaching day. Thanks x

  • @YvesyM
    @YvesyM 4 месяца назад

    Very interesting seeing the dynamic you guys have between eachother as you answer these questions

  • @lisamariemalle
    @lisamariemalle 5 месяцев назад

    I loved this video 😂 everything about it the humor the chemistry, everything so entertaining 🥰

  • @trudiegordon6327
    @trudiegordon6327 4 месяца назад

    Loved the Q and A. You are right you must be able to bring up any subject and mull it over without aggression or sulking etc. Mature exchanges.

  • @annelieandreason1413
    @annelieandreason1413 5 месяцев назад +2

    You guys are so inspiring and a beautiful couple! ❤️

  • @jtsbbsps8000
    @jtsbbsps8000 4 месяца назад +1

    thank you for your fun and candid conversations - so refreshing! also, i've been thinking about whether I want to be a mother as well. like, it's something i thought i wanted my whole life, but then i started thinking about why. like, how much of that was just society's expectation that you're supposed to have children? how much is it me genuinely wanting them? and i have so much respect for you guys just going "We don't know yet"! especially because you're being realistic and honest with yourselves about it, and putting little people into the world is something i feel like you should be certain of before doing. also i've been thinking a lot about whether i want a life with kids. honestly, i think it's very much gonna come down to a) whether i find a partner and b) whether that partner wants kids or not.

  • @jamiem.5335
    @jamiem.5335 5 месяцев назад +3

    In the kindest way possible, you guys fell in love at your worst (fashion wise) so now you deserve and can love each other at your best!

  • @hannahamiec
    @hannahamiec 5 месяцев назад

    Absolutely loved this video. Was in hysterics at times 😂 More like it please!

  • @melanietinkler9786
    @melanietinkler9786 5 месяцев назад +15

    I loved the openness of this video, made me laugh so much too! ❤

  • @lynnefusco5320
    @lynnefusco5320 5 месяцев назад +3

    I love this video you two are so great together and hilarious. Ali is such a lovely genuine man. 😍

  • @emmalouize_99
    @emmalouize_99 5 месяцев назад

    I loved this vlog, guys. You both have such a great flow together. Funnily enough, Ali, my partner, and my son both share your birthday 10/04, I had to google your birthday because I saw so many similar quirks. It was lovely seeing this type of marriage/ relationship content. Thank you

  • @emerkelly4916
    @emerkelly4916 5 месяцев назад

    It was so wonderful and honest. I really enjoyed this vlog. You are a wonderful couple ❤

  • @theluxelife517
    @theluxelife517 4 месяца назад

    Greetings from Susan & Ralph in Connecticut. That chat was great fun. When you were talking about healthy eating I thought you would mention the eggs, the crown prince, herbs. I wish I had more time to plant, maybe someday. I had my amazing son at 38. I had to give in to infertility drugs and treatments but I'm so glad I did. Yes life will change but it will be so fun. Our baby is currently a grad student and football coach. Living his dream. It's all a great blessing. Thanks again for sharing.

  • @golderabi1557
    @golderabi1557 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you both for such an honest...and entertaining... vlog! You really put in the effort to achieve a loving and balanced life..and the result is obvious❤❤

  • @sharronr
    @sharronr 4 месяца назад

    I have never laughed so hard in all the years I have followed the two of you😂😂😂😂

  • @jennylloyd8555
    @jennylloyd8555 5 месяцев назад

    I just loved this. And had the best laugh I’ve had in a long long time, which was very needed. ❤

  • @loriannvastine-kridner2556
    @loriannvastine-kridner2556 4 месяца назад

    Loved this video! Love the authenticity❤

  • @karenreiter533
    @karenreiter533 5 месяцев назад

    I think the best marriages are the ones where both people have shared values. And you both do to be sure! Work, play, humor, garden, friends, music, home, animals and health are important to you both. Also it’s great if the couples are different as well. Imagine two neat-nicks married to one another. You are both so lovely and thank you for sharing your lives with us. 💕💕💕

  • @mjrh45
    @mjrh45 5 месяцев назад +6

    You will know if you want a child (or children) when that desire becomes the most important thing in your lives. Otherwise, if you cannot say this, do not bring a child into this world. A child deserves to be loved beyond measure because he/she is a precious gift from God.

  • @fitxstella7969
    @fitxstella7969 5 месяцев назад +3

    This was so fun!! Thanks for sharing 😊

  • @stephaniedryland8790
    @stephaniedryland8790 4 месяца назад

    Absolutely love you two! Your happiness is infectious - I thoroughly enjoyed this video and wouldn’t usually comment but wanted to thank you for including the question on whether you see children in your future. I had previously been under the impression that you were choosing not to have children, but hearing you say that it just hasn’t happened gave me a bit of hope - sorry if that sounds strange but let me be someone who says, having a child is a beautiful experience and I believe you two would be fantastic parents! It definitely is not too late if you did choose that path. Wishing you many many more years of blissful happiness xx.

  • @MrsS72
    @MrsS72 4 месяца назад

    Loved this, so funny & warm. My husband also procrastinates on the toilet 😂 very relatable x

  • @MissKristleRose
    @MissKristleRose 5 месяцев назад

    This was such a warm and beautiful video to watch. My dream genuinely is to have such a relationship in my life one day. Please do more informative videos together because your opinions and thoughts on a number of topics are really interesting ❤

  • @yasminej9579
    @yasminej9579 5 месяцев назад

    I enjoyed this very much. Thank you for sharing.

  • @cathrynwhitfield7899
    @cathrynwhitfield7899 5 месяцев назад

    How blessed you both are to have each other and the beautiful life you have created I am reading Evergreen ( a Christmas gift from my son which arrived here In Australia last week 🎉🎉 ) and as I read I slow down appreciate and learn how to stop and enjoy best wishes Cathryn 🤗💖

  • @hermie6076
    @hermie6076 5 месяцев назад +1

    OMG!!!!!!!!! This this is so genuine and hilarious…..😂😂😂😂😂😂 , one of the best videos ever……😂❤

  • @rrh1690
    @rrh1690 5 месяцев назад

    Definitely a cute couple, genuine with a good heart!

  • @michelesmith9750
    @michelesmith9750 4 месяца назад

    Loved this. Having children is a decision only you can make.

  • @anniehall709
    @anniehall709 5 месяцев назад

    That was the best and most entertaining video you’ve ever done 👏🏻

  • @josephineowusu-strategist
    @josephineowusu-strategist 4 месяца назад

    Loved this video with you both!!! It was so funny and wholesome! ❤

  • @cps525i7
    @cps525i7 5 месяцев назад +4

    Communication in any relationship to me is THE key to a lasting one. As well as, really listening to each other. Sometimes you can agree to disagree.

  • @user-zb5to6tx8x
    @user-zb5to6tx8x 4 месяца назад

    I see the joy of life in your relationship and
    Like your videos. Fun inspiring and delightful. Keep at it

  • @yvonnehewitt1302
    @yvonnehewitt1302 5 месяцев назад +1

    Loved, loved, loved this video made me laugh out loud 😄 The best Q & A. 😍

  • @fionapalmer9738
    @fionapalmer9738 5 месяцев назад +1

    This was pure gold entertainment ❤ loved every minute

  • @lagunagirl1347
    @lagunagirl1347 4 месяца назад

    You guys are great 😂. Ali’s tidiness reminds me of David Beckham in his documentary.

  • @lisadavies9967
    @lisadavies9967 5 месяцев назад +1

    absolutely loved this was snorting with laughter xxx

  • @juliedeschenes2544
    @juliedeschenes2544 5 месяцев назад

    Bonjour à vous deux! This was absolutly lovely, continue on! 🙂

  • @tfboyd1
    @tfboyd1 5 месяцев назад

    Hello from the U.S. You guys are adorable!! Really enjoyed this video...thanks for sharing!

  • @MMarinet09able
    @MMarinet09able 5 месяцев назад

    Bravo. Ali you are do educated and respectful. A joy to ser your videos. Thanks for the Q&A. Really enjoyed it and had a good laugh. Take care.

  • @Marnelle43
    @Marnelle43 5 месяцев назад +1

    That was fun….i love your house. My husband and I are in the downsized part if our life. Sold the big house and when we travel you can just lock up and go. It’s a different headspace about a forever home I agree…..I guess that’s where we are at now…..less to manage.

  • @caroledavies3935
    @caroledavies3935 5 месяцев назад +4

    Love it when you are both together doing a vlog it's hilarious......xx

    • @karenleggett3097
      @karenleggett3097 5 месяцев назад

      My husband made a video to show our children and myself how to install a roll of toilet paper. It was hilarious. If you need to use it just let me know.

  • @dominikakras-tp8xv
    @dominikakras-tp8xv 5 месяцев назад

    Wonderful video ❤ would love to see more of these

  • @cindiwiggins3496
    @cindiwiggins3496 4 месяца назад

    Great video! Kudos to your openness with the viewers.

  • @maureenrhoden430
    @maureenrhoden430 4 месяца назад

    I don’t normally comment on either of your channels though you are both equally great, but I just loved this video for both your honesty and laugh out loud toilet habits Ali, 😂 one of the best Q & A sessions I’ve seen in a long time, I can see you both have a lovely relationship together and with your furry/feathered babies, keep doing what you doing.. And more of this please ❤😂❤

  • @kathyfilyaw201
    @kathyfilyaw201 5 месяцев назад +1

    Loved this Video…..answers a lot of questions about the 2 of you as a couple and your mindset as a couple…..it’s refreshing….. 44:39

  • @meganfookes2026
    @meganfookes2026 5 месяцев назад

    That was a great vlog. I laughed a lot too. Thank you for being frank and real and honest x

  • @Lou7301.
    @Lou7301. 5 месяцев назад +19

    I love when someone can make me laugh out loud 🚽
    Love your chats Thank you guys xx

  • @sophiachalkley9839
    @sophiachalkley9839 4 месяца назад +1

    Lmao! The kids question, yesterday my partner and I were looking at our son stuffing food into his mouth in his high chair “I adore him, how does he even exist” there are days where you marvel at how incredible they are, it literally seems like they’re made by magic… and then there are days like today - where you wake up and just think, I don’t want to do this anymore, I’m done… I just want to wash my hair without him trying to tip over a plant or try and get in the shower with me, or have a sudden fascination with the loo brush or touch a hot radiator 😅😮‍💨
    But he makes me laugh so much, and as someone who really wasn’t sure if they wanted kids, the contentment and peace it has brought me as an individual has surprised me. It filled something in me I never knew was missing, and I think i would have been content without him, it was just at a different level, if that makes any sense at all x