7 Questions to Ask Your Host Family | APOP
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We're talking about the dreaded Skype call. This is something which most au pairs dread, but it's definitely worth remembering you're also interviewing the host family!
Some of the questions we suggest asking are:
What activities do the children enjoy? What are their names?
What do you do? (It's not as rude as it seems!)
Will you pay for my language lessons?
Do I have a curfew?
What level of English do the children speak? (but really though)
What food do you eat? Or will you give me money for food?
ARE YOU GOING TO PAY FOR MY TRANSPORT????!
Preparing a few questions before you speak to the family can seriously help calm your nerves.
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Does the organization come visit the students to check on him every month?
I've got my first ever skype call as an au pair in 30 minutes 😬😬 I'm binge watching your videos
yesss! Thats what they are there for
@@aupairohparis6083 thanks to your vids I got through my Skype calls!! I found my host family!! Catch me moving to Naples in 6 weeks!!
@@Lilithellis9513 sounds so exciting! have fun!!!
That’s why we all here I’ll see if I’m gonna be in Italy in 5 weeks lmao
@@vickrey2133 I hope it works out for you!!! I'm not with my host fam in Naples anymore cause of Covid :// but I'm an au pair for a fam in Germany now n it's still great. N im still surviving off of these gals tips lol
I'm a host mom here in the US beginning the interview process for our second au pair...these videos are fantastic. I am always concerned about making sure our au pairs understand fully what they are getting themselves into (lol) as well as treating them with respect as a roommate and an employee. Your videos are great for me to make sure I am being as considerate as I can and as good of an employee/roommate as I can. Thank you ladies! Excellent job!
i hope to find a host family in usa it s my dream
Hi Sarah! What au pair company are vou in ?
Do I need to pay any registration fees before to be an au pair??
Yasss! Please address your needs clearly!
@@pramod2078 Yes, you have to sign up with an agency to be an au pair in America and there are costs involved.
This video popped up on my feed about an hour too late... :/ I just had my 1st Skype interview. Sooo awkward. I was so excited I forgot any questions I had for them. I wrote down every question you mentioned.
Hi! Just want to share my experience as an Au Pair, maybe it will help future Au Pair and host-families. I was an Au pair in Belgium 4 years ago and I would say it was great year in general. My family was very nice ... at first sight. I think it happens with the majority of families and au-pairs when everything seems fine and interesting at first, but as long you live with the family as much you start noticing things that are weird.
And you wish you asked some things before coming.
I had a stay-home jobless host-mom and host-dad was working in another country so he was at home only for the weekends (during the week he never called the kids, when he was coming home he always bought toys and then leave to his office-room to work again and he was always annoyed when children sneak there).
Host-mom was crazy about everything healthy and bio, because of that kids were allowed to eat only 2 candies per week, only 20 minutes of TV per week (they were never allowed to finish their cartoons, poor kids couldn't finish Frozen for months), kids ate only kinoa, carrots, broccoli, cucumbers, avocado, fish etc. During my year with them kids never had something tasty what other kids ate. When I was picking kids form school they were so jealous that other kids can eat a snack like cookies, my kids were forced to eat only carrots with humous. Mom was doing home-made washing powder to wash the clothes, washing liquid to wash the dishes. Both my clothes and kids' smelled awful. I was babysitting not less than 4-5 times every week. Host-mom loved going clubbing or doing sports or going to the restorants with her friends almost everyday, and she always did that late evening even though during the day she stayed at home and did nothing.
I was spending time with children way way more than parents and that was so weird, even the youngest started speaking French with my accent. I am not kidding my mother instincts woke up... My mind literally thought that they are my kids.
I was doing everything except cooking and cleaning parents' office and bedroom (they had a cleaner for that). My day was starting at 7 am and finished whenever host-mom comes home (and sometimes it could be late night). I was getting ready kids for school (doing breakfast, doing lunch for school, help all three kids to get dressed, make hair, make sure that all thing are in their bags), after that I fully cleaned the kitchen and kids rooms, washed and iron clothes, take them from school, if they had homework I helped them, make goute. After school there were around 3 hours before dinner so I played with kids all that time, while host-mom cooked the dinner I gave bath for the kids and than set the table and clean the whole kitchen after the dinner. And if mom had her crazy plans for the evening I read a book for kids' and make them sleep.
If parents stayed with kids during the weekend kids were not bathed, hair was not brushed and they were wearing the same clothes that they had on Friday when I left them, rooms were a complete mess. And parents always left dirty dishes all the weekends and were waiting I would wash and clean everything on Monday.
I was paid for all that 500 eur. Also twice a week I had language classes so I literary ran from my classes to kids' school to pick them up, because host-parent singed me for the school that was so far away from home because it was cheaper. During the year host-mom barely asked me if I was ok, or if I need something. I was not allowed to have my phone while I am with kids, I was not allowed to do evening classes at language school, and I was not allowed to sleep-over anywhere except the house. If I wanted to travel to France or Germany for the weekends, for example, I needed to notice host mom at least one month before...
Everyday I was so exhausted that I left the family one month earlier before my contract finished, I couldn't do it anymore. Host-mom was so angry that I decided to leave that she or host-dad never called me or sent any email after that. So I spent there 11 months in total.
But in general I had great year, because I would never get such crazy experience. I met great people, traveled, explored the culture and my French was on a great level.
If you wonder how I stayed the whole year or why I didn't change the family. I was young, that was my first time abroad ever, I didn't know anything, and I am very calm person and hate conflicts. The first month I had thoughts to change the family and even asked my agency to help me but they said that I am just in a process of adapting and said that I need to talk with parents. I indeed talked with parents and politely said that I work way more than it says in the contract and host mom said "contract Is just a formality and any family follows it". I was naive and believed that maybe every au pair does that....
I don't know... I leave this comment for you to judge, both au pairs and host-families. Was it a normal host-family? Or is it me who made a problem from that? Was that a solid au pair experience? I still ask myself this questions.
Thanks for coming for my TED talk 😅
Oh wait I have not finished. I forgot to say what I was eating... so host-parents and children ate all that carrots and avocado etc. but for me personally host-mom was buying ham that cost 80 cents on sale and eggs. Host-mom said that I can eat food from the fridge but in small portions because she said that the family spend sooo much money on the good food. Children and parents drank water from gallons ( like you know the one that have 5 l in it) and I was not allowed to drink that water 🙃 she also said that I can drink only one cup of tea per day. That's it. ok bye
Omg thank you so much for your comment! I appreciate your effort writing that, both as a perspective au pair looking for families right now and as a socio/psych student.... Your family was definitely not okay. Gosh, I would've been so angry for the kids. Just goes to show how insane things can get behind the perfect facade. Her healthy eating obsession is definitely UNhealthy, and would NOT benefit the kids. Not only will they resent her for the stolen childhood, but might possibly develop eating disorders. Lol their family dynamics do not scream "healthy" in any way... they'd skyrocket their quality of life by just paying attention to kids and spending some time with them 🤦🏼♀️
Just as I finished watching this video I received a message to do an interview with a host family.
OMG I just had my first Skype call earlier today and I WISH I discovered this channel before then lol
I have a skype call coming up next weekend and your videos are SO HELPFUL!! Thank you so much, they really help combat my nerves:)
Good luck! You got this!
Very helpful, thanks for the video. I received message form host family in Vienna Austria. And this is a big help.
this was super helpful! (i'm continuing my binge-watch. prepare for a little flood of comments.) will definitely ask some of those during the next skype call. - jessie
I have had multiple first skype calls and always come back to your videos!!
Aww thank you! Good luck with the process!
You guys look so amazing I like you and I bumped into your channel and I love it
i have 5 hours until my first skype call for my first au pair experience and im terrified but also excited!
you got this girl!! channel us during your skype!
That pretty please you asked for so nicely was the reason I subscribed. 😁🤗 P. S. love your video's
haha! we are so glad to have youuuuuu
I'm having my first Skype call today I'm so nervous but these questions are defently gonna help me thank you guys so much 😊
I would also ask if they can set you up in contact with any of their previous aupairs! That way you can chat with them on their experience. Almost like asking for a reference haha
Ur tips,are helpful.i just can't to have more experience
I'll have my first Skype call with a family in Spain tomorrow morning (probably won't get to sleep tonight ugh). I'm a bit afraid of talking to the children because of the language. Like, I can ask them questions like what they enjoy most, but for sure I won't understand their answers :|
Just wanted to let you know that I absolutely love your channel and I hope more people see it! You're just so authentic, it always feels like you're sitting next to me haha :D
Greetings from Germany,
I hope you're fine!
Anna :)
Hi! Wow thanks for the quick reply :)
It was okay!
In the end we only videochatted a few seconds and then the family called me on the phone because the connection was not that good. A bit sad, they didn't even notice I had cleaned my room xD
We had talked about the arrangements in previous e-mails and even though I was prepared so well with questions and answers, the whole content of the call was just "so do you want to come? Yes? Great, then let's look for flights". That was a bit weird (quicker than I had expected) but okay because I have a good feeling with this family :) seems like I'm going to spend my summer in northern Spain:)
Haha sorry for the long comment :D
Thanks for your support and good content!
@@lottecooper4370 Hi I don't know if you're reading messages. How was your experience with this family after all? Did you end up going?
@@iiAngelic hey :) yes I did And had a wonderful summer there! It was a bit tough with the children as they weren't extremely nice and we had some communication issues, but the parents were super nice, I enjoyed the city and region and overall learned so many valuable things! This was 2018, and in 2020 I felt the urge to do something similar again and looked for a second host family and once again it was a really good time! (Even better because the kids were older and we could talk really easily) overall I would really recommend getting out of your comfort zone :) what do you want to do? Xx
Hi, I’m gonna be a host mom may be after a year or so.We live in UK.I have 2 kids, one is 7 and other one just 9 months old.Just waiting for her to be atleast 2 and half years old to get an au pair. I am too excited for it.I hope to get a good au pair..you videos are amazing
Good luck for when you start searching, having an au pair can be such a beautiful and enriching gift to give your children :)
Hey, do you have any au pair yet?
Hey! Great video and great tips thanks!
Hey girls, I just had a skype call with a family yesterday and not sure what to make of it. I don't think it went badly, I prepared with the help of your videos and everything, but they did most of the talking and didn't leave me much room to ask them questions. It felt like it was more of a one-sided interview. Also, the mom was hardly on camera/engaged in the call even though she was sitting right next to the dad? They both seemed a little stiff/distant and jaded, I don't know if it was because they've had other au pairs before and have been through the process many times before, but it didn't give me the best vibe. Getting pretty desperate about finding a family but I don't know if I should go with one if they didn't seem very welcoming.
What did you end up doing? so curious
Hi I’m having my first interview tomorrrow and im wondering if the first one is too early to ask about curfew? Thanks for this video btw it was super helpful!❤️
Hello, when is the right time to message my host family after first facetime interview? Host mum seems really outgoing and cool with everything, no heat or stress with her I suppose. But I am not sure if I should message her in a day or two after the call, just to check in, or whether I should wait until she messages me about another facetime session? What do you think? I find your channel really helpful as I am becoming au pair for the first time this summer, it calms me and encourages me to do so, so thank you so much guys! Also, thanks for the answer :)
How often/usual/normal is that the host family pays for the airplane tickets to reach their place? Is it ok for me to ask for it? Thank you!
I had my first two video calls just now and omg I was so nervous, I didn’t asked a lot questions but I get to say hi to their kids. It’s a good simple conversation that last around 20mins ish (is that a red flag?) May I ask, after Skyping with them, what should I do next ? Should I msg them like greetings etc etc or should I wait for their next message or video call? (I am a male AuPair) my host families are from Spain and Italy we’ve been messaging each other for weeks and finally the video call! Everything is such a mess, my room lighting was bad and I was wearing singlet because it’s summer and it so hot!!well hopefully I’m not screwed! Haizzzz
I really love your videos
Woww,hearing all this makes it exciting.Does it mean as an Au pair -could meet a host family ,who speaks other languages aside english
Does the organization come visit the students to check on him every month?
pls pls do a review about the travel cost ?? the flights, buses, train etc etc ?? do u get 1 way plane ticket or 2 way air ticket ??
Hi! Thanks for the vid! What kind of questions do you get to ask your host parents during 1st video call? And what about on the 2nd or 3rd video call?
Who should initiate having video call, the Au Pair of the host parents? Thank youu
Any party can start a conversation, depends on the website and softwares you’re using though. In my first conversation I’d get to know them as a family and also see what they’re looking for in an au por. The next phone calls should be more casual and natural for sure to see if you have chemistry with them! Good luck!
I want to transfer to japan for high school but I don’t know what programs to use and like if they include certain things or not?Like how do i chose a program???and if I don’t end up liking my host family how do i change it???
Try looking into CIEE, they have summer programs as well as semester/year round programs! And from what I understand you communicate with your program that you want to change your host family and they will accommodate to that! Hope that helps!
Hey guys so nervous 😂 I am having my first interview in few hours and I have to ask 15questions about their lives and I dont know where to start
Au Pair, Oh Paris
Thank you so much
Hi Jane did you paid any registration fees before getting into an interview?
Hiya, I know this video was posted years ago, but I really need some advice. I started working as an Au Pair as soon as France went into lockdown, this is my first family. It has now been nearing three months and I am having difficulty with gaining respect in someways from the parents. I feel very uncomfortable talking to them now. I spoke to them the other night about an incident that had happened and at the time they said to feel free to talk to them about these sort of things, but then today they said that they can't 'babysit' me as well. I suppose what I'm really looking for is any advice from/for au pairs during the confinement? I feel that I am worrying not only about making sure the kids are respectful but also the parents as well which seems like a really strange thing to be worried about.
Thank you.
hey! thanks for the comment! Definitely join the APOp Open forum and ask the au pairs there for advice, or you can sign up for 1:1 coaching through our website with me! (Edwina) here is the link for that www.aupairohparis.com/au-pair-coaching
I think if you communicate better with the parents despite the difficulty, you will gain respect and they will understand your concerns. Ask them for their methods of discipline. I suggest you read parenting blogs online and even better is to read a book called "Easier calmer happier parenting" by Noël Janis-Norton (i borrowed this book from the library but check online like Amazon.com).
Hello, did you show a return document at the embassy or consulate. To prove you will return in your home country?
I have my first Skype interview in like two hours and the anxiety is killing me!! This video helped a lot but my heart still feels like it's about to burst out of my chest and run away lol. If I ask to see the kids what should I say to them??!?! They're all boys around 7-13 years old and I don't wanna seem awkward.....
Thank you for the advice you guys are the best!! Feeling much more confident already:)
It went great!!!! I got lucky because my family was not awkward at all and the mom and kids knew english pretty well, the dad was just kinda hanging out and smiling because she said he does’t speak english very well. The mom just asked about what I like doing and about my experience with children, and the kids asked me if I could play different sports with them and if I had a nurf gun LOL. I didn’t get a chance to ask about what I would be provided and how much I would be paid because the kids were on the call for a majority of the time so we just talked about what each others culture is like. For example, “whats a popular sport in Italy” or “Do you drive on the right or left side”, etc. I have another skype call with the mom next week so I’ll ask her about what stuff I will be provided with and what I will be paid...... #ImAboutToBeBallinOnABuget ;)
Thank you both for the advice, your videos are very helpful and fun to watch!!
Hello can you help me finding host family somewhere in Europe side? Thank you
Hi, please make a video about making a good interview video
Hello , I am an au pair in Paris . For the metro pass , is it half price because we are students are do we pay the full price . How did you go about this ?
Au Pair, Oh Paris awesome yes I am here for a year , and also enrolled in school . Did you get your metro pass reduced?
Why is it a red flag if the kid stay in front of the camera for more than 5 minutes?
Hiii! I am in the process of interviewing and I really liked a family but I don't know if I should wait for them to reach out to me or if I should approach them and tell them that I'd like to be their au pair? Thanks so much!!
thanks so much!! and thanks for making the video (:
i hope to find a host family in usa it s my dream
Please tell me either one of you are looking for a family LOL! CANADA!!!!
hi i hope find a host family if you are interested im willing to answer any question you can send me e mail at souksmouhtadi1@gmail.com
How to apply
hlo when u apply in au pair dn worker should pay for registration fee to host family or not
Hi Anjali. Did you get any reply for your question?
Hey guys do you guys know of any agencies to au pair in ireland
Okay thanks guys what agency are you using for paris ? And if your not using one how would I go about finding a family without a n agency
As a host family I don’t agree with you saying oh don’t feel grateful they are calling you. Yes it’s not a big deal but don’t for get we do this out of the bottom of our hearts and do not get paid and actually spending money on feeding you and placing a roof over your head. Also it sounds like y’all don’t know anything about this because if you are doing this properly through an agency they answer all the “hard questions” for you.