Is marriage really that risky for men? You aren't going to like the answer.
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- Опубликовано: 13 апр 2024
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Ya know what else is risky, a gun fight, but everyone respects a war fighter. Oohra!
We'll revisit in 4-5 years since you just recently married. The men who will have it incredibly difficult are the logical types (you) who do not understand how to handle intense female energy during arguments and continue to expect the rational response. What ends up happening is these men relapse into frustration, becoming logically cold, uninterested, and absent. Just look at yourself and what happened to your previous marriage.
The thing is we take it as is and move on if we’re being logical and consistent with our emotions and interest… it’s also usually us the men that break it up once red flags start coming out of nowhere.
The problem with this is you can vet a woman for 3 years she pass the test, view you the captain of the ship so you marry her, sign the contract, etc. And on year 4 or 5 she change out of the blue, no longer respect you then next thing you know she divorce you and gets half of your asset. My point is no one can predict when someone will change up on you..
Yeah. Actually you can predict that. No woman is going to respect you as captain of the ship for 3 years and then stop. You lose control gradually, because you are slipping. I've been coaching men for years. It never happens the way you described. NEVER.
Also she could get a brain trauma that changes her personailty permanently. Could slip back into an addiction she warded off or discover she has one they never realised that causes catastrophe. Obviously these are low chance, but there's always an element of risk. Jury is still out for me.
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Oh really? Look at all the tik tok videos of ladies divorce because their husband was 'too good'
Rich Cooper says that smart men don’t get married. Why would you put your relationship in the hands of the government?
Do you have your own brian? All you do is comment stupid shit you heard from somewhere else?
@@BulldogMindsetV2 Regardless of the reference to Cooper it's a very valid point. How does it benefit you to bring the government into your life?
Tax savings. The government will always be in your life. I’m not going to pay more taxes when I can file joint because I’m not stupid. I’d rather give a woman half maybe than the government for sure.
@@BulldogMindsetV2 Thanks for responding, fair points.
The tax savings don't exist in Canada anymore. It might make sense in your jurisdiction.
I got married in Korea. Instead of getting thrown out of the country for overstaying tourist visas, I was able to start my own legal business and work at a 3% tax rate. Getting the marriage licence costed $4 at the local city office.
It's not just about half of your assets. My buddy from the oilfield got married and divorced within 2-3 years (Canada). His ex was awarded $12,000 per month in alimony for the next 120 years. He was my boss, I assume his income was under 400k that year (before tax). He has to live in Mexico now to avoid it, and work with the cartels to earn money, because our pipeline work is seasonal and the alimony rekt him when the pipeline shut down.
I love your wisdom John
I think men don't understand what getting married means to women. I'm not talking about the wedding, the ring, the show, etc. It's about giving her the feeling of security, the feeling that we are in it together and we are going to be together until the end of our lives, in sickness and in health.
Giving her that, while I'm only risking giving her half of our stuff is not a bad deal. Also, the "half of our stuff" is something we built together, it's only fair. I might have been the one getting the money, but she enables me to do it by taking care of all the other things I wouldn't have the bandwidth, courage, or persistence to tackle.
Believing sweeping generalizations in the "manosphere", such as smart men don't get married, without critically thinking about it, does not lead to happiness.
yes very valid points, but you can also make a prenup and predetermine how things would be split, it doesn’t have to be 50%
With regard to half of the stuff being built together.
No, that’s not usually how it works. There are some cases were a couple marry in their 20s and do build together. But in many cases the guy comes into the situation with far more than the lady. Women don’t usually marry “work in progress”. They wait till someone is successful and then they marry. So it wasn’t all built together.
A follow up about leverage - Even if she's the one who asks for a relationship and you're the one setting the rules, doesn't the leverage shift to her favour again when the man is on his knees with a ring asking her to marry him?
PS: Just a small doubt, loved the video and lesson overall.
No, because you make sure everything is going good and she's respecting you before you give her the ring.
@@BulldogMindsetV2 Oh yeah, you've trained a certain behaviour and commanded respect already. Got it, thanks for the clarification, John! Much less afraid of the negative probabilities of marriage now.
I don't' understand why your trying to sell marriage John. If it works for you great but it is objectively a bad deal. Contractual marriage that involves the government is obsolete.
How do you handle ghosting in communication in a relationship?