I love my epidural experience, I felt contractions but it was more like a pressure not pain . I slept good for awhile and I had my baby in 3 pushes :))) it was so worth it and I only have a positive experience .
Did any of you guys suffer any long term effects? My mother in law tells me not to get it because of the long term effects it may have so now I am unsure
My sister-in-law tried to pressure me into getting an epidural and it was so maddening. Even when I explained I want to try to have a natural birth, if I FEEL I need an epidural I’ll get one but there’s no reason to get one just because because there are risks. To which she replies “just get one! Just get one. They are fine” and gives me this look that says “okay whatever your gonna get one cause your not going to be able to handle the pain. You think you will but you can’t cause I couldn’t” Women need to also respect others decisions, not pressure each other or make them feel bad about the decisions they make in the birthing process. It’s already scary as it is!
Clover Clo I decided to have a natural labor and birth as well and although it was painful and at the worst point I felt I needed an epidural, my mentality beat my want for one. Having the right mind set makes all the difference! It truly does! Did you end up needing an epidural?
@@BridgetTeyler hey Bridget I am due in 2 weeks for a VBAC and I just want to know is it better to get epidural? I got one with my last 2 deliveries but do you think it's better to have one with VBAC? Please let me know
@@HY-wr6mm .i think getting epidural with my firts baby slowed the process and had to get a c section. I had a vback, two years ago without the epidural. It was much faster and recovery was good , i was walking the next day like nothing. Im due any day now with my second vback and im planing on doing it without the epidural. Even tho it is painful , i still recommend no epidural.
Had an epidural - it was the perfect choice for me. I was so comfortable and laboured for 25 hours, could still tell when contractions came and had good awareness of pressure to push. Would recommend to any women if they wanted a comfortable experience!
@@sandralaurella2390 Hey Sandra! It depends on the person. For some people epidurals are totally fine and for others they aren't. I gave birth naturally and vaginally. My labor was 11 hours long total but the "worst" part which is transition, was about four hours long. I pushed for only a couple minutes! What I did was stay in the shower the entire time because that's how I've always managed pain and focused on my breaths. Everyone said I was calm for most of the time and they almost forgot I was giving birth lol I would highly recommend a doula as well, I had three women there to support me and it helped a lot. I'm a birth doula myself, if you want I could work with you or find you someone locally if you haven't already.
Courteney Taylor I had the same experience with epidural 11 hrs and at the end epidural wore off and basically felt everything like a natural birth which was crazy. Everyone and every birth is different for sure.
I gave birth to my 1st baby last august 15. I asked for the epidural at 8cm dilation. It went super well. Ive really enjoyed it. I could feel every contraction without the pain... with my husband we talked and laughed... i was very relaxed. I pushed for 14 minutes! It was hard when the head came out even with the epidural... i could not imagine not having it in that moment. I loved giving birth... it was the best experience of my life... i wanted it to be a serene, relaxed and happy moment and it truly was.
None of these cons happened to me. As soon as I got it, I went from 4cm to 9cm and started pushing. No fever, no headache, no pain from contractions nor stitching. I could feel crowning and contractions, but no pain. I literally was walking within 2 hours, my legs never were paralyzed. And I was not confined to my back or my bed during labour. Nurses encouraged to go on all 4’s, during labour to push. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT! Had I done research prior to my labour, I would have been anxiously anticipating all these cons to happen to me, but instead I went in without any expectation and it helped me so much. Now, that I’ve given birth, I watch labour videos for fun and to learn more about what I went through. But sometimes by researching you set yourself up for disappointment when it doesn’t happen the way the video said it would!
Epidural wasn’t bad at all. I just had my baby last week. I was in labor for over 24 hours and I got mine at 2cm. I couldn’t take the pain from the contractions anymore. My baby came at 30 weeks last week. The delivery was a breeze and I only push once. Waters broke at 23 weeks so I was hospitalized until she came. She is in NICU doing well.
I had an epidural with my first child, which ended up Being a blessing because I had a retained placenta and the OR was full. I’m so happy I had chosen …after laboring and exhausting myself unmedicated 16 hours , to finally get relief and have the rest of the labor be calm and beautiful. If you’re in the moment and need the help, thank GOD there is an option for us to even have one !
Doula here: I totally agree here. There is a difference between pain and suffering, and I NEVER want my clients to suffer, however cascade of intervention is REAL. PLEASE listen to this video. Tearing is more likely, but these can be stitched without future issue. I support my clients in WHATEVER they choose, but it’s important to know the PROS AND CONS. You women need to know that you are infinitely powerful and unstoppable. I believe in each and every one of you.
27 weeks today. As a first-time mom, I am terrified of what I am about to encounter. Thanks for being informative and supportive for people to make their choices in all your videos.
Hi Celine! I'm a mom of 5 (5th currently gestating, I'm 16 weeks). I've had 3 medicated labors and 1 unmedicated labor. This baby will not only be unmedicated but a home birth, God willing. It's scary, and you'll feel scared no matter what anyone says. But with that said, you can do this. I STRONGLY suggest you take a Bradley birthing class or a hypnobirth class. Knowledge is power and knowing and understanding what's going on GREATLY reduces the fear which in turn reduces the pain because you aren't stressed. Find some yoga type music you like, spend some time each day just listening to it with your eyes closed focusing entirely on your breathing, in for 4, out for 6. That REALLY helped me. Check out various laboring positions, I favored being on my hands and knees. If you go unmedicated, yep, it'll hurt. But it's a different kind of hurt, and if you embrace it instead of fighting it, it genuinely is more pressure than pain. Transition can be tough, ring of fire can be tough, but it's not unbearable, at least it wasn't for me. I've never felt so empowered and proud of myself. I've never felt so strong as I did during and after labor. And my recovery was very fast. I felt no pain afterwards, even immediately. With my epis, mine were all too strong. I couldn't move my legs. Had very traumatic labors because I am one of those people that NEEDS to be in control of my body or I panic. Not everyone is like that, but I had bad experiences with the epis. With my first three ended up with no choice due to pre eclampsia, can't move bc of blood pressure, mag for the BP, which makes you feel like crap, and I gave in pretty quick. But again, not everyone experiences that! However you labor, you've got this. I won't ever lie to a new mom and tell her it isn't scary at first, that it doesn't hurt, but I WILL tell you it's not like the movies, it's not horrific screaming the whole time, not if you go in prepared. Take those classes, do some googling, and you'll feel more comfortable with the whole process 😊
I am a L&D nurse and I never have my epidural patients push on their back only. There are plenty of options for pushing w an epidural. Ex: Side-lying, squatting with squat bar, tug of war pushing, pelvic rocking, and more.
Ok I thought with epidural u have to be ok your back? This is such good news! I am getting induced in 7 weeks I hope I go before that though! I would prefer to be on all fours for pushing I just thought I would be paralyzed from the waist down and they wouldn't let me.
It’s actually not that difficult, especially when myself and another support person can help. The legs are not “numb” or paralyzed, they are just slightly desensitized and weakened.
It is awesome that you enable mamas to labor this way! Even though I was assured I'd get to labor however I wanted with an epidural, in the end I was still forced to push on my back.
I've had two births. My first was medicated with an epidural and my second was unmedicated. Yes, I was in the worst pain of my life but I'm so proud of my strength and dedication to have a natural birth and see it through. My second birth was honestly a better experience than my first, because after my second, beautiful baby girl was born, I was able to get up and move around as I pleased and use the bathroom by myself, without a catheter. When my first, beautiful baby girl was born, I had to wait hours after her arrival for my epidural to wear off before I could even move my legs. They felt extremely numb and heavy. I hated that feeling. Something to remember ladies is as soon as your sweet baby is born, the pain is gone and you feel like yourself again, only happier and with a fuller heart🥰 With that being said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with getting the epidural. It works wonders for us mamas and we have modern medicine at our disposal for a reason. Do what you feel is best for you and your labor and delivery. I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with my third baby, my first baby boy💙 I plan on having another natural, unmedicated birth, because I feel it's what's best for me, my birthing/postpartum experience, and my baby.
Thank you so much for this I am currently 27 weeks pregnant and have 2 other kids as well and an pregnant now with my third so I had questions but I really wanted them to be answered or get a response from someone who has experienced both a medicated versus an unmedicated birth. Thank you so much🙏 .
"Yes, I was in the worst pain of my life but I'm so proud of my strength and dedication to have a natural birth and see it through". the TRUTH. glad you don't let any insecure women try to tell you you don't deserve the full respect for just doing the damn thing. you do, and you saved yourself and your child the risks. i do that too. husband catches at home.. about to do it again. wooo! anyway, well done!
Yes but in the video she was saying that your not supposed to feel anything at all. And for some they cant feel anything at all. Thats why doctors tell you when to push. Or like my recent birth a couple months ago it doesnt work at all.
I didnt feel a thing. Totally paralysed ! Had no sensation of needing to push or even contractions (this is after 40 hours of active labour so i didn't mind)
Oh my god. You covered all the bad side effects I got with the epidural with my 2 babies. I feel like the epidural made everything worse and my deliveries were both very traumatic ☹️. Now I’m 30 weeks pregnant and I’m really really considering not getting an epidural this time because I don’t think my body reacts good with it. Pray for me
I had the exact same situation. Labor I felt trapped in bed and I had to be given pitocin and antibiotics because of the epidural. I would love to hear how your 3rd delivery went! I could use the encouragement ♥️
@@PaulsMom93 so I almost did, I powered through most of it but I’ve had GD with my last pregnancies and they told me that if my baby got stuck they’d have to put me to sleep and my husband wasn’t going to be there. So I ended up getting it but as soon as they put it my contractions started to fade so they had to stop it. 😪. I think I only had it for not even an hour. After they turned it off I was ready to start pushing. And I felt everything!! I felt the so called ring of fire lol. I wish I didn’t have the GD otherwise I feel like I could’ve powered through it. Even tho my nurses were nice I still felt slightly pressured and scared after what they said. My second baby got stuck and my husband said that the doctor was pulling so hard it looked like he was gonna rip my baby’s head off. So I was scared something like that was going to happen. The epidural was on me but on stand by if that makes sense. I have mixed feelings about it now. Like I’m glad I was able to feel the pain but also my delivery was kinda short about 8 hours total. So if I wasn’t at risk of my baby getting stuck I feel like I could’ve done it. With my past 2 babies I didn’t feel when they came out.
I had the epidural 10days ago and I am so happy I made the decision 🙏🏽 the delivery went smooth and almost heavenly. I could feel the final contractions but it was doable.. would do it all over again 🥳 overal a VERY positive experience with the epidural
Yeah I’ve had two epidurals and this video helped me understand some of the things that happened to me (I did get fevers, I was bed bound, I was given pitocin to keep labor moving and it slowed my labor a bit). I disagree that you’re so numb you can’t feel the contractions I felt extreme urge to push both times and my body was rocking from the pressure I felt all the pressure and pushed very effectively both times (second time was twins and I got both out in 11 minutes). None of my babies had any issues with latching or respiratory issues. This is my fourth and I’m planning to do unmedicated. But epidurals aren’t anything to be afraid of based on my experience.
you got lucky, lots goes wrong with many women. so it makes sense to be afraid of stuff that can hurt you. we dont want to invalidate those who see that.
@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 yeah true! I can only speak to my lived experiences but totally understand why some women would feel differently based on theirs
@@MommyBee1589 anyone can speak for the data resulting from research studies. if all we ever knew was was happened to us individually, we'd know nothing about the *scope* of the risks. if you were not READ THE RISKS as shown by the relevant data sets before any procedure, then those physicians are begging for a lawsuit from multiple customers. it's not about feeling. it's about facts. all the lying physicians do doesn't help. :)
@@MommyBee1589 wow, you're angry and projecting that onto others. it's all going to be ok, hun. the science is the science, and the sooner we do that logic and make good decisions, the less damage will be done to mothers and babies! much love !
Here to remind women not to be afraid of the epidural. 🧡 If it is the right choice for you and your birth experience then be confident in making that decision. I had an epidural and wasn't planning on having one. Because I have an extra lumbar vertebrae, I knew it was going to be a possibility. Based on the back pain I experienced in labor because of my extra vertebrae the epidural was worth it! I could still feel my contractions, didn't need any other medications during labor, my total labor from beginning to end was 14 hours. Baby latched perfectly and am still breastfeeding without trouble. Do what is best for you and your baby. 🧡 Being able to have my baby without pain gave me the ability to experience only joy from labor. Can't wait to have my next!
I asked for epidural after receiving pitocin I was worried it will be difficult to push because of that, I stopped feeling the labor pain and was able to sleep and when I was 9cm I felt everything again but not as bad and was able to push my baby properly he came out in less than 30 minutes. Felt so blessed went through labor in less than 10hours; first baby.
So many women pressure me to get an epidural! I agree with the pain vs suffering concept- sure there will be pain, this is a natural function of the women’s body and there is pain and discomfort. If I end up suffering mentally and emotionally and can’t push thru, I will probably get an epidural. But I am going in mentally prepared as much as I can with coping mechanisms, support from my husband, and prayer/meditation. For me the cons outweigh the pros!
I had an epidural 43 years ago for my daughter. Fantastic. My grandma and mum would have given anything not to have suffered. A lot of bodily functions are natural but don't hurt. Why does childbirth hurt so much? Because the baby's head is too big in proportion to the cervix. Evolution wasn't too clever! When things concern women, it's always painful. Thanks god.
I love how you empower women to enjoy their births and be educated on what options they have!! I’m 39 weeks tomorrow, anticipating an unmedicated labor and delivery, but thankful that you are a resource for education in case I change my mind (even during labor) 😊
Another thing you forgot to mention in terms of the administration of an epidural is that the needle isnt left in your spine. After the catheter goes in the needle comes out. I feel like many people think the needle stays in your back the whole time.
@@siriehtstudio Nope doesn't stay in, I was happy with an epidural but I was in labor (active labor) for like a day and it was relief for me. I didn't eat or sleep, so I needed rest. Still felt contractions, but it was more like pressure and my body still knew when to push. Pushed baby out in 24 min. I am happy with my choice, but I did get most opinions from mamas who did it unmedicated (vaginally). Do what's best for you, and the rest is between you, significant other and your doctor or midwife. :)
Keep in mind not all cons apply to everyone. I’ve had three births with epidural and I’ve always progressed faster after I got it than before because I was able to relax. I get terrible sciatic pain with every contraction for some reason with every child I’ve had no matter what. My babies have never had issues after birth either because of an epidural. So bottom line do what you can deal with. Nothing is guaranteed.
Same here! I wasn’t progressing until I had my epidural. If mama is stressed, I think that makes it worse and your body can’t open up and cooperate with the process. I was thankful I was rested for when I needed to push and be able to enjoy baby afterward. I’ve also never torn with 3 epidural births and I think it’s because it may have slowed things down enough for my body to adapt to the baby
Had 4 kids no epidural all natural seriously hard pain and yes but honestly when the baby is out all pain was completely gone 💯%im delivering soon I'm due march 17 with baby #5 so let's do this once more 12 years later 😂❤🙏🏻
The epidural is not bad. It is INSTANT relief once the medication starts going. It did not slow my labor, and I was able to start it at 4cm, had my daughter later that afternoon. Just follow instructions and keep yourself still while they put it in. Yes i got a headache a couple days later, and i went back to the hospital because i was a preeclampsia risk, but it was no different than getting a migraine. If non medicated birth is your thing, more power to you, but never feel you have some duty to endure pain.
I was glad I got an epidural, the lower back pains coming every 60 s were unbearable for me anymore. It was instant relief and I regain strength for the final part of the labour. I would be probably too exhausted to push at that point.
I made the choice to get an epidural and It was THE best decision I made. I felt no pain after it was administered to me. The worst part of my whole labor and delivery experience was the actual inserting of the epidural. Even then, it wasn’t as bad as I initially anticipated.
I just gave birth April 7th and had a planned home birth that ended in complications that forced me to go to a hospital and to have an epidural in order to safely bring my baby into the world. As much as I didn't want one initially, I'm glad the option was avaliable because I physically could not have birthed safely without mine.
I appreciate your approach to simply educating and helping women make an educated decision. So many sources favor one over the other and don't even mention the benefits of the other or the cons of the one they support. It's so nice to hear all the possibilities and feel okay choosing the one that's best for you and your situation. Thank you!
Thank you for this video. Thanks to your explanation I realized why I had such a traumatic birth experience with my first child. Most of what I hated was due to the epidural. It slowed down the whole process where I ended up stuck in bed. I experienced all the cons of a epidural. I'm pregnant again and thanks to this video I can educate myself on how to deal with the pain naturally.
I went into labor with the opinion that I would never have an epidural...after a week of prodromal labor and a high water break, getting an epidural was the one thing that allowed me to still have a vaginal delivery, period. It was not what I had envisioned for my birth experience, but my it provided my body the break it desperately needed, and my son was still healthy and alert when he arrived.
Thank you for this video Bridget, extremely informational but love how it has ZERO judgment either way. We need more of this, I can always sense when someone’s campaigning for one thing over another and it makes me feel very on edge and suspicious of the objectivity of everything they say!
I planned to go unmedicated for my first child, but after 24 hours in labor with no sleep and being unable to keep food down, I was exhausted. I ended up getting an epidural. I will say, it was an odd feeling to have my legs be immobile. However, I was too exhausted to push and needed rest, so the epidural proved to be helpful to me. I love how you balance modern medicine and natural birth! I’m still aiming for a natural, unmedicated birth for our second child, but was grateful to have such a wonderful care team who supported my decision, whether it was for an unmedicated birth or for epidural.
Giving birth in 6 months and your videos helping me mentally prepare. I'm terrified of unmedicated birth but I want to try so badly and your videos are helping. I am keeping my options and birth plan open
It makes sense now with my first why everything happened the way it did with my epidural. The pros and cons are so very true!! If you haven’t already please do one like this for natural birth!!! I’m almost 38 weeks and I really want to do it natural but the nerves are always there. I’m trying not to be nervous lol. I don’t want the cons to happen again with the epidural!!
Also when you have an epidural your pain may go away but the baby will have more pain, because you will not producing serotonin(pain killers) for them... No surprise some don't wanna latch or will be drowsy. Very well explained it all
I had my baby April 1st and wanted so bad to do natural and I made it to 6cm before I decided the pain was worse than the risks of the epidural. It made my labor SO much more relaxing and memorable. I actually didn't end up having any of the bad side effects, which I'm so grateful for. Id do it again in a heartbeat. OH and the needle going in hurt wayyy less than the contractions I was having!
My daughter was born April 1 three years ago. I had an unmedicated water birth. The water really helped! If you have another, you might consider laboring in water for as long as you can. My second is due in August, and I'm hoping everything goes the same if not better.
@@vivalalyssaa I came into the birthing center literally clawing the walls. As soon as I got into the water, it was over. It also helps avoid/minimize tearing.
I kind of felt like a failure having an epidural, did anyone else? Im from the UK and they are not very common, natural births are more common. But after a long induction and an intense but slow labour I was exhausted. It turned out to be the best decision, I had so much sleep and was well rested when I gave birth. The pushing was beautiful and I managed to look down and see her being born, not the intense pain that can happen when in a natural birth. I don't regret it xx
This mentality is not okay!! Getting an epidural is a smart choice and it helps bring millions of healthy babies into the world. Please never associate such negative words to the experience of becoming a mother.
Marge Rangel absolutely. I know myself and if I start panicking from the pain (FTM due in March) I am not going to be able to relax and focus on getting the baby into the world. I’m scared enough as it is 😅
The benefits are more than the risk? What about those who have been injured by an epidural like myself? Completely ignorant to say, not to mention the women who also become paraplegic following epidurals because of genetic mutations etc. educate yaself, must vaccinate too. 🐑
I had a 20 hour labor. Tried to go all natural but I was in so much pain and so fatigued and exhausted at the end I could not take the contractions anymore. I ended up transferring from my birth center to the hospital to get the epidural, I was just suffering at this point. Had the epidural and it granted me SO much relief. My baby came out no less than 10 minutes after it was administered and I felt no pain anymore, just pressure and I was able to push him out easily. I don’t regret the decision to opt for the epidural but a part of me is almost like ashamed and disappointed I wasn’t able to have the natural unmedicated birth and out of hospital birth experience I wanted.
I had the same experience as you! and i feel the shame in admitting I had an epidural as well! But i keep telling myself that it’s still natural and we did 20 hour labour all without medication and that is a badge of honour! Epidural just assisted us, but we still pushed the baby out.
The epidural was a miracle though I had told the nurses a couple of hours before that it was wearing off on my right side and they had to do another one while my contractions were so incredibly close. It was so hard to stay still but I’m grateful they were able to perform a second one. The birth went smoothly and with a 1st degree tear only!! I will definitely be getting epidurals in future pregnancies lol
No shame in getting an epidural, ladies. It’s still a natural birth whether you have one or not😊. If you can enjoy your birth experience more with one, go for it! At the same token, if you want to do unmedicated, that’s great! However you feel most comfortable and whatever will make you enjoy this ultimately special day is best for you!:)
Haha, my mom had my brother and I both completely naturally....to which my brother nearly killed her from the stress of pain and how quickly he came out. She was so worried for me to go through that, she called me in the middle of the night when I was at work to tell me "If you need that epidural.... you get one! The is no shame. You don't have to prove anything to anyone!" Haha. Needless to say, I reassured her I would be getting one. 2 more weeks and baby will be here!
You can do it ladies. I’ve had all my daughters (3) unmedicated natural birth. The most painful part is when you hit 7-10 cm in dilation BUT I went from 7-10 within 10mins and had my daughters within the third contraction once I hit 10cm. Our bodies are meant to do this and to tolerate pain. All three labors started and ended in less than 3 hours and by that I mean from the first contraction to the baby being born. Lots of sex tho and I mean lots of it! Makes labor go by faster.
@Bella Duh When it comes to child birth pain, yes, any woman can do it providing she educate herself about the process of a natural birth and is surrounding herself with knowledgable partners like a doula or midwives... Your body was made, it was designed to give birth!... For most women it is a long and painful process but you can do it!... I saddens and infuriates me so much to see how today, women are so scared and were made to believe they can't do it!... No your stomach is not going to split open, no your vagina is not going to tear beyond repair, no you're not going to die!... Women have to take back control over their body and learn again to trust their instincts!... All the women I know that have experienced giving birth in an hospital, over medicated, on their backs ended up having an episiotomy or a c-section, some even still have sequel years after… The women I know that experienced natural birth after medicated birth all told me it was painful, yes, but it was way better than a medicated birth… All of them chose to give birth at home, with midwifes and a doula and the told me they felt a lot more safe and calm because the midwives and the doula was there with them all the way, never living their sight...
@@egagnon9994 this is anecdotal evidence though. And no, not every womans body is made to give birth. Its just not true. Many many women have pelvises that arent wide enough to allow a baby through, some people (like me) have uterine abnormalities that make it so that baby has to be born via c-section, complications that arent anyones fault can result in an emergency c section and there was no option for a vaginal delivery. I agree that natural birth is a fantastic option for many women and we should be trying to take thr fear out of child birth, but please stop trying to shame women into feeling like they have to have a natural birth and please dont spread the lie that "every single woman" was made to give birth so every woman should do it naturally. Its just not true. Many of us do not even have the option to give birth naturally BECAUSE our bodies are very much not made to give birth. Please just be aware of what you are saying and how this sounds to women who in fact do have to fear for their lives and their babies lives during childbirth and who do not have the option to give birth naturally. Also plenty of women have thoroughly enjoyed having an epidural birth after having a nonmedicated birth because of the relief the epidural offers. Any woman should be able to choose how she delivers and not be pressured one way or the other. Some of us like to experience the birth of our children with no pain at all and just focus on our excitement and nothing is wrong with that :)
Yes, we can do it, but educating yourself and having a support team aren't always going to get you through it alone. I wanted a natural childbirth but I left my options open for medication if I felt I needed it. I did end up needing it. I labored naturally for 11 hours and found I just wasn't coping with the pain well enough. I moved around when I could, I breathed, I meditated, I listened to music, my partner was a big support (giving me sips of water, snacks, and constantly rubbing my back and encouraging me), I spent time in the shower- but all this wasn't helping much by the time I decided to get an epidural. I was exhausted, my contractions were 2 minutes long, and I was only 5cm dilated, so I chose pain relief. I managed to get 4 hours sleep, then started to push three hours later, my delivery took 2.5 hours. I didn't tear and even though I couldn't feel the work I was doing, I was pushing well and focused on birthing my baby. I tried natural labor, and even though I didn't get what I intended I am glad I listened to my body when it needed pain relief. Ladies, there is no shame in medicated birth, just because there weren't epidurals available in the stone age doesn't mean we shouldn't take advantage just because our bodies were made for it.
Fahmida Mazumder I had my first baby within 3 hours from when my contractions started to when I had her in my arms. Second baby I had her within 2 1/2 hours so fast the doctor wasn’t able to make it and I had her on my own, no nurses helping. I pushed her out and slid out into the hospital bed. My third I actually felt like it took longer. The difference between the first two and my third (it’s tmi) is that with my first two I was sexually active literally 4 before I delivered them.
37 weeks, first pregnancy - most of the women I know did not get the epidural, some did (and as you mentioned it worked only on the half of the body on one of my friends, she said it was the most bizzare experience!) And I decided I will remain open to options and see how it goes. I love that my husband and family fully support my decision whatever it may be and they don't care what other women do as long as I feel ok during delivery. Tip: Not sure how it works in US but in my country it's worth mentioning rightaway that you consider taking epidural once you enter the hospital, so they take your blood sample for testing at the very beginning of the process.
This is so informative and empowering. I'm around halfway through my pregnancy with my first and almost everywhere I look (without digging into specifically informational videos made by professionals) keep touting the benefits of epidural and addressing none of the risks, which makes me, who want an unmedicated birth if possible, feel like my insistence is unjustified. I'm so glad to have come across your content! Thank you for your work!
I like this video, thank you for not judging one side or another. There is so much love in it, when we just accept that what is good for us might not be for everyone. I think I am siding more with natural birth. I don't have children yet but we want to start planning soon, and I will be educating myself more on this.
I took the epidural two weeks ago and I LOOOVEEDD my experience with no pain! I’m a first time mom!! And was so scared of the needle 💉 in my back or something going wrong but thank God my anesthesiologist was amazing. Contractions felt worst the epidural. I’ll say epidural pain was 2-3 out of 10 for me. Best decision I’ve made🩷 after that, my pain was GONE. I had a beautiful experience and I really enjoyed my birth.
Epidural stalled my labor with two pregnancies and I hated being confined to the bed unable to move for hours on end. Ill be going 100% natural this time!
I had a spinal when I had to have a cerclage placed. I was scared, but after having one for that procedure I've never been so sure that I want one for labor. I was grateful for the experience because it makes me feel more prepared for my birth process.
Did no epidural with my first because I chose to do a home birth. Will be doing it again, but now I know a little more about why I definitely want to stick with my plan.
I had an epidural for my first (constant back labour with no pain relief offered, water broke at home before I had any contractions so we went from 0-100) and I really hope I don’t have to for my second due in under a month. All the cons happened to me and sure I didn’t feel pain, but my delivery nurse was the worst and didn’t tell me anything/had zero bedside manner so my labour and pushing took foreverrrr. Best of luck to all mamas and their births ❤️
it’s all relative, if I learned anything throughout my first experience and all the videos I have since watched on epidural, it’s that it is the best to keep your options open (if you planning on giving birth in hospital) and see how things go. I went through natural labour and I hated it beyond believe. I thought I am ready for it, but 8 hours in, I was ready for epidural which I couldn’t have as I was in birth centre, trying water birth. My story is long and not pretty so I won’t bother anyone with it, but believe me when I say that when my little one was finally born and rested in his bed and they were still stitching me up and trying to fix everything that went wrong with me, I looked at him and for a second I thought “was he worth it?” And that’s the worst thing that can mentally happen to any mother who just gave birth. I managed to push this thought away quickly and absolutely love my boy beyond believe, but it’s almost 2 years and this is hunting me still. I wish everyone nice experience, no matter if there is medication involved or not :) make the decision you will be happy with, and don’t try to make it before you are in the situation, it really CAN be quick and not as bad! But it doesn’t have to be 🤷🏼♀️
Turkova Dominika Definitely understand. There are a lot of women that experience trauma from giving birth and that’s just not a good feeling to have when it comes to something that should be considered a beautiful experience. My pregnancy has been tough enough and I would hate to start having negative thoughts and feeling horrible while my child is making her way into the world, or when she finally gets here so I’m still deciding.
Two years later and you're still bothered by it! I'm so sorry you feel that way. I had an epidural after 15 hours of labor, labored another 14, and by the time I got my daughter my first thought was how weird she looked lol! I was pretty delirious at the time. I also had postpartum depression, which I didn't get help for until 9 months in. I didn't feel emotional love for my daughter until she was about 6 months old. I was committed to her, but otherwise....it was just hard. I'm saying all this because I want to encourage you. You had a completely normal, fleeting thought after many hours of intense pain. You're an amazing mom to your son. I can tell, because a hateful mom wouldn't care about having that thought at all. And 2 years later you're still disturbed by it. Whatever you're doing, keep it up! Revelation 3:20 "Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with Me."
Sitcom Christian thank you for your kind words! I am truly sorry that you had the experience you did and the feelings you had! And even more so that you had to battle it without help for that long! It’s amazing that you have kept going and done it all as there is so many moms that don’t have this strength.. well done!❤️ I had my second baby not even month ago and it was unbelievable how different experience that was! Still 15 hours but 7 of it with epidural, walking within two hours after giving birth, no forceps needed.. I got a chance to hold my second son immediately after birth, feed him myself as soon as he wanted, no bad thoughts at all.. I absolutely loved it! So happy I got pass my fears and had the second baby, as it did change my bad experience to positive one! I will never forget the first one and what happened in my head then, but this made massive difference and I truly wish every woman would have this positive experience as well❤️
@melody hallelujah I don’t agree with more but one thing you have just said (baby straight on the chest), please leave your opinions where they want them.
I’m due this month on 9-9-19. And I didn’t no all the cons in getting a epidural makes me want to do a natural birth now. I won’t be stuck in one position on my back
All those 9's!! Most women get epidurals without knowing the risks that often come along with it... Natural, unmedicated birth allow your body to do exactly what it was made to do!
With my epidural, I was actually able to push in multiple positions. I was even squatting! My midwife and labor nurse were freaking awesome, they helped a lot. I did ultimately deliver on my back though.
I had the epidural twice now I just had my second son last Wednesday and the epidural help me alot I still felt when I had to push. It was not painful to get at all.
My OB informed me that epidurals, especially on women who are not able to calm their bodies down through contractions, can help delivery move along faster. Because if they’re not able to stay calm and relaxed, their bodies can’t continue to deliver. And an epidural makes the labor get back on track and end quickly (if they’re already in active labor)
Trust your OB. I have noticed that almost all Doulas have some weird hate towards medical assistance and interventions. If you think you can't take the pain go for the epidural. Even natural unmedicated birth is risky. At least with epidural, the pain becomes bearable and labour is less stressful.
I love your videos. I start my natural birth classes today @26wks. I had and epidural for my 1st 6yrs ago and had most of the cons you mentioned. It’s a little scary trying for an unmedicated birth but I know it’s mostly mental. Your videos give me hope and remind me birth is a beautiful experience and pain is necessary and a part of the process. Thank you and I can’t wait to experience my natural birth
It is such a mental game! Your body is equipped to birth a baby all on it's own, so trusting it to do just that will help you immensely. You will have such a beautiful birth, mama!
This lady is really good at explaining the different sides. She’s so warm and i don’t sense any judgement at all. Love it I had an epidural, my next time around I would not press the little remote button like crazy. I didn’t realize it will take awhile for me to feel it since I was hecka dumb when laboring 😂 But I loved my epidural experience. I would want to take less next time, but my baby latched and we’ve been breastfeeding for close to 3 years. I was the drowsy one, she was not drowsy AT ALL. obviously every baby is different.
Newly pregnant and have hoped for a natural/unmedicated labor since we started trying. This video helps me understand if I have to change my plan, it can be enjoyable and for the most part safe.
Thank you for this video. With my first, I didn't want to take the epidural, but ended up taking it for the safety of baby and I. I was in so much pain that I pretty much had no energy left.. In the end, I was so physically exhausted from going through the pain that I didn't even have enough energy to push. I'm pregnant again and due soon, so I've been binge watching your videos for new techniques that might be helpful, like the breathing one, this one, and more. I'm hoping for a less stressful labor this time around, and one where I'm not going to be so tired...
I have had 3 un medicated births and the pain of pushing/ rub out are so horrific. I’ve also always bleed a lot after babies. This time I’m so excited to be getting an epidural and also choosing better positions to be putting my body into. I feel like because I know what it feels like already to have had three babies previously this will be a perfect marriage of natural and epidural.
I found this video, as I wanted to see what people's experience was with the injection of the epidural! I have given birth both medicated and unmedicated! The first time I got the epidural it was great! But the 2 times after that, the placement hurt and the epidural barely worked! Now expecting my 5th child in September and I am torn, I want the epidural but scared of the pain and terrified of going natural as well 😩
I had an induced labor at 41 weeks of pregnancy and I was convinced epidural would help a lot, but I was wrong. With the increasing strengths of pitocin, I requested epidural to help with contractions that were getting stronger pretty fast. However the anesthesiologist had trouble placing my epidural catheter correctly, and we had to remove and try to place it correctly 3 separate times !!!! It was a constant staircase of pausing pitocin, getting epidural, increasing pitocin, pausing pitocin, replacing epidural😭 it was a REALLY painful experience from strong frequent contractions, epidural injections and labor discomforts of being immobile. I was in labor for 50 hours!!! Then pushed for 1.5 hours i don’t know how I did it but luckily I delivered a beautiful, healthy baby boy! Baby and I were out of there 2 days after .
I’ve had one delivery with an epidural and one without. For my first I was TERRIFIED of the epidural and made up my mind that I did not want one under any circumstances. I had to be induced, I got to a 5 and changed my mind on that REAL quick lol. Getting the epidural wasn’t bad, it was just sitting still through contractions that sucked. But I could not have taken the pain without the epidural. I was so not prepared. For my second, I was ready. I went completely natural, didn’t even have an IV placed. I pushed on my hands and knees and I actually enjoyed not being numb, I feel like it almost made it easier. It was definitely faster too. But all in all I loved both experiences!
i got an epidural and i don't regret it... i don't know how long i was in labor for, but it wasn't long.. got to the hospital at 6am and had my son by 6pm.. i was induced since i was already at 41 weeks and my son weighed in at 9.10 lbs. at birth...
One con you didn’t mention was the risk of post dural puncture headache. I had one about 2 weeks ago after having my baby and I swear it was worse than the whole labor process itself! The only comfortable position was laying down completely flat and it’s pretty difficult to be a new mom in that position! Also made breastfeeding pretty much impossible which is something that broke my heart 💔
KayJayVee my coworker said that happened to her! She was hospitalized for several days after delivery. They kept trying to give her another epidural to push it through her system. Really scared me
I had a spinal headache in college from a botched spinal tap and let me tell you, it was awful. I was so sick and couldn’t sit up without screaming for a week. My mother had to help me crawl to the bathroom or put a piss pot under me. It was so embarrassing.
Happened to me as well. It was really bad. I had to lay flat for 10 days in the hospital and take a bunch of painkillers. Also breastfeeding was not possible because of it. That said, the contractions were also so painfull that I don´t think I could have done it without the epidural...
Thank you for being so balanced about it. It’s so comforting. I’m firmly in the middle and seeing how it goes. I want to be mobile as long as possible which helps naturally progress labor.
I delievered my second daughter on 1/3/22. My epi failed due to my labor progressing too fast! Went from 3cm to 6cm in 40 mins and 6cm to 10cm and pushing only 15-20 mins later. 10-15mins of pushing and she was out! Super fast. I was induced too.
I just had a baby 5 days ago. I labored at home for only 3 hours and got to the hospital at 9cm’s dilated. This is my third baby but it was so painful when it came time to push they actually allowed me to get a epidural at 9.5cm’s dilated because I wasn’t progressing hardly at all. Turns out I had a huge baby, 9lbs 7oz and a brief moment of shoulder dystocia. I feel the epidural saved both me and baby a lot of trauma. Very glad I got it.
I also was able to walk not long after delivery. I was actually able to move quite a bit. I felt every contraction I had & even the ring of fire. Just less pressure than with it.
I'm due August 24th. I had a natural and epidural free birth for my first and am hoping to do the same this second time around. It's amazing how nervous I still am even though I've been through this whole process before. Thank you for your videos! They are very reassuring, I wish I would have found them sooner!
This is a surprisingly informative video. Some of these types of videos are done by (not judging) a woman who has given birth once or twice whereas Bridget sure seems like she has some solid education on the subject. Looking at her profile, it appears that she does..but I didn't need to look because I could hear the experience and education in her talk. PS I have no idea what to do but I have 20 weeks to decide....
Looooved my epidural. Got mine 7/8cm dilated and still felt my contractions and when it was time to push. Got to actually enjoy my labor instead of ripping my husbands sleeve off from my powerful contractions due to how fast i was progressing.
Epidural, contractions & labor itself was a breeze what almost made me pass out due to the PAIN was getting stitches after I ripped it was excruciating 😣 even thinking about it makes me cry all over again.
I really wanted an epidural but my labor progressed very fast so at the time I entered the hospital I was 8 cm dilated and to late for an epidural. My babyboy was born with a vacuüm pomp and I have to say that your body is capable to do amazing things and handle pain very well. But this is my personal experience.
All those cons happened to me! With my first I needed oxygen, couldn’t feel any contractions whatsoever, then had a fever from it so they took the baby away to the nursery almost immediately to administer medications. Then I had a terrible headache for weeks afterwards (which she doesn’t include in the list of cons). Second baby I received an epidural but it only numbed my legs- NOT the contractions! So I couldn’t move throughout the labor and could feel everything. Of course they had me maxed out on pitocin so I couldn’t catch my breath between contractions. Baby’s heart rate was affected so I had to sit in one particular position throughout the terribly painful labor. Then because either they’d tweaked a nerve during epidural or because of being in the same position for so long without feeling my legs, I had drop foot for 5 weeks after delivery and needed help carrying my baby because I couldn’t walk! I’m going with No2 for this third delivery.
Talked to my OB about these and a lot of the “risks” are really made to sound like they WILL happen, when in fact very few (in my OBs experience) have these issues. The nurses make sure you move every 30 minutes, you don’t have to labor on your back, you shouldn’t get the epidural too early so that you can make sure contractions don’t slow, etc. if your provider is educated your experience won’t necessarily be the negative things mentioned in this video.
This was not my experience with all three epis I had. I couldn't move, couldn't feel my legs for hours, had migraines, forced to labor on my back due to not being able to feel anything from my chest down even requesting a walking epi. No one made sure I moved, I was stuck and directly TOLD not to move. Fourth labor was unmedicated and hands down the best experience.
Another reason I hope to be able to hold off on Epidural is that it'll be a personal achievement for me. My mom says that I won't be able to handle it. Challenge accepted. Either way, the reasons for holding off on Epidural I listed earlier are the main reasons.
I had an epidural twice so far and they were great. no side effects for me or the babies. I’ll still try for the natural births but im not scared of epidurals at all.
A rise in temperature due to an epidural and a rise in temp from an infection is very different. Temps don't spike high from and epidural, and natural labor can cause temps to rise as well. An infection usually is accompanied by maternal and fetal tachycardia (increased heart rate) and much higher temperatures- only then do we give antibiotics.
I had an epidural birth then a natural birth. Hands down, the natural birth was better. It required more work during pregnancy - physical training, education, etc. - and of course, I had an hour or two of a lot of pain, but it was instantly positive when baby came. With my epidural baby, I didn’t think about birth at all until it was happening. I got the epidural, then an episiotomy, then had major issues with nursing for months. My recovery was 100X more painful with the epidural; my natural birth was a breeze to recover from!! I wish I’d known any of this the first time around.
When I was pregnant with my first and decided to have a natural birth I got soooo many opinions from mamas who did it the medicated route. Every birth is different every mama and every baby is different, what works for one doesn’t work for the other. It felt as though other women wanted to convince me to have an epidural because if I went through with a natural birth it somehow made them feel less than, and if they couldn’t do it then neither can you, like it’s some kind of competition, which it most definitely is not. There is nothing wrong with having an epidural if that’s what you want, there is nothing wrong with an natural birth if that’s what you want. In my opinion the most judgmental mamas are the ones who have had a medicated birth , it seems as though mama’s who have had a natural birth are not “allowed” to share their birth story in the same way as other mamas which is sad. All mama’s are strong warriors regardless of how your baby came to be in your arms.
@@Rubyslippers1234 right?! I hear that phrase soooo often 🙄 "natural" birth. Mmhhmmm but mom's who had a medicated birth are the ones making people feel bad about their birth stories 🙄 I've never ever gave an unmedicated mom a hard time. All I've ever heard anyone say about that is "wow you're so strong" "I could never, it hurt so much" "you must be so tough!" And all this praise 🙄 on the flip side I've had mom's who went without the epidural literally give me a hard time for not trying harder or longer or for not using the right combo of "natural" homeopathic methods or meditation or whatever other thing. Fact of the matter is if it produces a healthy, happy baby then why's it matter?
@@Carlie_flower You obviously need to go back and reread what she stated. She said that the "medicated" mothers would feel like since they couldn't handle the pain, then she couldn't either.
I agree! I’m expecting baby #8 for December an i give unmedicated birth with my first 3 kids. But with this baby I’m not sure all depends on how long I’m in labor I understand women’s who are in labor for 24 hrs poor mama’s they are so tired every one is different every birth is different so we should decide what’s best for us.
Bridget, thank you for your wonderful videos and for the work that you do for women. I can attest to the cons of epidural that you mentioned. Epidural almost killed me and my baby. Every woman is different, but I asked for a lower dosage of epidural as my body is sensitive to medication side effects at times. I also have low-blood pressure (medically healthy, just on the lower end of a healthy range), but I didn’t know that epidural makes it lower. But the best hospital in NYC said they could not do so. Shortly after, my blood pressure and heart dropped so low as well as baby’s that we flatlined (no exaggeration). They had the whole L&D staff rush to my room to revive us (I was not conscious - my husband told me). My second birth was unmedicated, and the most insane pain in my life. But it was a much better birth experience. So, unless it’s medically required (c-section), I would never get or recommend an epidural.
I appreciate you being so positive about epidurals! I had an epidural and then had such a beautiful and positive birth because of it! I was joking and laughing while pushing and was only pushing for 30 mins! I would not have had that birth any other way! Although I totally commend women strong enough to do all natural births but I know myself and know I wouldn’t have made it or been able to enjoy my experience without an epidural.
I got an epidural with my first child and after 24 hours of consistent contractions, I welcomed it. It definitely helped me relax and I could still tell when I was having a contraction but it didn’t hurt. I do believe that it blocked oxytocin because i didn’t get that euphoric rush of love hormones after baby was born. My least favorite part of the epidural was the catheter they put on me since you can’t control your bladder while having an epidural. The catheter was SO uncomfortable. For some reason I could feel that.l and I hated it.
Well, not necessarily. It can slow down the birth process, requiring sometimes the use of pitocin which is synthetic oxytocin, but it's natural not to have that lovey dovey experience the moment your baby is born. I've had many friends with unmedicated births who felt the same. It's much more common than we realize because people don't want to talk about it. I did have that beautiful instant love feeling and I had an epidural. Lots of people do. But there's lots of people who don't have that instant connection too.
@@sarahflynn9395 Agreed. It took me awhile to fall in love with both my babies and they were both unmedicated births. The pain didn't instantly vanish after birth, either, and I didn't forget it 🤣 Now pregnant with no. 3 and I'll be taking the epidural this time. I just have zero interest in enduring the cataclysmic pain again.
I did not want an epidural for my birth, I arrived at the hospital at 9cm and so thought there is no need to get one I can do this. I kept getting this strong strong sense I should get one and I kept ignoring because it wasn't in my plan. In the end, I told my partner and he said to go with your gut you haven't mentioned it this whole time so there must be a reason. I got one and then I ended up needing an emergency c section (not because of epidural but babies positioning which they didn't realize) and I was rushed to the emergency room. If I had not had the epidural I would have been asleep for babies' birth. So although it wasn't the plan I am glad I was able to be awake to see my bubba come into this world.
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So many people try to discourage you to not have a natural birth... I feel a lot of those people think that if they couldnt do it, you cant. But you can. 3 kids later, nobody was telling me anymore that I couldnt do it. But now its back again. Im expecting twins and they are all back, telling me I cant do it 🙄🙄 so annoying.
Wow, twins!!! Congrats! I had a natural, unmedicated labor a few years ago, and it was a positive experience for me. I'm expecting my second soon, and I have no doubt that I can do it without medication.
I admire all those women that go without epidural. I’ve tried twice and I was screaming for help and an epidural when the pains got stronger... for my two pregnancies. Classes didn’t help breathing didn’t help, tub with water didn’t help it was way to painful to bear.
I love my epidural experience, I felt contractions but it was more like a pressure not pain . I slept good for awhile and I had my baby in 3 pushes :))) it was so worth it and I only have a positive experience .
Me too!! I am so happy I took an epidural.
Yes I'm also .. bt I'm scary side effects prblm...
I had a goof experience also with my first.
I had the same experience! Loved it!
Did any of you guys suffer any long term effects? My mother in law tells me not to get it because of the long term effects it may have so now I am unsure
My sister-in-law tried to pressure me into getting an epidural and it was so maddening. Even when I explained I want to try to have a natural birth, if I FEEL I need an epidural I’ll get one but there’s no reason to get one just because because there are risks. To which she replies “just get one! Just get one. They are fine” and gives me this look that says “okay whatever your gonna get one cause your not going to be able to handle the pain. You think you will but you can’t cause I couldn’t”
Women need to also respect others decisions, not pressure each other or make them feel bad about the decisions they make in the birthing process. It’s already scary as it is!
Yes!! Whatever decision a woman makes, it should be completely respected!
Clover Clo I decided to have a natural labor and birth as well and although it was painful and at the worst point I felt I needed an epidural, my mentality beat my want for one. Having the right mind set makes all the difference! It truly does! Did you end up needing an epidural?
Clover Clo Some Women Dont Understand That We Don’t Need Those Drugs Our Bodies Are Made For This
@@BridgetTeyler hey Bridget
I am due in 2 weeks for a VBAC and I just want to know is it better to get epidural? I got one with my last 2 deliveries but do you think it's better to have one with VBAC?
Please let me know
@@HY-wr6mm .i think getting epidural with my firts baby slowed the process and had to get a c section. I had a vback, two years ago without the epidural. It was much faster and recovery was good , i was walking the next day like nothing. Im due any day now with my second vback and im planing on doing it without the epidural. Even tho it is painful , i still recommend no epidural.
Had an epidural - it was the perfect choice for me. I was so comfortable and laboured for 25 hours, could still tell when contractions came and had good awareness of pressure to push. Would recommend to any women if they wanted a comfortable experience!
does its hurt epidural ? i am du in less than 3 months :)
@@sandralaurella2390 Hey Sandra! It depends on the person. For some people epidurals are totally fine and for others they aren't. I gave birth naturally and vaginally. My labor was 11 hours long total but the "worst" part which is transition, was about four hours long. I pushed for only a couple minutes! What I did was stay in the shower the entire time because that's how I've always managed pain and focused on my breaths. Everyone said I was calm for most of the time and they almost forgot I was giving birth lol I would highly recommend a doula as well, I had three women there to support me and it helped a lot. I'm a birth doula myself, if you want I could work with you or find you someone locally if you haven't already.
Courteney Taylor I had the same experience with epidural 11 hrs and at the end epidural wore off and basically felt everything like a natural birth which was crazy. Everyone and every birth is different for sure.
@@Jassytheleoo was it very painful
@@infotech5162 Actually no it was not I didn’t get cut open or anything I was moving very good after and no epidural pain after.
I gave birth to my 1st baby last august 15. I asked for the epidural at 8cm dilation. It went super well. Ive really enjoyed it. I could feel every contraction without the pain... with my husband we talked and laughed... i was very relaxed. I pushed for 14 minutes! It was hard when the head came out even with the epidural... i could not imagine not having it in that moment. I loved giving birth... it was the best experience of my life... i wanted it to be a serene, relaxed and happy moment and it truly was.
such a lovely story 😊 thanks for sharing!
None of these cons happened to me.
As soon as I got it, I went from 4cm to 9cm and started pushing. No fever, no headache, no pain from contractions nor stitching. I could feel crowning and contractions, but no pain. I literally was walking within 2 hours, my legs never were paralyzed. And I was not confined to my back or my bed during labour. Nurses encouraged to go on all 4’s, during labour to push.
EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT! Had I done research prior to my labour, I would have been anxiously anticipating all these cons to happen to me, but instead I went in without any expectation and it helped me so much.
Now, that I’ve given birth, I watch labour videos for fun and to learn more about what I went through. But sometimes by researching you set yourself up for disappointment when it doesn’t happen the way the video said it would!
Do you remember what you did in order to not tear?
Same here , the epidural was a blessing. With nothing but positive effects !
Wow good point. Thanks for sharing
Epidural wasn’t bad at all. I just had my baby last week. I was in labor for over 24 hours and I got mine at 2cm. I couldn’t take the pain from the contractions anymore. My baby came at 30 weeks last week. The delivery was a breeze and I only push once. Waters broke at 23 weeks so I was hospitalized until she came. She is in NICU doing well.
I had an epidural with my first child, which ended up
Being a blessing because I had a retained placenta and the OR was full. I’m so happy I had chosen …after laboring and exhausting myself unmedicated 16 hours , to finally get relief and have the rest of the labor be calm and beautiful. If you’re in the moment and need the help, thank GOD there is an option for us to even have one !
Doula here: I totally agree here. There is a difference between pain and suffering, and I NEVER want my clients to suffer, however cascade of intervention is REAL. PLEASE listen to this video. Tearing is more likely, but these can be stitched without future issue. I support my clients in WHATEVER they choose, but it’s important to know the PROS AND CONS. You women need to know that you are infinitely powerful and unstoppable. I believe in each and every one of you.
27 weeks today. As a first-time mom, I am terrified of what I am about to encounter. Thanks for being informative and supportive for people to make their choices in all your videos.
Hi Celine!
I'm a mom of 5 (5th currently gestating, I'm 16 weeks). I've had 3 medicated labors and 1 unmedicated labor.
This baby will not only be unmedicated but a home birth, God willing.
It's scary, and you'll feel scared no matter what anyone says. But with that said, you can do this.
I STRONGLY suggest you take a Bradley birthing class or a hypnobirth class. Knowledge is power and knowing and understanding what's going on GREATLY reduces the fear which in turn reduces the pain because you aren't stressed. Find some yoga type music you like, spend some time each day just listening to it with your eyes closed focusing entirely on your breathing, in for 4, out for 6. That REALLY helped me. Check out various laboring positions, I favored being on my hands and knees.
If you go unmedicated, yep, it'll hurt. But it's a different kind of hurt, and if you embrace it instead of fighting it, it genuinely is more pressure than pain. Transition can be tough, ring of fire can be tough, but it's not unbearable, at least it wasn't for me. I've never felt so empowered and proud of myself. I've never felt so strong as I did during and after labor. And my recovery was very fast. I felt no pain afterwards, even immediately.
With my epis, mine were all too strong. I couldn't move my legs. Had very traumatic labors because I am one of those people that NEEDS to be in control of my body or I panic. Not everyone is like that, but I had bad experiences with the epis. With my first three ended up with no choice due to pre eclampsia, can't move bc of blood pressure, mag for the BP, which makes you feel like crap, and I gave in pretty quick. But again, not everyone experiences that!
However you labor, you've got this. I won't ever lie to a new mom and tell her it isn't scary at first, that it doesn't hurt, but I WILL tell you it's not like the movies, it's not horrific screaming the whole time, not if you go in prepared. Take those classes, do some googling, and you'll feel more comfortable with the whole process 😊
I am a L&D nurse and I never have my epidural patients push on their back only. There are plenty of options for pushing w an epidural. Ex: Side-lying, squatting with squat bar, tug of war pushing, pelvic rocking, and more.
Ok I thought with epidural u have to be ok your back? This is such good news! I am getting induced in 7 weeks I hope I go before that though! I would prefer to be on all fours for pushing I just thought I would be paralyzed from the waist down and they wouldn't let me.
How?? Legs are numb!
It’s actually not that difficult, especially when myself and another support person can help. The legs are not “numb” or paralyzed, they are just slightly desensitized and weakened.
It is awesome that you enable mamas to labor this way! Even though I was assured I'd get to labor however I wanted with an epidural, in the end I was still forced to push on my back.
@@joydoorlag1351 I was fully paralyzed waist down. Even after stopping epidural hours later. I gained movement next day
I've had two births. My first was medicated with an epidural and my second was unmedicated. Yes, I was in the worst pain of my life but I'm so proud of my strength and dedication to have a natural birth and see it through. My second birth was honestly a better experience than my first, because after my second, beautiful baby girl was born, I was able to get up and move around as I pleased and use the bathroom by myself, without a catheter. When my first, beautiful baby girl was born, I had to wait hours after her arrival for my epidural to wear off before I could even move my legs. They felt extremely numb and heavy. I hated that feeling. Something to remember ladies is as soon as your sweet baby is born, the pain is gone and you feel like yourself again, only happier and with a fuller heart🥰 With that being said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with getting the epidural. It works wonders for us mamas and we have modern medicine at our disposal for a reason. Do what you feel is best for you and your labor and delivery. I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with my third baby, my first baby boy💙 I plan on having another natural, unmedicated birth, because I feel it's what's best for me, my birthing/postpartum experience, and my baby.
Thank you so much for this I am currently 27 weeks pregnant and have 2 other kids as well and an pregnant now with my third so I had questions but I really wanted them to be answered or get a response from someone who has experienced both a medicated versus an unmedicated birth. Thank you so much🙏 .
@@litfamcrewgodschild2782 You're so welcome! ♥️ Congratulations on baby #3! Wishing you a safe and easy labor and delivery🙏
"Yes, I was in the worst pain of my life but I'm so proud of my strength and dedication to have a natural birth and see it through". the TRUTH. glad you don't let any insecure women try to tell you you don't deserve the full respect for just doing the damn thing. you do, and you saved yourself and your child the risks. i do that too. husband catches at home.. about to do it again. wooo! anyway, well done!
@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 Thank you!
See no one ever clarify that like I didn't know the pain would go away after
I still felt all my contractions with an epidural just didnt have any pain with it. So i felt when i needed push.
Porklyn that’s what it supposed to do?
Yes but in the video she was saying that your not supposed to feel anything at all. And for some they cant feel anything at all. Thats why doctors tell you when to push. Or like my recent birth a couple months ago it doesnt work at all.
Do u feel pain when they cut the vaginal and stitch it back?
I didnt feel a thing. Totally paralysed ! Had no sensation of needing to push or even contractions (this is after 40 hours of active labour so i didn't mind)
Iraka Corleone now they try not to cut they would rather you naturally tear but no with a working epidural you cannot feel it
Oh my god. You covered all the bad side effects I got with the epidural with my 2 babies. I feel like the epidural made everything worse and my deliveries were both very traumatic ☹️. Now I’m 30 weeks pregnant and I’m really really considering not getting an epidural this time because I don’t think my body reacts good with it. Pray for me
I had the exact same situation. Labor I felt trapped in bed and I had to be given pitocin and antibiotics because of the epidural. I would love to hear how your 3rd delivery went! I could use the encouragement ♥️
Did you go along with a natural birth?
@@PaulsMom93 so I almost did, I powered through most of it but I’ve had GD with my last pregnancies and they told me that if my baby got stuck they’d have to put me to sleep and my husband wasn’t going to be there. So I ended up getting it but as soon as they put it my contractions started to fade so they had to stop it. 😪. I think I only had it for not even an hour. After they turned it off I was ready to start pushing. And I felt everything!! I felt the so called ring of fire lol. I wish I didn’t have the GD otherwise I feel like I could’ve powered through it. Even tho my nurses were nice I still felt slightly pressured and scared after what they said. My second baby got stuck and my husband said that the doctor was pulling so hard it looked like he was gonna rip my baby’s head off. So I was scared something like that was going to happen. The epidural was on me but on stand by if that makes sense. I have mixed feelings about it now. Like I’m glad I was able to feel the pain but also my delivery was kinda short about 8 hours total. So if I wasn’t at risk of my baby getting stuck I feel like I could’ve done it. With my past 2 babies I didn’t feel when they came out.
@@Partyontheceiling I’m super laye sorry! See my response to the other comment. I hope your delivery went well!
@kmorm.7666 what did having GD have to do with anything? Serious question not sarcasm
I had the epidural 10days ago and I am so happy I made the decision 🙏🏽 the delivery went smooth and almost heavenly. I could feel the final contractions but it was doable.. would do it all over again 🥳 overal a VERY positive experience with the epidural
Yeah I’ve had two epidurals and this video helped me understand some of the things that happened to me (I did get fevers, I was bed bound, I was given pitocin to keep labor moving and it slowed my labor a bit). I disagree that you’re so numb you can’t feel the contractions I felt extreme urge to push both times and my body was rocking from the pressure I felt all the pressure and pushed very effectively both times (second time was twins and I got both out in 11 minutes). None of my babies had any issues with latching or respiratory issues. This is my fourth and I’m planning to do unmedicated. But epidurals aren’t anything to be afraid of based on my experience.
you got lucky, lots goes wrong with many women. so it makes sense to be afraid of stuff that can hurt you. we dont want to invalidate those who see that.
@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 yeah true! I can only speak to my lived experiences but totally understand why some women would feel differently based on theirs
@@MommyBee1589 anyone can speak for the data resulting from research studies. if all we ever knew was was happened to us individually, we'd know nothing about the *scope* of the risks. if you were not READ THE RISKS as shown by the relevant data sets before any procedure, then those physicians are begging for a lawsuit from multiple customers.
it's not about feeling. it's about facts. all the lying physicians do doesn't help. :)
@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 you’re clearly triggered and looking for an argument. Sorry for whatever happened to you. Be blessed!
@@MommyBee1589 wow, you're angry and projecting that onto others. it's all going to be ok, hun. the science is the science, and the sooner we do that logic and make good decisions, the less damage will be done to mothers and babies! much love !
Here to remind women not to be afraid of the epidural. 🧡 If it is the right choice for you and your birth experience then be confident in making that decision. I had an epidural and wasn't planning on having one. Because I have an extra lumbar vertebrae, I knew it was going to be a possibility. Based on the back pain I experienced in labor because of my extra vertebrae the epidural was worth it! I could still feel my contractions, didn't need any other medications during labor, my total labor from beginning to end was 14 hours. Baby latched perfectly and am still breastfeeding without trouble. Do what is best for you and your baby. 🧡 Being able to have my baby without pain gave me the ability to experience only joy from labor. Can't wait to have my next!
Thank you for this!
I asked for epidural after receiving pitocin I was worried it will be difficult to push because of that, I stopped feeling the labor pain and was able to sleep and when I was 9cm I felt everything again but not as bad and was able to push my baby properly he came out in less than 30 minutes. Felt so blessed went through labor in less than 10hours; first baby.
So many women pressure me to get an epidural! I agree with the pain vs suffering concept- sure there will be pain, this is a natural function of the women’s body and there is pain and discomfort. If I end up suffering mentally and emotionally and can’t push thru, I will probably get an epidural. But I am going in mentally prepared as much as I can with coping mechanisms, support from my husband, and prayer/meditation. For me the cons outweigh the pros!
Yes! That is such a powerful way to approach birth! When are you due?
Bridget Teyler October 20 💖
Once you got to pushing,the horror is already over.. stage 2 is the most painful..
I had an epidural 43 years ago for my daughter. Fantastic. My grandma and mum would have given anything not to have suffered. A lot of bodily functions are natural but don't hurt. Why does childbirth hurt so much? Because the baby's head is too big in proportion to the cervix. Evolution wasn't too clever! When things concern women, it's always painful. Thanks god.
Claude Santolini the Bible explains exactly why we experience the pain of childbirth! ❤️
I love how you empower women to enjoy their births and be educated on what options they have!! I’m 39 weeks tomorrow, anticipating an unmedicated labor and delivery, but thankful that you are a resource for education in case I change my mind (even during labor) 😊
Exactly, it's YOUR choice! You'll have a beautiful birth, Mama, when you're the one calling the shots!
@melody hallelujah why are you commenting on a video that specifically says mamas CHOOSE how they want their births to go. Why are you even bothering?
Another thing you forgot to mention in terms of the administration of an epidural is that the needle isnt left in your spine. After the catheter goes in the needle comes out. I feel like many people think the needle stays in your back the whole time.
@melody hallelujah why go to a hospital in the first place if planning not to listen to the doctors at all?
@@anilugabriel I'm thinking this is a bot and not a real person because the message is the same in replying to other people.
I didnt know that! I imagined the needle stayed in. This does make me feel a bit better.
I definitely thought it was so
@@siriehtstudio Nope doesn't stay in, I was happy with an epidural but I was in labor (active labor) for like a day and it was relief for me. I didn't eat or sleep, so I needed rest. Still felt contractions, but it was more like pressure and my body still knew when to push. Pushed baby out in 24 min. I am happy with my choice, but I did get most opinions from mamas who did it unmedicated (vaginally). Do what's best for you, and the rest is between you, significant other and your doctor or midwife. :)
Keep in mind not all cons apply to everyone. I’ve had three births with epidural and I’ve always progressed faster after I got it than before because I was able to relax. I get terrible sciatic pain with every contraction for some reason with every child I’ve had no matter what. My babies have never had issues after birth either because of an epidural. So bottom line do what you can deal with. Nothing is guaranteed.
Same here! I wasn’t progressing until I had my epidural. If mama is stressed, I think that makes it worse and your body can’t open up and cooperate with the process. I was thankful I was rested for when I needed to push and be able to enjoy baby afterward. I’ve also never torn with 3 epidural births and I think it’s because it may have slowed things down enough for my body to adapt to the baby
Epidural was the best thing for my labor! I was awake, aware, able to push, no pain!
Had 4 kids no epidural all natural seriously hard pain and yes but honestly when the baby is out all pain was completely gone 💯%im delivering soon I'm due march 17 with baby #5 so let's do this once more 12 years later 😂❤🙏🏻
gigi Brambila ❤️❤️❤️❤️
So how did your delivery went
Proud of you
congratulations
How did u get through it
The epidural is not bad. It is INSTANT relief once the medication starts going. It did not slow my labor, and I was able to start it at 4cm, had my daughter later that afternoon. Just follow instructions and keep yourself still while they put it in. Yes i got a headache a couple days later, and i went back to the hospital because i was a preeclampsia risk, but it was no different than getting a migraine. If non medicated birth is your thing, more power to you, but never feel you have some duty to endure pain.
@melody hallelujah what is wrong with you?
It’s drugs, that’s what’s wrong with it
I was glad I got an epidural, the lower back pains coming every 60 s were unbearable for me anymore. It was instant relief and I regain strength for the final part of the labour. I would be probably too exhausted to push at that point.
@@lilacforest I don’t take drugs. Also, pain from birth has nothing to do with having a “low pain tolerance” brainwashed much? 🥴
I made the choice to get an epidural and It was THE best decision I made. I felt no pain after it was administered to me. The worst part of my whole labor and delivery experience was the actual inserting of the epidural. Even then, it wasn’t as bad as I initially anticipated.
What did it feel like ?
I just gave birth April 7th and had a planned home birth that ended in complications that forced me to go to a hospital and to have an epidural in order to safely bring my baby into the world. As much as I didn't want one initially, I'm glad the option was avaliable because I physically could not have birthed safely without mine.
I appreciate your approach to simply educating and helping women make an educated decision. So many sources favor one over the other and don't even mention the benefits of the other or the cons of the one they support. It's so nice to hear all the possibilities and feel okay choosing the one that's best for you and your situation. Thank you!
I'm 8 months pregnant and I LOVE your videos. They've been a huge help in getting myself mentally prepared for an unmedicated birth.
Hey, How was your experience?
Thank you for this video. Thanks to your explanation I realized why I had such a traumatic birth experience with my first child. Most of what I hated was due to the epidural. It slowed down the whole process where I ended up stuck in bed. I experienced all the cons of a epidural. I'm pregnant again and thanks to this video I can educate myself on how to deal with the pain naturally.
I went into labor with the opinion that I would never have an epidural...after a week of prodromal labor and a high water break, getting an epidural was the one thing that allowed me to still have a vaginal delivery, period. It was not what I had envisioned for my birth experience, but my it provided my body the break it desperately needed, and my son was still healthy and alert when he arrived.
Thank you for this video Bridget, extremely informational but love how it has ZERO judgment either way. We need more of this, I can always sense when someone’s campaigning for one thing over another and it makes me feel very on edge and suspicious of the objectivity of everything they say!
I planned to go unmedicated for my first child, but after 24 hours in labor with no sleep and being unable to keep food down, I was exhausted. I ended up getting an epidural. I will say, it was an odd feeling to have my legs be immobile. However, I was too exhausted to push and needed rest, so the epidural proved to be helpful to me. I love how you balance modern medicine and natural birth! I’m still aiming for a natural, unmedicated birth for our second child, but was grateful to have such a wonderful care team who supported my decision, whether it was for an unmedicated birth or for epidural.
Her: “hey mama”
Me, a 19 year old college student who is NOT pregnant: “hey girl”
IM 16 AND WATCHING SO MANY EPIDURAL VIDS 😭 i don’t even wants kids in the future either
@@Huh-kn2by i’ve been on a birth vlog/pregnancy kick i have such bad baby fever 😭
@@xorayne_ same girl 😂
dead asf cause sameee
LMFAOOOO SAME
Giving birth in 6 months and your videos helping me mentally prepare. I'm terrified of unmedicated birth but I want to try so badly and your videos are helping. I am keeping my options and birth plan open
It makes sense now with my first why everything happened the way it did with my epidural. The pros and cons are so very true!! If you haven’t already please do one like this for natural birth!!! I’m almost 38 weeks and I really want to do it natural but the nerves are always there. I’m trying not to be nervous lol. I don’t want the cons to happen again with the epidural!!
Also when you have an epidural your pain may go away but the baby will have more pain, because you will not producing serotonin(pain killers) for them...
No surprise some don't wanna latch or will be drowsy.
Very well explained it all
I had my baby April 1st and wanted so bad to do natural and I made it to 6cm before I decided the pain was worse than the risks of the epidural. It made my labor SO much more relaxing and memorable. I actually didn't end up having any of the bad side effects, which I'm so grateful for. Id do it again in a heartbeat. OH and the needle going in hurt wayyy less than the contractions I was having!
My daughter was born April 1 three years ago. I had an unmedicated water birth. The water really helped! If you have another, you might consider laboring in water for as long as you can. My second is due in August, and I'm hoping everything goes the same if not better.
Pale Compass oh wow! I’m definitely open to water birth
@@vivalalyssaa I came into the birthing center literally clawing the walls. As soon as I got into the water, it was over.
It also helps avoid/minimize tearing.
Pale Compass that’s amazing! Yeah if I could avoid tearing next time that would be great
I kind of felt like a failure having an epidural, did anyone else? Im from the UK and they are not very common, natural births are more common. But after a long induction and an intense but slow labour I was exhausted. It turned out to be the best decision, I had so much sleep and was well rested when I gave birth. The pushing was beautiful and I managed to look down and see her being born, not the intense pain that can happen when in a natural birth. I don't regret it xx
This mentality is not okay!! Getting an epidural is a smart choice and it helps bring millions of healthy babies into the world. Please never associate such negative words to the experience of becoming a mother.
Definitely getting an epidural. For me the benefits are more than the risk
It's important that you weigh your options and make the decision that best suits your and your baby's safety and happiness... Every mama is different!
Marge Rangel absolutely. I know myself and if I start panicking from the pain (FTM due in March) I am not going to be able to relax and focus on getting the baby into the world. I’m scared enough as it is 😅
Yeah me too. I know that I’ll be shunned by the natural mamas but I feel most comfortable with this decision.
xHeartHeartbreakx it is our body sooooo we don’t care what they think 😂
The benefits are more than the risk? What about those who have been injured by an epidural like myself? Completely ignorant to say, not to mention the women who also become paraplegic following epidurals because of genetic mutations etc. educate yaself, must vaccinate too. 🐑
I had a 20 hour labor. Tried to go all natural but I was in so much pain and so fatigued and exhausted at the end I could not take the contractions anymore.
I ended up transferring from my birth center to the hospital to get the epidural, I was just suffering at this point. Had the epidural and it granted me SO much relief. My baby came out no less than 10 minutes after it was administered and I felt no pain anymore, just pressure and I was able to push him out easily.
I don’t regret the decision to opt for the epidural but a part of me is almost like ashamed and disappointed I wasn’t able to have the natural unmedicated birth and out of hospital birth experience I wanted.
The epidural is a tool and you used it to have an amazing birth!
I had the same experience as you! and i feel the shame in admitting I had an epidural as well! But i keep telling myself that it’s still natural and we did 20 hour labour all without medication and that is a badge of honour! Epidural just assisted us, but we still pushed the baby out.
The epidural was a miracle
though I had told the nurses a couple of hours before that it was wearing off on my right side and they had to do another one while my contractions were so incredibly close. It was so hard to stay still but I’m grateful they were able to perform a second one. The birth went smoothly and with a 1st degree tear only!! I will definitely be getting epidurals in future pregnancies lol
No shame in getting an epidural, ladies. It’s still a natural birth whether you have one or not😊. If you can enjoy your birth experience more with one, go for it!
At the same token, if you want to do unmedicated, that’s great!
However you feel most comfortable and whatever will make you enjoy this ultimately special day is best for you!:)
@melody hallelujah you need to chill
@melody hallelujah geez Louise lady, you do you. Don’t try to force your opinions on every pregnant woman.
@melody hallelujah stop copying and pasting this bad advice everywhere. its not 500 AD. let women do what they want
That's not natural you moron and takes away from the women who ACTUALLY do the hard work...
Haha, my mom had my brother and I both completely naturally....to which my brother nearly killed her from the stress of pain and how quickly he came out. She was so worried for me to go through that, she called me in the middle of the night when I was at work to tell me "If you need that epidural.... you get one! The is no shame. You don't have to prove anything to anyone!" Haha.
Needless to say, I reassured her I would be getting one. 2 more weeks and baby will be here!
You can do it ladies. I’ve had all my daughters (3) unmedicated natural birth. The most painful part is when you hit 7-10 cm in dilation BUT I went from 7-10 within 10mins and had my daughters within the third contraction once I hit 10cm. Our bodies are meant to do this and to tolerate pain. All three labors started and ended in less than 3 hours and by that I mean from the first contraction to the baby being born. Lots of sex tho and I mean lots of it! Makes labor go by faster.
@Bella Duh When it comes to child birth pain, yes, any woman can do it providing she educate herself about the process of a natural birth and is surrounding herself with knowledgable partners like a doula or midwives...
Your body was made, it was designed to give birth!... For most women it is a long and painful process but you can do it!...
I saddens and infuriates me so much to see how today, women are so scared and were made to believe they can't do it!...
No your stomach is not going to split open, no your vagina is not going to tear beyond repair, no you're not going to die!...
Women have to take back control over their body and learn again to trust their instincts!...
All the women I know that have experienced giving birth in an hospital, over medicated, on their backs ended up having an episiotomy or a c-section, some even still have sequel years after…
The women I know that experienced natural birth after medicated birth all told me it was painful, yes, but it was way better than a medicated birth… All of them chose to give birth at home, with midwifes and a doula and the told me they felt a lot more safe and calm because the midwives and the doula was there with them all the way, never living their sight...
@@egagnon9994 this is anecdotal evidence though. And no, not every womans body is made to give birth. Its just not true. Many many women have pelvises that arent wide enough to allow a baby through, some people (like me) have uterine abnormalities that make it so that baby has to be born via c-section, complications that arent anyones fault can result in an emergency c section and there was no option for a vaginal delivery.
I agree that natural birth is a fantastic option for many women and we should be trying to take thr fear out of child birth, but please stop trying to shame women into feeling like they have to have a natural birth and please dont spread the lie that "every single woman" was made to give birth so every woman should do it naturally. Its just not true. Many of us do not even have the option to give birth naturally BECAUSE our bodies are very much not made to give birth. Please just be aware of what you are saying and how this sounds to women who in fact do have to fear for their lives and their babies lives during childbirth and who do not have the option to give birth naturally.
Also plenty of women have thoroughly enjoyed having an epidural birth after having a nonmedicated birth because of the relief the epidural offers. Any woman should be able to choose how she delivers and not be pressured one way or the other. Some of us like to experience the birth of our children with no pain at all and just focus on our excitement and nothing is wrong with that :)
Yes, we can do it, but educating yourself and having a support team aren't always going to get you through it alone. I wanted a natural childbirth but I left my options open for medication if I felt I needed it. I did end up needing it. I labored naturally for 11 hours and found I just wasn't coping with the pain well enough. I moved around when I could, I breathed, I meditated, I listened to music, my partner was a big support (giving me sips of water, snacks, and constantly rubbing my back and encouraging me), I spent time in the shower- but all this wasn't helping much by the time I decided to get an epidural. I was exhausted, my contractions were 2 minutes long, and I was only 5cm dilated, so I chose pain relief. I managed to get 4 hours sleep, then started to push three hours later, my delivery took 2.5 hours. I didn't tear and even though I couldn't feel the work I was doing, I was pushing well and focused on birthing my baby. I tried natural labor, and even though I didn't get what I intended I am glad I listened to my body when it needed pain relief. Ladies, there is no shame in medicated birth, just because there weren't epidurals available in the stone age doesn't mean we shouldn't take advantage just because our bodies were made for it.
Wow! Such inspiration 😍 but how was ur first delivery ? Cz subsequently delievry becomes easier
Fahmida Mazumder I had my first baby within 3 hours from when my contractions started to when I had her in my arms. Second baby I had her within 2 1/2 hours so fast the doctor wasn’t able to make it and I had her on my own, no nurses helping. I pushed her out and slid out into the hospital bed. My third I actually felt like it took longer. The difference between the first two and my third (it’s tmi) is that with my first two I was sexually active literally 4 before I delivered them.
37 weeks, first pregnancy - most of the women I know did not get the epidural, some did (and as you mentioned it worked only on the half of the body on one of my friends, she said it was the most bizzare experience!) And I decided I will remain open to options and see how it goes. I love that my husband and family fully support my decision whatever it may be and they don't care what other women do as long as I feel ok during delivery. Tip: Not sure how it works in US but in my country it's worth mentioning rightaway that you consider taking epidural once you enter the hospital, so they take your blood sample for testing at the very beginning of the process.
I just had my first born yesterday and by the time I arrived I was already 8cm. I highly recommend get it. It put less stress on the baby.
Was the pain unbearable at 8 cm when you got there?
This is so informative and empowering. I'm around halfway through my pregnancy with my first and almost everywhere I look (without digging into specifically informational videos made by professionals) keep touting the benefits of epidural and addressing none of the risks, which makes me, who want an unmedicated birth if possible, feel like my insistence is unjustified. I'm so glad to have come across your content! Thank you for your work!
I like this video, thank you for not judging one side or another. There is so much love in it, when we just accept that what is good for us might not be for everyone. I think I am siding more with natural birth. I don't have children yet but we want to start planning soon, and I will be educating myself more on this.
I took the epidural two weeks ago and I LOOOVEEDD my experience with no pain! I’m a first time mom!! And was so scared of the needle 💉 in my back or something going wrong but thank God my anesthesiologist was amazing. Contractions felt worst the epidural. I’ll say epidural pain was 2-3 out of 10 for me. Best decision I’ve made🩷 after that, my pain was GONE. I had a beautiful experience and I really enjoyed my birth.
Epidural stalled my labor with two pregnancies and I hated being confined to the bed unable to move for hours on end. Ill be going 100% natural this time!
I had a spinal when I had to have a cerclage placed. I was scared, but after having one for that procedure I've never been so sure that I want one for labor. I was grateful for the experience because it makes me feel more prepared for my birth process.
Did no epidural with my first because I chose to do a home birth. Will be doing it again, but now I know a little more about why I definitely want to stick with my plan.
I had an epidural for my first (constant back labour with no pain relief offered, water broke at home before I had any contractions so we went from 0-100) and I really hope I don’t have to for my second due in under a month. All the cons happened to me and sure I didn’t feel pain, but my delivery nurse was the worst and didn’t tell me anything/had zero bedside manner so my labour and pushing took foreverrrr. Best of luck to all mamas and their births ❤️
it’s all relative, if I learned anything throughout my first experience and all the videos I have since watched on epidural, it’s that it is the best to keep your options open (if you planning on giving birth in hospital) and see how things go. I went through natural labour and I hated it beyond believe. I thought I am ready for it, but 8 hours in, I was ready for epidural which I couldn’t have as I was in birth centre, trying water birth. My story is long and not pretty so I won’t bother anyone with it, but believe me when I say that when my little one was finally born and rested in his bed and they were still stitching me up and trying to fix everything that went wrong with me, I looked at him and for a second I thought “was he worth it?” And that’s the worst thing that can mentally happen to any mother who just gave birth. I managed to push this thought away quickly and absolutely love my boy beyond believe, but it’s almost 2 years and this is hunting me still.
I wish everyone nice experience, no matter if there is medication involved or not :) make the decision you will be happy with, and don’t try to make it before you are in the situation, it really CAN be quick and not as bad! But it doesn’t have to be 🤷🏼♀️
Turkova Dominika Definitely understand. There are a lot of women that experience trauma from giving birth and that’s just not a good feeling to have when it comes to something that should be considered a beautiful experience. My pregnancy has been tough enough and I would hate to start having negative thoughts and feeling horrible while my child is making her way into the world, or when she finally gets here so I’m still deciding.
Two years later and you're still bothered by it! I'm so sorry you feel that way. I had an epidural after 15 hours of labor, labored another 14, and by the time I got my daughter my first thought was how weird she looked lol! I was pretty delirious at the time. I also had postpartum depression, which I didn't get help for until 9 months in. I didn't feel emotional love for my daughter until she was about 6 months old. I was committed to her, but otherwise....it was just hard.
I'm saying all this because I want to encourage you. You had a completely normal, fleeting thought after many hours of intense pain. You're an amazing mom to your son. I can tell, because a hateful mom wouldn't care about having that thought at all. And 2 years later you're still disturbed by it. Whatever you're doing, keep it up!
Revelation 3:20 "Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with Me."
Sitcom Christian thank you for your kind words! I am truly sorry that you had the experience you did and the feelings you had! And even more so that you had to battle it without help for that long! It’s amazing that you have kept going and done it all as there is so many moms that don’t have this strength.. well done!❤️ I had my second baby not even month ago and it was unbelievable how different experience that was! Still 15 hours but 7 of it with epidural, walking within two hours after giving birth, no forceps needed.. I got a chance to hold my second son immediately after birth, feed him myself as soon as he wanted, no bad thoughts at all.. I absolutely loved it! So happy I got pass my fears and had the second baby, as it did change my bad experience to positive one! I will never forget the first one and what happened in my head then, but this made massive difference and I truly wish every woman would have this positive experience as well❤️
You are not your thoughts! Everyone has horrible, dark thoughts cross their minds- it doesn’t mean that you are a bad person.
@melody hallelujah I don’t agree with more but one thing you have just said (baby straight on the chest), please leave your opinions where they want them.
Gosh, your voice is so calming. Wish you lived in NY!
I have the highest respect for Moms doing it all natural. I’m due July with my first and plan on getting an epidural. No exceptions 😆
Im due on july too.
I’m due in July as well :-)) 18th 💖
I'm due in July! And definitely having it on standby. Quite nervous of the unknown
I'm due in July too and I'm a little scared. Im definitely getting the epidural.
I'm due the 4th of July and am terrified this time around! Good luck mummas xx
I’m due this month on 9-9-19. And I didn’t no all the cons in getting a epidural makes me want to do a natural birth now. I won’t be stuck in one position on my back
All those 9's!! Most women get epidurals without knowing the risks that often come along with it... Natural, unmedicated birth allow your body to do exactly what it was made to do!
This is how I feel too
This is late but some epidurals let you move and walk around.
With my epidural, I was actually able to push in multiple positions. I was even squatting! My midwife and labor nurse were freaking awesome, they helped a lot. I did ultimately deliver on my back though.
Your legs weren't numb??
Thanks for posting this ♥️ I’m doing natural birth . My mom did it so I can too 😁
That's part of what makes me confident in it too! My mom also had us naturally. If she hadn't, not sure I would really consider it.
@melody hallelujah wait so I'm allowed to deny any vaccines that my newborn gets ? I'm able to DENY and reject ?
It's not mandatory?
I had the epidural twice now I just had my second son last Wednesday and the epidural help me alot I still felt when I had to push. It was not painful to get at all.
My OB informed me that epidurals, especially on women who are not able to calm their bodies down through contractions, can help delivery move along faster. Because if they’re not able to stay calm and relaxed, their bodies can’t continue to deliver. And an epidural makes the labor get back on track and end quickly (if they’re already in active labor)
Trust your OB. I have noticed that almost all Doulas have some weird hate towards medical assistance and interventions. If you think you can't take the pain go for the epidural. Even natural unmedicated birth is risky. At least with epidural, the pain becomes bearable and labour is less stressful.
I love your videos. I start my natural birth classes today @26wks.
I had and epidural for my 1st 6yrs ago and had most of the cons you mentioned.
It’s a little scary trying for an unmedicated birth but I know it’s mostly mental. Your videos give me hope and remind me birth is a beautiful experience and pain is necessary and a part of the process.
Thank you and I can’t wait to experience my natural birth
It is such a mental game! Your body is equipped to birth a baby all on it's own, so trusting it to do just that will help you immensely. You will have such a beautiful birth, mama!
Not only mental, the pain is real ..
It's mental because it is so hard mentally to deal with the physical pain. So yeah...
I had an epidural with my 1st. It was such a great choice for me. I pushed on my hands and knees and was not at all forced to labor on my back.
This lady is really good at explaining the different sides. She’s so warm and i don’t sense any judgement at all.
Love it
I had an epidural, my next time around I would not press the little remote button like crazy. I didn’t realize it will take awhile for me to feel it since I was hecka dumb when laboring 😂
But I loved my epidural experience. I would want to take less next time, but my baby latched and we’ve been breastfeeding for close to 3 years.
I was the drowsy one, she was not drowsy AT ALL.
obviously every baby is different.
Newly pregnant and have hoped for a natural/unmedicated labor since we started trying. This video helps me understand if I have to change my plan, it can be enjoyable and for the most part safe.
Thank you for this video. With my first, I didn't want to take the epidural, but ended up taking it for the safety of baby and I. I was in so much pain that I pretty much had no energy left.. In the end, I was so physically exhausted from going through the pain that I didn't even have enough energy to push. I'm pregnant again and due soon, so I've been binge watching your videos for new techniques that might be helpful, like the breathing one, this one, and more. I'm hoping for a less stressful labor this time around, and one where I'm not going to be so tired...
I have had 3 un medicated births and the pain of pushing/ rub out are so horrific. I’ve also always bleed a lot after babies. This time I’m so excited to be getting an epidural and also choosing better positions to be putting my body into. I feel like because I know what it feels like already to have had three babies previously this will be a perfect marriage of natural and epidural.
35 weeks. I plan to go natural but if its needed, then I will do that.
Epidural is a life saver. I had in my first pragnancy and will make sure to have ig now in my 2nd one. Currently 36 weeks pragnant.
I found this video, as I wanted to see what people's experience was with the injection of the epidural! I have given birth both medicated and unmedicated! The first time I got the epidural it was great! But the 2 times after that, the placement hurt and the epidural barely worked! Now expecting my 5th child in September and I am torn, I want the epidural but scared of the pain and terrified of going natural as well 😩
I had an induced labor at 41 weeks of pregnancy and I was convinced epidural would help a lot, but I was wrong. With the increasing strengths of pitocin, I requested epidural to help with contractions that were getting stronger pretty fast. However the anesthesiologist had trouble placing my epidural catheter correctly, and we had to remove and try to place it correctly 3 separate times !!!! It was a constant staircase of pausing pitocin, getting epidural, increasing pitocin, pausing pitocin, replacing epidural😭 it was a REALLY painful experience from strong frequent contractions, epidural injections and labor discomforts of being immobile. I was in labor for 50 hours!!! Then pushed for 1.5 hours i don’t know how I did it but luckily I delivered a beautiful, healthy baby boy! Baby and I were out of there 2 days after .
I’m more scared of the epidural then the actual birth LMAO
Lol i thought i was the only one!!!
Lol it’s really not bad at all
I’ve had one delivery with an epidural and one without. For my first I was TERRIFIED of the epidural and made up my mind that I did not want one under any circumstances. I had to be induced, I got to a 5 and changed my mind on that REAL quick lol. Getting the epidural wasn’t bad, it was just sitting still through contractions that sucked. But I could not have taken the pain without the epidural. I was so not prepared. For my second, I was ready. I went completely natural, didn’t even have an IV placed. I pushed on my hands and knees and I actually enjoyed not being numb, I feel like it almost made it easier. It was definitely faster too. But all in all I loved both experiences!
I just had a baby and I got an epidural...I cant imagine giving birth without it. I'm a wimp and couldn't handle the pain of the contractions :/
Sumi'sBeauty sameee
i got an epidural and i don't regret it... i don't know how long i was in labor for, but it wasn't long.. got to the hospital at 6am and had my son by 6pm.. i was induced since i was already at 41 weeks and my son weighed in at 9.10 lbs. at birth...
One con you didn’t mention was the risk of post dural puncture headache. I had one about 2 weeks ago after having my baby and I swear it was worse than the whole labor process itself! The only comfortable position was laying down completely flat and it’s pretty difficult to be a new mom in that position! Also made breastfeeding pretty much impossible which is something that broke my heart 💔
KayJayVee my coworker said that happened to her! She was hospitalized for several days after delivery. They kept trying to give her another epidural to push it through her system. Really scared me
Agreed! It’s the worst 😣
I had a spinal headache in college from a botched spinal tap and let me tell you, it was awful. I was so sick and couldn’t sit up without screaming for a week. My mother had to help me crawl to the bathroom or put a piss pot under me. It was so embarrassing.
nicolenadia1 omg that’s terrible!!
Happened to me as well. It was really bad. I had to lay flat for 10 days in the hospital and take a bunch of painkillers. Also breastfeeding was not possible because of it. That said, the contractions were also so painfull that I don´t think I could have done it without the epidural...
Thank you for being so balanced about it. It’s so comforting. I’m firmly in the middle and seeing how it goes. I want to be mobile as long as possible which helps naturally progress labor.
I delievered my second daughter on 1/3/22. My epi failed due to my labor progressing too fast! Went from 3cm to 6cm in 40 mins and 6cm to 10cm and pushing only 15-20 mins later. 10-15mins of pushing and she was out! Super fast. I was induced too.
I just had a baby 5 days ago. I labored at home for only 3 hours and got to the hospital at 9cm’s dilated. This is my third baby but it was so painful when it came time to push they actually allowed me to get a epidural at 9.5cm’s dilated because I wasn’t progressing hardly at all. Turns out
I had a huge baby, 9lbs 7oz and a brief moment of shoulder dystocia. I feel the epidural saved both me and baby a lot of trauma. Very glad I got it.
I also was able to walk not long after delivery. I was actually able to move quite a bit. I felt every contraction I had & even the ring of fire. Just less pressure than with it.
I'm expecting my first baby in 2 to 3 weeks from now. This video is so helpful! Thank you so much.. 😊
I'm due August 24th. I had a natural and epidural free birth for my first and am hoping to do the same this second time around. It's amazing how nervous I still am even though I've been through this whole process before. Thank you for your videos! They are very reassuring, I wish I would have found them sooner!
It's a new experience every time so those emotions are still so valid! You're going to have a BEAUTIFUL birth, Mama!
This is a surprisingly informative video. Some of these types of videos are done by (not judging) a woman who has given birth once or twice whereas Bridget sure seems like she has some solid education on the subject. Looking at her profile, it appears that she does..but I didn't need to look because I could hear the experience and education in her talk. PS I have no idea what to do but I have 20 weeks to decide....
Looooved my epidural. Got mine 7/8cm dilated and still felt my contractions and when it was time to push. Got to actually enjoy my labor instead of ripping my husbands sleeve off from my powerful contractions due to how fast i was progressing.
Epidural, contractions & labor itself was a breeze what almost made me pass out due to the PAIN was getting stitches after I ripped it was excruciating 😣 even thinking about it makes me cry all over again.
I really wanted an epidural but my labor progressed very fast so at the time I entered the hospital I was 8 cm dilated and to late for an epidural. My babyboy was born with a vacuüm pomp and I have to say that your body is capable to do amazing things and handle pain very well. But this is my personal experience.
All those cons happened to me! With my first I needed oxygen, couldn’t feel any contractions whatsoever, then had a fever from it so they took the baby away to the nursery almost immediately to administer medications. Then I had a terrible headache for weeks afterwards (which she doesn’t include in the list of cons).
Second baby I received an epidural but it only numbed my legs- NOT the contractions! So I couldn’t move throughout the labor and could feel everything. Of course they had me maxed out on pitocin so I couldn’t catch my breath between contractions. Baby’s heart rate was affected so I had to sit in one particular position throughout the terribly painful labor. Then because either they’d tweaked a nerve during epidural or because of being in the same position for so long without feeling my legs, I had drop foot for 5 weeks after delivery and needed help carrying my baby because I couldn’t walk!
I’m going with No2 for this third delivery.
Talked to my OB about these and a lot of the “risks” are really made to sound like they WILL happen, when in fact very few (in my OBs experience) have these issues. The nurses make sure you move every 30 minutes, you don’t have to labor on your back, you shouldn’t get the epidural too early so that you can make sure contractions don’t slow, etc. if your provider is educated your experience won’t necessarily be the negative things mentioned in this video.
This was not my experience with all three epis I had.
I couldn't move, couldn't feel my legs for hours, had migraines, forced to labor on my back due to not being able to feel anything from my chest down even requesting a walking epi. No one made sure I moved, I was stuck and directly TOLD not to move.
Fourth labor was unmedicated and hands down the best experience.
Another reason I hope to be able to hold off on Epidural is that it'll be a personal achievement for me. My mom says that I won't be able to handle it. Challenge accepted. Either way, the reasons for holding off on Epidural I listed earlier are the main reasons.
Did you gave birth?
I had an epidural twice so far and they were great. no side effects for me or the babies. I’ll still try for the natural births but im not scared of epidurals at all.
A rise in temperature due to an epidural and a rise in temp from an infection is very different. Temps don't spike high from and epidural, and natural labor can cause temps to rise as well. An infection usually is accompanied by maternal and fetal tachycardia (increased heart rate) and much higher temperatures- only then do we give antibiotics.
Clare Bonner at my hospital we give prophylactic abx even if all that is happening is a just temp of 37.5c measured twice over at least 1h gap.
Your videos are tremendously helpful in helping me feel more comfortable about my upcoming labor! (37 Weeks now!)
Can you also please do a video on alternatives to epidural? like the laughing gas, does it have any risks?
I had an epidural birth then a natural birth. Hands down, the natural birth was better. It required more work during pregnancy - physical training, education, etc. - and of course, I had an hour or two of a lot of pain, but it was instantly positive when baby came. With my epidural baby, I didn’t think about birth at all until it was happening. I got the epidural, then an episiotomy, then had major issues with nursing for months. My recovery was 100X more painful with the epidural; my natural birth was a breeze to recover from!! I wish I’d known any of this the first time around.
When I was pregnant with my first and decided to have a natural birth I got soooo many opinions from mamas who did it the medicated route. Every birth is different every mama and every baby is different, what works for one doesn’t work for the other. It felt as though other women wanted to convince me to have an epidural because if I went through with a natural birth it somehow made them feel less than, and if they couldn’t do it then neither can you, like it’s some kind of competition, which it most definitely is not. There is nothing wrong with having an epidural if that’s what you want, there is nothing wrong with an natural birth if that’s what you want. In my opinion the most judgmental mamas are the ones who have had a medicated birth , it seems as though mama’s who have had a natural birth are not “allowed” to share their birth story in the same way as other mamas which is sad. All mama’s are strong warriors regardless of how your baby came to be in your arms.
Idk you sound pretty judgemental tbh lol "they couldn't do it" yikes
This comment is so hypocritical it's almost funny lol
@@Carlie_flower i agree especially referring to an unmedicated birth as a natural birth both are natural
@@Rubyslippers1234 right?! I hear that phrase soooo often 🙄 "natural" birth. Mmhhmmm but mom's who had a medicated birth are the ones making people feel bad about their birth stories 🙄
I've never ever gave an unmedicated mom a hard time. All I've ever heard anyone say about that is "wow you're so strong" "I could never, it hurt so much" "you must be so tough!" And all this praise 🙄 on the flip side I've had mom's who went without the epidural literally give me a hard time for not trying harder or longer or for not using the right combo of "natural" homeopathic methods or meditation or whatever other thing.
Fact of the matter is if it produces a healthy, happy baby then why's it matter?
@@Carlie_flower You obviously need to go back and reread what she stated. She said that the "medicated" mothers would feel like since they couldn't handle the pain, then she couldn't either.
I agree! I’m expecting baby #8 for December an i give unmedicated birth with my first 3 kids. But with this baby I’m not sure all depends on how long I’m in labor I understand women’s who are in labor for 24 hrs poor mama’s they are so tired every one is different every birth is different so we should decide what’s best for us.
Bridget, thank you for your wonderful videos and for the work that you do for women. I can attest to the cons of epidural that you mentioned. Epidural almost killed me and my baby. Every woman is different, but I asked for a lower dosage of epidural as my body is sensitive to medication side effects at times. I also have low-blood pressure (medically healthy, just on the lower end of a healthy range), but I didn’t know that epidural makes it lower. But the best hospital in NYC said they could not do so. Shortly after, my blood pressure and heart dropped so low as well as baby’s that we flatlined (no exaggeration). They had the whole L&D staff rush to my room to revive us (I was not conscious - my husband told me). My second birth was unmedicated, and the most insane pain in my life. But it was a much better birth experience. So, unless it’s medically required (c-section), I would never get or recommend an epidural.
Such a great video! I'm due November 2021. And I'm still on deciding whether I should have an epidural or not 😭
I appreciate you being so positive about epidurals! I had an epidural and then had such a beautiful and positive birth because of it! I was joking and laughing while pushing and was only pushing for 30 mins! I would not have had that birth any other way! Although I totally commend women strong enough to do all natural births but I know myself and know I wouldn’t have made it or been able to enjoy my experience without an epidural.
I love how caring you sound in your videos, really shows you're passionate about helping us future moms get prepared. :) I'm a recent subscriber!
I got an epidural with my first child and after 24 hours of consistent contractions, I welcomed it. It definitely helped me relax and I could still tell when I was having a contraction but it didn’t hurt. I do believe that it blocked oxytocin because i didn’t get that euphoric rush of love hormones after baby was born. My least favorite part of the epidural was the catheter they put on me since you can’t control your bladder while having an epidural. The catheter was SO uncomfortable. For some reason I could feel that.l and I hated it.
Well, not necessarily.
It can slow down the birth process, requiring sometimes the use of pitocin which is synthetic oxytocin, but it's natural not to have that lovey dovey experience the moment your baby is born. I've had many friends with unmedicated births who felt the same. It's much more common than we realize because people don't want to talk about it.
I did have that beautiful instant love feeling and I had an epidural. Lots of people do. But there's lots of people who don't have that instant connection too.
@@sarahflynn9395 Agreed. It took me awhile to fall in love with both my babies and they were both unmedicated births. The pain didn't instantly vanish after birth, either, and I didn't forget it 🤣 Now pregnant with no. 3 and I'll be taking the epidural this time. I just have zero interest in enduring the cataclysmic pain again.
Can’t wait for the next video! I plan to have an unmedicated birth. This will be my first child and its nerve wrecking not knowing what to expect.
I've been there! But the more you know the more excited you'll be to experience what your body and baby can do during birth!
I did not want an epidural for my birth, I arrived at the hospital at 9cm and so thought there is no need to get one I can do this. I kept getting this strong strong sense I should get one and I kept ignoring because it wasn't in my plan. In the end, I told my partner and he said to go with your gut you haven't mentioned it this whole time so there must be a reason. I got one and then I ended up needing an emergency c section (not because of epidural but babies positioning which they didn't realize) and I was rushed to the emergency room. If I had not had the epidural I would have been asleep for babies' birth. So although it wasn't the plan I am glad I was able to be awake to see my bubba come into this world.
So many people try to discourage you to not have a natural birth... I feel a lot of those people think that if they couldnt do it, you cant.
But you can.
3 kids later, nobody was telling me anymore that I couldnt do it.
But now its back again. Im expecting twins and they are all back, telling me I cant do it 🙄🙄 so annoying.
Wow, twins!!! Congrats! I had a natural, unmedicated labor a few years ago, and it was a positive experience for me. I'm expecting my second soon, and I have no doubt that I can do it without medication.
Stop having kids now.
@@knowingtruthisbliss2717 I hope you feel better soon!
Congratulations! 😍
@@knowingtruthisbliss2717 mind your own business 🙄
I admire all those women that go without epidural. I’ve tried twice and I was screaming for help and an epidural when the pains got stronger... for my two pregnancies. Classes didn’t help breathing didn’t help, tub with water didn’t help it was way to painful to bear.