Why Suicide is NEVER the Answer.
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- Опубликовано: 9 апр 2017
- We've all gone through hard times. After thinking about it, I decided to share my story with you. Sometimes the reasons can be big or small why we are tempted by this thought- but here's why you shouldn't have it as an option. Help with depression and or suicide is nothing to ignore.
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Thanks for listening to my story. It wasn't easy to talk about since I'm such a different person now years later. Keep your head up!
Thanks for watching!
keep it up dude
Dude, I feel you man, I was suicidal 3 times, Not going to go deep in to it, But I tried 2 out of 3 times. Thank god I didn't do the third one which was jumping from a 30 meter building. If I could, I would hug the fuck out of you right now =)
David Patterson iv been suffering since I was little pretty much my whole life. I hope one day I'll get better but I don't think I ever will but watch you kinda helps
David Patterson it's amazing to see how far you've come. You have so much going for you. Love you so much no homo 🔰📷🚘🍕
David Patterson someone very wise once said " suicide is a very permanent solution to a temporary problem" I'm glad you got through it, and I pray that this video touched the person who needed to see it. keep up the good work.
I feel like the reason we generally don't get help or talk about our issues until we get to the lowest we can go because we're scared of having them turn against us too.
Darkman0198 I think that, and it's a pride thing to be "tough"
Can't fight it forever though.
Yeah, eventually it gives in, and that's when you realize how great it is to get help from others instead of just trying to go through your dark times alone.
I and my family have been trying to cope with my dad getting diagnosed with stage IV renal cancer in my dad's lung last year. In 2010 he had a kidney removed from cancer and there were no signs of it until when he got his checkup last year and it was back. So far his medicine has kept it from getting worse but only time will tell when it wears off. (He lost his brother to lung cancer a few days before getting diagnosed..)
That's really though man. :( I've lost 3 of my grandparents to cancer one just recently about 4-5 months ago. The last one really hit me I was too young before I think, really made me think about life and the way I'm living it have to make the most of every day you've got. Really hope it continues to go well with your dad.
Darkman0198 that is true thats how i felt for awhile
It's rough, even the last two dogs that passed in my house died from cancer (mother and daughter, the son is still alive) and cancer + heart issues run stupidly strong in men in my dad's side of the family. My dad was the only survivor of cancer in the family before he got diagnosed again. It's just shitty watching your uncle get weaker over the years and dying from it. Then knowing it's a possibility it won't be too long before I go through it with my father.
Thank you so incredibly much David, I really needed to see this. I've been depressed for around 10 years (I'm 19) and I've been suicidal 3 times. It never really hit me that it was depression and how serious it was until around 4 years ago, I guess I never really understood what all the negative thoughts in my head actually meant. These last 4 years have been the most difficult years of my life, I'm so happy to be finishing school in a few months so I can finally have time and money to spend on the best therapy for me which is cars. Thank you again for this David, it was desperately needed.
DarkestShad0w Most of us here are have cars as our vents. It just works. The one thing we have in common. Get in touch with some more car guys and that can turn around. I wish the best for you
WantlessFour936 Thank you man!
DarkestShad0w We all are friends here. Have a good day/night wherever you are
Check out the channel "The school of life", awesome channel, just plow through their videos.
DarkestShad0w i was depressed and suicidal for awhile till late last year but i finnally got the motivation to move forward in life thanks to david and some other youtubers now im finnally working towrds what i want to do in life (youtube) im 20 and wasted to much time playing video games all the time im glad ive changed and am able to have the motivation just stay motivated man and try to live your dream if u ever need someone to talk to u can leave a comment on my channel or social media i like helping others as much as i can cause ik what it feels like to feel down
Sometimes suicide is the only answer.
When you're 36k in debt at age 20 with recently diagnosed bipolar disorder, yes. I see no other option.
@@jermu8706are you still alive?
@@jermu8706felt that
@@superkay1376 yes. started using drugs to cope, still do. only thing i look forward to. when i dont have them, i use sleeping pills to timeskip days. sometimes have no clue what weekday it is.
there are fates worse than death
@@superkay1376 yes. now have problems with serious addiction since i started doing substances to cope with life. timeskip days with sleeping pills if i have nothing else.
this is a fate worse than death. not a day goes by that i dont question what it exactly is that keeps me going.
Im gonna go log into my 2nd account so i can like this twice.
seksifrans699 why did you dislike?
I'm gonna make another account to like you
Amen❤
Honestly... it's still an option. Especially when I'm sure it wont hurt anyone around me because I have no one. And maybe my old "friends".. will finally fucking get it. I do not care about what my purpose even is anymore. I'm so fucking tired..
Hello friend. I am going through a state phase of despair since I have failed at everything in life, too. How are you doing?
I hope you have some peace as of now.
seems like such a cool dude, that type that gets along with anyone.
But its very hard to find people like David
You aren't everyone,some have no hope
what i learnt from this video is BITCHES AINT SHIT
Hades W
Real talk
Facts.
Hades BITCHES BE CRAZY
Alexandru Bogdan Gherghiceanu you have the most Romanian sounding name
I’m still going to do it
thank you David I've been fighting the whole mess that's been my life for I don't know how long but thank you
Stay strong brother💙
RyanBB Gaming blue heart
Can you please do a draw my life
Chris02213 yea
yeah great idea :D
Chris02213 just about to say that
Can people please like this comment so he can see this and maybe do a draw my life (I'm not trying to get attention I genuinely want to see a draw my life)
I dont have time to cry i almost cried from this the same way I cried from OMGITSFIREFOXX draw my life
So. Don't know how to start this. I'm 15, a sophomore in high school. I've been bullied all my life, been left out from the beginning of kindergarten. I've had 2 relationships, which both lasted less than a month. It got to the point where whatever people had been bullying me, were turning my own friends against me. People that I had been good friends with for most of my life started bullying me. My first relationship was at my old school. It didn't mean all that much to me, but I was being picked on for it. The second one was at my new school (a story in itself), and this one meant the world to me.it was last year, with the first girl I had met at this school in 8th grade. I could tell she had some interests in me. End of freshman year I had mustered up the courage to ask her out. She said yes and for the first 2 weeks, everything was going fine. The third week she started talking to one of her friends more. I didn't think much of it. Long story short the friend she was talking to forced her to break up with me. I was utterly devastated. This combined with the bullying on an every day basis had taken its toll. The first year I had been at my new school (8th grade) I had begun to think of suicide. I had lost all of my friends, including my best friend since kindergarten. I was at a new school, all my friends seemingly taken away from. When I had started talking to people, that's when the bullying started. This had sent me over the edge. I had panic attacks frequently, and thought that since I was at a new school, nobody would care if I killed myself. During freshman year I had made a new friend. Her and I quickly became close. She helped me through my breakup after freshman year, unknowingly keeping me from breaking down and committing suicide. My life finally felt good. During this year I was still being bullied. I didn't care though, as I learned to ignore the entitled bastards who were trying to make me feel bad. All this time I was still thinking about it, about killing myself. I still had little to no friends at this point and felt like I was only bringing others down. I felt terrible since school started. I still don't know what to do. Do I need help? Probably. Do I have help? No. I want to tell this girl about how she's damn near saved my life, literally. I don't know how to do it though.
Keep your head up man!💙
In my eyes, I'd think the best way to tell this girl is to have a one on one conversation away from other people. Tell her your situation because it's good to open up about your problems and this way, she may be able to help you or get other people who will help you. Keep those negative thoughts away, too. Even if you think nobody cares about you, I guarantee you you're wrong because your relatives and your new friend will be heartbroken. Good luck and stay strong bro. :)
You can either say what you want to say, or not say it. Only one of those two answers will progress the story forward.
Regarding you're actual story, let me tell you a bit of mine. In elementary and middle school, I was a normal enough kid. I didn't have many friends, I didn't know why. In high school I finally got someone to sit me down and explain my problems to me... I was "The Smelly Kid" and I didn't even know it.
We have a ton of dogs in my house. I've grown up with them, so my nose is blind to their odor. Even now, I can't smell dog pretty much, it's natural to me.
Point is, in high school when I got that speech from the school nurse, it hit me like a runaway train. I became very depressed, knowing that everything about my life up until then was plagued by some disgusting smell I had never known about. Suffice it to say I took a look at my life then, and made changes. I started showering at least 3 times a week, washing all my laundry twice as often, and just generally keeping my space at home much cleaner. I got a new hairstyle, a good amount of new clothes, and my whole attitude sort of changed with it... The first week like this, I was the same person, with a better smell and sense of style. After that, I started making friends out of people who I had previously never talked to in my district. I started really getting good at socializing, because I started doing it so often. My life... Well after that my life pretty much went up and up, hasn't stopped since.
My advice as a whole, disregarding the girl: CHANGE. You have to think to yourself, or even get someone else to tell you what your problem is. There must be a reason things are the way they are. Whatever the problem is, you have the opportunity to experiment with changes in your lifestyle until you fix it, or are comfortable. I know that sounds like an insult, but hell man, I lived the first decade of my life reeking of wet dog... I am MUCH happier now, knowing that somebody helped me fix that.
Whatever you end up doing, good luck man.
Thanks guys. I told her today. I'm surprised people actually responded and cared. Especially since that you guys never met me before. Thank you.
That's awesome bro, did it go well, if you don't mind me asking?
(sorry for my bad english)
I've been thinking about suicide for months. I don't want to die, but I can't fucking take this anymore. I feel so sad and empty inside. I don't want to get out of my room. I don't want to move, I don't want to talk, I have zero motivation. I cry almost everyday. I hate myself so freaking much. I feel like I'm a waste of space and nobody wants me or cares about me.
I bottle up my feelings and they're killing me inside. I just wanted to get this off my chest.
I haven't gotten any professional help, I haven't even talked to anyone about this besides my internet best friend.
I don't know what to do.
We care about you on here!
how old are you?, try to focus on your studies, do excersice, try to do something new! sometimes that suicidal things come to my mind but then i Remember i wasted over a year being a negative person, socialize with people is what help me the most, good luck, text me back if u want more help
Travis Gallatin :) ❤
Ary I'm 16! Thanks for the tips!
We're here for you 💙
Fucking hated middle and especially high school. Felt so sidelined and ignored. Luckily I had one really good friend to laugh with and I found weightlifting, which really helped me cope with emotion I wanted no one to see. Thanks for sharing, David. Glad you chose life.
David, I don't know if you'll see this but, this really hit home. It made me go back and think of all the rough times my family and I have gone through. From suicides within the family, my mother losing her job and being forced to move out of state and the list goes on. So glad I watched this today. You really have stuck through it and have made something HUGE of yourself. Such an inspiration. Hope to meet ya someday. keep up the great work David. #RVA
DerekBaranProductions love your channel, keep it going
DerekBaranProductions what's up bro?
Hey David, I know I'm one in 600,000 to say this but, you have made me happy in some of the darkest times in the last 3 years. The last 6 months especially. Thank you for choosing the other option, because you've brought so much happiness to so many people.
I can't describe meeting you at IA, my girlfriend was more excited for me than I was because she knows how much you've helped in my life. Again; Thank you.
suicide is a permanent fix for a temporary problem. You don't lose the pain, you just hand it on to your family and friends, this thought is what helped me get through my suicidal period. I still think abou it sometimes and i know i made the right decision by not doing it.
Not all problems are temporary
@sydefx ?
Bullsh*t!! Depression is not temporary
Hundreds of years hunger, poverty and homelessness and polution seem permanent
When I saw the title of this video in my subscriptions, I was beyond surprised. I love seeing real life videos/topics that car people talk about. Inspiring my friend. I was really stoked to meet you at that garage meet in SoCal awhile back. I had a friend who took his life awhile back... and I felt as if I could have helped if we just talked. I'm happy you're bringing awareness through your channel to your database. This is going to help is many people man.
Thanks for sharing your story.
11,882 people are happy your here, and I think we're all happy your here
You seem like a really good dude. Takes a lot of balls to share this information with the public. Keep up the good work on both channels. My favorite youtuber.
My situation is probably the least serious.
I'm 19. I have had suicidal thoughts since I was 15. It happens at least once a day. I was and still am insanely socially awkward, I am scared to leave the house (where I live there's constant crime), I'm too scared to talk to people, I'm horrible at conversations, I can't buy things because I'm too afraid of confrontation. I can't get a job because of a combination of all this stuff and more.
I don't remember where exactly it all stems from, but all through secondary school, I had one group of friends. No one else would approach me, I was never the sort of person people cared much about. I never had stories to tell, I never had these amazing adventures and I knew nothing. I was just a basic being with no knowledge of the world around.
Around that time, I had the biggest crush on this girl. It was four going on five years. I had finally gotten the confidence to say something, I wrote a letter. Like any not-normal person. I thought it was sweet and romantic. My best friend who I asked deliver the letter didn't tell me how the response was. After a couple months I found out this girl who barely knew me considered me to be the worst person in the world and said I was the last person in the world to get a date from anyone. That killed me. From then on I doubted myself. I lost all confidence I thought i had.
My best friend was supportive constantly, she was amazing for putting up with me, but I'm stubborn and I can only give help, I refuse to recieve it. Anyway, we were really close and always around eachother. Nearing the end of school at 16 I started falling in love with her. I ended up opening up about this in a similar way to last time. She was nice though and said that she didn't want to ruin the friendship. Fair enough.
After finishing school, I lost all my friends, even her. I was running this channel for about a year at the time and I met some people, but I started losing out with them as I couldn't keep doing the same videos all the time, and because of the issues as stated above, I lost them too. I ended up starting college. For a year I did engineering, no friends at all. They all thought I was weird and I was quite literally treated like I was a child. During the same time I had joined some brony websites and managed to meet this girl since she was interested in me. Soon we thought we should get together. Month later, found out she cheated. Felt like shit for a long time. Couple months later, met another girl, we talked every single day from the moment we awoke until we went to bed. During the course of a month I was receiving personal attacks from a guy with all my info and ended up going through panic attacks which lasted a few hours each. At the end of that month I got the guy away from me but then she began basically picking on me and making me feel like shit for being weak and that ended. Fast forward 5 months, I meet a local girl on the same site because she was interested in me, and immediately start off. She was suicidal, and we always helped eachother as best we could. It ended after a month due to a conflict of opinion which caused her to start cheating. After that she started getting people from that site to start attacking me. Much like before, people with all my details threatening me, I started suffering panic attacks, contemplating suicide to stop all the pain from constant attacks which lasted about 5 months. Eventually she approached me and apologiesed. Which I stupidly accepted despite the pain she caused. Then for a few months after I was lead on by many people who only did it to hurt me. Until the first ex girlfriend asked me back which I debated for a while before accepting. After 3 weeks she cheated publicly. She told me she was single. She was engaged to this bloke I was never told about.
This was around Christmas 2015. I've never had a crush on a girl since because I started to hate the world and since I've just wanted all the pain to end. I'm so bad at life. Every day is want to talk to someone, just have a good conversation, make a new friend, but no. Little bitch me is too scared to talk to people. I'm too scared of everything in life and I don't know what do to. I want a normal life. But I'm too scared to talk to people. My parents don't know. My best friend (who is my currently only friend) I mentioned earlier only knows that I'm scared of talking to people. And anyone I tell this story to on the Internet where I believe I might get help, they don't believe me and always end up thinking I'm being a twat who's making everything up.
It's gotten to the point where I know I'm NOT going to kill myself. I already know that it would cause issues for those around, not that they would be sad, just the expenses I'm worried about. Im alone every single day, i talk to no one. I keep to myself and dream. I do have life goals, the only reasons why I'm still here today. I have a steam locomotive I need to finish building, I want to build a turbo Mazda 3 and I want to find someone and eventually have a family of my own with that person. Only two of those are possible since I know how people recieve my presence.
Just difficult you know. I'm weird. My emotions change rapidly all the time and I find it hard to explain my emotions and how things are since its always changing. All I can say is there's always a reason to live, even if it is a selfish one.
+Xx BigBoss xX it's not that easy
Xx BigBoss xX Yes, it's easy for YOU! I will repeat what I said in my last comment, what works for you may not work for someone else.
I'm just not going to respond to you since it's clear you're not an open minded person.
I'll have you know that I have tried and a lot of people have. But life doesn't work the way we want it too. Now I kindly ask that you piss off.
How nice that you want to derail the current topic at hand by mentioning the third world problems, something that you most likely aren't contributing any help to solving. Please stop being a troll. It's not good for you.
It's too early to know which period is the worst of your life.
As someone who two weeks ago was considering ending everything seriously to the point of writing a will and figuring out how to go out, this video helped. I tired reaching for help from close friends but to no avail. I said no, I broke down but i reached out the hotline and they calmed me down. Keep your head up and always look forward to the next sunrise as everyday is a new day.
Thanks David
Im glad you got thru it David. I lost a close friend of mine, I actually was likely the last person who saw him alive and it haunts me to this day.
You have grown a lot man, keep going.
You're right... miata is always the answer.
Says the busta with a stock A80 Supra XD
I think people are not looking for an answer in suicide. It is more like ending the suffering.
This is so respectable for you to say this. Having dealt with depression i understand how hard it is to admit it. I have the up most respect for you know.
Its the answer. Dont let anyone keep you living a life of misery.
Bullying in America is brutal, damn.
so sorry for the terrible things that you had to go through and i appreciate that you shared your experiences .
I was once on this boat too. Thank you for sharing this with us I know it must've been really hard, but I couldn't imagine my life without waiting to see your new car reviews on your main channel or how excited I got when I saw your car parked 100 feet away from ours at European experience. Thanks for staying with us and making all of our lives that much better David it really means a lot and I'm sure you never could've imagined your life would be this amazing. I'm sure you still struggle with your own problems but it's amazing seeing someone who was this down at some point be on top of the world. Thanks again for all you do David, it's all about the smiles per gallon
damn this is powerful. I can relate so much. I was bullied and I was socially awkward, I was also a late bloomer. I was 5'3 most of highschool and I would get bullied literally everyday. Junior year during the summer my best friend and I began to work out and eat like monsters. Put on 40 pounds and grew almost a foot, it was very strange. My hands and feet were always very large for my body then all of a sudden I grew into them. That brought my confidence up and I fought all of my bullies, literally fought, with my fists. lol Got a bunch of scars on my eye brows and a chipped tooth but I let everything out on them and they never said a single bad thing about me or bullied me again. My senior year of highschool was amazing! got a girl friend, got a job, got a truck, became obsessed with working out and boxing. Now I'm a very happy confident guy with a bachelors in bio medicine and I thank my best friend for getting me into lifting because who knows where I would be with out the weights. I HIGHLY recommend weight lifting if you're suffering from depression or if you get bullied. Take out that anger and frustration on the weights or get some gloves and take out your anger on a heavy bag. Truly a therapeutic effect while also improving your body giving you an incredible confidence boost!
I been the same as you, got a car, trying to get a job, trying to get back to the gym and start lifting, by the way keep up the confedence, don't let your self down.
I just finished school and this hit me hard. I always felt the odd one out, people talked to me but just never seemed interested and gave fake reactions, so I distanced myself. I would cry myself to sleep often. Thanks David for sharing your story.
As someone who dealt with a lot of the same issues as you growing up I understand your thoughts completely. As someone who now serves on a board for a non profit that helps people get through these times I applaud you for stepping out at helping to break the stigma.
I just switched to this channel from your last post on thatdudeinblue. And I just want to thank you for sharing your story. In today's society everyone tries to make life seem perfect on social media, it's a good thing to have someone share their reality. I'm glad you stuck around to give us amazing content and your parents did a great job raising you down to earth and humble. I hope this message reaches everyone that needs to hear it and I hope the best for you in years to come. You're one of my favorite automotive RUclips personalities, greetings from the UAE.
I'm 21 now. I thought about suicide when I was in school. I had no friends, was bullied and felt depressed for some time. I wasn't serious about it, but I gave it a thought.
Guys and girls that are in this situation. Talk about it with someone. Good friends, family etc. By commiting suicide you don't achieve anything. You only run away from your problems, and as David said, you hurt everyone that loves or cares about you.
I never talked about this back then. Just recently I started mentioning some stuff to my best friends that I trust. It's a great relief, but still I should've talked about it back then and not now.
I turned my life around when I got out of school. Bought my Miata and started working as a car technician. Through my new school (apprentices in Germany still go to school once a week) I met nice people and made a good friend. And through car culture I met many more amazing people. I still have no girlfriend, but let's see about that.
I actually don't watch TDIB and randomly found this video. But I wanna thank you David for telling all these kids what to do. Let's not make them do the same mistakes we did.
Hey, I don't usually post comments, but I really felt the need to type something out real quick: Much love and appreciation to you for going over this with us, David; it certainly takes courage to discuss such things so openly/publicly. This really hit home with me as I've been through a highly similar excursion. It's good to be reminded you're not alone.
P.S. You're an awesome human and I really really enjoy your videos! Keep it up :)
P.S.S. After reading some of the comments on this video, I've decided to add: If there's anyone who's reading this and you feel all hope is gone-- I want to say I know words aren't always a cure for deep sadness or overwhelming anxiety. However, if at all possible, I highly //highly// recommend you seek counsel/guidance from a professional psychologist/therapist. I was once convinced there was absolutely no real point for me to even try to "get better" or try to keep on living or "waste my time" with a therapist but 10 sessions with a psychologist has completely changed that for me in ways I can't begin to break down here for you in the comments. Please take these honest words into consideration. Good luck-- It gets better
That's a bold thing to put out there in public. I've struggled with depression and anxiety most of my life. I seriously pondered taking myself out at one point, but thanks to one good friend who let me know she cared, I didn't. Sometimes just one person can make that difference. I'm glad she did, and that I'm still here.
Im glad you opened up, many people don't do this. We all love you. Every single one of our subscribers.
Fair play to you mate ! This took some serious power to make this video to get this out there and also help others ! True inspiration ! Well done my friend
Stalin thanks you for this message. But seriously tho my girlfriend is suicidal and I've helped her go through it and made her happier as a person. I showed her this video and this helped her greatly, so thank you for this video and helping save my girlfriends life.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope people who hated you in the past see you now. Usually those who end up bullying others to that serious extent end up nowhere anyways.
You are AWESOME David Patterson. Glad to see things are better for you. I really hope this message gets out to everyone dealing with depression.
i have been suicidal for 10 years, seeing a therapist, taking my meds, i don't know what to do, I think i hate living
Lonnie Brewer get a motorcycle or fun car...
what are your hobbies ?
Lonnie Brewer do your best to find a reason for LOVING to live. Like others say- find a passion and focus on it.
Lonnie Brewer start lucid dreaming and meditating, it realy helps, helped for me
wow thx for the replies
Im so glad you made this video. iv been trying to overcome depression for around 5 years. I'm currently 17 and Iv been having more and more suicidal thoughts over the last few months. I want to find help so so bad but I just cant speak to the right people about it. I don't know what to do about it anymore.
TrigamingHD parents
i think a lot of us can relate to this. thank you for sharing david. i'm glad you're still alive
thank you David for telling this story to us. It's really difficult to talk about suicidal stories to even friends let alone to the internet. I respect you even more even though I respected you a ton before watching this video. I have a friend that would have suicidal thoughts every now and then, I had no idea till he told me. I helped him out and told him that suicide isn't the answer because your family and friends will be heartbroken
dude i would never guess that this happened to you. Glad you're okay now
You dropped this at the perfect time...
Thank you for sharing David and I hope everyone else shares this video with their friends. You were getting very emotional, but I'm glad you're here on Earth. I'm thankful that I got to meet you, took a picture with you, and get your signature! I really love it when you share your stories. Hope you share more stories!!!
im in the same boat as you were, now. sadly in many mental breakdowns i attempted. but never succeeded. ive tried to get help but nothing works. hearing something like this gives me hope. one day i hope to have a channel like yours and adams. thanks for being you man.
"Never" is a strong word. You thinking you understand everyone's story to say it's never the answer is pretty cocky.
I'm sorry all those things happened to you. I know the feeling of no one coming to help.
i have so much respect for you as a youtuber. love your car videos btw
thanks for sharing David, i feel like a lot of us go through stuff like this growing up but it takes a lot of guts to share it publicly like this. I hope this story can help some people here. I'm older now like you and it's amazing how much nicer and more mature people become as they get older. High school/college/teenage years can be so rough, people can be so cruel during that time
I found this by chance, glad I did. Mad respect for opening up. 2 yrs later and it's still really helping people like me
Suicide is the answer for me.. i know i will go on my own terms, it's the only thing that gets me thru the day sometimes. I can't now because a few people depend on my money directly, once they gone i can leave
Same brother, it's the only condolence I have in life. Every time I think of ending it all I get these warm, happy, fuzzy, goosebump feelings, at least I'll be in a better place. That cold steel of the gun to my head, so satisfying. It can't be worse than this world, nothing can be.
Your skin isn't a paper, so don't cut it
Your face isn't a mask, so don't hide it
Your size isn't a book, so don't judge it
Your life isn't a film, so don't end it
lmaoooooooooooooooooo
Erika Gibson everyone's life ends you idiot. thats the circle of life.
Erika Gibson soundcloud rapper?
Erika Gibson im sorry
Even if your skin isn't paper I'm still going to cut myself
Damn David why you make me cry faw.
I'm 27 and this is so highly relatable.
If anyone out there is hurting, at the lowest point in their life - seek help, you can only go up from where you are.
It's shitty but things will only get better, it takes time, it may come and go, but it will get better.
There's so many people in the comments helping others, I love you guys.
This needs views! This needs to go out to more people! Everyone will go through something like this in there life time. Thank you for sharing this and making it something that is more approachable to talk about!
i am 17 almost 18. i have a completely different story with completely different origins. i am a junior in highschool, well liked and i have many friends. i am a very popular kid at school. you do not have to be a "loner" or "weird" to have suicidal thoughts. i have always felt like ive been expected to do something, to succeed and that has put a lot of pressure and stress on me. i had all A's and i was working 35 hours a week at a chick fil a as a highschool student. i own a dope subaru (which id love for you to review idk how to get in contact with you) and i have a gf i love and have been with for almost two years. but i felt as though i was disappointing people. i felt like i was not enough. i felt like i did not meet expectations. i hurt myself many times. this is not how thjngs should happen. now i have found a safe haven. i turn wrenches on my car and i race bikes. i love it. i realized that it is my life and it doesnt matter what other people think about it. i am great and i will succeed. thats all i have to think and my thoughts go away. thank you for sharing this video it was awesome.
Jax Drives You are good enough!
Jax Drives hol up what kind of subie
You lucky my friend. Nothing will ever help me with my depression and suicidal thoughts and my shit life that seems to just keep endlessly continuing . I love jdm cars and any car and i always have done since I was 3 but I have never owned one because im just a fucking looser with no money, I have never been in a relationship and im already 17 plus girls probably think im a weirdo anyway because of my huge social anxiety not only that but all my friends dont want to see me anymore, and to top all this i see all these people with all these things and all you guys in the comments who get to have these things and it just makes me ashamed of myself that i have failed. All you people here are lucky because you get to have these things that i will never get to have because you are something. Maybe one day I will get the courage to finally end my life so that but for now im just a coward which is hard as it is stopping me from doing something that would help me. because everything i do is wrong and when i try new things i just fuck it up and get it wrong again and again, and whats the point of living if you can only do those things... there is no point as this will never end
Maybe we almost same boat
2000 subaru gc8
David I was stationed in Norfolk bro and I totally would've hung out with you if I knew you because you seem like a really down-to-earth guy and I love cars.
Dude you really close to home... I deal with a lot of people who take life for more granted then I've ever seen. I hope you keep recovering and get better with each passing day
, yours truly
, Daniel Korte
Thank you for this, i've been through the same and been through the same. Keep it going man it's badass seeing someone come out of depression hating life to be doing something he loves.
All aboard the relate train...
Alll aboard the STFU
Choo choo
Hi David, I'm Alexis I've been on the edge of give up on everything and end with this pain, few things happend on my life but didn't affect me so much but things change around in the beginning of 2016. on January 26,2016 i start a relationship with a person that i knew for around 8 years in those years i try to have something with her but nothing happend, but things happend through January until November(the relationship was good few up and downs) i give her a proposal to her on November 15,2016 i was so motivated and back few months i did things to take that step, she say yes. in 24 hours she calls me and say that we need to break up, all of these happened because of third person's saying all kinda things of me. we cut of the relationship but the communication we didn't, we talk but the topic of why she did that always be come a fight or a argue, and i just only wanna to know why she didi it. i lost many friends i have force to quit friends most of my time was for her, i lost my self and suddenly this black cloud of bad luck came i lost my job as a chef on a restaurant (all the time i try to apply and nothing happend) i lost a significant weight, most of the time i fake my smile and my happiness. i try to make new friends i try social media but nothing works. and many times the suicide thoughts are right my the corner, the worse thing is i suffer from anxiety i try to work it out but nothing helps, i try to go psychology sections and just work for 20 maximum 35 minutes, i try do work outs try to keep me busy but is not enough.
from the past 6 months the only thing that keeps me away from suicidal though is watching few RUclipsrs like you, Adam Lz, Saabkyle, christ fix.... just for mention few of them because the list is very long.
i don't know if you read these but im going to thank you for your video for sharing your story and give me a little bit of motivation to stay here in the world for a little longer.
if you read it thank you.
Alexis Colon ive seen your comment and would like to further talk with you. Could you reach out to me on Facebook? Jacoub Tutt. Willing to talk with you.
Thank you so much for this David. I never struggled with bullying, however I did struggle with extreme stress and anxiety which eventually led to severe depression and several suicide attempts. I'm doing much better, and this video really hit home for me. You have always been my favorite RUclipsr. Thank you so much for all you do.
You'll never know how much this video helped me. I live with chronic pain and sometimes it hurts so bad that I wish I would die. You talking about how my loved ones would never recover really hit home with me and helped bring me away from the edge. I want you to know that you made a difference. Thank you.
And now im willing to bet, that those so called friends really wish that they had treated you better and had been real friends, seeing your success.
Im glad you shared your story man, thank you. Did you make this video at random, or because the show 13 Reasons Why is kinda popular right now? I just started watching it.
Poor Man Mods it was, and it's so painful to watch at the end. Literally broke down.
I completely understand brother, thanks for sharing and stay strong and awesome.
wtttffffffff I went to go check it out now it's 3 am that show is creepy man
13 Reasons Why is such a bad series. It doesn't earn any of the emotions it tries to convey. Were we supposed to feel angry that the school counselor was busy and got a phone call when she came to him? That show tries to convey that suicide is a great way to get payback. It comes off as a teenage revenge fantasy and isn't well written. I wanted to see a show with some complexity, but it was so trite. Like when the parents were tired and she goes out at night alone for a walk (not realistic and not a good reason to say as a viewer: 'Yeah, they let her down!')
Poor Man Mods
It’s called 13 reasons why what? What is it about? Thanks.
Tons of respect for your post David. Its extremely difficult opening up on that level, and its awesome to see the progress and positivity you have found. Give me hope i can find the same.
David you have no idea how much I needed this right now. thank you.
David,
Thank you so much for sharing this story. I know it can be so hard to share experiences like this, especially on a public forum like RUclips. Even if people never say it, I am willing to bet this saves someone's life, if not multiple. Many of us have had thoughts of suicide, including myself. People sharing experiences like this needs to start to happen more. We need to take away the stigma against poor mental health so we can help everyone that needs. So again thank you so much for sharing your story.
P.S. About 2/2.5 years ago, I subscribed and shortly after binging your videos helped me a lot. I was very depressed and close to suicidal, but your positive energy and car reviews pulled me out of it. I will forever be a fan of ThatDudeInBlue for your quality content, but I'll always be a David Patterson fan because you're an amazing person.
now you have hundreds of thousands of friends
Thank you for sharing David. Me as well as your almost 700,000 other friends are very happy you are still here and got out of the rut. I haven't personally had any problems like this, but again, glad you were able to sort things out and did the right think. Keep up the good work David.
David, I am sorry you had to go through all that, thinking you were alone. Looking at you, I would have never imagined things could be so bad behind your amazing, blue eyes. I suppose everyone carries burdens they don't share. I am happy you have supporting parents who know your worth even though you doubted it. Suicide IS, a permanent solution to a temporary problem. How fortunate you are, to have figured that out for yourself. I had just unsubscribed from your "That dude in blue" channel because I thought it was a bit frivolous but, I will subscribe again because I believe you have something of value to share. I only hope your candid words will help anyone out there thinking about a final exit to reconsider and chose life. Thank you for your courage and, your candor.
This video helped me out made me think differently your a awesome guy David!
I was in a similar point like this in middle school
AngelofSpeed Type R same
i am Puga You must feel very accomplished of yourself[sarcasm]
i am Puga Can you not
AngelofSpeed Type R I can knot.
i am Puga Smh
This needs to be seen by more people. I had someone very important to me take their own life. I will never be the same, going on 6 years, it still hurts. More people have to see this!
Thank you..... Thank you for being real. Thank you for conveying what so many have felt.
Our stories may be somewhat
different but I am a survivor of depression and suicide. I attempted 4 times because I was awkward and different before I finally found help and now I could never imagine the destruction it would have been to others. We don’t forgive ourselves but we can learn from it.
Thank you for speaking out.
im still going to do it
why am i not getting ads on this video? i want you to have money for this, you really deserve it.
thank you for this David. if this saves even one person it will be amazing. it's nice to know that nobody is alone in this world and that you can get help. we're glad as a community and as human beings that you're still here and didn't end your life.
wow man thanks for sharing the full story i know its really hard to say things like that i had been suffering depression for along time its weird like i dont want to have good feelings because i feel like its just all gonna fall apart but having my skyline and Subaru is my outlet and hopefully drifting the 33 should make me feel a lot more positive and give me another outlet keep up the amazing work p.s remember you got alot of people who will always want to make you happy and positive again
The cliche "it will get better" is true.
You will meet new people who are awesome, and you also will leave people that aren't.
Three months after this whole ordeal, I met some of the best friends I've ever had at a cars and coffee. You never know how life will be in short periods or long periods of time.
Lies ...you tell!!!
I like cars so I think I can consider myself socially awkward at school... 😂 But in all seriousness, thanks for this video David. Very inspirational. 👍
David, I have been a sub of ThatDudeInBlue for about 2 years. I'm so inspired by your videos. I've never realized you had this channel as well. I'm glad I legit just found it. This was the first video I saw on it. I'm in a position where I've almost ended my life...multiple times. I feel the same as you did. I wake up everyday and tell myself that I'm worth it, to get through the day. Thanks for the video man. It oddly soothed me. Thanks.
thank you for standing up and sharing your story. a friend of mine who helped me through the summer before highschool when my family was basically falling apart took his own life two summers ago. If more people like you had shared their story I think things would have turned out much differently for him, and I know you doing this will help many more to come. I had no clue that you'd be doing this level of sharing on your second channel, but props to you David. Thank you
I genuinely disagree with this.
All these sayings
“You have so much to live for”
“People love you”
“It’s not worth it”
They’re all so incredibly dangerous to say to someone who is contemplating suicide.
You Have to understand that they’re are people who have NOTHING to live for, and people who have no one, with no mindset of it being worth it to stay alive.
Telling someone those things could be the tipping point for them, rather assuming they have things that they just somehow haven’t noticed or payed attention to, try to sit with the person and understand them, don’t hush their thoughts, and sometimes it’s good to agree with them.
If someone’s in a situation where their life is shit and they know it, don’t try to tell them otherwise. Instead sit with them, and just be with them in that moment. If it’s their final moment, if you’re with them in that final moment of them being alive, at least they didn’t go alone. Yk?
i must admit it
i think about suicide 5 to 10 time every single day for the past 4 years
Mister_Speed&Pave same
You have no idea how much these videos have been helping me. Thanks homie.
David you have touched so many people in a positive light! Never give up!
Sorry... it sometimes IS the answer. Try finding a job after a 30+ year career in a profession that no longer wants you (when you are now essentially uneducated at the age of 55). Age bias is incredible! Especially when you were bullied in high school, you lost your wife (who didn't want to be married anymore after a 25 year marriage), you lost your kids (who don't communicate anymore and were influenced by your wife who didn't want to be married any longer), you lost your job (because your bosses wanted to shed your salary)...etc... I could go on, but really, what's the point? The fact of the matter is, no one gives a shit about anyone when it comes down to it. So why isn't it the answer?
Suicide is not an answer. It's a question. And the right answer is Yes!
@@eJw2742nuh uh
Ok but we all die anyway. So why not choose your way out?
I wanna comment, I really do. But putting my story into words so that someone here could read it, I don't know. I'd love help but honestly I'm a bit scared. I have some sort of counseling but I still tear myself apart over stuff. But that's enough about me. David, thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this. Knowing that someone I'm a huge fan of, had thoughts like that, it helps. Your videos on here and your other channel really help me get through everything when I start feeling like my own worst enemy. For everyone else, If I could hug you all, believe me I would. I hope you all find better ways to get through whatever it is that's going on. I love you all and hope you are all doing better today than you were yesterday. Have a good one guys.
I'm 100% glad you're still here brother. You're an amazing dude and one of the nicest people i have met.
I'm not buying it. All that pain others inflict, so what if it is 10 times worse back on them. And, you are young and handsome. Being old and ugly is a different animal.
This guy's parents sent him to fucking film school lol, my parents gave me away before I was one. My second set of parents didn't give a single shit about higher education. I was doomed from the start.
Sometimes I think I could've gotten somewhere if I just had one person who knew how the world works and let me in on some of the horror that awaited me.
Now, after all this help from his parents, he's making money off this very video where he talks for a handful of minutes while I'm getting ready to lose my vehicle after years and years of busting my ass for peanuts and having nothing to show for it.
Sometimes I wish people could just taste what my life has been for a moment, maybe they'd understand.
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ive been following your other,channel for 2 or 3 years now.. never knew any of this. you made me cry man because ive been where you've been. Thank you for sharing this its so powerful for those who may be going through thoughts like this now.
Totally 100% support your videos and you as a person after hearing this and seeing you trying to get people together for the good. People like you are the reason why why have good people left