American Couple Reacts "8 African Traditional Marriage Customs You Need to See"

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  • Опубликовано: 8 янв 2025

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  • @aneke68
    @aneke68 Год назад +46

    The gathering for introduction is normally done after the the two adults have asked for consent/ agreed to be marry one another. The family knows about the relationship already, the events is a symbol of respect for the union of both two family. The family will not say no in most cases, and in most church and Court marriage both the bride and groom are asked if they agree to be lovely wedded so is the same concept, no one expect to hear know because is not a FORCE arrangements. It is a sign of respect for both families. Thanks!

  • @1111deebee
    @1111deebee Год назад +23

    Money spraying is a big part of Naija's (Nickname for Nigeria) weddings. In fact, I witnessed a family member realized close to $30k of money sprayed during their reception in one of Naijan's weddings in the US).

  • @kissPhamous
    @kissPhamous Год назад +38

    African traditional weddings are beautiful 😍 🇬🇭

    • @zassyhara
      @zassyhara Год назад

      That's west african not all of africa, in the east it's a whole different thing, the whole video was about west africa and central africa and some parts of southern africa and not all Africa like where is east africa - kenya, somalia, Ethiopia, Eritrea, Uganda, south sudan - there weddings are way different and yeah we all africans share things that are basic like for example wearing our traditional clothes but for regions of africa is different but we are all one but if you are gonna talk about Africa then you have to mention all of African traditional weddings and not pick a region
      as in this reaction video they just picked west African traditional weddings.

    • @khaltsharivist365
      @khaltsharivist365 Год назад +1

      @@zassyhara 3:09 Kumenya mucii is Kikuyu which is kenyan East African no? With 54 countries and over 2,000 ethnic groups it’s not practical to cover all groups. Clearly traditions vary and there are some common strands.

  • @pmwiky
    @pmwiky Год назад +50

    I can't believe he missed the tradition in several African countries where the bride and female members of her family are covered in veils from head down to their ankles. And then the groom has to correctly identify his fiance from the group with barely her toes and fingers to go by. Failure to which that bride price gonna get ridiculously high as you catch hell from the brides family especially her father for not knowing your fiance.
    It's weird fun and tense all at the same time. 😂

    • @pmwiky
      @pmwiky Год назад +5

      For reference of what I'm talking about check out a music video from Sauti Sol - Sura yako

    • @neomontja71
      @neomontja71 Год назад +7

      @Pascal Mwikya we also do that in South Africa. I was one of the ladies that was covered in a huge blanket for other two cousins at my cousin's wedding. The groom had to pick his fiancé amongst us. Every time he guessed wrong he would have to pay some money. It was cool and so much fun.

  • @blessedcaleon
    @blessedcaleon Год назад +15

    In the Akan region of Ghana, you have to pay the dowry before the traditional engagement (Marraige) before if you want to do the wedding then you can, not mandatory. The engagement is when they wear the traditional attires and most people don't do the wedding after it.

  • @ezekielvilankulu4915
    @ezekielvilankulu4915 Год назад +10

    In my Tradition, which is common in South Africa. After talking to the partner of intentions, we get to understand her family's culture and preference in terms of "Lobolo". Basically the lobola ceremony is the actual marriage , because that's where families conduct their (rituals: the etrm should not be interpreted in derogatory manner) we inform our ancestors about the families being united and ask them to unite with us and each other in the ancestral world , then a cow or prefered animal is slaughtered to unite both families as mentioned. Then in that ceremony gifts are exchanged according to protocols of both families. That's basically the marriage. That is the traditional or cultural marriage. Others take it further and conduct the European marriage, which is basically optional. Because we the country is run by Rokman-Dutch laws, then spouses will go the the Department of Home Affairs with witnesses t osign legal documents to validate the marriage . I did't go into finer details because I wanted to give a very basic explanation .Oh I need to respond to the question He asked on what happens when she says no. It doesn't get to that point because she will have made him clear long before these processes if she's not interested meaning by the time the process starts, she has long consented with him, hence the starting of the processes

  • @mticha9566
    @mticha9566 Год назад +11

    She will never say no because they will have agreed to marry each other.

  • @sampsondjonorh4987
    @sampsondjonorh4987 Год назад +9

    Watch the Ada Ada musical video by Flavour. And some wedding videos from Ghana. So colorful. Yes we're surely bridging the gap.

  • @africanglobalnomad
    @africanglobalnomad Год назад +13

    Interesting. A bit different from in Other countries in Africa. Dowry payment ceremony is so important that once it has taken place, most communities consider the relationship legit whether you do a church or Muslim or civil (not common) wedding later or not. Uganda should have been included 😂

  • @samuelofosuatuahene4706
    @samuelofosuatuahene4706 Год назад +5

    I'm only gonna speak for Ghana cos I'm Ghanaian... The bride price system varies from every tribe

  • @sthembisomsani3136
    @sthembisomsani3136 Год назад +2

    I wish you to see a Shembe traditional wedding

  • @elshadiesolomon9050
    @elshadiesolomon9050 Год назад +1

    the crown on the head of the Eritrean bride and groom is there to signify that they are members of the orthodox church. It's the church's way of rewarding them for keeping their virginity till marriage. Those who don't follow the orthodox religion don't wear the crown.

    • @elshadiesolomon9050
      @elshadiesolomon9050 Год назад +1

      And those who are not a virgin before their wedding don't get to wear them either.

  • @berryminion277
    @berryminion277 Год назад +3

    I keep coming back for more ... Tnx guys 💓💓

  • @elleniafework9926
    @elleniafework9926 Год назад +2

    Thank you for reacting I am from Ethiopia watching you.Ethiopian and eritriean wear the same wedding gawn and the former Ethiopian king grand son Prince married to American young lady in church and the ceremony was held in Orthodox church .

  • @Lulu-wv1nt
    @Lulu-wv1nt Год назад +7

    If she says No. That's the end.

  • @SpiritualMusicsounds
    @SpiritualMusicsounds Год назад +3

    Love the taste of the 4 elements

  • @Ekowaidoo
    @Ekowaidoo Год назад +5

    No, if they say no they just thank the family and leave. no beef at all.

    • @truthmatterbyoladada1462
      @truthmatterbyoladada1462 Год назад

      But it is not common in Africa to say no

    • @Ekowaidoo
      @Ekowaidoo Год назад

      @@truthmatterbyoladada1462 it depends on the lady whose hand is being asked of.

    • @truthmatterbyoladada1462
      @truthmatterbyoladada1462 Год назад

      @@Ekowaidoo ok

    • @truthmatterbyoladada1462
      @truthmatterbyoladada1462 Год назад +2

      @@Ekowaidoo but before the family introduction the couple already know they are getting married to each, the introductions are just for the traditional purposes.

    • @Ekowaidoo
      @Ekowaidoo Год назад +2

      @@truthmatterbyoladada1462 i agree

  • @claudiandlovu9208
    @claudiandlovu9208 Год назад

    04:25 that expensive diamond ring is a form of dowry in a way, he shows his ability to provide...

  • @johnnya4370
    @johnnya4370 Год назад +2

    She wouldn’t wait until that time to say no.

  • @muzimbulase
    @muzimbulase Год назад

    Hi my Demouchets people, your South African names for me are Muzi & Kefilwe. Muzi my man you're blessed with an amazing gorgeous African queen Kefilwe. Ya'll are loved & your boys too

  • @chimakalu41
    @chimakalu41 Год назад

    3:07 ibu mmanyi- Wine carrying is what it is called among the Igbos in Nigeria 🇳🇬.

  • @k-dwanks2481
    @k-dwanks2481 Год назад +4

    If she says no, it's over
    Bride price and completing the list of things needed is a must or else in Igbo culture, if you end up having kids with the lady without that then the kids belong to her family
    And in some tribes in Igbo ethnicity culture
    Even if the man ends up marrying her and completing the traditional list , the kids will still not be his
    Except they get pregnant again
    Notwithstanding for those thinking its nothing, it does have physical and spiritual implications if you go against it
    Anyhow
    For example, a woman who gets pregnant but pin the pregnancy to another man who isn't the father in Igbo ethnicity
    If he takes the kid to his village and the child drink the water from the community, the child will end up dieing

  • @mollohankabonde3593
    @mollohankabonde3593 Год назад +4

    Guys these videos are very shallow so I don’t want you to think that that’s all of it. Different tribes different marriage traditions although there’s a lot of similarities. Eg. in Tanzania if you want to marry a girl you must inform your father who will then inform his brothers and friends that you want to marry. Then you find Mshenga (agent) who will speak for you during introduction to the bride’s family. A man writes a letter of intention to marry to the bride’s family and you must put inside an equivalent of 50 dollars. The bride’s family will read the letter and then reply telling you when they want to meet with you and your Mshenga. Mshenga must be a respectable person and he must represent you well. On the due date you will go to the bride’s family and Mshenga will make an introduction for you you don’t speak. After the introduction the bride’s family will introduce themselves(at this point the entire bride’s family will be there, the father, mother, kin, grandparents if alive, aunties and uncles everybody) after the introductions the bride will be called and asked if she knows you by her father. Her answer will determine the next step, you will, after the introductions, discuss bride price. Now that’s where tensions rise especially if the girl is light skin (in some tribes not all) and has a university degree. The bride price will be higher and the negotiations will be tough. After the bride price then the groom must also fulfill traditional requirements which are not included in the bride price. These requirements are usually plenty and kind of expensive but also depends on the tribe you are marrying some tribes have ridiculous amount of requirements. They include for example a huge cooking pan, blankets, vitenge for aunties (these are traditional fabrics), shirts for the bride’s brothers, a goat, traditional alcohol, etc. If all goes well you will shake hands good food and drinks will be served. After that the groom will inform the bride’s parents when exactly he intends to engage the bride. Anyway the process is long if you want me to finish let me know because I would like you guys to learn your people’s culture.

  • @fiorikiriza
    @fiorikiriza Год назад

    The open proposal at the function is just ceremonial otherwise by the time the function is prepared all families and the intending couple already consented.

  • @AudreyApiyo
    @AudreyApiyo Год назад +1

    there is more in kenya, in my tribe grains like rice or simsim are thrown on the couple as well

  • @tellmeastory2323
    @tellmeastory2323 Год назад +1

    Great work guys. Peace!🎉

  • @enamisenam1
    @enamisenam1 Год назад +2

    Mostly before the man goes to the woman's family for knocking, he has already taken the woman's approval before going. So it's always a yes

  • @yomi7742
    @yomi7742 Год назад +5

    In many African cultures, getting married without the consent of the lady or man's parents is unthinkable. It is like a 'taboo' or an 'abomination'. The family plays the biggest role in most conjugal arrangements.
    In some cultures, if the parents of the bride or groom disagree, the wedding or marriage then becomes almost impossible. If the young man or lady go-ahead to 'join themselves', they become like 'persona non-grata'. Dowry/Bride price is compulsory in most cultures.

  • @lydiaagashamugizi5981
    @lydiaagashamugizi5981 Год назад

    The introduction to engagement to marriage is a process that can take years... depending on family. When it happens make sure the party has agreed..so NO is unheard... otherwise it's cancelled before engagement..Am in Uganda

  • @serufemotloung3398
    @serufemotloung3398 Год назад +2

    I think this is an overly summarised video, therefore he missed certain things, like in South Africa all Black cultures pay lobola not only Zulus and this is not an engagement ceremony, it is between appointed family representatives done correctly as a woman you never find out how much, the ceremony follows on a different date, due to the fact that African traditions were not recognised during apartheid, you needed a "white Wedding" for government to recognise your marriage, not any more you can register your lobola and ceremony you will get a marriage certificate, but most of us still do the "white wedding / Church wedding" administratively easier.
    there is a gift-sharing ceremony where the families exchange gifts and the bride's family gift their daughter household items, the modern time we also do a bridal shower.

  • @diananejji6003
    @diananejji6003 Год назад +3

    We love the consistancy 😍

  • @patriciamuenimulwa1808
    @patriciamuenimulwa1808 Год назад +2

    Instead of money, traditional weddings in kenya they throw rice,and in Eritrea pop corns. I think to depict fertility.

  • @sourcestvghuk9897
    @sourcestvghuk9897 Год назад +7

    😊😊😊nice one

  • @nomfunekonosilela3895
    @nomfunekonosilela3895 Год назад +15

    Please do a reaction on Traditional South African weddings e. g. Zulu, Xhosa, Venda, Tswana weddings this video was mainly west African ones so he didn't really cover the southern African ones

    • @kagi2784
      @kagi2784 Год назад

      I second her

    • @dubemellit2932
      @dubemellit2932 Год назад

      Why not do it yourself?
      Do you really have institutionalized culture or tradition when comes to marriage customs?
      Cos I know down south girls give birth freely in their fathers home.

  • @frankbediako1372
    @frankbediako1372 Год назад +2

    No is rare because they are likely already dating. If she says no, that is the end. No hard feelings! Bride prices (dowry) in Ghana are symbolic and generally inexpensive.

  • @ladydiamondprisca
    @ladydiamondprisca Год назад +1

    We pray for about 2 weeks during a wedding.

  • @ladydiamondprisca
    @ladydiamondprisca Год назад

    We party for about 2 weeks during a wedding.

  • @dommiAsmara1991
    @dommiAsmara1991 Год назад +1

    2:20 I don’t know about other cultures but in Eritrea 🇪🇷 or Ethiopia 🇪🇹 if it’s arranged marriage it would be difficult to say NO but if they chose each other, this ceremony is just traditionally to respect the families.

    • @Black-lioness
      @Black-lioness Год назад +1

      Arrange marriages are dead and gone in our society. We have managed to be civilised in that sense

    • @johaquila
      @johaquila Год назад

      I recently got pretty excited about Ethiopia and in fact have started to learn the Ge'ez script (and hope to learn Amharic). However I was quite shocked when I read that according to some old surveys by the National Committee on Traditional Practices of
      Ethiopia (20 years ago?), 69% of all existing marriages at the time were marriages by abduction. This doesn't really fit into my emerging image of Ethiopia as a forward-looking nation that is as much part of the European + Middle Eastern sphere as it is part of the African one. Is this still a big problem with widespread actual abductions in some rural regions, or has it become a rare thing with at most symbolic, consensual abductions?

    • @someone-ov5ko
      @someone-ov5ko 7 месяцев назад

      @@johaquila It's still common in the villages.

  • @lkayngobese_
    @lkayngobese_ Год назад +2

    That Camel 🐪 though 🤣

  • @gazelle20111
    @gazelle20111 Год назад

    Both of you look like Nigerians. Especially your wife. I have a friend that looks just like her… when I first started watching you both I actually thought she was a Naija babe. ❤

  • @maureenwm
    @maureenwm Год назад +5

    The couple have been dating so they have both agreed to get married before the family of the guy officially visits her parent's hime.

  • @yvesalor7413
    @yvesalor7413 Год назад +1

    The money throwing thing is a Nigerian thing and some Africans are doing it too

  • @hannahaddai4877
    @hannahaddai4877 Год назад +2

    If the bride says no it's a no

  • @ekinematics
    @ekinematics Год назад +3

    Spraying money is mostly a Nigerian thing. I'm a Nigerian and I don't encourage it, but it's deeply ingrained in the Igbo culture especially.

    • @israelaigbose8223
      @israelaigbose8223 Год назад

      Omo it's every where in Nigeria everywhere I've not seen a wedding where they don't spread money I'm from Edo state

    • @ekinematics
      @ekinematics Год назад

      @@israelaigbose8223 Yes it's everywhere now. It has become a norm nationwide.

    • @Tiktok_Reddit
      @Tiktok_Reddit Год назад

      @@ekinematicslol.. I grew up to it, it’s not a now thing

    • @kikizaza4314
      @kikizaza4314 Год назад

      In Congo, we do that from long time. But it's only the groom and groom family who throw money for the bribe family

    • @ekinematics
      @ekinematics Год назад

      @@kikizaza4314 In Nigeria everybody does it. Whether bride or groom, depends on which family/friends got it more and are willing to show off.

  • @ChimaogeOsuji
    @ChimaogeOsuji 8 месяцев назад

    There is no need for " No" from the bride cos they have agreed already before this event.

  • @e.cpitiplenstyl593
    @e.cpitiplenstyl593 Год назад +1

    Caribbean history

  • @olu3814
    @olu3814 Год назад

    Yeah we give gifts too

  • @e.cpitiplenstyl593
    @e.cpitiplenstyl593 Год назад

    Like the Caribbean culture

  • @sithembisangwenya7032
    @sithembisangwenya7032 Год назад

    IF she says no the negotiations stops and the boy family asks the boy why he sent them where he is not known , for South africa

  • @SpiritualMusicsounds
    @SpiritualMusicsounds Год назад +1

    Love it

  • @Laribuddies
    @Laribuddies Год назад +2

    In Africa we don't date we marry..it's just nowadays everything is changing but when they c u with some one they ask if he is gonna pay the bride price

    • @khaltsharivist365
      @khaltsharivist365 Год назад +1

      Which little village in Africa is that where people don’t date?

  • @justcurious2267
    @justcurious2267 Год назад +2

    wrong tribe that is being displayed at 5:37, that is a Xhosa wedding not Kenyan. The creator of that video uses a lot of South African footages and attributes them wrongly to other African tribes (which to me shows disrespect to all African cultures whom he is misrepresenting, he really needs to take time and put a corresponding clip for the tribes or ethnicity that he makes mention of. Historical colonial Caucasian people have misinterpreted African tribes, we do not need an African from the continent adding to this, he is from the continent what is with the disrespect - misinformation about a group of people, to me is just plain disrespect.)

  • @RaquelVieira-ie7yj
    @RaquelVieira-ie7yj 4 месяца назад

    Isso não é pedido de casamento para dizer não, ha negociações antes... Um casamento africano leva dias por isso não pode ser dissolvido atoa... É algo serio união das famílias ujama swahili, ucama em sena Moçambique

  • @CeeGee0301
    @CeeGee0301 Год назад

    I love the shirt🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🥰 #CP5

  • @gideonbaah2513
    @gideonbaah2513 Год назад +2

    Well mostly the guy and the girl have dated for sometime so this is formalilty to join the two families. It needs to be done

  • @raellitoo9725
    @raellitoo9725 Год назад

    Crazy thing is, Congolese people are the good time lmao

  • @lydiaagashamugizi5981
    @lydiaagashamugizi5981 Год назад

    We kneel out of respect to husband whether foreign or local...we kneel to elders as well on occasions

  • @kikizaza4314
    @kikizaza4314 Год назад +1

    We congolese, don't smile during weeding? I have never heard about that and I have never seen that. I don't know, where he got that information. It's definitively not true.

  • @calebobeng3564
    @calebobeng3564 Год назад +2

    🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭

  • @ST-tq9el
    @ST-tq9el Год назад +4

    Correction that was ethiopian wedding not Eritrean

    • @someone-ov5ko
      @someone-ov5ko 7 месяцев назад

      It's a Habesha wedding. So it can be both but mostly Eritrean since around 70% of Ethiopia's population are cushitic.

  • @soliyanadesta6797
    @soliyanadesta6797 Год назад +1

    You should do music rxn on Ethiopian music❤️ from Ethiopia

  • @Kamelhamans45
    @Kamelhamans45 Год назад

    If she say no than he not the one

  • @eunicenwanehiudo3866
    @eunicenwanehiudo3866 Год назад

    Wait oo, do Americans pay bride price?

  • @tsinatm7274
    @tsinatm7274 Год назад +3

    ✊🏾🇪🇷✊🏾🦁👑🚁🚀🔥✍🏾

  • @yvesalor7413
    @yvesalor7413 Год назад

    If she says no then it's a no so he moves on

  • @yabseragetachew1144
    @yabseragetachew1144 Год назад

    Can you do Afrobeats song reaction
    Recommend Ayra Starr (Rush)
    Love ur videos keep it up❤

  • @bismarckkyei8290
    @bismarckkyei8290 Год назад +1

    Why do you always say "colours" when you see a Ghanaian 🇬🇭 Kente cloth. 😂 You have been saying that in most of the videos about Ghana

  • @joyuyoke4999
    @joyuyoke4999 Год назад +3

    They lied, money spraying in weddings is a Nigerian thing.its the Nigerian culture .other Africans like Ghana etc copied the Nigerian style

  • @AlkebulanJahmiah
    @AlkebulanJahmiah Год назад

    Most of the time the family investigate each other families first

  • @Roldina_Mabanza
    @Roldina_Mabanza Год назад +1

    Hi...can you please react to Congolese weddings

  • @e.cpitiplenstyl593
    @e.cpitiplenstyl593 Год назад

    Why you do make content about Caribbean poeple

  • @joyuyoke4999
    @joyuyoke4999 Год назад +1

    Nigeria is the best and will always be the best

    • @fatmatakamara1866
      @fatmatakamara1866 Год назад +6

      Lol. It's not a competition, all are beautiful!

    • @mpram5522
      @mpram5522 Год назад

      You haven't seen South Africans wedding. Actually you haven't seen a Pedi marriage. It's huge

  • @fiorikiriza
    @fiorikiriza Год назад

    The open proposal at the function is just ceremonial otherwise by the time the function is prepared all families and the intending couple already consented.

  • @yabseragetachew1144
    @yabseragetachew1144 Год назад

    Can you do Afrobeats song reaction
    Recommend Ayra Starr (Rush)
    Love ur videos keep it up❤