It also gives everyone kind of a level gifting or honoring the dead. Since not everyone makes the same amount of money, it's simple to leave a stone because everyone can pick up a stone to leave, showing that they've been there and that the person was loved. My son's father is Jewish by birth and since I had custody of them as they grew up , I was the one who would take them to visit the graves. We would take Sabbath walks once a month to remember our loved ones and look for stones to take to them. My oldest now does that with his kids even though they weren't even born before we lost most family.
I have also heard that when a rock is placed on the grave it indicates that someone has visited and done each time one comes by to visit that loved one.
Thank you for taking the time to take this persons question and researching it! We have a Jewish Cemetery 2 miles away! Exploring it will be most interesting!
Hi Kari 😊 Nice video. I put pretty stones on family graves for reasons stated. I knew it was from Jewish Faith & liked the idea. I always remember you were so nice to answer a question about cremation for my friend. You answered so quickly. You are so nice and work with great respect to the people you care for in their last time. You're an inspiration ! 🙏✝️💜
I had to live in s/e KY. I love it. But my question is, I saw a lot of small family cementarys and saw a lot of graves with roofs built over them. Like car ports. Whats with thst???.
I do this with anyone's grave, no matter what their faith. To me it says "you mattered, I care". And I also do this with a coin too. It is a very common custom, I noticed, in the Civil War south. Love your videos!
Being of the Jewish faith, I leave a rock, to show that someone was at the gravesite, and that they were leaving their thoughts of love and caring for that person. To tell you the truth, I do that at all the gravesites, no matter the faith. It shows respect for that person, let alone their family. I don't visit graves, as much as I did. But, I carry a few rocks in my car, should I need some. Some people leave objects of many kinds, instead of rocks. Either way, it makes a loving statement. These rocks can also be placed at the foot of the headstone, instead of the top. And some grave markets, are totally flat, so the stones are placed on the market, or stone. Small rocks are used, not boulders. It would a little strange, if you trucked in a 25 ton boulder to show your love. I guess that would work, if your pet elephant died, but maybe not a human. It's the thought, that counts. And in our current times, please wear a face mask or covering. You sure don't want to get sick from someone or get them sick. I'm not talking about the residents of the cemetery. For some reason, they don't need a mask!
Hi Kari, I enjoy your videos very much and they have been very helpful to me. I am a member of the local chevra kadisha/Jewish burial society, so I routinely was, dress and place the body of male members of our community into the casket. I have been a member now for 11 years and have dealt with most of the conditions of a body that you have discussed including embalming which rarely happens when someone who is not traditional wants to be buried in the mausoleum section and our county ordinance requires embalming; we wash and dress the body after embalming has been performed. This is a great explanation of leaving a stone on a tombstone. I frequently visit my husband Michael (z"l) and leave colored stones when I visit his grave because he loved bright colors. Would you consider doing a segment on a Jewish burial and the work of the burial society? I have made some wonderful friendships with the staff at the two funeral homes our community uses and I have nothing but respect for your profession. Thanks! Jason
I was told in Israel that you leave a rock when visiting a grave so that the next person who visits doesn't feel like they are grieving this person's passing alone. I've found it to be a beautiful thought.
Great video! My family is of Jewish heritage, and although we're not religious, I love many of the traditions. Is it acceptable for only family members to place rocks on a Jewish person's headstone, or can someone who knew them and wants to show respect and remembrance do so?
Thanks Kari for answering this! I have seen this before at Oakland Cemetery in Atlanta in both Jewish sections. In the old Jewish section they are buried standing up. From what I have read it is to conserve space and get as many in one area as possible. I have also read that some believe there bodies are looking up at Heaven waiting for God. Since I am a Christian, it makes this theory even harder to believe.
I have never heard of this being done and I am a member of a Jewish burial society in my city. Traditionally we bury a body supine with the head facing West and the feet facing East. Since we do not embalm and we use wooden caskets designed to decompose roughly the same rate as the body, in old Jewish cemeteries family members are often buried on top of an older burial because the body is usually reduced to bones by the time the next burial takes place. In Europe the bones are reverently gathered up and reburied a couple of feet below the new burial. This is how we have traditionally dealt with limited space.
I was a soldier in the South. A lady from a local ongregation came to our shabbat service. I was blown away to hear a Jewsih lady with a southern accent.
In the Jewish religion, stones are placed with the left hand on graves to symbolize that the memory and legacy of a loved one last forever. Flowers are not placed on Jewish graves because they soon die and do not last forever.
It also gives everyone kind of a level gifting or honoring the dead. Since not everyone makes the same amount of money, it's simple to leave a stone because everyone can pick up a stone to leave, showing that they've been there and that the person was loved.
My son's father is Jewish by birth and since I had custody of them as they grew up , I was the one who would take them to visit the graves. We would take Sabbath walks once a month to remember our loved ones and look for stones to take to them. My oldest now does that with his kids even though they weren't even born before we lost most family.
chrissyzcreationz What a beautiful and thought provoking post. Thank you so much.🌺
SO true
That is so true! I love that you did that with them!
Thank you for honoring their heritage.
A very loving and wonderful gesture!
Yes!
I have also heard that when a rock is placed on the grave it indicates that someone has visited and done each time one comes by to visit that loved one.
A show of quantity of visits
Thank you for taking the time to take this persons question and researching it! We have a Jewish Cemetery 2 miles away! Exploring it will be most interesting!
It was my honor!
Hi KARI ✋ THANKS FOR YOUR VIDEO. VERY INTERESTING !!! THANKS!! YOU HAVE A GOOD DAY!!! 👍
Thank you! You too!
@@KaritheMortician YOU WELCOME
Hi Kari 😊 Nice video. I put pretty stones on family graves for reasons stated. I knew it was from Jewish Faith & liked the idea. I always remember you were so nice to answer a question about cremation for my friend. You answered so quickly. You are so nice and work with great respect to the people you care for in their last time. You're an inspiration ! 🙏✝️💜
Thank you so much :)
@@KaritheMortician 😊
Love set in stone lasts the ages.
Its beautiful!
That is beautiful. So much of the Jewish faith is really lovely.
Very interesting I never knew why thank you for that Kari
You are so welcome!
I had to live in s/e KY. I love it. But my question is, I saw a lot of small family cementarys and saw a lot of graves with roofs built over them. Like car ports. Whats with thst???.
Native American Spirit house. I have a 2 minute video on it
I do this with anyone's grave, no matter what their faith. To me it says "you mattered, I care". And I also do this with a coin too. It is a very common custom, I noticed, in the Civil War south. Love your videos!
Love it!
Very helpful video Kari😊
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks, Kari! Always wanted to know the meaning of the rocks and coins ❤ the painted rocks are so pretty.
Happy to help!
Good morning Kari Northey!
Good morning!
Being of the Jewish faith, I leave a rock, to show that someone was at the gravesite, and that they were leaving their thoughts of love and caring for that person. To tell you the truth, I do that at all the gravesites, no matter the faith. It shows respect for that person, let alone their family. I don't visit graves, as much as I did. But, I carry a few rocks in my car, should I need some. Some people leave objects of many kinds, instead of rocks. Either way, it makes a loving statement. These rocks can also be placed at the foot of the headstone, instead of the top. And some grave markets, are totally flat, so the stones are placed on the market, or stone.
Small rocks are used, not boulders. It would a little strange, if you trucked in a 25 ton boulder to show your love. I guess that would work, if your pet elephant died, but maybe not a human.
It's the thought, that counts.
And in our current times, please wear a face mask or covering.
You sure don't want to get sick from someone or get them sick.
I'm not talking about the residents of the cemetery. For some reason, they don't need a mask!
Thanks for doing this video. We are Jewish and have tried to explain this to people and they just don't get it. Thanks.
You are very welcome!!
Thanks for the nice information, I didn't understand it before......from Iraq🙏❤🇮🇶
Glad it was helpful!
Best Regards❤🙏
Hi Kari, I enjoy your videos very much and they have been very helpful to me. I am a member of the local chevra kadisha/Jewish burial society, so I routinely was, dress and place the body of male members of our community into the casket. I have been a member now for 11 years and have dealt with most of the conditions of a body that you have discussed including embalming which rarely happens when someone who is not traditional wants to be buried in the mausoleum section and our county ordinance requires embalming; we wash and dress the body after embalming has been performed. This is a great explanation of leaving a stone on a tombstone. I frequently visit my husband Michael (z"l) and leave colored stones when I visit his grave because he loved bright colors. Would you consider doing a segment on a Jewish burial and the work of the burial society? I have made some wonderful friendships with the staff at the two funeral homes our community uses and I have nothing but respect for your profession. Thanks! Jason
Thanks so much Jason!
I had no idea! Thanks for letting us know!
Any time!
I always wondered about that and I also wonder about placing coins on headstones. Thank you Kari
You are welcome
Military usually leaves a coin on headstones.
Thank you Kari. I have always wondered...
You are so welcome!
Very well done. You might want to do a video on the meaning on coins left on veteran's graves.
I will!
Some people do it to let other loved ones know that a loved one recently visited!!
Yes!
I was told in Israel that you leave a rock when visiting a grave so that the next person who visits doesn't feel like they are grieving this person's passing alone. I've found it to be a beautiful thought.
Thank you for sharing this
Great video! My family is of Jewish heritage, and although we're not religious, I love many of the traditions. Is it acceptable for only family members to place rocks on a Jewish person's headstone, or can someone who knew them and wants to show respect and remembrance do so?
I believe it is anyone
Thanks Kari for another good informative video! Can you do a two minute on why people leave money on Headstones?
Yes I can
@@KaritheMortician That would be great!
Awesome video❤❤
Thank you!
Thank you!! 💜
You're so welcome!
Thanks Kari for answering this! I have seen this before at Oakland Cemetery in Atlanta in both Jewish sections. In the old Jewish section they are buried standing up. From what I have read it is to conserve space and get as many in one area as possible. I have also read that some believe there bodies are looking up at Heaven waiting for God. Since I am a Christian, it makes this theory even harder to believe.
That is something I have not seen around here but would like to look into
I have never heard of this being done and I am a member of a Jewish burial society in my city. Traditionally we bury a body supine with the head facing West and the feet facing East. Since we do not embalm and we use wooden caskets designed to decompose roughly the same rate as the body, in old Jewish cemeteries family members are often buried on top of an older burial because the body is usually reduced to bones by the time the next burial takes place. In Europe the bones are reverently gathered up and reburied a couple of feet below the new burial. This is how we have traditionally dealt with limited space.
I was a soldier in the South. A lady from a local ongregation came to our shabbat service. I was blown away to hear a Jewsih lady with a southern accent.
Kari, you should do two minutes on what is a mortician?
Have I not done that?!
@@KaritheMortician yes
Is it okay to take a rock from the headstone as a keepsake or is that disrespectful?
No you should not
knew about the above ground predation, but not below ground
thank you
I was told the rocks kept the spirit of the body with the dead. Not sure if that's true or not.
Very interesting
@Avner Barak ty for clarifying that
If you want to read more about mourning and burial rituals in Judaism, The Jewish Book of Why has a chapter that is very informative
Judaism is such a rich and loving culture. Very-interesting little video.
I think it’s such a beautiful tradition.
Thank you
If you leave a bigger rock it shows that you care more and had to work harder to put it there. That's why sometimes you see boulders there.
interesting
Thank yoou
you are welcome!
Kari what do you think about drains ?
For burials?
@@KaritheMortician no in general
@@KaritheMortician I'm just poking fun at you lol i remember on one of your videos that you said that drains freak you out 😂😂
have coins left on them?
I'll find out
thats cool i would probably paint the rock before leaving it there
The one had gorgeously painted stones. Very cool.
In the Jewish religion, stones are placed with the left hand on graves to symbolize that the memory and legacy of a loved one last forever. Flowers are not placed on Jewish graves because they soon die and do not last forever.
Rocks are free in most cases too!
So true
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Thanks I am in the uk not jewish always wondered
Thanks!
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Interesting, so why do some headstones
have coins left on them?
:)
I will get that answer also
Rocks are free
True
I wonder do you have to be Jewish if you just want to leave a pretty rock?
Not at all!
2nd!!!
Thanks!
Are you Jewish kari
The only place for rocks. Are in your head. Seek help Kari. Plenty out there
Thanks for that input
Lol......don’t think many people will be leaving rocks on your headstone....are you afraid of that? Just birds pooping on your headstone!
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