All women? You're going to blame all women? The actual truth is that some women are trying to be better for their potential partners. This issue isn't a man vs. woman thing, it's secure vs. insecure, confidence vs. lack of confidence, understanding vs. misunderstanding, trying vs. not trying.
@ when did I say all? And yes it’s the women (not all) that have created this current situation we find ourselves in. They are the ones not reciprocating in the dating market. Where have you been for the past few decades!!??
@@joelbellJBFor the past few decades ,people have been getting married.If you have a negative attitude,you may not be attracting quality women,that may be the issue.
@@joelbellJB Okay, you wrote "it's the women," which could easily be taken to me "all the women." But I'll concede. Despite that, I hope you realize that it's also "the men (not all)" that have created this situation, too. Where have I been the last few decades? Well, I was married for 20 years, and for the last 3 1/2 years I've been dating, probably two or three dozen first dates, many second dates and beyond, and now, as of a couple of weeks ago, maybe entering into a long-term relationship. I've likely had more dating successes and, more importantly, failures than you. You say women don't reciprocate. I don't find that to be the case at all. I've had women offer to pay for meals and event tickets, I've had women suggest date ideas, give me gifts and I've had women make first contact with me. In my experience, they most certainly do reciprocate, maybe not at the same rate as men, but over the years society has set things up so the men are the ones that are "supposed" to take charge. But that responsibility is slowly averaging out so that men and women are both starting to take equal levels of responsibility in dating.
In order to get the women you first need to earn the respect from the other people around you through personal accomplishments/achievements. How do you do that? By being above average in as many ways as possible than most everyday guys. Remember that women only like bold-looking, influential guys with style and personality. I'll give you a random example: When you're at a bar and you see someone smoking a cuban cigar while you smoke a common cheap cigarette who do you think women will like more, you or him? Another example: If you're at a bar where 98% of guys order a coffee or a hot chocolate to drink while you order 2-3 glasses of whisky who do you think women will like more, them or you? All I'm trying to tell you is that you have to stand out from the crowd in as many ways as possible. Yet another example: Most guys have shaved, baby-like faces so when you have a manly moustache who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get what I'm saying? Another example: When others wear common cheap shoes while you wear a badass pair of cowboy boots who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get it now?
1)Take Initiative 2)Prioritize your physical presentation 3)Embrace the power of mystery 4)Become well rounded 5)Build confidence through action 6)Master emotional intelligence Your channel has been so helpful. Happy holidays to you and yours. Thanks for all the amazing videos.
biggest problem for men is to even find a possible partner and meeting girls today is mission impossible. you rarely find single good women, they either taken or jumps from one relationship to another so the compettion is very high. i havent encountered any possible partner through work,hobbys and social activitys the last 5 years and it seems like the one you maybe feel is right , they dont find you attractive enough. so the game is so hard that many just gives up and follow their reachable dreams like , career , hobbys and life goals . no reason to wait and hope for the best. live life and see what comes around.
I'm married and old, so I'm not looking, but this doesn't seem like a problem at all to me....women are everywhere and many seem available. I think many men's "standards" may be too high.
@@garypierce7380 that’s laughable, have you even been paying attention? There has always been low tier men, but these men were never an option to begin with. We have a new phenomenon where women’s partner selecting strategy is openly unchecked, encouraged, applauded, and is the mainstream narrative. Where men’s is now considered “bad”, we used to have similar status people pair off with one another, for example an average man with an average woman. But since women’s “segsual” liberation we now have low tier, average and high tier women all demanding higher tier men (and getting them) This has led to a situation where the significant majority of men are left with zero prospects of a partner, and the top tier men getting access to almost all of the women. The average man is no longer good enough for the average woman. This is why ours marriage, birth, and dating rates have been dropping like a rock for the past 50 years. How do you not know this by now?
I like the concept of "going your own way", but that does not help you to "stand out" at all, by no meaning of the phrase. I've gone through this, I know. Now I can live with minimal human contact and I kind of like it, but "minimal human contact" does not "stand out" to other people at all. They just don't know you exist. Sometimes it's OK, but "standing out" is not the correct term for it.
How to Stand Out to Women in 2025 1. Take Initiative Plan thoughtful dates, follow up, communicate clearly, and be consistent. 2. Improve Appearance Maintain grooming, dress well, and choose a signature scent. 3. Be Mysterious Share authentically but pace disclosures to maintain intrigue. 4. Be Well-Rounded Cultivate hobbies, stay curious, and engage in meaningful conversations. 5. Build Confidence Through Action Achieve goals, step out of your comfort zone, and lead decisively. 6. Master Emotional Intelligence Be attentive, adapt to social cues, and create meaningful connections. 7. Focus on Connection Prioritize making her feel valued over trying to impress.
All you guys here should remember that what Courtney is talking about is what _you_ can do to make yourself more attractive. What she's saying isn't going to change shallow women, and it's not intended to. So please don't blame women as a whole by saying they're only interested in money and looks. There are women for whom that doesn't matter. And be honest with yourselves - are you going to date someone you're not attracted to, whether physically or otherwise? Are you shallow if you're not attracted to a woman who's not what you're looking for? Most women aren't looking for guys like you... or like me. But someone out there is, so you might as well do what it takes to improve the odds. It doesn't mean making yourself into someone you're not, it means improving who you already are.
I think if you are going to be direct and confident, you need to remember that it is done with intention. Eg: "I like spending time with you" if her response is vague, slow, or avoidant, then it is time to move on. A good response is her setting up the next date
Thanks Courtney. I've been watching your videos for well over a year now. Even took your advice on fragrances and bought the Guerlain L'Homme. Great suggestion 👍. LOTS of compliments.
Some very good points made in this video but i ask what is the point of men even trying when quite clearly women just take the piss when it comes to guys trying to stand out. There are no decent woman out there worth bothering with.
As someone who went on three dates with the same woman in the last month, my advice is this: focus on getting to know each other and stay positive. For me, this worked extremely well because it gave me a chance to reflect more on what I want from a romantic relationship. I may still be single, and that's okay, because I'm proud and thankful for what I've learned and experienced recently, and I feel ready and encouraged to continue dating in the coming year!
Just know you can do everything said as well as within the book to stand out BUT if she doesn't like you or find you attractive it doesn't matter. You are to continue to pick yourself up, move on, and try again. Over and over until someone recognizes you for who you are, what you stand for and how you treat those around you then appreciates that. Until then get used to the turbulence of dating, ghosting, situtionships, hookup culture and being rejected.
I think the idea her is just to live your best life in 2025, and take the opportunities when presented. I think that I possess many of these qualities, I just need to get out of my comfort zone and actually talk ;;to more people, women included. To that end I am going to call tomorrow and ask the company setting up a speed dating event in my town what the age groups for the event are. Aa long as the ages aren't too much lower than mine I am going to get a ticket even though it terrifies me. Merry Christmas to all and don't give up hope, success comes when you least expect it.
I clearly standout to women yet few are of any interest to me. It’s a game in which I choose not to play. It’s the place and time where this occurs which really matters. Had plenty of attention at the club, not the place to meet..
1) Taking initiative: I'm not doing that unless we have a relationship already established. I'm not an idiot. 2) Physical care/fashion: I'm already doing it and apparently that's bare minimum since it didn't change anything. 3) Being mysterious: I don't talk about myself that much but this also made some girls be afraid of me for some reason. Do they want to discover me or do I have to reveal myself more? Make up your mind! 4) Being well-rounded: I did this through my entire childhood, and not the girls I've met. They should measure up instead of asking, asking and asking. 5) Confidence through action: I can be quite confident in my workplace. Not just girls, everyone trusts in what I do. Again, this doesn't take me anywhere. Also, what exactly is it to girls if I tackle some challenges? I do them for myself. How does a girl (or anyone) benefit from me learning Tagalog for example? I'm not going to speak Tagalog in my daily routine. This part reminds me of women's tendency of waiting at the finish line of a parkour and picking the winner guy for themselves, instead of running alongside him. Which I find ABSOLUTELY UNATTRACTIVE in a woman. 6) Emotional intelligence: I'll give credit for this since I'm recovering from a years long depression. However, my 4 years younger brother went through the same and he has a 3-years old and still going relationship (they met through Discord) while I am still alone. Courtney. It seems to me that your advices are getting stale. Either come up with a new solution or stop giving us false hope. But why the heck I am giving lecture to someone who's still getting sponsorship from shady companies like BetterHelp is beyond me.
In order to get the women you first need to earn the respect from the other people around you through personal accomplishments/achievements. How do you do that? By being above average in as many ways as possible than most everyday guys. Remember that women only like bold-looking, influential guys with style and personality. I'll give you a random example: When you're at a bar and you see someone smoking a cuban cigar while you smoke a common cheap cigarette who do you think women will like more, you or him? Another example: If you're at a bar where 98% of guys order a coffee or a hot chocolate to drink while you order 2-3 glasses of whisky who do you think women will like more, them or you? All I'm trying to tell you is that you have to stand out from the crowd in as many ways as possible. Yet another example: Most guys have shaved, baby-like faces so when you have a manly moustache who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get what I'm saying? Another example: When others wear common cheap shoes while you wear a badass pair of cowboy boots who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get it now?
You've somehow been hurt, and it's giving you a bad attitude. Having a bad attitude is going to hamper your efforts to find a loving partner. But I can tell you from my own very recent experience that what Courtney is saying is true. I discovered a lot of these things on my own over time. Not all of what she says is easy to adopt for many of us, myself included. But I worked hard and overcame things.
"As a single man, it feels asinine to even think that I would invite someone to live with me, share my stuff, let her spend my money, periodically making me uncomfortable in my own home, judging the way I have been living all my life, and taking half of my belongings with her whenever she decides to leave!!! No thanks, I am good 😁 " - copied
In reading the comment section, I don’t think young men and middle aged men truly understand that the difference between success and failure is just a little more effort. If you shoot for the stars, but land on the moon, you’re still standing on the dang moon. You don’t have to be perfect. The difference is you can’t shoot for the stars if you don’t take that first step.
You aren't wrong and your advice seems reasonable. Only after decades of no success at all after trying everything over and over.. it is difficult to stay positive (i'm 45 and the most success so far was 2 dates with the same woman)
Almost always. Yet when we share this experience, women degrade us and gaslight us into thinking we choose the wrong woman. It is sick. They literally do what they say other women don't. Lol.
Open up slowly (advice I don't always follow, but women seem to be okay with it), and realize that if the woman does use it against you she's not worth your time and attention anyway, as much as it might hurt.
@@davidabarak We are telling you we have done it with dozens of women and *most* use it against men. And you shame us by gaslighting us into believing it is us choosing wrong. Or, this is a habit we noticed. Look, men are just as pathetic. But at least I admit it.
It's all about standing out from the crowd. Most people (or should I say "sheeple") are too dumb to realise that. We live in an evil world where you have to be strong to survive, if you're weak and pathetic others will take advantage of you and rightfully so. Appearance is the first thing we all look in others, so if you look like a turd with legs you should not wonder why you're still single. Now, how does one stand out from the crowd? Self-improvement is the answer, improving yourself in all possible ways, both externally and internally, every change - be it small or big - matters and brings you closer and closer to the man you're dreaming of becoming. A man of high value is a strong man that is independent, takes care of himself and is able to provide for a woman to make her feel safe in his (veiny) arms. As a man you have to be a badass and you owe to establish a fearsome image so others will know not to mess with you at the first glance, so level up and stop crying or stay average forever. Most women interact with tens (if not hundreds) of guys in daily basis and for as long as you look like a commoner just like the rest of them women won't want to even spit on you. I'll give you a random example: Let's say that you're at a small local bar where most guys smoke cheap cigarettes and dress like immature teenagers wearing hoodies but you take out a Cuban cigar from a leather case and light it up with an S. T. Dupont lighter, plus having a manly moustache and wearing a bespoke suit, guess who'll the waitress notice!
I don't say this to be mean, I find your content wonderful or I wouldn't be here. I wish more were as optimistically impassionate as you. However, we should always call out something wrong when it is wrong. Men don't feel the market (dating world) is competitive. We know it is the opposite. There is no competition, and instead it has become a monopoly. We know the top get to share the women, as well as the bottom. In the middle, those are the forgotten ones. Boring men that can't stand out. Which is the majority of men, and in fact the majority of people. That is the first of many problems in this video. But if that cannot be understood, then men are not understood.
_"We know the top get to share the women..."_ I disagree. My dating life as a short guy with gray and white hair (what's left of it) and moderately adequate bank account has been pretty darned good, and it looks like I'm now entering into a relationship with a woman who I would have considered way out of my league - beautiful, sexy, intelligent, loving, fun. By traditional standards, I'm not at the top of the male food chain. In terms of superficial traits - looks and money - I'm definitely "Mr. Middle of the Bell Curve." For about a decade, I had a hard time asking women out, and in that time I think I went on one date. None of that was the fault of women. However, I worked on building my self esteem, and I realized that being turned down by someone I asked out on a date wasn't the end of the world. There are guys out there who are obese, very short, completely bald, poor, sick, whatever, yet they manage find find women to love and who love them. It's all about how you make the other person feel. Do you make them feel interesting? Do you make them feel appreciated? Do you make them feel attractive (without being obnoxious)? Do you make them feel comfortable around you? All the guys out there who think they can't find a woman are wrong. Period. (And the same goes for women who think they can't find a good man, or men and men or women and women).
@@davidabarak A few things I should point out. Unless you are dating 18-39, your topic on this was irrelevant. We are talking about more than just 45+, or when our hair turns grey or white (I am 41 and date 32 to 42). This is because you cannot speak on the younger generation as though you know them, and that is their age. But let's go over you personally/looks just from what I can tell, vs the average man. Personality-wise you were average, you never initiated, seemed awkward, only went on one date. That's about 80% of men and for most men, a tremendous change to make. Now, you have charisma to an exceptional level. Yes, you do. Not because you are super charismatic but because most men have such a dearth of it. You are also moderately financially successful, ie., very above average. Physically, you are at an age this doesn't matter. It used to. Now it doesn't. So I can't say you are average there or above average. Of course you might be dating 18-30 year olds, so if you are I stand corrected. You just don't seem like that type of guy. But overall, you are exceptional, and just believe you are average because men are led to believe they are less than what they are. In no way what you shared about yourself gives off average impressions.
All of these tips work great IF the woman finds you highly attractive to begin with, think top 5% attractive. If they are not already attracted to you none of this goes the way you say. Average is not even acceptable these days and believe it or not its called average because that's what most of us are. If they don't find you attractive already it goes from "assertive" to "creepy" really fast. It's just not worth it.
@kevindonaldson8655 wow, thanks for that, I never would have even considered putting any effort in. I'm sorry man but if you read the post you really didn't understand what it says.
I'm guessing you watched this clip to the end? However things work out for you, it'll be down to you and your efforts AND ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ELSE. Think of it like Natural Selection. Which country do you live in my friend? It doesn't matter, I'm just nosey. I live in northern England near York.
@@MrTJMaddox What are you laughing at? Dress bold and act like a man. If you dress and act like a kid then of course women will not like you. Wear a suit, not a t-shirt. Wear boots, not casual shoes. You have to stand out from the crowd in order for women to like you.
Courtney, After the first date, many others say to leave her alone for a few days without any contact or suggestion for a next date so she can process the first date and develop a pursuing attraction for the guy. What do you think about this from your point of view?
I hope you don't mind an answer from a guy. In my case, I often will contact the woman right after the date to let her know I enjoyed the time with her and to bring up the possibility of a second date. This is of course only if I found the woman attractive, and not just physically. It seems to me it's less about how often you make contact, but more about the woman herself and her initial impressions of you. I personally find it to be almost miraculous that two people out of eight billion can find each other and fall in love... but it happens!
Maybe do a video on guys showing interest and appreciation without pedalstalizing women? The burden is always placed on the guy, who is always expected to make the first move. To me, this pedalstalizes women. This needs to stop. Let there be equal and shared dialogue, risks, and burdens right from the start. Guys can approach, act, and react accordingly if they know the girls reaction mistakes. I hope this makes sense.
You probably look better than me (Look up "Thomas Crooks" for reference. I essentially look like him but worse) I once posted my face onto the amiugly subreddit some time back and got brutally made fun of (which is hilarious considering they tend to coddle not so good-looking people)
Some feedback: you have a lot of great concrete examples talking about how to be proactive, but when talking about how to maintain mystery you only talked at a high level vaguely without any concrete examples, making it much harder to grasp
How to stand out: Be over 6ft tall, expensive clothes, car, and make 6 figures, and be model like in appearance. Let's be honest with ourselves here, guys like me it doesn't matter what cologne or what I wear, it'll always be because i'm short and bald and don't make 6 figures. Plus toss in that I'm almost deaf, no girl wants to deal with a disabled person. Truth is all over social media what girls want and its the top 5%.
None of this other stuff would really be needed if ur model-like in appearance (and wouldn't amount to really much for the sub5s like myself) *"because i'm short and bald and don't make 6 figures."* Yeah, balding/being bald is a killer. Can pretty much make an average joe a sub5.
TL;DR Turn your life into a daytime soap opera. Look like you have a professional wardrobe, makeup, and scriptwriting department behind you. Be emotional and sappy. Just make sure you follow the soap opera trope, "Always leave them wanting more!" As long as you have five lifetime's worth of activities in your past and future to make you continuously interesting, you can look as ugly as a supporting actor and still get the hot woman.
I got a hot woman and I'm not wealthy, I'm not particularly physically attractive and I don't have a very vivid personal life. The bottom line is how you make the other person feel. Do you make them feel appreciated and comfortable? That's truly all it takes. That's not a guarantee you'll get the woman you want who's right in front of you right now, but it certainly raises the odds a lot that you'll eventually find that woman.
@@davidabarak It takes a lot more than her feeling appreciated & comfortable. If that's all it took, there wouldn't be millions of men spending a fortune on women.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm Of course there are other things - a woman also needs to feel secure, for one thing, and if she feels she's going to have to support you financially or that she's going to have to mother you, then it's not going to work. But I still believe the biggest things are to make her feel appreciated and comfortable.
Hang in there. I didn't have my first real relationship until I was 37 (well, 36, but that first year was long distance), and I didn't do a whole lot of dating before that time. Trust me, it WILL happen for you.
Standing out DOES mean we need to be perfect in today's dating world. Taking initiative doesn't mean anything if you're not perfect in the eyes of the woman you approach. Some men want to be passive and want women to take initiative and ask them out. I know there are other men who want women to approach them. Prioritizing physical presentation means we DO need to look like a model. Many attractive men still get rejected when they approach women. I'm attractive, I dress well, and I keep my body healthy. Women never say yes when I ask them out and that could mean I'm not good enough in their eyes. Being mysterious only works if you look like a model. Women ask me for my social media account when I ask them out. Some women want to judge men by what they share on social media. What someone puts on their social media account could be a lie. You can be the most well-rounded man in the world. It won't mean anything if you don't get a chance to show you are well-rounded. If a woman isn't attracted to you then you won't get a first date to show how special you are. Being confident through action depends on how women perceive you. I'm confident and I approach women with confidence. Women never give me a chance. Confidence only matters if she's attracted to you. A lot of men haven't mastered emotional intelligence and they get attention from a lot of women because they are rich or very attractive. Women will complain about these men and ask "where are all the good men?" They are ignoring the good men because they're not attracted to them.
Do I look like a model? I'm guessing the answer is "no." (Sure, looks play a part in romance, but it's not as big a part as you think.) Despite being an aging, slightly balding, out of shape guy with a very modest bank account, I managed to form a loving, growing relationship with a woman who's absolutely beautiful, inside and out. You just need to find the right woman, and that takes time and perseverance.
As a woman, we like it when we are interested. It’s that simple. If there is a genuine interest in seeing someone again then we WANT a next day text of “I had a great time yesterday. I’m interested in seeing you again, maybe we can do XYZ thing this weekend.” If we aren’t interested we will (or at least SHOULD make it known). Saying you had a good time and wanna see someone again isn’t clingy, it’s kind. Obsessively texting after or demanding to see someone the next day is insane, though. Declaring “you could be the one” after the first date is also bananas, not romantic. A good mature woman will be scared off by love bombing and obsessive behavior.
In my opinion, if you feel that you had a good date, then sending the follow up text is actually worth doing because you'll have a lot more to gain than to lose. You'll know from the text whether she wants to spend more time with you, and that way, you'll be able to move on to whatever comes next.
What I want to know is how to deal with constant rejection. I approach IRL "I have a bf" or "no thanks" has been every reaction ive gotten. Not to mention the "matches" that immediately unmatch after you message. I've just completely given up on it. Why even try? I dress nice, make good money, im well rounded and have hobbies. Its just me and ive given up on it.
I think people like Courtney probably mean well, but the reality is only a small handful of men are attractive to women and if you're not there really isn't anything you can do about it. Approaching women doesn't mean anything, they will absolutely chase that small handful of attractive men. The only thing you can really do if you're not attractive is lead with money and you will be able to get into relationships with women that realize they're never going to get the women they'd prefer. I would highly suggest through keeping these relationships on an "at will" basis and not getting married. Their behavior will be a lot better when they're subject to dismissal without a golden parachute divorce.
@MarkPlace-wb5xg I have and will completely ignore women like that. I spent 10 years with a woman who chose "her happiness" over her family. The world is very different from the last time I was single. Being 33 now, it seems like it's pretty much over. I invest in myself, and that's all I have.
@lordjungalee No. I read a lot of blueprints for both of my jobs. That takes up alot of my time. It's possible im missing that. Then again, I'm also not looking for it actively. So there is that.
*_I’m looking for SERIOUS ANSWERS._* For all the sub5s (means you are within the bottom 20% of attractiveness) who disagree with taxing the childless, Can you please answer this question: Even if the system is so rigged that only Chads are having kids with women and starting families, then why should Chads kids be taxed later in life to pay for your pension and healthcare? How is that fair for Chads kids to be subjugated and forced to look after a bunch of old people (via taxes) when those kids had nothing to do with said old people? You might say some of your tax money went to putting Chads kids through school, which is true. But Chad paid those taxes aswell AND he uptook the main responsibility (& financial cost) of raising his kids. So if Chads kids started working and got to choose which elderly people they wanted to look after most, surely they would pick their own mother and father? *_I repeat, I’m looking for SERIOUS ANSWERS. It’s pointless commenting if you’re only going to express your emotional reaction to my posts instead of giving a logical response to the prompt_*
(in singing voice) Stand out!!! woo woo Stand out! Well said, Courtney well said. Just like once and awhile on here I trickle a bit of my personality here and there without going full blown release the floodgates on what Courtney video is about.
@@garypierce7380 Because....plot twist....she is kind of a famous athlete...and she literally doesn't know I exist because it is a distance crush...lol. I have to be in the same city as her to ask her out.
When you tell yourself you have nothing to lose and you damn well mean it. You will start to win. And if you fall, keep falling so hard until you can't no more. You will rise like a phoenix.
I am begining to find these videos funny -lets se how far into it she will say men shall have more confidence. In her last it was approx 1.57 minutes in- lets see if we break the record today.....I will edit later when I know the answer... 18 seconds only, and the magig word confidence are said............new record
Simple. Just look away and mind your own business. It will freak them out. Stand out like what she is explaining in the video as long as you don't interact with women. They will approach you instead.
I can vouch for the advice Courtney has given. I just recently began a new relationship that's been moving along very nicely, and believe it's because I put into practice the same things Courtney mentioned.
Yeah, but not everyone can become what she describes. It is laughable that she just makes it so easy. Her advise if we applied it to her gender would be, "Hey fatty, just lose 300 pounds. As simple as that!" That is not simple. Just be confident? You know how hard that is for the vast majority of men? Especially in this world that shames men daily? Just get a six pack, just make millions, just be confident. Jesus, this is silly.
This is always bewildering to me because I go out in public daily and every day I see men paired up with women who obviously are not all of those things. Men in my own family are not all those things and they are happily married. Confused how this statement is so clearly untrue yet gets thrown around so often.
@@poeticeclipse I'm certain it's regional. But if you lived where I do in South Florida, you would not see the partner mismatches very frequently if at all.
@ small world. I live in Florida and visit south Florida often, as that’s where my partner’s parents are. One of my best work friends live in Miami and is 100% not any of the sixes (to my knowledge) and he does well dating. Great personality, funny, and even confident despite not being the most physically attractive. I think the key is to be self aware and know if you’re not a 10 in looks, make up for it elsewhere, treat women well, treat yourself well, and don’t only shoot for women who are an 8+. Have realistic expectations and it serves you well.
@@poeticeclipse It does depend on some factors, however, this is generally true. Women between 18-25 search for these things, then when they realize they can't get it because they have little to offer, they "settle" for men either their equal or better. It is why your family probably has high divorce rates with women being the initiators. Because they "settled" for less than what was mentioned. This is seen on dating apps via the statistics. Yes, women fail to get Chad, and that is why you see what they see. Also, by the time they've been used and hurt over and over, they tend to develop very bad traits. Some women also have this weird trait of looking for losers (bad boys), and it is strange to say the least. Anyways, he says this because 33% of men are sxless in their 20s, while the same is not true for women due to the fact they share the same men. As for his claim, I would add you don't need *all* of those, just enough to stand out. So I agree somewhat with you. I'd add, don't be creepy. But your statement about your best friend in Miami was shocking. "Great personality, funny, and even confident..." So in other words, these women are chasing a top 1% man and that proves the poster's point. The vast, vast majority of PEOPLE are none of those things, let alone all. What you describe takes massive work and effort for a man, but you say it like it just is something that can happen to every man (it cannot) and it is such an easy thing (it is not.) That's like saying "Just get a six pack and make a million a year! It is that simple lol!" Super not easy. Women don't have empathy over this because they can be boring and lack confidence and be fine. Lastly, I would say your comments come from a good place but that last part is misandrist as heck. I got with a 3, and she thought she was better than me. I got with a 9, and she slept with her buff driving instructor after we were married. I have been with average. And most men do settle, but the problem is women still think they are the ones settling. A 250 pound, 6 foot tall man making 250k a year is top 10%, even if his weight is against him. In other words, women have the super inflated expectations.
I'm 5' 6" and live modestly. I recently began dating a woman and we're moving along VERY nicely. So maybe your height and lack of cash are (not) what's holding you back. EDIT: I mistyped my original message. I meant to write that maybe those two things aren't what's holding you back. Maybe it's something else.
@@PrimalEdge Correct. Believe me, I had those same self-doubts, and I still do to a lesser degree. I did a lot of work on myself, I looked at other couple and saw that plenty of women are with ordinary guys - out of shape, not wealthy, not physically attractive, not in dynamic careers. So what was it that drew women to these men? It was their personalities and how they treated other people. And so I began to realize that yep, I'm good enough. But I still struggle with feelings of not being enough. This woman I recently began dating is super-attractive, very intelligent, fun, loving - very into me (and I'm not saying that out of some kind of self-delusion - her text messages and her in-person reaction to me confirm it). What the f*** does she see in me? All I know is that she _does_ see something attractive in me and so I need to put my feelings of inadequacy aside. I'm not rich or tall, not particularly handsome (I'm presentable), I'm not buff, I'm about 1/3 bald, with gray and white hair and beard; I'm definitely not a catch if you consider those things. But I listen, I respect, I ask questions, I admit my faults and try to correct them, I think, I commit (to whatever - from showing up for a date all the way to dedicating myself to a life partner), and I care. For the right woman, that's enough. Yes, there are women - shallow women - who only want tall, good looking and wealthy. But what happens when you get old or lose all your money? Those women will likely be gone in an instant. How do you (meaning anyone reading this) make people feel? If you make them feel good, you're way ahead of the competition.
Already am the first one. Barely matters since I once posted my face onto the amiugly subreddit (and not even the "BrutallyHonest" one) and got laughed at/roasted/made fun of (They said I looked legit terrifying and like a shooter. Which is ironic because I actually do look like a shooter)
Regarding last week: Courtney, if we’re to the point where you’re openly sniping at your own comment section, *it’s time to take a step back and rethink your content.*
Men come here for your tips, unfortunately some come here just to express their anger and frustrations. I see it a lot in the comments, sadly the negative nancys are the most vocal. Can’t help them all 🤷♂️
I didn’t think her…acknowledging her comments section as an attempt at a toe tag lol. It felt like more of a “hey I do see you guys” even though she really doesn’t respond to that faction.
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I’m not sure how many times we’ll have to say this, it’s not the men! The men ARE trying to become better, it’s the women that aren’t reciprocating.
All women? You're going to blame all women?
The actual truth is that some women are trying to be better for their potential partners. This issue isn't a man vs. woman thing, it's secure vs. insecure, confidence vs. lack of confidence, understanding vs. misunderstanding, trying vs. not trying.
@ when did I say all?
And yes it’s the women (not all) that have created this current situation we find ourselves in. They are the ones not reciprocating in the dating market. Where have you been for the past few decades!!??
@@joelbellJBFor the past few decades ,people have been getting
married.If you have a negative attitude,you may not be attracting quality women,that may be the issue.
@@joelbellJB
Okay, you wrote "it's the women," which could easily be taken to me "all the women." But I'll concede. Despite that, I hope you realize that it's also "the men (not all)" that have created this situation, too.
Where have I been the last few decades? Well, I was married for 20 years, and for the last 3 1/2 years I've been dating, probably two or three dozen first dates, many second dates and beyond, and now, as of a couple of weeks ago, maybe entering into a long-term relationship. I've likely had more dating successes and, more importantly, failures than you.
You say women don't reciprocate. I don't find that to be the case at all. I've had women offer to pay for meals and event tickets, I've had women suggest date ideas, give me gifts and I've had women make first contact with me. In my experience, they most certainly do reciprocate, maybe not at the same rate as men, but over the years society has set things up so the men are the ones that are "supposed" to take charge. But that responsibility is slowly averaging out so that men and women are both starting to take equal levels of responsibility in dating.
If men shouldn't play hot and cold then neither should women.
... shifting towards 2025
solo again
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How to stand out: be attractive
In order to get the women you first need to earn the respect from the other people around you through personal accomplishments/achievements. How do you do that? By being above average in as many ways as possible than most everyday guys. Remember that women only like bold-looking, influential guys with style and personality. I'll give you a random example: When you're at a bar and you see someone smoking a cuban cigar while you smoke a common cheap cigarette who do you think women will like more, you or him? Another example: If you're at a bar where 98% of guys order a coffee or a hot chocolate to drink while you order 2-3 glasses of whisky who do you think women will like more, them or you? All I'm trying to tell you is that you have to stand out from the crowd in as many ways as possible. Yet another example: Most guys have shaved, baby-like faces so when you have a manly moustache who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get what I'm saying? Another example: When others wear common cheap shoes while you wear a badass pair of cowboy boots who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get it now?
or rich
and some cash and a few flossy things.
How to stand out: don’t let not being attractive hold you back
How to stand out: by not leaving pessimistic comments. It says a lot more about you than Courtney.
1)Take Initiative
2)Prioritize your physical presentation
3)Embrace the power of mystery
4)Become well rounded
5)Build confidence through action
6)Master emotional intelligence
Your channel has been so helpful. Happy holidays to you and yours. Thanks for all the amazing videos.
biggest problem for men is to even find a possible partner and meeting girls today is mission impossible. you rarely find single good women, they either taken or jumps from one relationship to another so the compettion is very high. i havent encountered any possible partner through work,hobbys and social activitys the last 5 years and it seems like the one you maybe feel is right , they dont find you attractive enough. so the game is so hard that many just gives up and follow their reachable dreams like , career , hobbys and life goals . no reason to wait and hope for the best. live life and see what comes around.
I'm married and old, so I'm not looking, but this doesn't seem like a problem at all to me....women are everywhere and many seem available. I think many men's "standards" may be too high.
@@garypierce7380💯
@@garypierce7380 that’s laughable, have you even been paying attention? There has always been low tier men, but these men were never an option to begin with.
We have a new phenomenon where women’s partner selecting strategy is openly unchecked, encouraged, applauded, and is the mainstream narrative. Where men’s is now considered “bad”, we used to have similar status people pair off with one another, for example an average man with an average woman. But since women’s “segsual” liberation we now have low tier, average and high tier women all demanding higher tier men (and getting them)
This has led to a situation where the significant majority of men are left with zero prospects of a partner, and the top tier men getting access to almost all of the women. The average man is no longer good enough for the average woman.
This is why ours marriage, birth, and dating rates have been dropping like a rock for the past 50 years.
How do you not know this by now?
You're married and old so trust me when I say you have no idea what you're talking about.
@@garypierce7380 just because they look available doesnt mean they are worthy, thats the problem nowadayas, they aren't
How to stand out the best way, go your own way. Life becomes so much easier
I like the concept of "going your own way", but that does not help you to "stand out" at all, by no meaning of the phrase. I've gone through this, I know. Now I can live with minimal human contact and I kind of like it, but "minimal human contact" does not "stand out" to other people at all. They just don't know you exist. Sometimes it's OK, but "standing out" is not the correct term for it.
@@hasidila188 Agree. See my comment above.
“Going your own way” is the phrase used by dudes who’ve gone mgtow because western women are all “bad.” They’ve given up hope.
How do you get action?
Already doing that, considering I get called ugly almost everywhere I go by both women AND men alike
*Focus on being unapologetically yourself, embracing your unique traits, and aligning your actions with your values.*
I've been doing that for years; it doesn't get me any action.
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How to Stand Out to Women in 2025
1. Take Initiative
Plan thoughtful dates, follow up, communicate clearly, and be consistent.
2. Improve Appearance
Maintain grooming, dress well, and choose a signature scent.
3. Be Mysterious
Share authentically but pace disclosures to maintain intrigue.
4. Be Well-Rounded
Cultivate hobbies, stay curious, and engage in meaningful conversations.
5. Build Confidence Through Action
Achieve goals, step out of your comfort zone, and lead decisively.
6. Master Emotional Intelligence
Be attentive, adapt to social cues, and create meaningful connections.
7. Focus on Connection
Prioritize making her feel valued over trying to impress.
All you guys here should remember that what Courtney is talking about is what _you_ can do to make yourself more attractive. What she's saying isn't going to change shallow women, and it's not intended to. So please don't blame women as a whole by saying they're only interested in money and looks. There are women for whom that doesn't matter. And be honest with yourselves - are you going to date someone you're not attracted to, whether physically or otherwise? Are you shallow if you're not attracted to a woman who's not what you're looking for?
Most women aren't looking for guys like you... or like me. But someone out there is, so you might as well do what it takes to improve the odds. It doesn't mean making yourself into someone you're not, it means improving who you already are.
I think if you are going to be direct and confident, you need to remember that it is done with intention. Eg: "I like spending time with you" if her response is vague, slow, or avoidant, then it is time to move on. A good response is her setting up the next date
For anyone trying to stand out in the new year, I’m giving you all of my positive vibes. Let’s make it your year. You got this!
#4 has resonated with me the most. I am trying so hard NOT to over share, so it’s helped me so much.
I'm standing out by being myself. I know what I like, and I don't care what anyone says.
Thanks Courtney. I've been watching your videos for well over a year now. Even took your advice on fragrances and bought the Guerlain L'Homme. Great suggestion 👍. LOTS of compliments.
Oh, and Merry Christmas 🎄🎁😊
*munches popcorn*
I don't get why people even bother anymore.
But the show is great to watch.
Some very good points made in this video but i ask what is the point of men even trying when quite clearly women just take the piss when it comes to guys trying to stand out. There are no decent woman out there worth bothering with.
As someone who went on three dates with the same woman in the last month, my advice is this: focus on getting to know each other and stay positive. For me, this worked extremely well because it gave me a chance to reflect more on what I want from a romantic relationship. I may still be single, and that's okay, because I'm proud and thankful for what I've learned and experienced recently, and I feel ready and encouraged to continue dating in the coming year!
Haha
That's not exactly a stand out resume to be giving advice
Anyone else have the urge to climb a high mountain to a holy temple to meditate, eat fish, drink tea and wear orange attire like a monk?? 😂😂
Count me in haha
I've already begun this journey ... I cut all my hair off (I don't even style it anymore)
Just know you can do everything said as well as within the book to stand out BUT if she doesn't like you or find you attractive it doesn't matter. You are to continue to pick yourself up, move on, and try again. Over and over until someone recognizes you for who you are, what you stand for and how you treat those around you then appreciates that. Until then get used to the turbulence of dating, ghosting, situtionships, hookup culture and being rejected.
I think the idea her is just to live your best life in 2025, and take the opportunities when presented. I think that I possess many of these qualities, I just need to get out of my comfort zone and actually talk ;;to more people, women included. To that end I am going to call tomorrow and ask the company setting up a speed dating event in my town what the age groups for the event are. Aa long as the ages aren't too much lower than mine I am going to get a ticket even though it terrifies me. Merry Christmas to all and don't give up hope, success comes when you least expect it.
Hello from Canada! 🇨🇦
I clearly standout to women yet few are of any interest to me. It’s a game in which I choose not to play.
It’s the place and time where this occurs which really matters. Had plenty of attention at the club, not the place to meet..
1) Taking initiative: I'm not doing that unless we have a relationship already established. I'm not an idiot.
2) Physical care/fashion: I'm already doing it and apparently that's bare minimum since it didn't change anything.
3) Being mysterious: I don't talk about myself that much but this also made some girls be afraid of me for some reason. Do they want to discover me or do I have to reveal myself more? Make up your mind!
4) Being well-rounded: I did this through my entire childhood, and not the girls I've met. They should measure up instead of asking, asking and asking.
5) Confidence through action: I can be quite confident in my workplace. Not just girls, everyone trusts in what I do. Again, this doesn't take me anywhere. Also, what exactly is it to girls if I tackle some challenges? I do them for myself. How does a girl (or anyone) benefit from me learning Tagalog for example? I'm not going to speak Tagalog in my daily routine.
This part reminds me of women's tendency of waiting at the finish line of a parkour and picking the winner guy for themselves, instead of running alongside him. Which I find ABSOLUTELY UNATTRACTIVE in a woman.
6) Emotional intelligence: I'll give credit for this since I'm recovering from a years long depression. However, my 4 years younger brother went through the same and he has a 3-years old and still going relationship (they met through Discord) while I am still alone.
Courtney. It seems to me that your advices are getting stale. Either come up with a new solution or stop giving us false hope. But why the heck I am giving lecture to someone who's still getting sponsorship from shady companies like BetterHelp is beyond me.
@@ibosu3190 BRO, JUST WIN THE LOTTO PROBLEM SOLVED
In order to get the women you first need to earn the respect from the other people around you through personal accomplishments/achievements. How do you do that? By being above average in as many ways as possible than most everyday guys. Remember that women only like bold-looking, influential guys with style and personality. I'll give you a random example: When you're at a bar and you see someone smoking a cuban cigar while you smoke a common cheap cigarette who do you think women will like more, you or him? Another example: If you're at a bar where 98% of guys order a coffee or a hot chocolate to drink while you order 2-3 glasses of whisky who do you think women will like more, them or you? All I'm trying to tell you is that you have to stand out from the crowd in as many ways as possible. Yet another example: Most guys have shaved, baby-like faces so when you have a manly moustache who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get what I'm saying? Another example: When others wear common cheap shoes while you wear a badass pair of cowboy boots who do you think women will like more, them or you? You get it now?
Many women say that they want an honest, mysterious man! How's that contradiction possible to achieve!
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm Read my comment above yours.
You've somehow been hurt, and it's giving you a bad attitude. Having a bad attitude is going to hamper your efforts to find a loving partner.
But I can tell you from my own very recent experience that what Courtney is saying is true. I discovered a lot of these things on my own over time. Not all of what she says is easy to adopt for many of us, myself included. But I worked hard and overcame things.
Thanks, Courtney! ❤
Could going outside be something we should all practice in 2025
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"As a single man, it feels asinine to even think that I would invite someone to live with me, share my stuff, let her spend my money, periodically making me uncomfortable in my own home, judging the way I have been living all my life, and taking half of my belongings with her whenever she decides to leave!!! No thanks, I am good 😁 " - copied
In reading the comment section, I don’t think young men and middle aged men truly understand that the difference between success and failure is just a little more effort.
If you shoot for the stars, but land on the moon, you’re still standing on the dang moon. You don’t have to be perfect. The difference is you can’t shoot for the stars if you don’t take that first step.
copium
Plus, I'd rather live happily on the moon than burn up on a star.....I guess.
True
Happy holidays.💜
You too! ❤️
@ nice watch, thank you.
Good advice on being authentic:)
You aren't wrong and your advice seems reasonable.
Only after decades of no success at all after trying everything over and over.. it is difficult to stay positive (i'm 45 and the most success so far was 2 dates with the same woman)
T-shirt, jeans, boots with back (since my dog chewed 1 over a year ago), bathing & I accessorize with a belt
Big issue with men opening up is that "many times" when they do it's wesponized against them later.
Almost always. Yet when we share this experience, women degrade us and gaslight us into thinking we choose the wrong woman. It is sick. They literally do what they say other women don't. Lol.
Open up slowly (advice I don't always follow, but women seem to be okay with it), and realize that if the woman does use it against you she's not worth your time and attention anyway, as much as it might hurt.
Bingo
@@davidabarak We are telling you we have done it with dozens of women and *most* use it against men. And you shame us by gaslighting us into believing it is us choosing wrong.
Or, this is a habit we noticed.
Look, men are just as pathetic. But at least I admit it.
Good tips, but it’s a lot. I’ll be working up to this slowly…VERY slowly
The brutal realization... That even Cuffem (the streamer who lost 50k just for his looks alone) mogs me
It's all about standing out from the crowd. Most people (or should I say "sheeple") are too dumb to realise that. We live in an evil world where you have to be strong to survive, if you're weak and pathetic others will take advantage of you and rightfully so. Appearance is the first thing we all look in others, so if you look like a turd with legs you should not wonder why you're still single. Now, how does one stand out from the crowd? Self-improvement is the answer, improving yourself in all possible ways, both externally and internally, every change - be it small or big - matters and brings you closer and closer to the man you're dreaming of becoming. A man of high value is a strong man that is independent, takes care of himself and is able to provide for a woman to make her feel safe in his (veiny) arms. As a man you have to be a badass and you owe to establish a fearsome image so others will know not to mess with you at the first glance, so level up and stop crying or stay average forever. Most women interact with tens (if not hundreds) of guys in daily basis and for as long as you look like a commoner just like the rest of them women won't want to even spit on you. I'll give you a random example: Let's say that you're at a small local bar where most guys smoke cheap cigarettes and dress like immature teenagers wearing hoodies but you take out a Cuban cigar from a leather case and light it up with an S. T. Dupont lighter, plus having a manly moustache and wearing a bespoke suit, guess who'll the waitress notice!
I don't say this to be mean, I find your content wonderful or I wouldn't be here. I wish more were as optimistically impassionate as you.
However, we should always call out something wrong when it is wrong. Men don't feel the market (dating world) is competitive. We know it is the opposite. There is no competition, and instead it has become a monopoly. We know the top get to share the women, as well as the bottom. In the middle, those are the forgotten ones. Boring men that can't stand out. Which is the majority of men, and in fact the majority of people. That is the first of many problems in this video. But if that cannot be understood, then men are not understood.
_"We know the top get to share the women..."_
I disagree. My dating life as a short guy with gray and white hair (what's left of it) and moderately adequate bank account has been pretty darned good, and it looks like I'm now entering into a relationship with a woman who I would have considered way out of my league - beautiful, sexy, intelligent, loving, fun. By traditional standards, I'm not at the top of the male food chain. In terms of superficial traits - looks and money - I'm definitely "Mr. Middle of the Bell Curve." For about a decade, I had a hard time asking women out, and in that time I think I went on one date. None of that was the fault of women.
However, I worked on building my self esteem, and I realized that being turned down by someone I asked out on a date wasn't the end of the world. There are guys out there who are obese, very short, completely bald, poor, sick, whatever, yet they manage find find women to love and who love them. It's all about how you make the other person feel. Do you make them feel interesting? Do you make them feel appreciated? Do you make them feel attractive (without being obnoxious)? Do you make them feel comfortable around you?
All the guys out there who think they can't find a woman are wrong. Period. (And the same goes for women who think they can't find a good man, or men and men or women and women).
@@davidabarakAs a 45 year old man without any dating success at all: not for everyone unfortunately. Some of us stay single
Not true at all. Dump the Tramp apps....you don't want any of those women. Shop for a real woman.
@@davidabarak
A few things I should point out. Unless you are dating 18-39, your topic on this was irrelevant. We are talking about more than just 45+, or when our hair turns grey or white (I am 41 and date 32 to 42). This is because you cannot speak on the younger generation as though you know them, and that is their age.
But let's go over you personally/looks just from what I can tell, vs the average man. Personality-wise you were average, you never initiated, seemed awkward, only went on one date. That's about 80% of men and for most men, a tremendous change to make. Now, you have charisma to an exceptional level. Yes, you do. Not because you are super charismatic but because most men have such a dearth of it. You are also moderately financially successful, ie., very above average. Physically, you are at an age this doesn't matter. It used to. Now it doesn't. So I can't say you are average there or above average. Of course you might be dating 18-30 year olds, so if you are I stand corrected. You just don't seem like that type of guy.
But overall, you are exceptional, and just believe you are average because men are led to believe they are less than what they are. In no way what you shared about yourself gives off average impressions.
You need to get off the dating apps and meet women offline, through fitness, hobbies and interests.
All of these tips work great IF the woman finds you highly attractive to begin with, think top 5% attractive. If they are not already attracted to you none of this goes the way you say. Average is not even acceptable these days and believe it or not its called average because that's what most of us are. If they don't find you attractive already it goes from "assertive" to "creepy" really fast. It's just not worth it.
Bit negative there dude. How about rising to the challenge? 🇬🇧
@kevindonaldson8655 wow, thanks for that, I never would have even considered putting any effort in. I'm sorry man but if you read the post you really didn't understand what it says.
I'm guessing you watched this clip to the end? However things work out for you, it'll be down to you and your efforts AND ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ELSE.
Think of it like Natural Selection.
Which country do you live in my friend? It doesn't matter, I'm just nosey. I live in northern England near York.
The fragrance is going to be a wonderful Christmas gift 😂
Happy Sunday Courteney ❤
You too! 🥰
Happy Holidays, Courtney and happy late birthday 🎂 ❤
Thanks John! Happy holidays to you too ❤️
@@CourtneyRyanThanks Courtney! Sending love from Miami, Florida ❤️
Stand up! yes sir
Fellow viewers and Courtney, may you all have a Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday!
You too! ❤️
My signature cologne: Michael Kors. Used to be Cool Water.
Stay away from trendy, new school brands such as the one you mentioned. Instead, get a Floris London perfume.
@Makris_Amaliada9311 New School brands? How old do you think I am? And I will wear what I want.
@@MrTJMaddox Avoid brands with less than 100 years of history. Michael Kors is a new school brand.
@@Makris_Amaliada9311 🤣🤣🤣
@@MrTJMaddox What are you laughing at? Dress bold and act like a man. If you dress and act like a kid then of course women will not like you. Wear a suit, not a t-shirt. Wear boots, not casual shoes. You have to stand out from the crowd in order for women to like you.
Courtney, After the first date, many others say to leave her alone for a few days without any contact or suggestion for a next date so she can process the first date and develop a pursuing attraction for the guy. What do you think about this from your point of view?
I hope you don't mind an answer from a guy.
In my case, I often will contact the woman right after the date to let her know I enjoyed the time with her and to bring up the possibility of a second date. This is of course only if I found the woman attractive, and not just physically.
It seems to me it's less about how often you make contact, but more about the woman herself and her initial impressions of you. I personally find it to be almost miraculous that two people out of eight billion can find each other and fall in love... but it happens!
At least check in and say you had a good time but are busy or she'll think you don't like her. Don't be an ass.
Anne they should stand out to us
I don’t want to stand out.
Maybe do a video on guys showing interest and appreciation without pedalstalizing women?
The burden is always placed on the guy, who is always expected to make the first move. To me, this pedalstalizes women.
This needs to stop. Let there be equal and shared dialogue, risks, and burdens right from the start.
Guys can approach, act, and react accordingly if they know the girls reaction mistakes.
I hope this makes sense.
Step 1: Don't be ugly.
Unfortunately I already failed.
Aww. That's sad and funny at the same time.
Not true...there are women who think the same thing and are waiting for you to get over yourself.
Me too.😭😭
You probably look better than me (Look up "Thomas Crooks" for reference. I essentially look like him but worse)
I once posted my face onto the amiugly subreddit some time back and got brutally made fun of (which is hilarious considering they tend to coddle not so good-looking people)
Great attitude helps
Some feedback: you have a lot of great concrete examples talking about how to be proactive, but when talking about how to maintain mystery you only talked at a high level vaguely without any concrete examples, making it much harder to grasp
How to stand out: Be over 6ft tall, expensive clothes, car, and make 6 figures, and be model like in appearance. Let's be honest with ourselves here, guys like me it doesn't matter what cologne or what I wear, it'll always be because i'm short and bald and don't make 6 figures. Plus toss in that I'm almost deaf, no girl wants to deal with a disabled person. Truth is all over social media what girls want and its the top 5%.
None of this other stuff would really be needed if ur model-like in appearance (and wouldn't amount to really much for the sub5s like myself)
*"because i'm short and bald and don't make 6 figures."*
Yeah, balding/being bald is a killer. Can pretty much make an average joe a sub5.
Thank god i live overseas and i alwsys stand out Ryan , love it
I guess that gets you action!
What country are you living in ?
@bigdave5946 Can't say , sorry
@@renemontenegro6143 Asia ,south America or Europe?
@bigdave5946 Can't say
Merry Xmas Courtney & Teddy ! !
TL;DR Turn your life into a daytime soap opera.
Look like you have a professional wardrobe, makeup, and scriptwriting department behind you. Be emotional and sappy. Just make sure you follow the soap opera trope, "Always leave them wanting more!" As long as you have five lifetime's worth of activities in your past and future to make you continuously interesting, you can look as ugly as a supporting actor and still get the hot woman.
Yet all a Miss Average needs is to do is be willing!
I got a hot woman and I'm not wealthy, I'm not particularly physically attractive and I don't have a very vivid personal life. The bottom line is how you make the other person feel. Do you make them feel appreciated and comfortable? That's truly all it takes. That's not a guarantee you'll get the woman you want who's right in front of you right now, but it certainly raises the odds a lot that you'll eventually find that woman.
@@davidabarak It takes a lot more than her feeling appreciated & comfortable. If that's all it took, there wouldn't be millions of men spending a fortune on women.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm Of course there are other things - a woman also needs to feel secure, for one thing, and if she feels she's going to have to support you financially or that she's going to have to mother you, then it's not going to work. But I still believe the biggest things are to make her feel appreciated and comfortable.
Advice to men : Don't listen to women
Another great video.👍👍🇨🇦 I wish you all the best this holiday season
Hi Courtney,
Merry Christmas!!
I just got ULINE trucker pants with hi-vis rings around the legs. With you fashion expertese, Courtney, how well will I stand out to women, 🙃?
Put the Hi-Viz rings around your -_-_, hopefully it stands out!😂
Thank you for trying to help us. God bless you!
I’m here because I’m 34 and never been in a relationship
Hang in there. I didn't have my first real relationship until I was 37 (well, 36, but that first year was long distance), and I didn't do a whole lot of dating before that time. Trust me, it WILL happen for you.
So you’ve masturb8, every now and then … ?
@@davidabarakthat's false hope unfortunately. There are many men in their 40s 50s or up without any relationship experience
Try to go out more. That is the only possibility
@@fischersfritz468 No, it's not the only possibility. There's online dating (where I find all my dates, including this special woman I'm seeing now).
Standing out DOES mean we need to be perfect in today's dating world.
Taking initiative doesn't mean anything if you're not perfect in the eyes of the woman you approach. Some men want to be passive and want women to take initiative and ask them out. I know there are other men who want women to approach them.
Prioritizing physical presentation means we DO need to look like a model. Many attractive men still get rejected when they approach women. I'm attractive, I dress well, and I keep my body healthy. Women never say yes when I ask them out and that could mean I'm not good enough in their eyes.
Being mysterious only works if you look like a model. Women ask me for my social media account when I ask them out. Some women want to judge men by what they share on social media. What someone puts on their social media account could be a lie.
You can be the most well-rounded man in the world. It won't mean anything if you don't get a chance to show you are well-rounded. If a woman isn't attracted to you then you won't get a first date to show how special you are.
Being confident through action depends on how women perceive you. I'm confident and I approach women with confidence. Women never give me a chance. Confidence only matters if she's attracted to you.
A lot of men haven't mastered emotional intelligence and they get attention from a lot of women because they are rich or very attractive. Women will complain about these men and ask "where are all the good men?" They are ignoring the good men because they're not attracted to them.
Do I look like a model? I'm guessing the answer is "no." (Sure, looks play a part in romance, but it's not as big a part as you think.) Despite being an aging, slightly balding, out of shape guy with a very modest bank account, I managed to form a loving, growing relationship with a woman who's absolutely beautiful, inside and out. You just need to find the right woman, and that takes time and perseverance.
You think too much....stop all the obsessive negativity.
She is so experienced and totally right
Brilliance. Life is simple.
I like you.
Hey, Courtney and everyone.
Hey Yosef!
Hey. What's up?
Great video.. The ‘follow up text’ is a bad idea tho, I feel like it turns girls off. The rest are great 👍🏼
Yeah follow up text comes across as clingy, but not texting after a date makes her think you’re not interested. Damned if you do, damned it you don’t
As a woman, we like it when we are interested. It’s that simple. If there is a genuine interest in seeing someone again then we WANT a next day text of “I had a great time yesterday. I’m interested in seeing you again, maybe we can do XYZ thing this weekend.”
If we aren’t interested we will (or at least SHOULD make it known). Saying you had a good time and wanna see someone again isn’t clingy, it’s kind. Obsessively texting after or demanding to see someone the next day is insane, though. Declaring “you could be the one” after the first date is also bananas, not romantic. A good mature woman will be scared off by love bombing and obsessive behavior.
In my opinion, if you feel that you had a good date, then sending the follow up text is actually worth doing because you'll have a lot more to gain than to lose. You'll know from the text whether she wants to spend more time with you, and that way, you'll be able to move on to whatever comes next.
Happy holidays 😊
What I want to know is how to deal with constant rejection. I approach IRL "I have a bf" or "no thanks" has been every reaction ive gotten. Not to mention the "matches" that immediately unmatch after you message. I've just completely given up on it. Why even try? I dress nice, make good money, im well rounded and have hobbies. Its just me and ive given up on it.
I think people like Courtney probably mean well, but the reality is only a small handful of men are attractive to women and if you're not there really isn't anything you can do about it. Approaching women doesn't mean anything, they will absolutely chase that small handful of attractive men. The only thing you can really do if you're not attractive is lead with money and you will be able to get into relationships with women that realize they're never going to get the women they'd prefer. I would highly suggest through keeping these relationships on an "at will" basis and not getting married. Their behavior will be a lot better when they're subject to dismissal without a golden parachute divorce.
@MarkPlace-wb5xg I have and will completely ignore women like that. I spent 10 years with a woman who chose "her happiness" over her family. The world is very different from the last time I was single. Being 33 now, it seems like it's pretty much over. I invest in myself, and that's all I have.
You're not attractive. It's that simple. You can't plow through that.
Could be that you’re missing the signs of interest, have you looked into coach Corey Wayne’s book, 3% Man?
@lordjungalee No. I read a lot of blueprints for both of my jobs. That takes up alot of my time. It's possible im missing that. Then again, I'm also not looking for it actively. So there is that.
*_I’m looking for SERIOUS ANSWERS._*
For all the sub5s (means you are within the bottom 20% of attractiveness) who disagree with taxing the childless, Can you please answer this question:
Even if the system is so rigged that only Chads are having kids with women and starting families, then why should Chads kids be taxed later in life to pay for your pension and healthcare?
How is that fair for Chads kids to be subjugated and forced to look after a bunch of old people (via taxes) when those kids had nothing to do with said old people?
You might say some of your tax money went to putting Chads kids through school, which is true. But Chad paid those taxes aswell AND he uptook the main responsibility (& financial cost) of raising his kids.
So if Chads kids started working and got to choose which elderly people they wanted to look after most, surely they would pick their own mother and father?
*_I repeat, I’m looking for SERIOUS ANSWERS. It’s pointless commenting if you’re only going to express your emotional reaction to my posts instead of giving a logical response to the prompt_*
Good content as always! Happy holidays!
(in singing voice) Stand out!!! woo woo Stand out! Well said, Courtney well said. Just like once and awhile on here I trickle a bit of my personality here and there without going full blown release the floodgates on what Courtney video is about.
И вот он их не слышал . Сочувствует . Радиолокация для реализации желания Гаврилова . 😂
I respect a genius opinion ty Courtney
Thanks for being here!
Sorry, hot/cold push/pull works every time. It triggers the bug in our brain that loves gambling.
How has it worked for you? Married? Girlfriend? Single?
Just sing Stand Out from the Goofy Movie.
I am 6’3 I can stand out as is. The crush I have on is 6’8. NOW THAT….is Mission:Impossible.
6”8 for real?? Find another girl man plenty more out there
@ I might. But for now, that woman is remarkable.
My ex-wife was something like two or three inches taller than me. Nothing is an absolute barrier.
How so? Why does her height matter if you like her?
@@garypierce7380 Because....plot twist....she is kind of a famous athlete...and she literally doesn't know I exist because it is a distance crush...lol. I have to be in the same city as her to ask her out.
When you tell yourself you have nothing to lose and you damn well mean it. You will start to win. And if you fall, keep falling so hard until you can't no more. You will rise like a phoenix.
@courtney you have any single friends to introduce me to?
I’m gay tho
Носительница разбитых душ m Наложил 😢
I got a 2 can dine for 6.99 heehee 🤣 hey a date is a date isnt it?!
Merry xmas and happy holidays!
Hi Courtney
Hi my friend!
I am begining to find these videos funny -lets se how far into it she will say men shall have more confidence. In her last it was approx 1.57 minutes in- lets see if we break the record today.....I will edit later when I know the answer... 18 seconds only, and the magig word confidence are said............new record
How do I avoid women in 2025?
Simple. Just look away and mind your own business. It will freak them out. Stand out like what she is explaining in the video as long as you don't interact with women. They will approach you instead.
Judging by your question, all you need to do to avoid women is be yourself. It'll be easy - they'll avoid you.
Greetings Lady Ryan...🤗...*sigh*...😌...
❤
By not giving them attention =P
Nice. You can also be a Chad. 😂
If we don’t see you on Wednesday, happy holidays.
I’ll be here! 🥰
I can vouch for the advice Courtney has given. I just recently began a new relationship that's been moving along very nicely, and believe it's because I put into practice the same things Courtney mentioned.
Yeah, but not everyone can become what she describes. It is laughable that she just makes it so easy. Her advise if we applied it to her gender would be, "Hey fatty, just lose 300 pounds. As simple as that!" That is not simple. Just be confident? You know how hard that is for the vast majority of men? Especially in this world that shames men daily? Just get a six pack, just make millions, just be confident. Jesus, this is silly.
Just be the four sizes: six figure income, six feet tall, six pack abs, and six inches long.
If you think that...why are you here looking for good advice?
This is always bewildering to me because I go out in public daily and every day I see men paired up with women who obviously are not all of those things. Men in my own family are not all those things and they are happily married. Confused how this statement is so clearly untrue yet gets thrown around so often.
@@poeticeclipse
I'm certain it's regional. But if you lived where I do in South Florida, you would not see the partner mismatches very frequently if at all.
@ small world. I live in Florida and visit south Florida often, as that’s where my partner’s parents are. One of my best work friends live in Miami and is 100% not any of the sixes (to my knowledge) and he does well dating. Great personality, funny, and even confident despite not being the most physically attractive. I think the key is to be self aware and know if you’re not a 10 in looks, make up for it elsewhere, treat women well, treat yourself well, and don’t only shoot for women who are an 8+. Have realistic expectations and it serves you well.
@@poeticeclipse It does depend on some factors, however, this is generally true. Women between 18-25 search for these things, then when they realize they can't get it because they have little to offer, they "settle" for men either their equal or better. It is why your family probably has high divorce rates with women being the initiators. Because they "settled" for less than what was mentioned. This is seen on dating apps via the statistics. Yes, women fail to get Chad, and that is why you see what they see. Also, by the time they've been used and hurt over and over, they tend to develop very bad traits.
Some women also have this weird trait of looking for losers (bad boys), and it is strange to say the least.
Anyways, he says this because 33% of men are sxless in their 20s, while the same is not true for women due to the fact they share the same men.
As for his claim, I would add you don't need *all* of those, just enough to stand out. So I agree somewhat with you. I'd add, don't be creepy. But your statement about your best friend in Miami was shocking. "Great personality, funny, and even confident..." So in other words, these women are chasing a top 1% man and that proves the poster's point. The vast, vast majority of PEOPLE are none of those things, let alone all. What you describe takes massive work and effort for a man, but you say it like it just is something that can happen to every man (it cannot) and it is such an easy thing (it is not.) That's like saying "Just get a six pack and make a million a year! It is that simple lol!" Super not easy. Women don't have empathy over this because they can be boring and lack confidence and be fine.
Lastly, I would say your comments come from a good place but that last part is misandrist as heck. I got with a 3, and she thought she was better than me. I got with a 9, and she slept with her buff driving instructor after we were married. I have been with average. And most men do settle, but the problem is women still think they are the ones settling. A 250 pound, 6 foot tall man making 250k a year is top 10%, even if his weight is against him. In other words, women have the super inflated expectations.
Where did you get your watch
Be 6 feet tall, and have a large bank account.
I'm 5' 6" and live modestly. I recently began dating a woman and we're moving along VERY nicely. So maybe your height and lack of cash are (not) what's holding you back.
EDIT: I mistyped my original message. I meant to write that maybe those two things aren't what's holding you back. Maybe it's something else.
@@davidabarak He said it was his lack of height and lack of cash holding him back.
@@davidabarakdid you mean holing him back mentally? Like he views those as shortcomings and it prevents or sabotages him (self fulfilling prophecy)?
@@PrimalEdge
Correct. Believe me, I had those same self-doubts, and I still do to a lesser degree. I did a lot of work on myself, I looked at other couple and saw that plenty of women are with ordinary guys - out of shape, not wealthy, not physically attractive, not in dynamic careers. So what was it that drew women to these men? It was their personalities and how they treated other people. And so I began to realize that yep, I'm good enough.
But I still struggle with feelings of not being enough. This woman I recently began dating is super-attractive, very intelligent, fun, loving - very into me (and I'm not saying that out of some kind of self-delusion - her text messages and her in-person reaction to me confirm it). What the f*** does she see in me? All I know is that she _does_ see something attractive in me and so I need to put my feelings of inadequacy aside.
I'm not rich or tall, not particularly handsome (I'm presentable), I'm not buff, I'm about 1/3 bald, with gray and white hair and beard; I'm definitely not a catch if you consider those things. But I listen, I respect, I ask questions, I admit my faults and try to correct them, I think, I commit (to whatever - from showing up for a date all the way to dedicating myself to a life partner), and I care. For the right woman, that's enough. Yes, there are women - shallow women - who only want tall, good looking and wealthy. But what happens when you get old or lose all your money? Those women will likely be gone in an instant.
How do you (meaning anyone reading this) make people feel? If you make them feel good, you're way ahead of the competition.
Already am the first one. Barely matters since I once posted my face onto the amiugly subreddit (and not even the "BrutallyHonest" one) and got laughed at/roasted/made fun of (They said I looked legit terrifying and like a shooter. Which is ironic because I actually do look like a shooter)
This reads like the wishlist of an entitled woman. I have to do all these things, but what does a woman have to do to stand out to me?
thank you
Money
Regarding last week: Courtney, if we’re to the point where you’re openly sniping at your own comment section, *it’s time to take a step back and rethink your content.*
Huh? Lol
Too much train fumes my guy, oxygen is good...
Men come here for your tips, unfortunately some come here just to express their anger and frustrations. I see it a lot in the comments, sadly the negative nancys are the most vocal. Can’t help them all 🤷♂️
I didn’t think her…acknowledging her comments section as an attempt at a toe tag lol. It felt like more of a “hey I do see you guys” even though she really doesn’t respond to that faction.
I didn't see it, but if someone is sniping you probably shouldn't paint a bullseye on your head lol
lmao competitive? Not at all. This video already started as a joke.
I'm like a pimp the woman just follow me an I got there back
Next year - "hOw tO sTaNd OuT tO wOmEn iN 2026"
Cringe.