Why I Changed My Mind to Have a Baby

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  • @HelloHunnay
    @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +1608

    When did you become a part of Mai Fam?

    • @nkosizandile7291
      @nkosizandile7291 2 года назад +77

      From the very beginning, luv yah Jeannie

    • @davajones5866
      @davajones5866 2 года назад +38

      A long time..even before actually subscribing

    • @shirleybanks6582
      @shirleybanks6582 2 года назад +13

      I became a fan some time last year during the peek of the pandemic!

    • @andilelinda6696
      @andilelinda6696 2 года назад +16

      From the beginning. 🥰

    • @monicafischer817
      @monicafischer817 2 года назад +18

      3 years now , I too struggle with things from my childhood thats affecting me still at 34 , I feel you girl , your going to be a great mama I know it , that first time you hold him or her is the most incredible moment you'll ever have , you are so strong girl don't forget that❤

  • @jeffrivera3612
    @jeffrivera3612 2 года назад +5444

    I love when someone over the age of 35 starts blossoming as a person. A lot of us younger folks, myself included at 28, tend to get discouraged when we think we aren’t where we need to be and thinking time is running out, but it doesn’t matter what age you are. Everyday is a learning experience whether you’re 18, 28,38 or 48. Jeannie is an example at how life can change fast even in your 40s. It gets better my people. I’m learning that as I go …

    • @yairethcastro71596
      @yairethcastro71596 2 года назад +241

      This. I need it. Thank you.

    • @sibslawrence2335
      @sibslawrence2335 2 года назад +84

      Beautifully said 🧡

    • @EmyT
      @EmyT 2 года назад +126

      Couldn’t have said it better! 👏🏾👏🏾I can attest to that as well, turning 40 in a couple of months. My 30s, especially my late 30s have been the most amazing years of my life because I have gotten to know and love ME. As I have getting older, life just seems to make more sense and I have found joy in the simple things and gratefulness in things I always took for granted, like just simply waking up each morning.

    • @Amber-vu3yj
      @Amber-vu3yj 2 года назад +31

      Beautiful words. They blessed me too.

    • @love19634
      @love19634 2 года назад +36

      Thank you so much for saying this. I'm 24 and feel like such a screw up

  • @chello7262
    @chello7262 2 года назад +1774

    When my husband and I first started talking I told him I’m not into marriage and I don’t want no kids... I remember after months of dating after our talking stage he asked me “I understand your point but we don’t have to be like our parents.. we write our own story” girl he changed my mind cause he made me think “you’re right” I am not my mothers or fathers flaws.. I let fear hold me back. I’m glad to say our 6th wedding anniversary is Oct 30th 👻 and 2 beautiful daughters 🥰🙂

    • @EmorettaRobinson
      @EmorettaRobinson 2 года назад +45

      Happy upcoming anniversary!🥳🎉 And your husband made a great point. I enjoyed reading your comment especially since it touched on some things I have been thinking about. I hope you enjoy your anniversary and wish you and your family many blessings and great joy.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +231

      Wow, that's beautiful! Thank you for sharing and happy early anniversary!

    • @PortiaLuxy
      @PortiaLuxy 2 года назад +12

      Happy early anniversary to you

    • @karinacarvajal9919
      @karinacarvajal9919 2 года назад +13

      Awwww, my heart! 😭 Such a loving and reassuring statement ❤️

    • @THEDOORIZCLOSED
      @THEDOORIZCLOSED 2 года назад +8

      Happy upcoming anniversary!

  • @maripinagolo
    @maripinagolo 2 года назад +679

    Honestly seeing that she is 42 and pregnant gives me calm. I’m 34, sometimes I stress about the biological clock ticking. But I want to be a parent when the time is right and that means waiting a few more years (maybe). I hope for the blessing of motherhood and the satisfaction of helping a baby human bloom.

    • @aprilf6443
      @aprilf6443 2 года назад +66

      @Hulda's Journey • this was unneccesary of you to say wth is wrong with you

    • @AmyLeeAngelLove
      @AmyLeeAngelLove 2 года назад +37

      Don't stress. I had my daughter in my 30s. You can become pregnant in your SIXTIES if you are still menstruating. I may even want another child in my 40s or 50s and I will be DAMNED if I allow anyone to tell me otherwise. Stay blessed.

    • @michellelablue7
      @michellelablue7 2 года назад +8

      I had 3 children basically all grown ( all way over 18) And started all over after a 26 yr relationship & had a baby @ 44& delivered at 45 - litterly 2 weeks after my 45 th Birthday 🎂 lol .And another thing ,still at 50 was having periods ,anyway also on my 50 the birthday, I had a hysterectomy 🤣🤣🤣So I was overjoyed that I had another baby ,then threw it all away 🤣🤣🤣Also she's 8 now & been with him 10 yrs 🙋‍♀️🙏🏼There's ALWAYS HOPE ,JUST TRY TO TAKE CARE IF YOURSELF ,DONT ABUSE YOUR BIDY TOO MUCH ,CUZ I WILL SAY AFTER I HAD HER THO ,IVE NEVER BEEN THE SAME PHYSICALLY,BUT DIDNT WANT TO RRALLY mention that part ,because I would always choose to do it all over again !!!!! ( My back a huge surgery ,pushed my bad back already had over the edge & had hand problems starting at 6 months & 4 operations & sitting here 8 years lata with ANOTHER trio to my hand doc a cpl weeks ago with my forearm & hand in a brace waiting for an MRI ,Just take care of yourself ,the more mature you are the better anyway ( The older you are the more PATIENCE YOU HAVE & ALSO THE MORE U CHERISH THINGS) .... PERIOD !!☺️😁☺️😁☺️🤗🤗🤗🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💜💜💜

    • @ikalesunflower
      @ikalesunflower 2 года назад +29

      @@aprilf6443 but it is a fact alot of women are in denial about their biological clock and think its the norm to be a first time mum in your forties .

    • @hannahekata5076
      @hannahekata5076 2 года назад +7

      this gives me calm as well i just turned 34 got married at 26 but conceiving has been difficult, believing God for twins!!

  • @daishamariee
    @daishamariee 2 года назад +459

    Jeannie is easily one of the most honest and genuine kind hearted real person on TV.

    • @loualbino5536
      @loualbino5536 2 года назад +2

      😂😂😂

    • @choltaire
      @choltaire 2 года назад +3

      No shes not

    • @powerfulthoughts1481
      @powerfulthoughts1481 2 года назад

      @@choltaire exactly 😅😅😅😅

    • @alanboy5532
      @alanboy5532 2 года назад +1

      @@choltaire she's not but you're on her RUclips channel tho? 😭😭😭

  • @lasenoradelacruz
    @lasenoradelacruz 2 года назад +614

    I’ve noticed the common thing with people who don’t want children, including myself, is not wanting to repeat the same mistakes our parents did. Trauma is real.

    • @kanakeh8846
      @kanakeh8846 2 года назад +9

      Interesting. Thank you for sharing. Take care, sis.

    • @anton7579
      @anton7579 2 года назад +5

      You are real you always have been beautiful jeannie mai i love you very much i feel with you 100% , you are going too be a very beautiful mother and beautiful wife may god keep protecting you and all of us i love my son i allays worry for hes own well being too even now that he has grown up everyone say i am a very beautiful mum i am like you very compassionate and real i hate fake person

    • @EBURNIEinspiration
      @EBURNIEinspiration 2 года назад +2

      🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

    • @stephlyndsey3932
      @stephlyndsey3932 2 года назад +37

      Generational trauma is real. People think a cute baby is the answer. The answer is getting help and solving your own issues before having children.

    • @HelloTuuuurdz
      @HelloTuuuurdz 2 года назад +2

      For sure 🤚🏾

  • @charissemodeste6489
    @charissemodeste6489 2 года назад +848

    "When GOD, REMINDS you, who's in charge "
    AMEN, Mrs. Jenkins!!

    • @sflores9658
      @sflores9658 2 года назад +4

      Lmaooo y’all believe the most ridiculous things 🤣🤣

    • @1beachygurl
      @1beachygurl 2 года назад +1

      @@sflores9658 Ditto!:D

    • @Tammy1579
      @Tammy1579 2 года назад

      That was a word.

  • @iamworthiee
    @iamworthiee 2 года назад +171

    “I was meant to be a mom” yes you are. From day one on the real til now, you’ve grown so much & come so far. You’re going to be the best mom to baby J.

  • @lakergirl9805
    @lakergirl9805 2 года назад +252

    Because she is in a secure, loving relationship & felt comfortable sharing this with her partner. I think deep down she knew her ex wasn’t for her. I’m so happy for her & Jeezy. She’s going to LOVE motherhood!!

    • @laughingvampire7555
      @laughingvampire7555 2 года назад

      she was in a loving relationship before, but she was too stupid to realize that, he even waited 10 years for her to make up her mind, but she is too stupid that if she feels the pressure she won't do it. she is so infantile. And the break up of the relationship help her to unblock her own insecurities and stupidity.
      the not pressure of the new guy helped to avoid make her repeat the cycle and now that she was unblocked of her own stupidity she was open to having kids.

    • @prettygirl71334
      @prettygirl71334 9 месяцев назад +8

      And now he filed for a divorce oh boi 😮

    • @LilyMendi
      @LilyMendi 9 месяцев назад +1

      I don't know Jeannie but feel so sad for her 😢

    • @every8hours382
      @every8hours382 8 месяцев назад

      Lol😂

    • @hmmm2564
      @hmmm2564 2 месяца назад

      😂

  • @happy_healthy20
    @happy_healthy20 2 года назад +1937

    It’s ok to change your mind, Jeannie. I wish you a safe pregnancy and delivery.

    • @michelefearon8163
      @michelefearon8163 2 года назад +11

      Very touching Jeannie but let God handle your fears he can do anything you ask him to do. He has blessed you with this baby because he knows you will be a great mother. Put God first and pray always.🙏🙏💕💃

    • @amybynum8962
      @amybynum8962 2 года назад +20

      We are women we have a right to change our mind

    • @freedom4063
      @freedom4063 2 года назад +2

      Her partner wanted baby..not her.

    • @mellie1898
      @mellie1898 2 года назад +2

      Very touching and I am glad you open up and tell your story no one is perfect we all say and being through things we wish we didn’t . But in the end God has a plan for us he has a purpose fir that baby you carrying in . I pray for you and jeezy Jeannie Jenkins . And baby Jenkin

    • @quatishajames42
      @quatishajames42 2 года назад +4

      You shouldn't have to explain your decision to anyone! Wishing you and Jezzy the Best

  • @timonegooden5644
    @timonegooden5644 2 года назад +1642

    I just hate that Jeannie has to be explaining herself for her life choices. Different loves yield different fruits!!!
    Congrats to her ❤️❤️

    • @lonelrick
      @lonelrick 2 года назад +48

      you explained this so beautifully. "different love yields different fruit" - yess!!!!! She could've just said this and I would've been content.

    • @stephaniestephen4997
      @stephaniestephen4997 2 года назад +11

      Love that!

    • @lattymo
      @lattymo 2 года назад +6

      Yesss

    • @freedom_is_gold6747
      @freedom_is_gold6747 2 года назад +3

      why do you that! jeannie mai is a public person to such an degree that she sits at an 4-5 women panel and gives, advice, discusses moral and difficult questions etc, so obviously many people have watched her as a role model! so it's not more than right, and i am not in anyway trying to critisize her in any negative way, rather stating that comes with game and career she has!

    • @erinmariemason139
      @erinmariemason139 2 года назад +2

      ,Amen Queen. Well said.

  • @BigSoul29
    @BigSoul29 9 месяцев назад +27

    I can't believe people are accusing this woman of cheating on Jeezy. They don't know her like we do. I pray Jeannie I PRAY that your relationship with Jeezy be restored in JESUS mighty name. You are healed, you are restored and protected by the blood. ❤

  • @BeautyMeetsBusiness
    @BeautyMeetsBusiness 2 года назад +276

    We all deserve to be loved and feel safe. Congratulations to you and JEEZY. I appreciate that you allow yourself to heal through your pain💕💕 I send you love and light💡 You and your child is covered don’t worry❤️

  • @IdorenyinIbanga_
    @IdorenyinIbanga_ 2 года назад +1617

    We all deserve to change our minds whenever we feel like. He former husband knew she doesn’t want children, went ahead to marry her and then try to make her change her mind, which in my opinion wasn’t fair. Honestly, I am truly happy for them

    • @jazzlucerito5790
      @jazzlucerito5790 2 года назад +5

      What

    • @trillxfizzy
      @trillxfizzy 2 года назад +59

      Right and Freddy made her out to be the bad guy when she was straight up honest with him about not wanting children. she never led him on. Ever.

    • @DJ_BROBOT
      @DJ_BROBOT 2 года назад +7

      And this is a bullsheit statement... She basically lied. And you're an enabler. Just because the first man married her when she didn't want kids, didn't mean he didn't, and married her because he truly loved her. Bruh, got did dirty, because she changed her mind all of a sudden with Jeezy. Get tha F outta here. This is misplaced values and morals on your end. She owes dude an apology because she wasn't straight up that she didn't want one with the first dude... That is fact

    • @brodywwww
      @brodywwww 2 года назад +62

      @@DJ_BROBOT at that time she didn’t though people change and grow so she needs to apologize for growing as a person? None of us were in their marriage she never bashed him but he bashed her that says a lot to me!

    • @emilycruz5708
      @emilycruz5708 2 года назад +45

      @@DJ_BROBOT 🤣🤣🤣 She doesn't owe anyone an apology.She was 100% honest with him. I think you're Freddy or one of his friends.

  • @dreamhunter5778
    @dreamhunter5778 2 года назад +455

    her reason for not having a baby before are so valid. She finally feels safe and it makes sense for her to have a baby.

  • @yasmeensbeauty2328
    @yasmeensbeauty2328 2 года назад +100

    I’ve had a similar experience. Was in an unhealthy relationship and never wanted a family. Found the man of my dreams and now I’m pregnant! The story of you dreaming and being awoken by your baby kicking is so moving. Good luck Jeanie. Live happy, free and fulfilled!

  • @aaabbbcccc3171
    @aaabbbcccc3171 2 года назад +222

    My husband came from a broken home and a very tough upbringing. He swore up and down he never wanted to get married nor have any kids. Here we are today married with 3 kids and he’s talking about us maybe having a fourth child. It takes that right kind of love and happiness and it can change your whole world. God brings people in and out of your life for a reason! This episode of yours really hit home for me because In some ways it reminds me of my husband.

    • @BF-bb5us
      @BF-bb5us 2 года назад +9

      Some women don't want kids full stop and it's very patronising when people tell them they will change their mind

    • @aaabbbcccc3171
      @aaabbbcccc3171 2 года назад +8

      @@BF-bb5us what does that have to do with anything i just said?

    • @blacklungsanji3
      @blacklungsanji3 2 года назад +3

      @@BF-bb5us what does this have to do with a comment or the video? What Jeanie talked about is that due to her life experience she didn’t want to have kids and how she changed her mind after being in a good relationship and the commenter is talking about her relating through her husband’s situation with the video.

    • @BF-bb5us
      @BF-bb5us 2 года назад +2

      @@blacklungsanji3 it's clear my comment was to say that irrespective of trauma, some women or men simply do not want kids. We always try and conjure up excuses as to why some don't want kids because we can't handle that not everyone wants the same thing!

    • @aaabbbcccc3171
      @aaabbbcccc3171 2 года назад +5

      @@BF-bb5us Once again, what does that have to do with my comment let alone the video? Don’t take a beautiful comment and a beautiful video to twist it into someone’s else’s trauma or anything of that nature. It’s okay to let ppl change. It’s okay to let ppl be happy. If you paid any attention to the video, it’s clear she wanted kids, it’s clear it was HER decision. And the same thing goes for my husband. It was HIS decision. So, a certain kind of love, something special, can really change a persons heart in a GOOD way. Keep that way. Don’t distort someone’s happy ending just because someone else’s ending is different.

  • @trashawn.w
    @trashawn.w 2 года назад +1483

    This is a very touching episode. To hear you say that you never wanted kids out of F.E.A.R. (False Expectations Appearing Real) of your child being hurt like you were from your childhood is really something. Jeannie... you are in SO MANY WORDS... an inspiration! You got a story like no other. You've been through so much in your 42 years of life including being abused & traumatized at a young age, going through a painful divorce & even having that near death experience last year (sorry to bring that up), but you've survived ALL of it & you're still going strong!!! And I think you going through all those painful experiences & surviving all of it & facing all your F.E.A.R.'s is what made you the person you are today, a strong, powerful & mighty woman! This child is a blessing to your life & you are a blessing to this child's life as well & like I said before, you will be an AMAZING mother. Because one of the jobs of a parent is to make sure that their kids have a better upbringing than they had, & I KNOW for a FACT you will get the job done! You deserve all the happiness in the world & more & I wish you nothing but the best of luck on your pregnancy journey & once again I pray you have a safe delivery. Stay blessed Jeannie!!! 💚💚💚

    • @deilugo4813
      @deilugo4813 2 года назад +61

      Beautifully said.... you sound like you're the best Friends we all need!!!

    • @tamikacaballero3066
      @tamikacaballero3066 2 года назад +43

      I love your definition of fear your whole reply was beautiful. God bless

    • @michelefearon8163
      @michelefearon8163 2 года назад +22

      Jeannie is really an inspiration to many. She is amazing and real. Your baby will be fine in Jesus name. 🙏🙏

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +85

      Thank you. ❤️

    • @christinaaa_xo
      @christinaaa_xo 2 года назад +20

      This actually made me cry, this was said so beautifully. ❤️❤️

  • @mandys1038
    @mandys1038 2 года назад +733

    I love that you've found someone who makes you feel safe and loved Jeannie. You are going to be a great mom, baby J is in good hands. You got this!!!

  • @SandraJCTaylor
    @SandraJCTaylor 2 года назад +218

    This is so touching. You didn't have to explain yourself but I'm glad that you are able to overcome your past and be in a healthy, loving, and safe relationship to raise your baby. 💕

  • @elisejonesmayo3102
    @elisejonesmayo3102 2 года назад +388

    Jeannie, the biggest hurdle was knowing you were scared from your trauma. You went to Counseling to begin your healing. Now you have a partner who also went through situations. Both of you are healing and going to be the best PARENTS EVER!!!

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach 2 года назад +12

      AMEN to that!

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +29

      😭❤️

    • @stephlyndsey3932
      @stephlyndsey3932 2 года назад +8

      The key is that she went to counseling BEFORE having a child. She didn't expect the child to be her counselor or to "cure" her, she did the work herself as an adult.

  • @Thewifelife40
    @Thewifelife40 2 года назад +240

    I love that she made this episode!!! She doesn't owe anyone an explanation but I am sooo glad she is telling her truth! Everyone saying she divorced her ex because he wanted kids and she didn't, should watch this and really listen! She knew it wasn't the right choice to have a baby with him. I am so proud her being smart enough to wait until she knew it felt right for her. I am loving Mrs. Jenkins vibe!! I'm living for pregnant Jeannie!! She has always been someone I admire and I love that she is living her best life!

    • @meh5069
      @meh5069 2 года назад

      This is the conclusion I came to before I even knew of this video. Jeannie seemed to over compensate for her love for her ex husband, almost like she was convincing herself that she was madly in love…but I never bought it. Her love with her new husband is very apparent, she seems more comfortable and settled with him. I’m so happy for her and that she was able to take this journey with him. I wish them the best.

  • @hilsquadrillions7545
    @hilsquadrillions7545 2 года назад +47

    Your relationship with Jeezy isn't just a love but also an experience.

  • @QuilaGee
    @QuilaGee 9 месяцев назад +18

    I’m here during the divorce announcement looking at y’all comments

    • @hmmm2564
      @hmmm2564 2 месяца назад

      Lol same

  • @Calcifurr
    @Calcifurr 2 года назад +333

    Jeannie, I too am Asian and went through the same trauma during my childhood. I just want to thank you for representing our community and telling your truth and being 💯 you. You have helped me heal in many ways. So thank you and I will always keep supporting you! You are not alone. I know this, because I realized from you that I wasn’t alone when you told your truth. Thank you. 💕

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +64

      We always have each other!!

    • @LimaB30
      @LimaB30 2 года назад +9

      💗💗💗💗💗God loves you. I have been through it too and it’s hard to heal from, but I agree it’s good to be able to heal and grow and know you have other Brave women who continue to move forward 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @midnightoasis
    @midnightoasis 2 года назад +184

    The moment you described your own baby waking you up from your nightmare.. I had goosebumps and balled my eyes out. Your words have touched me deeply and made me feel like I am not alone. I am now 36 and have started trying for a baby with my husband, but always had this feeling inside me before that I wasn’t ready. I slowly realized that I still have many traumas from my childhood that I had never truly worked through but instead kept it hidden like a horrible dirty secret. I am now looking to get therapy and counseling to confront and hopefully overcome them. And hopefully one day my husband and I will be blessed with a child that will have a safe childhood, loved, protected and cared for. My love to you Jeannie 💗🙏🏼

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +30

      I am so happy you, too, are going thru therapy! I feel exactly everything you’re saying. I’m praying for your path!!

  • @ladeelesha9824
    @ladeelesha9824 2 года назад +44

    This was so real and vulnerable. Self realization is such a powerful thing. Continued blessings🙏🏾

  • @ngonhuthuy2124
    @ngonhuthuy2124 2 года назад +50

    I can't fully express how listening to your stories helped me. I too went through the traumatic childhood, went through a first marriage, not ever wanting kids but now I do with my love. Listening to you talk, sharing that with your fam especially your mom, it's healing me slowly inside. Being in a traditional Vietnamese family, abuse and divorce is not easy to bring up. Thanks for being my outlet. I'm super proud to witness a Vietnamese woman influencer in this generation ❤

  • @myleenjan
    @myleenjan 2 года назад +176

    This baby is a product of your love. I didn't have great mother role models but that all disappeared when my one and only daughter was born. She is the love light in our eyes. Don't worry, you will be a wonderful mom and surprise yourself!

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +17

      Omg that is so beautiful. 😭

    • @paigeburns734
      @paigeburns734 2 года назад +3

      My mom had an abusive mom and she was a great mom. She just was determined to create a different path for us and I’m so grateful!

  • @welllivedlife-desireeg2804
    @welllivedlife-desireeg2804 2 года назад +347

    This proves that when you are in a healthy, happy and safe relationship you can grow and blossom. The ex wasn't a healthy relationship. Her husband's love has allowed her to want to have a child which feels right for them. I am so happy for her!💕

    • @creative2716
      @creative2716 2 года назад +1

      As a new mother, you will have a tendency to over- obsess about dangers surrounding your child. Be aware your own insecurities can make it really hard on your child. You and your husband should always take about those issues and come to a mutual decision, to take the stress off. Very important.
      I am so happy for you (all three of you). I pray for a healthy & happy baby for you.

    • @jobinapurvis920
      @jobinapurvis920 2 года назад

      I agree

  • @phanienelson5175
    @phanienelson5175 2 года назад +43

    Jeannie, I can say so many things about what you said in this video. The fact that you are making a conscious effort to be a better parent is most of the battle. Once you see your child, God will give you EVERYTHING you need to raise them healthy and secure. I felt the same way you feel about having kids and it is my constant prayers before God that helps me. Blessings and peace to you.

  • @FruityUnicorn17
    @FruityUnicorn17 2 года назад +10

    Thank you for being so honest. This definitely reminds me of how important healing from childhood trauma is and how vital that feeling of safety in a relationship truly is.

  • @saradowdi8938
    @saradowdi8938 2 года назад +206

    I *WAS* meant to be a mom 😭 That hit me straight in the feels. I met Jeannie as an audience member in front row. She gave me a hug and was the kindest and most humble person. She deserves nothing but the best. I'm also due in January, Jeannie! Praying for our baby boys to be healthy and strong💙💙 Sending you soo much love!

  • @LY-wl3uf
    @LY-wl3uf 2 года назад +311

    I don’t even have the words.
    You’re truly an outstanding woman Jeannie.
    Your baby is the luckiest in the world to have this version of you as their mom. 💗

  • @dr.braxygilkeycruises1460
    @dr.braxygilkeycruises1460 2 года назад +76

    Jeannie, you are glowing *Spiritually* and the light you're shining is leading others to a closer relationship with the Lord and a deeper faith. Keep shining! Your raw openness invites others to investigate the traumas in their lives, overcome them, and march forward into many aspects of Love. I'm so glad I found your channel yesterday! 🤱🏽🍼🤗🥰

    • @brendadickson9583
      @brendadickson9583 2 года назад +1

      True her openenes is helping me to know even after the trauma I went through I will find love n will heal

  • @AnneMSantiago
    @AnneMSantiago 9 месяцев назад +11

    I love how humble, vulnerable, and real she is.

  • @DeliveringJoyMD
    @DeliveringJoyMD 2 года назад +251

    I felt this episode on SOOO many levels! As a woman over 40, as a busy professional who struggles to see myself as a mom, as a divorcee’, and as someone else who has survived a lifetime of trauma. Thank you so much for your transparency and courage!

    • @susanngugi4397
      @susanngugi4397 2 года назад +1

      You are a great blessing and encouragement.

  • @shirleybanks6582
    @shirleybanks6582 2 года назад +73

    I love when you said, “I was meant to be a Mom” ... that was absolutely breathtaking 💕You will be a great Mom🙏🏽

  • @SheSomeoneSpecial
    @SheSomeoneSpecial 2 года назад +26

    I cried watching this, I never ever heard my true feelings out loud.🥺 the “not feeling safe” & everything else resonate so well.🥺 I felt this too my core.😭🥺

  • @toopoiseddiary
    @toopoiseddiary 9 месяцев назад +15

    I here hurting. I feel you Jeannie. I just need you to trust that everything is going to be okay. 💕

  • @mqk1697
    @mqk1697 2 года назад +251

    Jeanie, your growth as a person over the years has been one of the most important examples in my life, reminding me time and time again that I am capable of overcoming my own obstacles. Thank you for choosing to be honest with your life journey.

    • @misss7758
      @misss7758 2 года назад

      So because she is pregnant that's growth? It's simple as she got married and the man wanted a child.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +15

      Thank you for growing with me!

    • @WallFlower08
      @WallFlower08 2 года назад +2

      @@misss7758 Boy bye!!!

  • @Blueheadhotshot
    @Blueheadhotshot 2 года назад +217

    I’ve never rooted for anyone as much as I have for Jennie. For a lack of better words, she is an incredible person.

    • @ms.mystique8669
      @ms.mystique8669 2 года назад +2

      Do you know her personally? You fanatics are a "special" breed.

    • @queenvictory6916
      @queenvictory6916 2 года назад +7

      @@ms.mystique8669 you don’t have to know a person personally to want the best for them, I’m just saying.

  • @Idontknowho.
    @Idontknowho. 2 года назад +53

    You can tell the baby has played a huge part in Jeannie’s healing 💕 she deserves to be happy and is going to be an amazing mother 🤗💜

  • @modikiramaisa4619
    @modikiramaisa4619 9 месяцев назад +24

    😢😢😢😢 sending you tons of love Jeannie ❤

  • @ashleykoonce584
    @ashleykoonce584 2 года назад +143

    I like how her baby was kicking her and trying to wake her up. It was like the baby was saying, “Mommy wake up. You’re safe now. Daddy and I can protect you now. Mommy, you’re safe now. Wake up.”

  • @pinksushi6375
    @pinksushi6375 2 года назад +68

    When I tell you that I bawled during this video. I am only a 19 year old girl, miles away from you, trying to dip her toes into adulthood. Thank you so much for teaching me the lessons that not even my mother could.

  • @keetybird1321
    @keetybird1321 2 года назад +9

    This is truly beautiful, I suffered a lot of abuse growing up so it’s really nice to see that this feeling of being safe and secure is attainable and possible! So happy for Jeannie ❤️

  • @tashalmwoods7103
    @tashalmwoods7103 2 года назад +15

    I can relate to what Jeannie is saying about trust and fear. I am so happy that she found love, safe love, strong love, trusting love and is in a great space in life. Thank you for speaking your truth ! Thank you for facing your fears. I salute you as a woman, a wife and a mom. You rock 🥰

  • @whitelotusbaby9160
    @whitelotusbaby9160 2 года назад +361

    You are going to be a great mom Jeannie! 42 is still a great age to have a child, possibly two. I had my first baby at 52 and it was the best decision ever!

    • @CROSSTATT
      @CROSSTATT 2 года назад +26

      That's a wonderful story! I believe that you women can birth a baby and have a healthy low risk pregnancy, also. Even we men can have fertility issues. It is so important that we are sensitive to others about this issue. I don't just mean you and me, I mean people in general.

    • @ChisomAkahTV
      @ChisomAkahTV 2 года назад +8

      Oh wow. Thanks for sharing

    • @BeeChance
      @BeeChance 2 года назад +3

      Great testimony

    • @diamondcash8685
      @diamondcash8685 2 года назад +2

      Omg that’s so beautiful

    • @chelsiebarbara4722
      @chelsiebarbara4722 2 года назад +2

      Wow! This is wonderful and inspiring

  • @n2essence
    @n2essence 2 года назад +442

    Being someone who experienced the same thing as a child, for the longest I never wanted children. And I didn't understand why until you shared it yourself on the real. And then I started therapy and realized that one day maybe I can be a great mom despite what I've gone through. I just haven't yet met someone that I trust enough to share t hat moment with, like you. I've gone through times of accidentally developing a soul and losing the child twice, and ultimately blamed myself and all of my failures. I thought I was a burden to myself at that point. But maybe I will, I love your strength and your story.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +106

      I am praying with you sis. What an incredible story .. thank u for sharing and pls keep me posted on how u are doing !

    • @nsalimk1449
      @nsalimk1449 2 года назад +6

      Sending hugs and prayers for you to heal in Jesus name you are is special child he love you so much 😘

    • @abbaswanjala8830
      @abbaswanjala8830 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/l9jacVw1HFo/видео.html

    • @ytb8361
      @ytb8361 2 года назад +2

      💔💔💔💔💔 May God strengthen you I wish you the best ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @PAIP_Studio
      @PAIP_Studio 2 года назад +1

      She is too old... If the mother is 45 years old 93 out of 100 kids are born with birth defects and health problems.
      It is unethical to have a kid at her age.

  • @m.reneejackson3663
    @m.reneejackson3663 2 года назад +22

    Jeannie, you will do great as a mom. Parenting skills are developed from our own experiences as a child and what we aspire to going forward. You have gained confidence and come to realize a good sense of "Self Worth"💕 - go girl!

  • @BuzzingBee123
    @BuzzingBee123 2 года назад +4

    This is one of the most honest and heart warming messages I've ever watched. ❤Thank you for sharing your authentic self with the world. This message is powerful.

  • @gabriellaaresto6484
    @gabriellaaresto6484 2 года назад +231

    “I was meant to be a mom” !!! I balled. I look at you and listen to your story and there’s so much I can relate to. Tho I’m not ready to be a mom, I know that because of my struggles and the healing that came through that, god has prepared me to love, just as he has prepared you. I’m so happy for you Jeannie. Thank you for always being real. You have no idea how many log us you are helping. ❤️

  • @fiesta195
    @fiesta195 2 года назад +167

    "When God shows who's in charge" that a take home.
    I love you so much Jeannie and am truly happy for you.

  • @ketumile9171
    @ketumile9171 2 года назад +13

    Jeannie is finally growing out of her shell and it’s beautiful to watch 🥺🥺❤️ You’re going to be a wonderful mom and may God continue to bless you .

  • @saradigota7201
    @saradigota7201 7 месяцев назад +4

    How happy she was here and how it all made sense here that she remarried,got her a baby even she was so cautious, she had to go trough somthing again.
    It learns no matter what step you take, it will learn you another lesson.

  • @Kimberlydo97
    @Kimberlydo97 2 года назад +82

    Jeannie, hearing you say "I was meant to be a mom" was so touching. God's timing and healing is so perfect. Thank you for being raw & honest. I am so happy for you, Jeezy, and baby!

  • @lindamafunu8260
    @lindamafunu8260 2 года назад +116

    Jeannie makes cry and most of the stuff she mentions I really relate to her like i have never related to anyone. Because it feels like that’s exactly my reality. Seeing her flourish gives me hope that all is going to be better with time with God ‘s blessing. I hope you keep shining and growing emotionally and spiritually in your journey as an adult, a mother, a partner. I will also be doing the same.

  • @philisiwengxabani9587
    @philisiwengxabani9587 2 года назад +22

    Childhood trauma is so painful, I share the same sentiments like you Jeannie. I do have a daughter but she is everything i am not and i thank god everyday. She is so vocal, smart, confident everything i was not. I grow up in times where as a child you just do as you told our parents built this huge wall that they are parents and we are children you cant share. I really admire you...

  • @AngelConversations
    @AngelConversations 2 года назад +9

    Wow... This really spoke to me as I'm a newlywed who's had very similar feelings about having children, but am also now experiencing the safeness and love with my partner, which is helping heal all of that. Thank you so much for sharing and showing that transformation is possible

  • @jocelynnicole663
    @jocelynnicole663 2 года назад +228

    I love Jeannie Mai’s mindset because it shows how selfless she is and there aren’t many like her in this world today. She is honestly so smart with how she chooses to live her life and I respect her so much for that 🤍 her pain brought her wisdom and I really do relate to that!

  • @faithcamille5089
    @faithcamille5089 2 года назад +143

    I can't get over how impactful your platform is Jeannie. God uses you in such impactful ways. Thank you for being willing to share and be so transparent with us. You are truly inspiring in so many ways. That kid has the best momma ever!

    • @smilesallround
      @smilesallround 2 года назад

      Off topic but is that you in your profile pic? If so, you're really pretty 😊

    • @murticejackson5133
      @murticejackson5133 2 года назад +1

      Congrats Jeanie. I'm glad you are finally enjoying happiness in your life. God's blessings to you and your family.

  • @meemeepalmer4144
    @meemeepalmer4144 2 года назад +12

    The fact that u r scared n crying at the thought of ur child possibly being harmed,shows us that U r a strong woman n mommy.u have protected ur baby from day one so I know once it is born U r going to b mommy bear n will maul anyone who even look like harming baby Jenkins.I see the love all over n thru U!!! The baby is lucky to have u as a mommy!!!💞💞💞💞👍🏽

  • @brittaniimarkee
    @brittaniimarkee 2 месяца назад +3

    This makes me so sad to watch back after the fact. I was so hopeful and so happy for her to find this kind of love. It was inspiring. Now I’m just like… well…. Anything can happen.

  • @nicolejohnson952
    @nicolejohnson952 2 года назад +114

    Girl I felt this completely, “I don’t trust myself to protect someone else” . Girl you will be an amazing mother! I felt this same way before having my daughter , I’m 25.

    • @as19J01
      @as19J01 2 года назад +1

      I haven't been through the same trauma as she as and I'm still scared of raising children knowing very well what people are capable of. So to know that Jeannie has come so far that she's now ready to have children is amazing 💖

  • @kingbentley8210
    @kingbentley8210 2 года назад +260

    “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans”

  • @heidistringfield4776
    @heidistringfield4776 2 года назад +4

    Jeannie.. HUNNNAY being a mom will bring out a fierceness you have never known .. when you see that little face your heart will know without a doubt that you will never allow anything or anyone to hurt that angel .. you got this .. you both do

  • @leah38521
    @leah38521 Год назад +4

    This was so real. It’s lovely hearing that you’re love for your partner brought out those desires to create a family with him❤️

  • @EBURNIEinspiration
    @EBURNIEinspiration 2 года назад +57

    Pray for us who still want children, and over the age of 35. I still have faith 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

    • @brittahill1520
      @brittahill1520 2 года назад

      God will do it!!

    • @maryode1638
      @maryode1638 2 года назад

      My thoughts and prayers are with you. With God ALL things are possible

  • @ThePeetes
    @ThePeetes 2 года назад +37

    I was the same. I met my husband and had zero desire to be married or to have children. After a few years I realized he was such a great man 🥺 a great human. Somebody I could trust to have a child with. To make a commitment to. Someone I knew wouldn’t abuse or abandon me or our child. It was absolutely because of my own trauma I didn’t want to get married or have a child but I found someone that made me feel safe, heard and loved. So happy you found the same ❤️

    • @normacolon9618
      @normacolon9618 2 года назад +1

      Happy u found the one. I have 2 and never found that love from them had to do it practically By myself

    • @DannieJordan
      @DannieJordan 2 года назад +2

      This is awesome to hear and makes me hopeful. I don't want to be married or have children due to my past experiences. I pray I'm healthy enough mentally and emotionally to accept the right man into my life to maybe have these things. From one woman to another, I'm genuinely happy for you and any woman who finds this!!💜💜

  • @LivingLifeWithDeeDee
    @LivingLifeWithDeeDee 2 года назад +5

    Thank you for sharing and being so venerable, Jeannie. This was personally so healing to me. So happy for you Jeannie! May the Lord continue to bless you more abundantly. 🦋

  • @aarilackey702
    @aarilackey702 2 года назад +3

    YOU GOT THIS JEANNIE!💖 you're so inspiring to me and you've been my TV mom for years😅💖 you take risks, we've seen you at your highs and your lows and still watched you fight through and most of all the compassion and love that you have for others is out of this world! That baby is going to have the best mom ever👑🙌🏾

  • @StressedOutMonkey
    @StressedOutMonkey 2 года назад +110

    It was the, "I WAS meant to be a mom" that did me in. That touched my heart and made me feel so proud of you, Jeannie. Sending you lots of love from a fellow Vietnamese homiee

  • @Zepha-Education
    @Zepha-Education 2 года назад +88

    When a woman (makes up her mind) and says she not going to carry your children her body is aware. But when love really takes over there's no no no limit... and that's what happened to Jeannie! There's nothing like carrying a baby for that man you bond with ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @badams2927
    @badams2927 2 года назад +5

    Ty for sharing, you were meant to be a mom! There is so much healing in self Revelation, so proud of you.

  • @shwetaheals
    @shwetaheals 8 месяцев назад +5

    Hi, I am from India and I hardly watch any video outside my country, not bcz I discriminate but it never happened, but today when I was confused whether to have kids at 32 or not and I found your video, I cried first time listening to someone outside India, thank you so much lady. Hope you have a great motherhood

  • @rebeccataylor7728
    @rebeccataylor7728 2 года назад +107

    This is such a full circle moment for all the people who have watched Jeannie from the beginning of The Real & her first marriage to now. She has always radiated such positive energy but now she just radiates this beautiful happiness and love. 💗 I’m so excited to see her be such an amazing mommy

  • @Stephsgotit
    @Stephsgotit 2 года назад +268

    You never disappoint Jeannie. I'm so happy and proud of you, coming full circle is quite an experience. You are going to be a great mother. Not because you're perfect, but because you've had good and bad experiences and you know the difference. So you can direct your words and actions in a direction that can be more helpful to you and your growing family. Hope that made as much sense outside my head as it did insides. LOL Thanks for always being you, in all your stages.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +32

      It definitely made sense. Thank you!

  • @mayloumoua1123
    @mayloumoua1123 2 года назад +1

    This is such a wholesome video! You are so in touch with your feelings. I love that. Please continue to be who you are. We're all cheering for you and your new journey!

  • @tinamatsimella5806
    @tinamatsimella5806 2 года назад +2

    Hey Jeannie
    This episode was so special! It felt like you were speaking my mind at so many moments. I’ve dealt with so many similar traumas and you give me so much hope and inspiration. I’ve seen you grow from episode 1 to this point and I’m so happy to see that your change is because of the love & security you have in your life now. God bless your growing family and wish you a healthy happy pregnancy. Love and respect you so much ! You deserve everything you’re strong for. 🙌🏽

  • @TheJoyJourney
    @TheJoyJourney 2 года назад +60

    “I was meant to be a mom” So beautifully stated Jeanie! Yes you were! What a great affirmation for us mamas that took the scenic route to our babies. God bless you. This one was a tearjerker for me🥲.

    • @normacolon9618
      @normacolon9618 2 года назад

      Scenic route????? Would like to know what that is in this case??

    • @TheJoyJourney
      @TheJoyJourney 2 года назад +1

      @@normacolon9618 Meaning not your traditional love….then….marriage….then baby in a baby carriage. For many of us it’s a little more complicated than that.

  • @nek_k9160
    @nek_k9160 2 года назад +400

    "People who have experienced trauma are constantly burdened with the fear that something bad is going to happen next." Ain't that the truth. 🥲
    Congratulations Jeannie, I wish you the very best ahead. You've given me a lot to think about.

    • @cassandratype4
      @cassandratype4 2 года назад +4

      It's a sign of PTSD or GAD. I've suffered from that all my life.

    • @brendadickson9583
      @brendadickson9583 2 года назад +1

      True like am praying for God to help me think positive n it's hard cause somehow you think you don't deserve good things 😭😭but I know I do n am worthy

    • @michaelgant584
      @michaelgant584 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/nFSOwl7bm3E/видео.html

  • @a1anna
    @a1anna 2 года назад +206

    You caught my eye a cpl seasons back on the real on an episode where you started crying when discussing your trauma as a child. In that moment i felt this connection bc you were on the show everyday happy & bright & all these great things but internally still trying to cope with what had happened to you. I used to struggle in silence about my ptsd and seeing you made me feel not alone & how much you are an advocate for women who go through those things. I know it’s a hard knock life out here but Jeannie you got this fr! We have watched you evolve into the woman you are today and everytime i see a post or story, i get more & more proud of you! It’s so many young women like me who see you and feel like nothing is untouchable! Try not to be hard on yourself and sit and reflect on this amazing life you have worked so hard for. It’s scary & it’s not a book on how to be the perfect mother but the fact that you’re already so worried & wanting to give this baby everything you didn’t have makes you perfect already. I’ll always be rooting for you Jeannie🤍

    • @evethmartin-morris5391
      @evethmartin-morris5391 2 года назад +5

      I here you girl life is hard we women go through a lot it comes out i different ways in life I no and understand what u e saying

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  2 года назад +22

      We're never truly alone. We've got each other!

    • @amazing5392
      @amazing5392 2 года назад +1

      You such a sweetheart ❤ God bless you

    • @amara523
      @amara523 2 года назад +1

      well said. i agree with all you said.

  • @Eparham413
    @Eparham413 2 года назад +2

    I felt the same way and I found my strength in becoming a mom. You will be a great mom because you are so reflective and becuase yiu have overcame so much! You got this!

  • @Baabyvivs2
    @Baabyvivs2 2 года назад +1

    This is so beautiful. Jeannie, you are amazing and loved by so many! I truly feel like i'm part of your fam and it feels like I know you! I'm so happy for you

  • @ramirezanamarie
    @ramirezanamarie 2 года назад +94

    A child is a miracle of God. How beautiful is the love of God for us. Congratulations.

  • @kaverirozoseua3459
    @kaverirozoseua3459 2 года назад +130

    Jeannie would make a good actress. She is an extraordinary story teller. I can listen to her speak all day.

    • @gertrudecalloway7649
      @gertrudecalloway7649 2 года назад

      I think U will make a good Mom, because U waited until U was ready. A baby showed you'll love for each other.😃💯😃 Bless the three of you'll Calloway 👌I love your show.

    • @itszbebabaybee
      @itszbebabaybee 2 года назад +1

      I’ve thought the same thing! I wonder if she would ever consider acting

    • @Joseph-zd7kg
      @Joseph-zd7kg 2 года назад +1

      She is an actress...

  • @mariahpowell
    @mariahpowell 2 года назад +7

    So proud of you Jeannie Mai 🥰♥️♥️ I went through a very similar situation as a child with my mom and experienced many of the same feelings as an adult, but glory to God. There is healing in release. So happy for you 🙏🏽

  • @carnitasaunders7037
    @carnitasaunders7037 2 года назад +4

    I felt this the long way. You have me in tears because you are able to articulate everything I have been feeling and processing. Omg I love you and this channel. I’m 39 and have lost 3 babies 10 years ago. I now have great insurance and an opportunity to get IVF. I’m so scared that I will fail and cannot handle the thought of dealing with the loss again. I don’t know if I will be a worthy mom while my family and friends have the greatest confidence in me. I have failed to stand up for myself on so many occasions and knowing what I know now I might be overprotective or literally crazy about my child. I have been through so much that I still don’t talk about. Life is scary. Thank you Jeannie. You’re a blessing to so many.

  • @0104brit
    @0104brit 2 года назад +59

    Even though you don't owe us an explanation, I'm glad you shared your story in YOUR words. I hated all of the speculation done by people who don't even know you. It's your journey, and your growth 💜💚

  • @wendymunoz3860
    @wendymunoz3860 2 года назад +51

    At the end when you said “I was really meant to be a mom” I felt that in my heart. You are going to be an amazing mom, no doubt about it.

  • @samanthaclyne2011
    @samanthaclyne2011 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for openly sharing your journey Jeannie! Your words truly resonate. Truly happy for your inner glow up because the ❤️ you have now, both internally and externally, really shines. Congratulations to you and Jeezy for finding each other...it takes courage to find your equal 💕!!!

  • @sammieadopts
    @sammieadopts 2 года назад

    This was so transparent & raw. You have no idea how much this will help soooo many out there. Thank you so much. I’m going to watch this over and a lover again.

  • @josethuzhca1271
    @josethuzhca1271 2 года назад +55

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I am 26 and I never wanted to be a mom, ever, but now that I’m in a relationship where I feel safe and now that I am actually trying to do the work to heal and be a better person, I actually feel like I want a lil girl 💕

  • @thezanarose
    @thezanarose 2 года назад +178

    Sounds like she has PTSD with her dreams/nightmares.
    That feeling of being unsafe is usually PTSD or CPTSD.
    I’m pleased she has overcome so much. That takes immense strength.

  • @ninjakittycat6888
    @ninjakittycat6888 2 года назад +5

    I’m so proud of you Jeannie. You will be a amazing mom! Congrats to you and Jeezy on your new bundle of joy ❤️ lots of love xo

  • @Susumagoo9
    @Susumagoo9 2 года назад +1

    your stories touch me so much because growing up I live through the same situation of abuse and it’s one of the reasons why I never wanted to be a parent, I didn’t want to put that possibility to happen on repeat and then live with the guilt, I did change my mind later in the future and I protect them like crazy but that possibility is always in the back of my mind and it honestly makes me wanna cry, all you can do is protect them

  • @ashleykelly8945
    @ashleykelly8945 2 года назад +45

    I admire you, Jeannie. I know I'm not only speaking for myself when I say, you never cease to make me smile, laugh, ugly cry, etc.. Vulnerability is not easy. You have a choice to not share the "bad & the ugly" but you do... Thank you for that!! You impact and inspire so many. I value your decision (both times), & ELATED that you are now about to welcome Baby J to the world, glowing as you are. 🥰💖

  • @TheAniyaMarie
    @TheAniyaMarie 2 года назад +50

    God is with you Jeannie & He spoke to you through your baby when he/she woke you from your bad dream.God loves you & He’s not done with you ❤️🙏🏾

  • @kgomotsopene2273
    @kgomotsopene2273 11 месяцев назад +1

    That's what genuine, warm, patient love does! It heals you. It changes your mindset!
    Love this for you.
    Love and light.