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Fellow introvert here.. There's a quote.. "The most lonely feeling isn't when you are alone, it is when you are among people who you don't have a real connection to.." I COMPLETELY butchered that quote because I don't remember it, word for word, but paraphrasing here.. Maybe I'll post again when I see that quote among my photos.. =)
"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone." -Robin Williams
So true. at least BEING alone is more peaceful imo. But being among people you don't know you suddenly crave a connection- that's what really hurts from time to time (for me, at least)
TubeDeviant I remembered reading that. If you're surrounded by the wrong crowd, with people you cant relate with no matter how hard you try, who don't really serve you as an individual, you will feel very lonely and kinda lost. But when you are just being literally alone, in your own company, your own space, you don't really feel that loneliness - you feel more grounded with a sense of direction instead.
I'm a loner myself, always has been since childhood. I have always felt more content alone. I highly enjoyed this video. Most people drain me from their energy. When I'm alone, I can control my own space and positive energy.
One thing I can't stand is when people try to get you to talk more, I talk when I feel like it or feel the need to, just because someone is quiet doesn't mean they're shy, a lot of people such as myself just like to mind our own business, thats whats wrong with people nowadays is that they don't mind their own business and worry about other people too much. I'm a pretty chill guy, I just keep to myself and like to have some alone time doing things I love such as: Drawing, sculpting, writing stories, watching favorite TV shows, video games, exercising, and walking my dog. I enjoyed this video, you basically nailed everything.
LEN90 I can't stand it, even when I'm talking to someone on the phone and you have pause in conversation. I am ready to hang up because we don't have anything else to say.
Yes!!! This is why socializing at the gym is such a struggle for me. I hate small talk but I don't have time for meaningful conversations in between sets haha
Yeah I work as a dental hygienist, we have to make small talk but I can tell if someone feels uncomfortable or is a more serious person. I won't say anything because in truth I hate small talk and asking questions about their life.
Frau Kunterbunt It's because people really don't understand what it's like to be an introvert. They think being an introvert is a bad thing. We live in a world where being social and out going is the norm. While keeping to yourself and being by yourself is considered weird. So people do need to understand that being an introvert isn't a bad thing.
Wow - that's so like me. Isn't it odd? I feel super alone sometimes but when people come over to visit my landlord or house mates, i want them to gtfo. Why is that? I don't understand myself sometimes. Lol.
Always been a loner, but never lonely. A few years back I was lucky enough to meet someone very special, someone I gladly wanted to spend the rest of my life with - myself.
Thank you for this!! I can relate to this on so many levels. As a fit professional in the medical field, so many people wonder why I'm single. I see too many people that aren't truly happy or content being by themselves. Too many people jump from one relationship to another. Too many people don't take the time to be single and "alone" to experience the true magic of self discovery. I've always loved the quote, "I'd rather be alone for the right reasons, than stay with someone for the wrong reasons".
It is because, alot of people (especially extroverts), have not overcome their emotional & belonging needs (by themselves) first. Why they always need to be around other people.
I am an introvert, and living proof you are not destined to be alone, some day you will do what I did and meet another introvert and the two of you will live happily ever after. Just my opinion but I think introverts build better relationships because we aren't always looking for new relationships, quality over quantity.
Brockway Babe jeez i hope so. Im 30 now & have never had a girlfriend. I am getting exhausted hearing questions from my family "when are you gonna get a girlfriend, get married, have kids ?"
Jakme Auff i have dated & slept with many women but nothing ever really goes past that. I am a diehard introvert & i guess i am a loner as well. I can relate to this video. Maybe i should put myself out their more. I am not linked to any social media, i dont even like carrying my phone around with me, i am very private & like to lay low most of the time. Its not easy but its all i know and i am used to it. Growing up as the youngest of 3 to a single mother had a major impact on me. My mother & both older sisters went through divorces and had to raise childs alone until they found a better man. I guess marriage & kids is not a priority to me but i do feel lonely and bored sometimes and dream about it so this post at the top gave me hope. Haha you are 20? Jeez kid relax trying to look for "the one". Hook up with tons of girls, have fun hanging out with your boys, chase success instead
Can relate 100%. I'm like a hermit crab like that. I have no problem being around people and socializing, but after a while I feel like I need to be alone to "recharge" if that makes sense..
As a loner, i always said i wouldnt get married until i found a woman, whose company is so relaxing/easy going that i feel like im by myself when we are together
Introverts need time to decompress after social engagements. It is physically draining. They are perfectly fine around people in small doses, but they need to recharge afterwards by being alone.
I am alone all day, my birthday alone, christmas alone, each day alone. I walk alone, I ride my bike alone, I go to buy groceries alone, I live alone... and I enjoy it. Introverts are Awesome! Great video, thanks for sharing, you need no one else but you to be happy.
I'm 28, and I am a loner myself. I've learned people will let you down throughout my 20s. Relationships I've had didn't work out. So for a year now I don't really do anything social at all. I don't have friends, relationships, all that stuff. I like being alone . I'm not lonely either. But social situations make me really nervous and uneasy. I'm just socially withdrawn.
I hear you.. thankfuly i work in a copyshop, so i have alot of conversations. But other than that. Women take literaly no initiative, which needs to change quickly.
I stay to myself cause I feel no one would really enjoy my company. I’m not talkative and I feel the whole interaction when we’re out will be dull and boring
Don't be so hard on yourself. I love being by myself. If I'm seen as boring or weird by others........GOOD. They will not bother me. Which means I can go about my business in peace and quiet. Stay strong and stay blessed.
I prefer being alone if I've got nothing to say, I dont feel awkward when sitting next to some one and don't talk, I talk loads when I'm interested, small talk can be so boring.
I'm sorry that your mom did not treat you right when you were a baby. People aren't born introverted. They just develop that way thanks to the parents raising or lack thereof.
Introverts tend to be abstract philosophical thinkers, which is why we tend to recharge in solitude. When we're not saying anything, it's usually because we're deep in contemplative, strategic or imaginative thought. We're the visionaries...the architects...the artists...the writers...the musicians...ect. I myself love to go for long walks on scenic routes because I find it stimulates my thought process. Never be ashamed of what you are.
I never once insulted you. You are just projecting your behaviours on to me so you can justify your own rudeness. No one asked or cares how many languages you know. The fact that you're going on about them tells me you're very insecure about making mistakes in your grammar and I touched a nerve. Further evidence for this is that you're still pushing this narrative that I'm lonely when there's no evidence to suggest that. You just want something to throw at me that you hope will upset me the way I've upset you by correcting you on the defintion of words. Again, loneliness and solitude are not "literally the same words". The former is a reaction to the latter. It's the same as grief and bereavement. The former is a response to the latter.
You basically nailed it with how many men feel. I tend to be alone for 3-5 years and then get into a serious relationship for 2-4 years. I'm 36, a scientist, a bodybuilder, runner, father, and I'm happy. I'm not picky about people but I don't open up to anyone unless there's a gradual relationship brewing or there's really good chemistry. I have 3 REAL friends that's better than having a multitude of mediocre friends. If you're my friend you're a real friend. I tend to keep quite. I have Ph.D chemical physics and think deeply about very technical fields like quantum mechanics, partial differential equations, and many realms of theoretical physics. I've yet to meet a female that has any of the same interest as me but one prerequisite is for a lady to have basic logic and independent thought. If I'm at church or at the park at 5 a.m. in the morning, I never tell people really anything about myself. There's no need. If they ask where I work I tell them at a university (as a administrative). Don't tell them I'm a teaching professor, especially at church. What I detest about current society is that everyone assumes that if you're not with someone that something is wrong with you. I don't even attempt to explain. I recently had one of my teaching associates ask me out on a date. I lied to her telling her that I was kind of seeing someone for the simple fact that I don't want to be with anyone right now. In addition, she's the type that clings on from relationship to relationship. I'm perfectly happy being by myself. Part of who I am and a great deal of happiness, stems from who I am. I'm happiest when I'm pushing myself. My happiness is not dependent on someone else. Yes, I'm alone but that doesn't mean I'm lonely. The ability to take in life, like a beautiful sunset, and have a deep appreciation that I'm alive to see such an event gives me contentment. Life is truly a gift and it's only when I take life for granted that I'm at low points in my life. I know, I'm happiest than most and for that I'm most grateful.
So what makes Religion and intelligence the defining factor of being a person? Is religion not personal feeling and intelligence actual experience or thought thereof? Does it make a weirdo to stand and admire the flowers in your own garden?
You're making a series of grave mistakes: 1.) I don't know whether I'm intelligent and frankly, I don't care whether anyone thinks that I am or not. Yes, I've had my I.Q. tested, it's approximately 140-145, however, I.Q. has little to no merit when you apply it to various metrics across the board of life and especially in science. The majority of people I was in graduate school and where I teach, I would say, surpass my intelligence. The only factor that has given me any edge is my tenacity to work hard (the primary reason why I don't have time for relationships). The ability to sacrifice and out work your competitors is a variable that is seriously undermined in today's society. So, no, I'm not sounding smart. You're the one that is making assumptions. Having a Ph.D does not make you smart and if I were you, I would stop making that assumption because by your comment you don't understand what it means to have a doctorate degree (doesn't mean your intelligent). 2.) When it comes to religion: yes, you're correct, there is an inherent logical absurdity in believing in religion (at face value) because most religions, at their central core, you can't prove their deitys as well. I will further validate, the primary reason I attend a non denominational church is because it's the church my parents raised me in (ie it's customary). To a large degree, the church I attend, the congregate don't even realize I believe the big bang, Darwinian evolution, and the majority of all science. However, in the end, the Christians I talk to, their motivation is not proving or disproving science, or attempting to increase member numbers, it's all about treating your fellow man with respect and helping (regardless of religious affiliation) and nothing more. On a personal note, if it wasn't for me attending my church in my youth, chances are I would of ended up like the majority of my now thug friends who didn't have the best of outcomes. Could I be an atheist and do the same, of course. So it's more customary and the degree of respect I have for the people I congregate with that bring any form of hope to more unfortunate individuals. So, your comment about all religious people not having any form intelligence is very generic and beyond elementary. 3.) I don't know your level of understanding of science (especially in quantum mechanics, general relativity, entropy, and so forth) but when you realize the insanity of the universe, any meaningful personal belief or objective understanding of reality (science) has serious limitations... even when accepting empirical evidence... the only logical conclusion based on our limited human comprehension of the universe is that the universe is the very definition absurdity.
introverts are the realist people on earth 1.we never gossip 2.we stay in our own lane 3.peep fake from 3 miles away 4.always gets our name drugged threw dirt 5.we never hate on others 6.always hope the best for everyone 7.and we are some of the most intelligent people on earth
Joe Cashmere 8. We don't have phone conversations outside on speaker at maximum volume and broadcast all the intimate details of our personal lives to everyone within the radius of a whole block.... 9. We don't aggressively shout at passing strangers when we're drunk.
It's hard being an introverted girl especially since I come from a family of extremely extroverted people. I felt like I was forced to be something I'm not and spent a lot of my early 20's partying and having meaningless connections. It wasnt until my baby brother passed away that I realized that in order to grieve properly I needed to be alone. And I spent a whole month at home alone really feeling all the hurt and pain of his loss. And it was then that I realized how much I missed just being with ME.
Sorry about your little brother. But I must say it is one thing to soclude yourself completely and become cynical, and another to enjoy your own company, happily. Also remember, extrovertion and introvertion is a spectrum so some of your family might be more introverted but they seem very extroverted at times. I don't know if I understood you wrong in any of it but if I did, then nevermind.
I like it. I'm a loner. More introvert than my friends but when I first see friends from loner spree I am actually more social. Be alone give me energy and having friends is a balance.
Yes! This was so on point. I also find that spending time alone teaches you a lot of stuff about yourself that you would never know if you spent every single waking minute with people!
Yea I’ve always been alone and socially awkward and introverted. I have friends, but want to be a little more social. I’m thinking of getting into martial arts.
Every time im alone with an extrovert, i feel like i have to always say something or else theyll think im uninteresting or boring or something..and i realized by watching this that i shouldnt even care if they think that..if we have a conversation we will..if not..we wont.
Alexis, I totally get what you're saying. Alot of times I feel like I've got to talk so that people won't think I'm boring or strange. I don't like it.
Being an introvert makes me the worst at conversations with people and gets really awkward real quick, so instead of talking I think deeply about important stuff...
Same here man. I love being alone. You get so much peace and quiet, you have everything all to yourself instead of having to share, you can be the king of your castle, and you can pretty much do whatever you want, whenever you want! :D
When you get old you will need help and attention. If you get sick or injured, you will need help and company and attention. These things are issues i always have present in my mind. It won't be easy when we get old and unable to go alone to the bathroom or take a shower or cook. ☹
@@Felhek yes it will with The Most High help He understand our situation it's hard to find loyal friends and a wife these days so be content either way
I had a bad breakup 5 or 6 years ago and all our friends were bitching and being weird so I just left and haven't spoke to them since. I do like being alone but sometimes it's tough doing everything on your own.
That's a really good book. Different cultures see introverts and extroverts differently. Both types of people have advantages and disadvantages in life. That book really helped me see the advantages of being an introvert.
I'm a proud loner - introverted and loving my self made sanctuary. I have a loving husband, a beautiful son and the love of my mother and siblings. I am a doting aunt to my nieces and nephews - I spoil them and spend my time creating an interesting life for them. Unfortunately the majority of people outside of my immediate family have let me down, or use me for their own gain, or their friendships are transient. I do however keep in touch with two women professionals through messaging who I consider as lifelong friends. I volunteer as I have a caring nature especially with animals and humans who need care the most. This is how I'm naturally hardwired and I love myself and I love my life!
Good to see that there are like 99% of the comments that agree to this! Better alone than a bad company, as they say. No? People trash talk, and harm you in the end! That is it. Don't give a damn about these people. Nobody is your friend these days!
I can definitely relate, I have been and introvert all my life and I always felt like I had to force myself to go out and be social just so I wouldn't have to be asked if something was wrong with me, when really I just enjoyed doing things on my own sometimes. My kids always worry about me being by myself once they graduate.. little do they know, I'm a pro at being alone. : )
You're not a loner ,you have friends. whereas I have acquaintances :( anyway LOVED this video. You are one of the attractive introverts and the few that are positive. The fact that you accept being and introvert and loner and your happy is amazing. Gives me a lot of hope . The whole time in this video you were constantly happy and content, which is beautiful
As a child, I was never bullied, or shy, or anything like that; I just enjoyed being alone. I would always exclude myself from other kids because I find zen in loneliness. Even now that I'm in university, I just workout, go to class, and think about life. It's something I enjoy.
Haven't really had a bad breakup, but a definite loner. I think we all feel alone once in a great while, but in general, 95% of the time, I actually prefer to be alone. I always have. Video speaks volumes.
I am very lonely but kinda like it..people always say it is not normal and people are supposed to be social but i am really happy😺I hate talking, love being independent & learned how to deal with problems on my own. People in school think i am sick but many People can't understand some of us like being alone🤷♀️
sal ly EXACTLY same here, people always think quiet people are shy or lonely when they're not. We just like to mind our own business while others are too focused on other people instead of themselves. Don't get me wrong I'm pretty chill, I just like being alone most of the time doing hobbies that I love.
Wow, this really resonates with me. I was actually very happy when I found out about the term introvert. Before I knew about the term people would just call me quiet and every time I felt like it was said with a negative connotation like something was wrong with me. But when I found out about the term introvert I realized that the way I act socially is actually normal and that a large amount of the population is like this. I think the hardest part about being an introvert is seeing (because we are good listeners and observers) all of the extroverts all of these groups interacting seamlessly and laughing and thinking to myself why can't I have that. But when I go back to my room I am content again, just happy to be the person I am because it reality myself is the only person who will be and has been with me for my entire life. I do love myself so I enjoy spending time by myself!
I’m an introvert and sometimes people just don’t understand why I don’t want hang out every weekend or have a girlfriend. I enjoy my own company and just like spending time doing things I want to do when I feel like doing it. Nothing wrong with that. Less stress, drama, and bs. More money saved too. #IntrovertNation
Yeah man am here to introvert since i was 15 i realise it is better to be alone then to be in a bad company but it is also better to be in a good company then to be alone.
Really cool that this video is bringing a lot of people to the channel. Please subscribe while you are here! The intro song is : Me, Myself, and I - Omeo
Thats all about it dude sef acceptence and being naturally happy regardless of people validation and relationship, if you grasp for relationship or social life and believe it's gonna bring happiness you would be dead wrong because your whole happines would be about that person or friends and it wouldn't be sustainable, but if you are a naturally happy then there is nothing to worry about you can get people in to your life and if they leave, you will be just fine and still happy.
Love this one. I can relate so much to everything you said. I still struggle a lot with self-acceptance but it's something I've been working on lately.
I'm 72 an have always been a loner and I love it. I love people, just not always around me. If you are a loner and catching flack about it.....remember we did not all come here to experience the same thing...carry on!
Being a lone wolf does not mean you are socially incapable xD Just quite likely. As far I'm concerned it would be a gathering between human being. Whatever your temper, habits ethnicity etc is.
I was 21 and recently in the the military. I won't forget those hot nights where I would go to the park alone with my music and begin my calisthenics journey. I'm in my late 20s now done with my enlistment and I'm still at it....... Let's go
no, the introverted alpha is a sigma, omega's are outcasts, people who are deemed not good enough to be in the pack, ie the wolf who does not contribute in the hunt.
arian taghdiri I was an omega and a real loser till around 22. Always doing my own thing and mostly rejected by groups, but low confidence and thought there was something wrong with me. But at 23-24 I started to notice there is more in me, there is a huge fire burning inside me. At that point I knew I don't need "them". Now, at 28 I would say I'm a sigma too. I'm stronger mentally and physically, have become Self employed and doing very well, confident, don't give a shit about others. And I'm happier...
This completely hits home for me! I went through a break up where I was told I'm not social enough therefore I'm not interesting to talk to etc. Just constant reasons why I wasn't good enough when there was nothing wrong with me in that regard. It's just how I am. I love my alone time, I love time in very small groups of close friends, and then, on occasion, I'm completely up and excited for larger social gatherings. I also went through a period after where I was constantly social and it truly helped me grow as a person and understand myself so much better. It even helped recharge friendships I let dwindle a bit after college. Heartbreak sucks but can lead to good things in the end. Glad you were able to find the good in your breakup too. :)
I used to have my circle of friends back in my country, it was fun, but even with that I felt lonely. So sometimes friends cannot do miracles for you. I guess we are the way we are. Two years ago I met what i feel that will be my prettiest gf ever, although I hoped we would be together forevermore, reality just slapped my face, she just dumped me for silly reasons. Now I'm in my third year of engineering, no gf, no friends, tons of depressing and boring hw. Good thing is that I realized that I'm a loner, and I learned to feel good about it, I think loners appreciate more kind gestures from others, and when we met someone like us we can easily understand each other, thus become good friends. I want to state positive and I hope that after I get out of that shithole called college I will set my life back on trail. Let's stay positive guys, so much hardship can't be for nothing.
Respect!! It's so true that introversion is seen as a negative trait. I am also an introvert, never really felt "sad" to be all by myself. Greetings from India !!
I don't know if it's seen as a "negative" trait, but I think that a lot of people just don't understand. And by nature we are worrisome about things we don't understand.
People are children to me. I feel like a very old soul, like if i was on earth for thousands of years. So when i see other ppl i see children, young souls. Children with sharp knives
All my life I've been most comfortable being by myself. My profession forced me to open up somewhat, but I'm still perfectly fine being alone long periods of time.
"To be truly happy, you have to know how to be content being alone, being by yourself. You cannot be dependent on one person to complete you". Agreed 100%! Cheers to you and all the lone wolves of this world! Because we are game changers, despite what society says. We will do it our way, and what's best for us in order to lead a fulfilling and happy life.
I was a person that hated being alone. I liked to be with people. I was needy and always called them to check up on them. They took it for granted. They said I was too much and that they were not obligated to answer me. But everything changed with quarentine. Now,I love being alone. I learn to enjoy my own company. I don't disturb anyone so I don't get heartbroken. No drama, no problems. Human beings are hard to understand. I rather have a pet. People now miss me which is funny. They say why I don't call them anymore. I don't answer their call as well. I answer them when I want to. It's not a payback but I just do not feel like talking sometimes. I still talk with people but I cannot stay with them for too long. I feel tired. This quarentine was amazing for me. I'm happier with my new lifestyle. 😇
Omg this is what I needed to hear! A person that means a lot to me just call me weird because I don't have friends , I'm very capable to have but I chose not to ,I'm content with myself , he's the opposite and probably think I'm from another planet , it really hurts my feeling to the point I though something was wrong with me . Thank you so much for sharing this!!💕
I just found your channel today and oh man did this message really hit home with me. I'm so glad to know that I am not alone out there and that other people think its ok to be introverted and want to stay in on a friday night.
I struggle some Myself, I am major introvert, alone at 50 no kids,or parents, family, friends. I just dont find most people interesting, or there not interested.
Appreciate the vid bro. Took me back. I was living the exact lifestyle in my 20s. Took great care of myself. Car, house, career, friends, body, and mind sound. I was waiting to make my mark on the world some day. It's great to focus on yourself and build this base while you can. In my case it was great. Parties. Social events where I really didn't care if I went or not. Friends with guys, gals, gays, lesbians, other couples you name it because if I didn't enjoy myself (which was more often than not), then I could at least muster up a few hours with those people knowing that I'd be happier at home or in the gym anyway soon. A few thoughts. Have a "real" best friend or other mentor that's at least on your level to share your intimate thoughts, fears, plans. IF this person for you is a female, then I'd hope it's a sister or family member in general. You might not need this person often but I hope you got one. For me it was my older brother. You mentioned how loving yourself enables you to treat others with love etc. I thought this too and it's true on many levels but don't fool yourself into thinking you really love these people or vice versa. You like them enough and would help them if need be. You need to hang out with them and all occasionally. Ask yourself if you'd want any of them to live with you for a period of longer than 6 months. Maybe they're being evicted and just need to crash. Heck, would you wanna hang out with them everyday? No?? You don't love them. You like their company and they appear to like yours. Your life situations are the same. You'll eventually feel proud of yourself for just putting up with their dramatic lives comparatively. Then the bottom drops out as you roll into your 30s. Girlfriends, exs, bros from college or old jobs. These Friends will not only let you down. Sometimes you won't recognize them. They'll only let you down when you really need them as you'll see them choose new company. In general, couples like hanging out with other couples and they'll phase you out of their plans if you're still single at this point. Usually late 20s. I call it pre-marriage. Things feel odd but you'll be convinced that they'll still be close with you despite the upcoming marriage. Your expectations for yourself are high. Good. Don't expect others to follow suit over the next 5 years. You will even view some of these "good" friends with disgust as you see the mistakes they are making with women, careers, and finances. Your humouros nature will be misconstrued as boyish or immature. These feelings are the tip of the iceberg for a much different social experience in your 30s and 40s. Women in their 20s can be just as vicious in trapping you (a high market value man) into complex relationships that crush your time and spirit. I hope you don't experience a cool chick going nutty and getting pregnant on purpose, stds, hidden agendas. You'll see exs and even current girlfriends have intimate realtionships with other men alongside you. If it's non sexual it's worse than cheating traditionally. Your body and networth will need to be a assets for you by then as your looks too will fade along with the older women you're seeing around all the time. You might barely even see 20yr old women anymore. At least they won't see you. Those old hangouts will be no more intolerable anyhow. Any exits from your lifestyle such as laziness or drugs will doom you. If your confidence drops too much this is all moot and you'll definitely be alone because the loner thing isn't viewed as cute or cool anymore. You'll be viewed as a selfish person whether you like it or not. You're gonna wanna explain your lifestyle to all that'll listen but you'll see not many listen nor truly care about single guy shit or your non-kid/career problem. Odd guy out. They'll piss you off by discarding your professional accomplishments as nothing compared to their having to raise a baby. People won't have time or patience for you as they once did. They'll dismiss you seriously if they have a strong relationship or kids at that point. They'll say "what's he up to lately"? and "what's wrong with him"? if you don't join in their fun...not yours. That was fine with me until they stopped asking. Eventually the friends, parties, game nights etc that you might take for granted to break out of the house for awhile all become memories when you watch those "friends" get married, have kids, move away and generally stop giving a damn about your lifestyle. Your friends (if they don't already) will see your life and figure that you've got it made with or without them. They probably (especially females) will throw in an occasional "why are you single" and convince you again that you're gonna end up lonely etc. It's very very subtle. It will occur over a period of 3-5 years. You'll at first feel this distancing as a great relief. The world will demand you come out to play and stress will become a new factor that causes your alone time to be drowned by the responsibilities of having to fend for yourself. Because now you can't maintain the perfect lifestyle from your younger 20s. They won't openly not invite you or anything. But they'll be different people in the way they interact with you. The small talk will be all about work and family and future events and vacations that they'll be going on without you. Kids, kids, and more kids. Shifting political and societal views are the norm. That chick in college you dated that had 2 dui’s and snorted more coke than her rich dad could keep up with will be on Facebook taking about how she's joined city council and wants taxpayers to fund her campaign against drugs and alcohol will hit you up via linkedin and ask for your support (yes it happened to me). This makes it very difficult and different to talk to old friends. There just won't be much time given to you. This especially will hurt when it's your single friends who can't hang out ever. You'll be wanting to discuss 'God of War' and they'll look at you like a child because you still play video games. Or they'll simply never aknowledge any of your "gains" anymore eg bigger house, car, biceps. It's not that you'll want their approval but you'll still feel a void. This void is the realization that material things are only attracting the wrong people. Lower level men who are envious. Usually divorcees, addicts, or complainers. Single moms, hypergamous women, broke women. I repeat. Broke women. This is where you'll need to connect with someone very real. Your true best friend or father. This will happen in your 30s and will hit you like a ton of bricks. You'll see that if you're not married by then that your chances of having 2.5 kids and the blushing bride suburbia lifestyle is torched. Women who have got it going on in their 30s are nearly untouchable. Any man (aged up to 67 I've seen) will take them quickly off the market. Moreover, the leftovers will have some good women, but you'll notice the really fantastic ones you might meet at work or a gym have a reason. Std? Hmmm. Not in my case. But much more likely is that she'll have major sexual baggage from her 20s that you all won't discuss because you really don't wanna know but as an introvert will greatly feel. Moreover, if this seemingly great gal in her 30s doesn't have a kid and is cool then she's probably not as attractive as you're thinking you'll marry. Ie fat. Cute fat gals are great but there's plenty of muscleheads with these lazy women. You'll become lazy too if you don't move on from them quickly. Something won't be right and you'll either end up with this woman and deal with it (internally). Guess what? Your married friends will accept you back fast. In fact, you'll see them light up at the idea of you having a serious relationship and the talk will immediately go to having kids and marriage. IF you fuck up at this point (28-35yrs old) then you'll be sitting amongst her friends in a crowded shoe store missing your life as you wonder how you got there in the first place. She'll gain weight subtly and you'll be married by then or worse divorced. Then the real pain begins Danny boy. Life is great brother just keep paying attention.
I feel like you are more reliable and trustworthy of yourself by being introverted. You get to discover talents that you haven't realised since you have so much time for yourself.I can relate significantly..Its the big advantage of being an introvert.
As I grow up in schools, I've learned that being alone is hard to go through. The thing is, for me, I'm currently going through some friendship issue. And the only solution that I could possibly think of is to be a lone wolf for now or for a while. Maybe being quiet is good for me, back then I'd get good grades because I'd be quiet instead of talking to others like I'm doing right now as a Freshmen. I believe I've learned something from this video, and that is find or do something that makes you who you are. Thank you!
I can relate to you on so many levels, I have always felt more in my element when I'm alone and I swayed between trying to be outgoing and extroverted but realized over time I was doing it to meet others expectations. I love people and being around them but now as I got older I am more aware and choose who I spend my time with, I too like you went through a crushing separation. She too mentioned my inclination towards spending more time alone as a defect I needed to work and just like you also forced my self into social situations. Now I cherish my time alone and accept it as well as cherish time with my loved ones.
Fellow introvert checking in, we are all alone together :) Going out 6 weekends in a row sounds about as taxing as maxing on the big three for six weeks in a row. Blessings
IMHO introverts have a great internal retrospective, and therefore ability to change. I used to be like you, and I've learned how to switch into extravert mode. Was hard and took a lots of time & effort, but now I'd say I'm more extraverted than introverted. It's great to have those two sources of energy :D I'd even care to say that introverts make terrific extraverts haha. Cheers!
I feel the same way, always thought I needed to socialize more and "step out of my comfort zone". Yet it always felt wrong when I did go to more social gatherings. This video really opened my view to how I know I'm content alone and shouldent let others influence what makes me, "me".
I'm trying to find that happy medium between being alone and being with people. I like being alone more but sometimes I get really fed up of doing things by myself. Just never really been any good at making friends so when I wanna do things with someone there is usually none to do it with so that kinda sucks but yeah I totally relate to this video.
LightAndShapes I'm the same way. I'm lucky though since I met a lot of people through certain party scenes in the city so I just go to monthly events with basically the same people. Other friends will hit me up like once a month and that works for me too lol
I went through few breakups but the last one really shook me hard. It was hard. Anyhow, the break up thing got me interested in ur vlog. I have been struggling to socialize with people and honestly i suck at it. But then at 36 i am beginning to realize that I have been wasting my time and energy on being accepted by others. I now realize that i have been totally ignoring myself. I recently started to explore my inner self. And yes, i am an "introvert" too. Its not like i never knew but I am accepting it today. All our life we spend wondering what should i do next to look cool. Be it looks, fame or favour from the rich and powerful. Ofcourse we desire a comfortable and smooth life. But something is always missing. We have been so self demotivating that we belief we are abnormal. Or atleast that's how i felt. After my recent break up my family was really supportive and worries for me. Actually i don't feel so bad now. I think what happened reinforced my feeling that being alone is not bad after all. Honestly i do miss my previous ex-gfs. Family wants me to with someone. But the fact is i feel cool by this change. Thank you ex. I have decided to spend my time and resources on me. To be more self aware. And more self accepting. I want to be the "Hero in my own movie". Thank you travis for the platform. I wrote this to myself. And anyone else who finds it helpful is welcome. INTROVERTS BE COOL WITH YOURSELF. WE ARE MANY. AND WE ARE NOT ALONE.
man, couldn't agree more. All my life I tried to change myself to become a more social person and forced myself to socialize with other people. But recently I started excepting that being an introvert is not bad although society is trying to tell us it is. And since i accepted that I am way happier than before and found out that being an introvert has a lot of upsides too. Really liked your comment! Thanks for that! Have an awesome life!
Thanks for sharing this. It is very relatable for me. It took me 53 years to truly accept and embrace being an introvert where the source of my life energy comes from being alone. Social situations deplete me. There’s nothing wrong with that. I would like to add in my story I was in denial most of my life due to negative societal stigmas put on introverts. I tried to be an extrovert. Therefore, i became an imposter and pretended to be outgoing with much success and Managed to do this for the course of a 25 year career on Wall Street and made a lot of money. .... but it also nearly killed me physically and mentally. The amount of energy sucked out of me everyday to maintain this facade led to severe insomnia , depression, anxiety and substance abuse to deal with the stress. I left all that behind and for the first time feel comfortable in my own skin. It’s wonderful. No regrets, it’s all just apart of my life journey.
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Travis S I can relate! I like small groups and feel lost in crowds. I do most things on my own
Travis S ❤️these videos. Thank you!
Travis S
The majority of people know these 2 things are obvious.
Travis S thanks for the help
No bs this is an exact representation of me
"The realest people don't have a lot of friends"
- Tupac Shakur
finnishguy845 cringe
Really ?? 🤔😏
Mitchell Pavlicek u more
Bullshit
Yeah that's true
better be a loner then chill out whit fake people
P B exactly
P B right
P B same 💀
Well said P B
Completly Right
Fellow introvert here..
There's a quote.. "The most lonely feeling isn't when you are alone, it is when you are among people who you don't have a real connection to.." I COMPLETELY butchered that quote because I don't remember it, word for word, but paraphrasing here.. Maybe I'll post again when I see that quote among my photos.. =)
"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone." -Robin Williams
So true. at least BEING alone is more peaceful imo. But being among people you don't know you suddenly crave a connection- that's what really hurts from time to time (for me, at least)
TubeDeviant
Oh my god, that is beautiful
that is exactly how I feel
TubeDeviant
I remembered reading that. If you're surrounded by the wrong crowd, with people you cant relate with no matter how hard you try, who don't really serve you as an individual, you will feel very lonely and kinda lost. But when you are just being literally alone, in your own company, your own space, you don't really feel that loneliness - you feel more grounded with a sense of direction instead.
I'm a loner myself, always has been since childhood. I have always felt more content alone. I highly enjoyed this video. Most people drain me from their energy. When I'm alone, I can control my own space and positive energy.
Shalisha Sandey EXACTLY, well said.
Shalisha Sandey same!
Real talk Fam. ....Salute
One thing I can't stand is when people try to get you to talk more, I talk when I feel like it or feel the need to, just because someone is quiet doesn't mean they're shy, a lot of people such as myself just like to mind our own business, thats whats wrong with people nowadays is that they don't mind their own business and worry about other people too much. I'm a pretty chill guy, I just keep to myself and like to have some alone time doing things I love such as: Drawing, sculpting, writing stories, watching favorite TV shows, video games, exercising, and walking my dog. I enjoyed this video, you basically nailed everything.
same here bro
I hate that people assume I’m shy. I just don’t feel the need to verbalise any of my thoughts a lot of the time.
Right
Sounds like the perfect life
dont ever say the n word, people have always used the n word. nowadays. that whats wrong with people nowadays bla bla bluh
People think i ghost them. I just don't like talking.
noelsoong777 u should let them know Jesus Christ. Damn pos.
XD true
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 exactly
People say I'm rude and cold coz I'm not a chatter box
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 You are the reason we like to be alone
I'm with u Trav, anyone else hate small talk?
LEN90 YES! on a completely unrelated topic, how's the weather?😂
LEN90 I can't stand it, even when I'm talking to someone on the phone and you have pause in conversation. I am ready to hang up because we don't have anything else to say.
Yes!!! This is why socializing at the gym is such a struggle for me. I hate small talk but I don't have time for meaningful conversations in between sets haha
LEN90 hey wtf I'm here now thanks
Yeah I work as a dental hygienist, we have to make small talk but I can tell if someone feels uncomfortable or is a more serious person. I won't say anything because in truth I hate small talk and asking questions about their life.
I'm in the same camp - a lot of people who aren't introverts don't understand, but I feel very content when I'm alone
The Aesthetic Professional babe
Who cares if they dont understand. Why is it always about introverts who have to be understood. Like, I dont care, I love being alone, its awesome.
Frau Kunterbunt It's because people really don't understand what it's like to be an introvert. They think being an introvert is a bad thing. We live in a world where being social and out going is the norm. While keeping to yourself and being by yourself is considered weird. So people do need to understand that being an introvert isn't a bad thing.
I sit at home alone all the time. Sometimes I'm lonely but when company comes I just want them to leave lol. My house is my alone time.
Two Cents same. I have to force myself to talk to people lmao.
@Two Cents @AlphaSporeGaming .... same
fuckign same
Wow - that's so like me. Isn't it odd? I feel super alone sometimes but when people come over to visit my landlord or house mates, i want them to gtfo. Why is that? I don't understand myself sometimes. Lol.
Idk but I do know tigers are lone hunters but lions live in prides.
I feel alone when I around people.
arelis garcia Not me, I just mind own business.
@@bertwillis4832 thats u
That's negative energy then. If u not feeling there energy & matching it just go on about ur day & focus on you 💯
Real talk
arelis garcia that is so real
So dang true. Very introverted, but never feel alone. So much self-discipline comes from being introverted.
Zach Gonring ikr
They call that metaphysics.
Vividly chill
Zach Gonring true
I agree on this and most of the people assume that we are boring when I'm reality introverted people just have better standards.
Always been a loner, but never lonely. A few years back I was lucky enough to meet someone very special, someone I gladly wanted to spend the rest of my life with - myself.
Cool.
Thank you for this!! I can relate to this on so many levels. As a fit professional in the medical field, so many people wonder why I'm single. I see too many people that aren't truly happy or content being by themselves. Too many people jump from one relationship to another. Too many people don't take the time to be single and "alone" to experience the true magic of self discovery. I've always loved the quote, "I'd rather be alone for the right reasons, than stay with someone for the wrong reasons".
It is because, alot of people (especially extroverts), have not overcome their emotional & belonging needs (by themselves) first. Why they always need to be around other people.
I'm a loner extrovert lol because I see how fake and how much ppl lie. It's sick to me
Kulafachi same here man lol
truth man
KulaFachi You just gotta keep searching for the right people.. One day you wil find them!!!
Daniel Bor yeah ur right. The people I'm referring to are all my closets friends and co workers. I love ppl, just not those types of ppl.
KulaFachi sorry to break it to you but u wont even have 2 friends that are "100" or "down to ride" later in life. Hope you know that.
Im a loner because i don't like people
Then you must not like yourself
@@jeffbezos4746 example of an idiot
@@jeffbezos4746 i don't like people cause I love myself so much. The more they speak to me is the more I feel like becoming a mass shooter.
@@anhbayar11 😂😂😂😂 you kicked the shit out of me
I dont like them either!! I love dogs. I'm a proud beagle parent and I'd rather be with dogs than humans
This is so true. Being lonely allows me to recharge and be more social and actually listen.
I am an introvert, and living proof you are not destined to be alone, some day you will do what I did and meet another introvert and the two of you will live happily ever after. Just my opinion but I think introverts build better relationships because we aren't always looking for new relationships, quality over quantity.
Brockway Babe jeez i hope so. Im 30 now & have never had a girlfriend. I am getting exhausted hearing questions from my family "when are you gonna get a girlfriend, get married, have kids ?"
Don't worry about it.
Jakme Auff i have dated & slept with many women but nothing ever really goes past that. I am a diehard introvert & i guess i am a loner as well. I can relate to this video. Maybe i should put myself out their more. I am not linked to any social media, i dont even like carrying my phone around with me, i am very private & like to lay low most of the time. Its not easy but its all i know and i am used to it. Growing up as the youngest of 3 to a single mother had a major impact on me. My mother & both older sisters went through divorces and had to raise childs alone until they found a better man. I guess marriage & kids is not a priority to me but i do feel lonely and bored sometimes and dream about it so this post at the top gave me hope. Haha you are 20? Jeez kid relax trying to look for "the one". Hook up with tons of girls, have fun hanging out with your boys, chase success instead
BigBabyJesus i try but i get exhausted hearing these repetitive questions. I rather stay home alone then go to family gathetings sometimes
quality is not found in quantity it is the unique things that are quality, true things, not always new things all the time, time itself for connection
Can relate 100%. I'm like a hermit crab like that. I have no problem being around people and socializing, but after a while I feel like I need to be alone to "recharge" if that makes sense..
Erik Hansen makes much sense
You're not the only one :)
Makes total sense.
Basically me.
Makes perfect sense man.
As a loner, i always said i wouldnt get married until i found a woman, whose company is so relaxing/easy going that i feel like im by myself when we are together
Farmer Nate that is sadly happy.
agreed
Agreed very well said.
Good luck on finding that in a woman. Your better off with a Japanese made sexbot.
Farmer Nate omg saaamme expect with a man lol
Introverts need time to decompress after social engagements. It is physically draining. They are perfectly fine around people in small doses, but they need to recharge afterwards by being alone.
I enjoyed this. Introverts unite baby
we rule
that wont happen because we are introverts
Divided we stand, united we fall:)
na u guys go on a ahead , ive got a thing tonight
Me af
I am alone all day, my birthday alone, christmas alone, each day alone. I walk alone, I ride my bike alone, I go to buy groceries alone, I live alone... and I enjoy it. Introverts are Awesome! Great video, thanks for sharing, you need no one else but you to be happy.
Did all your family pass away?
Nah, he's just Finnish.
*I walk a lonely road, the only one that I have ever known ~*
😂😂😂
I enjoy holidays like Christmas alone too. I hate waiting in the long lines at the airports and everywhere else.
I'm 28, and I am a loner myself. I've learned people will let you down throughout my 20s. Relationships I've had didn't work out. So for a year now I don't really do anything social at all. I don't have friends, relationships, all that stuff. I like being alone . I'm not lonely either. But social situations make me really nervous and uneasy. I'm just socially withdrawn.
Derek Martin humans r pos and only care bout themselves
I hear you.. thankfuly i work in a copyshop, so i have alot of conversations. But other than that. Women take literaly no initiative, which needs to change quickly.
Derek Martin people will let u down bec humans r pos and only care bout themselves
Join the club.
I bet your life is even better.
Did anything change since 2 years ago?
How to make a loner feel lonely. Put them with a group of people.
bodhi tree omg thank you for this comment 🙏 that s so true!
Wow, so true.
Lol trueXD
I don't feel lonely in a crowd. I'm always hanging out and doing things .
So true
I stay to myself cause I feel no one would really enjoy my company. I’m not talkative and I feel the whole interaction when we’re out will be dull and boring
Marvin's Reviews ETC. True say! Lol
Don't be so hard on yourself.
I love being by myself.
If I'm seen as boring or weird by others........GOOD.
They will not bother me.
Which means I can go about my business in peace and quiet.
Stay strong and stay blessed.
I feel the exact same way
Well said bro “ I considered myself very introverted “ u don’t need to have many people in your life to be happy but happy within yourself is the key
Thanks for stopping by !
I prefer being alone if I've got nothing to say, I dont feel awkward when sitting next to some one and don't talk, I talk loads when I'm interested, small talk can be so boring.
Although I don't like being alon too long
I'm sorry that your mom did not treat you right when you were a baby. People aren't born introverted. They just develop that way thanks to the parents raising or lack thereof.
Cosa Mona stfu that is horse shit.
tom m Same for me.
Just because I'm alone, that doesn't make me lonely.
Good video
Thank you
school shooter I agree. Better to be alone and content than to be the outward center of attention but internally lonely
Introverts tend to be abstract philosophical thinkers, which is why we tend to recharge in solitude. When we're not saying anything, it's usually because we're deep in contemplative, strategic or imaginative thought. We're the visionaries...the architects...the artists...the writers...the musicians...ect. I myself love to go for long walks on scenic routes because I find it stimulates my thought process. Never be ashamed of what you are.
school shooter Exactly, people always assume that.
school shooter someone said it💯💯
Solitude and Loneliness aren't synonymous.
Macent but slavery and civilization ARE!
Solitude is a choice, loneliness a feeling :)
BOOM!!!!! You hit that nail dead on!
Since you're already on google, why don't you look upwhat "synonymous" actually means, then google the defintions of loneliness and solitude.
I never once insulted you. You are just projecting your behaviours on to me so you can justify your own rudeness. No one asked or cares how many languages you know. The fact that you're going on about them tells me you're very insecure about making mistakes in your grammar and I touched a nerve. Further evidence for this is that you're still pushing this narrative that I'm lonely when there's no evidence to suggest that. You just want something to throw at me that you hope will upset me the way I've upset you by correcting you on the defintion of words. Again, loneliness and solitude are not "literally the same words". The former is a reaction to the latter. It's the same as grief and bereavement. The former is a response to the latter.
It's hard to make being alone and an introvert and social awkward-ness sound positive in today's world. You did it :) Thank you.
You basically nailed it with how many men feel. I tend to be alone for 3-5 years and then get into a serious relationship for 2-4 years. I'm 36, a scientist, a bodybuilder, runner, father, and I'm happy. I'm not picky about people but I don't open up to anyone unless there's a gradual relationship brewing or there's really good chemistry. I have 3 REAL friends that's better than having a multitude of mediocre friends. If you're my friend you're a real friend. I tend to keep quite. I have Ph.D chemical physics and think deeply about very technical fields like quantum mechanics, partial differential equations, and many realms of theoretical physics. I've yet to meet a female that has any of the same interest as me but one prerequisite is for a lady to have basic logic and independent thought. If I'm at church or at the park at 5 a.m. in the morning, I never tell people really anything about myself. There's no need. If they ask where I work I tell them at a university (as a administrative). Don't tell them I'm a teaching professor, especially at church.
What I detest about current society is that everyone assumes that if you're not with someone that something is wrong with you. I don't even attempt to explain. I recently had one of my teaching associates ask me out on a date. I lied to her telling her that I was kind of seeing someone for the simple fact that I don't want to be with anyone right now. In addition, she's the type that clings on from relationship to relationship. I'm perfectly happy being by myself. Part of who I am and a great deal of happiness, stems from who I am. I'm happiest when I'm pushing myself. My happiness is not dependent on someone else. Yes, I'm alone but that doesn't mean I'm lonely.
The ability to take in life, like a beautiful sunset, and have a deep appreciation that I'm alive to see such an event gives me contentment. Life is truly a gift and it's only when I take life for granted that I'm at low points in my life. I know, I'm happiest than most and for that I'm most grateful.
+ErwinSchrodinger64 really appreciate this comment
LMAO you claim to be super intelligent yet you go to church?
So what makes Religion and intelligence the defining factor of being a person?
Is religion not personal feeling and intelligence actual experience or thought thereof? Does it make a weirdo to stand and admire the flowers in your own garden?
You're making a series of grave mistakes:
1.) I don't know whether I'm intelligent and frankly, I don't care whether anyone thinks that I am or not. Yes, I've had my I.Q. tested, it's approximately 140-145, however, I.Q. has little to no merit when you apply it to various metrics across the board of life and especially in science. The majority of people I was in graduate school and where I teach, I would say, surpass my intelligence. The only factor that has given me any edge is my tenacity to work hard (the primary reason why I don't have time for relationships). The ability to sacrifice and out work your competitors is a variable that is seriously undermined in today's society. So, no, I'm not sounding smart. You're the one that is making assumptions. Having a Ph.D does not make you smart and if I were you, I would stop making that assumption because by your comment you don't understand what it means to have a doctorate degree (doesn't mean your intelligent).
2.) When it comes to religion: yes, you're correct, there is an inherent logical absurdity in believing in religion (at face value) because most religions, at their central core, you can't prove their deitys as well. I will further validate, the primary reason I attend a non denominational church is because it's the church my parents raised me in (ie it's customary). To a large degree, the church I attend, the congregate don't even realize I believe the big bang, Darwinian evolution, and the majority of all science. However, in the end, the Christians I talk to, their motivation is not proving or disproving science, or attempting to increase member numbers, it's all about treating your fellow man with respect and helping (regardless of religious affiliation) and nothing more. On a personal note, if it wasn't for me attending my church in my youth, chances are I would of ended up like the majority of my now thug friends who didn't have the best of outcomes. Could I be an atheist and do the same, of course. So it's more customary and the degree of respect I have for the people I congregate with that bring any form of hope to more unfortunate individuals. So, your comment about all religious people not having any form intelligence is very generic and beyond elementary.
3.) I don't know your level of understanding of science (especially in quantum mechanics, general relativity, entropy, and so forth) but when you realize the insanity of the universe, any meaningful personal belief or objective understanding of reality (science) has serious limitations... even when accepting empirical evidence... the only logical conclusion based on our limited human comprehension of the universe is that the universe is the very definition absurdity.
ErwinSchrodinger64 But then how are you a father and alone?
introverts are the realist people on earth
1.we never gossip
2.we stay in our own lane
3.peep fake from 3 miles away
4.always gets our name drugged threw dirt
5.we never hate on others
6.always hope the best for everyone
7.and we are some of the most intelligent people on earth
Joe Cashmere so true
8 we are the strongest people on earth. The strongest walk is the one we do alone...and at the same time it brings the best out of us. #webringit
Joe Cashmere you sum introverts up perfectly.
All of the above is true, except 5. We just don't show it.
Joe Cashmere
8. We don't have phone conversations outside on speaker at maximum volume and broadcast all the intimate details of our personal lives to everyone within the radius of a whole block....
9. We don't aggressively shout at passing strangers when we're drunk.
It's hard being an introverted girl especially since I come from a family of extremely extroverted people. I felt like I was forced to be something I'm not and spent a lot of my early 20's partying and having meaningless connections. It wasnt until my baby brother passed away that I realized that in order to grieve properly I needed to be alone. And I spent a whole month at home alone really feeling all the hurt and pain of his loss. And it was then that I realized how much I missed just being with ME.
Sorry about your little brother. But I must say it is one thing to soclude yourself completely and become cynical, and another to enjoy your own company, happily. Also remember, extrovertion and introvertion is a spectrum so some of your family might be more introverted but they seem very extroverted at times. I don't know if I understood you wrong in any of it but if I did, then nevermind.
Nea Rose Rodriguez don’t sell out for society.
Nea Rose Rodriguez Why do u miss him?
A whole month.. Wow.. *rolls eyes*
Plus the fact you mentioned you were a girl. Sorry abput the passing. But victim mode or what
I like it. I'm a loner. More introvert than my friends but when I first see friends from loner spree I am actually more social. Be alone give me energy and having friends is a balance.
Chaynber H Pretty much the same for me.
Solitude is Bliss.
Yes! This was so on point. I also find that spending time alone teaches you a lot of stuff about yourself that you would never know if you spent every single waking minute with people!
Valentina Esteban i would like to spend every waking moment with you....
what wrong with you?
Valentina Esteban Please dont sit on my face.
Valentina Esteban we need to be alone together baby
Interesting stuff, Travis! I've noticed that fitness and martial arts has actually helped me to break out of my shell and open up more socially.
fightTIPS did the opposite for me I got even further into my shell.
Felt better working out or doing martial arts a lone.
I did not expect to see your comment here.
good luck doing martial arts alone xD what about sparring? I would miss it
Socialising? That's unusual.
Yea I’ve always been alone and socially awkward and introverted. I have friends, but want to be a little more social. I’m thinking of getting into martial arts.
This is the best video you've made.
this video has been in my recommendations for like 8 months, I'm finally watching it youtube, you won
Thank you ! I hope you stick around
Every time im alone with an extrovert, i feel like i have to always say something or else theyll think im uninteresting or boring or something..and i realized by watching this that i shouldnt even care if they think that..if we have a conversation we will..if not..we wont.
Alexis, I totally get what you're saying. Alot of times I feel like I've got to talk so that people won't think I'm boring or strange. I don't like it.
Don't pay attention to the views in this video because this was one of your best videos to date! In my opinion ;)
I think we need a rich homie podcast! Love it! Us introverts have alot of love to give, but just need to find the right people to give it to
Agreed! 👌
Agreed!!
No doubt. "Agreed" was already said. One word that comes to mind is " Authenticity" The quality of being authentic is one we can give our love to.
hey bae (actually trying to pickup at the comment section yeah that's me)
yea right, you got a lot of head aches to give.
Being an introvert makes me the worst at conversations with people and gets really awkward real quick, so instead of talking I think deeply about important stuff...
Same here man. I love being alone. You get so much peace and quiet, you have everything all to yourself instead of having to share, you can be the king of your castle, and you can pretty much do whatever you want, whenever you want! :D
I like being alone. But it scares me if I'll be like this for my whole life.
same
RandomSubject I’m ready. Fuck it. So be it
I love it let me tell you.
When you get old you will need help and attention.
If you get sick or injured, you will need help and company and attention.
These things are issues i always have present in my mind.
It won't be easy when we get old and unable to go alone to the bathroom or take a shower or cook.
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@@Felhek yes it will with The Most High help He understand our situation it's hard to find loyal friends and a wife these days so be content either way
Brb going to send this to EVERYONE telling me that I'm always alone and anti-social LMFAO
+Daniel Emil Ussing please do share!
I had a bad breakup 5 or 6 years ago and all our friends were bitching and being weird so I just left and haven't spoke to them since. I do like being alone but sometimes it's tough doing everything on your own.
Have you read "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking?" It's a super good book!!!
+Emily Berdy no but I will!
YES! So funny to have run into someone else who read that book thinking I was the only one!
Same
That's a really good book. Different cultures see introverts and extroverts differently. Both types of people have advantages and disadvantages in life. That book really helped me see the advantages of being an introvert.
Thanks for the recommendation. That will be my next book for sure.
I'm a proud loner - introverted and loving my self made sanctuary. I have a loving husband, a beautiful son and the love of my mother and siblings. I am a doting aunt to my nieces and nephews - I spoil them and spend my time creating an interesting life for them. Unfortunately the majority of people outside of my immediate family have let me down, or use me for their own gain, or their friendships are transient. I do however keep in touch with two women professionals through messaging who I consider as lifelong friends. I volunteer as I have a caring nature especially with animals and humans who need care the most. This is how I'm naturally hardwired and I love myself and I love my life!
Good to see that there are like 99% of the comments that agree to this! Better alone than a bad company, as they say. No?
People trash talk, and harm you in the end! That is it. Don't give a damn about these people. Nobody is your friend these days!
Prince Sharma Very true, too much fake people and drama, better to just mind our own business instead of worrying about others and getting involved.
Robbie Willz 💯💯💯
I used to have 2 friends, now i just have 1. College friends go in a flash. That one friend doesn't even go to my college.
I can definitely relate, I have been and introvert all my life and I always felt like I had to force myself to go out and be social just so I wouldn't have to be asked if something was wrong with me, when really I just enjoyed doing things on my own sometimes. My kids always worry about me being by myself once they graduate.. little do they know, I'm a pro at being alone. : )
+Bertha Mesa :)
Bertha Mesa I can relate.....
You're not a loner ,you have friends. whereas I have acquaintances :( anyway LOVED this video. You are one of the attractive introverts and the few that are positive. The fact that you accept being and introvert and loner and your happy is amazing. Gives me a lot of hope . The whole time in this video you were constantly happy and content, which is beautiful
As a child, I was never bullied, or shy, or anything like that; I just enjoyed being alone. I would always exclude myself from other kids because I find zen in loneliness. Even now that I'm in university, I just workout, go to class, and think about life. It's something I enjoy.
There's no better thing than a quiet house when you reach home after a mind-blowing work day! It is simply relaxing to be on your own.
Anyone else feel completely content while they're alone but they've been alone for so many years that it is just now slowly starting to effect them?
Ledo Mc Same! Becoming antisocial.
Yep, dunno if that's so good..
Yep. It can get a bit scary
Bro, i watched this whole video just nodding, this whole video was COMPLETELY relatable. 👍
It actually feels good to know I am not alone hahah. Pun intended
Haven't really had a bad breakup, but a definite loner. I think we all feel alone once in a great while, but in general, 95% of the time, I actually prefer to be alone. I always have. Video speaks volumes.
I am very lonely but kinda like it..people always say it is not normal and people are supposed to be social but i am really happy😺I hate talking, love being independent & learned how to deal with problems on my own. People in school think i am sick but many People can't understand some of us like being alone🤷♀️
sal ly EXACTLY same here, people always think quiet people are shy or lonely when they're not. We just like to mind our own business while others are too focused on other people instead of themselves. Don't get me wrong I'm pretty chill, I just like being alone most of the time doing hobbies that I love.
Wow, this really resonates with me. I was actually very happy when I found out about the term introvert. Before I knew about the term people would just call me quiet and every time I felt like it was said with a negative connotation like something was wrong with me. But when I found out about the term introvert I realized that the way I act socially is actually normal and that a large amount of the population is like this. I think the hardest part about being an introvert is seeing (because we are good listeners and observers) all of the extroverts all of these groups interacting seamlessly and laughing and thinking to myself why can't I have that. But when I go back to my room I am content again, just happy to be the person I am because it reality myself is the only person who will be and has been with me for my entire life. I do love myself so I enjoy spending time by myself!
I’m an introvert and sometimes people just don’t understand why I don’t want hang out every weekend or have a girlfriend. I enjoy my own company and just like spending time doing things I want to do when I feel like doing it. Nothing wrong with that. Less stress, drama, and bs. More money saved too. #IntrovertNation
Yeah man am here to introvert since i was 15 i realise it is better to be alone then to be in a bad company but it is also better to be in a good company then to be alone.
Really cool that this video is bringing a lot of people to the channel. Please subscribe while you are here!
The intro song is : Me, Myself, and I - Omeo
Subscribed! That was a wonderful video! Really liked the way you presented your thoughts. :)
Thats all about it dude sef acceptence and being naturally happy regardless of people validation and relationship, if you grasp for relationship or social life and believe it's gonna bring happiness you would be dead wrong because your whole happines would be about that person or friends and it wouldn't be sustainable, but if you are a naturally happy then there is nothing to worry about you can get people in to your life and if they leave, you will be just fine and still happy.
100% like me
Travis S Thank you for this gift. The first song reminds me of Post Malone.
I just subbed and liked.Good stuff brother and all the very best.
i love being an introvert. i'm glad that i finally got around to watching this, seeing as i usually just watch the food vids, hahah!
+elli aldrich :( makes me sad lol
Travis S : LIKE UR STYLE, MY MAN. 💪👍😎
Love this one. I can relate so much to everything you said. I still struggle a lot with self-acceptance but it's something I've been working on lately.
You hit the nail on the head, it's all about finding that right balance. It's strange yet comforting when someone so far away feels the same way I do.
Solitude is an introvert's best friend. Love this vid.
I'm 72 an have always been a loner and I love it. I love people, just not always around me. If you are a loner and catching flack about it.....remember we did not all come here to experience the same thing...carry on!
Imagine if there was a lone wolf gathering, i was just thinking how weird that'd be.
mario condello everyone just standing there staring at eachother lol
LD A1 lol😂
Being a lone wolf does not mean you are socially incapable xD Just quite likely. As far I'm concerned it would be a gathering between human being. Whatever your temper, habits ethnicity etc is.
We would form a wolf pack.
seems like a good idea
You are not alone. We are behind you all the way
I was 21 and recently in the the military. I won't forget those hot nights where I would go to the park alone with my music and begin my calisthenics journey. I'm in my late 20s now done with my enlistment and I'm still at it....... Let's go
The introverted alpha is an omega. Omega is someone who doesn't need to lead or be lead by a pack. The lone wolf.
no, the introverted alpha is a sigma, omega's are outcasts, people who are deemed not good enough to be in the pack, ie the wolf who does not contribute in the hunt.
Jaythan King Humans are a little more complex than wolves
omega is the kid who gets bullied in school. i dont think you mean that. a lone wolf is strong
@@VivaMessico ive always been a sigma
arian taghdiri I was an omega and a real loser till around 22. Always doing my own thing and mostly rejected by groups, but low confidence and thought there was something wrong with me. But at 23-24 I started to notice there is more in me, there is a huge fire burning inside me. At that point I knew I don't need "them". Now, at 28 I would say I'm a sigma too. I'm stronger mentally and physically, have become Self employed and doing very well, confident, don't give a shit about others. And I'm happier...
your not alone you have us
This completely hits home for me! I went through a break up where I was told I'm not social enough therefore I'm not interesting to talk to etc. Just constant reasons why I wasn't good enough when there was nothing wrong with me in that regard. It's just how I am. I love my alone time, I love time in very small groups of close friends, and then, on occasion, I'm completely up and excited for larger social gatherings. I also went through a period after where I was constantly social and it truly helped me grow as a person and understand myself so much better. It even helped recharge friendships I let dwindle a bit after college. Heartbreak sucks but can lead to good things in the end. Glad you were able to find the good in your breakup too. :)
I used to have my circle of friends back in my country, it was fun, but even with that I felt lonely. So sometimes friends cannot do miracles for you. I guess we are the way we are. Two years ago I met what i feel that will be my prettiest gf ever, although I hoped we would be together forevermore, reality just slapped my face, she just dumped me for silly reasons. Now I'm in my third year of engineering, no gf, no friends, tons of depressing and boring hw. Good thing is that I realized that I'm a loner, and I learned to feel good about it, I think loners appreciate more kind gestures from others, and when we met someone like us we can easily understand each other, thus become good friends. I want to state positive and I hope that after I get out of that shithole called college I will set my life back on trail. Let's stay positive guys, so much hardship can't be for nothing.
Respect!! It's so true that introversion is seen as a negative trait. I am also an introvert, never really felt "sad" to be all by myself. Greetings from India !!
I don't know if it's seen as a "negative" trait, but I think that a lot of people just don't understand. And by nature we are worrisome about things we don't understand.
Yes
I'm a proud loner...but i still love people.
koban4max I Also am one PROUD loner...but I love Certain people.
People are children to me.
I feel like a very old soul, like if i was on earth for thousands of years.
So when i see other ppl i see children, young souls.
Children with sharp knives
Tis better to be alone than to be with someone and wish you were alone..
All my life I've been most comfortable being by myself. My profession forced me to open up somewhat, but I'm still perfectly fine being alone long periods of time.
"To be truly happy, you have to know how to be content being alone, being by yourself. You cannot be dependent on one person to complete you". Agreed 100%! Cheers to you and all the lone wolves of this world! Because we are game changers, despite what society says. We will do it our way, and what's best for us in order to lead a fulfilling and happy life.
I was a person that hated being alone. I liked to be with people. I was needy and always called them to check up on them. They took it for granted. They said I was too much and that they were not obligated to answer me. But everything changed with quarentine.
Now,I love being alone. I learn to enjoy my own company. I don't disturb anyone so I don't get heartbroken. No drama, no problems. Human beings are hard to understand. I rather have a pet. People now miss me which is funny. They say why I don't call them anymore. I don't answer their call as well. I answer them when I want to. It's not a payback but I just do not feel like talking sometimes.
I still talk with people but I cannot stay with them for too long. I feel tired.
This quarentine was amazing for me. I'm happier with my new lifestyle. 😇
"I almost need to be by myself to be able to be social" most relatable shit ive heard in a while
Omg this is what I needed to hear! A person that means a lot to me just call me weird because I don't have friends , I'm very capable to have but I chose not to ,I'm content with myself , he's the opposite and probably think I'm from another planet , it really hurts my feeling to the point I though something was wrong with me . Thank you so much for sharing this!!💕
Thank you for watching !!
He's basically telling me that if I don't chance we probably going to break up, idk what to do
Tell him CYA LOSER
Travis S love it! Thank you so much!
I just found your channel today and oh man did this message really hit home with me. I'm so glad to know that I am not alone out there and that other people think its ok to be introverted and want to stay in on a friday night.
+Sean Taylor thank you ! How did you find the channel?
I follow Amanda Bucci and saw the LA food challenge video you guys did together!
Sean Taylor yup theres nothing better then relaxing and watching a new show you love on netflix.
I struggle some Myself, I am major introvert, alone at 50 no kids,or parents, family, friends. I just dont find most people interesting, or there not interested.
Appreciate the vid bro. Took me back. I was living the exact lifestyle in my 20s. Took great care of myself. Car, house, career, friends, body, and mind sound. I was waiting to make my mark on the world some day. It's great to focus on yourself and build this base while you can. In my case it was great. Parties. Social events where I really didn't care if I went or not. Friends with guys, gals, gays, lesbians, other couples you name it because if I didn't enjoy myself (which was more often than not), then I could at least muster up a few hours with those people knowing that I'd be happier at home or in the gym anyway soon.
A few thoughts. Have a "real" best friend or other mentor that's at least on your level to share your intimate thoughts, fears, plans. IF this person for you is a female, then I'd hope it's a sister or family member in general. You might not need this person often but I hope you got one. For me it was my older brother. You mentioned how loving yourself enables you to treat others with love etc. I thought this too and it's true on many levels but don't fool yourself into thinking you really love these people or vice versa. You like them enough and would help them if need be. You need to hang out with them and all occasionally. Ask yourself if you'd want any of them to live with you for a period of longer than 6 months. Maybe they're being evicted and just need to crash. Heck, would you wanna hang out with them everyday? No?? You don't love them. You like their company and they appear to like yours. Your life situations are the same. You'll eventually feel proud of yourself for just putting up with their dramatic lives comparatively. Then the bottom drops out as you roll into your 30s. Girlfriends, exs, bros from college or old jobs. These Friends will not only let you down. Sometimes you won't recognize them. They'll only let you down when you really need them as you'll see them choose new company. In general, couples like hanging out with other couples and they'll phase you out of their plans if you're still single at this point. Usually late 20s. I call it pre-marriage. Things feel odd but you'll be convinced that they'll still be close with you despite the upcoming marriage.
Your expectations for yourself are high. Good. Don't expect others to follow suit over the next 5 years. You will even view some of these "good" friends with disgust as you see the mistakes they are making with women, careers, and finances. Your humouros nature will be misconstrued as boyish or immature. These feelings are the tip of the iceberg for a much different social experience in your 30s and 40s.
Women in their 20s can be just as vicious in trapping you (a high market value man) into complex relationships that crush your time and spirit. I hope you don't experience a cool chick going nutty and getting pregnant on purpose, stds, hidden agendas. You'll see exs and even current girlfriends have intimate realtionships with other men alongside you. If it's non sexual it's worse than cheating traditionally. Your body and networth will need to be a assets for you by then as your looks too will fade along with the older women you're seeing around all the time. You might barely even see 20yr old women anymore. At least they won't see you.
Those old hangouts will be no more intolerable anyhow. Any exits from your lifestyle such as laziness or drugs will doom you. If your confidence drops too much this is all moot and you'll definitely be alone because the loner thing isn't viewed as cute or cool anymore. You'll be viewed as a selfish person whether you like it or not. You're gonna wanna explain your lifestyle to all that'll listen but you'll see not many listen nor truly care about single guy shit or your non-kid/career problem. Odd guy out. They'll piss you off by discarding your professional accomplishments as nothing compared to their having to raise a baby. People won't have time or patience for you as they once did. They'll dismiss you seriously if they have a strong relationship or kids at that point. They'll say "what's he up to lately"? and "what's wrong with him"? if you don't join in their fun...not yours. That was fine with me until they stopped asking.
Eventually the friends, parties, game nights etc that you might take for granted to break out of the house for awhile all become memories when you watch those "friends" get married, have kids, move away and generally stop giving a damn about your lifestyle. Your friends (if they don't already) will see your life and figure that you've got it made with or without them. They probably (especially females) will throw in an occasional "why are you single" and convince you again that you're gonna end up lonely etc. It's very very subtle. It will occur over a period of 3-5 years. You'll at first feel this distancing as a great relief. The world will demand you come out to play and stress will become a new factor that causes your alone time to be drowned by the responsibilities of having to fend for yourself. Because now you can't maintain the perfect lifestyle from your younger 20s. They won't openly not invite you or anything. But they'll be different people in the way they interact with you. The small talk will be all about work and family and future events and vacations that they'll be going on without you. Kids, kids, and more kids. Shifting political and societal views are the norm. That chick in college you dated that had 2 dui’s and snorted more coke than her rich dad could keep up with will be on Facebook taking about how she's joined city council and wants taxpayers to fund her campaign against drugs and alcohol will hit you up via linkedin and ask for your support (yes it happened to me). This makes it very difficult and different to talk to old friends. There just won't be much time given to you. This especially will hurt when it's your single friends who can't hang out ever. You'll be wanting to discuss 'God of War' and they'll look at you like a child because you still play video games. Or they'll simply never aknowledge any of your "gains" anymore eg bigger house, car, biceps. It's not that you'll want their approval but you'll still feel a void. This void is the realization that material things are only attracting the wrong people. Lower level men who are envious. Usually divorcees, addicts, or complainers. Single moms, hypergamous women, broke women. I repeat. Broke women. This is where you'll need to connect with someone very real. Your true best friend or father. This will happen in your 30s and will hit you like a ton of bricks. You'll see that if you're not married by then that your chances of having 2.5 kids and the blushing bride suburbia lifestyle is torched. Women who have got it going on in their 30s are nearly untouchable. Any man (aged up to 67 I've seen) will take them quickly off the market. Moreover, the leftovers will have some good women, but you'll notice the really fantastic ones you might meet at work or a gym have a reason. Std? Hmmm. Not in my case. But much more likely is that she'll have major sexual baggage from her 20s that you all won't discuss because you really don't wanna know but as an introvert will greatly feel. Moreover, if this seemingly great gal in her 30s doesn't have a kid and is cool then she's probably not as attractive as you're thinking you'll marry. Ie fat. Cute fat gals are great but there's plenty of muscleheads with these lazy women. You'll become lazy too if you don't move on from them quickly.
Something won't be right and you'll either end up with this woman and deal with it (internally). Guess what? Your married friends will accept you back fast. In fact, you'll see them light up at the idea of you having a serious relationship and the talk will immediately go to having kids and marriage. IF you fuck up at this point (28-35yrs old) then you'll be sitting amongst her friends in a crowded shoe store missing your life as you wonder how you got there in the first place. She'll gain weight subtly and you'll be married by then or worse divorced. Then the real pain begins Danny boy. Life is great brother just keep paying attention.
I do enjoy meeting my friends and family, but 90 % of the time I'm alone. And I love it!
"Just because I'm alone does not make me feel like I'm alone"
*Normies* will never understand this.
I feel like you are more reliable and trustworthy of yourself by being introverted. You get to discover talents that you haven't realised since you have so much time for yourself.I can relate significantly..Its the big advantage of being an introvert.
It is all about balance and not labeling yourself
As I grow up in schools, I've learned that being alone is hard to go through. The thing is, for me, I'm currently going through some friendship issue. And the only solution that I could possibly think of is to be a lone wolf for now or for a while. Maybe being quiet is good for me, back then I'd get good grades because I'd be quiet instead of talking to others like I'm doing right now as a Freshmen. I believe I've learned something from this video, and that is find or do something that makes you who you are. Thank you!
I can relate to you on so many levels, I have always felt more in my element when I'm alone and I swayed between trying to be outgoing and extroverted but realized over time I was doing it to meet others expectations. I love people and being around them but now as I got older I am more aware and choose who I spend my time with, I too like you went through a crushing separation. She too mentioned my inclination towards spending more time alone as a defect I needed to work and just like you also forced my self into social situations. Now I cherish my time alone and accept it as well as cherish time with my loved ones.
Fellow introvert checking in, we are all alone together :) Going out 6 weekends in a row sounds about as taxing as maxing on the big three for six weeks in a row.
Blessings
Garrett Blevins lol or the awkward response if you're in the elevator with another introvert.. any good elevator ice breakers?
Lol when you party hard you might as well live it up! Yolo
I had that like 2 years ago...the other guy just did a nervous laugh and i went "yeah", then we went down 7 flights without another sound
I said flights,but we were in an elevator. The fuckin specific word eludes me at this time
Cool to see so many people kinda like me embracing their introverted self.
IMHO introverts have a great internal retrospective, and therefore ability to change. I used to be like you, and I've learned how to switch into extravert mode. Was hard and took a lots of time & effort, but now I'd say I'm more extraverted than introverted.
It's great to have those two sources of energy :D
I'd even care to say that introverts make terrific extraverts haha. Cheers!
Definitely needed to hear this, working on being more okay with being who i am and not what others want me to be👍
I feel the same way, always thought I needed to socialize more and "step out of my comfort zone". Yet it always felt wrong when I did go to more social gatherings. This video really opened my view to how I know I'm content alone and shouldent let others influence what makes me, "me".
I'm trying to find that happy medium between being alone and being with people. I like being alone more but sometimes I get really fed up of doing things by myself. Just never really been any good at making friends so when I wanna do things with someone there is usually none to do it with so that kinda sucks but yeah I totally relate to this video.
LightAndShapes I'm the same way. I'm lucky though since I met a lot of people through certain party scenes in the city so I just go to monthly events with basically the same people. Other friends will hit me up like once a month and that works for me too lol
I went through few breakups but the last one really shook me hard. It was hard. Anyhow, the break up thing got me interested in ur vlog. I have been struggling to socialize with people and honestly i suck at it. But then at 36 i am beginning to realize that I have been wasting my time and energy on being accepted by others. I now realize that i have been totally ignoring myself.
I recently started to explore my inner self. And yes, i am an "introvert" too. Its not like i never knew but I am accepting it today.
All our life we spend wondering what should i do next to look cool. Be it looks, fame or favour from the rich and powerful.
Ofcourse we desire a comfortable and smooth life. But something is always missing. We have been so self demotivating that we belief we are abnormal. Or atleast that's how i felt.
After my recent break up my family was really supportive and worries for me. Actually i don't feel so bad now. I think what happened reinforced my feeling that being alone is not bad after all. Honestly i do miss my previous ex-gfs.
Family wants me to with someone. But the fact is i feel cool by this change. Thank you ex.
I have decided to spend my time and resources on me. To be more self aware. And more self accepting. I want to be the "Hero in my own movie".
Thank you travis for the platform. I wrote this to myself. And anyone else who finds it helpful is welcome.
INTROVERTS BE COOL WITH YOURSELF. WE ARE MANY. AND WE ARE NOT ALONE.
man, couldn't agree more. All my life I tried to change myself to become a more social person and forced myself to socialize with other people. But recently I started excepting that being an introvert is not bad although society is trying to tell us it is. And since i accepted that I am way happier than before and found out that being an introvert has a lot of upsides too. Really liked your comment! Thanks for that! Have an awesome life!
Céd Q welcome. And i am glad you did what u did. we are cool people. And we can love and care like no one else can. love to all introverts.
you gotta recharge your batteries, I feel the same way sometimes
Thanks for sharing this. It is very relatable for me. It took me 53 years to truly accept and embrace being an introvert where the source of my life energy comes from being alone. Social situations deplete me. There’s nothing wrong with that. I would like to add in my story I was in denial most of my life due to negative societal stigmas put on introverts. I tried to be an extrovert. Therefore, i became an imposter and pretended to be outgoing with much success and Managed to do this for the course of a 25 year career on Wall Street and made a lot of money. .... but it also nearly killed me physically and mentally. The amount of energy sucked out of me everyday to maintain this facade led to severe insomnia , depression, anxiety and substance abuse to deal with the stress. I left all that behind and for the first time feel comfortable in my own skin. It’s wonderful. No regrets, it’s all just apart of my life journey.