3 Traits to Look for Before You Date Him/Her

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  • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
    @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  5 лет назад +19

    (My Online Courses) AGW University: Relationship Training for Christian Singles: agwuniversity.teachable.com/p/total-access
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    • @kafuimonde7181
      @kafuimonde7181 5 лет назад

      ҡaʄʊɨ.....ʍօռɖɛ🙌🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏

    • @nancyfedunec1182
      @nancyfedunec1182 5 лет назад

      Hi Mark and Bethany. You have brought up "Missions" before are you Mormon?

  • @tj9801
    @tj9801 5 лет назад +137

    So true! If Jesus is first in your life, then you won’t feel this pressure to either be everything to that person or expect that person to be everything you want him or her to be. No human is meant to bear the weight of that oppression or expectation. Only Jesus can. And if the relationship doesn’t work out, you won’t fall apart because Christ has remained number 1 in your life. What timeless wisdom you both share :)

  • @gabrielamartinyuk6438
    @gabrielamartinyuk6438 5 лет назад +56

    Your wife... beautiful without makeup!

  • @mj-fm7nb
    @mj-fm7nb 5 лет назад +85

    Looking at you guys gives me hope that some day I'll find someone. You guys are a beautiful couple. Pray for me please, I left my abusive partner recently and now I'm struggling to support my two boys, 3 and 8 months old. I prayed for for God to heal him but I don't know what the future will bring to us. God bless you guys.

  • @wilsonwaigwa520
    @wilsonwaigwa520 5 лет назад +63

    I agree but the ONLY thing to look on or hold to is God's PROVIDENCE. Someone can have all those amazing traits and yet not your rib. I choose to trust in God.

  • @Romi_ditzydonutsdesigns
    @Romi_ditzydonutsdesigns 3 месяца назад +2

    I love so much that you listen to your wife when she speaks, that's so important to women, to have a Christian man who listens. I also noticed the way you softened while listening to her, showing that you really care about what she says. And that you two laugh together!! I love that 😊

  • @Tandrew
    @Tandrew 5 лет назад +120

    You are so cute together aww

  • @jensbasement3862
    @jensbasement3862 3 года назад +14

    Yes, not just a "church goer" as she says, but someone who embodies Christ teachings as much as possible

  • @stephaniestephanie4545
    @stephaniestephanie4545 5 лет назад +60

    I am only 2 minutes and 33 seconds into the video. I like what your wife said about prayer. Thank you for this message. Also thank you for your other videos.

  • @aliciakiarie372
    @aliciakiarie372 5 лет назад +40

    Wow... She is beautiful inside out... Thank you

  • @CiciSu
    @CiciSu 5 лет назад +51

    I am so glad that Bethany is in this video!! Please bring her to your videos more!!! Blessings

  • @lifesjourney787
    @lifesjourney787 4 года назад +20

    Relationship goalz right here! Y’all are doing so much for the kingdom. Much love from Tuc AZ ❤️❤️🙏🏼

  • @SunshineBloom777
    @SunshineBloom777 5 лет назад +44

    *Love watching you two do videos together! Such a Godly example! Blessings to yall!!* ✨

  • @kyro-jaxxsonofkosmos23
    @kyro-jaxxsonofkosmos23 5 лет назад +19

    Spot on advice! I especially liked when you talked about about how couples need to go in the same directions. It's really important to me as someone interested in ministry that I marry someone in step with that.

  • @jmissesblac2006
    @jmissesblac2006 5 лет назад +17

    I love how you are so attentive and hang on her every word! I need a husband like this. 😍😍

  • @2thankfulnGrateful
    @2thankfulnGrateful 5 лет назад +33

    Great point Bethany! I love that! Ask if you comfortable with the lord why be bashful about that. I LOVE LORD! I NEED SOMEONE TO BE THIRSTY FOR HIM AS I. AMEN! WE ALL NEED HIM TO BE INTERTWINED WITH THE RELATIONSHIP!

  • @tinaschroeder3099
    @tinaschroeder3099 3 года назад +5

    I love how you 2 laugh so naturally! It looks so healthy and Christ shining through your lives! 💕

  • @mada7393
    @mada7393 5 лет назад +15

    Your wife is so cute😍❤️❤️and so gentle

  • @jehmusic3959
    @jehmusic3959 4 года назад +12

    Love how you guys make each other laugh!

  • @ogechicecechukwu6566
    @ogechicecechukwu6566 5 лет назад +22

    Omg!!! This is such a beautiful example of a Godly marriage anyone can see you too are beautiful together. Thank you Bethany for what you said about putting God First. If God is first in your life you really won’t be needy in a relationship because Gods love is more important than any other. I needed to hear that again.

  • @Trunk874
    @Trunk874 5 лет назад +6

    This was solid you all 🤘🏾 ☀️hey so I gotta say it but it’s amazing how worldly couples sit and shade each other and say how vexatious they are but these two, you can hear the fruits of the spirit just pouring through. They didn’t shade one another. Kind. Patient. Respectful. I cannot wait to honor my wife this way. Much blessings you two I gotta enroll in the course soon my brother. For sure will be worth.

  • @arielevelin7181
    @arielevelin7181 5 лет назад +7

    This is so cute! I clicked this video because I wanted to get to know your wife. She is beautiful with a beautiful heart! ❤️ loved this!

  • @mariebaca2467
    @mariebaca2467 5 лет назад +11

    Point 3 that's how i am too, i would feel suffocated! I tried being nice & even tried to ask to be friends to maybe build a relationship but guys these days that I've met want a girlfriend. I just cut them off & let them down nicely.

  • @jessicarainsford7609
    @jessicarainsford7609 5 лет назад +3

    I watched someone else’s video on guarding your heart and they said not to pray or read the bible together until married and it got me really confused about what should happen in a serious relationship. But thank you for clearing that up more, I trust you guys and look up to you as real messengers in my life. Helping communicate what God is expecting for us if we are called to marriage and any aspect of life.

  • @isabellavill2726
    @isabellavill2726 5 лет назад +17

    aww thanks for being a blessing in our lives,God bless you guys :)

  • @pamelagunn234
    @pamelagunn234 4 года назад +6

    Shes so naturally beautiful and has depth 🌹🌺

  • @googleuser1876
    @googleuser1876 5 лет назад +5

    I look for the fruit of spirit, that’s the only true way to find out if the person is truly saved, just because going to church or Bible study or praying well doesn’t make a person saves God will not answer a fake prayer, people can do that to fool you just get a date.

  • @brideorimolade7330
    @brideorimolade7330 5 лет назад +8

    I love the prayer aspect, am very shy praying out loud with someone else,thought I was weird..

  • @laissousa153
    @laissousa153 5 лет назад +23

    Beautiful couple ❤

  • @dawnday5105
    @dawnday5105 4 года назад +3

    Bethany should have her own channel, too! I always love her answers on the few occasions you get her onboard. If she does, advertise it on your channel,too, okay? :)

  • @gal-america5083
    @gal-america5083 4 года назад +1

    There are is such elegance seeing a christian brother and sister together , wow. God Bless.

  • @lauracotter
    @lauracotter 5 лет назад +9

    Such a timely message as I’m currently going thru that phase. Thank you, Mark and Bethany! Love you both and God bless! 😍❤️

  • @Simonejoy
    @Simonejoy 5 лет назад +7

    I like when your wife speaks

  • @gabrielmedeiros987
    @gabrielmedeiros987 5 лет назад +16

    Great video Mark (and Bethany)! I have a sugestion for a video: what to do when you know a friend for a long time, and you start have feelings for her (aka friendzone)? I don't know if already made a video about this topic haha but anyway God bless you!

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 5 лет назад +1

      I wouldn't call it friend zone if she doesn't know you started to have feelings for her!

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  5 лет назад

      This video may help! ruclips.net/video/2xbZs-Cwcz0/видео.html

    • @HandleHandleHandle195
      @HandleHandleHandle195 5 лет назад +1

      I'd tell her. What could happen? She might like you back and you'll know, or you loose your friendship and it will hurt a lot, but you won't wonder forever if you two could have worked it out.

  • @joysjourney2895
    @joysjourney2895 4 года назад +3

    I liked the part about putting Jesus first. Breakups have devastated me in the past... it makes me go back to the question: did I put Jesus first? Self confidence is huge. I pray to grow closer with the Lord because I think a lot of these issues would go away. It's important to get to the point that if this person I dated walked away, I'd be okay. Thanks for this video! Turtlenecks!! 😂😂

  • @jensbasement3862
    @jensbasement3862 3 года назад +2

    You guys are a cute couple, like hearing you talk, you really "go there", and aren't afraid to. That's a sign of a strong relationship. Nice to hear your wife speak her mind, you can tell she speaks right from the heart.

  • @lesleymacedo2532
    @lesleymacedo2532 4 года назад +1

    I enjoy all your teaching videos but this one with your wife is hands down the best of all for me. Really shows a pure sense of who should be our identity and priority.

  • @sharonshirah9389
    @sharonshirah9389 3 месяца назад

    Hi, Mark.
    I really enjoyed seeing you & Bethany sharing your spiritual wisdom. Hope you two will be sharing more biblical advice! Thanks for all y’all do. ❤😊

  • @sandram7659
    @sandram7659 5 лет назад +3

    ⭕️This is absolutely amazing ! I really appreciate your channel. Your wife is amazing ♥️. I was so lost most of my life what I want and how the relationship should look. I was lost in a walk with God in general. But he is so good, he was waiting for me patiently! I realised firstly we need to work on our relationship with God. He wants us to talk to him daily like with the friend. He always answers my prayers and gives me directions. Now I am not afraid of anything, being on my own or finding a husband.. as I trust in The Lord so much, he is so good. God bless you all ⭕️

  • @si_a_to2086
    @si_a_to2086 4 года назад +2

    Her voice is nice and soothing 😊

  • @bl954
    @bl954 4 года назад +1

    Mark, this is one of your best videos. In the future when discussing what women look for in a guy....Bethany would be the best one to talk about that since she's a woman. Just a suggestion!!

  • @gabrielamartinyuk6438
    @gabrielamartinyuk6438 5 лет назад +10

    Yes- I cannot be with a clingy person.

  • @STRThermal
    @STRThermal Год назад

    Wow....this was timely. Obviously, Mark, you always share a good message with us and Bethany seems like such an amazing woman. I'm looking for my "Bethany". She touched on some really great points that I needed to hear. It was good to hear it from a wise Christian woman's perspective.

  • @GiancarlosHernandez
    @GiancarlosHernandez Год назад +1

    I just came across this and I'm glad I watched it truly beautiful, and glorifying God how your dynamic between you and your wife is, it's cool. Thanks for making this video. You should make some future videos you and her This was awesome brother God-bless yall take care of yourselves !
    By the way I'm trying to grow my channel to glorify God with and share my journey with Christ, I need tips brother, Did you pray did you pay did you post a certain amount of videos in a week anything would help...🙏🏼

  • @TheKat817
    @TheKat817 5 лет назад +4

    Really good points. I recently related the most to the third point with a guy. Being clingy and insecure are turn offs.

  • @KeondraRB
    @KeondraRB 4 года назад +1

    Wow I can feel the love the way you guys listen to each other talk! I always notice the look spouses give to one another when listening! I want that lol

  • @misskaykayRSA
    @misskaykayRSA Год назад +1

    These are really good. I agree so much with all you said.
    Now I definitely know my answer.
    Super helpful. Thank you

  • @wyattandwill12
    @wyattandwill12 4 года назад +2

    Thank you Jesus for the breath in my lungs, the eyes to see and the ears to hear. I'm going through a tough breakup, but I'm thinking of pursuing a girl who has a closer relationship with the Lord than my ex. I'll see how it goes, but I think the point of a relationship is to lift each other in the Lord and serve Him together however that may look in the moment.

  • @bryciday
    @bryciday 3 года назад +1

    Oh! Praise God! I love the chemistry.

  • @KeondraRB
    @KeondraRB 4 года назад +5

    I’m just like your wife. 😂 I can’t do clingy . And desire my future significant other to have friends of his own too and to be able to hang together with our friends

  • @nirmaladrieskens4338
    @nirmaladrieskens4338 2 года назад

    I find someone’s personality very important because when that person have annoying attitude that wil not change many times later☺️
    Treat you good😍
    Your a priority in them live💖

  • @nicholasquintero1080
    @nicholasquintero1080 2 года назад

    Wow I can tell you have a great woman. That's so reassuring to be patient and submissive to His will.

  • @puffsleeveskindagirl
    @puffsleeveskindagirl 4 года назад +2

    What a cool video! I believe I started to be a subscriber a bit after this one. You have helped me immensely in nearly a year that I've started to follow you! Thank you so much

  • @RA-pb4gl
    @RA-pb4gl 5 лет назад +5

    These videos that have the both of you are great! This video came at the right time!

  • @joeydollas1657
    @joeydollas1657 5 лет назад +4

    Hey Mark I love your videos, do you think you could do a video discussing swearing I know it seems like a small thing but I would love to hear your perspective on it!

    • @gabrielamartinyuk6438
      @gabrielamartinyuk6438 5 лет назад +2

      Joey Dollas swearing. Deal breaker!! I’d love to meet a man who does not swear.

  • @josephmellott8113
    @josephmellott8113 5 лет назад +2

    Additional info for the traits. 1. Be wary of those who follow the Lord so they may find a good spouse. The end goal of Christianity is refining yourself to be a vessel of the Lord, marriage being a bonus, not a requirement. 2. Yes, but I would reccomend that the couple has varying, yet similar interests. Like, one is more studious in the bible while the other is a prayer warrior. 3. Definitely, that prevents toxic relationships and shows a mature person ready to date.

  • @joewang-fruitfulliving5761
    @joewang-fruitfulliving5761 5 лет назад +2

    you guys are a perfect match indeed! have some of the major valid points I have looking towards a girl!

  • @GodsOHman
    @GodsOHman 5 лет назад +4

    Great video. I always enjoy watching you two.

  • @danipainter6831
    @danipainter6831 5 лет назад +2

    Y'all are a blessing. Thank y'all, and thank God! 😊

  • @kathleenmatari1708
    @kathleenmatari1708 5 лет назад +1

    What a fun video!
    I’ve watched several of your teaching videos so it was nice to see a video where it felt so conversational!
    Btw good, relatable tips! I totally agree on all of the points!

  • @TeresaMimi
    @TeresaMimi 5 лет назад +1

    Love these videos with you and Bethany! You two are goals. (I also love seeing your doggie too) 🐶

  • @delnitap
    @delnitap 3 года назад +1

    Such a beautiful couple, and family.

  • @shiftinggears9044
    @shiftinggears9044 5 лет назад +6

    Love your page. Thank you for your energy.

  • @yuliyalyube
    @yuliyalyube 5 лет назад +3

    Congrats on 100K!

  • @melodie3432
    @melodie3432 Год назад

    I’m cracking up. “Do you think you can film in pants like that?…”

  • @adamdaniel6245
    @adamdaniel6245 5 лет назад +5

    Hahaha, I'm wearing a turtleneck right now lol

  • @TsuriaDragon
    @TsuriaDragon 3 месяца назад

    I need to have a strong foundation in Christ so that I don’t fall apart.

  • @rachellebrown9701
    @rachellebrown9701 5 лет назад +1

    Thank you, beautiful GodFearing couple, great tips, God Bless

  • @FrenchyBelgian
    @FrenchyBelgian 5 лет назад

    Wowww awesome video. Sound advices. And I really like how you emphasize the importance of having your own relationship with Christ and having a balanced relationship with the other person. 👍👍 Thanks for this God bless you and your family. 🙌

  • @precioussamson2264
    @precioussamson2264 4 года назад

    This conversation is really interesting to me, I really love this video.

  • @ICVEGAS
    @ICVEGAS 5 лет назад +7

    I have a friend who is a mormon and said he has feelings for me and wants to date me but I turned him down because he's not a christian...and now I don't know if we should stay friends? ....can you give me some advice on what to do?
    Thank you and God bless you! 🙏💖🕆

    • @ruvimbomaranga7878
      @ruvimbomaranga7878 5 лет назад +2

      Mormons are Christians they believe in Jesus Christ which is the same as what Christians believe.I used to go to other Christian churches and now I’m going to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (known as the Mormon church) The fundamental beliefs are the same that Christ died for our sins and we need to repent to be saved. The foundation of our beliefs is rooted in Christ Jesus. I would say remain friends with him and also you can just go to one church service to actually witness for yourself that the gospel of Christ is taught in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Best wishes :)

    • @ruvimbomaranga7878
      @ruvimbomaranga7878 5 лет назад +1

      Noe Palomo why do you say so?

    • @Flinabin
      @Flinabin 5 лет назад

      @Noe Palomo Who told you that lie ???

    • @novelas1234
      @novelas1234 5 лет назад +7

      @@ruvimbomaranga7878 Mormons are not Christians because they use biblical terms but they have completely different definitions. They use our language but when you really scratch under the surface you find out that their words are contrary to the bible. They say they believe in Jesus Christ but is not the same as we Christians believe as you said because we believe that salvation is only through Jesus Christ while Mormons are preaching a works based salvation. They say for example that we could become gods if we live our life right, and that's not biblical. Jesus came to set us free. Jesus is the only one capable of making us righteous before God. If you read the bible you'll find out that there are many other things Mormons preach that are contrary to the christianism. That's it. God bless you!

    • @novelas1234
      @novelas1234 5 лет назад +1

      I wish I had an advice for you but all I can say right now is that you should pray about it because you really need to be wise in this situation but don't worry, seek God and He'll show you the best way to deal with that. I'm gonna pray for you as well. God bless you sister 💖

  • @4061fw
    @4061fw 5 лет назад +3

    📝📝 You guys are so beautiful.

  • @unknown9392
    @unknown9392 4 года назад +4

    Mark you have a beautiful wife 🌺☀️😀

  • @Woman_in_the_Wilderness
    @Woman_in_the_Wilderness 5 лет назад +3

    Love the blooper at the end!!! 🤣🤣🤣

  • @Christopher_1775
    @Christopher_1775 5 лет назад +2

    Outstanding video... 😎🥇👍🏽

  • @SouljaMan
    @SouljaMan 5 лет назад +1

    So funny, my Sister hates turtlenecks too! And probably wouldn’t date someone who wears one just for that fact 😂

  • @gct1913
    @gct1913 5 лет назад

    Thank you for doing this video, it's very helpful!

  • @precioussamson2264
    @precioussamson2264 4 года назад

    You guys are amazing couple I love you all thanks for sharing God bless Amen.

  • @toliseadkisson7124
    @toliseadkisson7124 5 лет назад

    Well said!! That's exactly what I am looking for!!!!

  • @devilbrad1995
    @devilbrad1995 4 года назад

    Couple goals ❤️❤️ you are the cutest couple 🤗🤗 xx

  • @sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699
    @sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699 5 лет назад

    Love your video God bless💓love seeing you both n getting both points of view 😍💓

  • @jaytay4027
    @jaytay4027 4 года назад

    Loved the wisdom from this

  • @CfortÉcreatives
    @CfortÉcreatives 5 лет назад

    Thank you for this video. I'm currently in a friendship relationship with a guy. He likes to see me all the time but I don't like that, I discussed with him that we don't need to see or talk every time to feel that we like each other. But, at the back of my mind I felt like maybe if I don't see him all the time when he wants to, he might think I don't like him. I'm relieved to know that I'm not wrong to want some time for myself alone.

  • @AgentAO7
    @AgentAO7 5 лет назад +2

    I know this is a very wholesome/Christian video.. but let me ask anyway, what about compatibility in sex? It’s an issue with many couples as well. How important is it to you or should be to couples?

    • @nicolerice3151
      @nicolerice3151 5 лет назад +6

      I'm thinking that that can come later... Or be learned and grow during marriage in a sense. Attractiveness matters to a point, but sexual chemistry I think is something the secular world likes to emphasize, but isn't really a factor.

  • @aleksahristov8942
    @aleksahristov8942 3 года назад +1

    Your wife is beautiful, Mark.

  • @willnjohmandengue3006
    @willnjohmandengue3006 5 лет назад

    Hi Mark I have a question. Knowing that love is a decision should our feelings for someone also be taken into consideration to make an informed decision to marry that person? I mean it won’t make sense to marry someone we don’t enjoy being with and marry them just because their a good Christian. I believe that a strong friendship can be a good foundation.

  • @هاجرالهاشمية-ك6ذ
    @هاجرالهاشمية-ك6ذ 5 лет назад

    Wonderful topic,thx

  • @acaciaellen
    @acaciaellen 2 года назад

    great points

  • @preachingpoet
    @preachingpoet 4 года назад

    They are precious together. 😁I want this... but I NEED GOD! I’m so conflicted. How do you do both “well”

  • @jinfangliu30
    @jinfangliu30 3 года назад +1

    A Godly woman!

  • @elizabethorrie5946
    @elizabethorrie5946 4 года назад +1

    This was good.

  • @gerald3864
    @gerald3864 5 лет назад

    Thank you guys 🙏

  • @k.5425
    @k.5425 4 года назад

    The blooper at the end😂😂😂

  • @kenyarodriguez3853
    @kenyarodriguez3853 3 года назад

    LOL! The blooper 😄

  • @QuantumDynamic8
    @QuantumDynamic8 5 лет назад

    What if you are not a Christian and still you pursue God and is very close to God, that God is your best friend, you love talking to God and love Jesus truly from the core of your heart. A lot of times I wish I was born a Christian. I could go to the church on every Sunday and know more deeply but all my life I have spoken to God and I share a very close connection to him and I am not a Christian, a Hindu but the Krishna and Cristo are are one to me 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @lashondarochell7584
      @lashondarochell7584 2 года назад +1

      All you need is Jesus those others you mentioned are not of God focus in God and God alone! Blessing to you I will be praying for you that draws you to God

    • @QuantumDynamic8
      @QuantumDynamic8 2 года назад

      @@lashondarochell7584 It's beautiful that I was just writing in my phone note pad that only God is real. I'm coming back home to God . It's God's love I must seek and that love is felt through all & then I saw this. The divine intervention has started .. Thank you. Thank you God

    • @lashondarochell7584
      @lashondarochell7584 2 года назад

      @@QuantumDynamic8 Amen 🙏 Glory Be To God

  • @sharonsOff
    @sharonsOff 5 лет назад

    The extra footage was cute lol

  • @laquan3661
    @laquan3661 5 лет назад

    great video

  • @crystalmorgan9118
    @crystalmorgan9118 4 года назад

    its important that my better half put God First ....since my morning time is important with God ....but is it ok to quiz that on the first date

  • @maybee7497
    @maybee7497 2 года назад +1

    Can see a good woman there 👍

  • @SucceedbyForce
    @SucceedbyForce 5 лет назад

    I just wrote an ebook on relationships I know you two will love. Would you like an emailed copy?