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If INFPs ruled the world, it would be a truly compassionate, beautiful world, where everyone’s potential is developed, everyone’s uniqueness is celebrated, and mankind and the natural world humanely coexist.
i mean, INFP's are fine at accepting diversity and personal differences so its not like they need to only interact with their own type or whatever. Its when differences arent properly adressed and respect (especially adressing anyones agency) is lacking where we start getting all angry and bitter. Also, its just a broad model and labels can get in the way of further understanding which is annoying
I am an INFP woman and to me, despite wanting friendships and other things, I always disliked when people tried to put me in situations that went against my values. Also, despite having a love for clothing, I can’t stand materialistic conversations when they run longer than 3 minutes.
girl, same. i work with a make up artist and a fashion designer (on an unrelated field:health care) who can spend HOURS talking about make up and clothes and i want to shoot myself everyday.
SAME! I also dislike people pointing out negative stuff in front of others, like look at her shoes or look at his pullover and then talk bs about people. Gossiping makes me disrespect someone so quickly.
@@mariaagosti-pm7tk yep, the judgemental people that look at ea inch of your body, then gossip about you, but it's under the church facade...it irks me alot...
INFP women are pretty much cats. 😂 I say this as an INFP woman of course. It's complicated. We're complicated. Like one minute helping someone out who needs our help and the next minute screaming at a different person who might ask us to do something we don't necessarily want to do and say, "DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!" Mood swings? Yes please. Cooperation? Only if we feel that it's productive to do so. Nothing like looking like a calm smooth ocean on the top of the water and a huge raging storm under the waves. As they say, "still waters run deep" and we are no exception. Yeah, pretty much we are cats.
Honestly, I’m an INFP male and I am basically just a cat too. There’s a saying Dutch “De kat uit de boom kijken” which roughly translates to “The cat watching from the tree”. I am exactly that. Inspecting people from afar (not always literally, afar can refer to my own headspace) and analysing if they seem compatible or not. I have few friends, but the friends I have now are friends I’ve had for years. It’s basically that meme of the girl dressed in black and the girl with rainbow hair smiling. I am that black haired and dressed girl, being by myself in my own headspace, but around trusted friends, the extroversion pops out. INFPs are really… kind of incoherent. We are one big paradox. We want to be left alone often, but that does not mean we want to be lonely. Mood swings are not to severe to me but sometimes something in me switches and I just want to close myself off. I guess I can be a bit snarky when I’m approached at those times. Like a cat you gave some nice head rubs and all of a sudden the little guy decides he wants to be left alone again and starts scratching your ear. I guess you could metaphorically compare an INFPs headspace to a cat going out at night, doing it’s own thing. Sometimes I’m most inspired when I really should have been asleep already. It’s a precious place to be and it’s instinctive to retreat there often, just like it’s a cat’s instinct to just go out at night and hunt. Other people may judge it, but it’s essential to the integrity of our very being.
A couple decades ago, I applied for a job and the company had me do a written test. One question was, "If you were to be an animal, what animal would you be?" With no hesitation, I answered "House cat". I got the job! Yep, I'm a house cat.
I'm laughing cuz everyone in the comments is in the same boat and we all ended up here watching this video to understand and explain our feelings. I love y'all INFPs.
Yes, I'm an INFP Female. People get frustrated with me because of the way I process information. I can't help the way my brain works, but I'm grateful for it.
THIS. I'm in my 3rd year at this "new" job and my boss hated me the first year because I couldn't get things done. She finally let me sit down and tell her how I need her to deliver information to me in order for it to be processed and acted upon within a timely manner, and correctly. After that, no issues. People think everyone learns the same way. We don't.
I’m the same. And I just think it’s beautiful how sensitive we are and so intuned with our emotions. My friends are usually INFJ and they’re often weirded out when I describe how I feel about something. My friends would mostly blame my hormones
Check to see if you meet the criterion for ADHD. (it's INFP on steroids...I'm one) What's helpful about that is it's now in the DSM and with an official diagnosis you should be able to legally request and require some workplace consideration, not to mention some helpful drugs and counseling...(sad, huh, like why do we have to force our sharp-edged selves into the round hole? I know: kids to support, mates and jobs to keep, etc.)
I am an INFP, almost 70 years old. I have had an amazing life, living my dreams globally . I would not change anything. To all you younger women? Go for it! Live your dreams ! As many as you can, life is made for living. I have traveled the world, started 100s of companies, 1 foundation and 2 other nonprofits. Few people really understand me, but it is not such a big deal. The few who do are highly valued friends. We rock ❤️ I think it is an amazing gift to be an INFP❤️
Lovely to hear! How did you maintain discipline as an infp. I have many projects, constantly get new ideas, & love to learn, so never finish anything 😂
@@S2MichEl young people turn my ideas into reality, I help them form companies and cooperatives ☺️ I am the dreamer, young people turn my ideas into small businesses and we all win together. Permaculture☺️
I'm an INFP woman and this actually does explain me pretty well. I only have one best friend and I met her online and I'm quite sure we'll be friends for life. I really feel like I don't fit in most of the time, I'm very shy and most of my "friends" don't seem to want to hang out with me all that much, which is definitely why I don't count them as my best friends. I always question all the time what makes people not want to hang out with me. "Am I just too quiet?" "Do they think I'm weird?" etc. I always see the girls hanging out together and I'm normally just there and just watching or following them, and I normally wait to be told something to do to help with something. I just really wish I could stop being so quiet but I just can't and I wish people would like hanging out with me more.
You are not only one. I have my best friend since childhood and another friend is INFP as well. I don't know I feel like I am invisible for the rest of the people . Even to my colleagues , I can be standing right next to them and they will ask where am I?😂
Value yourself more. We don't value ourselves much due to a myriad of historical factors, we put up walls, frequently act awkward and have had traumatic histories. Revel in your authenticity, be yourself. Learn about what you are and how you can have a better life by being well versed in how MBTI works.
Most people have friendships based on activities, infp are more interested in the person and conversations and not just the activity. A lof of people just want to go to a bar with their friends and have a good time. They call you when they need advice but for all the other stuff they prefer another type of person. That is my experience
👋 INFP female here. I heartily related to a LOT of your points but with a few exceptions. Alone time, independence and autonomy, a fierce hatred of being told what to do, not understanding something told to me from a purely logical standpoint, extreme sensitivity, high levels of empathy - yes, yes and yes this is all absolutely true. The two things I didnt 100% agree with were 1. Keeping lifelong friends - I actually really struggle to maintain most friendships and often lose them by simply fading out of people's lives, prefering to spend time alone or on my interests and hobbies and passions. Its a problem 😅🤦 often unintentional too as I can easily lose track of days and how long its been since I last spoke to someone. 2. Standing up for myself is something it has taken me 10 years of adulthood, and much therapy, to start doing regularly and I still sometimes struggle with it. I will stand up for somebody else in a heartbeat, especially if they are close to me. But standing up for myself is hard, I think a) because of that immense self-doubt you mentioned (SO TRUE), b) that intense sensitivity & empathy and not wanting to upset someone else on my behalf, and c) I think in general we INFPs really hate personal conflict. But... Yes, I will start it for someone else if I feel they are being mistreated somehow. 🤷🤷😳 I dont know haha. To all my fellow INFPs watching this video, hello 👋 we are not alone!
I, INFP male, also struggle standing up for myself. I’ve always kind of pushed away the feeling of having to speak out. But well, that’s an interesting thing about this world and its people, right? We can aim to simplify how people are built and do it quite effectively, but that doesn’t mean there are only 16 people copy pasted in this world. And that’s (mostly) a good thing. My oldest friend and I still live in the same neighbourhood, so we can easily and spontaneously be like “Want to come over this evening, for an hour or so?” It was also easy to meet up during COVID that way. And my other two good friends, I’ve had for a good while too. I rarely approach anyone new. Two of my friendships were basically the result of a teacher seeing two people in her class that seemed kind of alone and the teacher then gently nudged us towards one another, which worked out in those situations. My other friend decided to sit next to me during a time some people, who preferred it, could go attend online class in the physical school (I did it, brought some necessary structure in my life). He just started chatting and eventually that turned out pretty great.
Exactly. I'm not sure about the empathy part for myself. Maybe it's my self doubt, I don't know. But I feel like I'm not as empathetic as I should be. Otherwise you nailed it. 1. Don't really have lifelong friends. And 2. Standing up for others (especially when injustice is concerned) more than for myself.
I am an INFP woman and my self-doubt has been EXTREME lately, so it was nice to have this video to get a more objective point of view of my personality and identity. Nailed it on every account.
I'm an INFP, and I indeed have I'd like to see things from different points of view. I am motivated to find the answers, but I get misunderstood even when I try to find answers to why a bully does what they do. I was once accused of excusing their behavior which is not true at all. I just wanted to know why they are that way.
It's a way for them to process the negative emotions through external stimuli when they are unaware of how to process those emotions internally in a safe way. Some of them also feel healed when seeing others in agony, as it helps them not feel alone. These are all impulsive behaviours and are not calculated objectively. If calculated objectively, it goes beyond bullying and turns into structured manipulation. Structured manipulation is prevalent in individuals who lack Empathy and may only experience cognitive empathy, empathy to a minimal extent, or none at all.
throughout my whole life (i am 19) i have felt isolated and weird. Discovering that i am an INFP has helped me so fukin much and has finally given me an answer to what i have questioned and daydreamed about from school. Am i just stupid? am i this, that or anything in between or feeling like you are the problem and you have to hide away and put on a mask when you feel it is needed.some exhausting shit man 😩 but im glad that we are unique and direct so much thought and empathy towards others. In a way its hard knowing that theres gonna be so many people that dont get you but in the end, its what makes us unique. Authenticity and beauty is where i receive my comfort and i wouldn’t change that for the world. i would love to hear from people who have had similar experiences to me
Yes I felt the same . It's like all INFPs go through the same type of things in our lives. Or are we not compatible with with normal world? When I was growing up I felt I'm much more advanced than others. I didn't know it back then but now I think about it, I felt like I was much more responsible about things than other kids was. But now I feel like I haven't grown up enough to deal with the world. Sometimes it's so exhausting.
@Charlie King @Sanu Vithanage I think your experiences resonate with mine, even though I found out just a few years ago that I was not only INFP, but also autistic. In primary school, I had straight A+ marks in everything but PE, but I was socially inept, had awful social anxiety and was constantly overwhelmed by basically everything, so much so that I often cried without even knowing why. High school was even worse, as I grew all the more acutely aware that no matter how hard I tried to act "normal," I never felt like I really understood my peers or belonged anywhere. I used to find other kids immature, but now that I’m an adult, I seem to be the one enjoying things typically considered childish, being overly sensitive and struggling to get basic stuff done. Being a functional member of society requires so much mental energy that I sometimes wish I could put the world on pause and retreat for a year on some remote island with no one but my cats, just to get a chance to wind down…
We are old souls that’s fs accompanied by artistic interest/talents. I have maladaptive daydreaming it also helped me cope with trauma but life in general.. the issue is that I never feel connected to people in that way so in my mind I make them to be so good, amazing and interesting but it’s never the reality of them just their potential. I question everything/everyone even the bad and taboo that others might not even care about but in my mind I just want to know the why? How? I always seek truth and answers. Definitely have felt isolated and out of place especially around my age group, but somehow gravitate people in and I would say all if not most people take a liking to me. But I am extremely selective because most people drain me and I mean that truthfully. I have to really put in all my efforts to socialize.
@@StarlitSwamp totally relate to this, agree. I was very happy at primary school but once I got to secondary school I became acutely nervous and I couldn't bear doing exams. Hyper sensitive. I was best at creative writing and art.
I am definitely an INFP woman. I am highly sensitive and it drives my family crazy. My friends always say that they like that about me. I would say I am not necessarily very good at standing up for myself them. I'm so much better at standing up for others. My friends and family, especially my in laws, always comment on how brave and curious I am. I love writing songs. People often find me in a corner writing lyrics by myself. I'm not saying I am, but I do feel like INFP women are quite wise. One of my friends is also an INFP. I always listen to what she has to say.
I liked how you talked about how infp women are with friends. I'm very extroverted around friends to the point they don't believe I'm INFP and sometimes I question if I am too when I'm not 'following the formula'. So thank you for validating that!
"...they don't always know if they can trust them until they spend a lot of time around them...' ....except that they don't like spending a lot of time around people whom they're not sure that they can trust. Perhaps the most frustrating catch-22 with which IFNPs struggle.
FINALLY representation for us. I've gone my whole life feeling misunderstood at times but I'm glad to know that there are others out there like me. You all are SO intelligent, beautiful, unique, and deserve the world. XOXO - a young INFP woman
In 2011, I was blessed to win the heart, and the hand of an INFP women. Most of what's in this video applies to her... not 100%, but mostly. The 'friends for life' piece is what I find most prominent, the exploratory nature of my wife, and the 'trust is hard to come by, but we'll worth it when we'll earned' also fits her personality to a 'T.' As an INFP myself, I feel blessed to have her in my life.
I am an INFP and I find myself 100% in the describtion. Having this personality is very hard, I always feel lonely and missunderstood. People takes it personally when I need my space.
Has anyone else found it significantly harder to exists in the world as an INFP over the last 5 years or so? It feel like social media has turned the dumb, arrogant, extroverted and narcissistic traits up to a 10 in most people, to the point of kindess, consideration and decorum falling to the wayside.
yes!!! that's the reason i deleted all social media (except yt). people like that were overwhelmingly many, and i got so drained being surrounded by them, even virtually. thankfully irl people are less superficial, but it's still soo hard for me to find someone my soul feels comfortable around. i can count on one hand how many people i've felt comfortable being around in the last 5 years or so. it's a tad sad. being deep and sensitive is both a blessing and a curse.
Totally agree. It’s so hard to find n keep a job for more than a yr or 2. I work in business consulting and i find that so many people are shallow or bullies or running purely off of their ego. It’s exhausting
I don't use social media. Makes me feel terrible. Was on Facebook after becoming a mum, because I could find advice about breastfeeding and other parenting issues, but got tired of it really quickly.
All the friends I had as a young woman have now all left, or I left them. I pretended to be far more outgoing than I really was then; a serious fake people pleaser. As a mature woman, I have dropped the mask and the pretending. I have one real friend who really gets me. I'm so much happier. I only smile when I mean it, and no one talks me into decisions I'm uncomfortable with.👍
Same here!!!!! Now that I’m in my 50s I finally stopped trying to pretend to be something I’m not and just be myself! It’s freeing, but there are people who sadly don’t understand.
Same here, I was always going out and in the meantime I felt lost. I need my time alone. I have a good relationship and I want to try and meet more like minded people which is hard
I was in tears when I got to know that someone can understand me ... Because no one understands me and that's why I have self - doubt that I'm wrong .... And yes I like Literature, art and music and also like to watch anime , movies etc. Harry Potter is my favourite among all ☺️❤️ , and you're right again I am independent and always want to take my own decisions , sometimes I fear to change but I like trying new things , I like to learn new languages and I would like to travel the whole world someday 😌 thank you for understanding us , I wish your channel grows and reachs to everyone that they can understand us .... People think that I am moody , I don't have somany friends , I have only few girl friends but I have deep connection with them , so others think I am very proud .... By the way I'm your new subscriber and as you know , INFP women always stand by their friends so we will always be your subscriber 😊
INFP here as well. I definitely appreciated this bc I lived in the library as a teenager and lone-wolfed it through high school and young adulthood. I wasn't really interested in having friends for the longest time bc I couldn't find anyone trustworthy or have enough depth for me to relate to. Now that I'm getting older, I do want some friends but I am struggling to find people I can really be with that have depth. Small talk drives me crazy! Lol
I'm INFP woman, totally agree! all this long I thought I was weird because its hard for me to fit in & very uncomfortable around people but now I understand that my personality is unique, rare 😊
I am an INFP woman. I am 71 now, I didn't find out about this until I was 65. Wow !!! I wish I had known about this sooner. I was very hard on myself, I dropped out of college because I couldn't remember everything I was learning. I ended up having a few bosses dumb as a rock. I am having a very hard time with the inhumanity we are living through.
Totally true about me as an INFP woman. I've never seen this before. I wish I had known this much earlier in my life. So hard to find the right career. I love writing and art.
Finally INFP women are covered on RUclips. Thank you. I have known that I am an INFP for over 30 years and rarely see anything about this. Thank you so much. Your descriptions are so accurate.
Every one of the traits you listed are 100% true of me. To name just a few, I'm an artist and writer, I love to do research and find out new things and I've had the same best friend for 51 years.
as an infp i don't have many friends because i don't feel most people i know are that lovable. i feel i am to blame cause i can see how selfish, narcissistic, gossipy and mean they are. i need to be able to admire the people i'm with. they just depress me, i have many "friends" as they see it. cause they don't even know what friendship is. so they think we are friends. i learned to accept people as they are, so im in this friendships that drain me and where i give more than they do. i learned to take care of myself more, trying to not invest so much in these relationships. there are very few people i admire and trust and they moved away to or live in different countries so i usually feel lonely but i have my siblings with whom i share the same values and sense of humor. i love to read and watch movies and quiet places.
Some of my favorite people are INFP and it makes sense since I’m one :) Kurt Cobain, Princess Diana , Audrey Hepburn, Joji, Chris Martin, Marlon Brando, Lana del Rey
@@ab6457 INFP are one of the most creative and artistic personalities. Since we are very connected with emotions it’s very easy for us to have a connection with music.
I am INFP woman and so proud of it! Thank you for this affirmation. This is incredibly accurate! I would put the self-doubt passage as second and Need for freedom within feeling safe as first!
For a long time I wasn't sure if I was more INTP or INFP, but this feels more like it. I absolutely need alone time. Lots of it. I often point out situations (usually on TV or in a video) where a person is being manipulative, and I totally suck at small talk, although, as I get older, I find that I'm building skills in discussing weather and rising prices. :) Most people think I'm all fluff, and I've had people actually apologize for not talking to me before because they didn't realize that I actually had a brain--although that's not exactly how they put it. From art to writing, reading, playing instruments, I feel pulled in many directions. I have been told that I'm very hard to get to know because I don't open myself up to people. Most people only see the fluffy side because I make jokes, point out ironies, and have a playful sense of humor. However, even this is saved for relationships where I feel comfortable. If I'm not comfortable and feel like I can trust someone, they won't see the sense of humor or any of my good points. They make assumptions, which are never flattering. When someone is too demanding of time, attention, and energy, I stop being able to function. I may not be a leader, but I'm not a follower, and I'm not afraid to go alone. When I see advice on what not to wear or see new trends, I usually laugh at it and just do what I want. I had a difficult time with a teacher because I pointed out that she was wrong on more than one occasion. No one backed me up, but I didn't care. It felt like the right thing to do, even though it kept me from graduating salutatorian when she sabotaged my grades by changing my answers on a test. (Historian gets nothing. Not even an honorable mention.) I used to be upset about it, but I am not against the person who got it, and I think it was fair that she got it. However, I do understand logic and math, so that's probably why I had a struggle with trying to figure out which one I was. I'm still waiting for that organization to kick in...
I am infp and I had a friend intp. I must say the difference between those types of personalities is huge. We actually have a lot of things in common such as strong sense of justice, lack of trust, tendency to spend our time on our own, ability to recognise the beauty of this world. But the way intps mind works it's something unbelievable. They are really smart. However intps are not great in empathy. They struggle with this, they don't understand their own emotions, they don't know how to express them, they don't know how to recognise the emotions of other people or why it's so important and it's really painful to watch. We infp just listen to the people and try to understand their deep inner feelings. Intp on the other hand don't think much about people at all. They are usually very busy with their great ideas, science or video games 😂 But when they do want to help they usually give most reasonable science based advises in the world. And god forbid you don't take their advices😂
All of these are so accurate! It's crazy... I wonder if that's why I feel so weird sometimes lol. With friendships it happens to me, I can be friendly with people but only if I feel that I can be myself with someone is that I consider them a friend, that and also that our friendship lasts for some years. It's not something easy to find, but it makes those connections really meaningful.
As an INFP, when I discovered the Briggs-Meyers types, it changed my life. That was 40 years ago (I'm now 70). I can't believe how accurate your descriptions are, more than others I've read over the years. Thank you!
I have to point this out in this video at it says INFP's have introverted thinking, but this is incorrect, instead it should be Introverted Feeling. INFP's have Extroverted Thinking in the 4th position.
Many other women think we are lame or fake. Ha! I am now 69 years old and don't care much who likes me. This identification as INFP has helped me so much. Wish I could meet another one in person.
This is spot. on. Unfortunately, I've never met another INFP. Even though it's lonely, I wouldn't want to be any other way. I love understanding personality types. There was a time I was really into them, numerology (8, 7, 11 & 4 -_-), enneagram (type 4), etc., as I really wanted to make sure that I belonged on this planet, if that makes sense. Side note I'm also neurodivergent, lol. I've wondered how many other INFPs are as well.
This is basically a true assessment of INFP female's. There are other factors at play, of course, in each one's own life that could impact the scale of impact by these traits such as, how they were raised, WHEN they were raised, whether or not they came from a two parent home (and how healthy or unhealthy that was), and the treatment they received from said parents/parent. The stability or lack there of, of their home life growing up. Any possible mental health issues they may or may not have. There are variables in everything and a personality type is no different. Just like your sun sign in astrology. It doesn't make up the whole of you as there are many other zodiac signs in different houses of your natal chart that can influence over your personality and life as much as just your sun sign. Just an INFP observation 😊
You also have your moon sign and rising sign, and what sign your mercury, mars, venus, jupiter, saturn, Neptune, Uranus and pluto are in your astrology chart and in what houses and aspects they make to each other. It gets even more complicated than that which makes me wonder how anyone could say it has no credibility. You can't make this stuff up and have it be so uncannily correct. And yes I am an INFP :) Nice to meet you!
As far as it taking awhile to know if INFPs can trust someone, I would say our intuition lets us know almost immediately. We are super sensitive to deception (IMO).
I am INFP and it is so true! I definitely resonate with all of the reasons. And here I thought I was just special! 😂 The values and not following the herd and the struggle to make friends are so deep. But it is true when I find someone I trust like my husband we are together forever. Yesterday was our 17th anniversary. We have been together for 23 years. I feel like an ancient child 😂!
INFP here literally questioning why people like to sign a human emotion to a legal contract last week as thats not something I feel comfortable with (marriage). 😂
My team had this personality test once, I was the only person who seemed not in the same group of 7 others lol But i was more of extraverted when I was younger though. I dislike when my boss tells me what to do, or some other people..it's not like their ideas are better
I quite my job i had for 1.5 years because it was stressing me the hell out. And my payroll person said that what I did was very inspiring. I was confused because wouldn't anyone else quite a job they didn't like? But I realized for some ppl its hard. I mean it was hard for me too but I guess my inner clock for when im fed up with things runs thinner then others lol
You are partly right and partly wrong. INFPs do know how to take of themselves to process their feelings and retreat when needed. And they know how to protect themselves. But being the first to defend themselves if disrespected? It takes a lot of internal processing for me to stand up for myself. I can instantly jump to your defense, not my own. The fact that INFPs can "feel" the emotions of others complicates the issue because we can understand more readily where the other person is coming from. Our mediator nature that seeks a resolution that accommodates all parties means picking one side to defend--even our own--does not come easily. And our desire to avoid conflict and drama means we may allow a certain level of disrespect but there will be a cost in broken fellowship because the other person is no longer as trustworthy and authentic as we once thought. As far as being told what to do . . . well, when a decision needs to be made, we tend to ask input from as many trusted friends and family as we can. We will do our own thing, absolutely--but there is a co-dependent aspect to our independence. Hopefully, the co-dependence is mild and healthy and serves us rather than unhealthy and handicaps us. Our rebellious traits are all connected to being authentic and informed, not connected to being unique or being angry. We want and need to belong to a group but can find relating and connecting a challenge. I joke that the P in INFP is for Paradox as we are full of contradictions.
@DagTore Larsen Hey there! Thank you for bringing that up 😀 I actually do have a video that goes in depth of the rarity and how uncommon an INFP man is as well! Check this one out: ruclips.net/video/F0C05DCc6sM/видео.html Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment! 🙂👍
@DagTore Larsen You are very welcome! Be sure to check out my INFP playlist as well! There is a lot of great stuff in there that I think you would really enjoy: ruclips.net/p/PLESS5tck6M7Rt0122jPhrk3xrm6iWH4v6
Found this video after doing the 16 personality test and wanted to find out more about my result... Did not expect to find this, I relate to basically to everything here. It feels very validating, I'm not broken or weird, it's just who I am.
People think I’m obnoxious. But I really find hard to connect with people. But once I connect with them I love to hear them and such a good listener but can get distracted really quick. I feel sometimes I am in my own world 🌎
As an INFP woman, I resonate with all of this! I’ve been wondering why I’ve been feeling the way I’ve been feeling lately. Self doubt, not knowing what my purpose in life is, what do I want to do with my life etc. Watching this and seeing all of the INFP women in the comments, makes me feel warm inside. Because, it’s not only me. I took a personality test because I wanted to see what my personality type was. My mouth dropped open after reading everything. And I’m so interested in the arts and theatre. I always have been. I had a chance to go to a film school when I was 19 but never went. I didn’t want to leave my mom. Now I’m wondering “what could have been” had I taken that chance. I’m 36 now, and having a hard time figuring out what I want to do in this life.
You got it all correct. Im an INFP female. I have explored this and studied this. I accept I am INFP. Ive gotten in trouble in some jobs by being a rebel. I have an excellent work ethic but my rebel nature causes me trouble. I have a strong sense of justice and Im an idealist. You got it right that we are good problem solvers. I look at things from all perspectives. Im interested in many things. Im open minded and love learning new things! I love the arts and am an artist! We are sensitive and we feel deeply for others. We are intense sometimes . With people we are close to we can be very witty and have a great sense of humour!
This is so true. I get exhausted when I'm in a big group of ppl and I have 1 BFF. I also move around a lot. Unfortunately, I don't drive, cos I really would like to live in a van and drive around. It would suit me to the T.
Thank you for this RUclips episode. I am an INFP woman. I am me, lots of times I do not 'fit' into groups. Can keep myself busy... Maybe too much. Love art, history, quiet times, mathematics, observing others, listening, leadership, 'different' ideas, direct, am I ok? My thoughts don't fit..... This is me
I am an INFP female and it’s remarkable how you described me so well. Yes, I have been able to turn the last characteristic you described to be a positive thing rather than having it hinder me.
@@sanuvithanage Tests are BS. Just learn from cognitive functions. I got typed as ESTP and INTJ before I read into cognitive functions and learnt that I was an ENTP.
How i wish my parents could have known these things when i was a child...i have been alone most of my life,as people don't understand me or how i think and feel ...Thank you so much for this information!❤
Okay, you described what INFP woman is like, but you hadn't explained why they are rare in our society. Of course, there is said, that it isn' the easiest task to spot one in a crowd, but thats it.
INFP woman here, yes this describes me pretty well. I am close to the line between the P and the J so some of this is a little ill-fitting, but I am solidly INF so most of it rings very true. I am always told my brain works oddly, that I don't think "logically." Whatever, I get the job done.
As an INFP I think that if I have been able to stand up for someone it has been easier to stand up for someone else than for myself, for the most part. This might be because of growing up with a step-parent who very likely had OCPD and was extremely critical, often yelled, was always "right", always had the last word - and I did initially used to talk back and fight for myself but I think I just got so tired. As I've gotten older, I've learned more about assertiveness to help me stand up for myself.
I’m an INFP woman. I usually get together with one friend only. This provides me with the ability to focus on just one person. I have girlfriends my whole life, but my friends don’t know each other. In a way I have a lot of best friends. Some of them I only see once or twice a year. And one friend I see weekly. We just pick up where we left off regardless how much time we each spend together. I get lost in listening, watching and interest, if I’m in a group of three or more people. So I don’t get to explain my thoughts. Plus, my energy gets depleted. I prefer one on one, in my friendship outings.
@@coolcharlie118 I guess I naturally gravitated towards them. Most of them are my high school friends actually. In college I befriended more extroverts.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus yeah INFP's clique with each other. My friend who I met off Bumble only met a few times but we get along really well already because both INFP's hehe.
It can feel so lonely going against the crowd to stand up for our values and so i really value my friendships with people i can completely rely upon because they hold my same values. This can look like to some people that you dont want to challenge your thoughts though but thats not the case. I always start with the position that i am wrong in my thoughts and so am my own protagonist when researching to ensure I hold accurate and valid values and opinions and anything i have not much care for i know nothing about. This means my conversations either end cause i cant find anything in common or i find them too shallow as if I know anything about a topic i will have looked into it well. This makes it soo tiring to be in my head though, i cant turn my thoughts off and i just want to relax, so i dive into movies and books and enjoy the escapism of putting myself into the characters to get an emotional buzz of experiencing the excitement nearly first hand. Being highly emotional though is the height of annoying and wish i could turn it off sometimes. I both love and hate being an infp lol😅
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Please just change the cognitive functions around 04:06 in your video
I am an INFP female!!! 😊
Goodmoring.
I am a INFP.
Thank you for sharing this video its verry hulpful......✌️💯🙏
infp here
3 out of my 4 friends are infp… and my mother is too, like me.
If INFPs ruled the world, it would be a truly compassionate, beautiful world, where everyone’s potential is developed, everyone’s uniqueness is celebrated, and mankind and the natural world humanely coexist.
You mean if everyone was an INFP? Then no one would ever leave their homes, only living in their own heads. Sounds dull.
Nothing would get done though. 😂 💀
i mean, INFP's are fine at accepting diversity and personal differences so its not like they need to only interact with their own type or whatever. Its when differences arent properly adressed and respect (especially adressing anyones agency) is lacking where we start getting all angry and bitter. Also, its just a broad model and labels can get in the way of further understanding which is annoying
Having your exact personality type described on the internet is oddly refreshing 😅 it’s like “there are others like me??”
It feels kinda wired, but refreshing, oddly.
Weird *
Comforting, for sure. I think I sublimate how different I typically feel.
Isn't it lovely!? ❤
its kinda scary to me
Ok, I'm NOT broken. I'm just INFP.
Lmaoo
Hahaha
I feel you😂
😂😂😂
LITERALLY what I just realized.
I am an INFP woman and to me, despite wanting friendships and other things, I always disliked when people tried to put me in situations that went against my values. Also, despite having a love for clothing, I can’t stand materialistic conversations when they run longer than 3 minutes.
girl, same. i work with a make up artist and a fashion designer (on an unrelated field:health care) who can spend HOURS talking about make up and clothes and i want to shoot myself everyday.
SAME! I also dislike people pointing out negative stuff in front of others, like look at her shoes or look at his pullover and then talk bs about people. Gossiping makes me disrespect someone so quickly.
3 mins😂😂😂 you have more patience than I do.
We have a need to protect what society deems the underdog…..
@@mariaagosti-pm7tk yep, the judgemental people that look at ea inch of your body, then gossip about you, but it's under the church facade...it irks me alot...
INFP women are pretty much cats. 😂 I say this as an INFP woman of course. It's complicated. We're complicated. Like one minute helping someone out who needs our help and the next minute screaming at a different person who might ask us to do something we don't necessarily want to do and say, "DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!" Mood swings? Yes please. Cooperation? Only if we feel that it's productive to do so. Nothing like looking like a calm smooth ocean on the top of the water and a huge raging storm under the waves. As they say, "still waters run deep" and we are no exception. Yeah, pretty much we are cats.
This is so real, I've compare myself to cats so many times lol
Honestly, I’m an INFP male and I am basically just a cat too. There’s a saying Dutch “De kat uit de boom kijken” which roughly translates to “The cat watching from the tree”. I am exactly that. Inspecting people from afar (not always literally, afar can refer to my own headspace) and analysing if they seem compatible or not. I have few friends, but the friends I have now are friends I’ve had for years. It’s basically that meme of the girl dressed in black and the girl with rainbow hair smiling. I am that black haired and dressed girl, being by myself in my own headspace, but around trusted friends, the extroversion pops out.
INFPs are really… kind of incoherent. We are one big paradox. We want to be left alone often, but that does not mean we want to be lonely. Mood swings are not to severe to me but sometimes something in me switches and I just want to close myself off. I guess I can be a bit snarky when I’m approached at those times. Like a cat you gave some nice head rubs and all of a sudden the little guy decides he wants to be left alone again and starts scratching your ear.
I guess you could metaphorically compare an INFPs headspace to a cat going out at night, doing it’s own thing. Sometimes I’m most inspired when I really should have been asleep already. It’s a precious place to be and it’s instinctive to retreat there often, just like it’s a cat’s instinct to just go out at night and hunt. Other people may judge it, but it’s essential to the integrity of our very being.
Most accurate comment.
A couple decades ago, I applied for a job and the company had me do a written test. One question was, "If you were to be an animal, what animal would you be?" With no hesitation, I answered "House cat". I got the job! Yep, I'm a house cat.
So true, i always find similar behaviours between me and cats, i guess i was a cat in another life
“Drawn to art, music, literature, and theater”
No because why are those my four favorite things ever
Same fr
Same, same! I thought I was the only one. Turns out it's characteristic of a whole community of people!!
Same truly
I'm laughing cuz everyone in the comments is in the same boat and we all ended up here watching this video to understand and explain our feelings. I love y'all INFPs.
Same here
I wished we could all meet!
ilyt and thankss
Hi!
It's not an easy existance but it is beautiful
Yes, I'm an INFP Female. People get frustrated with me because of the way I process information. I can't help the way my brain works, but I'm grateful for it.
THIS. I'm in my 3rd year at this "new" job and my boss hated me the first year because I couldn't get things done. She finally let me sit down and tell her how I need her to deliver information to me in order for it to be processed and acted upon within a timely manner, and correctly. After that, no issues. People think everyone learns the same way. We don't.
I'm so curious - whats the method of delivery that works? Thank you
I’m the same. And I just think it’s beautiful how sensitive we are and so intuned with our emotions. My friends are usually INFJ and they’re often weirded out when I describe how I feel about something. My friends would mostly blame my hormones
Check to see if you meet the criterion for ADHD. (it's INFP on steroids...I'm one) What's helpful about that is it's now in the DSM and with an official diagnosis you should be able to legally request and require some workplace consideration, not to mention some helpful drugs and counseling...(sad, huh, like why do we have to force our sharp-edged selves into the round hole? I know: kids to support, mates and jobs to keep, etc.)
Infps are process people and it is something that others should understand..
I am an INFP, almost 70 years old. I have had an amazing life, living my dreams globally . I would not change anything. To all you younger women? Go for it! Live your dreams ! As many as you can, life is made for living.
I have traveled the world, started 100s of companies, 1 foundation and 2 other nonprofits.
Few people really understand me, but it is not such a big deal. The few who do are highly valued friends.
We rock ❤️
I think it is an amazing gift to be an INFP❤️
Lovely to hear! How did you maintain discipline as an infp. I have many projects, constantly get new ideas, & love to learn, so never finish anything 😂
@@S2MichEl young people turn my ideas into reality, I help them form companies and cooperatives ☺️ I am the dreamer, young people turn my ideas into small businesses and we all win together. Permaculture☺️
@@robbiePlanetaSano Are you an investor or you mean you higher people to start your companies?
Thank you sooo much for this comment! I am just starting my first company at 40, because...self doubt😅. Also, it's art related😂😂
@@robbiePlanetaSano founded the inspirational infp
I'm an INFP woman and this actually does explain me pretty well. I only have one best friend and I met her online and I'm quite sure we'll be friends for life. I really feel like I don't fit in most of the time, I'm very shy and most of my "friends" don't seem to want to hang out with me all that much, which is definitely why I don't count them as my best friends. I always question all the time what makes people not want to hang out with me. "Am I just too quiet?" "Do they think I'm weird?" etc. I always see the girls hanging out together and I'm normally just there and just watching or following them, and I normally wait to be told something to do to help with something. I just really wish I could stop being so quiet but I just can't and I wish people would like hanging out with me more.
I could have written this myself 😊 you're not the only one
You are not only one. I have my best friend since childhood and another friend is INFP as well. I don't know I feel like I am invisible for the rest of the people . Even to my colleagues , I can be standing right next to them and they will ask where am I?😂
Are you stalking me? Because that describes me exactly, word for word.
Value yourself more. We don't value ourselves much due to a myriad of historical factors, we put up walls, frequently act awkward and have had traumatic histories. Revel in your authenticity, be yourself. Learn about what you are and how you can have a better life by being well versed in how MBTI works.
Most people have friendships based on activities, infp are more interested in the person and conversations and not just the activity. A lof of people just want to go to a bar with their friends and have a good time. They call you when they need advice but for all the other stuff they prefer another type of person. That is my experience
👋 INFP female here. I heartily related to a LOT of your points but with a few exceptions.
Alone time, independence and autonomy, a fierce hatred of being told what to do, not understanding something told to me from a purely logical standpoint, extreme sensitivity, high levels of empathy - yes, yes and yes this is all absolutely true.
The two things I didnt 100% agree with were 1. Keeping lifelong friends - I actually really struggle to maintain most friendships and often lose them by simply fading out of people's lives, prefering to spend time alone or on my interests and hobbies and passions. Its a problem 😅🤦 often unintentional too as I can easily lose track of days and how long its been since I last spoke to someone.
2. Standing up for myself is something it has taken me 10 years of adulthood, and much therapy, to start doing regularly and I still sometimes struggle with it. I will stand up for somebody else in a heartbeat, especially if they are close to me. But standing up for myself is hard, I think a) because of that immense self-doubt you mentioned (SO TRUE), b) that intense sensitivity & empathy and not wanting to upset someone else on my behalf, and c) I think in general we INFPs really hate personal conflict. But... Yes, I will start it for someone else if I feel they are being mistreated somehow.
🤷🤷😳 I dont know haha.
To all my fellow INFPs watching this video, hello 👋 we are not alone!
I, INFP male, also struggle standing up for myself. I’ve always kind of pushed away the feeling of having to speak out.
But well, that’s an interesting thing about this world and its people, right? We can aim to simplify how people are built and do it quite effectively, but that doesn’t mean there are only 16 people copy pasted in this world. And that’s (mostly) a good thing.
My oldest friend and I still live in the same neighbourhood, so we can easily and spontaneously be like “Want to come over this evening, for an hour or so?” It was also easy to meet up during COVID that way. And my other two good friends, I’ve had for a good while too. I rarely approach anyone new. Two of my friendships were basically the result of a teacher seeing two people in her class that seemed kind of alone and the teacher then gently nudged us towards one another, which worked out in those situations. My other friend decided to sit next to me during a time some people, who preferred it, could go attend online class in the physical school (I did it, brought some necessary structure in my life). He just started chatting and eventually that turned out pretty great.
INFP female here!
This is so much relatable!
Exactly.
I'm not sure about the empathy part for myself. Maybe it's my self doubt, I don't know. But I feel like I'm not as empathetic as I should be. Otherwise you nailed it.
1. Don't really have lifelong friends. And 2. Standing up for others (especially when injustice is concerned) more than for myself.
@@TeaAddict those were exactly the two points I felt were missing for me as well
I am an INFP woman and my self-doubt has been EXTREME lately, so it was nice to have this video to get a more objective point of view of my personality and identity. Nailed it on every account.
I'm an INFP, and I indeed have I'd like to see things from different points of view. I am motivated to find the answers, but I get misunderstood even when I try to find answers to why a bully does what they do. I was once accused of excusing their behavior which is not true at all. I just wanted to know why they are that way.
I recommend you to watch videos about Narcissists. You will get answers!
Yes the struggle of seeing where the worst of the worst is coming from is very real. 😩
@@Vesayah Understandable, as you realize they are human beings, even if they're doing horrible things. It's so counterintuitive.
LOL I feel this to the core of my being
It's a way for them to process the negative emotions through external stimuli when they are unaware of how to process those emotions internally in a safe way. Some of them also feel healed when seeing others in agony, as it helps them not feel alone. These are all impulsive behaviours and are not calculated objectively. If calculated objectively, it goes beyond bullying and turns into structured manipulation. Structured manipulation is prevalent in individuals who lack Empathy and may only experience cognitive empathy, empathy to a minimal extent, or none at all.
Reject anything that appears to be excessively shallow or come from materialistic people.
throughout my whole life (i am 19) i have felt isolated and weird. Discovering that i am an INFP has helped me so fukin much and has finally given me an answer to what i have questioned and daydreamed about from school. Am i just stupid? am i this, that or anything in between or feeling like you are the problem and you have to hide away and put on a mask when you feel it is needed.some exhausting shit man 😩 but im glad that we are unique and direct so much thought and empathy towards others. In a way its hard knowing that theres gonna be so many people that dont get you but in the end, its what makes us unique. Authenticity and beauty is where i receive my comfort and i wouldn’t change that for the world.
i would love to hear from people who have had similar experiences to me
Yes I felt the same . It's like all INFPs go through the same type of things in our lives. Or are we not compatible with with normal world? When I was growing up I felt I'm much more advanced than others. I didn't know it back then but now I think about it, I felt like I was much more responsible about things than other kids was. But now I feel like I haven't grown up enough to deal with the world. Sometimes it's so exhausting.
@Charlie King @Sanu Vithanage
I think your experiences resonate with mine, even though I found out just a few years ago that I was not only INFP, but also autistic.
In primary school, I had straight A+ marks in everything but PE, but I was socially inept, had awful social anxiety and was constantly overwhelmed by basically everything, so much so that I often cried without even knowing why. High school was even worse, as I grew all the more acutely aware that no matter how hard I tried to act "normal," I never felt like I really understood my peers or belonged anywhere.
I used to find other kids immature, but now that I’m an adult, I seem to be the one enjoying things typically considered childish, being overly sensitive and struggling to get basic stuff done. Being a functional member of society requires so much mental energy that I sometimes wish I could put the world on pause and retreat for a year on some remote island with no one but my cats, just to get a chance to wind down…
We are old souls that’s fs accompanied by artistic interest/talents. I have maladaptive daydreaming it also helped me cope with trauma but life in general.. the issue is that I never feel connected to people in that way so in my mind I make them to be so good, amazing and interesting but it’s never the reality of them just their potential. I question everything/everyone even the bad and taboo that others might not even care about but in my mind I just want to know the why? How? I always seek truth and answers. Definitely have felt isolated and out of place especially around my age group, but somehow gravitate people in and I would say all if not most people take a liking to me. But I am extremely selective because most people drain me and I mean that truthfully. I have to really put in all my efforts to socialize.
I cry everyday, feel you❤
@@StarlitSwamp totally relate to this, agree. I was very happy at primary school but once I got to secondary school I became acutely nervous and I couldn't bear doing exams. Hyper sensitive. I was best at creative writing and art.
I am definitely an INFP woman. I am highly sensitive and it drives my family crazy. My friends always say that they like that about me. I would say I am not necessarily very good at standing up for myself them. I'm so much better at standing up for others. My friends and family, especially my in laws, always comment on how brave and curious I am. I love writing songs. People often find me in a corner writing lyrics by myself. I'm not saying I am, but I do feel like INFP women are quite wise. One of my friends is also an INFP. I always listen to what she has to say.
I liked how you talked about how infp women are with friends. I'm very extroverted around friends to the point they don't believe I'm INFP and sometimes I question if I am too when I'm not 'following the formula'. So thank you for validating that!
"...they don't always know if they can trust them until they spend a lot of time around them...' ....except that they don't like spending a lot of time around people whom they're not sure that they can trust. Perhaps the most frustrating catch-22 with which IFNPs struggle.
FINALLY representation for us. I've gone my whole life feeling misunderstood at times but I'm glad to know that there are others out there like me. You all are SO intelligent, beautiful, unique, and deserve the world.
XOXO - a young INFP woman
In 2011, I was blessed to win the heart, and the hand of an INFP women. Most of what's in this video applies to her... not 100%, but mostly. The 'friends for life' piece is what I find most prominent, the exploratory nature of my wife, and the 'trust is hard to come by, but we'll worth it when we'll earned' also fits her personality to a 'T.' As an INFP myself, I feel blessed to have her in my life.
I am an INFP and I find myself 100% in the describtion. Having this personality is very hard, I always feel lonely and missunderstood. People takes it personally when I need my space.
Has anyone else found it significantly harder to exists in the world as an INFP over the last 5 years or so? It feel like social media has turned the dumb, arrogant, extroverted and narcissistic traits up to a 10 in most people, to the point of kindess, consideration and decorum falling to the wayside.
yes!!! that's the reason i deleted all social media (except yt). people like that were overwhelmingly many, and i got so drained being surrounded by them, even virtually. thankfully irl people are less superficial, but it's still soo hard for me to find someone my soul feels comfortable around. i can count on one hand how many people i've felt comfortable being around in the last 5 years or so. it's a tad sad.
being deep and sensitive is both a blessing and a curse.
Totally agree. It’s so hard to find n keep a job for more than a yr or 2. I work in business consulting and i find that so many people are shallow or bullies or running purely off of their ego. It’s exhausting
omg yes, exactly what ive been thinking recently
I don't use social media. Makes me feel terrible. Was on Facebook after becoming a mum, because I could find advice about breastfeeding and other parenting issues, but got tired of it really quickly.
So true! I feel like people are becoming less and less graceful in real life too. Less polite and thoughtful about others.
All the friends I had as a young woman have now all left, or I left them. I pretended to be far more outgoing than I really was then; a serious fake people pleaser.
As a mature woman, I have dropped the mask and the pretending. I have one real friend who really gets me. I'm so much happier. I only smile when I mean it, and no one talks me into decisions I'm uncomfortable with.👍
Same here!!!!! Now that I’m in my 50s I finally stopped trying to pretend to be something I’m not and just be myself! It’s freeing, but there are people who sadly don’t understand.
Same here, I was always going out and in the meantime I felt lost. I need my time alone. I have a good relationship and I want to try and meet more like minded people which is hard
I was in tears when I got to know that someone can understand me ... Because no one understands me and that's why I have self - doubt that I'm wrong .... And yes I like Literature, art and music and also like to watch anime , movies etc. Harry Potter is my favourite among all ☺️❤️ , and you're right again I am independent and always want to take my own decisions , sometimes I fear to change but I like trying new things , I like to learn new languages and I would like to travel the whole world someday 😌 thank you for understanding us , I wish your channel grows and reachs to everyone that they can understand us .... People think that I am moody , I don't have somany friends , I have only few girl friends but I have deep connection with them , so others think I am very proud .... By the way I'm your new subscriber and as you know , INFP women always stand by their friends so we will always be your subscriber 😊
I relate to Luna Lovegood and think she must be INFP
INFP here as well. I definitely appreciated this bc I lived in the library as a teenager and lone-wolfed it through high school and young adulthood. I wasn't really interested in having friends for the longest time bc I couldn't find anyone trustworthy or have enough depth for me to relate to. Now that I'm getting older, I do want some friends but I am struggling to find people I can really be with that have depth. Small talk drives me crazy! Lol
My favorite places are libraries and museums. I could happily spend the rest of forever in the Museum of Natural History, Smithsonian.
I'm INFP woman, totally agree! all this long I thought I was weird because its hard for me to fit in & very uncomfortable around people but now I understand that my personality is unique, rare 😊
I am an INFP woman. I am 71 now, I didn't find out about this until I was 65. Wow !!! I wish I had known about this sooner. I was very hard on myself, I dropped out of college because I couldn't remember everything I was learning. I ended up having a few bosses dumb as a rock. I am having a very hard time with the inhumanity we are living through.
Totally true about me as an INFP woman. I've never seen this before. I wish I had known this much earlier in my life. So hard to find the right career. I love writing and art.
Finally INFP women are covered on RUclips. Thank you. I have known that I am an INFP for over 30 years and rarely see anything about this. Thank you so much. Your descriptions are so accurate.
this is the most accurate video on infps that I've seen on this platform
Every one of the traits you listed are 100% true of me. To name just a few, I'm an artist and writer, I love to do research and find out new things and I've had the same best friend for 51 years.
as an infp i don't have many friends because i don't feel most people i know are that lovable. i feel i am to blame cause i can see how selfish, narcissistic, gossipy and mean they are. i need to be able to admire the people i'm with. they just depress me, i have many "friends" as they see it. cause they don't even know what friendship is. so they think we are friends. i learned to accept people as they are, so im in this friendships that drain me and where i give more than they do. i learned to take care of myself more, trying to not invest so much in these relationships. there are very few people i admire and trust and they moved away to or live in different countries so i usually feel lonely but i have my siblings with whom i share the same values and sense of humor. i love to read and watch movies and quiet places.
“If you would just believe in yourself a little bit more…” my wife says that to me all the time. My mom used to say it to me growing up, too.
Some of my favorite people are INFP and it makes sense since I’m one :) Kurt Cobain, Princess Diana , Audrey Hepburn, Joji, Chris Martin, Marlon Brando, Lana del Rey
I wanted to ask if an infp can be artist until I Lana del rey
@@ab6457 INFP are one of the most creative and artistic personalities. Since we are very connected with emotions it’s very easy for us to have a connection with music.
And
Johnny Depp
And also my favorite
Tom Hiddleston
How can people usually forget this charming Loki guy as a fellow INFP too 😁
Chris Cornell, too. Not a surprise.
I am INFP woman and so proud of it! Thank you for this affirmation. This is incredibly accurate!
I would put the self-doubt passage as second and Need for freedom within feeling safe as first!
For a long time I wasn't sure if I was more INTP or INFP, but this feels more like it. I absolutely need alone time. Lots of it. I often point out situations (usually on TV or in a video) where a person is being manipulative, and I totally suck at small talk, although, as I get older, I find that I'm building skills in discussing weather and rising prices. :) Most people think I'm all fluff, and I've had people actually apologize for not talking to me before because they didn't realize that I actually had a brain--although that's not exactly how they put it. From art to writing, reading, playing instruments, I feel pulled in many directions. I have been told that I'm very hard to get to know because I don't open myself up to people. Most people only see the fluffy side because I make jokes, point out ironies, and have a playful sense of humor. However, even this is saved for relationships where I feel comfortable. If I'm not comfortable and feel like I can trust someone, they won't see the sense of humor or any of my good points. They make assumptions, which are never flattering. When someone is too demanding of time, attention, and energy, I stop being able to function. I may not be a leader, but I'm not a follower, and I'm not afraid to go alone. When I see advice on what not to wear or see new trends, I usually laugh at it and just do what I want. I had a difficult time with a teacher because I pointed out that she was wrong on more than one occasion. No one backed me up, but I didn't care. It felt like the right thing to do, even though it kept me from graduating salutatorian when she sabotaged my grades by changing my answers on a test. (Historian gets nothing. Not even an honorable mention.) I used to be upset about it, but I am not against the person who got it, and I think it was fair that she got it. However, I do understand logic and math, so that's probably why I had a struggle with trying to figure out which one I was. I'm still waiting for that organization to kick in...
I am infp and I had a friend intp. I must say the difference between those types of personalities is huge. We actually have a lot of things in common such as strong sense of justice, lack of trust, tendency to spend our time on our own, ability to recognise the beauty of this world. But the way intps mind works it's something unbelievable. They are really smart. However intps are not great in empathy. They struggle with this, they don't understand their own emotions, they don't know how to express them, they don't know how to recognise the emotions of other people or why it's so important and it's really painful to watch. We infp just listen to the people and try to understand their deep inner feelings. Intp on the other hand don't think much about people at all. They are usually very busy with their great ideas, science or video games 😂 But when they do want to help they usually give most reasonable science based advises in the world. And god forbid you don't take their advices😂
All of these are so accurate! It's crazy... I wonder if that's why I feel so weird sometimes lol. With friendships it happens to me, I can be friendly with people but only if I feel that I can be myself with someone is that I consider them a friend, that and also that our friendship lasts for some years. It's not something easy to find, but it makes those connections really meaningful.
I'm an infp female and this is really quite spot on. I appreciate the tone, this left me with better understanding and felt good to my self esteem
As an INFP, when I discovered the Briggs-Meyers types, it changed my life. That was 40 years ago (I'm now 70). I can't believe how accurate your descriptions are, more than others I've read over the years. Thank you!
I have to point this out in this video at it says INFP's have introverted thinking, but this is incorrect, instead it should be Introverted Feeling. INFP's have Extroverted Thinking in the 4th position.
Finding videos like this is always nice. Being able to say to myself "There are others like me?" is refreshing
Now I know why I feel like I never fit in with people, especially other women. This is very eye opening!
Many other women think we are lame or fake. Ha! I am now 69 years old and don't care much who likes me. This identification as INFP has helped me so much. Wish I could meet another one in person.
As an INFP, the videos that shows lots of women in office formal suits bothers me. I dont like wearing those formal outfits.
I think this was done to portray a woman in control of her life, more symbolic than a realistic portrayal, I also hate smart, restrictive clothing!
This is spot. on. Unfortunately, I've never met another INFP. Even though it's lonely, I wouldn't want to be any other way.
I love understanding personality types. There was a time I was really into them, numerology (8, 7, 11 & 4 -_-), enneagram (type 4), etc., as I really wanted to make sure that I belonged on this planet, if that makes sense. Side note I'm also neurodivergent, lol. I've wondered how many other INFPs are as well.
Fairly accurate, I am an INFP and it is so nice to feel understood. Faith in God, and allowing him to direct my life has been so helpful for me.
Hi, cami. You are a normal woman. You are one of the few amazing ladies that make humanity more lovely❤. Take care. Sincerely, Gray Diamond 10:35
Cami, good evening. If you want someone who can listen to you, let me know. I am here to help you, Sweetie ❤️
This is basically a true assessment of INFP female's. There are other factors at play, of course, in each one's own life that could impact the scale of impact by these traits such as, how they were raised, WHEN they were raised, whether or not they came from a two parent home (and how healthy or unhealthy that was), and the treatment they received from said parents/parent. The stability or lack there of, of their home life growing up. Any possible mental health issues they may or may not have.
There are variables in everything and a personality type is no different. Just like your sun sign in astrology. It doesn't make up the whole of you as there are many other zodiac signs in different houses of your natal chart that can influence over your personality and life as much as just your sun sign.
Just an INFP observation 😊
You also have your moon sign and rising sign, and what sign your mercury, mars, venus, jupiter, saturn, Neptune, Uranus and pluto are in your astrology chart and in what houses and aspects they make to each other. It gets even more complicated than that which makes me wonder how anyone could say it has no credibility. You can't make this stuff up and have it be so uncannily correct. And yes I am an INFP :) Nice to meet you!
@@denisehill1705 You are correct! 😊 Nice to meet you as well 🌹
As far as it taking awhile to know if INFPs can trust someone, I would say our intuition lets us know almost immediately. We are super sensitive to deception (IMO).
I am INFP and it is so true! I definitely resonate with all of the reasons. And here I thought I was just special! 😂 The values and not following the herd and the struggle to make friends are so deep. But it is true when I find someone I trust like my husband we are together forever. Yesterday was our 17th anniversary. We have been together for 23 years. I feel like an ancient child 😂!
¿Qué tipo de personalidad es tu esposo?
This is me 100% I love this description as it covers all the dynamics and complexities of an INFP.
The self doubt part is so true for me and I'll be honest, it's very hard to constantly think that you're not good enough for certain things.
As a INFP female, I’m honoured
the final point was sooo true. introverted feeling leading to self doubt. that explains so much
Well, this has described me completely. I have always felt slightly different to most people, now I know why.
Need to find a INFP female friend seeings how I am an INFP male. So much good conversation to be had and just general joy in like mindedness!!
INFP here literally questioning why people like to sign a human emotion to a legal contract last week as thats not something I feel comfortable with (marriage). 😂
So trapped. I never married nor had kids. I am happy for that now that I understand myself.
It's like someone's been picking through my windows....
INFP, AuDHD, managing the lemons of life as best I can.
My team had this personality test once, I was the only person who seemed not in the same group of 7 others lol But i was more of extraverted when I was younger though. I dislike when my boss tells me what to do, or some other people..it's not like their ideas are better
Be a freelancer if you don’t want a boss.
There is only 1 % of INFP people in population. So it’s quite rare.
@@VladaDudak it’s 4% I googled
I quite my job i had for 1.5 years because it was stressing me the hell out. And my payroll person said that what I did was very inspiring. I was confused because wouldn't anyone else quite a job they didn't like? But I realized for some ppl its hard. I mean it was hard for me too but I guess my inner clock for when im fed up with things runs thinner then others lol
You are partly right and partly wrong. INFPs do know how to take of themselves to process their feelings and retreat when needed. And they know how to protect themselves. But being the first to defend themselves if disrespected? It takes a lot of internal processing for me to stand up for myself. I can instantly jump to your defense, not my own. The fact that INFPs can "feel" the emotions of others complicates the issue because we can understand more readily where the other person is coming from. Our mediator nature that seeks a resolution that accommodates all parties means picking one side to defend--even our own--does not come easily. And our desire to avoid conflict and drama means we may allow a certain level of disrespect but there will be a cost in broken fellowship because the other person is no longer as trustworthy and authentic as we once thought. As far as being told what to do . . . well, when a decision needs to be made, we tend to ask input from as many trusted friends and family as we can. We will do our own thing, absolutely--but there is a co-dependent aspect to our independence. Hopefully, the co-dependence is mild and healthy and serves us rather than unhealthy and handicaps us. Our rebellious traits are all connected to being authentic and informed, not connected to being unique or being angry. We want and need to belong to a group but can find relating and connecting a challenge. I joke that the P in INFP is for Paradox as we are full of contradictions.
1000% TRUE!!! *claps*
It has taken me 30 years but I can now stand up for myself.
INFP female here, 76 years old and it describes me perfectly.
Most people don't understand. I am glad there are others out there like me. We are indeed rare.
All of it. I relate to ALL of this. What a revelation to have it all line up.
INFP men are even rarer 😄 Maybe make video about INFP men too?
@DagTore Larsen Hey there! Thank you for bringing that up 😀 I actually do have a video that goes in depth of the rarity and how uncommon an INFP man is as well! Check this one out: ruclips.net/video/F0C05DCc6sM/видео.html
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment! 🙂👍
@@SuccessForBreakfast Thank you so much 🥰 And you are welcome ❤ from INFP male - 2w1- 😄
@DagTore Larsen You are very welcome! Be sure to check out my INFP playlist as well! There is a lot of great stuff in there that I think you would really enjoy: ruclips.net/p/PLESS5tck6M7Rt0122jPhrk3xrm6iWH4v6
Keanu Reeves is Infp. That's why there's not much of him anywhere.
Hahaha as if
I relate most to being very rebellious and hating when other people want to control me. Or tell me what to do.
Found this video after doing the 16 personality test and wanted to find out more about my result... Did not expect to find this, I relate to basically to everything here. It feels very validating, I'm not broken or weird, it's just who I am.
People think I’m obnoxious. But I really find hard to connect with people. But once I connect with them I love to hear them and such a good listener but can get distracted really quick. I feel sometimes I am in my own world 🌎
As an INFP woman, I resonate with all of this! I’ve been wondering why I’ve been feeling the way I’ve been feeling lately. Self doubt, not knowing what my purpose in life is, what do I want to do with my life etc. Watching this and seeing all of the INFP women in the comments, makes me feel warm inside. Because, it’s not only me. I took a personality test because I wanted to see what my personality type was. My mouth dropped open after reading everything. And I’m so interested in the arts and theatre. I always have been. I had a chance to go to a film school when I was 19 but never went. I didn’t want to leave my mom. Now I’m wondering “what could have been” had I taken that chance. I’m 36 now, and having a hard time figuring out what I want to do in this life.
Soooo acurate, I'm INFP this was great, thanks.
Yeah that's why I'm so different than other females. As an INFP I can relate it
This is spot on. When it started that we are unique...I really hoped we wouldn't be because it can be isolating
You got it all correct. Im an INFP female. I have explored this and studied this. I accept I am INFP. Ive gotten in trouble in some jobs by being a rebel. I have an excellent work ethic but my rebel nature causes me trouble. I have a strong sense of justice and Im an idealist. You got it right that we are good problem solvers. I look at things from all perspectives. Im interested in many things. Im open minded and love learning new things! I love the arts and am an artist! We are sensitive and we feel deeply for others. We are intense sometimes . With people we are close to we can be very witty and have a great sense of humour!
This is so true. I get exhausted when I'm in a big group of ppl and I have 1 BFF. I also move around a lot. Unfortunately, I don't drive, cos I really would like to live in a van and drive around. It would suit me to the T.
INFP man here and it’s all so relatable.
Thank you for this RUclips episode.
I am an INFP woman. I am me, lots of times I do not 'fit' into groups. Can keep myself busy... Maybe too much. Love art, history, quiet times, mathematics, observing others, listening, leadership, 'different' ideas, direct, am I ok? My thoughts don't fit..... This is me
I am an INFP female and it’s remarkable how you described me so well. Yes, I have been able to turn the last characteristic you described to be a positive thing rather than having it hinder me.
I took the test 4 times. I got INFP twice, INFJ once, and INTJ once. So some things in the video applies and some doesn’t.
May be you're not stereotypical. Most of the videos are about INFP-T type. Maybe you're A type. Just look for what suits you. You'll find yourself
@@sanuvithanage Tests are BS. Just learn from cognitive functions. I got typed as ESTP and INTJ before I read into cognitive functions and learnt that I was an ENTP.
Me too! Got INFJ & INTJ years ago - took again today and got INFP.
I go back and forth between the two as well.
So true, especially about friendships and trust.
4:58 I literally lol because how is this so accurate 🤯
@@juned1719 😭😭🤣yeah
“If you could just believe in yourself a little bit more” that sums it up for me. I know I am rare and special, just need to believe believe believe!
How i wish my parents could have known these things when i was a child...i have been alone most of my life,as people don't understand me or how i think and feel ...Thank you so much for this information!❤
Okay, you described what INFP woman is like, but you hadn't explained why they are rare in our society. Of course, there is said, that it isn' the easiest task to spot one in a crowd, but thats it.
INFP woman here, yes this describes me pretty well. I am close to the line between the P and the J so some of this is a little ill-fitting, but I am solidly INF so most of it rings very true. I am always told my brain works oddly, that I don't think "logically." Whatever, I get the job done.
INFPA and Aquarius....So accurate. Everything is connected 💜💜💜
INFP here. 100% true!
Wow, you described me perfectly!!! This is so interesting and thank you so much :)
Thank you for this video. As an INFP woman, it outlined my personality perfectly. I appreciate it!
Never felt so seen in a blind world
Feels nice, right 👍
This is right on exept the volunteering part I do my good deeds on my own terms.
I’m an INFP woman! ❤
All so true!! Wish I could have understood my superpower when I was younger, but I've got to an age where I can accept myself now...and it's all good.
This is best review of INFP. Thank you. 🌸
As an INFP I think that if I have been able to stand up for someone it has been easier to stand up for someone else than for myself, for the most part. This might be because of growing up with a step-parent who very likely had OCPD and was extremely critical, often yelled, was always "right", always had the last word - and I did initially used to talk back and fight for myself but I think I just got so tired. As I've gotten older, I've learned more about assertiveness to help me stand up for myself.
I’m an INFP woman. I usually get together with one friend only. This provides me with the ability to focus on just one person. I have girlfriends my whole life, but my friends don’t know each other. In a way I have a lot of best friends. Some of them I only see once or twice a year. And one friend I see weekly. We just pick up where we left off regardless how much time we each spend together.
I get lost in listening, watching and interest, if I’m in a group of three or more people. So I don’t get to explain my thoughts. Plus, my energy gets depleted. I prefer one on one, in my friendship outings.
I am INFP😊🙌🏻 everything you said is quite correct 👍🏻 ❤
With all us INFP ladies here in comments, this has the potencial to be the most civilized comment section on YT😁🙌
Great video❤ I am an INFP, finally I heard something about me true from A to Z😅
I’m an INFP and I’m friends with like 6 INFPs Lmaooo
I can only imagine the late night conversations that you have on a group gathering 🤣🤣🤣
where the fuk do you find us 💀
Dayum invite me I’m lonely 😭
@@coolcharlie118 I guess I naturally gravitated towards them. Most of them are my high school friends actually. In college I befriended more extroverts.
There's a lot of infp in Social work. So not so rare at a job where I work.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus yeah INFP's clique with each other. My friend who I met off Bumble only met a few times but we get along really well already because both INFP's hehe.
Im a social worker jajsja omg
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus jajajaj cómo vas a asumir mi edad por un comentario??? 🤣 Por qué tan agresivo señor? Bendiciones 👁️👄👁️
Ditto!
It can feel so lonely going against the crowd to stand up for our values and so i really value my friendships with people i can completely rely upon because they hold my same values. This can look like to some people that you dont want to challenge your thoughts though but thats not the case. I always start with the position that i am wrong in my thoughts and so am my own protagonist when researching to ensure I hold accurate and valid values and opinions and anything i have not much care for i know nothing about. This means my conversations either end cause i cant find anything in common or i find them too shallow as if I know anything about a topic i will have looked into it well. This makes it soo tiring to be in my head though, i cant turn my thoughts off and i just want to relax, so i dive into movies and books and enjoy the escapism of putting myself into the characters to get an emotional buzz of experiencing the excitement nearly first hand. Being highly emotional though is the height of annoying and wish i could turn it off sometimes. I both love and hate being an infp lol😅