There is a lot of shame in being unemployed because it makes one feel like they were not enough or a failure. I recently met an attractive guy and the work issue came up I wasn't sure if I should say that I am unemployed incase they then consider me a girl who would be a financial burden. I ended just telling them the truth ngoba I don't know for how long I would keep up a lie. With regard to desperation I did start applying for jobs that I qualified for but was not really interested in. It drained me so much emotionally and felt like I would be taking myself back to the same position I was trying to get out of. The process does really mess with one's mind. I am currently paying for a bond and should I run out of funds I feel like I have no other place to go to because I am building a home that I never had so I won't fail. The one thing I am sure of is that I will make it through and will not lose this home.
I always wanna put a face to a voice and hey, I must say that Bonga is beautiful! I love her story and I’m so glad that I listened to someone I truly relate to.
This was so beautiful to watch! I relate a lot to the feeling of shame. I think it stems from wanting to be self sufficient and not dependent on anyone because I doubt there would be shame if you lost your job and then won the lotto.
Oooooh love this ladies Ursula,Bonga and Asante Bonga has touched on something the shame of being unemployed people thinks you're lazy while you are applying 100times Get you Girl love you guys
I've loved Bonga since the episode where you talked about navigating the work environment as a new, entry-level employee. That episode helped me so much-now I can cope with most things at work. Keep it up, guys! ❤
I actually went through the retrenchment process but I went with a voluntary separation option because I had been wanting to leave for some time but was just waiting to get another job. I just decided to take the jump. I'm on the five month mark and nothing has been secured yet. I think my perception on retrenchment has helped me not feel offended by them. I see everything as a contract coming to an end at some point. What helped me was that I was ready to go. Had I not been feeling like that I would definitely be devastated by it. It's worse for people with kids. It's funny how we look to HR for answers during the process, and yet they're going through the same thing. We just forget to give grave to them because of how we see them. Thanks Bonga, you have really been a voice of reason for many of us here. Happy you are not back at making money sosi❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
Retrenchment and unemployment is real. I have this new thing where I don't ask people in social settings what they do for a living because honestly its an uncomfortable question and conversation starter considering how bad the economy is. Chances are someone might be unemployed in that social setting. Now people must lie about what they do because of the shame of being unemployed. Also people can often size you and decide what level of respect they give you based on what you do. Now imagine saying your unemployed, you might not even be taken seriously.
I lie and also tell them to stop being a monitoring spirit cause what are you going to do with that information and I also feel like they just ask to rate how rich you are even the question of where do you live hayi
I’m in the season and it’s so tough. There’s a difference between the climate and going through this climate. I relate so much to Bonga’s story. Being young, educated and unemployed.
Bonga touched on two things I struggle with the most. The two managers who were sitting across me after 6 years telling me I wasn’t qualified to do the same job I had been doing for the past 6 years. I associate them with that experience and not in a good way. I hope one day I wake up and never think of them…at least I have moved from anger/bitterness. I started in my current job February 2023 (5 year contract), yet I am soooo jittery looking for another job.
Trying to tap back into something you used to do is hard. Very few people get it and accuse us of underselling ourselves. Continuity is actually a privilege some don't get to experience
Hey chin up, am glad you have the 5yr contract. My advise, if I may, is for you to use these 5yrs to diversify your skills. Get additional skills especially AI and/or digital marketing and also Governance in the AI era. If you do not secure another 5yr contract, consider consulting and securing at least 3 clients to start. 3 is easily manageable, if you enjoy that you can consider hiring temps to handle some of your additional portfolios.
Triggering episode but what a beautiful and informative episode. Thank you for being vulnerable Bonga, this happened to my sister while i was in my training contract and I had to step up and take care of her and her 2 kids. After 3 years of not securing a job she finally found something exciting and when I tell you, we reflect to the times when we were struggling and make the most of the time we in now i am not joking. It does feel like PTSD when you don’t want to spend money but to save it or invest it. I think because of her situation and being secondary affected in a way i really understand what you mean when you say save for retrenchment. Thank you for sharing ❤
I went through retrenchment in 2020 at a company I was with for over 7 years. Stayed at home for a year and I have moved through 3 different companies in the last two years because I also don't feel secure in companies anymore.
Moving from maternity leave back to work I did feel like being a working mom is very unnatural. Yes, we do it and we are grateful we can but sometimes it does feel like we are giving up too much to be able to balance the working and the mothering
I really like Bonga's advice around preparing for a possible retrenchment. Seeing how she managed to navigate this circumstance as a financially literate person is so much of a relief compared to someone who isn't financially literate.
Oh Bonga ❤️thank you for your vulnerability. There’s so much strength in vulnerability and sharing your story. I can absolutely relate after having walked a similar path. You have comforted many with your story and shared some valuable gems. I love how you were able to find some silver linings in the midst of the storm and still find comfort from your support system. May you soar high and continue to radiate your beam and light. May your cup overflow. Sending endless hugs your way sis 🫂❤
Got retrenched 6yrs now life is tough but taking each day as it comes don't engage myself to things that require a lot in life. My car was repossessed but thank God I still have my house even though I rented a room out, grateful for my healthy and manageable life🙏
10 months unemployed. I was affected by retrenchment as well. My first ever job💔 I am so glad you got so much support, I really wish I did. Hoping for a better future for myself❤ and things getting better cause wow. I am worried about my finances and my mental health… and…and..
For Americans listeners retrenchment means layoff. This is so relatable. But when I was retrenched I had to take a much lower paying service job so I wouldn't dip in to savings. Still at job too.
this episode helped me come to terms with the feelings i had when i was retrenched especially that feeling of fear about spending money when you're unemployed.Youre constantly scared thinking wow every R100 i spend is my last one there's no money coming in.
Can’t get over how beautiful you ladies are 😂❤. Our jobs mean so much to us because they are i.e source of income, for some people living out your passions etc… losing that hurts. Can’t imagine how much it hurts to lose your job.
This episode is so real. I rememebr when i my contract ended two years ago it rocked me so hard that i failed a module. Working was my whole identity. Loosing that felt like loosing my being.
*Tapole stuck on my throat* the moment Bonga got emotional... Sorry Bonga Botha❤ I laugh now, but it was not funny when it happened to me. Being the only colleague who got retrenched. ( I guess they were being polite) in hindsight... I believe I was fired. To date I can never THANK God enough for that situation. Had I not been retrenched,I was never gonna meet the current me. Funny enough I also saw it coming and still, I had no plan be. Bonga, I was also in recruitment 😂 Man! Because Modimo ke Modimo wa mehlolo. Goodness and Mercy has followed me everywhere I go now. I am not scared of being unemployed, now I am a hustler of note. #DjSbuHasMultiplied😅 hooi hoooi. I love you TCC team❤
This month will be exactly one year since I was retrenched, getting a regret response when you have all the requirements will course more doubts whether or not I'm capable of doing the job 😪😪 has me applying for roles beneath my experience
So much honesty being unemployed is traumatic. Still healing and the huge task of getting up to date with bills..thank u
Just got retrenched in July 2024, this is fresh in my bones - interesting perspective. Thank you for this video
There is a lot of shame in being unemployed because it makes one feel like they were not enough or a failure. I recently met an attractive guy and the work issue came up I wasn't sure if I should say that I am unemployed incase they then consider me a girl who would be a financial burden. I ended just telling them the truth ngoba I don't know for how long I would keep up a lie. With regard to desperation I did start applying for jobs that I qualified for but was not really interested in. It drained me so much emotionally and felt like I would be taking myself back to the same position I was trying to get out of. The process does really mess with one's mind. I am currently paying for a bond and should I run out of funds I feel like I have no other place to go to because I am building a home that I never had so I won't fail. The one thing I am sure of is that I will make it through and will not lose this home.
I always wanna put a face to a voice and hey, I must say that Bonga is beautiful! I love her story and I’m so glad that I listened to someone I truly relate to.
Awuuu Bonga 🤗 so glad that things are looking up for you.
Prayers and well wishes for anyone that is currently going through a similar situation.
Bonga’s story just reminds me of my own…Recently got a job as well🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Got fired & my brain started working in full capacity but it was horrible. Self employed now!
You know I understand what you mean "your brain started working in full capacity"! Totally get you
This was so beautiful to watch!
I relate a lot to the feeling of shame. I think it stems from wanting to be self sufficient and not dependent on anyone because I doubt there would be shame if you lost your job and then won the lotto.
Voice of the lady speaking in the background is soothing
Oooooh love this ladies Ursula,Bonga and Asante
Bonga has touched on something the shame of being unemployed people thinks you're lazy while you are applying 100times
Get you Girl love you guys
I've loved Bonga since the episode where you talked about navigating the work environment as a new, entry-level employee. That episode helped me so much-now I can cope with most things at work. Keep it up, guys! ❤
Thank you for this. Your episodes are so healing. They have help me expand the level of my empathy
I actually went through the retrenchment process but I went with a voluntary separation option because I had been wanting to leave for some time but was just waiting to get another job. I just decided to take the jump. I'm on the five month mark and nothing has been secured yet. I think my perception on retrenchment has helped me not feel offended by them. I see everything as a contract coming to an end at some point. What helped me was that I was ready to go. Had I not been feeling like that I would definitely be devastated by it. It's worse for people with kids.
It's funny how we look to HR for answers during the process, and yet they're going through the same thing. We just forget to give grave to them because of how we see them.
Thanks Bonga, you have really been a voice of reason for many of us here. Happy you are not back at making money sosi❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
Retrenchment and unemployment is real. I have this new thing where I don't ask people in social settings what they do for a living because honestly its an uncomfortable question and conversation starter considering how bad the economy is. Chances are someone might be unemployed in that social setting. Now people must lie about what they do because of the shame of being unemployed. Also people can often size you and decide what level of respect they give you based on what you do. Now imagine saying your unemployed, you might not even be taken seriously.
I lie and also tell them to stop being a monitoring spirit cause what are you going to do with that information and I also feel like they just ask to rate how rich you are even the question of where do you live hayi
This episode is so validating. Being able to put words to feelings brings so much validation. Lovely episode : )
Bonga is so graceful, her story really teaches so much. keep it going guys!
I’m in the season and it’s so tough. There’s a difference between the climate and going through this climate. I relate so much to Bonga’s story. Being young, educated and unemployed.
Bonga touched on two things I struggle with the most. The two managers who were sitting across me after 6 years telling me I wasn’t qualified to do the same job I had been doing for the past 6 years. I associate them with that experience and not in a good way. I hope one day I wake up and never think of them…at least I have moved from anger/bitterness. I started in my current job February 2023 (5 year contract), yet I am soooo jittery looking for another job.
Trying to tap back into something you used to do is hard. Very few people get it and accuse us of underselling ourselves. Continuity is actually a privilege some don't get to experience
Hey chin up, am glad you have the 5yr contract. My advise, if I may, is for you to use these 5yrs to diversify your skills. Get additional skills especially AI and/or digital marketing and also Governance in the AI era. If you do not secure another 5yr contract, consider consulting and securing at least 3 clients to start. 3 is easily manageable, if you enjoy that you can consider hiring temps to handle some of your additional portfolios.
Triggering episode but what a beautiful and informative episode. Thank you for being vulnerable Bonga, this happened to my sister while i was in my training contract and I had to step up and take care of her and her 2 kids. After 3 years of not securing a job she finally found something exciting and when I tell you, we reflect to the times when we were struggling and make the most of the time we in now i am not joking. It does feel like PTSD when you don’t want to spend money but to save it or invest it. I think because of her situation and being secondary affected in a way i really understand what you mean when you say save for retrenchment.
Thank you for sharing ❤
I went through retrenchment in 2020 at a company I was with for over 7 years. Stayed at home for a year and I have moved through 3 different companies in the last two years because I also don't feel secure in companies anymore.
One of the things am more scared of about being unemployed is the shame of going back home...
I'm in the same position we were informed this month, I am praying every day to not be one of the unfortunate few. 😢😢
Nice to see you Bonga and I’m so happy “you’ve lived to tell the tale” and thank goodness for your support structure, blessings.
Moving from maternity leave back to work I did feel like being a working mom is very unnatural. Yes, we do it and we are grateful we can but sometimes it does feel like we are giving up too much to be able to balance the working and the mothering
I could not agree with you more. Women were never meant to be in the office, we were meant to be at home raising our kids.
Great conversation as always. The policy is called an Income Protector offered by most FSPs like PPS etc .
I loved and appreciated this conversation so much, I love Bonga on camera so much and hope she shares more of her lessons as she grow...❤❤
Lovely conversation 🎉❤
Yaaaay!! Bonga❤ love seeing you in front of the camera
Happy that she is employed now ❤🎉
I really like Bonga's advice around preparing for a possible retrenchment. Seeing how she managed to navigate this circumstance as a financially literate person is so much of a relief compared to someone who isn't financially literate.
Thnx Bonga for sharing your story with us.
wow, I can relate. Bonga 's life story is so similar to mine, but she just restored my hope. Big ups guys
Le bantle
Beautiful conversation
Insightful as ALWAYS
Oh Bonga ❤️thank you for your vulnerability. There’s so much strength in vulnerability and sharing your story. I can absolutely relate after having walked a similar path. You have comforted many with your story and shared some valuable gems. I love how you were able to find some silver linings in the midst of the storm and still find comfort from your support system. May you soar high and continue to radiate your beam and light. May your cup overflow. Sending endless hugs your way sis 🫂❤
Got retrenched 6yrs now life is tough but taking each day as it comes don't engage myself to things that require a lot in life. My car was repossessed but thank God I still have my house even though I rented a room out, grateful for my healthy and manageable life🙏
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10 months unemployed. I was affected by retrenchment as well. My first ever job💔 I am so glad you got so much support, I really wish I did. Hoping for a better future for myself❤ and things getting better cause wow. I am worried about my finances and my mental health… and…and..
Finally seeing Bonga!!!! She's as beautiful as she sounds. 😍😍
For Americans listeners retrenchment means layoff. This is so relatable. But when I was retrenched I had to take a much lower paying service job so I wouldn't dip in to savings. Still at job too.
This conversation hits home, to think that I completed Varsity at 23 but got my first permanent job at 30.the economic climate is bad
Yohh! It's never been so hard to watch ads because the convo is so interesting!!! But loyalty is loyalty...
this episode helped me come to terms with the feelings i had when i was retrenched especially that feeling of fear about spending money when you're unemployed.Youre constantly scared thinking wow every R100 i spend is my last one there's no money coming in.
Can’t get over how beautiful you ladies are 😂❤.
Our jobs mean so much to us because they are i.e source of income, for some people living out your passions etc… losing that hurts.
Can’t imagine how much it hurts to lose your job.
if i were to be retrenched i would never be accepted back home my mother would feel so embarrassed i would prefare to stay with friends.....SAD!
Sending love from Kenya!
Yo TCC what a triggering conversation! I'm here crying for so may things😭😭
This episode is so real. I rememebr when i my contract ended two years ago it rocked me so hard that i failed a module.
Working was my whole identity. Loosing that felt like loosing my being.
New subbie🎉 I love it here ❤thanks for posting guys.😘
Asbo Ofori-Amanfo is so gentle 😍😍😍😍
😅I like the way how you start your conversation ❤️ love you more from Rwanda
Thank you for your vulnerability Bongs ❤ life truly happens to all of us and geuss what! It was a much needed event, for where we are going
One day I’ll tell my story too
*Tapole stuck on my throat* the moment Bonga got emotional...
Sorry Bonga Botha❤
I laugh now, but it was not funny when it happened to me. Being the only colleague who got retrenched. ( I guess they were being polite) in hindsight... I believe I was fired. To date I can never THANK God enough for that situation. Had I not been retrenched,I was never gonna meet the current me.
Funny enough I also saw it coming and still, I had no plan be.
Bonga, I was also in recruitment 😂
Man! Because Modimo ke Modimo wa mehlolo.
Goodness and Mercy has followed me everywhere I go now. I am not scared of being unemployed, now I am a hustler of note. #DjSbuHasMultiplied😅 hooi hoooi.
I love you TCC team❤
Ursula is so gorgeous 😍
❤I feel you Bonga, my contract is ending soon but I have hope that I will get a job ❤
The shame? Yoh
Having conversation with someone and they ask you how work is, and you have to say that you unemployed
This month will be exactly one year since I was retrenched, getting a regret response when you have all the requirements will course more doubts whether or not I'm capable of doing the job 😪😪 has me applying for roles beneath my experience
My soul died💔....4yrs of unemployment, I am rebuilding now🙏🏾.
I like the logo TCC
The shame of being unemployed..
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Is the third voice that of Melanie Bala?
No lol, they mentioned her name at the beginning…
Its Bo, the lady from last weeks episode
I love you,my first time here
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What's a FA?
Financial Advisor
Haebo re bontsheng Ausi hle
Hi ladies, Bonga girl you look pretty as your Cuz Ursula. Q
Who's that lady behind the scene
Ooooh Ursula will kill You 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hi what's your favourite colour oooooh My Word
But it's true Joke aside
The way I feel heard and seen!😫❤️ So looking forward to be telling my overcoming story on the other side of the unemployment phased 🥹
Thank you for this bo sesi.💙❤🩹