Jordan Peterson | How to Have Better Conversations
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"Assume that the person you're listening to knows something you don't."
Perfect.
Even if they know nothing that you already do there is a lot things that they are unconscious about that you can learn.
Read his book on that! It's brilliant!
@@jeremywolf9314 This would take a conscious conversationalist. An aware individual. BRAVO sir!
No bragging, but I always do that, and it’s always true, the person always knows something I don’t. That also helps to listen, because you should not assume you know everything the person going to say
I always try to think like that!
"If your life isn't exactly how you want it to be, you have something to learn."
Your life is exactly what you want it to be.
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this sparks alot of insight
This is dumb. He sets this up as some profound piece of wisdom but he’s just joining two ideas that everyone learns in preschool: no one knows everything, no one is perfect. Thus everyone is in a position where they could learn more AND be more fulfilled with their life. People really fall for the most hollow rhetorical trickery when it comes out of JPs mouth.
@@SamPhoenixKnight You'd be amazed to find out how common is to find people that either forgot or ignore those two simple facts. Perhaps you live in a bubble of very reasonable people, or perhaps you just didn't look hard enough to notice it.
Just finished listening to his book, amazing man
Which one
@Chad He has an audio book
name of book?
@@no.name.huncho215 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson.
"...we're trying to pay attention, enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation..." 05:44 - There's a shot of the audience. And I had to laugh because there was a girl in a silver jacket with a fluorescent wristband fast asleep. Love it =)
😂😂
OMFG THANK YOU. I was just checking to see if there was someone else in the comments who noticed it and said it so that I didn't have to!!! XD!!
That was so funny lmaoo I was looking for this comment xD
I was looking for this comment 😂💯
i scrolled through the comments to see if anyone else thought the same hahah
And what about "How to better record a conversation"? 😳
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Every video is about being a better listener and I don't struggle with that. I just don't have anything of value to say. I struggle with starting conversations. I can't just keep starting conversations by asking questions.
I'm quite late to your question. But it becomes an opportunity to not only observe people but to find things about them as a way to establish the connection. It could be ANYTHING. Their hair, or even better, that specific hair clip. That item they're purchasing. Use your surroundings. You could be paying for items at a store or browsing but about to depart from a group of people in an area. Comment on the weather to the group. (good social practice to get you more comfortable with interacting in a less personal way). E.g.. If it's hot,day, y'all stay cool out there. If it's cold, "y'all stay warm". What you'll find is as you do this more (group and one-on-one), people will respond. And you may get the weirdest answers, but it's an opportunity to connect, paired with good intentions/uplifting attitude to any and everyone you meet and they will start to open up like flowers. Sometimes too much. But it's a great way to make an impact in our own way to speak a positive/encouraging word to those we encounter. And you expand your network if that matters to you. My bad for the long answer but I felt like it was a great question because I'm sure many people can relate to that. I hope all is well. ✌🏾
2019, the year when someone can be inspiring by knowing how to hold a decent conversation...
Supreme Happiness lol, right! I wonder if future generations will have more socially inept skills due to most conversations occurring through technology.
People are more concerned with the audio quality rather than the message... smh did u receive the message? I certainly gained insight from the clip.
It genuinely hurts to listen to, I had to stop.
well said! the message is SO crucial
Lol didn't realize it was such an issue. Just lower the volume if it hurts your ears, that's simple enough
Gross generalisation, that’s probably worse than people trying to connect and have a relatable chuckle at the video.
Does not mean these people aren’t getting woke.
TheSpacePyramids chill out bruh not that serious
There are so many gurus out there who promise to turn you into the chief ministers of charisma with psychological tricks and techniques, when, in reality, humility and natural intrigue is the key to any conversation.
Amazing lessons!
When he asks if the audience is engaged and the camera pans to a woman who appears to be taking a nap 😂
“We’re trying to pay attention to u at least enough to see if ur engaged in the conversation”….Next shot is someone sleeping in the crowd lmao
I feel like i cant communicate with others properly and in a good manner hope i can fix it
Talking about engagement and pans to someone sleeping lol
I’m struggling to find my career path, after leaving many, many jobs that were not suited to me. Please cure me of my ignorance and tell me what I don’t know.
You have to set a damn goal, then give yourself a certain amount of time to prepare for moving to the goal. You should focus on becoming 1% better everyday. What i Mean with give yourself a time is, set for example in 100 days, day in and out i Will be looking for certain Jobs
He just blabbers most of the video but the takeaway is ASSUME YOU CAN LEARN OR GROW FROM EVERY CONVERSATION.
6 short minutes & you call it blabbering ?
You’ll never learn or grow from anything then.
dr petersons greatest flex is when he said he had 20k hours in interesting conversation
I need a translator
"A Wise man will always learn more from a fool, than a fool can ever learn from a wiseman"
Perfect words, it resonates my sentiments.
Beautiful
Feel like I'm stuck being a fool 😔
@@chuckecheesesbrother5382 You have a choice. All that is required to be a Good person is to be honest and pay attention. All else is personality.
Good luck out there.
Love it! ❤ thanks for sharing! Who originally said this? I’m assuming it’s not your words, because it’s in quotes…?
This all comes down to a simple line from Desiderata, "Listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story.."
Eh life's too short to listen to the dull...
Even shorter for the ignorant. Ignorance for some people is a constant.
That's why I'm here listening to Peterson.
I won’t listen to them.
It’s a waste of fucking time
I don't waste my time listening to the dull or trying to reason with the ignorant.
I've been Uber driving for about six weeks. I've found that it is a beautiful opportunity to engage in valuable conversations with complete strangers. The key is to be interested in what a man or woman has to say, and to let that man or woman know you are interested. Picking up crumbs of knowledge and dispensing those crumbs is hugely satisfying. Many riders leave my car happier and more satisfied than they were when they climbed in.
Nothing is more enriching on a business trip than another story of an Uber driver. That's the best part of it as far as I can tell.
Fantastic
@@marekszirdzins Did you get the "as far as I can tell" from Peterson?
Maybe their just happy to be getting out of your car so they don’t have to listen to your bullshit anymore
prefer uber driver to just just shut up & drve. happier when i arrive at destination safe and intact.
5:43 talking about the audience being engaged in the conversation, girl sleeping front and center (yellow bracelet) lol
I Dunno, yeah I noticed too. Her money and time are wasted from the moment she slept.
...Our time here is completely pointless! he says XD
women.... hehehe
yes she was very noticeable on first watch, and i think a very good example for exactly what petersen was talking about!
Maybe his comment was directed to her specifically. He has said in other videos that he pays attention to individual members of the audience.
Dope sound quality.
The sarcasm is strong with this one
CurbsideUnderwood this one too
Michael more like the sound quality is dope sick
The Dopest......
Fucking brutal
"You can't force someone to be better." There are modern social groups who have yet to embrace this understanding.
Marxists know this; it’s not about growing, but cutting down anyone taller than you
My friends
The girl sleeping killed me🤣🤣🤣
Jajajaja, imagine her reading our comment and talking of it, it eill be amazing
Just right when he was talkong about impirtant is engagement in a conversation xddd
sound guy: "How loud do you want your microphones?"
spokespeople: "yes"
😭😭😭😂😂
Hahaha!
Wait, the peak meter isn't supposed to be red or read "+10 db"?
@@manictiger lmaoo
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@@elpresidente7569yep and all accounts creted 11 months ago😂😂😂. Very strange
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The topic is almost as amazing as how they change seat positions twice in just 6 minutes without ever getting up.
@@977-1 bro duh. It’s a joke
😁 Yeah I was kinda confused at first.
Jordan: "There seems to be a massive and relatively untapped market for actual conversation."
Clubhouse: Oh hi there
It is always efficient to avoid unnecessary conversations. Avoid excessive words, questions & exaggerations.
Is it? The only benefit I see is that it saves time, but applying that perspective to all of your conversations means you miss out on learning all kinds of things. Then you're forced to learn the lessons through experience, which takes much longer than the deep conversation would have.
I think the nugget of truth at the center of your statement is that we should strive to express ourselves as precisely as possible to avoid misunderstandings. But even when we fail to do so, we can often learn just as much from the misunderstanding if we take time to understand it.
"if your suffering more than you think is necessary, that means that you are more ignorant than you need to be"
holy shit that was on the nose.
Unbelievable, a Jordan Peterson video without an unrelated clickbait title. Every time I keep thinking he will tell me the meaning of life and I end up learning something else entirely lol
Why would you want to know the meaning of life from a human he is a creature like you he struggles with life like you he have his own problem like you...if you want to know the meaning of life go read God words (allah)
And perhaps that in itself is the meaning 😁
Learning more and more until you've learned so much that you realize logic was after all not what life is about. Life is experience, all thought and logic is pausing life to comment on said experience. Looking for meaning is neglecting life to stick to your notebook all your life finding meaning. Until at last you realize you missed the point completely.
How to live happily? Live fully. Stop commenting on everything life has to offer, because you're not fully alive when you're stuck in that notebook. That's why kids are so joyful, why sunsets can be beautiful. Because just for a moment we close that notebook of logic and reasoning and we just embrace the experience. That's all.
@@achraflabdouni5770 those things from pluto? Some ancient satellite that emits frequencies and talks to people and controls half the population on earth?
this sounds like my conversations back in mw2
Jordan Peterson: “If everyone is engaged in the conversation”
Girl with green bracelet (5:45) :
lol 🤣
Bloody hell thats weird. Why did they flip it
copyright
It's pretty funny and retarded imo that flipping a video influences copyright.
Or does it only adress the issue of detecting copyright flaws auzomatically through algorithms? (I guess that would be at least as interesting though)
@@nadvic1797 mostly avoiding automated algorithms, if a person actually went through the video and realized it's a flipped copy of something else, there wouldn't be much you could do to avoid a copyright strike
I have slept too in many lectures but if Jordan peterson was talking in front of me I can stay awake for whole day.
5:43
The fact his talks are free to watch are mind blowing. This man is saving younger men more than he understands. Me included. Thank you so much
Women too
Meaningful conversation and seeking wisdom, a fair assumption that its what we want, it seems that a lot of people my self included were just a pile of mouthbreathers bringing our answers and opinions to the table. Now I dont feel so weird about listening with intent to seek someone elses knowledge and seeing how I can use it was what I loved to do. Finding people to have that conversation with is tough most of the time. Life feels like a Zoo of loose animals,( I'm a bird) so I just like listening to your p.o.v.
Sometimes I just cant understand your point, but when I do, oh boy, I see the puzzle differently, like my meditations and where they begin in my mind, is so beyond tv or imagination wow, I knew I was connected with God but you helped me confirm that, I live so far north in Ontario that going to another city to see you speak is a serious goal...hoping for Winnipeg on July 9, or was it 29th...hmmm
We are so lucky to have Jordan Peterson and grateful that his family shares him with us
you mean that he shares himself with us he is not anyone's property.
Yes, thankful to his family for his time on such works. Such people have very less family time
I can’t wait till I can afford to have him as my therapist 😂
u d be rich by then, u won t need him! but a nice motive though.
@@thumbsupd5164 rich people still need therapy, don't you think?
thumbs up :D you got the message wrong if you think money is the end all be all
@Nacho until then, watch his videos multiple times. You will gain a lot.
Also, here is another video series even better:
MEN'S THEOLOGY CLASS
(A great biblical resource about REAL manhood
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This will actually have a therapeutic effect, IF you are receptive!
Blessings!
Is it expensive?
5:44 - Does anybody else see the girl sleeping when Jordan talks about people being engaged? I mean, his point is still valid but that is hilarious
If you on the caption bar, just remove it, for you to see the sleeping girl.
Well, that's odd beyond comprehension ... why on earth is perspective switching back and forth? ... first the mic, glass and host are on one side and then the other. Most distracting.
teutonicus50bc it’s to avoid an automated copyright strike
I love how he talks about paying the audience attention to see if they’re engaged in the conversation, and the camera cuts to a girl sleeping in the audience at 05:44 XD
Comments:
%90 about the sound
%9 about the girl in front
%1 quotes from him about the sound
1 comment about the actual interview
And i am here wondering about this guys socks lmao
"We're paying attention to you to see if everyone is engaged"
*Cameraman points the camera towards a girl who's sleeping*
5:40
"-Pay enough attention to you atleast to see if you're engaged in the conversation,"
*shows a sleeping girl
The equalizing of the audio is phenomenal: all of the earrape frequencies have been blasted up, and the vocal frequencies have been kicked down it seems. TEACH ME THIS
The sound guy knows "how to ruin a good conversation"
Yeah, he’s like “Oh you think this is all about engagement. Watch me prove that wrong.”
Which side is the speaker on, I'm confused
I love how 5:43 was so engaged that she passed out.
The sound quality truly amplified those awesome socks... Guess the original sound guy moved up the dominance hierarchy.
Brilliant haha. Yes! He's ascended to become king of lobsters, crustaceans overlord.
Smirk*
Did anyone else notice the girl asleep at 5:40 hahahahaha just when Jordan was talking about engaging with the audience
A good conversation is one in which both parties realize their innate uniqueness and equal value.
What are you doing in this planet being so wise. You should be like Jordan Peterson my friend
💀@@ZenCz
Love how Peterson says "Okay.?" when he doesn't agree. He doesn't outright disagree with you but you know he's not on the same page.
I think if you had write it down the way he says it you'd have to write "Okay.?;"
Agreed and updated
@Ligeia D.Aurevilly i learned that unless you tell people: oh yes, i absolutely agree on what you just said in the last (specific amount of time), BUT... they will always assume that you didn't listen to them, or how else could you possibly have a different opinion and view on things. and it really pisses ME off. engaging in conversations is something i really like to do, but apparently most of the people i'm talking to are not interested in opinions that differ from theirs and they will start changing topics before you fully articulated your view of one topic, leaving your arguments incomplete and seemingly weak.
Anyone here just for the socks?
A person speaking his mind. A miracle, unbelievable stuff!
Spent too many years with someone who wouldn't hear me, and would commonly respond with emotionally abusive tactics. Now trying to relearn how to allow others in and have a collaboration and conversation rather than hiding behind the fear and nervously talking about myself. To trust allowing someone to be heard and listened to and take interest in them well, and chance being shut out by another human and made to feel invisible is so hard.
noise gate on JP makin him really dj0nt
Dj0rdan Peterdjent
You guys must check the new Periphery album "Hail Stan". Believe me, the very first track will knock your socks off! (the last breakdown of that song is killing and djenty)
5:44 "we're paying enough attention to see if you're engaged in the conversation" immediately pans to a girl asleep in her chair
Yeah
The girl at 5:44 at bottom of screen looks engaged in the convo
Hahah right!
Bauer Films Hahaha. So true. He says “engaged” & there she is -engaged-😔 ☺️
That's awesome... LOL
Pays to listen to Jordan B Peterson speak...
Sleeps through it...
Bless all of u , because even if you are broken , Stoped , or lost you are here giving your first steps like me , we are toghether in this
@5:43 that girl looked pretty engaged in her dreams !!
This all comes down to ay simple line from Desiderata
Listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story
"You're not listening" by Kate Murphy. Great book that talks about having better conversations. This video reminded me of it :)
‼️FIRST STEP to having a better conversation…. Get better microphones. Please! Not to be mean at all, this video just has terrible sound quality.
5:45 is priceless. JP taking about how if the crowd isn’t engaged then the conversation is pointless....pan to girl in crowd completely unconscious.
I can only imagine for difficult it must be to live in today's society and have a low IQ. We demand high standards, participation and lawful behavior from everybody, yet fail to step into the shoes of people who are genuinely struggling to make their own beds, let alone conform to societal norms. We dehumanize the most human of beings, and it may make you (as in, a person that actively engages in this) look superior or like a smartass, but it's damaging and makes people without a proper voice crawl up and live their entire life in shame, even if they're emotionally very smart and mature. It's just sad. Carry your own weight and then some, I'd like to say.
Dude stfu😂😂like what? U live in some type of fairy tale Disney world? Dude if u provide no value no human will speak to u. Life has winners and losers. It sucks but u need to understand that and adapt and stop thinking like an idiot. We r animals at the end of the day, we just turned out to be at the top of the pyramid, which means we r way more competitive then any other anime
What a great conversation
HALLELUYAH!(PRAISE YE YAH!) Keep HIS Commandments or you can't make HIS Kingdom(Revelations 22:14).
Dude. You are one of my heros. Your up there with Elon Musk and Joe Rogan. I love listening to yalls points of views. I learn so much from your videos.
hahaha
Joe Rogan? Ah haha
who else saw eric weinstein in the crowd 3:43
edit: spelled crowd crown
5:38 "We're trying to pay attention to you at least enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation" - Camera pans to audience with girl fast asleep 😂😂
look at the socks of the interviewer.
i have a hard time meeting people and making a connection bc i always feel sort of uninterested and want to be left alone even if i don’t want ti
3:36 that's how you say "useless people" in JP way...
I don’t know if it’s “useless”, per se, even the most “useless” individual acts as a barometer for how to live your own life. I just graduated from nursing school, and taking care of sick people who are by all intents and purpose “useless” because they are sick, really do teach you how to engage with people and bring value to those who can’t bring value to or generate value within themselves. Everyone matters, no matter how “useless” they are to the inner workings of modern society. Stay safe ❤️😊👍🔥
@@nathanielhernandez8843 agreed.. 👍👍👍👍and I apologize for that... and I really appreciate the work that you do..🙂❤
@@srushtishinde5846 No worries! And I appreciate your appreciation haha 😊❤️
I think it’s important for psychologist to understand is that they do not transform people . Not at all, they are given the gift to witness it and write about it. Only God transforms and never another human is capable of such a miracle!
Really like how he talks and thinks I can't stop watching clips like this and others.
I'm trying reintegrate back into my own family, social structures, etc... I was having an issue with funding a purpose in speaking with people because of the thinking "who really cares, this prob doesn't matter to you so why share it?" in legitimately every conversation I waa having to the pojnt where I just started being short with everyone. No substance just enough to answer what was asked to avoid judgement or confusion. That's life though, finding the answers, finding the purpose. It just gets weird sometimes, I try not to be stoic as a result of the unanswered and assumed and just be glad I'm curious at all. I'd like to shape my curiousity into a more positive tool, just not sure how yet. But I'm learning.
5:33 That one lady is sleeping 🤣
5:38 LMAO that fact that someone in the crowd is sleeping while has talking about engagement
Prof P. Jordan, Thank You for being the person you are & taking a firm stand on what you believe, think & feel. You talk straight to the souls of us young man. Thank you 🙏🏾. If you were an army general/commander i'ld join the army straight right away & would die in honour under Ur unshaken command.
Chill dude. Let's not form a cult around Jordan Peterson
How come they switch places in the middle of a sentence?
3:45 lol Eric Weinstein just chillin out.
Talk to them eye to eye.
Girl in 2nd row @ 5:44 seems VERY "unengaged" with the conversation, eh??? LOL! ;-P
#NeverEvenRarelyDumb
Einsteinz Vice no one ever really dies
+streetwear chef because you died once and you found out that you never really die?
This video sounds like it’s on the verge of being an earrape shitpost/ytp
What did they record with, helicopter pilot mics 😂😄
The sound quality is what happens when you don't have genuine hierarchies of competence and gotta pick the next best or ideologically fitting sound guy/woman/whatever being.
Did anyone notice Eric Weinstein in the audience? 3:43 to the left
Wow! we hadnt event noticed! Thanks for pointing that out Anthony!
I literally saw that and then scrolled down to the comments to see if anyone else did
Anthony Rodriguez my left or yours? Lol
This audio quality is killing me
3:43 Eric Weinstein.
Spiffy notice there parter 🏅
The moment he said he had been watching the audience to check for engagement and the camera spanned the crowd to show a girl passed out from boredom 😂 5:44
It’s so ironic it’s funny.
Brilliant insight!! Very thoughtful n dedicated of him to analyse people!
"If you're not engaged then this whole thing is completely pointless" 5:43 and just as he says that camera pans to a girl sleeping 💀
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
Amen!❤️
I think Jordan would have a better conversation off camera not having to perform it would be more relaxed and comfortable for him.
Peterson is right. The person has to want to be helped and be willing.
I've learned that the hard way on more then one occasion that you cannot force it which is difficult if you want to help them badly enough and they are being difficult or even impossible.
You care about there well being enough to be a bit aggressive when they forsake themselves and everything that matters and you get less forceful every new person yet when it gets frustrating enough to the point that it feels futile you can get quite amgry about their behavior
and its hard to let it go and leave them to their bad choices even if you know that's the only choice they've given you because it feels like your giving up on them but in reality its them who are giving up and you just don't want to sit there and destroy yourself watching them destroy themselves and you..
Which walking away can so very difficult.. Its like the 100 there's a scene where Monty is trying his absolute hardest to change his friend jaspers mind but he is unable to and stays on that track to the bitter end. to be there when jasper drinks a drug that kills himself.. Its a very powerful scene and shows you how bad this situation can get.
That scene fucked me up but I could see Jasper was dead for a long time
Extremely intelligent, but his charisma could use some work
These are very good plan points to a conversation. How many of us actually have these types of chats. I see, after reflection, it's very rare in my life. I'm to busy trying to walk my path, to stop and smell the flowers.🤔
Another interesting video - thanks for posting.