Jordan Peterson | How to Have Better Conversations

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @charlesj.easleyii7642
    @charlesj.easleyii7642 5 лет назад +5413

    "Assume that the person you're listening to knows something you don't."
    Perfect.

    • @jeremywolf9314
      @jeremywolf9314 5 лет назад +47

      Even if they know nothing that you already do there is a lot things that they are unconscious about that you can learn.

    • @amarakamara9427
      @amarakamara9427 5 лет назад +8

      Read his book on that! It's brilliant!

    • @Siquomb1
      @Siquomb1 5 лет назад +3

      @@jeremywolf9314 This would take a conscious conversationalist. An aware individual. BRAVO sir!

    • @rum867
      @rum867 4 года назад +28

      No bragging, but I always do that, and it’s always true, the person always knows something I don’t. That also helps to listen, because you should not assume you know everything the person going to say

    • @bader9205
      @bader9205 4 года назад

      I always try to think like that!

  • @FDosty
    @FDosty 5 лет назад +3760

    I've been Uber driving for about six weeks. I've found that it is a beautiful opportunity to engage in valuable conversations with complete strangers. The key is to be interested in what a man or woman has to say, and to let that man or woman know you are interested. Picking up crumbs of knowledge and dispensing those crumbs is hugely satisfying. Many riders leave my car happier and more satisfied than they were when they climbed in.

    • @marekszirdzins
      @marekszirdzins 5 лет назад +165

      Nothing is more enriching on a business trip than another story of an Uber driver. That's the best part of it as far as I can tell.

    • @alecjones4135
      @alecjones4135 5 лет назад +9

      Fantastic

    • @FDosty
      @FDosty 5 лет назад +24

      @@marekszirdzins Did you get the "as far as I can tell" from Peterson?

    • @FIshfood500
      @FIshfood500 5 лет назад +68

      Maybe their just happy to be getting out of your car so they don’t have to listen to your bullshit anymore

    • @jjbasilis3280
      @jjbasilis3280 5 лет назад +54

      prefer uber driver to just just shut up & drve. happier when i arrive at destination safe and intact.

  • @invaderz1919
    @invaderz1919 5 лет назад +2489

    "If your life isn't exactly how you want it to be, you have something to learn."

    • @zaveeramini9712
      @zaveeramini9712 3 года назад +15

      Your life is exactly what you want it to be.

    • @spanishflyevh9606
      @spanishflyevh9606 3 года назад +1

      @@zaveeramini9712 /end thread

    • @SamPhoenixKnight
      @SamPhoenixKnight 3 года назад +11

      This is dumb. He sets this up as some profound piece of wisdom but he’s just joining two ideas that everyone learns in preschool: no one knows everything, no one is perfect. Thus everyone is in a position where they could learn more AND be more fulfilled with their life. People really fall for the most hollow rhetorical trickery when it comes out of JPs mouth.

    • @gcolombelli
      @gcolombelli 3 года назад +21

      @@SamPhoenixKnight You'd be amazed to find out how common is to find people that either forgot or ignore those two simple facts. Perhaps you live in a bubble of very reasonable people, or perhaps you just didn't look hard enough to notice it.

    • @CardsoftheQueen
      @CardsoftheQueen 2 года назад +19

      @@SamPhoenixKnight Many people know these words but they tend to do as you do. Reject internalization of the ideas behind the words.

  • @Soxaldinho
    @Soxaldinho 3 года назад +1288

    "A Wise man will always learn more from a fool, than a fool can ever learn from a wiseman"

    • @CardsoftheQueen
      @CardsoftheQueen 2 года назад +12

      Perfect words, it resonates my sentiments.

    • @flashy3175
      @flashy3175 2 года назад +1

      Beautiful

    • @chuckecheesesbrother5382
      @chuckecheesesbrother5382 2 года назад +1

      Feel like I'm stuck being a fool 😔

    • @aaronwebb1548
      @aaronwebb1548 2 года назад +7

      @@chuckecheesesbrother5382 You have a choice. All that is required to be a Good person is to be honest and pay attention. All else is personality.
      Good luck out there.

    • @JaneThatcher89
      @JaneThatcher89 Год назад

      Love it! ❤ thanks for sharing! Who originally said this? I’m assuming it’s not your words, because it’s in quotes…?

  • @orvillebrown7235
    @orvillebrown7235 6 лет назад +1919

    This all comes down to a simple line from Desiderata, "Listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story.."

    • @xHenry3110
      @xHenry3110 6 лет назад +25

      Eh life's too short to listen to the dull...

    • @Boodles2007
      @Boodles2007 6 лет назад +36

      Even shorter for the ignorant. Ignorance for some people is a constant.

    • @filmNFX1
      @filmNFX1 6 лет назад +3

      That's why I'm here listening to Peterson.

    • @FIshfood500
      @FIshfood500 5 лет назад +5

      I won’t listen to them.
      It’s a waste of fucking time

    • @humanentity5890
      @humanentity5890 5 лет назад +7

      I don't waste my time listening to the dull or trying to reason with the ignorant.

  • @vantage789
    @vantage789 6 лет назад +2197

    Dope sound quality.

  • @benr77
    @benr77 6 лет назад +1748

    5:43 talking about the audience being engaged in the conversation, girl sleeping front and center (yellow bracelet) lol

    • @deathrodamus9608
      @deathrodamus9608 6 лет назад +114

      I Dunno, yeah I noticed too. Her money and time are wasted from the moment she slept.

    • @jamham69
      @jamham69 6 лет назад +26

      ...Our time here is completely pointless! he says XD

    • @Skiddla
      @Skiddla 6 лет назад +15

      women.... hehehe

    • @MK-fy8uz
      @MK-fy8uz 6 лет назад +24

      yes she was very noticeable on first watch, and i think a very good example for exactly what petersen was talking about!

    • @TraderGus
      @TraderGus 6 лет назад +45

      Maybe his comment was directed to her specifically. He has said in other videos that he pays attention to individual members of the audience.

  • @RonBarrett1954
    @RonBarrett1954 3 года назад +581

    "You can't force someone to be better." There are modern social groups who have yet to embrace this understanding.

    • @fortyninehike
      @fortyninehike 2 года назад

      Marxists know this; it’s not about growing, but cutting down anyone taller than you

    • @fncinder1415
      @fncinder1415 Год назад +1

      My friends

  • @WalkinChristum
    @WalkinChristum 2 года назад +365

    Just finished listening to his book, amazing man

  • @jfish032
    @jfish032 5 лет назад +1915

    And what about "How to better record a conversation"? 😳

  • @underwaterwatchesunderwater
    @underwaterwatchesunderwater 2 года назад +76

    "...we're trying to pay attention, enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation..." 05:44 - There's a shot of the audience. And I had to laugh because there was a girl in a silver jacket with a fluorescent wristband fast asleep. Love it =)

    • @drakenagle
      @drakenagle 2 года назад +1

      😂😂

    • @ameredewdrop
      @ameredewdrop 2 года назад +20

      OMFG THANK YOU. I was just checking to see if there was someone else in the comments who noticed it and said it so that I didn't have to!!! XD!!

    • @spencer6288
      @spencer6288 Год назад +5

      That was so funny lmaoo I was looking for this comment xD

    • @lukimtb851
      @lukimtb851 Год назад +4

      I was looking for this comment 😂💯

    • @eXebeno
      @eXebeno Год назад +3

      i scrolled through the comments to see if anyone else thought the same hahah

  • @Archer-hg9rw
    @Archer-hg9rw 6 лет назад +147

    The girl sleeping killed me🤣🤣🤣

    • @fumifoficial8338
      @fumifoficial8338 4 года назад +1

      Jajajaja, imagine her reading our comment and talking of it, it eill be amazing

    • @kovecsroli
      @kovecsroli 4 года назад +8

      Just right when he was talkong about impirtant is engagement in a conversation xddd

  • @jennakarpe2783
    @jennakarpe2783 3 года назад +106

    We are so lucky to have Jordan Peterson and grateful that his family shares him with us

    • @Hxbile
      @Hxbile Год назад +8

      you mean that he shares himself with us he is not anyone's property.

    • @akbarpashtun
      @akbarpashtun Год назад

      Yes, thankful to his family for his time on such works. Such people have very less family time

  • @davidfernandeztirado3515
    @davidfernandeztirado3515 2 года назад +6

    Bless all of u , because even if you are broken , Stoped , or lost you are here giving your first steps like me , we are toghether in this

  • @MegaLordGaben
    @MegaLordGaben 5 лет назад +249

    sound guy: "How loud do you want your microphones?"
    spokespeople: "yes"

    • @JT-cq7zo
      @JT-cq7zo 5 лет назад +2

      😭😭😭😂😂

    • @Dplaysitcool
      @Dplaysitcool 5 лет назад +1

      Hahaha!

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger 5 лет назад +5

      Wait, the peak meter isn't supposed to be red or read "+10 db"?

    • @myflymkultra268
      @myflymkultra268 3 года назад +2

      @@manictiger lmaoo

  • @aaditya_alive
    @aaditya_alive 2 года назад +57

    It is always efficient to avoid unnecessary conversations. Avoid excessive words, questions & exaggerations.

    • @BeinIan
      @BeinIan 2 года назад +30

      Is it? The only benefit I see is that it saves time, but applying that perspective to all of your conversations means you miss out on learning all kinds of things. Then you're forced to learn the lessons through experience, which takes much longer than the deep conversation would have.
      I think the nugget of truth at the center of your statement is that we should strive to express ourselves as precisely as possible to avoid misunderstandings. But even when we fail to do so, we can often learn just as much from the misunderstanding if we take time to understand it.

    • @joythurman9982
      @joythurman9982 Год назад

  • @sudarshan3965
    @sudarshan3965 4 года назад +13

    I have slept too in many lectures but if Jordan peterson was talking in front of me I can stay awake for whole day.
    5:43

  • @gweschuck
    @gweschuck 3 года назад +3

    5:45 is priceless. JP taking about how if the crowd isn’t engaged then the conversation is pointless....pan to girl in crowd completely unconscious.

  • @RoyBrown777
    @RoyBrown777 5 лет назад +92

    Unbelievable, a Jordan Peterson video without an unrelated clickbait title. Every time I keep thinking he will tell me the meaning of life and I end up learning something else entirely lol

    • @achraflabdouni5770
      @achraflabdouni5770 2 года назад

      Why would you want to know the meaning of life from a human he is a creature like you he struggles with life like you he have his own problem like you...if you want to know the meaning of life go read God words (allah)

    • @Nicoladen1
      @Nicoladen1 2 года назад +1

      And perhaps that in itself is the meaning 😁
      Learning more and more until you've learned so much that you realize logic was after all not what life is about. Life is experience, all thought and logic is pausing life to comment on said experience. Looking for meaning is neglecting life to stick to your notebook all your life finding meaning. Until at last you realize you missed the point completely.
      How to live happily? Live fully. Stop commenting on everything life has to offer, because you're not fully alive when you're stuck in that notebook. That's why kids are so joyful, why sunsets can be beautiful. Because just for a moment we close that notebook of logic and reasoning and we just embrace the experience. That's all.

    • @adaptercrash
      @adaptercrash Год назад

      ​​​@@achraflabdouni5770 those things from pluto? Some ancient satellite that emits frequencies and talks to people and controls half the population on earth?

  • @dardhadard837
    @dardhadard837 3 года назад +9

    The equalizing of the audio is phenomenal: all of the earrape frequencies have been blasted up, and the vocal frequencies have been kicked down it seems. TEACH ME THIS

  • @yodizzll
    @yodizzll 3 года назад +16

    "if your suffering more than you think is necessary, that means that you are more ignorant than you need to be"
    holy shit that was on the nose.

  • @dragonmom495
    @dragonmom495 Год назад +6

    Spent too many years with someone who wouldn't hear me, and would commonly respond with emotionally abusive tactics. Now trying to relearn how to allow others in and have a collaboration and conversation rather than hiding behind the fear and nervously talking about myself. To trust allowing someone to be heard and listened to and take interest in them well, and chance being shut out by another human and made to feel invisible is so hard.

  • @TimAldredge
    @TimAldredge 3 года назад +52

    The topic is almost as amazing as how they change seat positions twice in just 6 minutes without ever getting up.

    • @GLo1991
      @GLo1991 3 года назад +1

      @@977-1 bro duh. It’s a joke

    • @lorrainelez1
      @lorrainelez1 3 года назад

      😁 Yeah I was kinda confused at first.

  • @brightonfoster2288
    @brightonfoster2288 4 года назад +20

    this sounds like my conversations back in mw2

  • @Nicoladen1
    @Nicoladen1 2 года назад +37

    A good conversation is one in which both parties realize their innate uniqueness and equal value.

    • @ZenCz
      @ZenCz Год назад

      What are you doing in this planet being so wise. You should be like Jordan Peterson my friend

    • @indianflippingart9593
      @indianflippingart9593 Год назад

      💀​@@ZenCz

  • @marekszirdzins
    @marekszirdzins 5 лет назад +14

    A person speaking his mind. A miracle, unbelievable stuff!

  • @TheSpacePyramids
    @TheSpacePyramids 6 лет назад +183

    People are more concerned with the audio quality rather than the message... smh did u receive the message? I certainly gained insight from the clip.

    • @veryconfused5158
      @veryconfused5158 5 лет назад +5

      It genuinely hurts to listen to, I had to stop.

    • @SimulationSeries
      @SimulationSeries  5 лет назад +3

      well said! the message is SO crucial

    • @devvv4616
      @devvv4616 5 лет назад

      Lol didn't realize it was such an issue. Just lower the volume if it hurts your ears, that's simple enough

    • @DoveDescendingMusic
      @DoveDescendingMusic 5 лет назад

      Gross generalisation, that’s probably worse than people trying to connect and have a relatable chuckle at the video.
      Does not mean these people aren’t getting woke.

    • @saxonelyaman9212
      @saxonelyaman9212 5 лет назад

      TheSpacePyramids chill out bruh not that serious

  • @kianhughes6309
    @kianhughes6309 2 года назад +6

    I love how he talks about paying the audience attention to see if they’re engaged in the conversation, and the camera cuts to a girl sleeping in the audience at 05:44 XD

  • @meowwmies
    @meowwmies 5 лет назад +17

    Really like how he talks and thinks I can't stop watching clips like this and others.

  • @kartikkesarwani1320
    @kartikkesarwani1320 5 лет назад +32

    Love how Peterson says "Okay.?" when he doesn't agree. He doesn't outright disagree with you but you know he's not on the same page.

    • @AndrewGKMusic
      @AndrewGKMusic 5 лет назад +2

      I think if you had write it down the way he says it you'd have to write "Okay.?;"

    • @kartikkesarwani1320
      @kartikkesarwani1320 5 лет назад

      Agreed and updated

    • @pascaltomasovic3586
      @pascaltomasovic3586 5 лет назад +7

      @Ligeia D.Aurevilly i learned that unless you tell people: oh yes, i absolutely agree on what you just said in the last (specific amount of time), BUT... they will always assume that you didn't listen to them, or how else could you possibly have a different opinion and view on things. and it really pisses ME off. engaging in conversations is something i really like to do, but apparently most of the people i'm talking to are not interested in opinions that differ from theirs and they will start changing topics before you fully articulated your view of one topic, leaving your arguments incomplete and seemingly weak.

  • @mwhme1132
    @mwhme1132 4 года назад +9

    I love how 5:43 was so engaged that she passed out.

  • @Alexbottiman
    @Alexbottiman 3 года назад +31

    Jordan: "There seems to be a massive and relatively untapped market for actual conversation."
    Clubhouse: Oh hi there

  • @peterstilwell7953
    @peterstilwell7953 Год назад +235

    Working with a financial expert could truly set you up for life. I'm delighted I was able to contact my coach Karim .E. Karim earlier this year because while others were busy whining about the downturn I was busy cashing out finally making over 370k only for the first quarter of the year.

    • @rachellovescats8481
      @rachellovescats8481 Год назад

      Thank you for sharing your success story. I immediately typed in your coach's name to discover him on Google. He's simple to deal with, and his signals are excellent as well.

    • @lynnpeterson3763
      @lynnpeterson3763 Год назад

      @@jamalraymond1074 I just searched His name on Google and found him easily, how have I been sleeping on this!

    • @elpresidente7569
      @elpresidente7569 Год назад +2

      this is a bot, dont be fooled by the almost perfect 500 likes and the fact that all the comments were made in the exact same 10 second timeframe

    • @milant4810
      @milant4810 Год назад

      ​@@elpresidente7569yep and all accounts creted 11 months ago😂😂😂. Very strange

    • @worlore1651
      @worlore1651 Год назад

      Bot

  • @koketsobaholo7
    @koketsobaholo7 5 лет назад +8

    So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

  • @bennyblubman9476
    @bennyblubman9476 2 года назад +6

    Every video is about being a better listener and I don't struggle with that. I just don't have anything of value to say. I struggle with starting conversations. I can't just keep starting conversations by asking questions.

    • @Tinted_Ego_Teedo
      @Tinted_Ego_Teedo 4 месяца назад

      I'm quite late to your question. But it becomes an opportunity to not only observe people but to find things about them as a way to establish the connection. It could be ANYTHING. Their hair, or even better, that specific hair clip. That item they're purchasing. Use your surroundings. You could be paying for items at a store or browsing but about to depart from a group of people in an area. Comment on the weather to the group. (good social practice to get you more comfortable with interacting in a less personal way). E.g.. If it's hot,day, y'all stay cool out there. If it's cold, "y'all stay warm". What you'll find is as you do this more (group and one-on-one), people will respond. And you may get the weirdest answers, but it's an opportunity to connect, paired with good intentions/uplifting attitude to any and everyone you meet and they will start to open up like flowers. Sometimes too much. But it's a great way to make an impact in our own way to speak a positive/encouraging word to those we encounter. And you expand your network if that matters to you. My bad for the long answer but I felt like it was a great question because I'm sure many people can relate to that. I hope all is well. ✌🏾

  • @hanaabdullah1682
    @hanaabdullah1682 Год назад

    For so many years I had this idea of “I know exactly what the other person would say in a particular conversation” so I don’t have to pay any attention to what they want to say, I think that would work if you know that person for so long that you’ll know what they will say about something. But after this video I started to realize that was totally different and that person likely would say something entirely useful and you could learn from it

  • @bauerfilms4832
    @bauerfilms4832 6 лет назад +70

    The girl at 5:44 at bottom of screen looks engaged in the convo

    • @SimulationSeries
      @SimulationSeries  6 лет назад +1

      Hahah right!

    • @miramardream
      @miramardream 6 лет назад +3

      Bauer Films Hahaha. So true. He says “engaged” & there she is -engaged-😔 ☺️

    • @kimbliss8429
      @kimbliss8429 5 лет назад

      That's awesome... LOL
      Pays to listen to Jordan B Peterson speak...
      Sleeps through it...

  • @kar3n35
    @kar3n35 4 года назад +1

    The other day i had a great conversation with a guy at a tire shop. About hiswelding carrier. I love it when a guycan just feel comfortable talking about something simple.

  • @kamvaallan2653
    @kamvaallan2653 5 лет назад +30

    Prof P. Jordan, Thank You for being the person you are & taking a firm stand on what you believe, think & feel. You talk straight to the souls of us young man. Thank you 🙏🏾. If you were an army general/commander i'ld join the army straight right away & would die in honour under Ur unshaken command.

    • @alexbaribeault
      @alexbaribeault 3 года назад +8

      Chill dude. Let's not form a cult around Jordan Peterson

  • @albieoval1657
    @albieoval1657 2 года назад

    look how he stares off onto the ground when listening. I’ve seen this before in other people . Gives I’m holier than thou vibes

  • @TheHelghast1138
    @TheHelghast1138 5 лет назад +82

    The sound quality truly amplified those awesome socks... Guess the original sound guy moved up the dominance hierarchy.

    • @isaacisland1
      @isaacisland1 5 лет назад +4

      Brilliant haha. Yes! He's ascended to become king of lobsters, crustaceans overlord.

    • @mickelsimf9956
      @mickelsimf9956 5 лет назад

      Smirk*

  • @kerrydiculo
    @kerrydiculo 2 года назад

    The girl at the bottom on 5:43 is timed perfectly with what peterson is saying right there

  • @data1.078
    @data1.078 5 лет назад +14

    2019, the year when someone can be inspiring by knowing how to hold a decent conversation...

    • @AQS521
      @AQS521 5 лет назад +2

      Supreme Happiness lol, right! I wonder if future generations will have more socially inept skills due to most conversations occurring through technology.

  • @TG-ch8gu
    @TG-ch8gu Год назад +1

    5:44 lady is asleep right as JBP mentions them being engaged in the conversation 😂

    • @peumax
      @peumax Год назад

      I noticed that too 😂

  • @jakeworsley2058
    @jakeworsley2058 3 года назад +4

    I was court mandated drink therapy, i did not take it serious just say what you need to tick the boxes was easy. After years of making an absolutely catastrophe of my life it was finding Jordan Peterson’s ideas and philosophy of life has had a huge impact of my life i believe I’m the best I’ve ever been but getting better every day, even though tough times I strive to make whatever the bad evil situation maybe I make it the best it can be

  • @1dw1
    @1dw1 Год назад +3

    "You're not listening" by Kate Murphy. Great book that talks about having better conversations. This video reminded me of it :)

  • @chasejeffries983
    @chasejeffries983 3 года назад +7

    5:44 "we're paying enough attention to see if you're engaged in the conversation" immediately pans to a girl asleep in her chair

  • @spakess.e.e7015
    @spakess.e.e7015 3 года назад +7

    When there is demand for knowledge. Even the most valuble knowledge can be supplied in the most casual conversations.

  • @veneziagreg21
    @veneziagreg21 6 лет назад +15

    What a great conversation

  • @ShaneKlaasen-qg7hy
    @ShaneKlaasen-qg7hy Год назад

    Enjoying conversation is the cheapest luxury ever ,I so enjoy it

  • @samschmit3686
    @samschmit3686 5 лет назад +34

    5:44 - Does anybody else see the girl sleeping when Jordan talks about people being engaged? I mean, his point is still valid but that is hilarious

    • @PsychPinoy
      @PsychPinoy 3 года назад

      If you on the caption bar, just remove it, for you to see the sleeping girl.

  • @NemoNoirNobody
    @NemoNoirNobody 5 лет назад +81

    I can’t wait till I can afford to have him as my therapist 😂

    • @thumbsupd5164
      @thumbsupd5164 5 лет назад +2

      u d be rich by then, u won t need him! but a nice motive though.

    • @patman_for_sure
      @patman_for_sure 4 года назад +26

      @@thumbsupd5164 rich people still need therapy, don't you think?

    • @scorzi10
      @scorzi10 4 года назад +3

      thumbs up :D you got the message wrong if you think money is the end all be all

    • @Psalm_27.4
      @Psalm_27.4 4 года назад

      @Nacho until then, watch his videos multiple times. You will gain a lot.
      Also, here is another video series even better:
      MEN'S THEOLOGY CLASS
      (A great biblical resource about REAL manhood
      ruclips.net/p/PLoVDFR2cdnEFRis2wzx1RzQpIxJkQu_cP
      This will actually have a therapeutic effect, IF you are receptive!
      Blessings!

    • @Mo-rf9ev
      @Mo-rf9ev 3 года назад

      Is it expensive?

  • @jaws5038
    @jaws5038 3 года назад +36

    Jordan Peterson: “If everyone is engaged in the conversation”
    Girl with green bracelet (5:45) :

    • @im2524
      @im2524 3 года назад

      lol 🤣

  • @MishaPadilla-y8p
    @MishaPadilla-y8p Год назад +1

    The moment he said he had been watching the audience to check for engagement and the camera spanned the crowd to show a girl passed out from boredom 😂 5:44
    It’s so ironic it’s funny.

  • @josephvillarreal5594
    @josephvillarreal5594 6 лет назад +18

    Dude. You are one of my heros. Your up there with Elon Musk and Joe Rogan. I love listening to yalls points of views. I learn so much from your videos.

  • @thesagenator8316
    @thesagenator8316 2 года назад +2

    5:38 LMAO that fact that someone in the crowd is sleeping while has talking about engagement

  • @howardmurray9116
    @howardmurray9116 6 лет назад +177

    Bloody hell thats weird. Why did they flip it

    • @TheTGVPro
      @TheTGVPro 6 лет назад +14

      copyright

    • @nadvic1797
      @nadvic1797 5 лет назад +8

      It's pretty funny and retarded imo that flipping a video influences copyright.
      Or does it only adress the issue of detecting copyright flaws auzomatically through algorithms? (I guess that would be at least as interesting though)

    • @MrShadowmaster00
      @MrShadowmaster00 5 лет назад +9

      @@nadvic1797 mostly avoiding automated algorithms, if a person actually went through the video and realized it's a flipped copy of something else, there wouldn't be much you could do to avoid a copyright strike

  • @wmgodfrey1770
    @wmgodfrey1770 Год назад

    Dialectic and Dia-logos (Vervaeke et al). Circling (Sengstock et al). Warm Data Labs (Bateson et al). The Dialectic (Socrates et al). Thesis + AntiThesis = Synthesis (Aristotle et al). We couldn't go wrong by remembering, recovering, immersing, enactive, and embodying one or more if not ALL of these methods, ESPECIALLY since there's NEVER - in a World of Complexity - just one thing or systematized method for doing it, getting there, and educing a thing.

  • @obelixco1148
    @obelixco1148 5 лет назад +8

    Did anyone else notice the girl asleep at 5:40 hahahahaha just when Jordan was talking about engaging with the audience

  • @cactusjackhausen8508
    @cactusjackhausen8508 2 года назад +2

    5:38 "We're trying to pay attention to you at least enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation" - Camera pans to audience with girl fast asleep 😂😂

  • @teutonicus50bc
    @teutonicus50bc 6 лет назад +55

    Well, that's odd beyond comprehension ... why on earth is perspective switching back and forth? ... first the mic, glass and host are on one side and then the other. Most distracting.

    • @ImPDK
      @ImPDK 6 лет назад +4

      teutonicus50bc it’s to avoid an automated copyright strike

  • @patiofurniture143
    @patiofurniture143 5 лет назад +10

    Which side is the speaker on, I'm confused

  • @MrJjthecronfan
    @MrJjthecronfan 6 лет назад +8

    @5:43 that girl looked pretty engaged in her dreams !!

  • @joshuadoland5479
    @joshuadoland5479 2 года назад

    Talking about engagement at the end and there is someone asleep in their chair. Every time I listen to this guy my perception about something is completely flipped. Every time I have some tiny revelation about something that I've never concisely acknowledged

  • @abinpathrosevijayan3489
    @abinpathrosevijayan3489 3 года назад +6

    Brilliant insight!! Very thoughtful n dedicated of him to analyse people!

  • @gmail2007wvu
    @gmail2007wvu 5 лет назад +2

    The model outlier ... authentic and oozing the truth about so many aspects of this existence

  • @DeadLuckArchives
    @DeadLuckArchives 5 лет назад +5

    Listening to everyone, really listening and hoping to join them in their perspective regardless of how you feel about them is quite possibly the most difficult, yet admirable traits to earn. I've known a few people that can do this and it really is earned. Its something you work for with years of practice. It requires patience, compassion, understanding, and a deep innate calm.
    I personally fucking hate people and don't see myself getting there anytime soon, but one can hope!

  • @babington4394
    @babington4394 2 года назад

    There are so many gurus out there who promise to turn you into the chief ministers of charisma with psychological tricks and techniques, when, in reality, humility and natural intrigue is the key to any conversation.

  • @crystalsbeetzjones5421
    @crystalsbeetzjones5421 6 лет назад +32

    Meaningful conversation and seeking wisdom, a fair assumption that its what we want, it seems that a lot of people my self included were just a pile of mouthbreathers bringing our answers and opinions to the table. Now I dont feel so weird about listening with intent to seek someone elses knowledge and seeing how I can use it was what I loved to do. Finding people to have that conversation with is tough most of the time. Life feels like a Zoo of loose animals,( I'm a bird) so I just like listening to your p.o.v.
    Sometimes I just cant understand your point, but when I do, oh boy, I see the puzzle differently, like my meditations and where they begin in my mind, is so beyond tv or imagination wow, I knew I was connected with God but you helped me confirm that, I live so far north in Ontario that going to another city to see you speak is a serious goal...hoping for Winnipeg on July 9, or was it 29th...hmmm

  • @lPlanetarizado
    @lPlanetarizado 4 года назад

    3:03 - 3:16 ..I have to agree to that.....some people looks like idiots, but sometimes they know something you dont and it is pretty surprising and great

  • @SeanTheDon17
    @SeanTheDon17 5 лет назад +6

    His insight into the Human Condition is amazing

  • @vedvnt5944
    @vedvnt5944 2 года назад

    4:56
    ohhh that’s why it’s on my recommended

  • @carolekelley23
    @carolekelley23 3 года назад +3

    Also we learn just how much we have in common

  • @ashdonsimmons01
    @ashdonsimmons01 Год назад +2

    i have a hard time meeting people and making a connection bc i always feel sort of uninterested and want to be left alone even if i don’t want ti

  • @midnightsun2085
    @midnightsun2085 5 лет назад +93

    The sound guy knows "how to ruin a good conversation"

    • @d.2542
      @d.2542 3 года назад +1

      Yeah, he’s like “Oh you think this is all about engagement. Watch me prove that wrong.”

  • @whateverman374
    @whateverman374 4 года назад +2

    Interesting how the interviewer seems to have acknowledged that engaging with the audience may be an asset given his field of work.
    He actually shifted his position towards the audience, also, when JP pointed out the reasoning of engaging with them.
    While JP was talking, he looked something like " You serious? Alright I`ll give it a try, ok, sure, no problem O.o " :))

  • @itameio6161
    @itameio6161 5 лет назад +51

    5:40
    "-Pay enough attention to you atleast to see if you're engaged in the conversation,"
    *shows a sleeping girl

  • @nathanvijay6141
    @nathanvijay6141 2 года назад

    5:44 shoutout to homegirl sleeping it off , while Jordan was talking about "engaging conversations ".

  • @xxabudxx1
    @xxabudxx1 4 года назад +8

    Comments:
    %90 about the sound
    %9 about the girl in front
    %1 quotes from him about the sound
    1 comment about the actual interview

    • @Tobi-br7bl
      @Tobi-br7bl 4 года назад

      And i am here wondering about this guys socks lmao

  • @ybwang7124
    @ybwang7124 Год назад

    just try to be benevolent at every word. Easy!

  • @benjaminduke48
    @benjaminduke48 5 лет назад +9

    These are very good plan points to a conversation. How many of us actually have these types of chats. I see, after reflection, it's very rare in my life. I'm to busy trying to walk my path, to stop and smell the flowers.🤔

  • @koltonjones866
    @koltonjones866 5 лет назад +2

    I've been thinking that for longer than I remember.

  • @84bucco
    @84bucco 5 лет назад +6

    Shot to the crowd at 5:43, The green bracelet is passed out! Hella' engaged! lol

  • @elmospeggeti4203
    @elmospeggeti4203 Год назад

    i dont know why but when i literally just repeat words of jordan peterson i feel smarter

  • @devanshtyagi1403
    @devanshtyagi1403 5 лет назад +11

    "We're paying attention to you to see if everyone is engaged"
    *Cameraman points the camera towards a girl who's sleeping*

  • @whatthebluff
    @whatthebluff 5 лет назад

    Sound is shit...Content is INCREDIBLE!
    "You might think...Unless everything is exactly how you want it to be, then you have something to learn." - Jordan Peterson aka @jordanbpeterson (So fucking brilliant...I love this man.)

  • @suttonelms1
    @suttonelms1 6 лет назад +5

    Another interesting video - thanks for posting.

  • @renquatrocchi
    @renquatrocchi 2 года назад +1

    "if everyone's is engaged in the conversation" 5:45 the woman sleeping lol

  • @sebmaio4
    @sebmaio4 5 лет назад +15

    Just found this clip and listened and watched and was delighted, as usual, with Prof. Peterson. Then I read the comments. I would say that 90% of them are by people who were so distracted by non-essentials that they completely missed the lessons talked about. So many said the sound was bad, but so what. The voices were still intelligible. If the clip sound quality annoys you to the point of insanity, stop watching! Some saw their counterparts in the audience sleeping, or not engaging, e.g., oh look - Squirrel!!! Didn't like the socks? Who cares what you don't like. Some people enjoy discussions like this and are serious about "learning from conversations." Others, like some of the commenters merely want a free showcase for their disruptive, mean-spirited "jokes" which, unfortunately, are not funny.
    Peterson, when in his clinical mode, is at his most fascinating and down to earth, and human. Then I have hope for the future.

  • @Larry21924
    @Larry21924 Год назад

    This is a treasure trove of insights. A book I read recently was equally enriching. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @spiegs498
    @spiegs498 5 лет назад +5

    How come they switch places in the middle of a sentence?

  • @Spridium1Jono
    @Spridium1Jono 3 года назад

    Lol 5:43 girl in middle row, 4th from the right looks “engaged” 😂

  • @lazerbotshims9795
    @lazerbotshims9795 5 лет назад +3

    Peterson is right. The person has to want to be helped and be willing.
    I've learned that the hard way on more then one occasion that you cannot force it which is difficult if you want to help them badly enough and they are being difficult or even impossible.
    You care about there well being enough to be a bit aggressive when they forsake themselves and everything that matters and you get less forceful every new person yet when it gets frustrating enough to the point that it feels futile you can get quite amgry about their behavior
    and its hard to let it go and leave them to their bad choices even if you know that's the only choice they've given you because it feels like your giving up on them but in reality its them who are giving up and you just don't want to sit there and destroy yourself watching them destroy themselves and you..
    Which walking away can so very difficult.. Its like the 100 there's a scene where Monty is trying his absolute hardest to change his friend jaspers mind but he is unable to and stays on that track to the bitter end. to be there when jasper drinks a drug that kills himself.. Its a very powerful scene and shows you how bad this situation can get.

    • @GIEGERJUNKER
      @GIEGERJUNKER Год назад

      That scene fucked me up but I could see Jasper was dead for a long time

  • @ignorantmangg6139
    @ignorantmangg6139 2 года назад

    Man oh man how good this is

  • @snowframe2995
    @snowframe2995 4 года назад +4

    5:33 That one lady is sleeping 🤣

  • @keni95851
    @keni95851 Год назад

    Making assumptions about people is a great starting point

  • @seanbedolla1521
    @seanbedolla1521 5 лет назад +7

    I like the color of the couches

  • @AlbanianCrusader001
    @AlbanianCrusader001 2 года назад +1

    5:54 that girl is really engaged in the conversation 😂😂😂😂

  • @maxonmendel5757
    @maxonmendel5757 6 лет назад +4

    did the video get mirrored around 5:15? or am i just crazy?

    • @SimulationSeries
      @SimulationSeries  6 лет назад +1

      you are most certainly not crazy!

    • @WokeMindVirus24
      @WokeMindVirus24 6 лет назад

      You crazy

    • @natalieadams6380
      @natalieadams6380 5 лет назад

      It was flipped intentionally, I believe, because what Jordan was saying at that moment was RUclips can do things that TV can’t.

  • @DrCool-oe6di
    @DrCool-oe6di 6 лет назад

    the last phrase he says was most profound and significant to me