Charisma on Command strange how your video just came up. Would love to see you do a dissection of his recent interview with Cathy Newman on channel 4. (Body language etc)
Yeah exactly, he is extremely intelligent and well read. This also raises another point, you probably shouldn't argue about things you know nothing about. People are too willing to do this nowadays and should probably just sit back and listen more rather then arguing and fighting.
@@katiest.vincent4283 It is a contradiction, but many of the socialists and Marxists he debates consider themselves postmodern, which is probably why he uses those terms together.
@@humantacos9800 No. He uses them because the term is the new boogeyman to western conservatives. If he truly cared about facts and intellectual integrity he wouldn't repeatedly use it in his writings or his debates. Peterson is the master at using "intellectual" sounding words to talk in circles.
He also purposely appears weak, then proceeds to cut people down if they come for him. But, he lifts them back up with empathy. One of the most charismatic people of the new millennium.
Meh. Like those are new ideas! This dude "Jesus" came up with all that years ago. Jordan is just copying him and passing it all off as his own material!
@@markboggs746 As a devote christian myself, that makes absolutely zero sense. I would love to know what kind of mentality it takes to think Dr.Peterson is copying Jesus, and somehow lying about it as well.
@@markboggs746 1: You'd be surprised how many "Christians" would be serious with that statement. 2: It may have been obvious and/or funny from your perspective, but from from me, an outsider, that joke was rather mediocre. (No offense.) While I apologize for not considering the possibility of it being a joke, you certainly could've written it better.
I DO THAT! I've argued with my teachers, and I've argued with various professionals, knowing I was wrong. I find it an efficient way to learn. (It usually becomes apparent to them, especially the teachers, what I'm doing.
I was always taught by my parents to understand where the opposing side is coming from, even of you don't agree. That way it's a less hostile anf respectful debate
My husband son & I went to one of his lectures. It was full of couples, whole families with their young teens girls & boys. Lots of older people both sexes and we were expecting it would be an audience full of young men. It was so diverse races, & genders. What a fantastic thinker for our times.
Oh please. You have fallen into the ‘woke’ cesspool. It doesn’t matter who comprised the audience and you evaluated their value. A ‘woke’ tactic that you bought hook, line and sinker. Dr. Peterson would shake his head at your post as he would feel all his talks came to naught.
These days he is a total right wing grifter and seems totally nutty. I don't know where he pivoted into insanity, maybe cuz he needed a paycheck? But a Canadian spouting off about American politics and preaching his new mssg on the Daily Wire isn't exactly a great source for critical thinking and societal improvement.
Manipulating people like this isn't always the best strategy. Usually it's something very clear like: I heard what you said (restate it), however, here's what I need, here's how you can benefit, you do a, b, c very well, it's been 5 minutes, hope [insert childs or spouse name] is doing well... oh... gotta run.
When Jordan said “the nazis asked you to violate your morals a tiny bit at a time” That has affected my life so hard. I think about that quote all the time
Mata Jadu it’s made me more aware of what I am comfortable with, and I no longer allow people to take me out of my comfort zone without my full knowledge of the consequences.
Exactly. I have been meditating on Jesus Christ's humility. The Bible says He was humble. He engaged thousands of people at a time by humbly loving strangers and speaking the Truth in love. Is there a stronger power in this world?
I love this. Regardless of whether or not you agree with Dr. Peterson's philosophical/political views, there is much to learn about his ability to deliver compelling arguments, a skill that every aspiring professional should learn to cultivate.
I have yet to find something disagreeable in what he says or at least hear a convincing argument against any of his points from those who disagree with him.
that is one fat comment rant for some white kratom. This stuff is better than coffee and modafinil, on levels replicating some seriously powerful stimulant drugs. Has white kratom brought me a gift to actually have the energy to connect and talk with others? since this is fairly new to me, I need to learn the art of harnessing that power and making a more impactful comment than an essay.
He's a psychologist, and a good one because he thoroughly understands psychological principles in practice. He understands how people communicate and how to listen. Also his vocabulary is amazing, instilling respect for his mind, and it's all natural for him because he is in fact very intelligent.
To gain real respect from others, there's need to be equipped wit : 1.vast knowledge and experoences 2.mature personality 3.communicational skills 4.empathy
Jordan is such a gentleman, without being a pushover in any manner. He’s a complex, brilliant, strong and sensitive man. Absolutely love him as a father figure in psychology and philosophy. He’s constantly growing himself, even at his level. That’s true humility
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_* _Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._ -
@@fcos9704 not at all he just gives people advice to change and improve their lives or feel better about themselves. You know like a father does. Lol you have head in anus syndrome
One key point is the fact that Jordan Peterson is a highly educated doctor in academia. A lot of people who try to argue their point are not 'that' well educated. Their egos are not controlled by their intellect. Dr. Peterson is in control of his ego. That's power.
To be fair, a lot of incredibly intelligent people are still incredibly egotistical. They see that intelligence as putting them far above anyone else, and thus no one elses point matters. I am glad that Doctor Peterson is not one of those people. I don't agree with a lot of the things he has to say, scientifically backed or not, but I will always respect the man for how he handles matters.
TheWinterShadow ~really well said. Just because someone isn’t winning a debate doesn’t mean they don’t know what they are talking about. Emotion can control ones views to the point of them being crippled by the means of communication and confrontation.
LOLOL your response reminded me of my oldest brother, exmilitary, in charge now of a school districts computer system, well he and his wife were arguing, his wife only has a high school diploma, he was yelling at her say "I can't believe you don't know how a nuclear bomb is contructed" and she responded "can you tell me what ingridients a chile relleno requires?" that shut him up real quick!!!
One of the best, and honestly hardest to implement, pieces of advice I've gotten is to talk to other people as if they have something important they could teach you.
Just to be clear, not everyone has something important to teach you. But act that way. People try to pin JP down on that one all the time. "Aren't you supposed to act as if someone has something to teach you?" Sure, but that doesn't mean you're obliged to automatically agree with them. You may never. It's just a concession that you don't know everything.
Well, everyone has something, positive, negative, as examples that one can learn from. Every person, no matter their intelligence or education or life's circumstances was made as an individual.... with no one on earth being 100% identical. Every person has value.... maybe some contribute to mankind more than others, but there is a takeaway, large or miniscule from everyone. Hard to remember that sometimes for me as I let other things become more important than people sometimes. I need to be cognizant of that always. Have a good one, friends.
When I'm in an argument I always make sure the other person feels heard and understood. I validate their opinions but what usually happens is they think I'm agreeing with them and they start to act even more smug and be all "see, I'm right you're wrong." And that right there just makes me want to punch their face with a chair
A good listener/debater concedes to the other argument. Also ask questions that demand evidence. The goal is not to make them feel stupid but remind them of their burden of proof if they’re debating something.
When meeting someone for the first time, I have found it very effective to build rapport and get to know them first and not address their political/religious views out of the gate. Because if you disagree and let them know right away, a wall is built up and there is limited opportunity to move ahead in the conversation.
I met Jordan Peterson. It was brief, unexpected and unrehearsed. It was in the middle of the week in the middle of the day in a common area of TGH. I was in a very elevated state of anxiety at the time. My condition would be obvious to someone like him, but for me, from the moment we shook hands I felt the immediate change in my demeaner. An immediate calming down, foot off the gas, take a moment to breath type of change. The type of antidote a guy like Jordan Peterson is very good at administering. It felt real and it felt sincere. Like he took the weight from my shoulders and carried it away. Apparently it was noticeable 'cause when I went back upstairs to my son's room I had quite the glow on. I was asked "why so happy all of a sudden?". I met Jordan Peterson.
Jordan Peterson is one of those rare human beings who actually thinks beyond a surface level and has the wisdom to see what is seen. Lucky you! I would love to speak to him.
@@deidrestadler8823 Toronto General Hospital (son was in the ICU). I don't know for sure where as there are so many hallways connecting so many buildings. But somehow I ended up rounding a corner going one way and he rounded a corner coming the other way.
It's taken me over two years of watching Jordan to not only understand, but to be able to start incorporating his genuine concern for others while effectively communicating. Genius.
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_* _Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._ -
@@williammunny9916 Seriously you shouldn't drink and post. A character from a Clint Eastwood movie mindlessly proselytizing on RUclips has nothing to offer but their own delusions.
I know exactly what you mean, Stephen. I see that dear JP is constantly suffering and transforming. He teaches with such coherence because his life goes before his words - he walks to talk. Bless him
I had an English teacher who used to connect the contents he was teaching us to archetypes, using stories like Star Wars and Harry Potter to help us get into it and understand it better. Sadly, he was let go because my school apparently couldn't afford to pay some of the new teachers they hired and I was transferred to a different class. Mr. Lee was awesome.
"A mind changed against it's will is of the same opinion still" this motto changed my sales closing percentages for the better, avoiding the habit of winning every level of an argument or an objection from a customer does wonders and gives one much better outcomes!
@@mephybooks7309 What exactly has he lied about substantially? I'm willing to open this dialogue. Please outline your accusation. In regards to being a shill, who is paying him. Lastly, how do you categorise a fake man? Then we can get somewhere.
it wasn't doing much, so he turned to pandering to fragile schoolboys, aka the nazis of new, with lobster diagrams of manliness to feel some sense of success
Yeah...I need to work on this. But its hard especially when people are being unreasonable...and in this day and age, RIDICULOUSLY unreasonable! Thank you for the advice! Love you guys!
That is truly a gift and an art form, when many of the best of us would eventually give up (on someone perhaps simply to irrational and emotional to tolerate any further [after a while]).
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_* _Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._ -
I always get the impression that he never enjoys it, finds it somewhat exhausting, but despite that, he holds fast to his value of seeing the conversation through as respectfully as possible
Great clip that summarises most of his work. The bottom line is that he has mastered the art of communication - he moves comfortably around people of different ages, levels of education and level of consciousness / beingness. Thanks for sharing - from South Africa.
I love how you break down Peterson's effectiveness. After losing my temper during a real estate deal, and feeling like a fool after, I googled for insight and found your channel thus discovering the badassness that is Jordan Peterson. Keep up the good work!
As a non-native English speaker, I have difficulty understanding JP sometimes but when I do understand him, he makes a lot of sense with what he's saying. I love the way he explains philosophical ideas from psychologist perspective.
I think there is some prerequisite information needed for some of the things he says to understand him. He uses a lot of metaphors, too, but they are explained elsewhere, or in his books.
I think it's also nice how Jordan extends empathy to the other persons position in the conversation without ignoring the danger of their position when it is something like the regulation of speech which should not be made light of. In other words he has the capacity to patiently hear their position and strongly criticize it simultaneously.
Ahah good point, but even that I think was a gentle move. He couldn't help it, after that woman was agressively trying to turn him into a villain the whole interview. And after getting to know the dude a bit better, I am now absolutely sure that, if he wanted, he could have absolutely humiliated Cathy and end her career on that interview.
The gotcha was an out for her. Because her job was to dislike him, and without the “gotcha” she would have gotten in trouble in the court of public opinion.
So the idea is to not to want to make people respect you, but to learn to listen and engage with the ideas of others, even if they counter your perspectives, and allow the one with the more compelling ideas to influence the other. Behaving in this manner will foster respect from those around you because you will deserve it.
This is the 1st time I heard he is religious. Had no idea. Logic can still be gained by those who have an opinion or belief in religion or spirituality. Not everything is based on religion. Truth exist on.many.levels.
@@wesbilly Jesus's teachings were basically about being a decent human being. Help others out. And just do good for the sake of doing good. One doesn't need religion to do just that.
Sean Henry Newman wtf? You clearly don't understand Marxism. Peterson is a wonderful speaker and sounds so smart and reasonable he appears to make sense, just think it over a bit, go a little deeper and you'll start to question his subtext. He's really very simple and not all that helpful for most people
sylvieis agreed. Peterson also often sounds very bitter and angry at colleges - he doesn't come across well at all imo. He has a very rabid cult though who seem to believe he's God and can do or say no wrong.
The best 3 things you can do to make people respect you is to 1) listen actively, 2) apologize when you’re wrong, and 3) lead by example, especially during difficult situations.
@@thinktankcritic5267 Pt 1 depends on the other person. Some are silent ,others are talkative. The majority is inbetween. Within both these groups there are bullies, actors but also gentles. The majority is usually inbetween these. If someone is talkative one has to listen for a while. If the person when done talking suddenly wants to do something else, he or she is either a narcissist or has ADHD disorder. In that case you won't be able to talk rationally to them. If needing to teach them something you must use other approaches.
Interesting.... cause I don't think I've ever seen Peterson do 1 or 2, in fact I've only even seen him admit the POSSIBILITY that he MIGHT HAVE been wrong about something once, and within days he was back to making that same argument as if that never happened.... and 3? Well, I would argue that's only respectable if the movement you're leading is respectable. Hell, Adolf Hitler "lead by example in a difficult situation." When the people looking to him as a leader are incels and domestic terrorists, I'm gonna go ahead and say that's not worthy of respect.
To express your differing opinion but leave listener feeling validated is my aim in any discussion where there may be conflict of idea or beliefs or learnings.. And for me to learn.. I do know it can be difficult.. I feel proud after constructive chats like that
You shouldn’t have to use tricks to con people into respecting you. Respect is earned and Jordan Peters have earned his respect by putting a lot of effort into his craftsmanship.
"How to make people respect you?" Why on earth would you care what people think about you?..." I remember what an old guy once said... When I was 20 I was obsessed with what people thought of me... When I was 40 I stopped caring... But it was only when I was 70 that I realized people weren't thinking of me in the first place...
The irony is not caring what other people think will earn you more respect than caring ever will. Many pioneers and great minds wouldn't have gotten where they did if they cared what others thought or let others opinions affect them.
We are herd animals and relationships are one of the basic "life blood" for humans. That's why we care. And.... that said, the comment about the ages 20, 40, then 70 of how we react to others caring about us is totally accurate! I am the oldest I've ever been (obviously, still alive.... grin) and caring about other's perception of me and respect they give me is down to this in my life..... "Sure I'd prefer people to respect and like me as opposed to not.... but .... if not.... some will, some won't.... and life goes on." Blessings everyone. Have a good one.
@@afterburned06 after many years trying to “spin plates”, in an attempt to keep others happy, I have learned my happiness needs to be more important and I spent years fighting the good fight, to keep myself happy! Your comment is helpful, also very true! I am no longer that girl. As my daughter used to say; “check yourself before you wreck yourself!” By George I Think I’ve Got It! 😎🙏
@@americanpatriot7247 Wise words... Now not too sure about "herd" though... definitely more "pack" man, me. But to be "your brother's keeper"and "caring"...now on that I stand with you 100%. Now standing together or standing alone...I know which I'd prefer. ...and I certainly know which makes me stronger... Like the name by the way us Irish love our American 'bigger brothers'...
i read a book about emotional cogntion and it made me realize that respect, just like happiness or sadness is an emotion that is influencial. So if you feel respect towards others or feel happiness towards others, they are very likely to feel that same emotion when they see and recognize it in you.
Thanks for the breakdown! Learned some great things. To address the first point: Peterson is an avid thinker and I'm not sure if he's consciously doing the "That's a good point" technique. I rather believe that to arrive at a conclusion he really believes in, he has this internal dialogue with himself, where he plays both sides of the argument. That also ties into the "you"s and hypotheticals that he uses, as these are his habits of discussing with himself. It's like a constant training for your brain to switch from perspective to perspective in an argument, which is now ingrained into him. That's how he's able to say "That's a good point" with conviction as it is something he has seriously considered before judging.
Han Jou, Well, it's not difficult when you know what you know. But things I heard from Peterson so far (capitalism as a good efficient system, veganism as cult, and he being "a believer") are wrong, I can't believe people change their mind to *that* kind of thinking/ideas/interpretations... He is a good speaker, maybe born maybe learnt, but he is wrong (on the subjects I heard him talk).
EXXTSON What to do when you share a room with a careless slob? Ooh wait, I will get a new room/mate? Nevermind let them all live in their filthy pens. My side is clean. Next lesson....
I have the utmost respect and admiration for Dr. Peterson. I changed my entire life just watching his stuff on RUclips. Very few people have that kind of power. I hope he continues to inspire and do great work ❤️
I saw something from Peterson in one of those final clips that I don’t think I’ll ever see his contemporaries, specifically people who specialize in “owning” their opponents (biggest example in my mind being Ben Shapiro), he’s just standing with his hand on his chin, calmly listening to the opinions of the person who’s talking to him. It conveys a deep respect for not just the person, but for their intelligence and right to have an opinion, and I think that’s what gains him respect during and after debates. Unlike people who indulge in shouting matches to feed their ego or widen their echo chamber, he appears to have a deep respect for the other person, which makes it easier for them to respect him in turn. Tl;dr: An easy way to gain respect is by first showing someone else that respect, people are more likely to show you respect if they themselves feel respected.
"Clean up your room" means also to start getting your live in order in little steps. It's the idea that if your life is a mess, surely there is always one little part that you can do to make your life a little better. This in the end spirals you upwards. You don't just go out fight the dragon, you first get your armour fixed and think about what exactly you will do, which ultimately raises your chances of killing the dragon.
Great video. We very often pick up an argument just to win, when actually it should be about helping each other grow, and society at large in the process.
You said it. So many people in here are discovering Dr. Peterson because of CoC, however the fact is Peterson has been a man of great importance to the world for a very long time. I think that debate really spurred him into the minds of the muggles, and perhaps we can even build a better world for it.
Thank you. This is great! 1. Pacing your reality: show your respect of the other person’s view. Makes people possibly change their mind. 2. Keep listeners attention: -relate things back to the other person - use archetypes tell stories/examples: connect with people on a real story - JP encourages people to dialogue Consider the other person
Professor Peterson is a personal hero of mine. His discussion is pointed and articulate yet often unaccusatory when possible. He understands that his philosophies and ideals are held behind a barrier of demeanor and character. He's less concerned about winning the argument and more concerned about saving the culture, and society looks at his expressions before they see into his ideas. It's beautiful and necessary for today's common discourse. Thank you for the video
I love him, I love how's he's gained respect and love not for trying to do so, but for trying to do a greater good in the lives that he can reach out to
Respect breeds respect... actively listening and trying ti understand someone/ their point of view...a respectful action... will ultimately bring respect
Peterson is incredible. It is a rare and precious gift to hear the ideas of someone truly brilliant, experienced, profoundly insightful, and so highly skilled in debate and discussion. We do not encounter such people often in life, so I do value being able to find examples of such genius here on youtube. All of his students should count their lucky stars.
@@amberxv4777 Huh? Your comment is a non sequitur, but please don't bother explaining it. I never said anything about all his ideas being above counterpoints. And I never said anything suggesting copying his statements.
The first point is what I have learned from many good debate session and I have been using it ever since, it is easier to change people mind that way, by seeing things through others point of view, try to understand their points, looking for a common ground in an argument is very important
I DON'T KNOW WHY IT IS ..BUT, I GET THIS AWFUL BAD GUT FEELING, WHEN PEOPLE REFER TO MOVIES AS A EXAMPLE OF 'ANYTHING' ?! I ONLY FIND FEW " MOVIES " INTERESTING, OR EVEN ENTERTAINING ! RARELY, IF EVER, WOULD I RECALL SOME LINE FROM A MOVIE AS ANYTHING WORTH REMEMBERING , FOR ANY GOOD REASON !! MAYBE THAT'S JUST ME ..BUT I GUESS I DON'T SEE THEM AS IN ANYWAY 'REAL' ..OR HAVING ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE 'REAL' 'WORLD' !! MORE LIKE 'CHEWING GUM' FOR THE 'EYE BALLS', A WAY TO PASS SOME TIME ,WHILE YOUR WAITING FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN, OR YOUR BORED , HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AT ALL TO DO, NO READING MATERIAL WORTHWHILE AROUND , OR TRYING TO MAKE A LONG WAIT, NOT SEEM SO LONG !!? I GET ANNOYED WHEN PEOPLE WANT TO POINT TO SOMETHING THEY HEARD OR SAW IN A MOVIE AS A REFERENCE ..MAYBE I DIDN'T SEE THAT MOVIE ! OR IF I MIGHT HAVE, JUST NEVER GAVE IT ANY REAL THOUGHT OR ATTENTION !! I WOULD RATHER READ A GOOD BOOK WELL WRITTEN ..AND GET MY INFORMATION, INSPIRATION , IDEAS , THOUGHTS ON " THINGS " FROM THAT AS APPOSED TO A "MOVIE" !? I THINK OF MOVIES AS MORE OF , IT WAS ENTERTAINING ,FUNNY, SCARY , SAD , INTERESTING, STRANGE , DIFFERENT, BORING , BAD , POORLY MADE , ON VERY RARE OCCASIONS WOULD I REMEMBER ANYTHING FROM A MOVIE AS IMPORTANT , UNLESS IT WOULD BE A DOCUMENTARY ..A TEACHING MOVIE , HISTORICAL , "IF" AND ONLY "IF" IT WAS ACCURATE !! I JUST DO NOT HOLD MOVIES IN HIGH ESTEEM ! AND I HATE TO WATCH A MOVIE MORE THEN ONCE .. MY RECALL IS VERY GOOD ! SO I DON'T WANT TO SIT THROUGH IT AGAIN !!! THAT'S THE VERY "HEIGHT OF BOREDOM" TO ME !!
No mention of fishing for the fish that can’t be fished before fishing Jordan’s loves horses rideing every Thursday morning regardless of his daylight working schedule Jennifer please diocesan the fence 🌹🎲🌹
someone said: "love your neighbour as yourself" and added even "love your enemies." I think that Jordan Peterson made these statements a rule of life. That's why he's so successful and revered.
OMG can you _stop_ with the facts and logic already! Here I was living happily in my own little fantasy, where Jordan is a *magician,* and you had to come and ruin it... :(
I absolutely love someone who goes out of their comfort zones and goes against their own beliefs or the narrative that they have believed for one reason or another, some of which they may not even remember. Pick a topic you believe in then research against your own bias. Do this on a regular basis and watch yourself, your knowledge and your positions change.
Dr Peterson has been studying peoples perspectives and the human condition for a long time. He has done so much research and he never goes out to fight or argue with anyone, but he has a lot of mad dogs that are out to get him. He's a very good honest man and we're lucky to have him around.
It's also very common to notice nastiness on the other side but at the same conveniently fail to notice it on one's own side or otherwise make excuses for it. In-Group/Out-Groupd Bias I think it's called.
Your comment is unfortunate as it exemplifies what this video pointed out as being unpersuasive to those who don't agree with your point (and the whole intention of making a point is to persuade, no? Unless you just like beating people over the head with your unaddressed self-righteousness which is unhealthy to you and annoying to others). You are not considering the other side and have automatically crowned yourself the moral and intellectual superior with zero to learn. Clean your house first. Your side is not without blame WHATSOEVER. No one is.
It may have something to do with people identify too much with their opinions. With the demise of many social institutions in many people’s lives. - religion, the local community, ethnic identification even their family - people form their sense of self around their opinions and become very emotional in defending them. Little realising that they’re going to at least modify their opinions throughout their lives through experience and learning if they are a person open to change. There is nothing sadder than someone in their 50s and 60s with the same opinions as they had in their 20s.
Hi, I'm Michael J.L. and I get a real big stiffy just drooling over laughable, posturing males like Mr. Peterson. I have no real personality, you see, so I cop one from Jordan..
In my opinion, and I do respect yours, It's not mainly about what he says. The respect he attains about his body language, his confidence, his voice tonality and his calm nature. If you take a winny, anxious and insecure kid practicing the same techniques as Mr Peterson, he will only be seen as agreeable and afraid of conflict. This is just my opinion thou, you are sharing value with this video, these are indeed good points for getting respect, but as long as you dont fix you communications skills in a deeper level, no one - and I repeat - NO ONE will be compelled to listen. We make judgemente of who deserves our attention and respect in the first fraction of a second we meet, and we finish our assumptions by about 7 seconds. That being said, if you happen to present a weak impression, no amount of diplomacy and dialogue will change their opinion, even if you have the most important thing to say. Cheers and keep up the good work. Just a word of good critisism. Forgive my bad english, it's not my first language and I'm in the process of learning.
I hate you people who write in basically perfect English then apologise that it’s not your first language... I wish I could write so fluently in another language
You should stop being apologetic of your "bad english", for you yourself know it is not bad. It almost seems like as if you were fishing for compliment. Btw you are raising some very good points. I myself have problems with bodylanguage and specifically with a small stutter. I hate when people and especially women just roll their eyes over when I get stuck on a word, or a phrase. My mind is literary screaming inside. For instance when I'm approaching a girl and I stutter in a first sentence I may just as well stop and walk away, because there is nothing in the universe that would steer her attention, or opinion back to me.
I always wondered 'how do these simple people become gurus to the masses?'. After watching Dr. Peterson for so long, I must admit he shows the answer again and again. He must've found the jewel in the heart, the source of all knowledge. If so, it wasn't easy, it took hard work to get to the top of his field, and then boom! Illumination. (I'm sure he doesn't have all the answers but the sensible truth flows right out of him).
To point 1, my philosophy: If I can't argue FOR my opposition, then I can't argue AGAINST them. Seeing where they come from is necessary to connect, but it's also a safeguard for your personal beliefs. If they're not worthy of being challenged, then they're not worthy of having, let alone sharing. I have massive respect for Peterson specifically because he's so calm and gracious whenever he can and should be, but he refrains from being a pushover. He can empathize and still disagree knowing his position better precisely because he's familiar with the opposite opinion.
I have this saved on one of my playlists, I think it is very insightful. I think we can put it into practice best by embracing the principals and honing our character. I think the principals are a respect and genuine care for all people and an empathy with their journey of trying to understand life. If this was taken as tools and techniques to gain respect and change peoples minds then it misses the point and people will see through it. I’ve heard people teach ways of showing that you are listening, leaning in, nodding head occasionally etc. Then I heard someone cut through all that who said, ‘ never mind trying to look like you are listening, just really listen and concentrate on trying to understand.’, concentrating on caring for someone else.
Any tips on how to think "faster on the spot"? I consistently feel like my processing speed is slow and am left looking like a deer in the headlights when debating, even over topics I am very knowledgeable on. Thanks.
That "down time" you spend thinking in a debate likely seems much longer to you (in your own head) than to anyone else. So don't force yourself to answer immediately - you're better off with a 5 second pause that lets you collect yourself than immediately jumping into a rambling response. If you've ever watched Elliott Hulse speak on camera (we have a video on him) he does an excellent job of allowing these breaks. If done right, without filler words, this time you take to collect your thoughts actually captures more attention because of the pregnant pause
Embrace the speed of your thought processes. Generally speaking, taking time actually makes for a more well-rounded response that shows you grappled with the topic, and not just saying the first thing off the top. If you pace your delivery (pausing to give people time to digest your words) as well as your thought process, you come across as someone who is knowledgeable as opposed to slow. Because you own the pauses, people will naturally listen more closely and take what you're saying on board. Chances are you're not as slow to respond as you think anyway - just look at the number of commas I used typing this lol
Dont worry too much about it sometimes its better to take your time and think before just jumping in and not thinking. Obama is a good example hes more deliberate when he talks with lots of pauses
I love hearing all these clips of Peterson. He is so Canadian :) as a Canadian, I so appreciate hearing the way he talks (feels like home) vs the way Americans talk. The differences are almost undescribable, but you know it when you hear it.
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Charisma on Command strange how your video just came up. Would love to see you do a dissection of his recent interview with Cathy Newman on channel 4. (Body language etc)
Why is it that Peterson's fans are only anti-feminist, anti-trans, anti-"SJW"?
Charisma on Command can you do a video on A$AP Rocky
Jordan Peperson...
I think JP, being a psychologist, would be impressed by your channel if he knew of it!
You forgot one of the main reasons Peterson commands respect: his thorough knowledge of the topic, he knows his stuff.
lokanoda yea, people quickly sniff out ignorants (lots of words with 0 substance)
Yeah exactly, he is extremely intelligent and well read. This also raises another point, you probably shouldn't argue about things you know nothing about. People are too willing to do this nowadays and should probably just sit back and listen more rather then arguing and fighting.
Except his continued insistence that "Postmodern Neo Marxism" is a thing when both terms are in direct contradiction of each other.
@@katiest.vincent4283 It is a contradiction, but many of the socialists and Marxists he debates consider themselves postmodern, which is probably why he uses those terms together.
@@humantacos9800 No. He uses them because the term is the new boogeyman to western conservatives. If he truly cared about facts and intellectual integrity he wouldn't repeatedly use it in his writings or his debates. Peterson is the master at using "intellectual" sounding words to talk in circles.
He also purposely appears weak, then proceeds to cut people down if they come for him. But, he lifts them back up with empathy. One of the most charismatic people of the new millennium.
Rope-a-dope, baby.
Meh. Like those are new ideas! This dude "Jesus" came up with all that years ago. Jordan is just copying him and passing it all off as his own material!
@@markboggs746 As a devote christian myself, that makes absolutely zero sense. I would love to know what kind of mentality it takes to think Dr.Peterson is copying Jesus, and somehow lying about it as well.
@@Mrhellslayerz It was a joke. I'm shocked you don't get it and took it seriously. LOL.
@@markboggs746 1: You'd be surprised how many "Christians" would be serious with that statement.
2: It may have been obvious and/or funny from your perspective, but from from me, an outsider, that joke was rather mediocre. (No offense.)
While I apologize for not considering the possibility of it being a joke, you certainly could've written it better.
As my Leadership/History/Philosophy teacher once said: "Argue to learn, don't argue to fight".
I DO THAT! I've argued with my teachers, and I've argued with various professionals, knowing I was wrong. I find it an efficient way to learn. (It usually becomes apparent to them, especially the teachers, what I'm doing.
I was always taught by my parents to understand where the opposing side is coming from, even of you don't agree. That way it's a less hostile anf respectful debate
Amen
Peterson: "You should argue, but you should argue toward peace"
That's what I like to do!
My husband son & I went to one of his lectures. It was full of couples, whole families with their young teens girls & boys. Lots of older people both sexes and we were expecting it would be an audience full of young men. It was so diverse races, & genders. What a fantastic thinker for our times.
comma
Oh please. You have fallen into the ‘woke’ cesspool. It doesn’t matter who comprised the audience and you evaluated their value. A ‘woke’ tactic that you bought hook, line and sinker. Dr. Peterson would shake his head at your post as he would feel all his talks came to naught.
Peterson should run for Prime Minister....great thinker.
Yes yes!! All of us together, as we are, Humans!!!❤
These days he is a total right wing grifter and seems totally nutty. I don't know where he pivoted into insanity, maybe cuz he needed a paycheck? But a Canadian spouting off about American politics and preaching his new mssg on the Daily Wire isn't exactly a great source for critical thinking and societal improvement.
People will argue that 2+2=5 if it means disagreeing with someone they dislike.
Ahaha! TRUE!
@@MrJmayes23 I see that you have heard the Brexit debate in the UK. A lot of it, currently.
WRONG - donald trump voice
Well said!
But the Big Brother says so.
"Build your opponent a golden bridge to retreat across"
Manipulating people like this isn't always the best strategy. Usually it's something very clear like: I heard what you said (restate it), however, here's what I need, here's how you can benefit, you do a, b, c very well, it's been 5 minutes, hope [insert childs or spouse name] is doing well... oh... gotta run.
Opponent already dead 💣
@@Headcasehacker1080 i think he means it like in lay them a path where they can change their mind without losing their face
I was the 1000th like. Bet you didn't care
What about a wooden bridge? With nice carvings and stuff. Does that count? Or does it have to be golden?
When Jordan said “the nazis asked you to violate your morals a tiny bit at a time”
That has affected my life so hard. I think about that quote all the time
Elisa Grace in what sense has it affected your life?
Mata Jadu it’s made me more aware of what I am comfortable with, and I no longer allow people to take me out of my comfort zone without my full knowledge of the consequences.
Elisa Grace thanks, I like that
Like intersectionalism
like a frog in a pot of water where the heat is being increased in small increments to the boiling point.
To me it sounds like the key is humility. Speak with humility is the best way to make a point. -Richard in U.S.
Exactly. I have been meditating on Jesus Christ's humility. The Bible says He was humble. He engaged thousands of people at a time by humbly loving strangers and speaking the Truth in love. Is there a stronger power in this world?
I love this. Regardless of whether or not you agree with Dr. Peterson's philosophical/political views, there is much to learn about his ability to deliver compelling arguments, a skill that every aspiring professional should learn to cultivate.
I very much agree. I don't agree with him on a fair amount of points, but he seems like he'd be a pleasure to speak with
This
MDJ love your basketball videos! And yeah, Peterson is a master level speaker.
I have yet to find something disagreeable in what he says or at least hear a convincing argument against any of his points from those who disagree with him.
CoC, out of interest, what are some points of his you disagree with?
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Regular person’s brain: “Jordan peppers in...”
My brain: *Jordan Pepperson*
RobbieJelsomeno that's what I heard😂😂
Even the captions heard Pepperson. lmaoo.
that is one fat comment rant for some white kratom. This stuff is better than coffee and modafinil, on levels replicating some seriously powerful stimulant drugs. Has white kratom brought me a gift to actually have the energy to connect and talk with others? since this is fairly new to me, I need to learn the art of harnessing that power and making a more impactful comment than an essay.
Me too man, me too.
I’m so glad someone else caught that lmaooo
What a coincidence, I just got back from Peterson's London lecture. I couldn't recommend him more highly.
Make Jordan Peterson a liberalist! I'd love to hear you and him have a discussion!
Sargon of Akkad Woah it's actually Sargon XD!
Woke Sargon
Pinochet was evil
Didn't expect to see you here
He's a psychologist, and a good one because he thoroughly understands psychological principles in practice. He understands how people communicate and how to listen. Also his vocabulary is amazing, instilling respect for his mind, and it's all natural for him because he is in fact very intelligent.
He's also intuitively connected out of complete linear construct. His spiritual and physical reality is balanced.
To gain real respect from others, there's need to be equipped wit : 1.vast knowledge and experoences
2.mature personality
3.communicational skills
4.empathy
Also good grammar and spelling skills
@@aynaasif1766Probably. In your country😊
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@@barbarabukovssek7062 amazing answr to the guy who's talking about spelling. i almost falling in love with u
@@abdullahiahmedmohamed3925 Bat aare yu taalkng boute? I cn alo pheak ringhlish
Jordan is such a gentleman, without being a pushover in any manner. He’s a complex, brilliant, strong and sensitive man. Absolutely love him as a father figure in psychology and philosophy. He’s constantly growing himself, even at his level. That’s true humility
When did you get to meet him?
@Lady Wintergreen - Written like a lady! ;)
he isn't a father figure at all lol, he is just known by the media that's all.
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_*
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@@fcos9704 not at all he just gives people advice to change and improve their lives or feel better about themselves. You know like a father does. Lol you have head in anus syndrome
One key point is the fact that Jordan Peterson is a highly educated doctor in academia. A lot of people who try to argue their point are not 'that' well educated. Their egos are not controlled by their intellect. Dr. Peterson is in control of his ego. That's power.
TheWinterShadow this.
To be fair, a lot of incredibly intelligent people are still incredibly egotistical. They see that intelligence as putting them far above anyone else, and thus no one elses point matters. I am glad that Doctor Peterson is not one of those people. I don't agree with a lot of the things he has to say, scientifically backed or not, but I will always respect the man for how he handles matters.
I believe what helps him is his genuine need to understand life and people.
TheWinterShadow ~really well said. Just because someone isn’t winning a debate doesn’t mean they don’t know what they are talking about. Emotion can control ones views to the point of them being crippled by the means of communication and confrontation.
LOLOL your response reminded me of my oldest brother, exmilitary, in charge now of a school districts computer system, well he and his wife were arguing, his wife only has a high school diploma, he was yelling at her say "I can't believe you don't know how a nuclear bomb is contructed" and she responded "can you tell me what ingridients a chile relleno requires?" that shut him up real quick!!!
One guy parenting millions of adults. Congrats Peterson, love from Norway.
billions..
:)
basically: to get respect, be respectful
thank you!
Too bad my mother doesn’t seemed to understand that.
Cops need to learn this
This means we need to shut down tumblr.
That’s not always true.
One of the best, and honestly hardest to implement, pieces of advice I've gotten is to talk to other people as if they have something important they could teach you.
Just to be clear, not everyone has something important to teach you. But act that way.
People try to pin JP down on that one all the time. "Aren't you supposed to act as if someone has something to teach you?" Sure, but that doesn't mean you're obliged to automatically agree with them. You may never. It's just a concession that you don't know everything.
Well, everyone has something, positive, negative, as examples that one can learn from. Every person, no matter their intelligence or education or life's circumstances was made as an individual.... with no one on earth being 100% identical. Every person has value.... maybe some contribute to mankind more than others, but there is a takeaway, large or miniscule from everyone. Hard to remember that sometimes for me as I let other things become more important than people sometimes. I need to be cognizant of that always. Have a good one, friends.
When I'm in an argument I always make sure the other person feels heard and understood. I validate their opinions but what usually happens is they think I'm agreeing with them and they start to act even more smug and be all "see, I'm right you're wrong." And that right there just makes me want to punch their face with a chair
most people just want to hear that their right but continue being you and hopefully little by little it rubs off to some ppl.
Punch away.
A good listener/debater concedes to the other argument. Also ask questions that demand evidence. The goal is not to make them feel stupid but remind them of their burden of proof if they’re debating something.
U have to explain ur own story the way they will believe you more.
Watch Jordan Peterson in these interviews and watch and imitate. Learn from the best
When meeting someone for the first time, I have found it very effective to build rapport and get to know them first and not address their political/religious views out of the gate. Because if you disagree and let them know right away, a wall is built up and there is limited opportunity to move ahead in the conversation.
....which immediately makes you a better person to use for a lesson like this than Peterson.
I met Jordan Peterson. It was brief, unexpected and unrehearsed. It was in the middle of the week in the middle of the day in a common area of TGH. I was in a very elevated state of anxiety at the time. My condition would be obvious to someone like him, but for me, from the moment we shook hands I felt the immediate change in my demeaner. An immediate calming down, foot off the gas, take a moment to breath type of change. The type of antidote a guy like Jordan Peterson is very good at administering. It felt real and it felt sincere. Like he took the weight from my shoulders and carried it away. Apparently it was noticeable 'cause when I went back upstairs to my son's room I had quite the glow on. I was asked "why so happy all of a sudden?". I met Jordan Peterson.
stereofect: You are an excellent communicator. Peterson would be impressed.
Love it
Where did you meet him? Im jealous!
Jordan Peterson is one of those rare human beings who actually thinks beyond a surface level and has the wisdom to see what is seen. Lucky you! I would love to speak to him.
@@deidrestadler8823 Toronto General Hospital (son was in the ICU). I don't know for sure where as there are so many hallways connecting so many buildings. But somehow I ended up rounding a corner going one way and he rounded a corner coming the other way.
It's taken me over two years of watching Jordan to not only understand, but to be able to start incorporating his genuine concern for others while effectively communicating. Genius.
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_*
_Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._
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@@williammunny9916 Seriously you shouldn't drink and post.
A character from a Clint Eastwood movie mindlessly proselytizing on RUclips has nothing to offer but their own delusions.
I know exactly what you mean, Stephen. I see that dear JP is constantly suffering and transforming. He teaches with such coherence because his life goes before his words - he walks to talk. Bless him
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
I had an English teacher who used to connect the contents he was teaching us to archetypes, using stories like Star Wars and Harry Potter to help us get into it and understand it better. Sadly, he was let go because my school apparently couldn't afford to pay some of the new teachers they hired and I was transferred to a different class. Mr. Lee was awesome.
I had a History teacher who used Jurassic Park and Star Wars to teach us about US History. He was an amazing person
@@colt2274 My gosh! How did he do it?? My history teachers never did that :D
"A mind changed against it's will is of the same opinion still" this motto changed my sales closing percentages for the better, avoiding the habit of winning every level of an argument or an objection from a customer does wonders and gives one much better outcomes!
Such a good topic, thanks so much for adding the part about "..and not being a bully". You can lead with empathy and still command awesome respect!
Yeah it's truly remarkable how a non-aggressive college professor has captivated the attention of so many people - I love it :-)
My favorite and personal kind of leadership, empathetic leadership
Not lead with empathy but sympathy I think
non-aggression makes you look weak! it leads dishonest people to try and bully and slander you
Funny how everyone who dislikes Jordan Peterson just accuses him of being fake. Hardly seen a more real person in public discourse.
You don't get out much, do you?
@@radiojet1429 I knew it was you before i opened the comment. When will you clean your room?
he's a liar and a shill and also a fake
@@mephybooks7309 What exactly has he lied about substantially? I'm willing to open this dialogue. Please outline your accusation. In regards to being a shill, who is paying him. Lastly, how do you categorise a fake man? Then we can get somewhere.
thesalanian notice that his haters call him a liar and a nazi but can never provide a valid example.
His 20 years of Clinical Psychology really paid off.
@@himanshunaidu389 He hasn't cleaned his room yet.
Peter Jordanson is everyone's daddy
Nami Erins. Really? How much money has he earned? Lifetime pension too? Marriage material!
Why does that bother you?
it wasn't doing much, so he turned to pandering to fragile schoolboys, aka the nazis of new, with lobster diagrams of manliness to feel some sense of success
Yeah...I need to work on this. But its hard especially when people are being unreasonable...and in this day and age, RIDICULOUSLY unreasonable! Thank you for the advice! Love you guys!
Yes it is hard so much easier to box their ears and tell them to make sense or shut it😂
Jordan Peterson's ability to converse with hostile people is a great lesson- I have learned from him.
That is truly a gift and an art form, when many of the best of us would eventually give up (on someone perhaps simply to irrational and emotional to tolerate any further [after a while]).
It looks like a background picture.
Ah dear now where was I ??😴😴😴
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_*
_Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._
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I always get the impression that he never enjoys it, finds it somewhat exhausting, but despite that, he holds fast to his value of seeing the conversation through as respectfully as possible
Peterson will be seen as one of the most influential people of the decade without a doubt.
that gave me a good laugh :,D I thank you.
wheelzwheela what are you talking about? He already is seen like that.
Nah it’s Kim Kardashian!
wheelzwheela make that century! It’s been 60 years of “group think” thanks to advertising
Peterson will be seen as the charlatan of the decade, without a doubt.
Being able to listen to others and not just react is a number one leadership skill 👑
Trudeau has none of the qualities mentioned here.
Narcissists are not leadership material.
energyhealing one must react
Great clip that summarises most of his work. The bottom line is that he has mastered the art of communication - he moves comfortably around people of different ages, levels of education and level of consciousness / beingness. Thanks for sharing - from South Africa.
I love how you break down Peterson's effectiveness. After losing my temper during a real estate deal, and feeling like a fool after, I googled for insight and found your channel thus discovering the badassness that is Jordan Peterson. Keep up the good work!
Wow. I'm also Googling "Jordan Peterson communication" after losing my temper in a real estate deal.
@@bryanwirthlin4444 Wow! Me too.
@@lawdogwales5921 me too!!
Me too 🤦♂️
Good for you, that was your reaction!
As a non-native English speaker, I have difficulty understanding JP sometimes but when I do understand him, he makes a lot of sense with what he's saying. I love the way he explains philosophical ideas from psychologist perspective.
You write English better than a lot of native English speakers I have encountered.
I think there is some prerequisite information needed for some of the things he says to understand him. He uses a lot of metaphors, too, but they are explained elsewhere, or in his books.
garrulousglandarius ... exuse me, but my englrsh iz pufect 😋😋😋
Big respect for JP. His book is out tomorrow, go get it!
Rhys Williams It comes out next Tuesday the 23rd..... one more week
Martin for me it's tomorrow. I'm in the UK and when I went on amazon US it said 23rd, different release dates maybe?
Rhys Williams Aww lucky! Yeah I guess in America it releases a week later!
What’s the title of the book? I’m interested!!!!
Alpha Notmale 12 rules for life, an antidote to chaos
The objective isn't to win the argument, it's to help the other person become a better person
Nah you carry yourself respectfully, you get respect back
And learn to be better yourself
@@dumdum9367you may be confusing fear and loathing with respect
SHOULD be the objective, but it never is.
I think it's also nice how Jordan extends empathy to the other persons position in the conversation without ignoring the danger of their position when it is something like the regulation of speech which should not be made light of. In other words he has the capacity to patiently hear their position and strongly criticize it simultaneously.
"he's extra careful to not make you feel stupid about it"
Flashbacks to the "ha gotcha" moment.
everything has its exception, dude! hehe
She deserved that so much. That interview is historical.
Ahah good point, but even that I think was a gentle move. He couldn't help it, after that woman was agressively trying to turn him into a villain the whole interview. And after getting to know the dude a bit better, I am now absolutely sure that, if he wanted, he could have absolutely humiliated Cathy and end her career on that interview.
Well, she deserved it
The gotcha was an out for her. Because her job was to dislike him, and without the “gotcha” she would have gotten in trouble in the court of public opinion.
One time I saw a kid being bullied by 4 kids so i decided to step in
He didn't stand a chance against all 5 of us
Hilarious!
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
"unfortunately, I didn't know they were beating up the next Bruce Lee"
@@8bitmagic Plot twist.....
@@McconneIIRet rinse and repeat
Did you steal that from Jimmy Carr?
So the idea is to not to want to make people respect you, but to learn to listen and engage with the ideas of others, even if they counter your perspectives, and allow the one with the more compelling ideas to influence the other. Behaving in this manner will foster respect from those around you because you will deserve it.
I am an atheist but i watch Peterson's philosophical lectures to gain a better perspective of the world and human life
some would argue that peterson himself is atheist... at least towards the fundamentalist conception of god.
This is the 1st time I heard he is religious. Had no idea. Logic can still be gained by those who have an opinion or belief in religion or spirituality. Not everything is based on religion. Truth exist on.many.levels.
Tara Holt yes. Very true. I believe every word of Jesus. I don’t believe he actually existed.
@@wesbilly Jesus's teachings were basically about being a decent human being. Help others out. And just do good for the sake of doing good. One doesn't need religion to do just that.
Tara Holt exactly what I said.
About Damn time!
Charisma had to clean his room first, don't wanna end up like those bloody marxists who are resentful and bitter.
Preach
Takar 109 lol nice
Sean Henry Newman wtf? You clearly don't understand Marxism. Peterson is a wonderful speaker and sounds so smart and reasonable he appears to make sense, just think it over a bit, go a little deeper and you'll start to question his subtext. He's really very simple and not all that helpful for most people
sylvieis agreed. Peterson also often sounds very bitter and angry at colleges - he doesn't come across well at all imo. He has a very rabid cult though who seem to believe he's God and can do or say no wrong.
The best 3 things you can do to make people respect you is to 1) listen actively, 2) apologize when you’re wrong, and 3) lead by example, especially during difficult situations.
I ve seen pple command respect without doing any of those things. It’s not really what you do or say but HOW.
@@thinktankcritic5267 Pt 1 depends on the other person. Some are silent ,others are talkative. The majority is inbetween. Within both these groups there are bullies, actors but also gentles. The majority is usually inbetween these. If someone is talkative one has to listen for a while. If the person when done talking suddenly wants to do something else, he or she is either a narcissist or has ADHD disorder. In that case you won't be able to talk rationally to them. If needing to teach them something you must use other approaches.
Trump gets respect from his cult tho & has zero of these traits.
You forgot the most important one. "Make your commentary about them, not about yourself."
Interesting.... cause I don't think I've ever seen Peterson do 1 or 2, in fact I've only even seen him admit the POSSIBILITY that he MIGHT HAVE been wrong about something once, and within days he was back to making that same argument as if that never happened.... and 3? Well, I would argue that's only respectable if the movement you're leading is respectable. Hell, Adolf Hitler "lead by example in a difficult situation." When the people looking to him as a leader are incels and domestic terrorists, I'm gonna go ahead and say that's not worthy of respect.
To express your differing opinion but leave listener feeling validated is my aim in any discussion where there may be conflict of idea or beliefs or learnings.. And for me to learn.. I do know it can be difficult.. I feel proud after constructive chats like that
JP about to drop the hottest book of all time....ALL TIME!
Ma boy Elisha
You need to read the Gulag and repent.
Eli Eli pls
My boi eli long here 👊
Got it preordered and cannot wait!
Dr Peterson is a societal necessity.
One could say he's an antidote to chaos... roughly speaking
In 1843, slavery in America was considered a social necessity. Mr. Peterson's atavistic views belong to that era.
@@radiojet1429 please elaborate
Radio Jet I see you’re throwing out baby with the bath water, like communists always do
"Seek to understand before being understood"
You shouldn’t have to use tricks to con people into respecting you. Respect is earned and Jordan Peters have earned his respect by putting a lot of effort into his craftsmanship.
these ‘tricks’ seem to me more likely to be proper ways to converse in a debate.
The key is:
How to respond in dialogue!
"How to make people respect you?"
Why on earth would you care what people think about you?..."
I remember what an old guy once said...
When I was 20 I was obsessed with what people thought of me...
When I was 40 I stopped caring...
But it was only when I was 70 that I realized people weren't thinking of me in the first place...
LOL 😂 SO Darn True, Love it!
The irony is not caring what other people think will earn you more respect than caring ever will. Many pioneers and great minds wouldn't have gotten where they did if they cared what others thought or let others opinions affect them.
We are herd animals and relationships are one of the basic "life blood" for humans. That's why we care. And.... that said, the comment about the ages 20, 40, then 70 of how we react to others caring about us is totally accurate! I am the oldest I've ever been (obviously, still alive.... grin) and caring about other's perception of me and respect they give me is down to this in my life..... "Sure I'd prefer people to respect and like me as opposed to not.... but .... if not.... some will, some won't.... and life goes on." Blessings everyone. Have a good one.
@@afterburned06 after many years trying to “spin plates”, in an attempt to keep others happy, I have learned my happiness needs to be more important and I spent years fighting the good fight, to keep myself happy! Your comment is helpful, also very true! I am no longer that girl. As my daughter used to say; “check yourself before you wreck yourself!” By George I Think I’ve Got It! 😎🙏
@@americanpatriot7247 Wise words...
Now not too sure about "herd" though... definitely more "pack" man, me.
But to be "your brother's keeper"and "caring"...now on that I stand with you 100%.
Now standing together or standing alone...I know which I'd prefer.
...and I certainly know which makes me stronger...
Like the name by the way us Irish love our American 'bigger brothers'...
This is great. To earn respect you must first give respect.
Exactly :-)
i read a book about emotional cogntion and it made me realize that respect, just like happiness or sadness is an emotion that is influencial. So if you feel respect towards others or feel happiness towards others, they are very likely to feel that same emotion when they see and recognize it in you.
Thanks for the breakdown! Learned some great things.
To address the first point: Peterson is an avid thinker and I'm not sure if he's consciously doing the "That's a good point" technique. I rather believe that to arrive at a conclusion he really believes in, he has this internal dialogue with himself, where he plays both sides of the argument. That also ties into the "you"s and hypotheticals that he uses, as these are his habits of discussing with himself. It's like a constant training for your brain to switch from perspective to perspective in an argument, which is now ingrained into him.
That's how he's able to say "That's a good point" with conviction as it is something he has seriously considered before judging.
Han Jou exactly. Plus he is a divergent thinker, which makes him expand an idea to another area.
Totally agree!
Yeah, my vote's with you.
Han Jou,
Well, it's not difficult when you know what you know. But things I heard from Peterson so far (capitalism as a good efficient system, veganism as cult, and he being "a believer") are wrong, I can't believe people change their mind to *that* kind of thinking/ideas/interpretations... He is a good speaker, maybe born maybe learnt, but he is wrong (on the subjects I heard him talk).
this is a great observation
You give love u get love, you show respect you get respect. The way you carry yourself will take u a long way in life
Unless you are in love with a manipulating narcissist!!!!!
Unless the person you are speaking with has mental illness on some level
Jordan Peterson's RULE #1: Stop Being Pathetic
Take your own advice.
you are a victim. now do something about it! :P
WAOW
But Jiren...
You need to understand which of your own behaviours make you appear pathetic before you can stop doing them and do better things instead.
I got a sudden urge to clean my room...
EXXTSON
What to do when you share a room with a careless slob? Ooh wait, I will get a new room/mate?
Nevermind let them all live in their filthy pens. My side is clean.
Next lesson....
Do it! You'll feel better after
I got a sudden urge for lobster.
hah - good one !
EXXTSON thanx 4 reminding me that I need 2 do the same. 😊😅
I have the utmost respect and admiration for Dr. Peterson. I changed my entire life just watching his stuff on RUclips. Very few people have that kind of power. I hope he continues to inspire and do great work ❤️
Hazar Younis same. I have gone to church almost all my life and they have never inspired the same level of change.
Start thinking for yourself fool
Presiqn Qnkov....and may I ask where you get your ideas from, Mr. I’m-so-original?
Thank you for giving us this opportunity to get to know Jordan Peterson.
Knowledge is Power. Now I understand & like him.
It looks like Jordan Peterson has a permanent furrowed brow. He's always concentrating fiercely.
Henry Peter that's his job lol
That’s because his mind is always running in overdrive.
No, he furrows his brow because even he can't believe you buy all his crap.
I saw something from Peterson in one of those final clips that I don’t think I’ll ever see his contemporaries, specifically people who specialize in “owning” their opponents (biggest example in my mind being Ben Shapiro), he’s just standing with his hand on his chin, calmly listening to the opinions of the person who’s talking to him. It conveys a deep respect for not just the person, but for their intelligence and right to have an opinion, and I think that’s what gains him respect during and after debates. Unlike people who indulge in shouting matches to feed their ego or widen their echo chamber, he appears to have a deep respect for the other person, which makes it easier for them to respect him in turn.
Tl;dr: An easy way to gain respect is by first showing someone else that respect, people are more likely to show you respect if they themselves feel respected.
"Clean up your room" means also to start getting your live in order in little steps. It's the idea that if your life is a mess, surely there is always one little part that you can do to make your life a little better. This in the end spirals you upwards. You don't just go out fight the dragon, you first get your armour fixed and think about what exactly you will do, which ultimately raises your chances of killing the dragon.
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
Great video. We very often pick up an argument just to win, when actually it should be about helping each other grow, and society at large in the process.
Got notified about this video just as I was watching one of Dr. Peterson's lectures. So happy Charisma on Command is finally covering him
You said it. So many people in here are discovering Dr. Peterson because of CoC, however the fact is Peterson has been a man of great importance to the world for a very long time. I think that debate really spurred him into the minds of the muggles, and perhaps we can even build a better world for it.
Thank you. This is great!
1. Pacing your reality: show your respect of the other person’s view. Makes people possibly change their mind.
2. Keep listeners attention: -relate things back to the other person
- use archetypes
tell stories/examples: connect with people on a real story
- JP encourages people to dialogue
Consider the other person
Jordan Pepperson is a really smart guy
Mark M. Peterson not pepperson.
PhatCrayonz It’s a joke 😂
I think he said peppers om
2:22
Hahahahahaha I just came down here to see if anyone else got it too
Be respectful. Earn respect.
He is very knowledgeable..so he has confidence which in of itself commands respect.
Professor Peterson is a personal hero of mine. His discussion is pointed and articulate yet often unaccusatory when possible. He understands that his philosophies and ideals are held behind a barrier of demeanor and character. He's less concerned about winning the argument and more concerned about saving the culture, and society looks at his expressions before they see into his ideas. It's beautiful and necessary for today's common discourse.
Thank you for the video
I love him, I love how's he's gained respect and love not for trying to do so, but for trying to do a greater good in the lives that he can reach out to
Respect breeds respect... actively listening and trying ti understand someone/ their point of view...a respectful action... will ultimately bring respect
Peterson is incredible. It is a rare and precious gift to hear the ideas of someone truly brilliant, experienced, profoundly insightful, and so highly skilled in debate and discussion. We do not encounter such people often in life, so I do value being able to find examples of such genius here on youtube. All of his students should count their lucky stars.
Not all his ideas. It's important to still have your own ideas and not just copy what he says.
@@amberxv4777 Huh? Your comment is a non sequitur, but please don't bother explaining it. I never said anything about all his ideas being above counterpoints. And I never said anything suggesting copying his statements.
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
Everyone is a hero in their story. Thats why its important to listen
Iury Cabeleira what?
Presiqn Qnkov He wrote:
"Everyone is a hero in their [own] story. That's why it's important to listen."
I remember asking you to do a video on Dr. Peterson a few weeks ago! Thank you so very much!
~ Hope you enjoyed it!
The first point is what I have learned from many good debate session and I have been using it ever since, it is easier to change people mind that way, by seeing things through others point of view, try to understand their points, looking for a common ground in an argument is very important
JORDAN IS THE HERO WE NEED
no he's not
Mugiwara no Link how messy is your room?
No, you're the hero you need, you just have to save your father from the belly of a dragon first!
Alespider thank you for asking the right questions.
But not the hero we deserve
_"I will teach you about Jung today - so let's talk about the Lion King"._
The Jordan Peterson we all know and love.
I DON'T KNOW WHY IT IS ..BUT, I GET THIS AWFUL BAD GUT FEELING, WHEN PEOPLE REFER TO MOVIES AS A EXAMPLE OF 'ANYTHING' ?! I ONLY FIND FEW " MOVIES " INTERESTING, OR EVEN ENTERTAINING ! RARELY, IF EVER, WOULD I RECALL SOME LINE FROM A MOVIE AS ANYTHING WORTH REMEMBERING , FOR ANY GOOD REASON !! MAYBE THAT'S JUST ME ..BUT I GUESS I DON'T SEE THEM AS IN ANYWAY 'REAL' ..OR HAVING ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE 'REAL' 'WORLD' !! MORE LIKE 'CHEWING GUM' FOR THE 'EYE BALLS', A WAY TO PASS SOME TIME ,WHILE YOUR WAITING FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN, OR YOUR BORED , HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AT ALL TO DO, NO READING MATERIAL WORTHWHILE AROUND , OR TRYING TO MAKE A LONG WAIT, NOT SEEM SO LONG !!? I GET ANNOYED WHEN PEOPLE WANT TO POINT TO SOMETHING THEY HEARD OR SAW IN A MOVIE AS A REFERENCE ..MAYBE I DIDN'T SEE THAT MOVIE ! OR IF I MIGHT HAVE, JUST NEVER GAVE IT ANY REAL THOUGHT OR ATTENTION !!
I WOULD RATHER READ A GOOD BOOK WELL WRITTEN ..AND GET MY INFORMATION, INSPIRATION , IDEAS , THOUGHTS ON " THINGS " FROM THAT AS APPOSED TO A "MOVIE" !? I THINK OF MOVIES AS MORE OF , IT WAS ENTERTAINING ,FUNNY, SCARY , SAD , INTERESTING, STRANGE , DIFFERENT, BORING , BAD , POORLY MADE , ON VERY RARE OCCASIONS WOULD I REMEMBER ANYTHING FROM A MOVIE AS IMPORTANT , UNLESS IT WOULD BE A DOCUMENTARY ..A TEACHING MOVIE , HISTORICAL , "IF" AND ONLY "IF" IT WAS ACCURATE !! I JUST DO NOT HOLD MOVIES IN HIGH ESTEEM !
AND I HATE TO WATCH A MOVIE MORE THEN ONCE .. MY RECALL IS VERY GOOD ! SO I DON'T WANT TO SIT THROUGH IT AGAIN !!! THAT'S THE VERY "HEIGHT OF BOREDOM" TO ME !!
No mention of fishing for the fish that can’t be fished before fishing Jordan’s loves horses rideing every Thursday morning regardless of his daylight working schedule Jennifer please diocesan the fence 🌹🎲🌹
Omg Laurelindo, I'm so sorry this trainwreck of a reply thread happened to you. This is madness! I hope you heal well
He's an excellent communicator. There is a lot of power in being able to communicate your thoughts and feelings effectively.
someone said: "love your neighbour as yourself" and added even "love your enemies." I think that Jordan Peterson made these statements a rule of life. That's why he's so successful and revered.
Jesus said , love your enemies!
I’m so ridiculously happy that you’ve shed some light on this brilliant man.
Here's the untold secret to ensuring people respect you: be worthy of respect.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Haha now it's told
Respect is earned. Deference or submission is commanded.
You are exactly right. Thus isn't a fight but a way of going into discussion together.
He is a professor in psychology, which is why he understands why people may think certain things
OMG can you _stop_ with the facts and logic already! Here I was living happily in my own little fantasy, where Jordan is a *magician,* and you had to come and ruin it... :(
kebman But Jordan *is* a magician. You can be one too!
Joseph It's obviously a joke
Joseph Your question sounds serious. Where in it did you imply irony?
Joseph I don’t know, what is what you were trying to say?
If you want to be like Jordan Peterson...
Read more
Haha, underrated comment
Ssshh~ 😂
Amazing
You magnificent bastard. Thank you.
Hi Ravit, what should we read? Any suggestions?
I absolutely love someone who goes out of their comfort zones and goes against their own beliefs or the narrative that they have believed for one reason or another, some of which they may not even remember. Pick a topic you believe in then research against your own bias. Do this on a regular basis and watch yourself, your knowledge and your positions change.
Dr Peterson has been studying peoples perspectives and the human condition for a long time. He has done so much research and he never goes out to fight or argue with anyone, but he has a lot of mad dogs that are out to get him. He's a very good honest man and we're lucky to have him around.
I actually almost though you called him "Jordan Pepperson" 2:20 in 😂😭😂😂
Edgar Allan Tone I legit heard Pepperson
Bro same
Haha peppers in pepperson... or suitably, Jordan Peppy-son...?
Lol jokes
Wait he didn’t say pepperson?
It is my great privilege to live in the time of two great thinkers, Jordan Peterson and Thomas Sowell.
Thomas Sowell is still the Master! I follow him on Twitter.
well, ok, no, Sowell is a mastermind but his peak was like 1980
What about some female gurus ? I am sure you can dig up some…there are tons. Just try a bit ok
💯
@@thinktankcritic5267 Louise Hay
Basically, be respectful and considerate if you want others to respect you and consider you.
Who would've thought.
2:31 "From those who have nothing everything will be taken." that is quite a vicious statement...
"You have to consider the other person." Its so sad we have to point that out in our culture. Though this is on both sides of the political isle.
oh, ok. isle must be island, then, right?
It's also very common to notice nastiness on the other side but at the same conveniently fail to notice it on one's own side or otherwise make excuses for it. In-Group/Out-Groupd Bias I think it's called.
Your comment is unfortunate as it exemplifies what this video pointed out as being unpersuasive to those who don't agree with your point (and the whole intention of making a point is to persuade, no? Unless you just like beating people over the head with your unaddressed self-righteousness which is unhealthy to you and annoying to others). You are not considering the other side and have automatically crowned yourself the moral and intellectual superior with zero to learn. Clean your house first. Your side is not without blame WHATSOEVER. No one is.
It may have something to do with people identify too much with their opinions. With the demise of many social institutions in many people’s lives. - religion, the local community, ethnic identification even their family - people form their sense of self around their opinions and become very emotional in defending them. Little realising that they’re going to at least modify their opinions throughout their lives through experience and learning if they are a person open to change. There is nothing sadder than someone in their 50s and 60s with the same opinions as they had in their 20s.
Jordan Peterson, the most respectable man in modern politics/metapolitics, finally a video on the myth, the legend that is Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
People who believe in religious superstitions are not respectable. Facts over feelings
Hi, I'm Michael J.L. and I get a real big stiffy just drooling over laughable, posturing males like Mr. Peterson. I have no real personality, you see, so I cop one from Jordan..
Radio Jet hi I’m radio jet and my biggest contribution to society is leaving sarcastic RUclips comments
Cascadianow who are you?
In my opinion, and I do respect yours, It's not mainly about what he says. The respect he attains about his body language, his confidence, his voice tonality and his calm nature. If you take a winny, anxious and insecure kid practicing the same techniques as Mr Peterson, he will only be seen as agreeable and afraid of conflict.
This is just my opinion thou, you are sharing value with this video, these are indeed good points for getting respect, but as long as you dont fix you communications skills in a deeper level, no one - and I repeat - NO ONE will be compelled to listen. We make judgemente of who deserves our attention and respect in the first fraction of a second we meet, and we finish our assumptions by about 7 seconds. That being said, if you happen to present a weak impression, no amount of diplomacy and dialogue will change their opinion, even if you have the most important thing to say.
Cheers and keep up the good work.
Just a word of good critisism.
Forgive my bad english, it's not my first language and I'm in the process of learning.
Leonardo Gottgtroy also getting people to listen is considerably easier when you are a rugged elder man
I hate you people who write in basically perfect English then apologise that it’s not your first language... I wish I could write so fluently in another language
You should stop being apologetic of your "bad english", for you yourself know it is not bad. It almost seems like as if you were fishing for compliment. Btw you are raising some very good points. I myself have problems with bodylanguage and specifically with a small stutter. I hate when people and especially women just roll their eyes over when I get stuck on a word, or a phrase. My mind is literary screaming inside. For instance when I'm approaching a girl and I stutter in a first sentence I may just as well stop and walk away, because there is nothing in the universe that would steer her attention, or opinion back to me.
He had good body language because he has a deep faith and belief and a depth of knowledge. Good body confidence is not enough.
Sebi20070
I don't think they meant it literally: it was a funny, self-deprecating, backhanded compliment.
I always wondered 'how do these simple people become gurus to the masses?'. After watching Dr. Peterson for so long, I must admit he shows the answer again and again. He must've found the jewel in the heart, the source of all knowledge. If so, it wasn't easy, it took hard work to get to the top of his field, and then boom! Illumination. (I'm sure he doesn't have all the answers but the sensible truth flows right out of him).
To point 1, my philosophy: If I can't argue FOR my opposition, then I can't argue AGAINST them.
Seeing where they come from is necessary to connect, but it's also a safeguard for your personal beliefs. If they're not worthy of being challenged, then they're not worthy of having, let alone sharing.
I have massive respect for Peterson specifically because he's so calm and gracious whenever he can and should be, but he refrains from being a pushover. He can empathize and still disagree knowing his position better precisely because he's familiar with the opposite opinion.
Carlos Rodriguez , That is persiacly his Genius
I have this saved on one of my playlists, I think it is very insightful. I think we can put it into practice best by embracing the principals and honing our character. I think the principals are a respect and genuine care for all people and an empathy with their journey of trying to understand life. If this was taken as tools and techniques to gain respect and change peoples minds then it misses the point and people will see through it. I’ve heard people teach ways of showing that you are listening, leaning in, nodding head occasionally etc. Then I heard someone cut through all that who said, ‘ never mind trying to look like you are listening, just really listen and concentrate on trying to understand.’, concentrating on caring for someone else.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Any tips on how to think "faster on the spot"? I consistently feel like my processing speed is slow and am left looking like a deer in the headlights when debating, even over topics I am very knowledgeable on. Thanks.
That "down time" you spend thinking in a debate likely seems much longer to you (in your own head) than to anyone else. So don't force yourself to answer immediately - you're better off with a 5 second pause that lets you collect yourself than immediately jumping into a rambling response. If you've ever watched Elliott Hulse speak on camera (we have a video on him) he does an excellent job of allowing these breaks. If done right, without filler words, this time you take to collect your thoughts actually captures more attention because of the pregnant pause
I will watch the video, thanks for the response!
Embrace the speed of your thought processes. Generally speaking, taking time actually makes for a more well-rounded response that shows you grappled with the topic, and not just saying the first thing off the top.
If you pace your delivery (pausing to give people time to digest your words) as well as your thought process, you come across as someone who is knowledgeable as opposed to slow. Because you own the pauses, people will naturally listen more closely and take what you're saying on board. Chances are you're not as slow to respond as you think anyway - just look at the number of commas I used typing this lol
Dont worry too much about it sometimes its better to take your time and think before just jumping in and not thinking. Obama is a good example hes more deliberate when he talks with lots of pauses
Fahad Amin Obama was reading off of a teleprompter, he was actually quite bad at speaking off script
I am 50 years old and I have so much to learn
Thank you ❤
I love hearing all these clips of Peterson. He is so Canadian :) as a Canadian, I so appreciate hearing the way he talks (feels like home) vs the way Americans talk. The differences are almost undescribable, but you know it when you hear it.
Yay I love Jordan Peterson!!!
Daisy where’s Gatsby?
You're an avid RUclipsr
Chris Moyer Got em
I have to clean my room now