Trying Too Hard?
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- Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024
- Are you trying too hard to recover from TMS / Perceived Danger Pain?
Let's chat about how that may not be the best approach.
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Yes, trying to hard to fix myself and if not in direct relation to physical pain, it's the other, depression, anxiety . I'm constant trying to figure out what's wrong with me and fix it. I'm the meantime, life feels small and is passing me by comparing myself to others. So this message is reaching me in multiple levels.
Glad the message is helpful to you.
the less you care it goes away. Been through this 3x. It’s hard but it happens
It’s kind of like getting over a relationship that ended.
Hi Dan, when you say “ you care too much” a switch just went on. In general I am a caring person and I care a lot about family and people and always wanted to help others. I’m thoughtful and caring most of the time… but I never thought about that part of me caring too much in the pain and anxiety… I’m trying so hard to get it right and do the “right” thing.
Hmm very interesting , I’m giving pain and anxiety too much attention.. 🤔
You are right Dan. If you are busy all day with danger that is not there, the brain will assume the opposite and will not let go. I'm trying to make TMS not my daily mission and it's getting better and better. But I won't be able to do a day without your fantastic videos. I want to see them. My Daily Dosis Dan. Thank you 🙏!
Thrilled to be able to help.
Wil, are you saying you don’t google mindbody or TMS on a daily basis? I assume you keep yourself occupied with everyday activities instead???
😍 you go Dan 🙌 . I just say get out of my crazy head and go and do. I’m gonna make it. Fake it to you make it sometimes works lol
You can do this.
Dan, your words are always right on time. Absolutely this is part of what is hindering my full recovery. I’m trying to stay in the here and now and let my focus shift. I think all of us ruminate and obsess and it’s a lifelong habit for me, and wow it’s hard to break lol. Love how calm you are and how down to earth and normal and easy to understand your approach is. Your videos are keeping A LOT of people going and in a state of calm. Thank you endlessly for your words. Also, often, people with Mindbody issues lacked just hearing kind words from parents or caretakers on any regular basis, or any words of comfort, and your words really fill in that big void as we all learn to be our own cheerleaders and own best friends.
It's absolutely my pleasure Ellen.
Lol! You made me laugh with the “is it still there?” 😂😂 I do that sometimes 😐
It's so common. ;-)
The Spanish analogy is the bomb!! That clicked! Yes!! Love you, Dan!! I hope you know how much good you’re doing. All us TMSers are very determined and type A people and I didn’t even think that there is such a thing as TOO much too fast. Saturday, I had the BEST day I had in a long time because I told my brain, go bleep yourself, I’m having fun today. And bam I was fine. It was remarkable. Of course my brain went in hard on me on Sunday lol. But I know what that is now. It’s not because I overdid anything, it’s because my brain is conditioned to respond to me leaving the house and having fun by creating sensations. Living life is absolutely the answer. It’s HARD at first. Wow it’s hard. But that’s ok. One thing I know is every single person I’ve come across with this Mindbody syndrome is that we are all incredibly strong and resilient. We can do this. We can do hard things. We can be such an amazing example for the children in our lives, our peers in pain. Yes, resume life and stop obsessing. I just love ya!! You’re keeping me going.
Thank you Ellen. Laughing at you telling your brain to "bleep yourself". haha Love it.
Total freak out!!!!.
I've just come across your videos Dan. They are gold! Helpful on so many levels. Thank you❤❤ Yep definitely been trying too hard, and thinking I'm doing it wrong. Such a compelling, distracting, tiring and time consuming story I've been trapped in. I am flipping this story today. x
Wonderful! If you want the fundamentals and the path forward, check out my getting started page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
@@PainFreeYou Awesome, thank you ❣x
Caught... Thanks for this!
You bet!
Thank you for this. So helpful again. Do you have any advice or stories to share though how to cope with PDP when you are feeling under the weather or are actually sick? This is so hard when the body is actually coping with something, even when it’s just a cold.
Rest and relax. Trust the body. It knows what to do. There is no downside to the calming, reassuring, trust your body approach I teach. ;-)
but DAN!!!! i have had growing pain for the past few days, i don't know why, but when i just practice indifference, my brain just keeps causing the pain!!! i'll check in every now and then, but the pain is still there!!! it seems if i'm indifferent to the pain, my TMS brain becomes indifferent to my indifference and just keeps causing the pain... i need another clue, coz i'm NOT trying too hard!!
have you heard of HSPs? it stands for 'Highly Sensitive Person' and it means your nervous system is just on high key all the time, and I'm one of them, and i wonder if i'm ever going to be able to just be indifferent, coz my nervous system is wired differently... i don't know, maybe that's just another freak out :(
My first book was from a psychologist having fibromyalgia and being HSP.. she just noticed that HSP- people can easily get stressed out than others. In your recovery it just means that you have all the interest in avoiding as much stress as possible.. I am highly sensitive too but I see it as a big quality now and I don’t doubt that I will get better.. I have been healthy and full of energy for the first 40 years of my life! So don’t get scared! Hopefully your new symptoms will calm down soon!🙏😘
@@Inge508 yes, i definitely have to avoid stress, but as an HSP almost everything is stress lol i'm working on having fun, yes i said 'working on' having fun lol i never thought it would be this hard lolol so maybe i am trying too hard! i lost my health in my early 20s and i'm almost 60 now, i think i have reason to be scared lol
@@elaineremains I understand your struggle! What I admire about you is that you don’t seem to give in in bitterness.. always a lot of humor in your comments! But yes a clown can be really sad and scared inside! I strongly believe you will find your way out.. neuroplasticity works in every brain and until we are 💀!! Sending you lots of hope and less pain!🌺🌺🌺
@@Inge508 thank you sweetheart, yes, a clown can be sad and scared inside, sniff sniff... i just get 'down' like 'i wish everything didn't hurt so much!'... but i'm learning that i'm safe, i felt the words 'you ARE safe' move through my heart area a few days ago, and even though i feel myself calming down, for some reason, getting a message from God scared the heck out of my TMS brain lolol
If you're trying to be indifferent to eliminate the pain, that's not really authentic indifference. It sounds like feigned indifference expecting an outcome. Keep in mind, indifference is just one aspect of getting well.
Seems like the most important thing to do is letting go of obsessive compulsive emotions and behaviors.
Indeed
Yeah, had one of those weeks. 😩😂 Love the Spanish analogy... 'Whatever you do, don't think about a blue elephant with purple spots.' ... What did you just think of? Buenas noches. 😉🙏❤️
Love it!!
Ooo am i feeling better ? No , panic , do i need to see people ? Yes , panic ,
No need to panic. You can handle seeing people. ;-)
I am wondering if tms can cause slow stomach emptying. I know at least 3 people that have it.i think is stress of pandemic.
Stress suppresses both the immune and DIGESTIVE systems which can cause all sorts of irregularities. Stressing out about a stress caused digestive issue is like pouring gasoline on a fire and wondering why it won't go out. Trust your body. Offset stress with more self care and soothing.
Thanks Dan. I’ve been following TMS healing protocols for two months and it has really helped me regain my life. I actually just got back from a grueling Hawaii vacation (tons of family, sick kids, etc.) and did very well! WELL just found out I’m pregnant. My biggest concern is having to go to the drs for regular appts again because I don’t trust the system. I don’t want to be scared again by possible erratic blood pressure/heart rate readings (like before), having to explain that symptoms are due to overactive nervous system, etc.). Any advice on how to handle doctors post-TMS knowledge?
Yes. Trust your intuition. Don't monitor your vitals all day, every day. That can tend to cause us to be more hyper-vigilant and nervous. Breathe. Smile. Congrats! You will do great.
@@PainFreeYou Dan, what a wonderful person you are :) Thank you!