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I THINK You may have possibly been had Boderline personality disorder or narcicism... You got jelous his value got higher in ghana... (i am just a comedian and i am not a pyshoclogist) i am just giving my opinion and i hope you heal
Some of these comments are so disappointing. Shows that when it comes to women exercising their right to leave a bad marriage, people will always find a way to invalidate her experience or convince her it wasn’t that bad. Nobody runs from home if home isn’t on fire. No woman leaves a happy home with 4 kids unless she feels she HAS to.
@@eastpak2g6 of all the divorces how many of them do you think are included. There will always be outliers, they are not the majority or the rule. Please try and read between the lines, when I used the word “nobody”, of course I didn’t mean nobody, it’s a way to convert a point.
🚨Never look back, you did the right thing - take your time and find the next big thing ✊🏿. Financial infidelity and infidelity are red flags that should never be accepted as norm.
You will have to create your own spouse because what you want in life is not real and you will live to truly understands it or be ready to live alone for life.
What next big “thing”? Dela is a woman in her mid forties with 4 children. Quit the western ideas. Face is aging, doggy ears for tit$. Kids are all still pretty young. Her Daddy’s gone. Ya cmon, she needs her husband back. They can work it out …
@@LoveLove-bc9npIt’s better to be alone than to settle. Like the other commenter said, everyone should have boundaries. If you’re available to be a doormat then just say that.
@@84tahlia in Love there is no boundaries, loads of you are already failures in relationship/marriages before the problems present themselves. Love/marriage is commitment and toss your happiness through the roof
Can I just comment on how great and lovely you look here.. hair very nice makeup very nice and simple I love the white top ❤ everything will be okay my dear 😊May God give u strength n guide your path…give u inner peace n happiness 🙏🏾
It always breaks my heart to see a marriage break. Your union was one I admired. I even commented once complementing both of you. Your teamwork on camera seemed bliss to me. But I also understand it's better to leave than to suffer. To any single reading this comment. No marriage isn't hard; it's easy and joyous with the right one. Life in general isn't easy. But i believe God elevates couples that work together in love. I pray this book brings value to both the author and the reader. Congratulations Dela. May God bless your hustle.
You mean you know better than the apostle Paul who wrote half the New Testament and said “those who marry WILL have problems”? Marriage is easy? You know more than all those married 40+ years who almost unanimously say marriage is hard? Bro sit down!
@@PaultheSheik If you are having a bad day, it doesn't mean everybody is having a bad day. I'm loving my marriage life; and it's ok if you don't believe it. Have a lovely evening bud.
Hun lve been in London just got back. You grown now. Stand your ground speak your truth . As a people we are not trauma informed.especiallly the black community. I don't care whether you African West Indian. This interviewer is as a man pushing you as men do. He is not trauma informed at all. Such a difference when the interviewer is female. I for one , so proud of you. I've gone through such trauma in relationships it was not recognised then trauma is not something our community accepts. It's just go on, keep silent and bear it. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who is not my protector, provider. I for one thank you. I hope this book will open people,'s eyes. The naysayers wish they had the testicular fortitude you can. Big up yourself ❤❤❤
@@divadiva588 Typical gas lighting tactics from women. Speak your truth until the man starts speaking his truth and they would turn round and be like why is he talking.
When you read “infidelity , I skipped a heart beat. I’ve always felt connected to you somehow because I see myself in you. However you are stronger. I can’t get that mental clarity because deep down I’m not courageous enough or have to the guts . Glad you are sharing your truth.
It’s not for everyone to be as outspoken as I have been because it comes with its own issues. One day at a time. I didn’t get here overnight that’s for sure.
Consider selling your book in a PDF format for a few dollars less. It can be read on tablets for those overseas that want to save on shipping costs. Thanks
It's been some time, but I still hear the pain in your voice during the interview you were candid but chose your words wisely. Even reading the synopsis was obviously painful. Well done! Keep carrying on!
I do not like the interviewers interviewing style. It felt like the interviewer wanted Dela to say it was because of her why the marriage failed. Instead of asking what caused the relationship breakdown. His tone was harsh like he was re-enacting a bitter memory from his own past. Well Done Dela for being your true self despite the interviewers poor questioning.
Don’t forget Dela chose the INTERVIEWER AND MOST CERTAINLY, knew the what questions was coming her way. So I don’t what all this fuss and drama in your comments is about. We only know a bit about one side of the story- why don’t you ask about the other side of the story. As I man, we also have to respect his SILENCE. SHE IS SELLING A BOOK RIGHT???
If the interviewer had gone soft on her with his questions it’s the same people who would have accused both the interviewer & interviewee of maligning the ex- who was not in the recording
Perhaps his role was to play "devil's advocate", "negative You Tube commenters" and "those accusing her of abandoning her marriage" in order to answer the many questions and negative comments that she got. She talks about this in another podcast where she was a guest.
I didn’t know the questions that were going to be asked. I told him to go hard on me deliberately so that no one would accuse me of always being treated favourably
@@nanaobben5166 I know right. He tried so hard to gaslight her but she’s not your average person. She’s a walking example of “find that strength and leave before something worse happens”
I have to read your book, Dela. I went through something similar to the things you mentioned in your relationship. The only difference is that I was in my marriage for 30 years. Left the marriage at 50. I had to children.. I know you mentioned that you will never marry again.. 8 to 10 years' time, i think you will...The pain does go away.
Some of us are as sure as anything can be. 2yrs out of a very bad marriage, I know for sure I will never ever ever get married again. I love solitude, the peace that comes with it is amazing, never will I compromise that for anyone.
That is because you are still in the believing that men are good, when they are not. And you need to know in a w no dog in this fight. No man has ever traumatized me. But I have done on years -long journey of understanding me , and the goodness you witness is superficial. You never wondered why a window country of men will oppress women like in Afghanistan??? Is that because those men are good? When you don't know is almost every man I've spoken to, r as words from, analyzed, questioned, believes the same thing. If there ever come a time that what's going on in Afghanistan happens in America, or anywhere else, those men will embrace it 100%. ALL men.
I am gonna be honest, I used to watch how her ex husband spoke to her at times and I used to think huh, How can you be so rude. Or he would make ‘jokes’ which was really not funny. I think living in a toxic relationship can have a detrimental effect on the children so its better to leave, despite what people say about staying in the marriage for the kids. They will thank you for it later Dela 🥰
Couldn't agree more! I used to watch with unease sometimes when he hid his patronising behind 'jokes' and Dela would brave it by laughing it off. Always struck me so wrong. So glad you found the strength to put the toxicity behind you for your children's sake. Much love!
@@eileenwatt8283 what stupid assumptions and drama as usual , from you. Please tell me the other side before concluding. Give me a balance story. HIS STORY AS WELL!!!.
Sister Dela I first saw your home videos, fell in love with the family and have immense respect for you and the journey you are now on, because you are still standing. You’ll be ok Dela, your cup runner over!
Marriage is not an easy task. I am 41, I met my husband when i was 20 and we got married in 2012 when i was 30 years old. I have know him for a total of 22 years and being married officially for 12 years and 10 years into our marriage I began questioning myself. Not that i didn't love him but i felt i needed more especially growth. It seemed like our ideas drifted apart, he was contented where he was but i was looking for more. It made me bitter and i started asking who i was was. Marriage is not easy, both parties have to accept change and most especially communication at every step of the way. Yeah i am still in my marriage taking 1 day at a time and loving myself more. My husband has promised to be better and I have decided to give give him that chance because i believe in chances. What most men do not understand is that a woman cannot just walk out of her marriage overnight, she has thought about it for years and she has poured out her heart to husband in many different ways but they don't seem to see it
@@gerried1218 The answer is right there in your comment, you married potential, he married you not expecting to change, you married him with fairytales in your head.
@Neddie2k you see your comment, this is an example of judging a book by its cover. You don't know my struggles and you don't what I bring to the table in this marriage. If I married expecting fairy tales, there is nothing wrong with it as long as that fairy tale was to be with the person I cherished and was also willing to share the bills with in order to reduce the burden and make life easy for all of us. Do you know how tiring it is to be with someone who does not want to grow? I am not asking to change my husband because you cannot change a person but I am asking him to adapt to the changes in life. I support my husband in everything even without him asking because I feel we are one, I bring business ideas and he does not want to engage in, always saying he will think about it. I don't ask him for anything but I do give him gifts and it will take me to talk to him to appreciate me before he will do it. My father passed away, my husband did not give me any money as his contribution towards the funeral and recently he wanted to travel for his mother's Thanksgiving ceremony, I gave him my money as my contribution. Your comment is so blank and I bet you are a man. A woman who has spent years with a man does not just wake up and walk out of her marriage. She has observed, given you chances and has also talked to you about it
There we go. Another woman who believes she’s OUTGROWN her husband and she’s “given him a chance”. Damn I could literally taste the condescension. No surprise 80% of the time it’s women who file for divorce. But no, they’re not marriage wreckers, they simply “outgrew” the marriage. Lol
You’re so damn selfish. I’m pretty sure there are men who you also couldn’t keep up with if they married you. I guess you’d be happy if they ditched you with the explanation they “outgrew” you. You’re so selfish you don’t even realize how terrible you sounded. Outgrew indeed!
I feel exactly how she feels after going through a similar experience. I thank God that I didn’t spend as much time wasted. It is nonetheless traumatic. There is purpose in pain and as women we have to support and champion each other. You Dela, are brave and bold and I thank you for this interview. You are not alone.
The one who decides to leave is the one that was loving so much that they got exploited. As soon as I see a couple i can quickly see the underdog that is loving too much and most likely being exploited/dominated. They will be the one to go/initiate the split.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 wow, wow, wow. I can’t applaud you enough for being so candid, open and honest. I can’t wait to read the book. I knew something happened with your relationship and wondered what happened but the spark in your eye and fullness I heard in your voice in these recent videos made me not care to be “nosey”. I was more happy to see you appear to be whole. 🙏🏽👍🏾👏🏾
@@moretodela I spent yesterday listening to the audio book and when I tell you, you made me and women everywhere PROUD. I can’t say thank you enough. You will help change may lives by sharing your experiences, wisdom and words of encouragement.
No Guarantees In Any Marriage. It Is Also Ok To Be Single If Your Marriage Is Becoming Toxic Or Causing You Stress. I Walked Away From A Depressing Marriage With Joy, Happiness And Freedom And Peace Of Mind. I Am Now Happily Single With Pride. Focusing On My Teenager Daughter's Future And Her Education In Nursing Until She Graduate. I Am Not Looking For Any Relationship And I Will Never Bring Any Man Inside My House That Are Not Families. Don't Bring Any Man That You Are Sleeping With Home To Your Daughters. Always Protect Them. Don't Leave Your Man Alone With Your Daughters
Quite a difficult interview. Sounded like you were being blamed for leaving. Am sure the levelling of disrespecting "him" or " did you ever love him" questions could have been framed more sensitively. Divorce is always difficult for all and the impact on the children is almost always underestimated. Be strong and do your best for them. In time we pray he will come round to engaging with the children and co parent with you amicably. By the way, what is the name of the book? Well done❤
I know that this might sound crazy to some, but I've always liked Dela but in a strange way, this short interview made me love this beautiful, strong soul. You make me proud to spell my name WOMAN. I'm so looking forward to reading this book❤
Also, Dela- you are believed! We believe you. We ultimately all make mistakes, but usually in these things, divorce happens not because of the mistakes but because one person refuses to change or grow. You have shown that you were looking to grow, I want to give you a medal for that! You have done the work! We are so proud of you for making it this far!
What Medal? Best divorcee award? Rather, pray for her to overcome a decision that's torturing her life and causing her to talk too much online. I bet Kwame has become a king to another woman, and her heart is still beating so fast 😂. 2024, and you divorced a guy in his 40s, Good Luck!
@@gb6041 if you don’t quickly find nyansa instead of commenting bola on this thread? Nipa ben kraa will comment something like this? Someone who is not correct, that’s who!
Marriage is not easy because two imperfect and often unaware of their own traumas get together and when you bring kids and extended family into the mix things can get pretty difficult. My husband and I met when we both moved to Ghana years ago and made the decision to move back to Europe when we had our first child. We both knew that adding the financial stress of living in Ghana to our fresh marriage wouldn’t have been smart. There are two roles that society has failed to prepare us for and the first one is the role of a spouse. The second one is that of a parent. You did the best you could with the tools you were given.
For people to judge her the way they did in the comments. Africans digust me. I kept quiet, never commented, i knew one day she may open up and if she doesn't I respect that too. Thank you for sharing. May the Lord lead to connect with a man who is your equal in spirit.
"Africans disgust me"...? A handful of bad comments from people we couldn't positively identify, and you've generalised it to all Africans. What about the majority of Africans that didn't comment?
In today's world, where the 'me too movement' has often prejudged men before they have a chance to speak, the husband's silence is particularly noteworthy. Despite this challenging environment, he puts the needs of his children first, ensuring they are protected from any potential harm that might arise from his words.
Dela, yes marriage is hard at times and believe me when I say from experience the 43 years of marriage. Men and Women are complete opposites and the good Lord make it that war for a purpose. It takes two very, very strong people to make the commitment into marriage. But, with that being said, I wasn't able to stay in the marriage anymore and in 2015 ran off to Ghana and found my next love. Thanks! for sharing your story.
Continue to shine brightly Dela. Have watched your videos for quite sometime now, and can see just how much you are blossoming from then until now..😍🙌🙌
May God keep you strong Dela. This is sad. I have followed your journey since the Covid and it was a source of entertainment to me not knowing behind was pain and sorrow . Virtual hugs 🤗
Host ask some great questions-professionalism at its finest!! I’m amazed by her confession however, it’s a lesson for everyone to ponder on. It’s a shame
Dela respect to you!!! Thank you for being so brave and for empowering me to finally leave my marriage so that I can be who I was meant to be! My marriage died a long time ago but have stayed because it’s the easier option and my comfort zone but knowing that I am not the only one walking this path leaves me feeling stronger and confident enough to walk away from a relationship that has not worked for me!!! My marriage was the biggest mistake!!!
Dela, you're an amazingly strong and inspirational woman and my admiration for you has just gone through the roof. The first time I saw you on RUclips, years ago, I knew you were special and you've never made me think otherwise. Thank you for your courage in sharing your story and helping to give clarity and courage to some of us about our own situations. I can't wait to read your book!
Men you get no hand claps of praise for staying in relationships where yr not happy. Men will stay in a relationship and not be happy but will get their needs fulfilled on the side whereas if women can't get what they need, they eventually leave.
Just discovered you. Thank you so much for generously and courageously sharing your story. I am so sorry for what you have faced, yet so pleased you are doing well now. I wondered if you have ever done an MBTI personality test - you are giving me wonderful INFJ vibes. Much love, a new subbie 💜
So proud of you Sister Dela, I have always known you are going to do great things and my hope as you walk through this journey of life it will bring you. back on another level with Jesus and your relationship with Jehovah our Precious Father. He is the only one who can fill that void you spoke about. We should be His bride first before we can be a bride to any man that has a true progressive reflection of who our Lord Jesus Christ is. Your doing Well Sis, keep going, staying true to yourself. Your test will be a testimony and your mess a message that many will learn from and take courage to walk in their own truth and make decisions that may be difficult but will strengthen their resolve to take that step to be heard,...... to be counted. I say this as I have a story too, maybe not like yours, but it is a story nevertheless that needs to be told in Gods perfect timing. I am praying that at the end of all this, there will many joyous and victorious years ahead. God bless you and your familly. Many of us are rooting for your successes. Amen 🙏🙏❤
@@gb6041 for the very fact that Dela is willing to put herself out there and tell her story is a testimony in itself. Many do not have the courage to do so. Many shroud their pain in secrecy. Divorce is not a testimony but how your position yourself and rise above the pain of divorce because the testimony. When I referred to Dela doing great things, I talking about her divorce but more so her approach to trauma of divorce. I am a product of divorced parents and it was horrific for me and watching mother become a shadow of her former self within the marriage then coming out and rushing into a second one that was worse than the first. So I know what I am talking about. I wish my mother had taken the step to find herself and discover herself before even thinking of remarriage. Now she is sad elderly lady who failed at both marriages due to poor choices and giving herself time to find herself grow and evolve. This is what I applaud Dela for. Once you know thyself, you able to make wiser more informed choice. You will be able to know what will work for you and with you and even more so when Jesus is at the centre of all that you do. God bless you
I'm proud of you, Dela! You have come such a long way. You always have to do what is best for your soul. Life is so short, and you have to strive for your best life. Bravo!!!
Your RUclips followers were also very invested in you and your families dreams. Doesn’t make any easier to go through this publicly. Really sorry things turned out how they have Miss. Can’t be easy for any of you. Be well.
Respect is earned it’s not just given. It not the easiest thing for a mother and or to leave a marriage with children. Women generally sacrifice a lot just to keep a marriage and family together.
Men will stay in a relationship and not be happy but will get their needs fulfilled on the side whereas if women can't get what they need they eventually leave.
Men always come at last.. nobody gives a f*k about us.. this guy was even holding the camera at the beginning, he was the filmer and supporter of her foundation on her channels. Listen if he was so horrible, she wouldn't have stayed 18 Years, NEVER! He did his best, may God bless him and strengthen him... maybe there were some harassment here and there, or some sidechicks as usual😅... but why is a man a man?.. we do what we have to do. Is as simple as that.
@kowazzuri3146 sometimes this happens. I was going to leave after my second child, then I found out I was expecting baby number 3, then couldn't leave. The marriage eventually ended, but this does happen...people go on to have many children in a marriage that is not serving them
1:14 - Dela is being vulnerable sharing her experience and the interviewer is asking her to list 20 good things the man did?? It's clear that the trauma is deep. Why not empathize rather than try to turn her into finding good in the man that hurt her. This is an example of men not listening to women when they experience pain. Why is he saying she is focusing on 1 or 2 bad things. I am already annoyed by this interviewer.
@@IvyProsper a typical "me too mentality". What did you expect, that he sympathizes with her and shy from asking the hard questions. Women are not as innocent and vulnerable as babies as the likes if you want us to believe. It was his job to scrutinize her statements and he did a great job.
Dela, I don’t have to read your book your story sounds similar to mind. Married for 20 years… the day I told him I wanted a divorce…lol I move on with grace.. I now have (3) properties one in Brooklyn Ny one in Atlanta GA and one in North Carolina USA.. Don’t worry God don’t put more on you that you can’t handle… you had to make that decisions which would benefit your children most of all. Much love you will be a millionaire on your own.
The interviewer needs to understand that yes a person can do a million good things but one bad thing erases the million things because the bad thing is so destructive to the person it's done to. A person who has been an upstanding citizen suddenly commits a crime. He's going to jail regardless if he was an upstanding citizen. That's how the world works. A woman with 4 children building s house in a country where she's been away from.is not easy..if it was a good marriage she wouldn't have left. Some woman left that interviewer and he's projecting his hurt unto Dela. He's like most men who don't understand why women leave them.
@@moretodela oh no, just seeing this message now. I'm 13mins into your audiobook. At 5m36secs - already a best seller pick💥! I hope I can catch a live one day ❤💛🖤💚
Nearly every question he asked her placed her husband as the Victim and Dela as the assailant under interrogation. Dela, why did you subject yourself to this?
@@HoneyBunches100 Agree. I didn't like his interviewing style at all. Completely unbalanced in the favour of one party. Dela was generous to answer, because I've have told him where to go after a while! 🤣🤣🤣
Maybe she wanted a more aggressive interviewer to push her and get more out of her.But I think she would have done better maybe being interviewed by someone like Tim Who is she seems to have built up a great rapport with when they have done interviews before or when he has appeared on her panel show.
@SS-ly covid 19 was a sad development that we all endured...Dela's relationship is a worldwide issue, no different than the pandemic. We applaud her for taking the lead in addressing it.
It must have been so difficult to leave. When a woman leaves it is not usually out of the blue but due to long standing issues she has been tirelessly communicating to the point she is drained and feels unheard /unappreciated. Men - seek counsel to understand your woman and vice versa. Sharing the story publically...I can understand arguments on both sides.
Its actually the opposite, people who are hurt the most avoid talking about it because of the genuine pain. People who talk about it, are usually the ones who are more concerned about their image, and doing everything possible to get people on their side.
Hum another science rocket ? but until today Africa men havent built any weapon to protect their land 😂 keep that same energy gaslighting black women for the white man 🤣 have some 🍒
On what was their marriage based? What precepts, what principles....did they undergo counseling before marriage to make sure they were compatible and understood and accepted each other's strengths, weaknesses, pet peeves, love language, and were clear on what they needed from each other to feel safe, protected, heard, and respected. Finally, did they understand that marriage is a sacred covenant which shouldn't be entered into lightly? Couples should do the work prior to marriage so they understand what they need to do in order to maintain the relationship.
Marriages abroad are %10000⁰0000⁰% different than our motherland Ghana. We display every attitude in different ways. Trust me, both genders show their hidden side. But in all. No physical Soul should live in an abusive relationship. TankQ u.
Some women/men should never have anything to do with marriage because they don’t understand what commitment means. Single people goes into relationship behaving as single, divorce is inevitable. Understand relationship and understand your happiness is not part of your relationship.
when i first saw your vids, he was very patronizing the way he spoke to you. I remember saying to myself "ah so of all the ghanaian guys she chose this arrogant one?"
I would never read one word out of your book. I watched you both built that house. He was very instrumental in the progress and as soon as you were almost done, you kicked the dude out, talking about tough times. Thats what a marriage is all about. TOUGH TIMES, WORK THROUGH IT.
You can do what you like but until you’ve read the book all you doing is making assumptions that are baseless. Making assumptions without full understanding makes you…?
@@moretodelalet them evil men talk. We know whats up Dela. They re bitter thats why they re oppressing women instead if fighting the white man who are oppressing them. Women are not a punching ball They will learn the hard way...when they cant oppress you they will start to unalive their own family it s already started ...a plague
Did he say list TWENTY things you liked about your husband!? 20??? What does he want you to do Dela, write a poem about him. Jesus that was an unreasonable excessive question to ask.
No, real men solve their problems and don't talk about it for sympathy. I suspect some other woman wants him. The time is 2024. All he needs to do is take care of his kids
Men don't understand that their behavior cause a woman to leave them. They will behave badly and expects the woman to over look it and go along while being disrespectful.
My days this social media life boy I couldn’t have my life on blast lake this. Good for you for having the discussion. Thanks for sharing your story. Gosh you had ‘a love’, after 18 years. That does sound tragic. Love is a choice so if it’s difficult to word that what does that even mean wow. .
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Congratulations on this milestone Dela.😘
I THINK You may have possibly been had Boderline personality disorder or narcicism... You got jelous his value got higher in ghana... (i am just a comedian and i am not a pyshoclogist) i am just giving my opinion and i hope you heal
Ridiculous
Thank you
@@moretodela I'm trying to purchased the audio with my mastercard
Self awareness here is beautiful to watch
Some of these comments are so disappointing. Shows that when it comes to women exercising their right to leave a bad marriage, people will always find a way to invalidate her experience or convince her it wasn’t that bad. Nobody runs from home if home isn’t on fire. No woman leaves a happy home with 4 kids unless she feels she HAS to.
“Feels “ is the critical word…I wonder how many men don’t act on their feelings in marriage
well said!!
@@geniusinvestorGHThey do all the time
Nobody? We've heard women leave cos their husband was "too nice"
@@eastpak2g6 of all the divorces how many of them do you think are included. There will always be outliers, they are not the majority or the rule. Please try and read between the lines, when I used the word “nobody”, of course I didn’t mean nobody, it’s a way to convert a point.
You are beautiful Dela👏💜💜💜 waking up our brothers to be better husbands and fathers 😊
Thank you 🙏🏾
🚨Never look back, you did the right thing - take your time and find the next big thing ✊🏿. Financial infidelity and infidelity are red flags that should never be accepted as norm.
You will have to create your own spouse because what you want in life is not real and you will live to truly understands it or be ready to live alone for life.
What next big “thing”? Dela is a woman in her mid forties with 4 children. Quit the western ideas. Face is aging, doggy ears for tit$. Kids are all still pretty young. Her Daddy’s gone. Ya cmon, she needs her husband back. They can work it out …
@@LoveLove-bc9npblah blah blah … we all need boundaries… you clearly will sacrifice your mental health in the name of marriage… that’s misery
@@LoveLove-bc9npIt’s better to be alone than to settle. Like the other commenter said, everyone should have boundaries. If you’re available to be a doormat then just say that.
@@84tahlia in Love there is no boundaries, loads of you are already failures in relationship/marriages before the problems present themselves. Love/marriage is commitment and toss your happiness through the roof
Can I just comment on how great and lovely you look here.. hair very nice makeup very nice and simple I love the white top ❤ everything will be okay my dear 😊May God give u strength n guide your path…give u inner peace n happiness 🙏🏾
Thank you 🙏🏾 😊
It always breaks my heart to see a marriage break. Your union was one I admired. I even commented once complementing both of you. Your teamwork on camera seemed bliss to me. But I also understand it's better to leave than to suffer.
To any single reading this comment. No marriage isn't hard; it's easy and joyous with the right one. Life in general isn't easy. But i believe God elevates couples that work together in love.
I pray this book brings value to both the author and the reader.
Congratulations Dela. May God bless your hustle.
You mean you know better than the apostle Paul who wrote half the New Testament and said “those who marry WILL have problems”? Marriage is easy? You know more than all those married 40+ years who almost unanimously say marriage is hard? Bro sit down!
@@PaultheSheik Its easy for me. What are you going to do about it???
@@MickeyAgyei Nothing. Just calling out your hollow bullshit lol
@@PaultheSheik If you are having a bad day, it doesn't mean everybody is having a bad day. I'm loving my marriage life; and it's ok if you don't believe it. Have a lovely evening bud.
Hun lve been in London just got back. You grown now. Stand your ground speak your truth . As a people we are not trauma informed.especiallly the black community. I don't care whether you African West Indian. This interviewer is as a man pushing you as men do. He is not trauma informed at all. Such a difference when the interviewer is female. I for one , so proud of you. I've gone through such trauma in relationships it was not recognised then trauma is not something our community accepts. It's just go on, keep silent and bear it. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who is not my protector, provider. I for one thank you. I hope this book will open people,'s eyes. The naysayers wish they had the testicular fortitude you can. Big up yourself ❤❤❤
@@divadiva588 Typical gas lighting tactics from women. Speak your truth until the man starts speaking his truth and they would turn round and be like why is he talking.
When you read “infidelity , I skipped a heart beat. I’ve always felt connected to you somehow because I see myself in you. However you are stronger. I can’t get that mental clarity because deep down I’m not courageous enough or have to the guts . Glad you are sharing your truth.
It’s not for everyone to be as outspoken as I have been because it comes with its own issues. One day at a time. I didn’t get here overnight that’s for sure.
@@moretodelaBless you. You are free. KEEP soaring.
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Deep, marriage is not a joke, my married friends never ask me when I’m getting married, only the single unmarried ones. I just want to be sure enough
imagine
Consider selling your book in a PDF format for a few dollars less. It can be read on tablets for those overseas that want to save on shipping costs. Thanks
Yes, I have an audio and ebook version. The link is in the description box
It's been some time, but I still hear the pain in your voice during the interview you were candid but chose your words wisely. Even reading the synopsis was obviously painful. Well done! Keep carrying on!
Thank you for sharing, Dela, a courageous step.
Oh I’m not in pain lol
I do not like the interviewers interviewing style. It felt like the interviewer wanted Dela to say it was because of her why the marriage failed. Instead of asking what caused the relationship breakdown.
His tone was harsh like he was re-enacting a bitter memory from his own past.
Well Done Dela for being your true self despite the interviewers poor questioning.
Don’t forget Dela chose the INTERVIEWER AND MOST CERTAINLY, knew the what questions was coming her way. So I don’t what all this fuss and drama in your comments is about. We only know a bit about one side of the story- why don’t you ask about the other side of the story. As I man, we also have to respect his SILENCE. SHE IS SELLING A BOOK RIGHT???
"His tone was harsh like he was re-enacting a bitter memory from his own past".
If the interviewer had gone soft on her with his questions it’s the same people who would have accused both the interviewer & interviewee of maligning the ex- who was not in the recording
Perhaps his role was to play "devil's advocate", "negative You Tube commenters" and "those accusing her of abandoning her marriage" in order to answer the many questions and negative comments that she got. She talks about this in another podcast where she was a guest.
I didn’t know the questions that were going to be asked. I told him to go hard on me deliberately so that no one would accuse me of always being treated favourably
Sad to see people care more about the institute of marriage than the well-being of the human beings in the marriage.
Having an interview about being gaslighted by a narcissist while being gaslighted by a narcissist as an interviewer. Sheeshhh
Preach!
It's as if the EX husband sent him!
@@nanaobben5166 I know right. He tried so hard to gaslight her but she’s not your average person. She’s a walking example of “find that strength and leave before something worse happens”
@@Adebuea I couldn't agree with you more. And not only his words but his tone as well...was a problem.
@@nanaobben5166We've only ever heard her speak,so of course he'll ask questions a certain way
I have to read your book, Dela. I went through something similar to the things you mentioned in your relationship. The only difference is that I was in my marriage for 30 years. Left the marriage at 50. I had to children.. I know you mentioned that you will never marry again.. 8 to 10 years' time, i think you will...The pain does go away.
Some of us are as sure as anything can be. 2yrs out of a very bad marriage, I know for sure I will never ever ever get married again. I love solitude, the peace that comes with it is amazing, never will I compromise that for anyone.
That is because you are still in the believing that men are good, when they are not. And you need to know in a w no dog in this fight. No man has ever traumatized me. But I have done on years -long journey of understanding me , and the goodness you witness is superficial.
You never wondered why a window country of men will oppress women like in Afghanistan??? Is that because those men are good? When you don't know is almost every man I've spoken to, r as words from, analyzed, questioned, believes the same thing. If there ever come a time that what's going on in Afghanistan happens in America, or anywhere else, those men will embrace it 100%. ALL men.
Well done for sharing your story. I'm sure it will bless a lot of people in many ways.
You all do this social media things and expect the next guy to be what exactly?
Tough questions but you handled it so well. Well done Dela ❤
Thank you
I am gonna be honest, I used to watch how her ex husband spoke to her at times and I used to think huh, How can you be so rude.
Or he would make ‘jokes’ which was really not funny.
I think living in a toxic relationship can have a detrimental effect on the children so its better to leave, despite what people say about staying in the marriage for the kids.
They will thank you for it later Dela 🥰
Absolutely
Couldn't agree more! I used to watch with unease sometimes when he hid his patronising behind 'jokes' and Dela would brave it by laughing it off. Always struck me so wrong. So glad you found the strength to put the toxicity behind you for your children's sake. Much love!
Dela I feel you girl. Life is a journey and as such the journey continues. We pray for health; strength, wealth and long life ❤
For Dela to call it Quits, I definitely know it was really BAD. Cheers to strong women 🥂🥂.
Cheers to a strong woman who's being haunted by the ghost and hangover of divorce and can't get over it. Wish her luck 😂
@@gb6041 the man cause her trauma..Trauma takes time to heal from
@@eileenwatt8283 there are two sides to every story and men are always the demons
@@eileenwatt8283 what stupid assumptions and drama as usual , from you. Please tell me the other side before concluding. Give me a balance story. HIS STORY AS WELL!!!.
@@eileenwatt8283have you heard his side of the story?
Sister Dela I first saw your home videos, fell in love with the family and have immense respect for you and the journey you are now on, because you are still standing. You’ll be ok Dela, your cup runner over!
Surely goodness and mercy 😅😅😅
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Marriage is not an easy task. I am 41, I met my husband when i was 20 and we got married in 2012 when i was 30 years old. I have know him for a total of 22 years and being married officially for 12 years and 10 years into our marriage I began questioning myself. Not that i didn't love him but i felt i needed more especially growth. It seemed like our ideas drifted apart, he was contented where he was but i was looking for more. It made me bitter and i started asking who i was was. Marriage is not easy, both parties have to accept change and most especially communication at every step of the way. Yeah i am still in my marriage taking 1 day at a time and loving myself more. My husband has promised to be better and I have decided to give give him that chance because i believe in chances. What most men do not understand is that a woman cannot just walk out of her marriage overnight, she has thought about it for years and she has poured out her heart to husband in many different ways but they don't seem to see it
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@@gerried1218 The answer is right there in your comment, you married potential, he married you not expecting to change, you married him with fairytales in your head.
@Neddie2k you see your comment, this is an example of judging a book by its cover. You don't know my struggles and you don't what I bring to the table in this marriage. If I married expecting fairy tales, there is nothing wrong with it as long as that fairy tale was to be with the person I cherished and was also willing to share the bills with in order to reduce the burden and make life easy for all of us. Do you know how tiring it is to be with someone who does not want to grow? I am not asking to change my husband because you cannot change a person but I am asking him to adapt to the changes in life. I support my husband in everything even without him asking because I feel we are one, I bring business ideas and he does not want to engage in, always saying he will think about it. I don't ask him for anything but I do give him gifts and it will take me to talk to him to appreciate me before he will do it. My father passed away, my husband did not give me any money as his contribution towards the funeral and recently he wanted to travel for his mother's Thanksgiving ceremony, I gave him my money as my contribution. Your comment is so blank and I bet you are a man. A woman who has spent years with a man does not just wake up and walk out of her marriage. She has observed, given you chances and has also talked to you about it
There we go. Another woman who believes she’s OUTGROWN her husband and she’s “given him a chance”. Damn I could literally taste the condescension. No surprise 80% of the time it’s women who file for divorce. But no, they’re not marriage wreckers, they simply “outgrew” the marriage. Lol
You’re so damn selfish. I’m pretty sure there are men who you also couldn’t keep up with if they married you. I guess you’d be happy if they ditched you with the explanation they “outgrew” you. You’re so selfish you don’t even realize how terrible you sounded.
Outgrew indeed!
I feel exactly how she feels after going through a similar experience. I thank God that I didn’t spend as much time wasted. It is nonetheless traumatic. There is purpose in pain and as women we have to support and champion each other. You Dela, are brave and bold and I thank you for this interview. You are not alone.
Thank you ☺️
Exactly people who want wholesome lives have to support and champion each other. There's no settling for foolishness.
The one who decides to leave is the one that was loving so much that they got exploited. As soon as I see a couple i can quickly see the underdog that is loving too much and most likely being exploited/dominated. They will be the one to go/initiate the split.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 wow, wow, wow. I can’t applaud you enough for being so candid, open and honest. I can’t wait to read the book. I knew something happened with your relationship and wondered what happened but the spark in your eye and fullness I heard in your voice in these recent videos made me not care to be “nosey”. I was more happy to see you appear to be whole. 🙏🏽👍🏾👏🏾
Thank you. I’m definitely very happy and living life…finally
@@moretodela I spent yesterday listening to the audio book and when I tell you, you made me and women everywhere PROUD. I can’t say thank you enough. You will help change may lives by sharing your experiences, wisdom and words of encouragement.
🥹🥹🥹. Thank you so much. I really put my everything into it. I’m so happy you liked it. 🤎🤎🤎
No Guarantees In Any Marriage. It Is Also Ok To Be Single If Your Marriage Is Becoming Toxic Or Causing You Stress. I Walked Away From A Depressing Marriage With Joy, Happiness And Freedom And Peace Of Mind. I Am Now Happily Single With Pride. Focusing On My Teenager Daughter's Future And Her Education In Nursing Until She Graduate. I Am Not Looking For Any Relationship And I Will Never Bring Any Man Inside My House That Are Not Families. Don't Bring Any Man That You Are Sleeping With Home To Your Daughters. Always Protect Them. Don't Leave Your Man Alone With Your Daughters
Please don't also miseducate your girls about men. Single older women usually keep younger women single.
Quite a difficult interview. Sounded like you were being blamed for leaving. Am sure the levelling of disrespecting "him" or " did you ever love him" questions could have been framed more sensitively.
Divorce is always difficult for all and the impact on the children is almost always underestimated. Be strong and do your best for them. In time we pray he will come round to engaging with the children and co parent with you amicably.
By the way, what is the name of the book? Well done❤
I wasn’t being blamed at all. The book is called Eighteen Years from “I do” to “what did I do” the link is on the comments
The interviewer couldn’t get past his own personal views-UGHH! Very biased questions!
@@T-Richrich I completely agree with you!
I know that this might sound crazy to some, but I've always liked Dela but in a strange way, this short interview made me love this beautiful, strong soul. You make me proud to spell my name WOMAN. I'm so looking forward to reading this book❤
Awwwwwwww 🥹 thank you
@@moretodela 💕
Also, Dela- you are believed! We believe you. We ultimately all make mistakes, but usually in these things, divorce happens not because of the mistakes but because one person refuses to change or grow.
You have shown that you were looking to grow, I want to give you a medal for that! You have done the work! We are so proud of you for making it this far!
🥹🥹🥹. Thank you! 🥹🥹🥹
What Medal? Best divorcee award? Rather, pray for her to overcome a decision that's torturing her life and causing her to talk too much online. I bet Kwame has become a king to another woman, and her heart is still beating so fast 😂. 2024, and you divorced a guy in his 40s, Good Luck!
@@gb6041if you don’t go back to the hole that you crawled from, and stop leaving these revolting comments?
@@gb6041 if you don’t quickly find nyansa instead of commenting bola on this thread?
Nipa ben kraa will comment something like this? Someone who is not correct, that’s who!
sometimes we have to make hard choices for our own mental wellbeing especially when we have children depending on us. Stay strong my sister.
This has me in tears. I am so sorry. xxx
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Marriage is not easy because two imperfect and often unaware of their own traumas get together and when you bring kids and extended family into the mix things can get pretty difficult.
My husband and I met when we both moved to Ghana years ago and made the decision to move back to Europe when we had our first child. We both knew that adding the financial stress of living in Ghana to our fresh marriage wouldn’t have been smart.
There are two roles that society has failed to prepare us for and the first one is the role of a spouse.
The second one is that of a parent.
You did the best you could with the tools you were given.
Girl!! You’re glowing!!!
For people to judge her the way they did in the comments. Africans digust me. I kept quiet, never commented, i knew one day she may open up and if she doesn't I respect that too. Thank you for sharing. May the Lord lead to connect with a man who is your equal in spirit.
Africans disgust you, really?
"Africans disgust me"...?
A handful of bad comments from people we couldn't positively identify, and you've generalised it to all Africans. What about the majority of Africans that didn't comment?
In today's world, where the 'me too movement' has often prejudged men before they have a chance to speak, the husband's silence is particularly noteworthy. Despite this challenging environment, he puts the needs of his children first, ensuring they are protected from any potential harm that might arise from his words.
Africans can disgust you all you want, we don't live by your rules
😂😂😂. Where did you get the knowledge that he puts his kids first please?
Dela, yes marriage is hard at times and believe me when I say from experience the 43 years of marriage. Men and Women are complete opposites and the good Lord make it that war for a purpose. It takes two very, very strong people to make the commitment into marriage. But, with that being said, I wasn't able to stay in the marriage anymore and in 2015 ran off to Ghana and found my next love. Thanks! for sharing your story.
Continue to shine brightly Dela. Have watched your videos for quite sometime now, and can see just how much you are blossoming from then until now..😍🙌🙌
Thank you
May God keep you strong Dela. This is sad. I have followed your journey since the Covid and it was a source of entertainment to me not knowing behind was pain and sorrow . Virtual hugs 🤗
Dela a strong powerful Queen.
Host ask some great questions-professionalism at its finest!! I’m amazed by her confession however, it’s a lesson for everyone to ponder on. It’s a shame
Wow! I can’t wait to purchase.
Dela respect to you!!! Thank you for being so brave and for empowering me to finally leave my marriage so that I can be who I was meant to be! My marriage died a long time ago but have stayed because it’s the easier option and my comfort zone but knowing that I am not the only one walking this path leaves me feeling stronger and confident enough to walk away from a relationship that has not worked for me!!! My marriage was the biggest mistake!!!
Do what is right for you and no one else! Only you know what is for the best. I’m always here 🤎
@@moretodela Oh yes indeed. Thank you.
Well done, can't wait for the book. Please get it on audible asap.
Yes it will be ready on release day 13th July
Dela, you're an amazingly strong and inspirational woman and my admiration for you has just gone through the roof. The first time I saw you on RUclips, years ago, I knew you were special and you've never made me think otherwise. Thank you for your courage in sharing your story and helping to give clarity and courage to some of us about our own situations. I can't wait to read your book!
Thank you 🥹🤎
Marriage is not a fairy tale. It's hard work.
Men you get no hand claps of praise for staying in relationships where yr not happy. Men will stay in a relationship and not be happy but will get their needs fulfilled on the side whereas if women can't get what they need, they eventually leave.
I need to buy the book to fully understand you dela so I’ll purchase and come back and give my thoughts on it 🙏🏾
I would love that. Looking forward to your feedback.
Just discovered you. Thank you so much for generously and courageously sharing your story. I am so sorry for what you have faced, yet so pleased you are doing well now. I wondered if you have ever done an MBTI personality test - you are giving me wonderful INFJ vibes. Much love, a new subbie 💜
Hi, thank you so much. Glad to have you here 😊🙏🏾
Well done Dela! More strength and blessings to you and your kids on your journey.
Okay, now I really want to buy your book!!!!!
Hahaha it’s out on audio. The link is in the description box 😉
So proud of you Sister Dela, I have always known you are going to do great things and my hope as you walk through this journey of life it will bring you. back on another level with Jesus and your relationship with Jehovah our Precious Father. He is the only one who can fill that void you spoke about. We should be His bride first before we can be a bride to any man that has a true progressive reflection of who our Lord Jesus Christ is. Your doing Well Sis, keep going, staying true to yourself. Your test will be a testimony and your mess a message that many will learn from and take courage to walk in their own truth and make decisions that may be difficult but will strengthen their resolve to take that step to be heard,...... to be counted. I say this as I have a story too, maybe not like yours, but it is a story nevertheless that needs to be told in Gods perfect timing. I am praying that at the end of all this, there will many joyous and victorious years ahead. God bless you and your familly. Many of us are rooting for your successes. Amen 🙏🙏❤
Yes, great testimony indeed. I didn't know divorce stories would be a great and sweet to the Lord Jesus and good examples for others to follow
@@gb6041 for the very fact that Dela is willing to put herself out there and tell her story is a testimony in itself. Many do not have the courage to do so. Many shroud their pain in secrecy. Divorce is not a testimony but how your position yourself and rise above the pain of divorce because the testimony. When I referred to Dela doing great things, I talking about her divorce but more so her approach to trauma of divorce. I am a product of divorced parents and it was horrific for me and watching mother become a shadow of her former self within the marriage then coming out and rushing into a second one that was worse than the first. So I know what I am talking about. I wish my mother had taken the step to find herself and discover herself before even thinking of remarriage. Now she is sad elderly lady who failed at both marriages due to poor choices and giving herself time to find herself grow and evolve. This is what I applaud Dela for. Once you know thyself, you able to make wiser more informed choice. You will be able to know what will work for you and with you and even more so when Jesus is at the centre of all that you do. God bless you
I'm proud of you, Dela! You have come such a long way. You always have to do what is best for your soul. Life is so short, and you have to strive for your best life. Bravo!!!
Your RUclips followers were also very invested in you and your families dreams. Doesn’t make any easier to go through this publicly. Really sorry things turned out how they have Miss. Can’t be easy for any of you. Be well.
Marriage is HARRDDDD!!! You got to be consistent with each other.
Respect is earned it’s not just given. It not the easiest thing for a mother and or to leave a marriage with children. Women generally sacrifice a lot just to keep a marriage and family together.
As a man, I wonder how many times the guy felt like quitting but didn’t…definitely going to the grave with his side of the story..I know my gender
Right on a lot of women here blaming the man sad
Men will stay in a relationship and not be happy but will get their needs fulfilled on the side whereas if women can't get what they need they eventually leave.
Men always come at last.. nobody gives a f*k about us.. this guy was even holding the camera at the beginning, he was the filmer and supporter of her foundation on her channels. Listen if he was so horrible, she wouldn't have stayed 18 Years, NEVER! He did his best, may God bless him and strengthen him... maybe there were some harassment here and there, or some sidechicks as usual😅... but why is a man a man?.. we do what we have to do. Is as simple as that.
This is why I find some things d
she said intriguing. Why have 4 kids and stay in that relationship for 18 years. It doesn't make sense
@kowazzuri3146 sometimes this happens. I was going to leave after my second child, then I found out I was expecting baby number 3, then couldn't leave. The marriage eventually ended, but this does happen...people go on to have many children in a marriage that is not serving them
Thanks for sharing, Dela..
So proud of you my greatly beloved sister ❤
Thank you
You look great... thank you for being courageous !
Thank you
1:14 - Dela is being vulnerable sharing her experience and the interviewer is asking her to list 20 good things the man did??
It's clear that the trauma is deep. Why not empathize rather than try to turn her into finding good in the man that hurt her.
This is an example of men not listening to women when they experience pain.
Why is he saying she is focusing on 1 or 2 bad things.
I am already annoyed by this interviewer.
@@IvyProsper a typical "me too mentality". What did you expect, that he sympathizes with her and shy from asking the hard questions. Women are not as innocent and vulnerable as babies as the likes if you want us to believe. It was his job to scrutinize her statements and he did a great job.
You go sis 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️
Pretty hair
Well done ❤ 🙏🏽
Another one bites the dust - his loss! Such an irresistible personality and beauty you are ...! But I guessed right on this one!
Thank you ☺️
Dela, I don’t have to read your book your story sounds similar to mind. Married for 20 years… the day I told him I wanted a divorce…lol I move on with grace.. I now have (3) properties one in Brooklyn Ny one in Atlanta GA and one in North Carolina USA.. Don’t worry God don’t put more on you that you can’t handle… you had to make that decisions which would benefit your children most of all. Much love you will be a millionaire on your own.
There might be a few things in there that will surprise you 😉
It's painful, but a beautiful book
The interviewer needs to understand that yes a person can do a million good things but one bad thing erases the million things because the bad thing is so destructive to the person it's done to.
A person who has been an upstanding citizen suddenly commits a crime. He's going to jail regardless if he was an upstanding citizen.
That's how the world works.
A woman with 4 children building s house in a country where she's been away from.is not easy..if it was a good marriage she wouldn't have left.
Some woman left that interviewer and he's projecting his hurt unto Dela.
He's like most men who don't understand why women leave them.
Agreed!
Wishing you wellness and continued healing Dela. Would love the book on AUDIO when it's available. ❤💛🖤💚 18 years is an accomplishment!
Make sure you hop on the live today 7pm Ghana time 😉
@@moretodela oh no, just seeing this message now. I'm 13mins into your audiobook. At 5m36secs - already a best seller pick💥! I hope I can catch a live one day ❤💛🖤💚
May God continue to light your path ❤
Interviewer seems very bias. Not good journalism skills
He’s just asking a question
Nearly every question he asked her placed her husband as the Victim and Dela as the assailant under interrogation. Dela, why did you subject yourself to this?
@@HoneyBunches100 Agree. I didn't like his interviewing style at all. Completely unbalanced in the favour of one party. Dela was generous to answer, because I've have told him where to go after a while! 🤣🤣🤣
Maybe she wanted a more aggressive interviewer to push her and get more out of her.But I think she would have done better maybe being interviewed by someone like Tim Who is she seems to have built up a great rapport with when they have done interviews before or when he has appeared on her panel show.
@@HoneyBunches100as she said there two sides to every story
I can’t wait to read your book DELA God bless you and your kids🙏
Thank you 🙏🏾. The audio version is available right now. The link is in the description box
Sis, if u can, go back and build up your relationship if the damage is not severe. Much love to u! This is a really deep story.
What relationship? She’s out for a reason, your kind are the same reason why most die in loveless abusive relationship!!! Build what🙄🙄🙄🙄
ernestoparis STOP IT! This kinda talk is very annoying.
@estherAgbe yea sis, I realized at the end of the clip she's seeing someone, so there is no need for to go back.
Hope you both do well and possibly reconcile. Going public about someone else’s private life is sad development.
How do we learn if everyone keeps their story hidden?
@SS-ly covid 19 was a sad development that we all endured...Dela's relationship is a worldwide issue, no different than the pandemic. We applaud her for taking the lead in addressing it.
If you have nothing good to say on this world widd issue just leave
It must have been so difficult to leave.
When a woman leaves it is not usually out of the blue but due to long standing issues she has been tirelessly communicating to the point she is drained and feels unheard /unappreciated.
Men - seek counsel to understand your woman and vice versa.
Sharing the story publically...I can understand arguments on both sides.
Lots of mistakes happen in all marriages.
The person who is hurt the most is the person who talk abt it .
I disagree
Its actually the opposite, people who are hurt the most avoid talking about it because of the genuine pain.
People who talk about it, are usually the ones who are more concerned about their image, and doing everything possible to get people on their side.
Hum another science rocket ? but until today Africa men havent built any weapon to protect their land 😂 keep that same energy gaslighting black women for the white man 🤣 have some 🍒
On what was their marriage based? What precepts, what principles....did they undergo counseling before marriage to make sure they were compatible and understood and accepted each other's strengths, weaknesses, pet peeves, love language, and were clear on what they needed from each other to feel safe, protected, heard, and respected. Finally, did they understand that marriage is a sacred covenant which shouldn't be entered into lightly? Couples should do the work prior to marriage so they understand what they need to do in order to maintain the relationship.
Hmm, I need to get a copy
I am claiming a best seller for you sis.
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Marriages abroad are %10000⁰0000⁰% different than our motherland Ghana. We display every attitude in different ways. Trust me, both genders show their hidden side. But in all. No physical Soul should live in an abusive relationship. TankQ u.
A few marriages survived infidelity. However, many go on the rocks because of it. It is an individual decision for one to make when face with it.
Some women/men should never have anything to do with marriage because they don’t understand what commitment means. Single people goes into relationship behaving as single, divorce is inevitable. Understand relationship and understand your happiness is not part of your relationship.
You look so beautiful ❤😊
Thank you
when i first saw your vids, he was very patronizing the way he spoke to you. I remember saying to myself "ah so of all the ghanaian guys she chose this arrogant one?"
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Great life story and interview.
Sometimes I say a lot or say nothing. My nothing usually means I have a lot to say or have some instincts, but decides to say nothing.
I think 1.5 years of courtship is enough. That's me
There is always two sides to a story.
Every man is a potential father.
But there is a father and there is a FATHER.
Dela I admire your courage. Its Sista Keachia. I was on your sure. Keep on shining.
Thank you!!!
I would never read one word out of your book. I watched you both built that house. He was very instrumental in the progress and as soon as you were almost done, you kicked the dude out, talking about tough times. Thats what a marriage is all about. TOUGH TIMES, WORK THROUGH IT.
You can do what you like but until you’ve read the book all you doing is making assumptions that are baseless. Making assumptions without full understanding makes you…?
@anthonys you are a liar
@@moretodelalet them evil men talk. We know whats up Dela. They re bitter thats why they re oppressing women instead if fighting the white man who are oppressing them. Women are not a punching ball They will learn the hard way...when they cant oppress you they will start to unalive their own family it s already started ...a plague
Did he say list TWENTY things you liked about your husband!? 20??? What does he want you to do Dela, write a poem about him. Jesus that was an unreasonable excessive question to ask.
Yeah, I thought that! 20!!!! 🤣🤣
😂😂😂 write a poem 🤣
Like a punishment for a misbehaving child. Having to write 20 times on the board. 😂😂
Thank you I listened to you and cried
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Thank you Dela.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 bravo D. Always proud 🎉
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
There r 2 sides to every story, I like U Dela. But I want to hear his side.
I wish he would share to be honest. I’ve always said that. I’m an open book, I have nothing to hide.
No, real men solve their problems and don't talk about it for sympathy. I suspect some other woman wants him. The time is 2024. All he needs to do is take care of his kids
You being fond of her has absolutely nothing to do with her divorce...
@@tiziay I have nothing to do with her divorce U have nothing to do with her divorce I’m saying there’s 2 sides to everything that’s it.
As a man myself I have to get his side cause u know men and women view things different
Men don't understand that their behavior cause a woman to leave them. They will behave badly and expects the woman to over look it and go along while being disrespectful.
I think the interviewer is the husband giving his side of the story.
@@Suziecat Indeed!
The comments I see here are shocking. Are discerning people on break or on a holiday?
This interview was trying to make you look like your to blame.
Some of these comments are also very horribly insensitive.
My days this social media life boy I couldn’t have my life on blast lake this. Good for you for having the discussion. Thanks for sharing your story.
Gosh you had ‘a love’, after 18 years. That does sound tragic. Love is a choice so if it’s difficult to word that what does that even mean wow.
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Proud of you.
Thank you