Having genuine interests that excite you convey that you are happy with your life and don't need anything from anybody, and it creates a sense of ease and attraction from others
Wow. I practically lived my childhood hiding my emotions as to not be perceived as weak. It's only recently that I've been able to get in touch with my emotions
There's a difference between wearing your heart on your sleeve and being a maudlin. The latter being an extreme. Sharing your emotions is one thing but dumping your problems on others expecting sympathy is what's causing people to construe you as a weak individual which is what puts them off. I'd encourage you to read 'The subtle art of not giving a fuck' by Mark Manson. Hope I've helped you :)
wipe0utpuls3 Been meaning to read that! What I meant is that I'm not bubbly unless I'm really happy. I don't know how I come across to people, but from my POV I feel like someone can tell if I'm not in a good mood that day because I don't feign happiness that well. And if someone asks how I'm doing I'll answer truthfully, albeit succinctly so as not to sound whiney.
+hipnhappenin Oh come on don't be moody, Judy Moody and the Not Bummer Summer. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve cause your heart will get dirty with bacteria, just put the attitude in your ovaries. The biggest problem is that people don't know themselves and when people asking questions about themselves they feel interrogated or attacked. Are you happy? I'm kind of...No kind off doesn't exist you say yes or no. Secret, depression is an illusion.
You can absolutely build charisma, I think it's one of the most important things someone can learn in ones life. It helps with your career, dating, and over all happiness. I plan on doing an in depth video on this in the future too! Great content.
+Successful Minds Your key word, over all happiness, this builds charisma. Charisma, the act of finally having the balls to be ourselves in a responsible manner by understanding our emotions, controlling them and projecting happiness from within aka we are whole. We know who we are, we know our skills and we shoot for the moon by understanding human behavior and we know how to delight people with our happiness. It's having the balls to be vulnerable and not perfect. When you are happy, you are able to make someone smile, blush or laugh, they share that part of themselves with you, which in turn makes you feel better. It builds and builds until an emotional connection is formed. The art of honestly expressing yourself.
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "hypnotherapy script for anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Reneyton Hypnotify Secrets - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my work buddy got cool results with it.
i can usually find ways to be funny or win someone over but i am stumped now. its tough when there is an age gap, racial gap, and hating on you makes them feel better. or that is just part of who they are, angry all the time. then i get angry with how i'm treated and it goes round and round. or others are quiet, waiting for me to be mr. funny or outgoing. years ago it was easier but i went through some stuff that hardened my heart. i don't look at people the same anymore. obviously that is not productive.
Seriously? I never think George Clooney was attractive. To me he has too much hair. When people were raven of him when he was in ER, I never join that crowd.
Im so happy I found this channel, ever since I started listening to this channel I've only had success with women. I cant thank you enough for the knowledge I've learned. I've never felt better about my self thank you 🙏
Love the channel, I'm slowly gaining confidence back after years of having low self esteem and such and I can credit it to the lessons I have learned through your channel.
Dude, rock on with these informative videos! I really love them, it's extremely useful for me as a person who was blindsided with manipulation...I am increasing my awareness every time I watch.
well done. I find that by starting with a sincere compliment is a great way to build charisma. when you are able to make someone smile, blush or laugh, they share that part of themselves with you, which in turn makes you feel better. it builds and builds. you can feel when you light up
Kudos! You speak of empathy as though you truly understand. I usually hear or read the word used in a context that I'm left sitting there thinking, "he meant 'sympathy,' not 'empathy'." I enjoy your work, young man.
The shoutout to the viewers of your video and thing about spreading knowledge inspired me to subscribe to your channel. Great job, I consciously knew that’s what you were trying to make me do, and then you made me feel like it’s perfectly okay to do it and that I would benefit from it.
You reminded me what are the things to look at! And you have given answers for the questions what I was looking for in all these years. I will take it forward.
Thank you for putting your life experience, wisdom and subjective reality into such engaging and effective videos in order to help people. You are much appreciated. Infinite love
This is great stuff! Thank you for creating these much-needed videos...For those of us that can truly appreciate, and apply this knowledge...the world is a lovely place :)
Your videos are helpful, really. I came from a fatherless home, well partially, so I am a half-alpha introvert with an interest in human interactions. Thanks to you I am learning about how to use body language, social skills, and masculine traits to get what I want, and seeing as how i want the most important job in America (the POTUS) I needed this. More so since the past few years weren't very happy, and so I have had to relearn a few things.
Sociopaths or psychopaths lack empathy and have shallow emotions yet they are very charismatic(not all of them). So technically you dont need to be empathetic or emotional. You just have to be a good actor. Hence brad pitt and George are both good at that. You learn how to ACT charismatic not just be it. Though for some it comes very natural and they dont have to think about it and for others its an act that needs to be practices over and over then it becomes second nature.
Charisma: “Is the ability to help others like themselves, when they are around you”.... That is powerful. I totally understand. BTW: George Clooney is TOTALLY my “man crush”; more so than Brad, I love and I observe seeing him interact and work the crowd.... he’s awesome 👍🏼💪🏼
Charming - authentic charisma: Show emotions Read other's emotions Controlling, regulate own emotions Apear calm, cool Social expressiveness: public speaking but encage with every listener Know how to listen Tactic, knows social etiquete How to behave in social interactions, situations Can analyse people Social control, role-playing: take control of any conversation. Avoid getting angry. Leave people pleasantly delighted Make or admit mistake. Confident Humble is think less about yourself Sense of humor Charisma is not get them to like you, but get them to like themselves.
Hey glad I read your comment, it is a good way to see it for me. You can detach yourself from the outcome and not take it personal because it is just a game.
Your brain works similarly to mine. You are very skilled at articulating your thoughts into words. Def not your average dude in respects to the way you think. Cool videos, I subbed.
Luna Merci lmao you think cause you forced your charisma you can act all superior? millions of people just like you. Step ya game up, then come back for me haha.
Joseph Amosa I never forced my charisma, you just acting all scared with your over reaction and your neediness by letting this bother you in the first place, idiot.
Luna Merci replying to my comment defensively obviously means I've triggered some emotions within you that hit your ego. Thus you felt the need to defend yourself. If this in any way didn't apply to you, you wouldn't have felt the need to reply.
I remember going out & getting 3 girls numbers on the same piece of paper. Treat them like options. You are the prize! They are just a potential compliment. Stop buying them shit.
First off - great video. And I mean, really thoughtful and informative video. Thanks for taking the time to put it together and share it. Secondly - Studying human psychology and behavior in social situations is a hobby of mine, and when I really see how things are working in most social dynamics, it just kind of pisses me off. So many decent people allow themselves to be walked over by obnoxious or sly dogs. IDK, it's hard not to just drop out completely most of the time. A video on how to help without making things more complicated and hurting someone's pride would be really helpful. :P Thanks again, +1!
Thank you for this video. I do need to improve my habilité to make people feel great around me without overdoing it. I will watch it again n take notes it reminded me of The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene.
good morning. last year in 2 weeks due to 2 category 5 hurricanes i lost everything i own except my dog and computer. and yes, have been suffering ptsd. i used to be charismatic. that will return - along with dishware, linen, music, a home, jeep, etc. etc. slowly, okay, but my life will be back. thanks for wonderful, upbeat message.
My problem is that I seem to know what to do but the courage and motivation are missing. It's hard to even try when you are broken and problematic or full of anxieties.
Charm and being charismatic Is having social and emotional skills, so others remember you. Use these: 1 Express your emotions to others 2 Empathy, read emotions of others, sensitive, feel there pain 3 Controlling regulate there emotions, apear calm 4 Social expressiveness, engage with people personal in conversations, captivate others 5 Listen well, tactfull, know social rules well, can analise people and read tiny details 6 Social role-play, take charge of interaction Leave people pleasantly delighted Convey emotions in a calm cool way. Be able to read people Know how to behave in social situations is social control Avoid getting angry Conversations more meaningfull by authentic charisma Enhance relations 8 pratfall effect, admit your mistakes. They will like you more. 9 Humility is thinking less of yourself, dont talk about how good you are etc 10 confident 11 sense of humor, get the jokes Getting people to like themselves!
Rule #1 to be Charismatic, you must be a good listener. Learn to actively listen your audience if you want to charm them. To know what to say when to say it, you must first listen. Also, for the people out there that are highly suggestible ~~ affirmations such as “I am a very good listener” will do wonders
Hey, man. This is an amazing channel. It's very obvious that you read a lot to make these videos and I, along with many others would love to know what books/ studies you've referenced for the video topics and content. Also, a bit of constructive criticism...work on your voice modulation to be more engaging. Looking forward to more videos :) Thanks and keep it up!
my mom always seems to say i have above average charisma , well it sometimes can be true like , no one seems to dislike me that much . well , some do , but they are probably just jealous of me because people accept me easily in any circle
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True charisma is not how you get others to think of you, it is how you get others to think of themselves! Great quote!
Having genuine interests that excite you convey that you are happy with your life and don't need anything from anybody, and it creates a sense of ease and attraction from others
Rose, Sheesh that was great, I enjoyed reading your comment🤟
Now how does one go about obtaining these "interests"?
Very well input I agree 100% I’m copying this to read it often times. That’s how I feel about my life now.
Donna Pepin well said mate I concur sometimes I just feel that I want someone for the evening and maybe for the following weekend
@Rose Budde
I couldn't agree more
For me the video starts at 00:00 because it’s in the examples that help me. This guy put work in it and I am appreciating that.
Wow. I practically lived my childhood hiding my emotions as to not be perceived as weak. It's only recently that I've been able to get in touch with my emotions
Me too Chris.
I think that's gender play talking. Most men are not encouraged to be in touch with their emotions but I find it's sexy to be emotional and emphatic.
That's me!
I feel ya
same.
I wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm usually depressed or upset though. People don't call me charismatic...they call me moody. 😒
There's a difference between wearing your heart on your sleeve and being a maudlin.
The latter being an extreme.
Sharing your emotions is one thing but dumping your problems on others expecting sympathy is what's causing people to construe you as a weak individual which is what puts them off.
I'd encourage you to read 'The subtle art of not giving a fuck' by Mark Manson.
Hope I've helped you :)
wipe0utpuls3 well you've helped me that is the last time I'm hearing about that book, copping
wipe0utpuls3 Been meaning to read that! What I meant is that I'm not bubbly unless I'm really happy. I don't know how I come across to people, but from my POV I feel like someone can tell if I'm not in a good mood that day because I don't feign happiness that well. And if someone asks how I'm doing I'll answer truthfully, albeit succinctly so as not to sound whiney.
A F Live Do you not like that book?
+hipnhappenin Oh come on don't be moody, Judy Moody and the Not Bummer Summer. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve cause your heart will get dirty with bacteria, just put the attitude in your ovaries. The biggest problem is that people don't know themselves and when people asking questions about themselves they feel interrogated or attacked. Are you happy? I'm kind of...No kind off doesn't exist you say yes or no. Secret, depression is an illusion.
You can absolutely build charisma, I think it's one of the most important things someone can learn in ones life. It helps with your career, dating, and over all happiness. I plan on doing an in depth video on this in the future too!
Great content.
+Successful Minds Your key word, over all happiness, this builds charisma. Charisma, the act of finally having the balls to be ourselves in a responsible manner by understanding our emotions, controlling them and projecting happiness from within aka we are whole. We know who we are, we know our skills and we shoot for the moon by understanding human behavior and we know how to delight people with our happiness. It's having the balls to be vulnerable and not perfect.
When you are happy, you are able to make someone smile, blush or laugh, they share that part of themselves with you, which in turn makes you feel better. It builds and builds until an emotional connection is formed. The art of honestly expressing yourself.
Successful Minds i been working on it since fallout 4 lol
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "hypnotherapy script for anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Reneyton Hypnotify Secrets - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my work buddy got cool results with it.
i can usually find ways to be funny or win someone over but i am stumped now. its tough when there is an age gap, racial gap, and hating on you makes them feel better. or that is just part of who they are, angry all the time.
then i get angry with how i'm treated and it goes round and round.
or others are quiet, waiting for me to be mr. funny or outgoing. years ago it was easier but i went through some stuff that hardened my heart. i don't look at people the same anymore. obviously that is not productive.
Jon Focker. So sorry... me too
Video starts at 7:42
Haha! Thanks I skipped the very long introduction.
Mer Mortola anytime lol
Chris Maatouk thanks man lol
2edgy 4u sure thing
thanks for this
Speaker has a man crush on George and Brad.
You caught me! ;)
Seriously? I never think George Clooney was attractive. To me he has too much hair. When people were raven of him when he was in ER, I never join that crowd.
Devin Sheree lol. No.
If you don't you're probably gay
Lazy Eye Jones haha
“Social situations are like games.”
Me: “Let’s see if I can beat my life high score” 😁
Im so happy I found this channel, ever since I started listening to this channel I've only had success with women. I cant thank you enough for the knowledge I've learned. I've never felt better about my self thank you 🙏
Salient features of this video1. Confidence2. Be expressive3. Control your emotions4. Praise others Btw, nice charming tactic played in the end.
Love the channel, I'm slowly gaining confidence back after years of having low self esteem and such and I can credit it to the lessons I have learned through your channel.
Dude, rock on with these informative videos! I really love them, it's extremely useful for me as a person who was blindsided with manipulation...I am increasing my awareness every time I watch.
James Bond could be a good example
well done. I find that by starting with a sincere compliment is a great way to build charisma. when you are able to make someone smile, blush or laugh, they share that part of themselves with you, which in turn makes you feel better. it builds and builds. you can feel when you light up
Wow truly amazing video, I needed this and In Depth too ! Love it thank u
i loved that message at the end man. keep helping people with these key essentials to social life. i love your videos alot. thanks for existing
Kudos!
You speak of empathy as though you truly understand. I usually hear or read the word used in a context that I'm left sitting there thinking, "he meant 'sympathy,' not 'empathy'."
I enjoy your work, young man.
You have one of the best channels on place man , Great job.
This is a great video man, probably the best work I've watched from you so far! Keep it up fam!!!
The shoutout to the viewers of your video and thing about spreading knowledge inspired me to subscribe to your channel. Great job, I consciously knew that’s what you were trying to make me do, and then you made me feel like it’s perfectly okay to do it and that I would benefit from it.
Thank you for putting so much time and effort into these videos it's appreciated
Thank you for your videos bro, I grow as a person after each one of them because I start asking myself the right questions.
You reminded me what are the things to look at! And you have given answers for the questions what I was looking for in all these years. I will take it forward.
Thank you for putting your life experience, wisdom and subjective reality into such engaging and effective videos in order to help people. You are much appreciated. Infinite love
saw this a lot on my feed. couldn't resist clicking because of the girl in the thumbnail lol. that cheerleader from glee
This is great stuff! Thank you for creating these much-needed videos...For those of us that can truly appreciate, and apply this knowledge...the world is a lovely place :)
Your videos are helpful, really. I came from a fatherless home, well partially, so I am a half-alpha introvert with an interest in human interactions. Thanks to you I am learning about how to use body language, social skills, and masculine traits to get what I want, and seeing as how i want the most important job in America (the POTUS) I needed this. More so since the past few years weren't very happy, and so I have had to relearn a few things.
Thank you so much for the content you put out. You, and other RUclipsrs like you, have really helped me improve my social skills🙂
Those videos are awesome! I can't stop watching ! Keep up the good work !
This is one of my favorite videos from this channel.
I need someone to make playlists of this guy's videos as I'm going to binge watch them all.
Thank You sooo much dearest 💐
You’re such an inspiration 🥰
Be Blissful Eternally 🙏🏼😇
Great video as always, thanks for sharing the stuff most people wouldn't!
I'm sure you are a person who knows how to charm anyone, Mr. Far from Average. And you have a really soothing voice. Thumbs up on that.
Sociopaths or psychopaths lack empathy and have shallow emotions yet they are very charismatic(not all of them). So technically you dont need to be empathetic or emotional. You just have to be a good actor. Hence brad pitt and George are both good at that. You learn how to ACT charismatic not just be it. Though for some it comes very natural and they dont have to think about it and for others its an act that needs to be practices over and over then it becomes second nature.
GravyBrainz well put
You sure your not a psychopath? Because you put that into words masterfully
Well in the past he could have been a sociopath but then learn his lesson on how that is damaging towards himself and others.
Well the thing is psychopaths mimic and fake emotion. If they wouldnt, they would be these robots that u would recognize instantl, but u dont
Charisma: “Is the ability to help others like themselves, when they are around you”.... That is powerful. I totally understand. BTW: George Clooney is TOTALLY my “man crush”; more so than Brad, I love and I observe seeing him interact and work the crowd.... he’s awesome 👍🏼💪🏼
Wonderful, incredible, marvellous. The two quotes are truly gold.
Loved this!! Thank you!!
Keep them coming I m getting it all raw material awesome video love it
Charming - authentic charisma:
Show emotions
Read other's emotions
Controlling, regulate own emotions
Apear calm, cool
Social expressiveness: public speaking but encage with every listener
Know how to listen
Tactic, knows social etiquete
How to behave in social interactions, situations
Can analyse people
Social control, role-playing: take control of any conversation. Avoid getting angry.
Leave people pleasantly delighted
Make or admit mistake.
Confident
Humble is think less about yourself
Sense of humor
Charisma is not get them to like you, but get them to like themselves.
This made my day. Iam working on charisma but I don't have an idea. This make sense to me a lot. Thank you so much.
Thank you for the video, it was really helpful for me! I feel like it changed my mind a little bit, in a good way.
Awesome job, brother. Keep up the good work!
Much of the information from your videos us so good that I have written a small notebook of pertinent information...thank you so much!!!
This video is charmingly good, as is with your other videos!
Hey brother, just wanted to say keep up the amazing work.
I love you bubba. Ur really helping me grow up
Awesome video, I need to re-watch oceans eleven with this in mind.
Your the man 👏🏽 your videos help and inspire !
the best channel ever!
You have spoken totally about me as if you were me I love this video I call myself a Chamaeleon🌹🥇
You are here on this planet for a reason my friend.
Turn social interactions into a game 😂
That understanding has helped me tremendously over the years.
Hey glad I read your comment, it is a good way to see it for me. You can detach yourself from the outcome and not take it personal because it is just a game.
How though?
@@poodie3887 i know that i just meant how do you actually turn life into a game?
The meat of the Video starts at 10:13 ,you'll thank me later. Useless info and too many examples before that.
thanks!
Thanks!!
Thanks dear
You the best
Some of us enjoy information
Your brain works similarly to mine. You are very skilled at articulating your thoughts into words. Def not your average dude in respects to the way you think. Cool videos, I subbed.
Thanks for your advice...
Congrats for 1m man!!
GREAT. i love ocen's movies.
great job, great content, keep going dude!
Love it! 💓
i will watch zorro and Ocean's eleven :)
thank u very much, your videos helps me to improve my social skills
Thank you for this video,it was very insightful.Now time to fix all the rest of my issues!lol!Thanks a lot.
When people "learn" charisma, you can feel their unauthentic personality. It's like talking to a programmed human being, they all act the same.
Scared of competition
Luna Merci lmao you think cause you forced your charisma you can act all superior? millions of people just like you. Step ya game up, then come back for me haha.
Joseph Amosa I never forced my charisma, you just acting all scared with your over reaction and your neediness by letting this bother you in the first place, idiot.
Also there isn't even any coherency in your response. Acting all superior? Just stating a fact. "Step ya game up" your a joke.
Luna Merci replying to my comment defensively obviously means I've triggered some emotions within you that hit your ego. Thus you felt the need to defend yourself. If this in any way didn't apply to you, you wouldn't have felt the need to reply.
Loved your video. Thank you so much
I remember going out & getting 3 girls numbers on the same piece of paper. Treat them like options. You are the prize! They are just a potential compliment. Stop buying them shit.
Love you bro.... you're so accurate with this video
I love your channel it's helpful and informative thank you so much for your efforts to present your topics with simplicity and clarity.
your videos are amazing
I just love them
You've been working your subscribers like putty, well played, well played.
First off - great video. And I mean, really thoughtful and informative video. Thanks for taking the time to put it together and share it.
Secondly - Studying human psychology and behavior in social situations is a hobby of mine, and when I really see how things are working in most social dynamics, it just kind of pisses me off. So many decent people allow themselves to be walked over by obnoxious or sly dogs. IDK, it's hard not to just drop out completely most of the time. A video on how to help without making things more complicated and hurting someone's pride would be really helpful. :P
Thanks again, +1!
I'm too early. I'm going to have to come back to read the comments later 😂
Tater Tot lmao
Lol, not too much interesting comments going on anyways!
Thank you for exposing more about charisma.
I'm guilty of being stoic, it's definitely caused me difficulty.
man you channel is very good. nice videos man
Great video. The critera and attributes you detail throughout, mirror the genetic coding in my dna...😄👍
Love your Zorro,reference at the end of the vid imma watch the "Ocean 11" movies it's on My bucket list
He's got the battle chess music. I love it!
Thank you for this video. I do need to improve my habilité to make people feel great around me without overdoing it. I will watch it again n take notes it reminded me of The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene.
good morning. last year in 2 weeks due to 2 category 5 hurricanes i lost everything i own except my dog and computer. and yes, have been suffering ptsd. i used to be charismatic. that will return - along with dishware, linen, music, a home, jeep, etc. etc. slowly, okay, but my life will be back. thanks for wonderful, upbeat message.
Love this!
Insightful as hell.
Great content...Fascinating insights. Good Job!
Apparently I'm a charismatic silent Alpha. Love these videos.
Well after wat hing this!! I feel like saying something nice. Hello, thank you for some positive information. Have A Most Awesome Day!!!
My problem is that I seem to know what to do but the courage and motivation are missing.
It's hard to even try when you are broken and problematic or full of anxieties.
Charm and being charismatic
Is having social and emotional skills, so others remember you. Use these:
1 Express your emotions to others
2 Empathy, read emotions of others, sensitive, feel there pain
3 Controlling regulate there emotions, apear calm
4 Social expressiveness, engage with people personal in conversations, captivate others
5 Listen well, tactfull, know social rules well, can analise people and read tiny details
6 Social role-play, take charge of interaction
Leave people pleasantly delighted
Convey emotions in a calm cool way.
Be able to read people
Know how to behave in social situations is social control
Avoid getting angry
Conversations more meaningfull by authentic charisma
Enhance relations
8 pratfall effect, admit your mistakes. They will like you more. 9 Humility is thinking less of yourself, dont talk about how good you are etc
10 confident
11 sense of humor, get the jokes
Getting people to like themselves!
Love your content 💛
Rule #1 to be Charismatic, you must be a good listener. Learn to actively listen your audience if you want to charm them. To know what to say when to say it, you must first listen. Also, for the people out there that are highly suggestible ~~ affirmations such as “I am a very good listener” will do wonders
Thank you,this is great .
Going to watch the movies you recommend. Thank you.
This is one of most amzing videos ever
hahaha so interesting to know one who would watch this video and not like it.....I absolutely love this video, and work....keep it up👍
New subbie, love your page!
As Robert Green said pretend that the other person is interesting, more so than you. This crushes social anxiety.
Hey, man.
This is an amazing channel.
It's very obvious that you read a lot to make these videos and I, along with many others would love to know what books/ studies you've referenced for the video topics and content.
Also, a bit of constructive criticism...work on your voice modulation to be more engaging.
Looking forward to more videos :)
Thanks and keep it up!
my mom always seems to say i have above average charisma , well it sometimes can be true like , no one seems to dislike me that much . well , some do , but they are probably just jealous of me because people accept me easily in any circle
You know your stuff. You are defiantly charming.
I definitely have charm lol I love it and I have it naturally
Thanks for the tips I really need this information to become charming and more likeable