Not entirely true. My husband's parents basically begged him to go out and make friends. The joke is that "good" parents are spoilsports who won't let their kids have fun. The reality is that no parent is happy to watch their child isolate themselves to the point where they literally have no friends, connections, and completely lack the ability to have a pleasant conversation. This isn't a problem that every kid has, but it's common enough that most people know at least 1 person who can barely handle social situations outside of work and class time.
Shoot..my Mom was this way!!! Heaven forbid I should be home on a Friday or Saturday night, despite me being popular and having a boyfriend. She was the ultimate extrovert and I am an introvert
Lol. Sincere but Come out and join us once in a while. We will share similar feelings. We feel like you too but learned new ways too. Decently. 😗Cool to rest and have time to meditate plenty.
Being an introvert is okay but passing judgements on other people seems a bit stuck up. For instance " I'd rather not" is okay but "I'd rather not... NOT WITH YOU" seems snarky.
I agree. Everyone is protecting her, but there is a difference between not needing to socialize much, and actually viewing certain activities or people as inferior.
As an introvert and former wallflower, I’d have been THRILLED if the cute and popular boy showed interest in me like that. He was super sweet and even said they could just talk. He apologized for upsetting her. She was definitely out of line here.
@@crazysingingchick Out of line? Agreed. But she immediately had a pained look on her face when she saw his reaction and was about to walk after him. Then mr. buttinski walks up to her and starts attacking her which put her on the defensive. Had he not intervened, the outcome may have been much different and the snob may have learned something about herself and others. The End.
The point of this video isn't that you need to be social to be accepted, the point is if you harshly judge others, it is inevitable that they will judge you harshly too. As an introvert who hates parties and highly values academics, I truly hope that people realize that this character isn't simply introverted but unnecessarily spiteful and passive aggressive.
I see a girl that doesn't hate everyone else. She hates herself. She's angry at herself for trying so hard, and still coming up shorter than everyone else who doesn't seem to have to try. She even told her father; she was worried about the test, studied so hard, and then failed-she said it frustratingly It must feel miserable to spend so much time studying and still come up short She also said, she tried so so hard to get the yearbook cover, but then the kid who always seems to get his way, swooped in again with something that (we don't know how long it took him, but at least in her reality), was way less meaningful and detailed than hers I think she is truly hurting by how she is struggling; she wants to be better at school, so she spends her time trying All the other people seemingly are already better than her, but spend their time chatting and hanging out. I wish the father had responded differently; instead of pushing her to just go to the party- maybe also let her know that she IS smart- some people just learn/grow differently- maybe he could have told her about one of her strengths- to help show her she is a capable and intelligent person. Sometimes it takes an outsiders perspective to show you your value; especially when you're struggling As per the question at the end of the video; I DO think the friend could help If the people stopped treating everything she did like snobbery and tried to get to know the real her, she would probably stop lashing out so much It hurts when you think everyone around you hates you; it's easy to get defensive So I think if she had a better support system that helped her see the good things about her; she could embrace her strengths and really blossom and not be so sad about herself; in turn, being able to be happy and let loose and have many friends!
@@ajak281 Absolutely, and those are some very good points. I completely agree that her father should have handled the situation differently; focusing on what the root causes of her attitude problems and anti-social behaviors were instead of pushing her to go to a party would have been much more helpful and effective. However, it is also worth noting that no matter how she feels about herself, it would benefit both her interaction and understanding of others as well as her self view if she honed a kinder attitude toward others. Right now, she is clearly struggling, but her attitude is self-destructive and perpetuates her isolation as she pushes others away by assuming they couldn’t understand. I also completely agree that much of this could be solved by having a good support system, but even with a support system, you must recognize where you are part of your own problem and admit that you need help for that support system to then be able to help
Everyone in the comments are saying she's just a introvert but I'm with the group. She clearly has a superiority Complex. She looks down on everyone and lacks the social intelligence to know that judging everyone for the pettiest of offences is not the way to make friends. It's ok to be an introvert, it's ok to be shy or want alone time. I bet the group would have been nicer to her if she wasn't constantly judging them for simply being them. How dare he become king? Why did they pick his design over mine? I worked harder! Oh boo hoo. She needs to leave her own pity party and learn that other people also face the same challenges as she does without taking it out on others. She needs confidence in her own ability to succeed.
or maybe shes in the wrong area we forget ...in 2018 we can find our tribe online she didnt have that luxury ...in todays terms turn your privilege down its too loud....i was her and guess what after i moved got a doctorate i have TONS of friends ive gotten along the way the people in my small town didnt get me.....I get her 100 %
@@sirenthomas4595 it shouldn't take moving away from an area to be a decent human being and be nice to others. Again, nothing wrong with being an introvert and preferring to stay in. I just don't like the way she talks down to others constantly. Its fine for her not to want to make friends but she doesn't have to be rude or mean to others when they try to approach her in a friendly way or when they succeed at something she didn't. Yes, its wrong that her parents pushed her to go to that party and its wrong that the girls at school assumed she was snob when she didn't hear them. But she was also wrong for catching an attitude with that boy who simply responded to the question she asked about the design winner along with publicy humiliating the dude who politely asked her to dance or just talk if she preferred. Yes, she has a right say no to both but she didn't have to so rude about it. I say that as a introvert now that doesn't need to talk down to others when they try to include me in stuff.
She was minding her own business until people kept pushing her. Like, if she didn't want to go to the party, leave her alone. When they pushed her to socialize the way they wanted her to, they got their toes stepped on.
CinnastixChick Yup! That happened to me quite a bit by my parents when I was a child & teenager and it still happens to me as an adult, but without parental interference. 😕
They wonder why she's coming off as rude when they all want to force her away from her school work, which is important to her, to force her to party. Odd.
WHAT?!!! A parent actually saying "After all it's only Friday night. Why don't you go out and have some fun. You have the whole weekend to finish your homework." Good Grief Charlie Brown! If my parents EVER said that to me I would have had a heart attack right then and there. In my school days it was the exact OPPOSITE.
@@mrsanonymousflower8491 This, so much. Every time I spanked the monkey I had to constantly listen to the sound of steps on the stairs because my parents were liable to barge in at random moments for no real reason. It was almost as if they were oblivious, or wanted to see me cranking my goalie. Edit: seriously youtube? I can't write j3rked off without being censored?? F U!
I definitely found a lot of comfort as a teen watching films like this. With the modern awareness of structural issues and diversity, people seem to want to ignore personal responsibility in problems when in fact the answer is a healthy balance of both. Many children (and adults) wonder why they are perceived badly, and these films can help promote the self introspection that can help one make positive change in their own life.
I think these would be brilliant to show in school - they would start so many debates and for kids to see that they have the same problems ad kids 70 years ago would be good.
I don't think so. She is better than them and she is aware of that, there is nothing wrong with that. I am fine with a lot of friends, and no friends at all. A real winner in life is: you can perfectly happy when you have no friends. I don't respect followers, I only respect leaders.
I don't think she's a snob. She might be an introvert. But she also might actually be a lot smarter than all of them, in which case, it'd be hard to hang around them when you don't like the same things. Like I hate parties or dancing, I'd be pretty mad if everyone was acting like there was something wrong with me when not everyone is interested in the same things. She did come off as rude and she should work on her social skills but everyone's being just as mean to her. I don't know. I'm an introvert so I understand not wanting to socialize at events.
Asian version: 1:27 well that's good, honey. Since you've a whole weekend ahead of you, why don't you start preparing for your engineering/ med school entrance exam
The video addresses this in the end, and suggests that the other kids are treating her unfairly, too. However, Sarah is definitely not helping her situation. She has created an image of herself in her mind that she is perfect, and thus, cannot handle thinking that anybody else could possibly be more popular, smart, or hard working. She wears the fact that she is isolated like a suit of armor, and that it validates her image of herself. The way she talks to her mother and father, you'd think that she was just asked to clean her room when she didn't want to.
This is literally a fight I had with my parents until I was in my twenties. My mother wouldn't allow me to go to college early unless I went to prom my Junior year. It wasn't that I didn't have friends, it was that I had a lot of undiagnosed health problems that were making me cranky. I never realized other people weren't in pain all the time. Either way, socializing was fine as long as they came to me.
As an Introvert, I got to say she is acting like a snob. It is not the fact that she doesn't want to hangout with people or anything that is the issue, but how she sees other people as being beneath her to a degree. She has an issue with the fact that he won the Yearbook competition on design and she didn't, mocking his work as if he doesn't deserve it. Sometimes the most beauty is in the most simple thing of art. Not winning doesn't automatically mean someones art is unappreciated. Calling their socializing as "silly" demeaning their gatherings all because she doesn't understand it.
You forget that they really picked the guys work due to bias. We dint like her so lets pick who we do like even though she put more work in to hers. Its the bias of a group that hurts those.
If I put way more hours into my work than my peers, they got better grades AND won the competitions and stuff, despite her putting in more time and effort- id probably be upset too While the way she handles it seems like she is projecting her insecurities onto them because she doesn't understand why she tries so hard and still fails compared to these kids that just hangout and party all the time. They degrade HER all the time calling her a snob- and all they do is have fun and get better grades than her, so of course it seems "silly" to her (in reality, she probably WOULD want to hang out if she got better grades and felt confident in herself- it wouldn't seem silly to her anymore if it didn't take any value from her life, but at the moment she could be using the "hanging out" time to be studying, which seems to her like the only thing that may improve her grades) I knew people like this in school, and once they didn't seem so jealous about others' grades compared to their own and they found their own hobbies and likes, they truly blossomed!
Yeah but they know hide nor hair about that back then. Theres STILL people who haven't heard of social anxiety or know what it is or BELIEVE it is even a real thing
* I know such a gal who was too shy to socialize. Today she's a never married lady living with her cats. Sad indeed that she never got out to meet people during her young single years. A most intelligent gal but never socially savvy. ♣
Sure, there were a couple times when Sarah was honestly zoned out and her actions were misconstrued but her feelings of ill-will towards others is alarming. My mother is just like this, and she is one of the most bitter people I know.
I think that's the point of the end of the film. It doesn't take a lot for alienation like this to build up. Some kids literally took to bullying her because she was an easy target to belittle. She's already in a bad place mentally, so it's very difficult for well meaning people to break through to her. When she saw she actually hurt the class president, you could see the genuine remorse for a moment, but she was right about the apple-polishers, they are opportunists that suck up to the popular kids and bully the weak. Not 2 seconds later, one of THOSE types immediately jumped in to scold her, even though the situation had nothing to do with him, her instinct is to defend herself, so her remorse was short lived. (Notice how he never once said she should apologize, he just started making wild accusations.) She needs to simmer down, recognize her own jealousy, and not wall off others so much, but other kids need to recognize she's a sensitive individual that takes time to get close to.
I would bet she’s experienced rejection and humiliation in the past and coped by withdrawing from social life and dedicating herself to her schoolwork. Good grades are a type of validation, right? A way to “get back” at those that once shunned/excluded you is to succeed in a career or craft. But human validation is more important than she may realize. I’m a painter, and a teacher once warned me, “Your art can’t love you back.” Meaning, it’s important to remember that interpersonal relationships CAN be fulfilling and validating. But it can be tricky to cultivate a social life that works for you....a lot of trial and error. Not everyone needs or wants to be the life of the party, but it’s rewarding to feel seen by another person. Owning your voice is no easy task for many people, especially when you feel dramatically different from those around. But if you try, little by little life will open up. Starts with emotional honesty. I relate to her, can you tell? Lol
I can relate I am about to get my BS in EE and I had bad friends in the past and if you have seen the trouble maker film I kind of resembled Mels behaviors after honest retrospection into my past. I also did mma as a result of my bad friends always fighting. Now I am alone with only good school friends who do not know where all of me sprouted from. I just turned 21 but I wish I had a more eventful life and I wish that I had made the right decisions in my past socially as all my decisions ultimately left me to become isolated and hence I dedicated my life to physics/EE. The sad part is, I am proficient in solving physics problems but I am far from the best and it burns my soul and I truly have to put the thought in the back of my mind to live in sanity. People may say I am in a good life position but there are things I wish such as social life that I really didn’t experience too much apart from the usual party and group study lunch times. But as my physics 10:27 professor said in year 1, the future of our lives are unknown. But I guess that is what separates earth from hell as if we knew every outcome were to be a success, then we would go insane as there would be an undying boredom that would destroy us all lol. I know there are many philosophical attitudes to adopt but truly I feel that I just want a better social life. May god help me
You are still very young, and you have the right attitude! I believe in you at your age to have the cognitive ability to express how you feel this way is impertinent to your life and success! Don’t give up your natural born fighter and you will find out Soon enough that life for a good chunk of it is nothing but a big fight! Take the time to appreciate what you have around you and who you have around you! You are young, but don’t forget at your age time starts to fly by year by year, so make an effort choose your friends wisely and build that Up! I believe in you and God’s grace over your life❤️❤️🙏
I don't see why everyone's defending Sarah so much,I think this video had a pretty good message,yes it's ok to mind your own buisness sometimes but no one can be happy just by ignoring everybody and thinking your better than everyone else.People seem to think Sarah is so confident but can she really be confident when we see by the end of the video how unhappy she really feels,and throughtout the video aswell.I don't hate Sarah but she definetely has some work to do on herself,and it's not society or everyone elses fault.
I agree with Brubeck Desmond - it's not a bald spot, it's the fashionable "flat top" hairstyle he's sporting. That shows he's cool. Meanwhile, the snob girl is resentful and angry at him because he's so cool.
Usually when someone says, “She thinks she is better than everyone.” They mean that THEY think she is better than themselves. Something about the person is giving them feelings of inferiority. A person with a good self esteem, and that is content with who they are don’t feel the need to say such things about others. They’re trying to bring them down to their level.
No, she really is trying to think she's better than them. She said so multiple times. It's something she displays in her mannerisms when she talks to people, she does not thank people when they compliment her nor politely decline when she is asked to dance. She has a very low self esteem. Her father reminds her that it is only because she is jealous of the fun they are able to have that she takes on this attitude. As if being brainier and 'better' than the others makes up for having no social life. Again, she has no self esteem and she can't stand to be proud of someone else's success. She's trying to make herself believe something that isn't true. She's not any better than them. Neither are they any better than her.
She could have said thank you when complimented on her new top, she could have answered the man who spoke to her at the dance and said no nicely when he asked her to dance. She is not particularly agreeable. That's her main problem. She doesn't have to be a social butterfly but she could learn some basic manners.
@@BimBop83 I agree that she didn't hear the girls who complicated her dress, but I somewhat disagree about the dude grabbing her arm to dance; it was the fifties and times were different. You're looking at it through modern eyes where everything is politically correct and men are emasculated. He didn't mean any real harm by it.
@@pdiz I would think that asking a girl for a dance is more polite would be the norm in the 1950s rather than ambushing a random classmate. I can see it become a fun thing if they're dating but not before.
That's what I was thinking. Gets her work done and gets excellent grades. With that kind of work ethic, she can control her future, instead of, say, getting stoned and pregnant.
Weinstein, and such parents would be misguided to think that being studious is the most important. Social life is part of success and it requires training and those young people gathering are little social life experiments. A lot of people succeed by not being very good in class but flowing like fish in the water in their network. While you can be a super specialist with a PhD, if you have no social skills you will get nowhere.
Good Lord, at the end of this film when the boy called her a snob....her horrified reaction, the sudden loud, creepy music.....I thought I was watching an Alfred Hitchcock film. Halloween isn't till Wednesday, folks.
I say leave her alone and quit forcing the poor girl to socialize. Hopefully, she leaves for college or moves to the big city, meets someone she likes and finds herself. Sara isn't a snob and doen't deserve to be judge harshly for being shy. Thats what I think!
Moving to the big city doesn’t change anything. I speak from experience. She needs to practice social skills where she is. Social skills are laid out very simply in the other films. I wish I’d seen these when I was growing up.
I can relate. I made my mother a cup of coffee once, but it was a tad too strong. My mother, being sarcastic, said "it's like drinking a cup of tar" so I, even more sarcastically, replied "aye, well you're probably used to drinking tar then." My jaw was swinging like a pendulum for weeks after lol
This came out 20 years before I was born, and yet, it seems like films like this are needed more than ever now. When I was in school I was not very good socially, but I see the younger people now and it's just a total train wreck.
I feel the opposite I feel like we need more people like this girl who focus on their studies and not being a liked by the people around them. This comes off as sexist as well, because if it was a boy, focusing hard on his studies, and nothing else, it would not be taboo the society of this video wants this girl to be married and nothing else they don’t want a female to do well academically
I was accused of being antisocial when I had to sleep in the car instead of going on a hike with my family when I started antidepressants. I was later diagnosed with another health disorder which caused an abnormal requirement for sleep. I was accused of being antisocial by not hanging around watching TV programs I didn't enjoy with my family. Just stuff that bored me to tears. My love of books was seen as weird and my love of fantasy fiction as a young child was frowned upon as having an overactive imagination. I was told by someone (in authority) in my family that I was a freak. And many other things besides. I was treated with concern about my love for homework such as writing stories and told I was studying too much (by a guardian). I didn't have many friends because I was extremely shy but I always liked all people until the mean ones let me down. Also I was nervous around judgemental and intolerant people. This video was made by someone who didn't understand social anxiety and introversion and tried to present Sarah in a bad light. Sarah sounds gifted. She probably has a learning disability too which some gifted people get in certain areas. I'm sure in real life she was never actually a snob but people just saw her that way because she was quiet and they didn't understand why. And she was likely on the spectrum. The girls were cruel in being nasty to her just because she was lost in her own world. A friend of mine actually said her first impression of me was that I was probably stuck-up until she got to know me and found out I was actually really friendly. But if people are always jumping to negative conclusions about Sarah - including her own parents who don't value her education like she does and look judgementally upon her and treat her like an outcast - then they are the snobs, not her, and she is right to stay away from them and find friends who like her the way she is and don't expect her to be like them. Some people get really anxious at parties and don't want to embarrass themselves. And just because you dislike someone who is popular doesn't make you a snob. Sometimes the popular ones are the most narcissistic, vain, and shallow. Thank God I wasn't a child in the 50s like my parents were. Introversion was seen as a mental disorder. People who were around in the 50s sometimes still think this way.
Natty B your kinda inferring a lot as you relate to Sarah but we are never shown another side to Sarah she is meant to be a snob and that’s what she is she thinks she’s better then those people and that because she’s better than him her design should have been picked because she can’t see how any one could have possibly been more skilled in their design.
Everyone thought the "shy ones" would "blossom" and really enjoy their new social lives. My whole life people tried to push me into "being friendly" and "having fun." I WAS having fun! Why do people think they are so entertaining anyway?
This is actually kind of cool. The video was supposed to start conversations and theories as to why Sarah acted the way she did & how to help her situation. As I’m sure it did them in the 1950s, it is again now in the 2020s in these comments. For the record, I think Sarah actually had an inferiority complex and acted the opposite so she wouldn’t feel humiliated. It didn’t work, but that’s because she simply didn’t have the coping mechanisms needed to thrive. The other kids for sure could have been nicer.
I love the drama she gives at the party lmao her face when he calls her a snob then she pushes that girl out of the way to cry outside the glass door and large windows lmao then to the tree while they all stare 😂👏
The girl in this video is quite pretty, but she shouldn't be so off-putting towards people. Her superiority complex is her handicap to being sociable to others. But, on the other hand, social groups can be very cruel towards others who are different than themselves. Sad, but that's the reality. 😐
Dario Witer She is highly competitive and a sore loser yes. But why shouldn’t she be resentful towards other people that treat her badly from the beginning? The guy who says she needs a special invitation to make her feel even more superior than them, the girls who said: her special Royal highness has a new sweater. And were mean when she just didn’t hear the their compliment. She was very rude to the boy at the party but she was about to go after him when the other guy intervened and called her a snob, she’s allowed to make mistakes.
@@bawoman You can see there’s a bit of animosity on the others towards her that girl is the only one who treats her badly in her face the other one is just have negative pinions and talk behind her back. So. And so of course she is going to feel like those people that dislike getting all that she worked hard for is unfair. She doesn’t seem to get better quality over quantity thing. With the drawing and her academics failures. But the others charge her an awareness and resentfulness as being a snob. She never treated anyone wrong she just didn’t talk to them. And when she did make a mistake she was just about to go after the boy
@@dariowiter3078 I am explaining why of this behavior. Her behavior doesn’t happen for no reason so I don’t consider it to be just a putting or to have a super complex
I was definitely accused of being stuck up in highschool. Certainly led to isloation. I'm a pretty independent person but i've learned over time to open up to people more and accept that i'm in the minority with my interests and disposition. I sympathize with Sarah, but she needs to learn how to act differently if she wants to be accepted. Yes, she got coaxed into going to the party, and she made sure that everyone knew she didn't want to be there.
I see a lot of people mad, thats the funny part of old school lessons, they don’t initially make you feeling great, they make you feel crappy inside then you ultimately realize they’re right and those are called “hard facts” you need to accept, you can be delusional and disagree with what will help you out but you wont be as happy as if you could be if you’d just try out the harsh realities of life, these videos are so important especially in this day and age where all content is designed to make you feel pleasure, it’s unhealthy, you’re supposed to feel bad so you can learn
She likes to read and mind her buisness....They are the snobs thinking they are better just because they all act one way and she doesnt. She doesnt insult anyone, or ignores on purpose. She just thinks to herself a lot, and they shun her out. This was just against individualism.
That's all fine, but her responses to others who tried to communicate with her or understand her DID insult others. She held a grudge against another just because his yearbook deign was picked and she was jealous and felt superior (not because of anything he did) The guy asked her if she wanted to dance and she declined, which is fine. Then the guy her asked if she just wanted to sit and talk and instead of just saying "no thanks", she was rude and stormed out of a party. The crowd didn't make fun of her - they were just worried about why she was upset. Human interaction is not always required, but it can help to have a friend or acquaintance or two to confide in.
I am a introvert and yet not a snob . I dont think myself above others . I like to study and read . I like being quiet . And yet I have plenty of good times and special friends .
I don't like parties either. A small quiet get-together with friends is more my speed. But I agree with the other comments, she is an introvert and a snob. Introversion is fine, snobbery is not. But they are a bit judgemental themselves.
I'm very introverted -- which does NOT mean shy or socially awkward. It means you need solitude to "recharge." Many introverts are capable of socializing just fine, some are even in performing arts... but at the end of the day, we need to go home and shut the door and be alone. Extroverts are super annoying to us when they try to push us as though we need to be fixed. But even I say that we all need to spend a LITTLE time socializing. Was Sarah a snob? Not sure about that, but she sure judged them.
I have never called a sweater luscious but I'm going to from now on. 🙆🏼 Poor Sarah she is just shy and introverted and people ridicule her all day and act like she did something wrong.
She gives the others no choice but to judge her as a snob and it probably is a cover up on her part for some inadequacy she feels about herself. A need to do things perfectly and hiding in that world to avoid her social shortcomings, looking down on others who are more at ease in that area and making the problem worse rather than better.
Don't get me wrong I understand that she's an introvert. However, when she says "I know I'm smarter then they are," or "I worked harder then so and so did," or just having a mentality that she's better than the rest of gang, that tries to be nice to her genuinely. Maintaining sympathy for her is hard.
They were all constantly talking behind her back because she didn't keep up small talk. To be honest, I'd go as far as to say she was being a bit bullied. She was really just minding her business most of the video.
CorenIsVeryCofused a fair point, I just think there was wrong on both sides. Although there was a couple times were there was people genuinely trying to be nice to her, even if it ended in a misunderstanding.
Daniel noland I agree! it's nice having a social life but it's okay to be an individual too. If they had a party with alcohol and drugs, she would have more willpower to not go along just to be part of the group. I thought the snobs in high school were the cheerleaders and the jocks not the loner they always had fun making fun of.
There is a difference between having a low tolerance for socializing but being open to it, and being stuck in your ways to the extent of not even seeing the possibility of doing anything else.
"I worked hard on the history test but flubbed it! I know lots of ppl in there that don't study half as hard as I do, and they come off with the A's. I'm smarter than they are - I KNOW I am!" (So that's how they got A's while Pumpkin flubbed it lol 😜) Poor Pumpkin seems to have emotional issues.
She was jealous of Phil. When he said "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make you mad." She reached her hand out and displayed sorrow. It was obvious she wanted to apologise & I'm sure she eventually did. In fact, I wouldn't doubt they went steady shortly after. She is achwardly social but is definitely not a snob. A snob would not run out of a party for feeling rejected. They would put their nose up and walk out the front door as if everyone is under them.
She is just different than them. She likes to work and be good at things; very competitive. So when others who are into completely different things are her peers and she has nobody that is similar to her to relate to she feels frustrated and it makes her sour. I mean hell i would be too, your a hard working person and enjoy completing things and everyone your surrounded by is so different and your forced to be around them. Not a snob just annoyed as hell about the situation, however if you cant change it, it would be wise to try to adapt to it rather than let it bring you down.
She just needs a friend that can talk with her and eventually get her to accept others more, be more socially self confident and not take herself so seriously. Its a chore getting someone like that to warm up to you enough to even accept your friendship but some people like Sarah just scream “Someone rescue me from myself” without ever saying a word. I used to hate when bullies would pick on other kids like Sarah. Some kids are just different and they don’t relate well with other kids. They have some social hang ups and thats okay. In high school it was always my goal to het to know kids like this better. Ive had to put quite a few bullies in their place over the years, including teachers as I was in school in the 70’s-80’s and things were different back then.
I think she is misunderstood. Looking back, I found it sad to be pushed into relationships with people whose personalities did not mesh with my personality. I'm glad that I joined the Navy and left home. The people left behind rarely ask about me and vice versa. Some people benefit from a change in environment.
When I was 16, there was a band across the river every weekend night all summer. They were supposedly playing country, but from a distance, they sounded like a truckload of bamboo tubas being dropped on an air mattress. My mom insisted that I go check it out once. It was so loud, couldn't hear my teeth rattle and nobody was doing anything but trying to "fit in." I'm not prone to social anxiety, nor do I think I'm better than others. I'm just not interested in partying. Live music? Yes! 6 foot speakers? No. Bad live music? Yes. Bad live music on 6 foot speakers? No. Bonfire? Yes. Up until 2 am? No. BBQ? Yes. Does anyone do that anymore? No. Etc.
The 1950's were a strange time. It was before the cultural revolution of the 1960's. Everything was taboo and everyone conformed and didn't create waves.
They're certainly ones to talk, calling Sarah a snob, while other girls get catty and gossip about Sarah and her new sweater within her hearing. I think she's frustrated because she tries so hard and doesn't get much recognition for it. Apparently, she used to be at the top of her class more when she was younger, but she's been struggling in school lately, and she probably worries about why. Her father's advice wasn't helpful at all. He should have talked to her more about why history is bothering her as a subject. Maybe she has a good general understanding of events but has trouble remembering dates. Some people just aren't numbers people or good at memorizing, and maybe the fact that she worries so much and tries to hard is making her too nervous to concentrate well. There is such a thing as over-studying. She's probably burning out. Maybe some kids have also been teasing her for not being as bright as she used to be or getting the grades she used to or something. As for the yearbook art project, the father could have asked her to show him her design. Maybe the more simplistic one that was selected was chosen because hers was too detailed or complicated for what the school could put together. What I'm trying to say is that, by focusing on cramming this poor girl into their expectations (you should be happy, you should be sociable, you should like people who are liked by others and happier than you, etc.), they're completely missing what's really eating at her and the skills that she's struggling to develop on her own because they're not really helping. She's just frustrated and floundering while people are ignoring the kind of help she really needs. Also, if she's right, and other people are getting ahead because they're "friends" or more liked by the people in charge, that's not really a good thing. She should be able to ask if there was a reason why her design was rejected and get an honest, constructive response that doesn't involve, "We just like him better than we like you." If that really all it is, I can completely understand why she doesn't like these people. Who wants to enter a rigged contest, where the most popular people are already declared the winners and no amount of work or talent will make a difference? Maybe she really needs a new group of people who don't have preconceived notions about who Sarah is and what she ought to be.
I think you are taking this video a little personally, perhaps, since you have assigned her a whole backstory and a set of personality traits. *edited for spelling*
No snark. Tracy, you should be a writer. The personality and backstory you came up with from a trite, depthless little narrative that took twice the amount time necessary to to make its point was actually quite impressive. You have a talent for fleshing out a character. Seriously, try it.
@@flufflepuffle Tracy's doing what actors often do given a few minutes of melodramatic dialog to flesh out, assigning unspoken backstories for the characters' motivations for their behavior. We're all discussing what we think about this situation, which calls for some speculation on the reasons for the characters' behavior toward one another, and Tracy has laid out one possible scenario. Through the lens of our present-day understanding of introversion, it sounds to me like some of Sara's complaints are valid. The others treat her like she's broken, for being less outgoing than they are, which still happens to introverts today. It's also possible that Sara became overly defensive when the guy asked her to dance, because she was self-conscious about her own dancing skills after seeing him dance with that other girl. On the other hand, she comes off sounding pretty bitter and judgmental herself, whether or not she's over-compensating for some hidden insecurity. Nowadays in a case like this, I would hope both sides would meet each other halfway, and that Sara's well-meaning friends wouldn't be so quick to brand her a snob.
A lot of people commenting seem to have missed the point completely, and most are mentioning they are socially anxious introverts. The difference is, whether you like it or not, rudeness is not an excuse for your 'anxiety' or the fact you are an 'introvert' that hates humans preferring to be alone. Treat each person as an individual, when you begin passing judgements or snarky comments towards others then yes, you're coming off as arrogant. I have autism and find it extremely difficult to communicate with people, but I know if I was making comments such as being smarter than everyone and looked down my nose, which I'd ultimately be doing with such a comment, I would expect negative reactions. The girl's dad calmly explained that friends are important, it may do her some good to try and make some, plus to set an example. The man's daughter coldly stonewalled him and made _more_ comments about being superior.
I had severe social anxiety as a teen (I still have it as an adult, but it isn't quite as bad.) If my neighbor had been the same age and threw open houses every weekend, I would have WANTED to go, but the social anxiety would have stopped me. And, if I HAD gone, it would have made me shut down so that I COULDN'T speak, much less dance.
"Aren't they happier than you are?" That was the cruelest thing the father could have said. Her reaction was probably because she was thinking, "He really wasn't listening, and it is useless for me to say anything more." So she retreated behind her cold wall to protect herself from further assault against her very self. "Be like everyone else; conform." seems to be the message here. How very sad it would be were everyone to be the same. For me, this vignette is about lack of respect for the right of an individual to be . . . an individual with the right to choose their own path. The more people and the more cacophony around me, the more I want to run. Growing up in the 50s and 60s, I never understood the appeal of Elvis or rock'n'roll. The few times I went to parties, I was miserable. Now, I'm 71. I have friends, and travel a lot. I am content. "Can a friend like Ron help her in any way?" Yes; he can listen. He can accept her as who she is. He can be a friend, not just another of those who insist that she conform to the way he thinks she should feel, think, and act.
Well there's a difference between wanting to run from crowds and being a snob to others. She doesn't need to conform or be friends with the gang. She just needs to learn to be pleasant to them and to accept them the way she wants to be accepted by them. Instead, she thinks she is smarter and better than all her classmates. This causes her all her social problems. For example, she doesn't need to go to her neighbor's party, but if she does she shouldn't be rude to the boy who asks her to dance. She can politely decline with the excuse that she is tired or doesn't dance. That way she will gain respect instead of criticism for her snobby personality. She doesn't realize that she hurt the boy's feelings.
@@Lisa59 she was made to go to the party. And if it wasn't for that nosy boot licking kid, she probably would have apologised. Didn't you see the regret after she realized he was hurt?
@@goose7215 I guess I didn't. I was too focused on her rudely blowing off the boy who politely asked her to dance. Usually I stick up for the girl, but this time I think in some way she deserved the critical comments from the boy.
Seems like if she finished her homework first, she'd have the rest of the weekend to socialize when she wants to. It takes the same amount of time (probably more when she's constantly getting interrupted). She needs a set of earplugs. I personally, would do all my weekend homework on Sunday because Saturday is the seventh day that God set apart for us to rest on, making Friday night a good party night. Plus, I won't completely forget my homework if I do it the day before it's due like I would if I did it before partying and then got all the fun stuff on my mind instead.
She either became social to some point and stopped insulting people trying to include her and became popular again and married one of the group of kids she grew up with during this time. OR She went on to college and finished a degree in research and spent all her time researching until she was old and gray or found another researcher to marry.
"Don't do your homework on Friday night, instead go out and have fun partying, you have all weekend to do homework." no parent has ever said.
Not entirely true. My husband's parents basically begged him to go out and make friends. The joke is that "good" parents are spoilsports who won't let their kids have fun. The reality is that no parent is happy to watch their child isolate themselves to the point where they literally have no friends, connections, and completely lack the ability to have a pleasant conversation. This isn't a problem that every kid has, but it's common enough that most people know at least 1 person who can barely handle social situations outside of work and class time.
thats only because she wants a little pickle tickle time with her hubby
Mother was worried her daughter would end up an "old maid."
Amen. If some people don't have something to worry about they don't stop till they find something. Trust me I'm one of them.
Shoot..my Mom was this way!!! Heaven forbid I should be home on a Friday or Saturday night, despite me being popular and having a boyfriend. She was the ultimate extrovert and I am an introvert
My idea of fun: Watching RUclips with no human contact for hours.
verguchis puchis lmao, I have social anxiety anyway.
Sounds like a great time to me. Too much human contact is irritating.
Tony Stark not good
Lol. Sincere but Come out and join us once in a while. We will share similar feelings. We feel like you too but learned new ways too.
Decently.
😗Cool to rest and have time to meditate plenty.
lets watch youtube videos alone together then =D
Being an introvert is okay but passing judgements on other people seems a bit stuck up. For instance " I'd rather not" is okay but "I'd rather not... NOT WITH YOU" seems snarky.
I agree. Everyone is protecting her, but there is a difference between not needing to socialize much, and actually viewing certain activities or people as inferior.
As an introvert and former wallflower, I’d have been THRILLED if the cute and popular boy showed interest in me like that. He was super sweet and even said they could just talk. He apologized for upsetting her. She was definitely out of line here.
@@crazysingingchick Out of line? Agreed. But she immediately had a pained look on her face when she saw his reaction and was about to walk after him. Then mr. buttinski walks up to her and starts attacking her which put her on the defensive. Had he not intervened, the outcome may have been much different and the snob may have learned something about herself and others. The End.
This chick needs therapy
Snarky is just a fun word nice adjective!😋
The point of this video isn't that you need to be social to be accepted, the point is if you harshly judge others, it is inevitable that they will judge you harshly too. As an introvert who hates parties and highly values academics, I truly hope that people realize that this character isn't simply introverted but unnecessarily spiteful and passive aggressive.
I think she’s overcompensating for feelings of inadequacy too. Or she’s just a b****!😅
I see a girl that doesn't hate everyone else.
She hates herself.
She's angry at herself for trying so hard, and still coming up shorter than everyone else who doesn't seem to have to try.
She even told her father; she was worried about the test, studied so hard, and then failed-she said it frustratingly
It must feel miserable to spend so much time studying and still come up short
She also said, she tried so so hard to get the yearbook cover, but then the kid who always seems to get his way, swooped in again with something that (we don't know how long it took him, but at least in her reality), was way less meaningful and detailed than hers
I think she is truly hurting by how she is struggling; she wants to be better at school, so she spends her time trying
All the other people seemingly are already better than her, but spend their time chatting and hanging out.
I wish the father had responded differently; instead of pushing her to just go to the party- maybe also let her know that she IS smart- some people just learn/grow differently- maybe he could have told her about one of her strengths- to help show her she is a capable and intelligent person.
Sometimes it takes an outsiders perspective to show you your value; especially when you're struggling
As per the question at the end of the video; I DO think the friend could help
If the people stopped treating everything she did like snobbery and tried to get to know the real her, she would probably stop lashing out so much
It hurts when you think everyone around you hates you; it's easy to get defensive
So I think if she had a better support system that helped her see the good things about her; she could embrace her strengths and really blossom and not be so sad about herself; in turn, being able to be happy and let loose and have many friends!
@@ajak281 Absolutely, and those are some very good points. I completely agree that her father should have handled the situation differently; focusing on what the root causes of her attitude problems and anti-social behaviors were instead of pushing her to go to a party would have been much more helpful and effective. However, it is also worth noting that no matter how she feels about herself, it would benefit both her interaction and understanding of others as well as her self view if she honed a kinder attitude toward others. Right now, she is clearly struggling, but her attitude is self-destructive and perpetuates her isolation as she pushes others away by assuming they couldn’t understand. I also completely agree that much of this could be solved by having a good support system, but even with a support system, you must recognize where you are part of your own problem and admit that you need help for that support system to then be able to help
They are a social behaviours, not anti-social. Anti-social behaviours are behaviours that harm others not simply being unsociable.
✅That part💯
Everyone in the comments are saying she's just a introvert but I'm with the group. She clearly has a superiority Complex. She looks down on everyone and lacks the social intelligence to know that judging everyone for the pettiest of offences is not the way to make friends. It's ok to be an introvert, it's ok to be shy or want alone time. I bet the group would have been nicer to her if she wasn't constantly judging them for simply being them. How dare he become king? Why did they pick his design over mine? I worked harder! Oh boo hoo. She needs to leave her own pity party and learn that other people also face the same challenges as she does without taking it out on others. She needs confidence in her own ability to succeed.
or maybe shes in the wrong area we forget ...in 2018 we can find our tribe online she didnt have that luxury ...in todays terms turn your privilege down its too loud....i was her and guess what after i moved got a doctorate i have TONS of friends ive gotten along the way the people in my small town didnt get me.....I get her 100 %
@@sirenthomas4595 it shouldn't take moving away from an area to be a decent human being and be nice to others. Again, nothing wrong with being an introvert and preferring to stay in. I just don't like the way she talks down to others constantly. Its fine for her not to want to make friends but she doesn't have to be rude or mean to others when they try to approach her in a friendly way or when they succeed at something she didn't. Yes, its wrong that her parents pushed her to go to that party and its wrong that the girls at school assumed she was snob when she didn't hear them. But she was also wrong for catching an attitude with that boy who simply responded to the question she asked about the design winner along with publicy humiliating the dude who politely asked her to dance or just talk if she preferred. Yes, she has a right say no to both but she didn't have to so rude about it. I say that as a introvert now that doesn't need to talk down to others when they try to include me in stuff.
@@snicklover she simply isn't into what the others are into ...she likely lives in a small area.....btw I left the area bc it was full of racist ...
lol who me? I was nick named ice queen in college so...yea lol....
You sound like a Trump supporter.
She was minding her own business until people kept pushing her. Like, if she didn't want to go to the party, leave her alone. When they pushed her to socialize the way they wanted her to, they got their toes stepped on.
CinnastixChick Yup! That happened to me quite a bit by my parents when I was a child & teenager and it still happens to me as an adult, but without parental interference. 😕
You don't understand
They wonder why she's coming off as rude when they all want to force her away from her school work, which is important to her, to force her to party. Odd.
@@ingloriousbetch4302 ironic...
She's "progressive?"
WHAT?!!! A parent actually saying "After all it's only Friday night. Why don't you go out and have some fun. You have the whole weekend to finish your homework." Good Grief Charlie Brown! If my parents EVER said that to me I would have had a heart attack right then and there. In my school days it was the exact OPPOSITE.
She even nocked on her door before coming in
Nate Forrester lmfao at this comment chain
Yeah, I'm a little shocked too. Especially because she's a girl. I'd expected something more conservative.
My mom it's just like that, it's really annoying actually
@@mrsanonymousflower8491 This, so much. Every time I spanked the monkey I had to constantly listen to the sound of steps on the stairs because my parents were liable to barge in at random moments for no real reason. It was almost as if they were oblivious, or wanted to see me cranking my goalie.
Edit: seriously youtube? I can't write j3rked off without being censored?? F U!
I think it is actually really important to help older kids work on their social skills. Films like this could have provoked thoughtful discussions.
I definitely found a lot of comfort as a teen watching films like this. With the modern awareness of structural issues and diversity, people seem to want to ignore personal responsibility in problems when in fact the answer is a healthy balance of both.
Many children (and adults) wonder why they are perceived badly, and these films can help promote the self introspection that can help one make positive change in their own life.
@@VicvicW Your comment really resonates with me, and so do your playlists (the RuneScape music!)
I think these would be brilliant to show in school - they would start so many debates and for kids to see that they have the same problems ad kids 70 years ago would be good.
It seems like she actually feels inferior and tries to mask it by acting superior.
Yup. Exactly. Not realizing she's alienating everyone and eventually no one ain't gonna give two shits about her
I don't think so. She is better than them and she is aware of that, there is nothing wrong with that. I am fine with a lot of friends, and no friends at all. A real winner in life is: you can perfectly happy when you have no friends. I don't respect followers, I only respect leaders.
@@seanleith5312 I agree. I have no respect for people who go along just to get along.
@@EphemeralProductions use real words, not profanity
@@JohnPMitten ill do what i want. It’s (kind of) still a free America
I don't think she's a snob. She might be an introvert. But she also might actually be a lot smarter than all of them, in which case, it'd be hard to hang around them when you don't like the same things. Like I hate parties or dancing, I'd be pretty mad if everyone was acting like there was something wrong with me when not everyone is interested in the same things. She did come off as rude and she should work on her social skills but everyone's being just as mean to her. I don't know. I'm an introvert so I understand not wanting to socialize at events.
Sydney Lynn Go around people that you don't know. See if it's better.
Ronnie Bishop that helps
She isn't smarter, she is just more competitive and pushy. Big difference.
Sydney Lynn agree
@@MeadeSkeltonMusic who says that? I don't see how she's pushy? She might be competitive, but you can be smart and competitive at the same time
Asian version: 1:27 well that's good, honey. Since you've a whole weekend ahead of you, why don't you start preparing for your engineering/ med school entrance exam
Jee and Neet
I don't like to socialize. I honestly don't have time or the energy. Not a snob. Just like being alone and into research.
Same I like being alone 90% ..I don't mind socializing on social media..
What does this have to do with the video when the girl has a very clear superiority complex?
Yep. Me too
Sometimes they're really afraid of people. Social anxiety.
She's jealous of Bill Tyler.
Watching these videos is so calming
I agree, watching these films calm me, relaxing😊
i find them quite soothing...
Kids today need these
She didn't WANT a special invitation to the party, she didn't even want to go.
The video addresses this in the end, and suggests that the other kids are treating her unfairly, too. However, Sarah is definitely not helping her situation. She has created an image of herself in her mind that she is perfect, and thus, cannot handle thinking that anybody else could possibly be more popular, smart, or hard working. She wears the fact that she is isolated like a suit of armor, and that it validates her image of herself. The way she talks to her mother and father, you'd think that she was just asked to clean her room when she didn't want to.
It reminds me of the saying that goes: " Sorry I'm late... I didn't want to come (be here) that is popular right now.
This is literally a fight I had with my parents until I was in my twenties. My mother wouldn't allow me to go to college early unless I went to prom my Junior year. It wasn't that I didn't have friends, it was that I had a lot of undiagnosed health problems that were making me cranky. I never realized other people weren't in pain all the time.
Either way, socializing was fine as long as they came to me.
As an Introvert, I got to say she is acting like a snob. It is not the fact that she doesn't want to hangout with people or anything that is the issue, but how she sees other people as being beneath her to a degree. She has an issue with the fact that he won the Yearbook competition on design and she didn't, mocking his work as if he doesn't deserve it. Sometimes the most beauty is in the most simple thing of art. Not winning doesn't automatically mean someones art is unappreciated.
Calling their socializing as "silly" demeaning their gatherings all because she doesn't understand it.
You forget that they really picked the guys work due to bias. We dint like her so lets pick who we do like even though she put more work in to hers. Its the bias of a group that hurts those.
Actually that is narrsisscm.... do you still have this issue? Just curious
If I put way more hours into my work than my peers, they got better grades AND won the competitions and stuff, despite her putting in more time and effort- id probably be upset too
While the way she handles it seems like she is projecting her insecurities onto them because she doesn't understand why she tries so hard and still fails compared to these kids that just hangout and party all the time.
They degrade HER all the time calling her a snob- and all they do is have fun and get better grades than her, so of course it seems "silly" to her (in reality, she probably WOULD want to hang out if she got better grades and felt confident in herself- it wouldn't seem silly to her anymore if it didn't take any value from her life, but at the moment she could be using the "hanging out" time to be studying, which seems to her like the only thing that may improve her grades)
I knew people like this in school, and once they didn't seem so jealous about others' grades compared to their own and they found their own hobbies and likes, they truly blossomed!
Perfectly said 👏
@@Eszra Many times the popular is picked due to popular. So this could be an issue but her problem is bigger than one incident.
Sounds more like social anxiety than snobbery
Yeah but they know hide nor hair about that back then. Theres STILL people who haven't heard of social anxiety or know what it is or BELIEVE it is even a real thing
* I know such a gal who was too shy to socialize. Today she's a never married lady living with her cats. Sad indeed that she never got out to meet people during her young single years. A most intelligent gal but never socially savvy. ♣
I have social anxiety and I don't talk to people like she did.
@@EphemeralProductions Doubt [X]
It really does. The people around her are so rude and judgmental.
Sure, there were a couple times when Sarah was honestly zoned out and her actions were misconstrued but her feelings of ill-will towards others is alarming. My mother is just like this, and she is one of the most bitter people I know.
I think that's the point of the end of the film. It doesn't take a lot for alienation like this to build up. Some kids literally took to bullying her because she was an easy target to belittle. She's already in a bad place mentally, so it's very difficult for well meaning people to break through to her. When she saw she actually hurt the class president, you could see the genuine remorse for a moment, but she was right about the apple-polishers, they are opportunists that suck up to the popular kids and bully the weak. Not 2 seconds later, one of THOSE types immediately jumped in to scold her, even though the situation had nothing to do with him, her instinct is to defend herself, so her remorse was short lived. (Notice how he never once said she should apologize, he just started making wild accusations.) She needs to simmer down, recognize her own jealousy, and not wall off others so much, but other kids need to recognize she's a sensitive individual that takes time to get close to.
My mother was a witch.
Introverted and snobbish is 2 different things man and she IS a snob jeez. You can be introverted but you don't have to be mean
Tell this to 95% of "Introverts" then.
I died when she called her mom corny Lmaoooooo
Lmaooo same
I would bet she’s experienced rejection and humiliation in the past and coped by withdrawing from social life and dedicating herself to her schoolwork. Good grades are a type of validation, right? A way to “get back” at those that once shunned/excluded you is to succeed in a career or craft.
But human validation is more important than she may realize. I’m a painter, and a teacher once warned me, “Your art can’t love you back.” Meaning, it’s important to remember that interpersonal relationships CAN be fulfilling and validating.
But it can be tricky to cultivate a social life that works for you....a lot of trial and error. Not everyone needs or wants to be the life of the party, but it’s rewarding to feel seen by another person.
Owning your voice is no easy task for many people, especially when you feel dramatically different from those around. But if you try, little by little life will open up. Starts with emotional honesty.
I relate to her, can you tell? Lol
I can relate I am about to get my BS in EE and I had bad friends in the past and if you have seen the trouble maker film I kind of resembled Mels behaviors after honest retrospection into my past. I also did mma as a result of my bad friends always fighting. Now I am alone with only good school friends who do not know where all of me sprouted from. I just turned 21 but I wish I had a more eventful life and I wish that I had made the right decisions in my past socially as all my decisions ultimately left me to become isolated and hence I dedicated my life to physics/EE. The sad part is, I am proficient in solving physics problems but I am far from the best and it burns my soul and I truly have to put the thought in the back of my mind to live in sanity. People may say I am in a good life position but there are things I wish such as social life that I really didn’t experience too much apart from the usual party and group study lunch times. But as my physics 10:27 professor said in year 1, the future of our lives are unknown. But I guess that is what separates earth from hell as if we knew every outcome were to be a success, then we would go insane as there would be an undying boredom that would destroy us all lol. I know there are many philosophical attitudes to adopt but truly I feel that I just want a better social life. May god help me
You are still very young, and you have the right attitude! I believe in you at your age to have the cognitive ability to express how you feel this way is impertinent to your life and success! Don’t give up your natural born fighter and you will find out Soon enough that life for a good chunk of it is nothing but a big fight! Take the time to appreciate what you have around you and who you have around you! You are young, but don’t forget at your age time starts to fly by year by year, so make an effort choose your friends wisely and build that Up! I believe in you and God’s grace over your life❤️❤️🙏
I don't see why everyone's defending Sarah so much,I think this video had a pretty good message,yes it's ok to mind your own buisness sometimes but no one can be happy just by ignoring everybody and thinking your better than everyone else.People seem to think Sarah is so confident but can she really be confident when we see by the end of the video how unhappy she really feels,and throughtout the video aswell.I don't hate Sarah but she definetely has some work to do on herself,and it's not society or everyone elses fault.
Because she is cute.
When he called her a snob, she looked like someone insulted her ancestors or something 😂😂
That rotten SNOB!
The boy that called her a snob was the troublemaker.
Because she hadn’t expected it, caught like a deer in headlights that someone would be so affronted by her bitchiness.
The class president has a huge bald spot at age 17
My brothers began losing their hair when they were 15. They never even got to have hair!
It is thinner on top because he has a "flat top" haircut. Your head is not flat so it is going to be shorter on the crown.
I think they all look like 30something
@@gingerli09
I know, it's weird
I agree with Brubeck Desmond - it's not a bald spot, it's the fashionable "flat top" hairstyle he's sporting. That shows he's cool. Meanwhile, the snob girl is resentful and angry at him because he's so cool.
The woman who played Sarah is Brady Rubin, she is 85 years old now
Usually when someone says, “She thinks she is better than everyone.” They mean that THEY think she is better than themselves. Something about the person is giving them feelings of inferiority. A person with a good self esteem, and that is content with who they are don’t feel the need to say such things about others. They’re trying to bring them down to their level.
No, she really is trying to think she's better than them. She said so multiple times. It's something she displays in her mannerisms when she talks to people, she does not thank people when they compliment her nor politely decline when she is asked to dance.
She has a very low self esteem. Her father reminds her that it is only because she is jealous of the fun they are able to have that she takes on this attitude. As if being brainier and 'better' than the others makes up for having no social life.
Again, she has no self esteem and she can't stand to be proud of someone else's success. She's trying to make herself believe something that isn't true. She's not any better than them. Neither are they any better than her.
If someone acts like they are better 5han everyone else, as Sarah obviously did, then it naturally follows that they will be described in that way
She could have said thank you when complimented on her new top, she could have answered the man who spoke to her at the dance and said no nicely when he asked her to dance. She is not particularly agreeable. That's her main problem. She doesn't have to be a social butterfly but she could learn some basic manners.
Sandra O'Brien Exactly! What gives her the right to be all hoity toity and superior to them anyway? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
She didn’t hear the girls who complimented her dress. Also, I wouldn’t react well to a dude grabbing my arm at a party I was forced to go to!
@@BimBop83 I agree that she didn't hear the girls who complicated her dress, but I somewhat disagree about the dude grabbing her arm to dance; it was the fifties and times were different. You're looking at it through modern eyes where everything is politically correct and men are emasculated. He didn't mean any real harm by it.
@@pdiz I would think that asking a girl for a dance is more polite would be the norm in the 1950s rather than ambushing a random classmate. I can see it become a fun thing if they're dating but not before.
Yup
She's not an introvert. She's studious. Most parents would kill to have a kid like that.
That's what I was thinking. Gets her work done and gets excellent grades. With that kind of work ethic, she can control her future, instead of, say, getting stoned and pregnant.
She can be both you know. She's definitely not an extrovert.
@@beckys5461 "Introvert" is used pejoratively here.
I think it’s wonderful that her mom wanted her to have a good time. My mom didn’t help me in this way.
Weinstein, and such parents would be misguided to think that being studious is the most important. Social life is part of success and it requires training and those young people gathering are little social life experiments. A lot of people succeed by not being very good in class but flowing like fish in the water in their network. While you can be a super specialist with a PhD, if you have no social skills you will get nowhere.
Good Lord, at the end of this film when the boy called her a snob....her horrified reaction, the sudden loud, creepy music.....I thought I was watching an Alfred Hitchcock film. Halloween isn't till Wednesday, folks.
Yes, they just should had added the Psycho shower scene music and they would had been set, although this may had come out before that movie.
LOL!
That's how they did it back in those old movies. Corny or not. Lol
Haha, well she did just get told about herself. Reading is fundamental, and she got read like an open book. ;)
Yes, that was hilarious 😂
I say leave her alone and quit forcing the poor girl to socialize. Hopefully, she leaves for college or moves to the big city, meets someone she likes and finds herself. Sara isn't a snob and doen't deserve to be judge harshly for being shy. Thats what I think!
I think your "guess" about Sara is the best one of them all.
@@amandabr9562 ok? Maybe she was better than everybody else, it happens🤷
THIS
Sara has an inferiority complex disguised as slobbery.
Moving to the big city doesn’t change anything. I speak from experience. She needs to practice social skills where she is. Social skills are laid out very simply in the other films. I wish I’d seen these when I was growing up.
I keep forgetting these are 'discussion-starter' educational films, and I look for a happy ending every time-!
Bethany Brandon me too!.😂
Makes ya think 🤔 though, doesn't It?
2024.. watch this old movie title, EDUCATING RITA.... may be this girls issue.
@@yuw777 Thanks! I will watch!
The mom literally said YOLO to her daughter XDD I'm dying
She said "You're only YOUNG once," not 'you only live once.'
"Mother, don't be so corny." Lmao if I dared said that to my mother, my jaw would be wired in place.
Alyssa Jones Same here! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@michaelshields7777 Awesome!!!!
@@gw437 Lol is that so?
I can relate. I made my mother a cup of coffee once, but it was a tad too strong. My mother, being sarcastic, said "it's like drinking a cup of tar" so I, even more sarcastically, replied "aye, well you're probably used to drinking tar then." My jaw was swinging like a pendulum for weeks after lol
@@El__Silbon Lol damn!
It's like a supervillain origin story.
Yes like ms dr evil
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Snoberella vs SwellGuy
This came out 20 years before I was born, and yet, it seems like films like this are needed more than ever now. When I was in school I was not very good socially, but I see the younger people now and it's just a total train wreck.
I feel the opposite I feel like we need more people like this girl who focus on their studies and not being a liked by the people around them. This comes off as sexist as well, because if it was a boy, focusing hard on his studies, and nothing else, it would not be taboo the society of this video wants this girl to be married and nothing else they don’t want a female to do well academically
Due to phones and media. Due to kids not learning social skills young due to electronics.
I was accused of being antisocial when I had to sleep in the car instead of going on a hike with my family when I started antidepressants. I was later diagnosed with another health disorder which caused an abnormal requirement for sleep.
I was accused of being antisocial by not hanging around watching TV programs I didn't enjoy with my family. Just stuff that bored me to tears. My love of books was seen as weird and my love of fantasy fiction as a young child was frowned upon as having an overactive imagination. I was told by someone (in authority) in my family that I was a freak. And many other things besides.
I was treated with concern about my love for homework such as writing stories and told I was studying too much (by a guardian).
I didn't have many friends because I was extremely shy but I always liked all people until the mean ones let me down. Also I was nervous around judgemental and intolerant people.
This video was made by someone who didn't understand social anxiety and introversion and tried to present Sarah in a bad light. Sarah sounds gifted. She probably has a learning disability too which some gifted people get in certain areas. I'm sure in real life she was never actually a snob but people just saw her that way because she was quiet and they didn't understand why. And she was likely on the spectrum. The girls were cruel in being nasty to her just because she was lost in her own world.
A friend of mine actually said her first impression of me was that I was probably stuck-up until she got to know me and found out I was actually really friendly.
But if people are always jumping to negative conclusions about Sarah - including her own parents who don't value her education like she does and look judgementally upon her and treat her like an outcast - then they are the snobs, not her, and she is right to stay away from them and find friends who like her the way she is and don't expect her to be like them.
Some people get really anxious at parties and don't want to embarrass themselves.
And just because you dislike someone who is popular doesn't make you a snob. Sometimes the popular ones are the most narcissistic, vain, and shallow.
Thank God I wasn't a child in the 50s like my parents were. Introversion was seen as a mental disorder. People who were around in the 50s sometimes still think this way.
Natty B your kinda inferring a lot as you relate to Sarah but we are never shown another side to Sarah she is meant to be a snob and that’s what she is she thinks she’s better then those people and that because she’s better than him her design should have been picked because she can’t see how any one could have possibly been more skilled in their design.
Everyone thought the "shy ones" would "blossom" and really enjoy their new social lives. My whole life people tried to push me into "being friendly" and "having fun." I WAS having fun! Why do people think they are so entertaining anyway?
This is actually kind of cool. The video was supposed to start conversations and theories as to why Sarah acted the way she did & how to help her situation. As I’m sure it did them in the 1950s, it is again now in the 2020s in these comments. For the record, I think Sarah actually had an inferiority complex and acted the opposite so she wouldn’t feel humiliated. It didn’t work, but that’s because she simply didn’t have the coping mechanisms needed to thrive. The other kids for sure could have been nicer.
Well said!
she's not a snob. she's an introvert!
I guess there was no room to be yourself in the 1950’s.
Yeah. Collectivism was the norm in the 50s.
social anxiety!
Gregory May Also a possibility!
She could also have social anxiety
I love the drama she gives at the party lmao her face when he calls her a snob then she pushes that girl out of the way to cry outside the glass door and large windows lmao then to the tree while they all stare 😂👏
The girl in this video is quite pretty, but she shouldn't be so off-putting towards people. Her superiority complex is her handicap to being sociable to others. But, on the other hand, social groups can be very cruel towards others who are different than themselves. Sad, but that's the reality. 😐
Dario Witer She is highly competitive and a sore loser yes. But why shouldn’t she be resentful towards other people that treat her badly from the beginning? The guy who says she needs a special invitation to make her feel even more superior than them, the girls who said: her special Royal highness has a new sweater. And were mean when she just didn’t hear the their compliment. She was very rude to the boy at the party but she was about to go after him when the other guy intervened and called her a snob, she’s allowed to make mistakes.
@@Random_Wierdo. whho treated her badly except that one girl in the beginning?
@@bawoman You can see there’s a bit of animosity on the others towards her that girl is the only one who treats her badly in her face the other one is just have negative pinions and talk behind her back. So. And so of course she is going to feel like those people that dislike getting all that she worked hard for is unfair. She doesn’t seem to get better quality over quantity thing. With the drawing and her academics failures. But the others charge her an awareness and resentfulness as being a snob. She never treated anyone wrong she just didn’t talk to them. And when she did make a mistake she was just about to go after the boy
@@Random_Wierdo. No one is arguing that mistakes happen, but her behavior towards herself and others is really off-putting, that's all.
@@dariowiter3078 I am explaining why of this behavior. Her behavior doesn’t happen for no reason so I don’t consider it to be just a putting or to have a super complex
“They don’t understand!” Makes out with the tree
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Guys introvert means you recharge with alone time- you can have loads of friends and go to parties while still being an introvert
Introverts get their energy from themselves, while extroverts get their energy from others.
I'm an introvert who prefers to be alone and not party. She's likely the same.
@@victorianbarbie yeah but claiming you're smarter than everyone else and that they're all unlikable isn't an "introvert"
In reality, there would be others amongst her cohort who are also introverted and she would likely have clicked with one or two others like herself.
@@kerensa7349 so she's an introvert with an attitude 😂😂
I was definitely accused of being stuck up in highschool. Certainly led to isloation. I'm a pretty independent person but i've learned over time to open up to people more and accept that i'm in the minority with my interests and disposition. I sympathize with Sarah, but she needs to learn how to act differently if she wants to be accepted. Yes, she got coaxed into going to the party, and she made sure that everyone knew she didn't want to be there.
I think she was just misunderstood. Maybe struggling with anxiety. Reminded me a lot of my self
Bethany Butler yep me too
Anxiety could be why she doesn't want to go out, but doesn't explain why she was so rude.
I see a lot of people mad, thats the funny part of old school lessons, they don’t initially make you feeling great, they make you feel crappy inside then you ultimately realize they’re right and those are called “hard facts” you need to accept, you can be delusional and disagree with what will help you out but you wont be as happy as if you could be if you’d just try out the harsh realities of life, these videos are so important especially in this day and age where all content is designed to make you feel pleasure, it’s unhealthy, you’re supposed to feel bad so you can learn
deep understanding.
The head snap at him calling her a “snob” is classic!
If Wally Cleaver and Eddy Haskel had shown up at Sara's house, things would have been fun. Things were always fun with those guys!
The guy who told her that she wanted to dance and couldn't pass up the chance to be a snob was the Troublemaker in the short film "The Troublemaker."
Sarah was the loner girl Susan Jane in the short film the Outsider.
She likes to read and mind her buisness....They are the snobs thinking they are better just because they all act one way and she doesnt. She doesnt insult anyone, or ignores on purpose. She just thinks to herself a lot, and they shun her out. This was just against individualism.
Fábio Rodrigues individualism is a lie
Meade Skelton you’re a lie
How so?
Fábio Rodrigues They might come across as a snob if they're not outgoing.
That's all fine, but her responses to others who tried to communicate with her or understand her DID insult others. She held a grudge against another just because his yearbook deign was picked and she was jealous and felt superior (not because of anything he did) The guy asked her if she wanted to dance and she declined, which is fine. Then the guy her asked if she just wanted to sit and talk and instead of just saying "no thanks", she was rude and stormed out of a party. The crowd didn't make fun of her - they were just worried about why she was upset. Human interaction is not always required, but it can help to have a friend or acquaintance or two to confide in.
There was a time I was exactly like Sara..i really understand her but it's hard to describe why she is like that
I am a introvert and yet not a snob . I dont think myself above others . I like to study and read . I like being quiet . And yet I have plenty of good times and special friends .
I don't like parties either. A small quiet get-together with friends is more my speed. But I agree with the other comments, she is an introvert and a snob. Introversion is fine, snobbery is not. But they are a bit judgemental themselves.
My mom and I would be having the opposite conversation... I'd want to go out and she'd tell me that school is more important.
I'm very introverted -- which does NOT mean shy or socially awkward. It means you need solitude to "recharge." Many introverts are capable of socializing just fine, some are even in performing arts... but at the end of the day, we need to go home and shut the door and be alone. Extroverts are super annoying to us when they try to push us as though we need to be fixed. But even I say that we all need to spend a LITTLE time socializing. Was Sarah a snob? Not sure about that, but she sure judged them.
She thinks she's smarter, more talented and more mature than everyone else. In my book, that makes her a snob.
I have never called a sweater luscious but I'm going to from now on. 🙆🏼
Poor Sarah she is just shy and introverted and people ridicule her all day and act like she did something wrong.
She's the Daria Morgandorfer of the 50s. And I love it
No she's not. Daria was useless too and will die alone with no one to even care.
Daria had at least 2 friends and was likeable
She gives the others no choice but to judge her as a snob and it probably is a cover up on her part for some inadequacy she feels about herself. A need to do things perfectly and hiding in that world to avoid her social shortcomings, looking down on others who are more at ease in that area and making the problem worse rather than better.
ackamack101 I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head with that one.
ackamack101 Or she's an introvert who doesn't want to socialize.
Britt H agreed
And then there are shy introverts who find it difficult (or downright scary!) to socialize, not necessarily don't "want" to socialize. ;)
Tracey K Houston For sure!!!
Don't get me wrong I understand that she's an introvert. However, when she says "I know I'm smarter then they are," or "I worked harder then so and so did," or just having a mentality that she's better than the rest of gang, that tries to be nice to her genuinely. Maintaining sympathy for her is hard.
And that's how most 'Introverts' are today. Like this girl.
@Bruno56 Lmao yes!
They were all constantly talking behind her back because she didn't keep up small talk. To be honest, I'd go as far as to say she was being a bit bullied. She was really just minding her business most of the video.
CorenIsVeryCofused a fair point, I just think there was wrong on both sides. Although there was a couple times were there was people genuinely trying to be nice to her, even if it ended in a misunderstanding.
Really? I had sympathy since i saw her pretty face lol
Waiting for that film to be shown in present day high school :
Pathologic narcissism - The false mirror.
"What makes Sara act the way so does?" She's a goddamn individual not a robotic conformists like the rest of these sheep.
Daniel noland I agree! it's nice having a social life but it's okay to be an individual too. If they had a party with alcohol and drugs, she would have more willpower to not go along just to be part of the group. I thought the snobs in high school were the cheerleaders and the jocks not the loner they always had fun making fun of.
We live in a society....
BS. She's a stuck up bitch
There is a difference between having a low tolerance for socializing but being open to it, and being stuck in your ways to the extent of not even seeing the possibility of doing anything else.
She's an individual alright but a very stuck up, snob. She's the type that will end up alone, in her last days of life.
"I worked hard on the history test but flubbed it! I know lots of ppl in there that don't study half as hard as I do, and they come off with the A's. I'm smarter than they are - I KNOW I am!" (So that's how they got A's while Pumpkin flubbed it lol 😜) Poor Pumpkin seems to have emotional issues.
That is the opposite of what I tell my kid. Homework first, fun later. Stop undermining my parenting 1950s film!!
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She was jealous of Phil. When he said "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make you mad." She reached her hand out and displayed sorrow. It was obvious she wanted to apologise & I'm sure she eventually did. In fact, I wouldn't doubt they went steady shortly after. She is achwardly social but is definitely not a snob. A snob would not run out of a party for feeling rejected. They would put their nose up and walk out the front door as if everyone is under them.
She is just different than them. She likes to work and be good at things; very competitive. So when others who are into completely different things are her peers and she has nobody that is similar to her to relate to she feels frustrated and it makes her sour. I mean hell i would be too, your a hard working person and enjoy completing things and everyone your surrounded by is so different and your forced to be around them. Not a snob just annoyed as hell about the situation, however if you cant change it, it would be wise to try to adapt to it rather than let it bring you down.
I think We need to bring these kinds of shows back !!!
and force all KIDS to watch these shows in schools!
The acting is actually good in this one 🤯
She just needs a friend that can talk with her and eventually get her to accept others more, be more socially self confident and not take herself so seriously.
Its a chore getting someone like that to warm up to you enough to even accept your friendship but some people like Sarah just scream “Someone rescue me from myself” without ever saying a word.
I used to hate when bullies would pick on other kids like Sarah.
Some kids are just different and they don’t relate well with other kids.
They have some social hang ups and thats okay.
In high school it was always my goal to het to know kids like this better.
Ive had to put quite a few bullies in their place over the years, including teachers as I was in school in the 70’s-80’s and things were different back then.
My guess is you saved lots of kids and made lifelong friends.
I think she is misunderstood. Looking back, I found it sad to be pushed into relationships with people whose personalities did not mesh with my personality. I'm glad that I joined the Navy and left home. The people left behind rarely ask about me and vice versa. Some people benefit from a change in environment.
True. But if keep moving and end up in same situation social skills need to be worked on.
Sara is one of the people who keeps civilization civil rather than all the other buffoons.
Such a wise video. I can so relate to her but agree that self-obsession, pride, and standoffiness do NOT make you happy or new friends.
My mom said the same thing to me in high school. She even ripped up my homework once when I didn't want to go to a party.
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Apparently there was a work book that came with this movie.
Team Sarah. I mean, how dare she not fawn all over the guy who just grabbed her arm and yanked her up to dance! Gosh, so snobby, right?
She didn't had to be a cunt about.
It's not like the guy was trying too fawn over her
you sound almost as snobby as sarah yourself
It’s funny I can hear the way my grandmother talks sometimes in them lol
When I was 16, there was a band across the river every weekend night all summer. They were supposedly playing country, but from a distance, they sounded like a truckload of bamboo tubas being dropped on an air mattress. My mom insisted that I go check it out once. It was so loud, couldn't hear my teeth rattle and nobody was doing anything but trying to "fit in."
I'm not prone to social anxiety, nor do I think I'm better than others. I'm just not interested in partying.
Live music? Yes! 6 foot speakers? No.
Bad live music? Yes. Bad live music on 6 foot speakers? No.
Bonfire? Yes. Up until 2 am? No.
BBQ? Yes. Does anyone do that anymore? No. Etc.
“Growing up brings different problems to different people” wise words
This girl always plays the miserable maladjusted girl. Either she’s like that in real life, or she’s a fantastic actress lol.
I’ve noticed that too lol
Bit of both, is my guess.
It is painful to watch how anti-social this girl is
The 1950's were a strange time. It was before the cultural revolution of the 1960's. Everything was taboo and everyone conformed and didn't create waves.
Mccarthyism
@Michael What are you like 80?
Dig that crazy rec room!!! Especially that hifi!!!!
They're certainly ones to talk, calling Sarah a snob, while other girls get catty and gossip about Sarah and her new sweater within her hearing.
I think she's frustrated because she tries so hard and doesn't get much recognition for it. Apparently, she used to be at the top of her class more when she was younger, but she's been struggling in school lately, and she probably worries about why. Her father's advice wasn't helpful at all. He should have talked to her more about why history is bothering her as a subject. Maybe she has a good general understanding of events but has trouble remembering dates. Some people just aren't numbers people or good at memorizing, and maybe the fact that she worries so much and tries to hard is making her too nervous to concentrate well. There is such a thing as over-studying. She's probably burning out. Maybe some kids have also been teasing her for not being as bright as she used to be or getting the grades she used to or something.
As for the yearbook art project, the father could have asked her to show him her design. Maybe the more simplistic one that was selected was chosen because hers was too detailed or complicated for what the school could put together. What I'm trying to say is that, by focusing on cramming this poor girl into their expectations (you should be happy, you should be sociable, you should like people who are liked by others and happier than you, etc.), they're completely missing what's really eating at her and the skills that she's struggling to develop on her own because they're not really helping. She's just frustrated and floundering while people are ignoring the kind of help she really needs. Also, if she's right, and other people are getting ahead because they're "friends" or more liked by the people in charge, that's not really a good thing. She should be able to ask if there was a reason why her design was rejected and get an honest, constructive response that doesn't involve, "We just like him better than we like you." If that really all it is, I can completely understand why she doesn't like these people. Who wants to enter a rigged contest, where the most popular people are already declared the winners and no amount of work or talent will make a difference? Maybe she really needs a new group of people who don't have preconceived notions about who Sarah is and what she ought to be.
I think you are taking this video a little personally, perhaps, since you have assigned her a whole backstory and a set of personality traits. *edited for spelling*
They were complimenting her sweater and her taste!
No snark. Tracy, you should be a writer. The personality and backstory you came up with from a trite, depthless little narrative that took twice the amount time necessary to to make its point was actually quite impressive. You have a talent for fleshing out a character. Seriously, try it.
@@irunamuk She certainly has the angst to write good YA novels!
@@flufflepuffle Tracy's doing what actors often do given a few minutes of melodramatic dialog to flesh out, assigning unspoken backstories for the characters' motivations for their behavior. We're all discussing what we think about this situation, which calls for some speculation on the reasons for the characters' behavior toward one another, and Tracy has laid out one possible scenario. Through the lens of our present-day understanding of introversion, it sounds to me like some of Sara's complaints are valid. The others treat her like she's broken, for being less outgoing than they are, which still happens to introverts today. It's also possible that Sara became overly defensive when the guy asked her to dance, because she was self-conscious about her own dancing skills after seeing him dance with that other girl. On the other hand, she comes off sounding pretty bitter and judgmental herself, whether or not she's over-compensating for some hidden insecurity. Nowadays in a case like this, I would hope both sides would meet each other halfway, and that Sara's well-meaning friends wouldn't be so quick to brand her a snob.
Good 'ole Ron doing his darned best at acting. Dad is a good sort. He's lived a bit. He knows what's what.
Sara was on her way to discovering time travel and meeting the creators of the universe until her mother made her have fun.
Fun, the gateway drug.
Fun is a funny word, when you think about it.
I love that dad listened and didn't interrupt. Parents are so wired to fix their kids problems, they forget to listen.
Just when this episode was getting good, it's over. I wish it was a Netflix miniseries that continued because I'd watch it...
I would watch the hell out of that
ditto
A lot of people commenting seem to have missed the point completely, and most are mentioning they are socially anxious introverts.
The difference is, whether you like it or not, rudeness is not an excuse for your 'anxiety' or the fact you are an 'introvert' that hates humans preferring to be alone.
Treat each person as an individual, when you begin passing judgements or snarky comments towards others then yes, you're coming off as arrogant.
I have autism and find it extremely difficult to communicate with people, but I know if I was making comments such as being smarter than everyone and looked down my nose, which I'd ultimately be doing with such a comment, I would expect negative reactions.
The girl's dad calmly explained that friends are important, it may do her some good to try and make some, plus to set an example. The man's daughter coldly stonewalled him and made _more_ comments about being superior.
hidden pain due to transitioning badly from child to teenager.
This applies today 2019!!
History repeats itself!
She has found her own happiness she was already content with herself ❤️#selflove
She grew up to be one of those ladies on The View.
has anyone's dad (in any era) come up to them in high school and said 'care to cry on my shoulder?'
Nope!
I mean, he didn't use those exact words but.... yes?
I had severe social anxiety as a teen (I still have it as an adult, but it isn't quite as bad.)
If my neighbor had been the same age and threw open houses every weekend, I would have WANTED to go, but the social anxiety would have stopped me. And, if I HAD gone, it would have made me shut down so that I COULDN'T speak, much less dance.
"Aren't they happier than you are?" That was the cruelest thing the father could have said. Her reaction was probably because she was thinking, "He really wasn't listening, and it is useless for me to say anything more." So she retreated behind her cold wall to protect herself from further assault against her very self.
"Be like everyone else; conform." seems to be the message here. How very sad it would be were everyone to be the same.
For me, this vignette is about lack of respect for the right of an individual to be . . . an individual with the right to choose their own path.
The more people and the more cacophony around me, the more I want to run.
Growing up in the 50s and 60s, I never understood the appeal of Elvis or rock'n'roll.
The few times I went to parties, I was miserable.
Now, I'm 71. I have friends, and travel a lot. I am content.
"Can a friend like Ron help her in any way?" Yes; he can listen. He can accept her as who she is. He can be a friend, not just another of those who insist that she conform to the way he thinks she should feel, think, and act.
Well there's a difference between wanting to run from crowds and being a snob to others. She doesn't need to conform or be friends with the gang. She just needs to learn to be pleasant to them and to accept them the way she wants to be accepted by them. Instead, she thinks she is smarter and better than all her classmates. This causes her all her social problems.
For example, she doesn't need to go to her neighbor's party, but if she does she shouldn't be rude to the boy who asks her to dance. She can politely decline with the excuse that she is tired or doesn't dance. That way she will gain respect instead of criticism for her snobby personality. She doesn't realize that she hurt the boy's feelings.
@@Lisa59 she was made to go to the party. And if it wasn't for that nosy boot licking kid, she probably would have apologised. Didn't you see the regret after she realized he was hurt?
@@goose7215 I guess I didn't. I was too focused on her rudely blowing off the boy who politely asked her to dance. Usually I stick up for the girl, but this time I think in some way she deserved the critical comments from the boy.
She has to be judged because sympathy doesn't really change the situation. She has to be aware of her snobbery
Seems like if she finished her homework first, she'd have the rest of the weekend to socialize when she wants to. It takes the same amount of time (probably more when she's constantly getting interrupted). She needs a set of earplugs. I personally, would do all my weekend homework on Sunday because Saturday is the seventh day that God set apart for us to rest on, making Friday night a good party night. Plus, I won't completely forget my homework if I do it the day before it's due like I would if I did it before partying and then got all the fun stuff on my mind instead.
Why couldn't people just accept her for the spiteful, rude, snobby, judgmental, bitter person that she was??? People can be so cruel😂
Well she did help him when he had rhumatic fever ! Anybody can relate
There's a difference in standards and superiority. And that is something that I had to understand as well.
wait what! I definitely want MORE of her story. What happened next!!
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She either became social to some point and stopped insulting people trying to include her and became popular again and married one of the group of kids she grew up with during this time.
OR
She went on to college and finished a degree in research and spent all her time researching until she was old and gray or found another researcher to marry.
'all those people you don't like, aren't they happier than you are'
this rings too much home