DEALING WITH BEING AN UNMARRIED MUSLIMAH
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- Asalamua'alaikm all, this is a topic close to heart that I wanted to share with those of you still in search of your ''better half'' and are finding the wait difficult.
I also share how I've managed to get to the point where by the permission of Allah, I am content with what I have in my life outside of marriage and hopeful that the right person will come. It hasn't been an easy journey but, Allah has proven to me, many times that whenever I put my trust in him, he never lets me down and that is what ultimately keeps me going, so I hope this benefits you all in your journeys too.
Hope you enjoy the tips and put them into practise inshallah.
We all know the value and importance of marriage in islam so approach the issue with a level head knowing that Allah will always give us what is best at his timing, not ours.
Stay blessed xxx
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I’m 39 n I’m not married n I try to not stress about it what ever Allah has planned for me will be .. My main focus is get into Jannah 😊😊😊 Insha Allah
Assalamu alaykum sis. Aminah, my namesake, I pray we'll meet in jannah and our reckoning will be easy because of the beautiful sabr we have. Ameen Ya Rab 💕💕
Aziza K Walakuim salaam Ameen sister 😊😊😊
I love that mindset. You will be much more emotionally and mentally healtheir if you maintain that.
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Aminah D may Allah give u the best of worlds with the highest success ameen ameen 🎈🍦🍬
Every thing happens for a reason if Allah don’t bless us with spouse in this world we will have one in jannah insha Allah
Defo, everything happens for a reason, maybe having spouse at this current time might be bad for you and be your destruction, So we need to do the effort and just trust Allah, because only HE knows what is the best for us.
I’m 31 all my sisters married my little brother is about to get married being the first male born I’d thought I’d be the first to get married but like nafisa said Allah as a plan for everyone so let’s just focus on praising Allah and the rest will come in shaa Allah here or the hereafter 🤲🏾
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As'salamu alaykum. I didn't get married until I was 44, yes 44! I actually enjoyed my single years, and I now enjoy my married life. The difficult part was other people constantly asking: "Are your married?", "Do you have any children?" Allah connected my Husband and I at the right time, and every thing that I experienced before him prepared me for my marriage. I now have a wonderful Husband, and two wonderful stepsons. We plan, Allah plans, and Allah is the best of planners. Make dua if your looking for a Husband but also live your life, continue to grow and become a better Muslim, Sister, Daughter , friend, employee, neighbor etc, etc. Enjoy life and count your Blessings. May Allah bless anyone who wants to get married and may Allah make it easy for you, Ameen.
SubhanAllah, there is a plan for all of us!
God bless you and your family :)
That true ,that asked me every time i go back my home town .where your hubby .your children .is that you hubby.sometime i don't mine ,some time i got angry ,they think is normal question but for me is rude.congrat for you married ,is make me think someone outside with for me
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One time I wanted to pray for a husband in my Tahajod and during my prayer, in the first Sajda My lips moved with another duaa I didn't even plan!, and omg I was surprised that I actually didn't need to pray for a husband I needed to pray to become a better woman ...
Wao Subhan Allah
Oh. So are you marry now?
Basically i am doing both of them i make dua for wife
And pray for to become good muslim
Masha allah god bless u
You are GORGEOUS ✨ trust me marriage is no walk in the park and I know it’s sunnah but it’s overrated as well. Live your life and love yourself and your husband will come sooner when least expected
Thank you. I do intend to enjoy my time till the time comes insha'Allah. I completely understand where you are coming from.
RidwanaH. Hadar14
You learn to adapt when you are single and learn about yourself. To take time out do some courses, study. My time when I was single has blessed me with a diploma in personal training. It's very rewarding to have various hobbies and skill sets which make us all unique.
I truly believe that if we focus on being productive every day spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally then most of our energy will be spent on improving ourselves and enhancing our abilities wether it’s in your job, school, university, anything and marriage will come at the right time, it’s not your whole life, it’s part of your life! You will attract the right people to your life so truly focus on you and leave the rest to allah! You got this ladies♥️👏🏼
Exactly!!
RidwanaH. Hadar14
"It's not your life. It's part of your life!" Tell that to my Mum. 🙄
Hang in there sisters. I am 43 will be 44 in few hours InShaAllah and I am still single....never married. Thirteen years ago, I came to the west and I got two masters and a PhD and I am an assistant professor Alhamdulillah. I am now doing research and apply for grants and stuff Alhamdulillah. I am also learning the Quran and I love it. I was unable to get married because of being too aggressive in my religion...it is actually the decree of Allah. Allah does not burden any soul more than they can bear. JazakAllah sister great advice. May Allah bless you! Aameen
Ma Shaa Allah..really inspiring.. think am gonna be like you..😍
@UCFI4_rJdkE32-iI2IVsdPfA Yes why not but I pray you donot get too old and find a righteous man for yourself before you hit that age inShaAllah Aaameen. In the meantime go ahead and equip yourself with your professional life. Good luck sister....will meet you in Jannah InshaAllah
@@sophiam9515 Allahumma Amiin..We shall meet fi dunya before Akheerah Bi idhni llah taala
Very inspiring I am trying for PhD in West
@@sshaikh8104 Ma shaa Allah..dear sis.May Allah make it easy for you
im 35 and single please pray for me .i m sure duas can change my life thanks
انشاء الله you will be blessed with a good husband
@@coolcat6341 thank you may ALLAH give you all the happiness and the success here and the here after
May Allah bless you with a spouse that is the coolness of your eyes ameen
@@lifewithAysha thank you may ALLAH realize all your dreams and give you even better than expected
Amin !!!!!
Girl! I felt so bad being unmarried, not having my physical or emotional needs met, it was torture. Then I got married, I did not know torture until I got married! I can’t help but think that Allah protects the women he likes from marriage these days. I know no woman who doesn’t extremely regret getting married. Love and blessings to all of the single women. Enjoy your life, you have the ability to!
May Allah make it easier for you and fill you marriage with goodness. Indeed Allah does know best how everything would turn out if it were to be so sabr is always key.
Keep praying and trying, perhaps one day, Allah will turn it into the most beautiful marriage for you.
Have sabr n stay strong habibati💪..we all love u❤❤
Nafisa's Pearlz so it’s best to stay and be miserable year after year hoping one day I won’t be? I think if a marriage is destroying you it’s best to leave.
Amira L Salam Alaykum please ask Allah for guidance in sujood .. Before u have kids or more kids .. Also do salat Al istikhara. . do istighfar alot daily. . I struggle to feel bad cuz we have pressure to stay young and marry until we die
@@lisal440 The reality is that there is no perfect marriage out there and there will be times when you feel it doesn't serve you but with working on it and the help of Allah so long as both parties are willing, it turns to a beautiful marriage. As Muslims, our first options should always be how to support the couple in having a great marriage, not jumping to distroying the marriage. Divorce is one of the most hated halal things to Allah, however he made it pernissable for those times when it becomes toxic so it is for the individual to decide what they can and can not cope with. It should not be a thing that I will ever as a coach tell people to jump straight into because they are currently unhappy if there is something that can be done to improve it then that is the first priority!
Make dua for me sisters am sick may Allah give evey single sister of us an excellent spouse Ameen.
Ameen. May Allah grant you complete cure from your illness. Ameen.
Illahay haku cafiyo walal
Salaamaat sister
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The part where u said making friends with other single people who can understand what you are also going through has been a big help to me
Alhamdulilah
So are you marry now?
ridwanah hadar14
Yeah, you don't need to stress about it! try not to stress yourself about it! it's not a crime to be unmarried, I believe it's even best to be unmarried rather than being in an abusive marriage with a Demon.
Sometimes I know for sure it’s a blessing not to be married! Allah knows what is in your path and what is best.
People think marriage is butterflies and rainbows but in reality it is an extreme trail and is very difficult. Adding a man to your life usually will come with many challenges.
That why I think am not in a rush to get married. I feel happy being single
monica labelle n @Renatina ..always stay happy Ladies!! I'm married and I can say it is overrated. People have been romanticising it wayyy too much! We must just say Alhamdulillah I'm every situation because Allah Loves us and Knows what's best for us 🧡
In* every situation
I dont understnd why married women keep saying that its sooooo difficult but then never explain why its so difficult.
@@purplebear445 Its because it many different elements and not just a simple answer. It differs with every situation. Words will not do justice to the actual experience
This will sound stupid but I feel embarrassed about not being married. I’m in my late 30’s and I feel so old. I pray to Allah everyday but maybe it’s not the right time. Having sabr in one of the hardest things to practice. May Allah grant all the unmarried Muslim brothers and sisters sabr Ameen.
Ameen. I am recovering from a surgery and the last time I met up with an older friend, she prayed for me that I will get better and get married. I always fear that what if by the time I get married, I won't be able to have children. So I replied to her, 'I'd rather remain chaste and get married in the akhira'. Getting married is like a gamble and really and truly my main intention to get married is to complete half my faith and bring up children that will serve Allah. I pray to Allah to increase us all in sabr, eemaan and guidance to do what is good for us, ameen.
Aziza K Ameen. That is my intention too, for Allah to grant me with a pious spouse & to have children that will love Islam. May Allah accept our duas
Ameen. I understand where you are coming from. It is indeed a difficult trial. Try to put all that I have said into practise. May Allah make it easy for all those going through this. Ameen.
Nafisa's Pearlz Ameen sister. May Allah make it easy for us all. Inshallah I will take your advice, jizakallah
Same here sis :(
Don’t be sad ladies. Marry the right man, not marry right away! If not you’re better off single rather than sacrificing yourself for the rest of your life
May Allah grant you a healthy and cute baby soon InShAllah and make your journey easy for you ameen❤🙏thank you for your dua as well may Allah bless you!
I was married at 23 and divorced later after I turned 24 to a brother that was older. Alhamdulillah I am now 25. Marriage is extremely hard. Yet there are beautiful days. I loved having a partner but he wasn’t the one for me. I am enjoying and appreciating being single again. I do pray Allah blesses me with a spouse that is for me and a lifelong marriage. Patience is definitely key with waiting and within a marriage. I’ll keep you in my duaas sis. ❤️❤️
did you revert to islam? im just asking because you're name is so pretty but ive never seen a Muslim with it
When you feel even the slightest bit of negative feelings towards married sisters in your friend circles, I think a great way to deal with that is to make Du'a for them. That Allah will keep them happy and blessed and give them more and more of goodness and harmony.
RidwanaH. Hadar14
That's one way of behaving. I feel we also need to be realistic about trauma in individuals when they're living difficult lives. As I go to therapy, I've learned from a trained professional that it's okay to feel all these emotions as long as we acknowledge them and hopefully at some point we will heal and then organically not feel the same way. Peace is so elusive sometimes, but when we feel it in our hearts, hopefully we'll focus on earning money and making friends, and having opportunities - because that's equally important and not all humans know how to make money either!!
I know that you are speaking to Muslim women in particular, but ALL single women (like myself, who is not Muslim) need to hear this. This is filled with so much truth and wisdom.
I invite you to embrace Islam. It’s the religion of truth and peace of mind.
Have sabr habibati..ALLAH gives the hardest battles to His strongest soldiers...💪,stay strong n positive...☝️
Sharifah Aljofree is she single?
@@aminah761 yes my dear...😊
That's right sis. I appreciate that. Jzk
Any single muslim here??
Ridwanah Hadar14
Tomorrow is my exam! I was very tired due to studying all the day! but finally I received noticification from your channel and feeling so refreshed after listening to your video
Ameen. So glad to hear that. May Allah.make you successful in your exams and life in general. Ameen.
Ridwanah. Hadar14
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I am also 36 and not married alhamdulillah allah is the best of planners.
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I'm not sure how you're not married yet. Allahuma barik you're such an amazing women. I'd jump on that opportunity real quick if i saw you 😍
LOL, thanks. Not to worry, I believe that Allah has the right one coming soon insha'Allah.
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I pray sincerely pray Allah gives ALL you sisters exactly what you want in a husband and more Bi’iithnillah In Shaa Allah. Please make dua for me as well I'm looking for a righteous pious husband in this world and the hearafter jazak Allahu khayr sisters I love you for the sake of Allah brakAllahu feek
Ameen and may Allah grant you all that you asked for me and more. May he grant you a husband who will be the coolness of your eyes. Ameen.
Ameen
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@Mariam Al Mahri Ameen to your beautiful dua , and i pray same for you as nothing is impossible for Allah. May Allah bless us with a husband who will be coolness of our eyes. 🌸
I think I have stumbled into a conspiracy of the Muslimoon and I am running away while I can. Peace 👣👣👣
Thank you for this video. I'm almost 30 and not married. Men came to me (not many) but I wasn't impressed with their character and Deen.
Alhamdoulilah. Allah will give me a spouse if the time is right.
And you are right about the sihr and evil eye. Pls do daily or weekly ruqya and protect yourself with dua of those evil people.
Anyway have a blessed day xx
100% real talk.
Sister, everything you mentioned is ON POINT MashAllah!
This is exactly what I am convinced of, changing ones mindset and focus. Re-evaluating the topic and reassessing the situation. Really, everyone should do this no matter how long they are/were single, bcs it changes the position of marriage to a healthier one. And, education. That's a bigy! Educating and training oneself to develop the right mindset.
May Allah a'ssawajal reward you and grant you and all of us a pious husband, who will be the coolness of our eyes and a good father to our children.
Allahumma Ameen 🤲
Ameen and for you the same
I feel very unapologetic about being unmarried and I'm in my 30's.I have time to enjoy my company,travel and pursue a business venture.
I lowkey feel like the married ones are the jealous ones who try to make us feel bad about being unmarried.
Yes, it's no reason not to live your life and be content where you are. Married or not may Allah bless all of our lives where we are and as we move through the different stages, ameen.
flower girl email her and ask different people that are knowledgeable like mufti menk or imams in sha Allah and do istikhara salah in sha Allah
@@QuboolwaRidaa Well the human is always unsatisfied. They see you "free", you don't have the arguments, sometimes the betrayals from the spouse. Not every marriage is a happy one. Maybe she is talking about that.
It’s easy to clap 👏 for ya and say “yeah you’re right enjoy your life and stay single...” but deep down we all know that business ,money or anything else do not equate being blessed with offspring. One may stay single coz of certain circumstances whatever it is ,but one should not choose to stay single and to abstain from having his/her own family. It’s a blessing that we all need to ask for and of course there’re difficulties that come with it , as any other blessing we may have .
@@abdelqanimohammed995 it's called adoption. :-)
Shukrahn for this. I think getting married is easier than staying married. I am 34yo, I desire and wish to have offspring, a family, a Muslim husband and family. I make duah for and about it. And i am sabr-ing.
May Allah make it easy for you
May Allah bless us with what is best for us....
May ALLAH grant you that and more when it's best for you it will come bithinillah. ALLAH is generous and gives with wisdom.
Ridwanah. Hadar14
I reverted to Islam not long ago and some Muslims judge me why I'm not married. The problem is that I have a complex posttraumatic stress disorder and I'm afraid of men in general. So.. I don't know what to do.
Personally I don't feel the mental or physical need. I just feel like finding myself at first.
Have a look at Inspirited Minds. They help Muslims with mental illnesses, as a result of it not being addressed in the community. The western and Islamic take on mental health can be a little different so this organisation helps balance out both using the Quran and medical care.
@@abc23123 Masha'Allah thank you for your help, I didn't know this existed. I agree with the opinion of mental illnesses between East and West. This is a bit tricky
Sandra Al-Sibari while it's targeted at Muslims, it doesn't discriminate, and they help ppl of all beliefs.
Sandra Al-Sibari also it's ok we're all here to help each other. I've been through trauma and other mental illnesses and although they have improved a lot, they still bother me till this day so I get you and I'm a born Muslim so idk how it's like for you to get criticised in the community like you've never been criticised before so good luck with that
That’s ok Habibtiii. Focus on your self❤️ nothing wrong with that xx
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In 2020, i turned 30 as unmarried. I was so stressed, depressed and disparate from year 2017 to 2019 that, i forced myself into unhealthy relationships. As my parents were busy with stuffs they didn't find my future spouse. I was upset that everyone around me was getting married. Now if i recall, this wasn’t the best way to get rid of deaspiration. Pray. Just pray. Maybe something better than marriage is waiting for you. In after life. For eternity. Anything is worth of sacrifice for abundance of happiness in afterlife. Only when i think about it, my heart gets lighter and at peace. So sister, dont be sad. Tests are hard. But the harder the test, the greater is the reward.
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@Baap ho bete ha who r you talking to..
@Baap ho bete ha you sound like one of those arrogant man who refuses to sit & eat in same table with people of different believe.
"The crying of the sinners is more loved to Allah than the tasbeeh of the arrogant." - Ibn al-Qayyim
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I never thought I am struggling this kind of situation that I am now at age of 27. I'm not alone. In Shaa Allah we will find out rightful spouse. Thank you for your inspiring message sisters.
How r u sister
Still young you have time.
Hi5
I'm 32 female unmarried my family does not mind that they are understand very supportive I'm working and studying in college working on my self no worries about future thanks for sharing this sis
Assalam Aleikum I am totally in your situation. I am 27 years old woman. Al hamdulillah i am healthy, did high studies and have a great job but never get any marriage proposal in my life, I am single since forever. For my case it's hard cause I live alone for 5 years and my family lives very far so that's why I feel that I am alone as all my friends are married. By the way I did sababs to get married but nothing changed. I make duua to get married soon inshallah with the right man. Selam from France🇫🇷
Je vous souhaite de rencontrer votre prince charmant bientot inchallah. Bonne journee
Im in the same situation than you same age and same country from France...inchallah you will find the right man
I feel like in the last 3-4 years being single has become more uncomfortable for me. I totally see why I wasn’t ready to get married then but at each stage we think we are ready. I am 25 now and I would love to be married but is HAS TO be to the right person.
I admire women who can confidently say that they are 100% content and they don’t need to be married and it happens when it happens. I feel like I lost that kind of attitude about 3 years ago and it went more into a „ok I‘d really rather be married now“ kind of emotion. What I think is interesting though is that when I say that I can almost already hear people saying to me „go learn how to be happy with yourself first“ and so on and so on. But I feel like I learned about myself that that is not the problem. I AM content with myself and my life. Yes there is ALWAYS something to improve and work on ALWAYS. But that’s not the point. I don’t (!) feel the need to want to be married because I am unhappy and I feel like marriage is going to make me happy. I want to be married because it’s a basic human need to want companionship and intimate relationships for that matter. I feel like whenever someone states that they really wanna get married they almost get pushed into the „desperate“ category and are advised to go fix themselves first because OBVIOUSLY if everything was fine with you, you wouldn’t so desperately want to get married. But that’s not true. It’s ok to wanna be married. It’s a basic human need that is not being met and it normal to feel like a little something is missing. Even just a little bit. It’s like being on a low calorie diet for years and years. Your just gonna Start missing getting your meets fully met and that’s ok and normal and doesn’t mean you’re not happy with yourself and need fixing. Sorry that ended up being quite long 🙈
Can totally relate to this. Literally summed up my thoughts into words. I am 23 and I have a very strong connection with Allah (SWT) through prayer, good character, reading Quran etc. May Allah (SWT) make it easier for us. Ameen.
MiBeforeChelle that’s beautiful sister! Ameen!
26 here and I totally relate! It’s tough but you do need to actively do things to keep yourself happy and busy (growing, learning, etc.) while making an effort to find someone.
I feel you and totally agree!!!
I totally feel you sister like yeah us wanting to get married doesn’t mean we’re unhappy and that we’re crying over someone to save us or stuff like that, we just crave romantic companionship and want to please Allah that’s all. I hope that Allah grant you marriage with the best man by now if not hang in there, it will happens soon inchAllah i’m making duuas for you 🫶🏾💕
How did u kno I NEEDED THIS? Subhanallah 😭🙌🏽
LOL, Allah knew
Although I am way over forty without finding a husband or having children, your addressing this issue gives me a lot of strength. Allah taala tests us to find out the strength of our deen, that’s what I say to myself regularly. Watching your videos is th best way to get going again. Thanks to you and thanks to Allah taala. Uma
Thanks sister, may Allah continue to bless us all. We have so much gifts from Allah, if only we noticed them more. Perhaps this is your means to hannah, a place of everlasting happiness. Always thank Allah for the blessings in your trials that you are unaware of because he never oppresses anyone everything he chooses for us is always for our ultimate good. Stay blessed
Nafisa's Pearlz Dear Nafisa, thanks for your answer. You’re such an inspiration! We really are blessed. We see the light in Islam. We must fear the lord, dear sister. Fear him and love him. Than he will guide us. Ameen
Nusrat
@@NafisasPearlz assalam aleykum
Salam Alaikum!
This is the same thing with sisters that are married but can’t have children/have difficulty getting pregnant. It is always something with every situation
You are so right. I don't have kids and people keep asking me why I don't have kids like I have them on my hands.
subhanallah. True sister. Every situation has its own unique difficulties and blessings.
@@bebettertoday8444 a lot of the time people do ask things that don't concern them. especially the asian community.
ridwanah. hadar14
33 not married and I’m so happy about it. I’m learning to love myself more, learn more about my deen and have a better idea as to how I am going to raise my little ones. However, people around me trying to pressure me I think that’s the real stress.
i’m turning 35 in a few weeks and i was married for three years but now divorced. i feel like i got married to a guy who wasn’t right because i was tired of waiting and thought he’d be good for me. alhamdulilah... i now have a 4 year old son who is my life and keeps me busy. now i find myself in this situation again where i want to get married but i feel like Allah is testing my patience the second time around. I pray I am able to stand firm and wait for a good brother this time and that Allah allows me to have more children. It is true you think your life will go one way and it doesn’t... allahu akbar though. i do look back and see how Allah tested me with everything. As a single mom i am living with a new perspective and the challenge has grown... i pray for good brother who will now accept me and my son as well. May Allah grant us all continued patience.
We share the same story sister. I can relate 100%. May Allah SWT make it easy for you inshallah:)
Got so emotional while I was watching. This is exactly what I needed right now.
Thank you so much for your effort. May Allah always bless you dear sister
and all of us, amin
Ameen. May Allah grant you the same. Ameen. Stay strong and hold faith that Allah will grant you a great spouce insha'Allah.
aameen
Same here still crying😥
This video made me feel a lot better about being unmarried
And hearing other married womens perspective also helps me find comfort and peace with being single
Watching this with heavy heart filled with loneliness :)
I can feel now why its said that sabr is one type of barakah..
Hope Allah will help me Inshallah :)
Indeed. It is not easy to have sabr so ask Allah to make easy for you and us all. Ameen.
The reward is also so great because the one who holds sabr and the one who doesn't are not equal and Allah never lets the reawrd of those who do good to forget it.
I'm 42, I'm not married. Personally I'm ok, but it's seems my mom hurt by it. She seems embarrassed because her society, people often ask her abaut me. Whats wrong with me. Why have I'm not married. And that's make me sad. I talk to my mom to be patient and I pray everyday to ask for good husband, but Allah hasn't grant it yet, so wait Patiently. But still it's hurt when I see my mom get effect by it.
I am in the same situation. I have come to accept that I may never be married and have made peace with it. But I feel like I should marry for my mother's sake.
My mom too ☺️ glad im not alone
This advice is really calming my heart. Thank You, Nafisa!
The fruit that takes the longest to ripen really tastes the sweetest
Love this saying🥰🥰
Definitely, changing focus really helps. Alhumdullilah like for me I changed my focus to improving my deen and keep me steadfast in my Salah, becoming more healthy and new found hobby is cooking. Also becoming closer to my parents, building that strong relationship. Lol I don't know where my time goes anymore and barely think about marriage since I have deleted those time consuming so called muslim marriage apps. Have faith and trust in Allah Subhanallah Wa'Tala that's all there is to it. ❤
May Allah ease your path
I was crying throughout this video, sometimes it all becomes too much. Please for the Muslim brothers or sisters reading this make dua for me that Allah grants me more sabr and removes jealousy from my heart. And I’ll make dua for you, that Allah grant you sabr, protect you from the likes of jealousy and envy, grant you a righteous spouse and bless your marriages and kids
Great content, thank you!
I want to add something that helped me. Many singles wrongly assume that most of the married couples are happier than them and marriage is misery free. Therefore, they will probably double their bitterness.
When I realized that this assumbtion is wrong , I told myself maybe Allah knew that I can't endure the difficulties of marriage so He decreed the best for me by leaving me single. I just trust that Allah chose the best for me.
OmG this is by far the most helpful thing I have ever seen when it comes to handle this trial. It’s been so hard and when you said people always deny having pressured you into marrying that person when it turns wrong. THIS IS BEYOND TRUE sand I’ve seen it happen in my own family. You are so wise and may allah bless you in every way.
Amazing,MashAllah..May Allah blessed us all righteous spouses who will be the clodness of our eyes..Ameen
Thank you sister for this video. This relates to me in so many ways. The facts about men's insatiable desire to marry women way younger than themselves, all the relatives' & family members' pressure and taunts, feeling the urge to just marry for the sake of marriage...And in my desi (south east asian community) everyone will ask the question to my parents about if I am married but will never do anything to find a spouse. All of these things hurt. So much so that it is easy for me to go on the road of despair. I pray Allah gives strength and patience to all of us who are going through this struggle and trial.
I'm so sorry to hear this sister, it is indeed an issue for our community to wake up about about. If you're not going to help me find someone, don't ask me when I'm getting married 😂! May Allah make it easier.
It's so refreshing up see a hijabi without makeup and with pudic clothes, you're so beautiful Ma Sha Allah 💕
I am 32 and never been married due to black magic (which I found out I had only 2 years ago), but I am so grateful for it because I truly believe that Allah protected me from miserable marriages all throughout my life, and quite honestly whenever I look at my married friends, even the seemingly happy ones I do not find marriage appealing at all to me. I have all the time and freedom to myself, I do whatever I want whenever I want. God knows what is best for each one of us. Despite that I still pray to Allah that if marriage is the best for me in this life and the hereafter that he grant me a good husband that would be a source of happiness.
How did you found out about black magic? Can you help please
I just found your channel alhamdulillah and you’re such a gem 💎 ! May Allah reward you and protect you ✨🌙🤲🏼 Ramadan Kareem
''O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.'' Quran 2:153. May Allah swt grant us spouses and children that will be the coolness of our eyes, ameen. Jazak Allah khair for sharing this beautiful video, Sister.
Ameen
May bless you sis because I just had Rouqiya preformed on me and my health is so much better and I have realized that is why I have been avoiding the idea mariage.
May Allah bless you and your family! Love u
You are actually giving a soul awaking Islamic content to everyone. You always hit the nail on the head. I strongly believe that the right person will come for you very soon inshallah.
If allah is delaying mareiage for u it means he wants u to learn to love ur self and feel fullfilled without marriage. Alahumdilah i have finally learned to love myself and enjoy life as single that i dont even care about marriage rhat much anymore and i used to be obssseesssed about it for a long time. I dont mind getting married 1 day but im happy now :) . So be happy now and dont say ill be happy when im married. Cuz thats the big mistake ppl make. If ur happy before u marry then ur marriage will be more enjoyable cuz u already leart to love urself and learnt how to love life .
Thank you❤️
It’s weird, I’ve learned about life just in this year of my life, because of new hardships. Alhamdulilah, this is a blessing. I now see life in a completely different way, and through a different lens.
You are so beautiful in every way! Thank you so much for making these videos, supporting us and reminding what is the most important in this life. Your confidence is inspirational for me. May Allah bless you.
Jazaakillah khayr sister. This was great, and to be completely honest the part that resonated with me the most was the part about jealousy. Unfortunately I did find myself falling into that trap. And I have made the conscious decision to fear Allah in this aspect and not envy other women for getting what Allah SWT ordained for them. May Allah SWT grant us all what is best for us, and may he continue to protect us from men who do not have our best interest at heart.
Bless you sis, beautiful advice as always. I love your video so full of motivation. I just want to put this out there that sometimes a married sister can be jealous of unmarried one. We are five sisters and four of us got married young whilst our youngest sister who is in her mid 20s is still not married. We are all jealous of her for being free to do what she likes, she has a good career and so full of life whereas we are busy meeting the demands of our children and husbands and in laws so this makes us angry sometimes. Watching your video makes me feel embarrassed for having bad feeling towards my younger sister. Allah has given trials and tests to us all we just need to appreciate each other’s position and support one another. May Allah forgive me and give peace in my life.
Subhanallah. You put so well towards the end of your comment. Yes indeed Allah has tested us all with different things and we just have to try to be more supportive to each other no matter our situation. So glad you realised that. May Allah bless you and all your sisters and keep the ties of kinship strong between you all, ameen.
This video literally made me cry, when you talked about the wedding-thing and being too emotional to go. I thought i was the only one and that i was a bad person for feeling like that..
Thank you😘
Subhanallah. May Allah make it easy for you. No, you are not the only one. It's only human. Give yourself a break, you are doing the best you can and I pray that Allah keeps you strong and although you desire a partner, may Allah make you content with where you are now so that you can make the most of now.
Stay blessed.
sufi yolcu You are truly not the only one going through this. I too felt very emotional watching this video and having Sabr is one of the hardest thing to practice but Allah loves those who are patient. I pray Allah gives us all sabr and grant us with good pious spouses Ameen.
Aameen sister inshallah🤲🏽, may Allah grant us a sabr and jazakillahi kheira I really liked your channel❤️
Assalamo Alaykum Sister!! This is SO apt. Thank you so much for the reminder and being a beacon of hope for many. May Allah reward you. 😢❤
May Allah bless you and your family. I love to watch your videos, they have helped me incredibly in my personal development journey. I specially like your single Muslimah advices because I'm 18. I'm making Duaa for you from Madrid, Spain, love you for the sake of Allah❤️
I must say i watch alot of your channel and you are very wise and pleasant. Good role model for us muslimahs and the youth.
You’re wonderful!!!!!!! You don’t realise how much you make me feel better ..felt down and your video flashed up....Today i have detached myself from all the men in my life that are not my mehrams....plenty of men are looking for friends and it’s so easy just to fall into this trap....
You made the right decition as long as it is to please Allah. May Allah grant you a righteous spouce who will be best for your deen and duniya, ameen.
Only Allah knows but it very often thought that it is wrong and could be a block for me finding the right person....people so istakhara and things like that automatically come up some was or another
Thank you so much. I am feeling so postive and hopeful after watching the video. I am also going through this situation and was feeling so lost.
Alhamdulilah thanks very much sister for this wonderful message may Allah reward u in this world & the hereafter Ameen. Is like u are talking to me directly ( tears) . May Allah continue to give me patient & all the sisters that are in these kid of trials Ameen
Jazak Allah for another amazing video sis! Masha Allah your advice is always the best ❤️❤️
Assalam aleykoum sis, Ma Shaa Allah..well done ! May Allah bless us with the right men in Imaan who have kheir in our dunya and Akherah.Amiin.
It is so true. Many of us miss out on life and opportunities because we are waiting around to get married. They say that you can't love some one else if you don't love yourself so for that reason we should focus on ourselves and love ourselves. Self love is equally important as is correcting our mental and emotional side. Time is precious so we should use it wisely! Keep living and enjoying life.
thank you sister for this gentle and sweet reminder...i wanted to get married after university...and Alhamdulilah Allah gave me a wonderful husband at the point in time....but now we have been married for 10years we are still waiting for the Blessing of Allah swt of a child...please include me in your DUAs
May Allah bless you with beautiful children. Ameen.
Jazakhallahukhair nafisai i feel like Allah spoke to me through you .great video
Sis mashaAllah you are well spoken and have amazing advice! May Allah SWT reward you and increase u in faith and beneficial knowledge ♥️
Jazakillahu khair sis for making this video! I didn't know how much I needed to hear this until I watched this. May Allah (SWT) reward you for making this and May Allah grant us all spouses that He is pleased with. May Allah also bless the girls who are already married. Ladies, you shouldn't feel apologetic about being unmarried because Allah has Willed it this way. Instead, focus on pleasing Allah through other forms of worship until He blesses you with a spouse. If Allah doesn't grant you an amazing spouse in this Dunya then Allah will definitely grant you an amazing spouse in the Jannatul Firdows.
Ma Shaa Allah sister.....well said may Allah bless us all Ameen
Wcs warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu sis, Jazaka'Allahu kheyran Jazaa for this beneficial video. The struggle is real but may Allah grant us all with righteous spouses. At the end of the day we haven't been created to worry about spouses but we're created to worship solely Allah. Also, everything is written down and Allah knows what is the best for us, if we're meant to be married then we'll be married by the will of Allah if not nothing we can do. One thing that helps me is to do daily adkaar and I try to be a better Muslimah and Alhamdulillah I feel so calm and content with my singleness. May Allah grant us all with the happiness that we're all yearning for and may He grant us all with Janatul Al-firdous as that is the ultimate goal. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤❤😊😊😘😍😘🌺🥀🌹🌹
Last comment I promise...lol I love your faith in Allah it's soo refreshing and am in LOVE with it lol
Liked before watching. You're an inspiration and a source of emotional support to many us Muslimas out here. Love your videos ❤❤
Thank you. Allah has been there for me so it is only right that I support others the best I can too.
Imagine being in your mid 20s try to find your feet, trying to discover yourself and some people from the outside are pressuring you and asking you this stupid question of when you are getting married. When that marriage happens it will be only you and your spouse. Don't allow anybody from the outside pressure you. Make that desicion when you feel you are ready.
MashaAllah, MashaAllah MashaAllah! InshaAllah may Allah (swt) bless you with the best spouse, that is best for you - for your here and hereafter! ameen
Thank you Nafisa, it's all what i needed to hear...
Thank you so much. I really need this! May Allah SWT reward you aameen
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You’re amazing sister. Always love your videos and much needed for us ladies xx
Sister the beginning part of this video is exactly how I feel. Jizakallah for your advice. Still practicing Sabr.
I may Allah grant us all a good, righteous spouse Ameen.
Allahouma barek the noor on your face sister, you are glowing mashallah!!! Awesome advice jazakallah khairen💖💖💖
Asalaamu Alaikoum dear sister, Thank You your content is real may Allah Subhanatalla bless you always..More ppl have a problem with me not being married then I do Ya Rabb lol Alhumdolilah I truly live my life preparing for when Allah Subhanatalla brings a spouse for me whenever that may be. I'm working on myself competing myself Alhumdolilah with his decree of course dua is everything. I'm happy and content then I have ever been. Keep making the great content sis xx
Maa shaa Allah ! Great advice indeed..we only need to turn out attitude into gratitude for every phenomenon was actually destined before our birth....
You’re a beautiful soul sis may Allah bless you with khayr in this life and the next and grant you a spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes. أمين 🖤
JazakAllah khayr for this AMAZING video sis!! May Allah bless u with all that is best for you, both in this life and the next, Ameen!
Ameen and for you the same.
BaraakAllaahufeeki sweet beautiful sister of ours 💞
May Allaah subhanawata’lla grant us what’s good in the dunya and especially for Al Aakhirah
Allaahumma Amien
Mashallah may Allah continue protect your heart from jealousy. I unfortunately do feel jealousy and I’m trying to control it. Whenever I do feel jealous of my friends I ask Allah to forgive and I pray from them. May Allah remove this toxic trait from my heart and Inshallah Allah blesses me with a good marriage as well.
Salam. So how old are you now? if you don't mind me asking, please!
I feel you!
Masha Allah my dear sister, go a head I wish happiness, healthy and good Iman Insha Allah
ManshaaAllah tabaarakaallah! What a good advice!!! Love you for the sake of Allah❤❤❤
Thank you and may Allah for whom sake you live me, love you back
I LOVE YOUUUUU THANK YOU, TRULY. MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU IN BOTH WORLDS MY DEAR!
Great video mashAllah! All true things!
Jazakalahu khairan my beloved Habebty Nafisa
Thank you soo much for such a informative video ❤️
May Allah bless you and your family for all your love and support to us sisters. Ameen. You spoke the truth. MashaAllah.
I’m so tired of my relatives asking me to hurry up and find a man because I’m turning 26 this year. I don’t feel ready, but at the same time when my mother says that there is somebody who wants to ask for my hand without even knowing me I get super stressed and say no. It’s a dilemma because if I say no all the time then people call me picky, but i dont want to go out with different men all the time when I already know that I’m gonna say no to them.
I do as many people care about men’s appearance, but at the same time their character. But when I tell my mom that I don’t like the guy on the picture because I know that I won’t like him then I become super picky in other peoples eyes. I’m not trying to be picky, but I do want a certain type of man who looks good and also have a great character. I feel 98% of the time that I’m gonna end with somebody that I won’t like just because of how he looks.( I know that thought is bad, but for me looks is also important for me if I want to feel attracted to my potential future husband.)
What do you guys think about what I just wrote?
I feel you girl! Been there, done that. I’m 26 too. I would say try to be a bit more open minded and consider someone who maybe isn’t completely your type but may still have some potential. But ultimately, it’s up to you. :) Always pray istikhara and seek God’s guidance along the way.
same I understand you 100%%, for me as well my parent dont understand yes akhlaq is very very important also minimal of physical attraction is important I want to love his soul and physique as apparence is subjective what is seem good looking for me willl not be for someone else and they found good looking is not to my eyes.
i believe their is someone for everyone taste
وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا”
Translated: “And those who say: Oh our Lord, gift us a gift for our spouses, our children, and future generations the coolness of eyes and make us leaders over those who are righteous, pious, and fearful.”25:74
for heart and eyes