Ms.Vixen has a pungent point. Abolishing a word will do little to dismantle white supremacy but figuring out why you have inner biases and working to deconstruct them is the best course of action. Like the Buddha says "change comes from within."
42:46 - I don't think I'd mind waking up in the morning looking like Tirrrb, but I get what the author is saying. My tiny, all-white Greek town would most likely discriminate against me in all sorts of ways in that scenario.
The word should definitely be retired. People should examine why they are attracted to certain types of Black people, but it's not okay to discriminate against certain types of black people and openly denigrate them. There seems to be a preference of successful Black men to date lighter skinned Black women or non Black women.
Thank colonialism , pushing black people into poor deprived areas where they believed the colour of their skin makes better living inaccessible. This is why many black grew up with social trauma as to think dating/marrying someone of lighter complexion/white will be close to success as those are who we see in high society and posters.
I am going to be honest. I used the word preference but not to use it in a bad way Lmao. However, now that I watch the video I understand why that word is offensive. As for the video overall, the creators did a great job answering these questions and you did a good job creating the video. I feel like social media plays a big part on how folks can be anti black or even a colorist. Society sucks 🤥 LMAO PS: my shelf is cute 😭✨❤️
Thank you sista! Thank you for hearing us out and seeing a different perspective. I wished the person that was commenting random things without watching the full video listened to the whole video🙃… Also, we did a great job building the shelves🤣!
Sure, let's just call it requirements. Preference makes it sound optional or up for debate. It's not. Stop trying to use politics to manipulate people into bed with you. It's so gross and pathetic.
Different opinion and insights from different vloggers discussing about this issue, “ preference” is somewhat a good way to let your viewers decide what their stance is over this matter. I would like to support most of the opinion. Preference is unjust and a real discrimination. This makes me question even myself if I still belong to a right community or not, lots of pressure, no wonder mental illness these days is rampant and it attacks youngsters, due to social media as well. I’m curious what else I can learn from your channel , your choice of topics is smart.
i really appreciate the distinction and discussion of in-group preference vs. exclusionary preference. there’s safety, community & understanding in partnering someone in the same marginalized group/s that is invaluable to some. personally, i don’t know if i could ever date a cis and/or able bodied neurotypical person. luckily i don’t have to care bc i’m in a committed T4T relationship w another disabled person 👏🏼
Thank you so much, Lee! I appreciate your feedback and congratulations on your relationship. It’s good you both can relate to each other and genuinely care for one another❤️!
@@shekwaga Copy! We think a like. Of course, at the concluding statement of the video, I shifted my perspective a bit on the “preference” term being abolished in dating🫡.
And another one in the words of DJ Khaled. Great video sir. You and all the interview guests were excellent and provided great insight on this hot topic. I’m with you. I’ve retired using the word “preference” when it comes to dating. Thank you for your inclusion of Black LGBT couples in your pic collages. It’s so appreciated.
Johnieeeeeeee! Sorry I am now responding back to you. I been busy and trying to avoid the comments😂! It’s not as bad as I thought it would be. A lot of genuine feedback. Also, thank you! I wanted to make sure I included everyone in the community🙆🏾♂️!
@@JulianSteve Hello Mr. Julian. I understand. Congratulations on the success of your video. I’m glad it’s sparking a lot of discussion. I know how overwhelming the comments can be especially after your video discussing Anitta lol I pray all is well. Be blessed 🙏🏿
People should stop using the word preference to insult & disparage others. Stop using preference to try to disguise anti-blackness. Use it for stuff like drinks or something. For example, I like hot chocolate but I prefer coffee on cold days.
Want to say this is an important video and its important you made it. Honestly though I struggle to see how you can admit those biases and not hate yourself though. As in soeaking from experience, does that mean you hate the mother you came from? If so whats next? It becomes a fundamental faiking on the individual part. I do highlight fab point about being in a white supremacist culture not being your fault. That kind of grace would logically be the answer. Itbjust doesnt feel right after all this to be essentially a self hatujg traitor to your own skin
I agree with you. Fab (Teanna) did a great job with being nuanced about why some folks in the community are hating themselves to the point it’s unbearable. Like Queen said, leaving folks behind is okay too if you cannot handle them. You gotta put yourself first, even if it’s family, or close friends🤷🏾♂️💯
@@JulianSteve I think we have a misunderstanding. Not saying this from the perspective of someone who dealt with people like this but someone trying to unpack that themselves. Never been to be point where I talk down about black women openly or declare one race or ethnicity superior but if who you desire is a reflection of who you feel deserves love how does one forgive and move on from that without self hate. To wholesale accept the arguments presented on here kinda makes the efforts to want to unpack that feel futile cause you feel defective. Others of your kin where able to fight against that and naturally go where they were supposed to go.
No… You do know that when someone has a script that is not memorized 100%, they take their time delivering the message? That’s me half of the time. I enjoy taking my time talking, especially in my videos that are heavily scripted. If you do not like that, you can speed up the video, or leave. It’s that simple🤷🏾♂️ Edited: I am rewatching this video and within the first five minutes I did a great job with my delivery. I am not taking your “genuine comment” literally. I am proud of how far I have come with my content. This is who I am on camera. Have a good one!
Stop it. Absolutely not. We are human and we all have references. Dark skin black woman always say they want there "dark chocolate" kings and rarely go after lightskin men. And darkskin men step over darkskin women to chase lightskin, Latina or white women. It is what it is. The term preference isn't the problem, it the people and their conditioning. Everyone has their preferences, black, whites, Asians, Indians, and so on. Let's stop being so hypersensitive and just move on. We have bigger fish to fry socially speaking
Ms.Vixen has a pungent point. Abolishing a word will do little to dismantle white supremacy but figuring out why you have inner biases and working to deconstruct them is the best course of action. Like the Buddha says "change comes from within."
Yes, Ms.Vixen has a good point! So does Foreign Man.
Ooooh not the word "Exotical" its a low key dehumanising, its not even a compliment🙄.
It’s not. I wish more folks within the community realize that… Shit, everyone should realize it is not a compliment😭
42:46 - I don't think I'd mind waking up in the morning looking like Tirrrb, but I get what the author is saying. My tiny, all-white Greek town would most likely discriminate against me in all sorts of ways in that scenario.
Oh wow, thank you for sharing, Alkis. I appreciate your honesty. It’s good to think about it, but not in a self-hating way if you get what I’m saying.
Love the interviews!
Thank you again, Teanna! You all did a splendid job❤️!
Gotta love when a guy will break up with a girl for the most unhinged reason and then just say “it’s my personal preference”
Yes… It’s so pathetic😭
wanted someone hotter, sucks they can't just say whatever what i want is more attractive, cope
@@xanv8051 what
The word should definitely be retired. People should examine why they are attracted to certain types of Black people, but it's not okay to discriminate against certain types of black people and openly denigrate them. There seems to be a preference of successful Black men to date lighter skinned Black women or non Black women.
Thank colonialism , pushing black people into poor deprived areas where they believed the colour of their skin makes better living inaccessible. This is why many black grew up with social trauma as to think dating/marrying someone of lighter complexion/white will be close to success as those are who we see in high society and posters.
Exactly, Janayn. I agree with you💯!
It's like pulling teeth to get them to admit that they suffer from a color complex (colorism), but many do.
I am going to be honest. I used the word preference but not to use it in a bad way Lmao. However, now that I watch the video I understand why that word is offensive. As for the video overall, the creators did a great job answering these questions and you did a good job creating the video. I feel like social media plays a big part on how folks can be anti black or even a colorist. Society sucks 🤥 LMAO
PS: my shelf is cute 😭✨❤️
Thank you sista! Thank you for hearing us out and seeing a different perspective. I wished the person that was commenting random things without watching the full video listened to the whole video🙃… Also, we did a great job building the shelves🤣!
@@JulianSteve me and that person can fight tbh blowing mines typing long paragraphs 😂 likeeeee
@@kianalaboriel6595 😂😂😂😂‼️
This is such an amazing video I’m proud of Julian of you improving your talent keep it up ❤️👍🏿
Thank you so much, Kevin🥲🙌🏾!
This was great! Thanks for having me on 🖤🖤
Thank you again Queen! You did a great job🥹!
We be selecting types of people like our favorite ice cream, we're definitely more dimensional that as people
For real lol! It’s bad out here😭!
Thank you for your work on this video and thank you to everyone involved in the making of or appearing in this! Very much appreciated this existing.
Thank you for this comment. It made me smiled a lot🥹❤️!
First 👏🏾👀
I hope you like our video. Also, I cut out my original concluding statement after hearing everyone’s opinion on the final question😭
Hi😊
We have to examine the Willie Lynch Theory
Oh yes! I need to look into that again. I heard of his work before.
The validity and accuracy of that letter as an actual and legitimate historical document is highly questionable.
@@productioninquiry8937 how so? Would you have any links or site so I can go read more about this?
@@angelinaoliver5587 Start with Wikipedia and then perform a Google search. There are historical inaccuracies in the text.
Thank you for having me!
Thank you for being apart of the conversation, Zoe! You did a splendid job❤️!
This subject is tough
It is. It took a month to prepare this video. Part II is going to be tougher😅
It’s really not it’s pretty simple. Ppl just act dense
@@c0mm0ndrgg 😂EXACTLY! Simply delusional liars
51:07 - This. 100% this.
Thanks Alkis🙌🏾‼️
Sure, let's just call it requirements. Preference makes it sound optional or up for debate. It's not. Stop trying to use politics to manipulate people into bed with you. It's so gross and pathetic.
You make a good point!
I love how you incorporated so many different voices and perspectives!
Thank you! This made the video more fun and informative. The topic is complex, so hearing different perspectives from the Black community helps✊🏾💯
Different opinion and insights from different vloggers discussing about this issue, “ preference” is somewhat a good way to let your viewers decide what their stance is over this matter. I would like to support most of the opinion. Preference is unjust and a real discrimination. This makes me question even myself if I still belong to a right community or not, lots of pressure, no wonder mental illness these days is rampant and it attacks youngsters, due to social media as well. I’m curious what else I can learn from your channel , your choice of topics is smart.
Thank you so much! I enjoyed reading your feedback. It’s appreciated🥹!
I’m just finding your channel and you’re talking about all the topics I wish more ppl would talk about. You are great seriously!
Hey, the books n looks tv and Julian Steve crossover fanily happened😊, love you guys' content.
Thank you so much, Sade🥹❤️!
i really appreciate the distinction and discussion of in-group preference vs. exclusionary preference. there’s safety, community & understanding in partnering someone in the same marginalized group/s that is invaluable to some. personally, i don’t know if i could ever date a cis and/or able bodied neurotypical person.
luckily i don’t have to care bc i’m in a committed T4T relationship w another disabled person 👏🏼
Thank you so much, Lee! I appreciate your feedback and congratulations on your relationship. It’s good you both can relate to each other and genuinely care for one another❤️!
this mans channel deserves to blow up, frfr. subscribed.
Thank you so much, Katerino❤️!
Your content and channel overall is definitely top tier👌🏾I pray your channel grows let’s get you to a million❤️🎉🎉
Thank you so much, Angelina. For now, I want to get myself to 3K subs lol😂!
I love how many different people’s perspectives you’re able to get here!
Thank you so much, Azure🥹!
The term is very euphemistic because it distances everyone from the self-hate underneath.
You worded this pretty well. I am not sure if you agree that the word “preference” is bad or not😭
@Julian Steve I personally don't like it because it is puts a blanket over our colorism and our need to have proximity to whiteness.
@@shekwaga Copy! We think a like. Of course, at the concluding statement of the video, I shifted my perspective a bit on the “preference” term being abolished in dating🫡.
“You already know my name” 😂
My signature slogan😅😂!
And another one in the words of DJ Khaled. Great video sir. You and all the interview guests were excellent and provided great insight on this hot topic. I’m with you. I’ve retired using the word “preference” when it comes to dating. Thank you for your inclusion of Black LGBT couples in your pic collages. It’s so appreciated.
Johnieeeeeeee! Sorry I am now responding back to you. I been busy and trying to avoid the comments😂! It’s not as bad as I thought it would be. A lot of genuine feedback. Also, thank you! I wanted to make sure I included everyone in the community🙆🏾♂️!
@@JulianSteve Hello Mr. Julian. I understand. Congratulations on the success of your video. I’m glad it’s sparking a lot of discussion. I know how overwhelming the comments can be especially after your video discussing Anitta lol I pray all is well. Be blessed 🙏🏿
@@johniebaltimore Oh yes, the Anitta fans. Never forget man lol😂! Same to you, Johnie. Have a good night🙏🏾!
Wooooo like 300! Sorry I’m late to the party, I’ve been super busy and wanted to make sure I made time for this one!
I love the variety of people you have speaking about this topic, getting all different view points and explanations and examples.
Mmm the “who hurt you” comment is such a good point.
Peace mi gente thanks so much for sharing this ✌️
People should stop using the word preference to insult & disparage others. Stop using preference to try to disguise anti-blackness. Use it for stuff like drinks or something. For example, I like hot chocolate but I prefer coffee on cold days.
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Thank you for the support🥹!
@@JulianSteve no thank you for the great content ,please keep it up.🍽
Want to say this is an important video and its important you made it.
Honestly though I struggle to see how you can admit those biases and not hate yourself though. As in soeaking from experience, does that mean you hate the mother you came from? If so whats next? It becomes a fundamental faiking on the individual part.
I do highlight fab point about being in a white supremacist culture not being your fault. That kind of grace would logically be the answer. Itbjust doesnt feel right after all this to be essentially a self hatujg traitor to your own skin
I agree with you. Fab (Teanna) did a great job with being nuanced about why some folks in the community are hating themselves to the point it’s unbearable. Like Queen said, leaving folks behind is okay too if you cannot handle them. You gotta put yourself first, even if it’s family, or close friends🤷🏾♂️💯
@@JulianSteve I think we have a misunderstanding. Not saying this from the perspective of someone who dealt with people like this but someone trying to unpack that themselves. Never been to be point where I talk down about black women openly or declare one race or ethnicity superior but if who you desire is a reflection of who you feel deserves love how does one forgive and move on from that without self hate. To wholesale accept the arguments presented on here kinda makes the efforts to want to unpack that feel futile cause you feel defective. Others of your kin where able to fight against that and naturally go where they were supposed to go.
@@shinyduke1791 Ohhhh I get what you’re saying. That’s a deep thought for sure😭!
Imo we NEED to.
For real👏🏾‼️
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Great video thx
No problem! Thank you for the feedback🙏🏾!
Interesting video
Good stuff man
Thank you so much, Sam!
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Thank you, Quorra Quar🥹❤️!
I hate the word preference. Some people don't have a preference, they just date who they want to date. Some people don't discriminate who they date.
Did you have a stroke?
No… You do know that when someone has a script that is not memorized 100%, they take their time delivering the message? That’s me half of the time. I enjoy taking my time talking, especially in my videos that are heavily scripted. If you do not like that, you can speed up the video, or leave. It’s that simple🤷🏾♂️
Edited: I am rewatching this video and within the first five minutes I did a great job with my delivery. I am not taking your “genuine comment” literally. I am proud of how far I have come with my content. This is who I am on camera. Have a good one!
You thought what you said was funny? Stop being a troll idiot LMFAO you talking so much yet got no profile picture
Behind that fake profile of yours 😂 you seem like you eat poop Lmao likeeeee go somewhere troll with your ignorant comment
Stop it. Absolutely not. We are human and we all have references. Dark skin black woman always say they want there "dark chocolate" kings and rarely go after lightskin men. And darkskin men step over darkskin women to chase lightskin, Latina or white women. It is what it is. The term preference isn't the problem, it the people and their conditioning. Everyone has their preferences, black, whites, Asians, Indians, and so on. Let's stop being so hypersensitive and just move on. We have bigger fish to fry socially speaking