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Ms Lex... I love your channel and I make sure that my nieces and nephews watch EVERY video. I was wondering if you have ever done a video on the history of makeup for black women? Also I have a niece that is gay and she is really struggling with embarrassment and Im not sure what to tell her...do you have a video on the history of black lesbians? Thanx in advance. May God forever bless you and your future endeavors.
@@RobinTheMetaGod Why? Because I don't want my niece to feel alone and rejected from her own family? Whether or not I agree or disagree with it is irrelevant...I LOVE HER and I never ever want her to not be able to come to me nor question the fact that I love her unconditionally.
"Some beauty salon owners complained that afros would ruin their business, while others rushed to accommodate patrons desiring the style." History stays repeating itself.
Yup, the same thing is happening the music industry. People say the music being not long and fast is all new but the same thing was happening during Motown and all that during the 60s. Nothing is new! Black people also remain the blueprint! Not surprised!💅🏿
@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024B lack people have absolutely had a lot of influence on American culture, but you guys are not 'the blueprint'. Pretending that black people are the basis for everything ignores the countless other cultures that have shaped American culture. Yes, even white people.
Three defining hair moments for me: 1) I was young, maybe 5, not old enough for relaxers yet, and my mom, trying to detangle my hair to hot comb it, full on BROKE A HAIRBRUSH off in my hair. It was probably just a cheap brush, but I felt embarrassed at the time and didn't know why. Like my hair was a problem. 2) A hairdresser left relaxer in too long when I was 11. It burned through my skin and I had scabs and bleeding for weeks and damaged scalp for years. I knew I wanted to stop then, but felt like I didn't have any other choices except braids, which took 4-8 HOURS and because I'm tender-headed, could be excruciatingly painful. 3) Getting locs at 19. My mom had gotten them a year or two earlier and encouraged me to try it, but I was afraid of not liking them and having to cut them off and have- GASP: short hair. A fate worse than death, I know, but I was young and still under the influence of the "good hair" thing. But in the end, I got the locs and when I say I almost cried, I am SERIOUS y'all. Realizing that THIS is what my hair had been trying to do my entire life and that hair I pursued with braids and perms ("straight," lays flat, and the unreachable INEXPENSIVE and EASY TO MANAGE) was what my hair already was all along, it blew my mind. I still have those locs today, never cut them except to trim and shave one side, and I love that my hair feels very personal to me now. I'm the one who washes it, twists it, and styles it. When it gets rough, I go to a loctician, but that has been rare. I still think people should do what feels right for them, straight, natural, however, as long as you feel good about the relationship you have with your hair and enjoy and appreciate how it makes you feel.
I haven't looked back either with my locs, only difference is I was 36 when I started, I also feel free with my locs as well. Best thing I have done for my hair.
Omg! Same thing happened to me. My grandma broke a brush while doing my hair. After that she sent me to one of her neighbors who was a beautician. That woman was so frustrated with my hair being so thick and curly. She would yank and pull at my hair with a comb; all the while yelling at me to sit still! I remember getting burned with the hot comb. Naturally, according to her it was my fault because my hair was so thick and I wouldn’t sit still.
My defining hair moment: I was around 7 or 8 yrs old and I decided to take down my box braids by myself when no one was paying attention. I quickly got impatient by how long it was taking and got the idea that if I just cut at the root it will be faster😩. Not realizing I was cutting my own hair lmaooo. My mom was sooo upset. Not angry just sad lol. And I ended up getting a shaved side and braids on the other side and I loved it😭
Girlllll so for whatever reason when my sister and I were younger, my mom would literally make it a point of duty to for us to help her take down her braids. So my sister and I got really competitive betting on who would finish taking down a braid first. Typically my mom would cut the braids in advance so we wouldn’t have to do it.But because I got frustrated that my sister kept beating me, I was cutting the braids even shorter without my mom knowing. But I swear I had no idea I was cutting off her hair lmao 🤣 she was LIVID 😂It’s a wonder I lived to see another day!! 😂
I'm so glad you're saying aloud how conflicted we can be about our hair. And how it's political even though none of us asked for it. I constantly go back and forth about whether to cut it off. 💜 Stay strong!
Chile I cut mine and have been free ever since. I had lots before I cut it but was just craving a hair cut. Do what you feel is right for you. Forget them other folks.
I remember when I was a kid and my some girls where perming their hair. I asked my mum for a perm and she said “no, your hair’s long and healthy, you’ll just damage it”. ‘Long’ these days was that your hair was at neck length. My mum would always complement my dark type 4 hair. Saying i looked cute, and that ‘i would thank her later for it’. Relatives often complimented it too, and my mum would always do her best with the limited information she had in the mid 2000’s to style and protect my fragile strands in ways i see them being done on TV! As the natural hair movement became more popular, i was becoming more exposed to hair that looked like mine, and I can’t lie. I fell in LOVE with my hair. I’ve always liked it before, but these times I was really starting to appreciate it for what it is! I would definitely say my natural hair icon was Zurie from Jessie on Disney channel. I’ve always wanted my hair to look as full, long and bouncy as her’s! I still remember in secondary school when waiting for my bus in the morning these blonde white girls in a red car, roof down shades on and everything literally stopped in front of me and marvelled and expressed how ‘pretty’ i looked with my afro hair in space puffs. That amongst many other compliments definitely did influence my positive view on my hair! I’ll admit, i’ve had a lot of good experiences around my natural hair. And my mum has always been a pillar of encouragement of my appreciating it as it is. Plus my dad never made any remarks to it, which I know affected some young girl’s view on afro-textured hair not being ‘feminine’ growing up. Maybe if I had more negative experiences it could have been different. But i’m so blessed to have been surrounded by my family’s encouragement and appreciation of my natural. Looking back at it, my mum always complained how she wished her mum never permed her hair, because it was so damaged. I guess she wanted me to love what was unfortunately taken away from her. She still deals with the damage of all those perms she had to this day! Her scalp is burnt, and she also deals with benign-growths in her uterus (which i suppose now with the research done _may_ have been a result of the relaxers). While at 19 years old its safe to say that I’ve gained a lot more knowledge on natural hair than my mum, if it wasn’t for her, i may have not become as curious and loving to my hair as she was to it! So, I guess she was right, thanks mum!
Same story here with the Bantu Knots. It was 5th grade I felt so cool ! Sure enough I was made fun of . I took them out a day later and had cute curls then two girls from my class came up to me and asked why I took them out and they liked them. Yeah, childhood 🙃
Ugh I didn't want this one to end! So many memories... The hot comb, perms, finger waves.. I remember burning my hair off trying to straighten it myself at my grandma's beauty salon. Remember those hot combs and curling irons that went into the metal plates? Well I forgot to let it cool off 😂🤣
As a non black woman who teaches in a school where many of my students are black, I compliment them everytime they Switch their style, crochet, braids, afros... They honestly always look good and I think it is important to build their confidence, academically and as individuals
I promise you they will remember tht forever thank you for taking time iht of your day to be kind for the next generation of us to be more confident in our hair ❤
I always had mid-back length hair until I got a fresh perm and got in a chlorine pool, and ignorantly didn’t wash it out. ALLLLLLL my hair fell out. It was traumatizing. I didn’t achieve that length again until 8 years later when I went fully natural at age 19. I’ve never looked back. My hair has never felt, looked, or been as healthy as it is now. It was astonishing how quickly and fully my hair grew back.
@@coilyheadedbby yes, as black women, we hold our hair on a pedestal. It was really hard, I was just entering middle school, and had no confidence. Glad that our generation is taking healthy hair more seriously. 🙌🏽
Girl I was on the swim team in high school and had relaxed hair, my little head didn’t stand a chance. I was walking around without edges for most of junior and senior year; its funny to look back on now but at the time the teasing did a number on my self esteem. I’ve been natural since 18 and my hair is so thick and healthy now, can’t believe I was once on that frustrating struggle bus.
@@Tiorg-g1u swimming was literally a traumatizing experience for black women 😭 and all because of our hair !! These things need to be published and talked about more.
Elexus this video was amazing. I loved seeing all your pictures 😍I, like you and so many other Black women, have struggled with my hair all my life. My mom relaxed my hair when I was young and I stayed with it until a few years ago when I was just done with the hassle of having to her new growth touched up. I wear my natural hair now, but there are days when I don’t like it. I think the most tragic part are the beliefs that get planted within us about what we “should” look like and what’s “professional, appropriate” etc. These days, at 38 almost 39 years of age, even though I have off days with my hair, I refuse to internalize my hair texture as being difficult or ugly or undesirable. It grows out of my head this way, and that can’t be wrong. I do enjoy my hair vacations though (braids, wigs, hair pieces) 😉. I wrote a children’s book called A Book for Black Girls and made sure the illustrator showed all variations of Black hair on the little girls. 🥰
Mom's hairdresser did her hair until Mom passed away several years ago. Their friendship was in place my entire life, and Miss Sadie came to school events and funerals, we knew her kids and her siblings. Really important relationship. I have a really complicated relationship with my hair, but can relate to so many of the things in your video. The most important thing I did was to cut it all off, which was a huge deal in the 1980s. All of a sudden, I had a bunch of confrontations from all sides, about sexuality and gender.
My grandma has gone to the same old lady for YEARS and after her shop closed, we'd still go to her personal home for hair care. It wasn't till she passed where my Grandma started doing her own hair and a close friend of my grandmas recommended her hairstylist for me since i wanted braids!
Loved this video! Really shows how hair care for black women is much deeper than people think. I tried all kinds of things and was not happy with my hair or how I maintained it for a really long time.
Alllll of this!!!!! As soon as I stopped using weave glue and relaxer, there was no more dandruff or irritation! This natural journey has been an adventure, because I'm still learning even after 10 years!
White dude here -- all the trauma and discrimination for your hair, especially the personal stories in the video and comments, breaks my heart. I never had to deal with any shit like that. I never even once got teased or bullied for my hair, let alone been denied a job or fired. You all are strong, that's all I gotta say. Thanks for the amazing video
This was such an interesting watch and it got me emotional. I'm white, but from a mixed Brazilian family (most of us live here in Brazil). I understood the struggles of people with curly hair going from my mom (biracial married to a white man) and every other women in her family who was born with either curly or kinky hair (especially the dark skin women, that struggle was so fucking bad and sad, I watched most of my dark skin aunties hiding their hair in one way or another). It was very evident something was weird when even my white aunties straightened it out and bleached their hair blonde to look whiter. I also was shocked when I let my own hair grow and it was called "bad hair" or "it doesn't fit you" as in it doesn't fit the color of my skin because it's curly and a bit kinkier, that happened for most of my teen years even though I'm clearly white as fuck. It was traumatizing and I remember pursuing ways to make it straight so I could fit the white stereotype until I got educated on how wrong that was. It got me emotional to hear the stories of how these things happened all over the US and it reminded me of how important it is to support black people with any choice of hairstyle they pick and what it means to them, especially black women.
I gotta say, I just clicked this video because I thought it would be shorter, but your content kept me engaged and I didn't realized it was an hour long! I live in Mexico, but your content has made me interested and has shaded new light on issues and culture of Afro-america.
My first defining moment was getting a relaxer at 13. My mom made me wait so long and I used to feel self-conscience about my hair because all the girls in middle school had more "grown-up" hairstyles and the last defining moment was when I cut all my hair off to rock a fashionable short style in 2010 then deciding to go natural after that.
Ooooh I love me a good history lesson. I've really been on my black history lately, I'm so glad I found your channel again (I subscribed a long time ago not I swear RUclips is unsubscribing me from channels and not sending me notifs👀)
I got my first relaxer when I was 3, too. My mom did it because she was tired of trying to figure out my hair every morning as she rushed to get me and my brother ready for school and arrive to work on time. I didn't finally stop getting relaxers until I was 18. I then started getting alternative straightening processes like Keratin treatments. I finally did the big chop just before my 21st birthday.☺️🥰 Hair was so important to my family. My mom and I went to the salon every week on Saturdays. We'd be there for hours it was like another job. I was thinking of my mom telling the story of her taking out her clip in ponytail after a long day of work. The clip was aggravating her scalp as we were headed home, and my brother and I bickering in the backseat wasn't helping. So, she grabbed it and threw it in the passenger seat. The car went silent as my brother and I stared in shock. We yelled "Mom you're wearing a wig!?!?!!!" We thought it was her real hair😂 I don't think she ever wore it again
I'm so happy to have the opportunity to watch this video. I've never wanted to ask a black woman about her hair because I figure they're tired of people talking about it and making it an issue. As a man, my 3b hair has given me a whole ass journey emotionally, but I haven't experienced nearly the scrutiny I see applied to black women.
For years I have struggled with wearing my hair out natural. I used to be so scared to wear an afro. And now I get sooo much positive compliments with my afro that it's actually encouraged me to continue wearing my afro out. I ultimately want to get locs but I'm trying to grow my hair out s certain length before I get them.
I love your work. I was looking for stories of black women that moved out west after slavery and I wished you could make something about it. Especially to push back from the colorism used in that forgettable western (that really didn’t need to be based on real people at all) that cast a light skinned, thin, and feminine, Zazzie Beats, to play a 6’0 tall, dark skinned, big body icon so she would be acceptable as the male character’s love interest.
For context: I studied alot of anthropology especially history, culture(mostly ancient) and I love the day to day parts of it. This is things like food, the significance/meaning is clothing/fashion, how people set up and lived in their homes or what their homes might be. Everytime I see content on hair I am so interested in it. Hair feels like a big part of identity and history, esp for black people. It's almost like a second face for lack of better term. Clothing means something about someone but it changes far more frequently than hair does. I've always loved learning about culture and history and hair feels like it can often reflect or tell the story of those things. Idk I jsut feel the need to express how well done this video is. It seems to be in depth in a way that people who experience and live these stories can connect with it but I'm someone who has never had any of these experiences and I don't feel lost. I feel as though I can really understand the story of the history. I'm someone who believes it's really important to at the very least make an effort to understand others so that you can have real experiences and conversations with people bc idk like were all so incredibly complex in so many ways. Now I'm just rambling so I'll leave it here
I've always had my natural texture bc my mom gave me the choice to get relaxer or not when I was young (her hair was relaxed). I chose not to cause some of my favorite styles (twists and braids) were only possible because my hair is curly. I also knew that I could just get it straightened if i wanted to wear it like that. I really enjoyed the diversity of my hair, and my mom took very good, consistent care of it. I did have some heat damage in early high school, but i took care of it until I could get it all cut off while retaining most of my length. I did a big chop at the beginning of 2021 (I've always wanted to cut mg hair) and it's been another learning curve as it's grown out. Taking care of mg hair takes a lot of time and dedication so I can understand why someone would chemically treat their hair. I think cutting mine really helped me to appreciate myself without my usual hair styles, and it allowed me to better understand my relationship with my hair. Now days, I usually go w my natural fro, but I still love doing small twists and braids (they just take forever 😭) -there were times when other people hurt my feelings like when my friends told me my twists made me look like medusa, or when people call me mixed when it looks silky when its straight. Or when other kids would tell me to take out my ponytail bc they didnt believe that I could naturally have long hair. I love and know my hair and myself more than those people, so I didnt let it bother as much as it could have. Also my mom was always there to hype me up too
Having growing up as a an AFAB person (now self identifying Transmasculine person) , I had to endure years of relaxers and such. I remember I wanted to dye my hair red and was told it was too grown. If it rained on me, I let was a not only a bad hair day but a horrible day over all. The turning point for me was when it rained on me and a friend at a local Reggae festival. When I got back to her house, I was staying there for the weekend, i texted my mom asking if I could cut my hair. Of course she said hell no. But I took some scissors, went to the bathroom and chopped off my hair. I’ve been natural ever since (13 years).
My hairstyle hero would be an older woman at church who advised me not to relax my little girls hair. . Now hearing all the stories about the affects of hair relaxers I’m thankful for her advice. I have to say, sometimes it wasn’t easy. It seems some people just can’t refrain from commenting on a child’s natural hair. Sad part is a lot of the comments were from other Black folks who thought I should straighten her hair.
ever since I can remember, my mama was put in my hair in braids and have my auntie fry and lay my hair to the side. We was going to the African ladies for the quick box braids. luckily, my mama never puts a relaxer in my hair, though plenty of heat damage 😂 it wasn’t until I turned 21 that I started to wear my natural hair the way it grows out of my scalp
This was really informative and interesting. I knew some of it but this was really eye opening. Thank you for sharing and I'd love the ten hour version you mentioned on day!
I went natural 10 years ago, even in 2023 older women don't see my hair as "done". I find myself still feeling like i have to "do" my hair in order to be beautiful, especially when I'm around other black women. I love my hair, but I still feel self concious when my edges aren't laid, or my braids are frizzy after 6 weeks.
I had to stop half way through because I was becoming triggered. I am mixed and pretty light skin however I have 4C hair. Don’t ask me how this happened even my own half sister (who is not mixed) has less kinky hair than me. Growing up I constantly was told I had bad hair. I heard “you’re so light. Why is your hair so kinky” as I would have my scalp demolished by “Just For Me” kids straightener. Then when I moved into high school Bullying with the kids who were darker than me was actually worse than the white kids (as an adult I no longer view it as bullying, but as a product of colonization and internalized oppression). Due to the home life I had I couldn’t handle being the “strong loner” And so to my detriment, I fit in with the white kids. Though, no one in that crowd ever told me to straighten my hair I knew that I needed to do so in order to fit in as I would constantly be told I was “too black” to date. I also have PCOS and I have often wondered if the relaxers and perms that were in my hair since the age of two have anything to do with my medical diagnosis. This video brought a lot to the surface that I really feel needed to come up for me to heal. Ty tyvm
My hair hero would be my own mother. I have so many memories of sitting down for hours in front of the TV as she braided my hair and I cried cuz I was tender headed. (Main reason it took hours and not 40-60minutes). But I loved coming to school every other week with new beads and baubles on my braids and all the other little girls being so impressed and us laughing at the noise it would make when I shook my head. I also think about when my (ex) stepmother decided she didn't like my hair and gave me a perm. Like she was almost out of a movie or something they way she fit the "evil stepmother" stereotype so well. Constantly calling me dirty, or my hair hair dirty, she was the first person in my life to ever tell me anything like that and she was a black woman! Anyway, she took it upon herself to give me a perm without telling me, she just said she wanted to do my hair. I was crying saying it burned but she just told me "no it doesnt" (she also told me I was fine when I chocked out that I couldn't breath when she was washing my hair in the sink as the water was running straight over my nose and mouth..like). Time passes qnd I finally get home, my mom sees my hair and we're immediately back in the car driving to this woman's house, I didn't join but all I know is my mom chewed this woman out. Sadly years later I did fall into a slight "good hair bad hair mindset" while I didn't view other black women's hair as undesirable. I thought It was pretty. I just didn't know how to manage my own and I saw all my peers with easily maintained straight hair so I started straightening my own. I'm last that now but all of that to say. I'm glad my mom never caved to society with my hair, she cared for it in its natural state and wanted me to be able to express myself however I chose.
Excellent work as always, I loved watching this. My hair heros were Scary Spice and Jill Scott. I always wanted big hair but my mom would never let me wear my hair out in public when I was a kid, always in a ponytail . I remember being picked on in school because everyone else wore straight hair and I still was the only one without a relaxer until 7th grade. Finally went natural again over 10 years ago now. I’ve had everything from short cuts to locs ! Black women have come a long way with our hair and self love and it’s beautiful to see. O and I remember those hot comb horror days fondly 😅!
I fought my hair and my hair won. I now have over 3ft of naturally formed Locs. I took my braids out 15 yrs ago and never looked back. I don’t not miss Salons at all. Especially all the money I was spending on my hair. I feel so free. No more bad hair days! My Locs are everything.🥰
This was so fun and educational to watch. I never get sick of learning history about Black/ African hair and just general conversation about it. As it is important, always relevant and just yeh fun. I have locs myself and it is legit a personal journey and it's taught me how to fully embrace how my hair just grows when I leave it alone. I especially appreciate the fact that ion have to comb the knots out my hair anymore thank goodness. 😭 I also believe your hair your choice..the point is to have the power to choose wtf u wanna do with what grows out your scalp. Of course I'd rather we just ditch relaxers altogether for the benefits of our health but u win some u lose some. At least there's more research and info out there for folks to access if they wanna come to the decision to ditch em. Overall Brilliant video!!👏🏾👏🏾
I’ve been going to the same hair stylist since I was like 12. I’m 27 and she has seen me through 2 strand twists, presses and even started my locs. I love her and I would follow her anywhere! The Carowinds mention was unexpected but funny! We used to go basically every summer.
As a Brazilian, it is very interesting to me how similar our colonial society, specially when it comes to topics of miscigenation and colorism, was to that of Louisiana. It is very common for black-mixed women to explicetly wish their daughters be born with straight hair.
There must be a global black hair conference. It brings identity, image, physical looks, cultural, religious, emotional, historical, and diversity discussions. As black women we need to take more control and ownership of our beings.
You would think that by today we would have a greater appreciation of our hair, but our mothers and their mothers didnt even treat out hair with love. Our hair was tolerated. And of course slavery caused this harm and truly this is some shit we gotta heal from fr. I still go to salons and they act like my hair is the problem and they dont know how to comb it its so annoying. I tried to go to a "curly stylist" and I tried to book an appt and they told me that they couldnt do 4 type hair cuz it hurt their fingers im like wtf
It’s the edge control for me😂… I can be natural but my edges need to be white? Come on now! I’m 52 and I just went natural 3 weeks ago… it feels so freeing.
This video was so educational and entertaining I learned a lot of new things thanks to you and it´s always nice to learn more about our hair I am definitely subscribing
I've tried to tell younger folks that many of those perfect fros they saw from the 60s and 70s were actually wigs and perms. I was called a liar. I got a perm in the 70s because I told my mom I wanted a fro and my hair didn't do that.
My mother and her sisters had perfect fros, lol. I seen pictures of them and was so amazed at how beautiful women looked them in their natural state. My aunt wore her fro into the 90's. My father said in the 70's were he grew up, you got made fun of for not wearing your hair natural. I still love looking at old pictures of my mother. I truly don't care how people wear their hair. But I would love to see more natural hair styles. Nothing beats our beauty in its natural form. I love my curls. I look like a completely different person with my hair straight.
i straightened my hair every two weeks without fail in high school but then went natural the second i graduated. i don’t quite remember what flipped the switch but i literally tried my first wash and go the week after graduation
Growing up as a South African in Germany, I used to envy my white peers for having straight hair for a while. Especially my adoptive mother's hair, since she could do all sorts of things with it - tie it back into a ponytail, put a hair clip in it and put it up in a tied-back type bun, French braids, one or two small buns, etc - and I felt like I didn't have as many options. (She tried her best to get creative with my sister's and my hair styles tho.) Around 7th grade was the time when I stopped wanting to have straight hair - mainly because the relaxing cream that was always used for my sister's and my hair burned the scalp and even left scars on my sister's scalp - and my hair had enough time to grow out and I started wearing it out without anything in it. I've chopped it all off a couple times now, but as of right now I'll keep letting it grow. I'm glad that I'm no longer in a love-hate relationship with my hair, no matter how often people wanted to touch it because "it feels so funny" and told me that touching it feels "like sheep's wool". Luckily I've learned to say "no". (Which took a while but now I'm there.) Luckily I'm no longer letting people touch my hair because they feel like it. This is such a fantastic, well-researched video!! Highly informative and it's lovely to listen to you talk, this could've gone on for hours and I'd have stuck around!!
I could go on and on for DAYS about my hair stories. Goodness grscious, the hot combs, the relaxers, the years in high school of straightening my hair, my white family making fun of me, AND plenty of people at school too... sheesh mane
I just changed my hair color from many shades of red over a decade to blue. It’s Vincent van Gogh, inspired. The best part of black existence is our hai The people!
I had a huge afro as a 5 year old and my mom(who has straighter natural hair) gave me a perm and my hair broke off and my scalp was burned badly. Im 31 now and my hair ia just starting to become healthy :')
What an eye opening video on so many levels. I think societal perspective still has a long way to go in embracing ethnic hair. As women I think we ALL should have the option of doing our hair in any way we choose, not what conventional society dictates.
I put rollers in my hair overnight and the next day some girls asked me to sit with them at lunch. The next day I did not and I couldn't sit with them.
There was a time I wouldn't leave the house unless my hair was 'done' aka in a weave or extensions, relaxed, I was subconsciously conforming to Eurocentric standards for years, Plus I have fine hair so i could never seem to retain length. It was only when the pandemic hit and I couldn't have access to products and shops were closed. I asked myself what am i going to do with my hair? Lauryn Hill come on the tv, I'm going to have locs the rest is history, Ill be 3 years locd in May and I haven't looked back. When we cant change a situation we are challenged to change ourselves Viktor E Frankl great Video
This video couldn't have come at a better time lol. My hair problems came after going to a barber who fucked up my hair. At the time, I was wearing my hair in TWAs. It was a day that had me believe in the saying that your hair, just like your body, holds onto trauma, and he completely traumatized my hair. Since then my hair never looked or felt right. It was only after going to a Loctician who knew what the hell they were doing did my hair start to heal.
As long as we allow psychological warfare control our beauty standards we will continue what is unnatural to us. The oppressors can always see how well their tactics work just by looking at us from a distance. They don't even need to really talk with us. Because we show them their success from a distance. When you can convince someone that their natural beauty is ugly they have controlled your self esteem. As long as they can control us on that level. They will be able to control us on every other level as well for the most part. ☹️
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Ms Lex... I love your channel and I make sure that my nieces and nephews watch EVERY video. I was wondering if you have ever done a video on the history of makeup for black women? Also I have a niece that is gay and she is really struggling with embarrassment and Im not sure what to tell her...do you have a video on the history of black lesbians? Thanx in advance. May God forever bless you and your future endeavors.
You should be ashamed.
@@RobinTheMetaGod Why? Because I don't want my niece to feel alone and rejected from her own family? Whether or not I agree or disagree with it is irrelevant...I LOVE HER and I never ever want her to not be able to come to me nor question the fact that I love her unconditionally.
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My comment is addressed yo IM, kid.
The slut cosplayed as a character a love and I am saying IM should be ashamed.
This is a bit off topic, but I really appreciate you putting subtitles in the video 🧡
"Some beauty salon owners complained that afros would ruin their business, while others rushed to accommodate patrons desiring the style." History stays repeating itself.
Yup, the same thing is happening the music industry. People say the music being not long and fast is all new but the same thing was happening during Motown and all that during the 60s. Nothing is new! Black people also remain the blueprint! Not surprised!💅🏿
@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024B lack people have absolutely had a lot of influence on American culture, but you guys are not 'the blueprint'. Pretending that black people are the basis for everything ignores the countless other cultures that have shaped American culture. Yes, even white people.
Fun fact: black women caused the stock market to crash in the 1970s bc of their natural hair
@nolipoli Do you know about the Hindenburg, asteroids, and UFOs? It all happened from our wash-n-gos. 🤣🤣😅
Exactly it truly does
Girl this could’ve been 3 hrs long and I would’ve enjoyed every minute of it.
Aw thank you
Definitely.....Please do one about black men's hair next.
@brittanyedeh1331 a fact!!
Same babe. ❤
@@DeeDaKaang1if she does will there be at least 5 minutes of dunking on young Drake in Degrassi?
Three defining hair moments for me: 1) I was young, maybe 5, not old enough for relaxers yet, and my mom, trying to detangle my hair to hot comb it, full on BROKE A HAIRBRUSH off in my hair. It was probably just a cheap brush, but I felt embarrassed at the time and didn't know why. Like my hair was a problem. 2) A hairdresser left relaxer in too long when I was 11. It burned through my skin and I had scabs and bleeding for weeks and damaged scalp for years. I knew I wanted to stop then, but felt like I didn't have any other choices except braids, which took 4-8 HOURS and because I'm tender-headed, could be excruciatingly painful. 3) Getting locs at 19. My mom had gotten them a year or two earlier and encouraged me to try it, but I was afraid of not liking them and having to cut them off and have- GASP: short hair. A fate worse than death, I know, but I was young and still under the influence of the "good hair" thing. But in the end, I got the locs and when I say I almost cried, I am SERIOUS y'all. Realizing that THIS is what my hair had been trying to do my entire life and that hair I pursued with braids and perms ("straight," lays flat, and the unreachable INEXPENSIVE and EASY TO MANAGE) was what my hair already was all along, it blew my mind. I still have those locs today, never cut them except to trim and shave one side, and I love that my hair feels very personal to me now. I'm the one who washes it, twists it, and styles it. When it gets rough, I go to a loctician, but that has been rare. I still think people should do what feels right for them, straight, natural, however, as long as you feel good about the relationship you have with your hair and enjoy and appreciate how it makes you feel.
I haven't looked back either with my locs, only difference is I was 36 when I started, I also feel free with my locs as well. Best thing I have done for my hair.
Omg! Same thing happened to me. My grandma broke a brush while doing my hair. After that she sent me to one of her neighbors who was a beautician. That woman was so frustrated with my hair being so thick and curly. She would yank and pull at my hair with a comb; all the while yelling at me to sit still! I remember getting burned with the hot comb. Naturally, according to her it was my fault because my hair was so thick and I wouldn’t sit still.
My defining hair moment: I was around 7 or 8 yrs old and I decided to take down my box braids by myself when no one was paying attention. I quickly got impatient by how long it was taking and got the idea that if I just cut at the root it will be faster😩. Not realizing I was cutting my own hair lmaooo. My mom was sooo upset. Not angry just sad lol. And I ended up getting a shaved side and braids on the other side and I loved it😭
Lmao this was literally me watching That’s So Raven! 😂😂 thanks for sharing
that sounds like it was meant to happen i wanted that hair style growing up omg.
Girlllll so for whatever reason when my sister and I were younger, my mom would literally make it a point of duty to for us to help her take down her braids. So my sister and I got really competitive betting on who would finish taking down a braid first. Typically my mom would cut the braids in advance so we wouldn’t have to do it.But because I got frustrated that my sister kept beating me, I was cutting the braids even shorter without my mom knowing. But I swear I had no idea I was cutting off her hair lmao 🤣 she was LIVID 😂It’s a wonder I lived to see another day!! 😂
@@coilyheadedbby lmaooo what goes through our child brains that makes us believe our hair just magically disappears when we put braids in 😂🤷🏾♀️
@@spacebar9733 yesss I loved it!
I'm so glad you're saying aloud how conflicted we can be about our hair. And how it's political even though none of us asked for it. I constantly go back and forth about whether to cut it off. 💜 Stay strong!
The struggle is real!! I did my hair earlier was just over it!!!
Chile I cut mine and have been free ever since. I had lots before I cut it but was just craving a hair cut. Do what you feel is right for you. Forget them other folks.
Don’t cut learn it’s beautiful the curls!
I remember when I was a kid and my some girls where perming their hair. I asked my mum for a perm and she said “no, your hair’s long and healthy, you’ll just damage it”.
‘Long’ these days was that your hair was at neck length. My mum would always complement my dark type 4 hair. Saying i looked cute, and that ‘i would thank her later for it’. Relatives often complimented it too, and my mum would always do her best with the limited information she had in the mid 2000’s to style and protect my fragile strands in ways i see them being done on TV!
As the natural hair movement became more popular, i was becoming more exposed to hair that looked like mine, and I can’t lie. I fell in LOVE with my hair. I’ve always liked it before, but these times I was really starting to appreciate it for what it is! I would definitely say my natural hair icon was Zurie from Jessie on Disney channel. I’ve always wanted my hair to look as full, long and bouncy as her’s!
I still remember in secondary school when waiting for my bus in the morning these blonde white girls in a red car, roof down shades on and everything literally stopped in front of me and marvelled and expressed how ‘pretty’ i looked with my afro hair in space puffs. That amongst many other compliments definitely did influence my positive view on my hair!
I’ll admit, i’ve had a lot of good experiences around my natural hair. And my mum has always been a pillar of encouragement of my appreciating it as it is. Plus my dad never made any remarks to it, which I know affected some young girl’s view on afro-textured hair not being ‘feminine’ growing up. Maybe if I had more negative experiences it could have been different. But i’m so blessed to have been surrounded by my family’s encouragement and appreciation of my natural.
Looking back at it, my mum always complained how she wished her mum never permed her hair, because it was so damaged. I guess she wanted me to love what was unfortunately taken away from her. She still deals with the damage of all those perms she had to this day! Her scalp is burnt, and she also deals with benign-growths in her uterus (which i suppose now with the research done _may_ have been a result of the relaxers).
While at 19 years old its safe to say that I’ve gained a lot more knowledge on natural hair than my mum, if it wasn’t for her, i may have not become as curious and loving to my hair as she was to it! So, I guess she was right, thanks mum!
Wonderful!!
Same story here with the Bantu Knots. It was 5th grade I felt so cool ! Sure enough I was made fun of . I took them out a day later and had cute curls then two girls from my class came up to me and asked why I took them out and they liked them. Yeah, childhood 🙃
Ugh I didn't want this one to end! So many memories... The hot comb, perms, finger waves.. I remember burning my hair off trying to straighten it myself at my grandma's beauty salon. Remember those hot combs and curling irons that went into the metal plates? Well I forgot to let it cool off 😂🤣
As a non black woman who teaches in a school where many of my students are black, I compliment them everytime they Switch their style, crochet, braids, afros... They honestly always look good and I think it is important to build their confidence, academically and as individuals
I promise you they will remember tht forever thank you for taking time iht of your day to be kind for the next generation of us to be more confident in our hair ❤
@@kamyrahbrown5994 thank you !
I always had mid-back length hair until I got a fresh perm and got in a chlorine pool, and ignorantly didn’t wash it out. ALLLLLLL my hair fell out. It was traumatizing. I didn’t achieve that length again until 8 years later when I went fully natural at age 19.
I’ve never looked back. My hair has never felt, looked, or been as healthy as it is now. It was astonishing how quickly and fully my hair grew back.
Love this for you!
Omg this same exact thing happened to my sister! I could tell how much it affected her self esteem back then.
@@coilyheadedbby yes, as black women, we hold our hair on a pedestal. It was really hard, I was just entering middle school, and had no confidence.
Glad that our generation is taking healthy hair more seriously. 🙌🏽
Girl I was on the swim team in high school and had relaxed hair, my little head didn’t stand a chance. I was walking around without edges for most of junior and senior year; its funny to look back on now but at the time the teasing did a number on my self esteem. I’ve been natural since 18 and my hair is so thick and healthy now, can’t believe I was once on that frustrating struggle bus.
@@Tiorg-g1u swimming was literally a traumatizing experience for black women 😭 and all because of our hair !! These things need to be published and talked about more.
Elexus this video was amazing. I loved seeing all your pictures 😍I, like you and so many other Black women, have struggled with my hair all my life. My mom relaxed my hair when I was young and I stayed with it until a few years ago when I was just done with the hassle of having to her new growth touched up. I wear my natural hair now, but there are days when I don’t like it. I think the most tragic part are the beliefs that get planted within us about what we “should” look like and what’s “professional, appropriate” etc. These days, at 38 almost 39 years of age, even though I have off days with my hair, I refuse to internalize my hair texture as being difficult or ugly or undesirable. It grows out of my head this way, and that can’t be wrong. I do enjoy my hair vacations though (braids, wigs, hair pieces) 😉.
I wrote a children’s book called A Book for Black Girls and made sure the illustrator showed all variations of Black hair on the little girls. 🥰
Mom's hairdresser did her hair until Mom passed away several years ago. Their friendship was in place my entire life, and Miss Sadie came to school events and funerals, we knew her kids and her siblings. Really important relationship.
I have a really complicated relationship with my hair, but can relate to so many of the things in your video. The most important thing I did was to cut it all off, which was a huge deal in the 1980s. All of a sudden, I had a bunch of confrontations from all sides, about sexuality and gender.
My grandma has gone to the same old lady for YEARS and after her shop closed, we'd still go to her personal home for hair care. It wasn't till she passed where my Grandma started doing her own hair and a close friend of my grandmas recommended her hairstylist for me since i wanted braids!
Loved this video! Really shows how hair care for black women is much deeper than people think. I tried all kinds of things and was not happy with my hair or how I maintained it for a really long time.
Alllll of this!!!!! As soon as I stopped using weave glue and relaxer, there was no more dandruff or irritation! This natural journey has been an adventure, because I'm still learning even after 10 years!
My mama lost her job back in the 90s for having braids. I'll never forget that as long as i live
White dude here -- all the trauma and discrimination for your hair, especially the personal stories in the video and comments, breaks my heart. I never had to deal with any shit like that. I never even once got teased or bullied for my hair, let alone been denied a job or fired. You all are strong, that's all I gotta say. Thanks for the amazing video
Thank you for trying to understand our history it means a lot ❤
This was such an interesting watch and it got me emotional. I'm white, but from a mixed Brazilian family (most of us live here in Brazil). I understood the struggles of people with curly hair going from my mom (biracial married to a white man) and every other women in her family who was born with either curly or kinky hair (especially the dark skin women, that struggle was so fucking bad and sad, I watched most of my dark skin aunties hiding their hair in one way or another). It was very evident something was weird when even my white aunties straightened it out and bleached their hair blonde to look whiter. I also was shocked when I let my own hair grow and it was called "bad hair" or "it doesn't fit you" as in it doesn't fit the color of my skin because it's curly and a bit kinkier, that happened for most of my teen years even though I'm clearly white as fuck. It was traumatizing and I remember pursuing ways to make it straight so I could fit the white stereotype until I got educated on how wrong that was. It got me emotional to hear the stories of how these things happened all over the US and it reminded me of how important it is to support black people with any choice of hairstyle they pick and what it means to them, especially black women.
I gotta say, I just clicked this video because I thought it would be shorter, but your content kept me engaged and I didn't realized it was an hour long! I live in Mexico, but your content has made me interested and has shaded new light on issues and culture of Afro-america.
Girl…. What do you think about doing a segment on black women in rock music, black women fans of rock music?
Yesss! I'd love to see her cover that, I feel like we really need to revive interest in that part of AA history.
You called? All my life. I hid it for a while bc of what was said about me but now I embrace it
@@kaylad4486 No more in the closet my dear😃😃
@@bdouglas9723 I think it is more than historical 😄
Yet another incredible video by Lexi. 🤲🏽❤️
My first defining moment was getting a relaxer at 13. My mom made me wait so long and I used to feel self-conscience about my hair because all the girls in middle school had more "grown-up" hairstyles and the last defining moment was when I cut all my hair off to rock a fashionable short style in 2010 then deciding to go natural after that.
Ooooh I love me a good history lesson. I've really been on my black history lately, I'm so glad I found your channel again (I subscribed a long time ago not I swear RUclips is unsubscribing me from channels and not sending me notifs👀)
I got my first relaxer when I was 3, too. My mom did it because she was tired of trying to figure out my hair every morning as she rushed to get me and my brother ready for school and arrive to work on time. I didn't finally stop getting relaxers until I was 18. I then started getting alternative straightening processes like Keratin treatments. I finally did the big chop just before my 21st birthday.☺️🥰 Hair was so important to my family. My mom and I went to the salon every week on Saturdays. We'd be there for hours it was like another job. I was thinking of my mom telling the story of her taking out her clip in ponytail after a long day of work. The clip was aggravating her scalp as we were headed home, and my brother and I bickering in the backseat wasn't helping. So, she grabbed it and threw it in the passenger seat. The car went silent as my brother and I stared in shock. We yelled "Mom you're wearing a wig!?!?!!!" We thought it was her real hair😂 I don't think she ever wore it again
I'm so happy to have the opportunity to watch this video. I've never wanted to ask a black woman about her hair because I figure they're tired of people talking about it and making it an issue. As a man, my 3b hair has given me a whole ass journey emotionally, but I haven't experienced nearly the scrutiny I see applied to black women.
Shout out to Nannie Helen Burroughs for her observations, timeless.
What do you think about her statement when paired with Assata Shakur’s 2nd quote?
Your going natural pics are amazing! We went through it around 2009 and it was devastating and scary! Now I’m a pro ❤❤
I love how you bring a comprehensive history to all of your videos.
This was so beautifully written and well researched, I throughly enjoyed this👏🏽👏🏽
Glad you enjoyed it!
For years I have struggled with wearing my hair out natural. I used to be so scared to wear an afro. And now I get sooo much positive compliments with my afro that it's actually encouraged me to continue wearing my afro out. I ultimately want to get locs but I'm trying to grow my hair out s certain length before I get them.
You are truly a knowledgeable and entertaining historian.
This was intense, thank you so much for this.
I love your work. I was looking for stories of black women that moved out west after slavery and I wished you could make something about it. Especially to push back from the colorism used in that forgettable western (that really didn’t need to be based on real people at all) that cast a light skinned, thin, and feminine, Zazzie Beats, to play a 6’0 tall, dark skinned, big body icon so she would be acceptable as the male character’s love interest.
For context: I studied alot of anthropology especially history, culture(mostly ancient) and I love the day to day parts of it. This is things like food, the significance/meaning is clothing/fashion, how people set up and lived in their homes or what their homes might be.
Everytime I see content on hair I am so interested in it. Hair feels like a big part of identity and history, esp for black people. It's almost like a second face for lack of better term. Clothing means something about someone but it changes far more frequently than hair does. I've always loved learning about culture and history and hair feels like it can often reflect or tell the story of those things.
Idk I jsut feel the need to express how well done this video is. It seems to be in depth in a way that people who experience and live these stories can connect with it but I'm someone who has never had any of these experiences and I don't feel lost. I feel as though I can really understand the story of the history.
I'm someone who believes it's really important to at the very least make an effort to understand others so that you can have real experiences and conversations with people bc idk like were all so incredibly complex in so many ways.
Now I'm just rambling so I'll leave it here
Ok one last thought
Ok one last thought
Trends and preferences tend to run so much deeper than we talk about
You should be a news caster. I swear…. U have the voice and flow!!!!
I've always had my natural texture bc my mom gave me the choice to get relaxer or not when I was young (her hair was relaxed). I chose not to cause some of my favorite styles (twists and braids) were only possible because my hair is curly. I also knew that I could just get it straightened if i wanted to wear it like that. I really enjoyed the diversity of my hair, and my mom took very good, consistent care of it. I did have some heat damage in early high school, but i took care of it until I could get it all cut off while retaining most of my length. I did a big chop at the beginning of 2021 (I've always wanted to cut mg hair) and it's been another learning curve as it's grown out. Taking care of mg hair takes a lot of time and dedication so I can understand why someone would chemically treat their hair. I think cutting mine really helped me to appreciate myself without my usual hair styles, and it allowed me to better understand my relationship with my hair. Now days, I usually go w my natural fro, but I still love doing small twists and braids (they just take forever 😭)
-there were times when other people hurt my feelings like when my friends told me my twists made me look like medusa, or when people call me mixed when it looks silky when its straight. Or when other kids would tell me to take out my ponytail bc they didnt believe that I could naturally have long hair. I love and know my hair and myself more than those people, so I didnt let it bother as much as it could have. Also my mom was always there to hype me up too
Having growing up as a an AFAB person (now self identifying Transmasculine person) , I had to endure years of relaxers and such. I remember I wanted to dye my hair red and was told it was too grown. If it rained on me, I let was a not only a bad hair day but a horrible day over all. The turning point for me was when it rained on me and a friend at a local Reggae festival. When I got back to her house, I was staying there for the weekend, i texted my mom asking if I could cut my hair. Of course she said hell no. But I took some scissors, went to the bathroom and chopped off my hair. I’ve been natural ever since (13 years).
Thank you for saying that. Thank you for recording and posting this.
My hairstyle hero would be an older woman at church who advised me not to relax my little girls hair. . Now hearing all the stories about the affects of hair relaxers I’m thankful for her advice. I have to say, sometimes it wasn’t easy. It seems some people just can’t refrain from commenting on a child’s natural hair. Sad part is a lot of the comments were from other Black folks who thought I should straighten her hair.
It’s obsessed with your channel. Bravo, beautiful, intelligent, articulate black woman! 🎉❤
Thank you so much for this video! I have been curious for years and here are the answers.
Loved this video so much! Would love to see a history of black beauty in skincare/makeup beauty products!
Very interesting, learned a lot as a metis woman. Keep up the great work💗💗💗
Thank you for this video. I've been natural since 1998. I had a fro until December 2021. Now, I'm loc'd and loving it. My hair has grown so much!
ever since I can remember, my mama was put in my hair in braids and have my auntie fry and lay my hair to the side. We was going to the African ladies for the quick box braids. luckily, my mama never puts a relaxer in my hair, though plenty of heat damage 😂 it wasn’t until I turned 21 that I started to wear my natural hair the way it grows out of my scalp
This was really informative and interesting. I knew some of it but this was really eye opening. Thank you for sharing and I'd love the ten hour version you mentioned on day!
Lex, can you do black women’s Nails
History of Black nails in America 😄🙏🏽
Like this if y’all agree 🥹
Hmmm… That’ll be really interesting
I went natural 10 years ago, even in 2023 older women don't see my hair as "done". I find myself still feeling like i have to "do" my hair in order to be beautiful, especially when I'm around other black women. I love my hair, but I still feel self concious when my edges aren't laid, or my braids are frizzy after 6 weeks.
I had to stop half way through because I was becoming triggered. I am mixed and pretty light skin however I have 4C hair. Don’t ask me how this happened even my own half sister (who is not mixed) has less kinky hair than me. Growing up I constantly was told I had bad hair. I heard “you’re so light. Why is your hair so kinky” as I would have my scalp demolished by “Just For Me” kids straightener. Then when I moved into high school Bullying with the kids who were darker than me was actually worse than the white kids (as an adult I no longer view it as bullying, but as a product of colonization and internalized oppression). Due to the home life I had I couldn’t handle being the “strong loner” And so to my detriment, I fit in with the white kids. Though, no one in that crowd ever told me to straighten my hair I knew that I needed to do so in order to fit in as I would constantly be told I was “too black” to date. I also have PCOS and I have often wondered if the relaxers and perms that were in my hair since the age of two have anything to do with my medical diagnosis.
This video brought a lot to the surface that I really feel needed to come up for me to heal. Ty tyvm
Just finished watching the Moon Girl episode about hair and it's got me feeling some type of way... basically I'm extra ready for this one 😂❤
My hair hero would be my own mother. I have so many memories of sitting down for hours in front of the TV as she braided my hair and I cried cuz I was tender headed. (Main reason it took hours and not 40-60minutes).
But I loved coming to school every other week with new beads and baubles on my braids and all the other little girls being so impressed and us laughing at the noise it would make when I shook my head.
I also think about when my (ex) stepmother decided she didn't like my hair and gave me a perm. Like she was almost out of a movie or something they way she fit the "evil stepmother" stereotype so well. Constantly calling me dirty, or my hair hair dirty, she was the first person in my life to ever tell me anything like that and she was a black woman! Anyway, she took it upon herself to give me a perm without telling me, she just said she wanted to do my hair. I was crying saying it burned but she just told me "no it doesnt" (she also told me I was fine when I chocked out that I couldn't breath when she was washing my hair in the sink as the water was running straight over my nose and mouth..like).
Time passes qnd I finally get home, my mom sees my hair and we're immediately back in the car driving to this woman's house, I didn't join but all I know is my mom chewed this woman out.
Sadly years later I did fall into a slight "good hair bad hair mindset" while I didn't view other black women's hair as undesirable. I thought It was pretty. I just didn't know how to manage my own and I saw all my peers with easily maintained straight hair so I started straightening my own. I'm last that now but all of that to say. I'm glad my mom never caved to society with my hair, she cared for it in its natural state and wanted me to be able to express myself however I chose.
Excellent work as always, I loved watching this. My hair heros were Scary Spice and Jill Scott. I always wanted big hair but my mom would never let me wear my hair out in public when I was a kid, always in a ponytail . I remember being picked on in school because everyone else wore straight hair and I still was the only one without a relaxer until 7th grade. Finally went natural again over 10 years ago now. I’ve had everything from short cuts to locs ! Black women have come a long way with our hair and self love and it’s beautiful to see. O and I remember those hot comb horror days fondly 😅!
I fought my hair and my hair won. I now have over 3ft of naturally formed Locs.
I took my braids out 15 yrs ago and never looked back. I don’t not miss Salons at all.
Especially all the money I was spending on my hair.
I feel so free. No more bad hair days! My Locs are everything.🥰
This was so fun and educational to watch. I never get sick of learning history about Black/ African hair and just general conversation about it. As it is important, always relevant and just yeh fun. I have locs myself and it is legit a personal journey and it's taught me how to fully embrace how my hair just grows when I leave it alone. I especially appreciate the fact that ion have to comb the knots out my hair anymore thank goodness. 😭 I also believe your hair your choice..the point is to have the power to choose wtf u wanna do with what grows out your scalp. Of course I'd rather we just ditch relaxers altogether for the benefits of our health but u win some u lose some. At least there's more research and info out there for folks to access if they wanna come to the decision to ditch em. Overall Brilliant video!!👏🏾👏🏾
I’ve been going to the same hair stylist since I was like
12. I’m 27 and she has seen me through 2 strand twists, presses and even started my locs. I love her and I would follow her anywhere!
The Carowinds mention was unexpected but funny! We used to go basically every summer.
I just wanna say I appreciate you & your videos we has a culture need this on our internet SO THANK YOU 🫂
I appreciate that
@@IntelexualMedia -💐
Thank you for your hard work and research.
As a Brazilian, it is very interesting to me how similar our colonial society, specially when it comes to topics of miscigenation and colorism, was to that of Louisiana.
It is very common for black-mixed women to explicetly wish their daughters be born with straight hair.
This video is so thorough & so good. I see you sis 👀
I loved this video! Thanks for researching and providing this for us.
Glad you enjoyed it!
This is some of the best and most important content on RUclips today. Bravo! Please keep up the excellent work!
There must be a global black hair conference. It brings identity, image, physical looks, cultural, religious, emotional, historical, and diversity discussions. As black women we need to take more control and ownership of our beings.
18:59
"Look your best. You owe it to your race."
Me: 🥺
You would think that by today we would have a greater appreciation of our hair, but our mothers and their mothers didnt even treat out hair with love. Our hair was tolerated. And of course slavery caused this harm and truly this is some shit we gotta heal from fr. I still go to salons and they act like my hair is the problem and they dont know how to comb it its so annoying. I tried to go to a "curly stylist" and I tried to book an appt and they told me that they couldnt do 4 type hair cuz it hurt their fingers im like wtf
They gave Mammy a relaxer 🤦🏽♀️
It’s the edge control for me😂… I can be natural but my edges need to be white? Come on now! I’m 52 and I just went natural 3 weeks ago… it feels so freeing.
So glad I found you! Love your videos and content ❤ Thank youuuu!!
Thank you so much for sharing this and for being so open about your own hair journey
This video was so educational and entertaining I learned a lot of new things thanks to you and it´s always nice to learn more about our hair I am definitely subscribing
Watching this when I SHOULD be detangling and washing my hair 😭🤚🏽
I've tried to tell younger folks that many of those perfect fros they saw from the 60s and 70s were actually wigs and perms. I was called a liar. I got a perm in the 70s because I told my mom I wanted a fro and my hair didn't do that.
My mother and her sisters had perfect fros, lol. I seen pictures of them and was so amazed at how beautiful women looked them in their natural state. My aunt wore her fro into the 90's. My father said in the 70's were he grew up, you got made fun of for not wearing your hair natural. I still love looking at old pictures of my mother. I truly don't care how people wear their hair. But I would love to see more natural hair styles. Nothing beats our beauty in its natural form. I love my curls. I look like a completely different person with my hair straight.
@@CandyCoated96 you'll note I said many not all.
i straightened my hair every two weeks without fail in high school but then went natural the second i graduated. i don’t quite remember what flipped the switch but i literally tried my first wash and go the week after graduation
Growing up as a South African in Germany, I used to envy my white peers for having straight hair for a while. Especially my adoptive mother's hair, since she could do all sorts of things with it - tie it back into a ponytail, put a hair clip in it and put it up in a tied-back type bun, French braids, one or two small buns, etc - and I felt like I didn't have as many options. (She tried her best to get creative with my sister's and my hair styles tho.)
Around 7th grade was the time when I stopped wanting to have straight hair - mainly because the relaxing cream that was always used for my sister's and my hair burned the scalp and even left scars on my sister's scalp - and my hair had enough time to grow out and I started wearing it out without anything in it. I've chopped it all off a couple times now, but as of right now I'll keep letting it grow.
I'm glad that I'm no longer in a love-hate relationship with my hair, no matter how often people wanted to touch it because "it feels so funny" and told me that touching it feels "like sheep's wool". Luckily I've learned to say "no". (Which took a while but now I'm there.) Luckily I'm no longer letting people touch my hair because they feel like it.
This is such a fantastic, well-researched video!! Highly informative and it's lovely to listen to you talk, this could've gone on for hours and I'd have stuck around!!
Your videos are always so full of historical information! It's great
Girl! Your videos are so tastefully done!!!
I could go on and on for DAYS about my hair stories. Goodness grscious, the hot combs, the relaxers, the years in high school of straightening my hair, my white family making fun of me, AND plenty of people at school too... sheesh mane
Thank you for this video! It is comprehensive and well done. 😊
Glad it was helpful!
48:52 THREE??? Damn 😭😮💨 you didn’t even get a chance
I just changed my hair color from many shades of red over a decade to blue. It’s Vincent van Gogh, inspired.
The best part of black existence is our hai The people!
I had a huge afro as a 5 year old and my mom(who has straighter natural hair) gave me a perm and my hair broke off and my scalp was burned badly. Im 31 now and my hair ia just starting to become healthy :')
You killed it with this video. Excellent job!!!
What an eye opening video on so many levels. I think societal perspective still has a long way to go in embracing ethnic hair. As women I think we ALL should have the option of doing our hair in any way we
choose, not what conventional society dictates.
so glad to hear lexual does the 90s is otw!
Thank you for this great video ❤
I always learned that Garrett Morgan invented the traffic light but I had no idea he was in the hair business for a minute👀
I’m from Charlotte too, I’ve gone through a lot with my hair. I started locs this year.
good luck with your journey! and thank you for watching and commenting
I put rollers in my hair overnight and the next day some girls asked me to sit with them at lunch. The next day I did not and I couldn't sit with them.
I like this so much. If you have more hair topics to explore I'd love to hear/see them.
This video was absolutely amazing !!!
There was a time I wouldn't leave the house unless my hair was 'done' aka in a weave or extensions, relaxed, I was subconsciously conforming to Eurocentric standards for years, Plus I have fine hair so i could never seem to retain length. It was only when the pandemic hit and I couldn't have access to products and shops were closed.
I asked myself what am i going to do with my hair? Lauryn Hill come on the tv, I'm going to have locs the rest is history, Ill be 3 years locd in May and I haven't looked back.
When we cant change a situation we are challenged to change ourselves Viktor E Frankl great Video
We needed a blurb about IG hairstylists and the decline of salons!
This video couldn't have come at a better time lol. My hair problems came after going to a barber who fucked up my hair. At the time, I was wearing my hair in TWAs. It was a day that had me believe in the saying that your hair, just like your body, holds onto trauma, and he completely traumatized my hair. Since then my hair never looked or felt right. It was only after going to a Loctician who knew what the hell they were doing did my hair start to heal.
This was so refreshing!
Thank you for watching ❤️
Bush Doctor is the greatest title of everything ever
Loved this! Would love a part 2
Thank you so much for this, I learned so much!
Glad it was helpful!
I rinsed and dye my hair rinse and dye my hair all colors I love ir.
Purple 💜 and crimson red ♥️ are my favorites and burnt 🧡
Thank you for this topic. very educational!!
Such an amazing, informative, yet very entertaining video!! 😊💕
As long as we allow psychological warfare control our beauty standards we will continue what is unnatural to us. The oppressors can always see how well their tactics work just by looking at us from a distance. They don't even need to really talk with us. Because we show them their success from a distance. When you can convince someone that their natural beauty is ugly they have controlled your self esteem. As long as they can control us on that level. They will be able to control us on every other level as well for the most part. ☹️