How A 17-Year-Old With Autism Sees The World
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2016
- 17-year-old Chester was diagnosed with mild autism when he was three years old. He started getting bullied in his mainstream school, then was sent to a Pathlight, an autism-focused school, but faced even more stigma from society. This is the story of a boy, his mother, and the fight to be socially accepted.
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Lam Shushan
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Sarah Yang
[sarahyang@mediacorp.com.sg]
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Chester Sim and Family
Pathlight School
Ogilvy Public Relations
National Council of Social Service
That teacher who did not allow him to go to the toilet should be reprimanded, that teacher must be taught a lesson for her wrongdoings. If you're the teacher and you're reading this, I think your ex-student and his parents deserve a sincere apology from you. And to those students who laughed at him, shame on you guys!
Jay Chow In UK she would have been sacked.
NYI YAN MOE HTET For sure, for sure, without a doubt. Yes, sacked means fired for child neglect or abuse if proven - for not allowing him to go to toilet coupled with not cleaning him when she/he must have known that he has soiled himself. The employer/school will typically inform the press that such a person no longer work in the school. Happens every time with abusive staff.
Words are not enough to describe what as a mother would have done to that teacher for humiliating my child!.
Jay Chow
Unskin the teacher 👩🏫 cook her flesh !!! Boiled the bone 🦴 and drink it don’t waste any of it!!! Grow with your fears eat it only u can over come it!!!
my teacher did the same thing to me in first grade, I just went to the nurse and called day mom to bring me a change of clothes
"I like animals, bcs they dont call with other species."
It slaps me.
Really hard.
🥺
Sadly, even in animals, lets take for example rabbits, there are forms of discrimination/ jealousy. You can search it up but basically a sloppy eared (the one that doesnt stand) bunny was isolated by other upright long eared bunnys because... of his ears. So this bunny would eat other bunny’s ears bc of his jealousy. Cause and effect. Farmers thought bunnies were being predated but didnt realise that it was the sloppy eared bunny that *was the predator* until they put up cameras for a few weeks. What a world we live in.
Edit: grammar
thats the modern world problem right there
i like animal because they don't betray. they are loyal. this is my conclusion after knowing human for 28 years.
@@Jane306 same, I am autistic and I connect better with animals than with humans
@@cassiachung1457 Species might discriminate with their own, but not with differing species. I've seen friendships form between deer and cats, dogs and elephants, ducks and fish. I think that's what the comment meant 🙂
The Teacher was just horrible, he/she didnt let chester go to thr toilet when he needed to then ignored him when he pooped his pants. Its not Violets fault, the teachers really at fault for that incident.
Fuck that terrible teacher, hope one day he/she will have a taste of the medicine
my teacher did the same thing to me in first grade, I just went to the nurse and called day mom to bring me a change of clothes
@@yourbiggestfan2593 my teacher was a ruthless man if I say I want go to toilet he slap me hard and say first ask sir may I go please many children report him to principal
@@sonamsingh7285 bruh for slapping he shd be reported and fired
@@weihongwu5077 he was in jail coz he beats girl very badly
I hope he pursues an art career, he is SO talented
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus my god your username is intimidating
Agreed. Growing up I had a buddy with aspergers and he did poorly in school and was often beat up by his folks. He could draw extremely well. During comic con, I took him and his folder and shoved his artwork before many artists to promote him to them. He gradually got to know more like minded artists and grew in confidence. Today he is a successful animator in Japan and has worked on many popular animes. It is possible.
@@DerpyFaerycan you tell me what are the anime series your friend worked on? Thanks.
He speaks so well. Better than most singaporeans
silverish2
People with autism speaks better than anyone else
It's similar to how I can barely understand slang words and phrases.
He speaks better. When he speaks it's not sounds like Singaporian English Lah!
True
Ya exactly!
Ugh I can’t stand teachers who disallow students from using the restroom. It’s even worse when the teacher says “the lecture is more important”. Honestly I can’t think of anything more dehumanizing than being denied such a basic human necessity! Especially when the restroom is right down the hall and it would only take a few minutes to get there and back!
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Teachers should allow students who are feeling that they are gonna fall asleep to stand up to let more oxygen go through the brain so that the students could be more alert.
-- one time a teacher in my school didnt let a sec 4 student go to the toilet for the whole one hour period to the point where the girl developed UTI.
I was at primary school ( aged 9) a girl asked to go to the toilet the teacher said no so she ended up being sick all over her desk :/
Cant be helped, when students use bathroom breaks as an excuse to horseplay around and do early vices outside like smoking and small time gambling with classmates
@@cassiachung1457 so wrong
His accent is so interesting, it sounds like he has an American accent but he lives in Singapore :O
Must be due to the programs he watches it's common
Probably cos he didn’t socialise with Singaporean people much as a child
most kids with autism have an accent due to their special language(English) teacher.
omg ikr
I'm French, and I study in Thailand. I have more of an American accent than most Americans.
He has great language and can advocate for himself. The teacher was horrible that didn't let him go to the restroom. You are doing great, keep up, and fight on!
... Watching this... Is like watching my ENTIRE life's story exposed.
My wife is sitting next to me saying "it's you!" or, "you JUST said that!".
I am 35 years old, with schizophrenia and mild autism.
I want Chester to know... I don't care what the rest of the world says, we are people. We're not special. We're not "off". We're not different. We. Are. People.
People who care, people who love, people who cry, people who hurt. We have difficulty dealing with "normal" situations, yes... However, we have the same issues as everyone else.... How to deal with a situation we don't feel comfortable with.
I'm probably rambling... But I've just never HEARD OF another person so damn close to me that sounds like, acts like and is bothered like me.
The birthday thing was the most powerful one... I have NEVER enjoyed the focus on the birthday person. It's just another day to me.
I'll stop now with this...
Chester... I understand.
You're not sick. He's not sick. Different ways to express oneself is not autism.
You're both just right-brain dominant folks. Being artistic and having amplified senses gave it all away. Being right-brained folks in a world dominated by left-brained ones... No wonder people get ostracized.
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This should explain what people call "autism"... Nonverbal/visual vs verbal/nonvisual processing.. This also explains why some people are left handed.
@@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 Please stop spreading pseudo-science. There's no empirical proof for the left-right brain theory.
It's sad that Singaporeans (and the world) discriminates against those who act differently solely on the basis of said difference. The same goes for those with mental illnesses as well. What people don't understand, they push back against. I'm not sure what I can do as an individual frankly, but I hope things improve over time.
He is not sick at all! That's just his character, most people always think you are sick when you do not do what they do and what they like you to do. Some people really like to be alone, do not talk much, and you will be called SICK. How about the reverse, some people like to talk too much and socialize too much . . . . they call that normal???? Why must you act the way that other people like you to act? Why can you not be just yourself???
I agree. I don't think he sick. I think he is a strong will and stubborn person. Usually when kids act up like this its because they feel sad, not enough love, or something isn't right. My son sometimes acts like this and he'll tell me he just wants to try to do it his way or be himself. My son barely talked until he was three as well. Now hes full of huge vocabularies. I would not say he has anything wrong with him. Not everyone should act or have the same personality. Sometimes I wish parents would stop trying to find something wrong with their kids. All children excel at a different rate. Just be blessed.
He is not a sick. He is a adult that wants to do and express his own way. He wanted to feel life without any control and learn from it. That is the problem of... too much in control. When you see your child ready being independent let him feel life out there and not judge his capabilities or else he will act like a child stuck in a room and doesnt want to get out or afraid to get out. I think he is smart than his parents and he is capable to see and knowing things in life than them. The problem for some parents they want to be a parent that is always right. They want to hold that power of authority while instead be just a best friend and guide not control.
Agree! Make action rather talk too much!
So true! Being an introvert i can relate
Im too an introvert. Felt alone in the world since birth. I really can relate. I think i dont know what autism is. But i dont like to talk or socialize much. And i have been bullied and acted upon differently when i was at school. Theres no wrong with chester. Or me or any one like us. Its the world that is wrong. They are just mad people who do not know what they do. Very unkind too. Anyway i like to tell you that i found peace in Buddhism. Found answers.
Angers me to hear the teacher didn’t help him after he had an accident. Chester you are so brilliant!
Agree. That's the awful part. Everyone can make a mistake. But then he or she should do the best to make up for that mistake.
i cant believe after so many years of not being in contact with Chester, my kindergarden friend, i found him through this youtube video. Im glad that you are doing well if you see this comment :,)
Tfw I never had anyone who's curious about where I am rn
Nah but I live in Manchester
@Made by 4783 we were only 4-5 years old back then .... i didnt even know what was going on. Only knew about this after watching this documentary and i was one of his closest friends according to my mom. What will i gain out of lying lol
@Made by 4783 that's too far-fetched and besides the point. If any point were to be made you'd probably disagree with it, only asking about evidence wouldn't even be enough I bet since you're more prone to believing that this person isn't in the same class as Manchester my hometown.
@Made by 4783 I live in Manchester
The way he speaks in English is so good! No heavy Singlish accent.
Probably the first Singaporean I’ve heard speak English pretty fluent. And he sounds really knowledgable too in his words. It’s almost like he studied in an international school.
And ngl, lowkey gotta crush on him 😳
he is so intelligent, can speak really well, and artistic. but even without all these wonderful talents, he's still a wonderful person. im sure he can be a successful man one day! :)
why would he not be intelligent
Ryan Fairweather haha of course he is that's why i said he was intelligent! :-)
keep highlighting how different special needs people are by constantly mentioning that they're intelligent unlike their less able peers.
Bernieisbestgril literally when did i make such a comparison😔
@@ruthngoh5734 im so sorry if i came off too strong, i read the other half of ur comment and ur right about him being wonderful no matter what ❤
Chester is eloquent, perceptive and kind. He may not see himself as special but he is definitely better than most of the teenagers his age.
He speaks very well. What he says has depth too.
Everyone: talking about his English , the teacher etc.
While me : damn this boi is pretty handsome-
SIS SAME HAHA😂
Ikr omg
Ikr omg...
as an autistic woman, i can proudly say he's one of us!
it's a fucked up world when everybody's judged by their face
Breaks my heart, that teacher failed him badly :(
My son is also autistic, he's an amazing kid
7:39 yep , that’s me next to him :) during our sec 1 days haha .
Hi everyone , my name is Caleb . Yep , to all those watching this video , thanks for your kind words and comments :)) as his close friend even up to now , I can vouch that yes , as people with aspergers , life has not been easy on us both , but still , we push on , guiding each other here and there . Hope this vid encourages us all to be autism friendly :3
Hi I am autistic aswell. Does your friend have an instagram for his art?
You guys are doing great! I am honored and proud to have been led to this video and to know Chester. I hope as an artist, he succeeds. In everything he does!
Hi caleb!! Im nicole , used to be his kindergarten friend !! Im glad to see him doing well hope you can tell him that i said hi !!
@@Niczlim hi nicole haha, sorry but i doubt thats gonna happen
My son is autistic. We homeschooled after 2 months in public school. Best decision we ever made! He is the sweetest most brilliant person I know. He was able to grow and learn at his own pace. He is wonderfully adjusted because of this.
Way to go Chester... Ur amazing . The mom is also very supportive .
Her story is my story and thousands of Parents with children with Autism,. heart touching!💕
In all honesty, I don't think I was as mature as Chester was at 17. This is one wise dude. And his mom is awesome too!
In my opinion, he had very bad teacher who didn't allow him to go to toilet, that teacher had to be fired
Holy cow the way he speaks with such intelligence and confidence. Good wishes to him.
These kind of teachers are only there for the money and definitely not displaying proper moral values nor sympathy to struggling students,may it be physically mentally or financially.They are just amplify the problem instead of giving out a helping hand.I'm sure there are a plenty of them out there,they need to be fired if they aren't passionate for what they are doing.Worst still, some even sided with the victim's bully.
This is so true of what the mom said 👉🏼 "Alot of us say yes, we accept them. But we still treat them differently."
“That’s the most wrong way to make me happy.” *EXACTLY!!* I have Asperger’s and although I’m not hardcore introverted (I do have some wonderful close and casual friends,) I need to mentally prepare ahead of time before I socialize with more than two people. My mom is hardcore extroverted and doesn’t understand my need for peace and quiet. She three me 4 surprise parties when I was a teenager, 3 for my birthday and 1 for graduation. I didn’t cry cuz I wasn’t a kid but I didn’t appreciate the surprise. I love my friends but having them all shout “SURPRISE!” at me really hurt my brain and I couldn’t fully enjoy their company for the rest of the party.
Edit: just want to clarify that every autistic person is different and Chester sounds similar but not identical to me when he was a child. For example, I was always fully verbal from 12 months old. I was also a very social child. An introverted one for sure! But introversion doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy socializing, it just means it *drains* you of energy and you need lots of alone-time to recharge.
The cutest part was the cat at the start. It’s adorable. I think it’s good to let people with disabilities have a pet to be able to emotionally communicate with.
you know this is just so saddening.. love how descriptive, artsy and eloquent he was at explaining how he feels.. im so sorry for everything that he had to went through..... if i am there.. i won't let any of those things happen.. 😢 thank God, he is doing great! I wish you well and always excel in everything you are pursuing. 💐💐🤭
''The most hurt people are the strongest people as they experience the most pain. '' This guy is so strong in so many ways. God bless him and his family.
These stories are encouraging - thanks for shAring - my son has autism as well. Much love and blessings to all.
Same, I tend to worry about the future and how people will accept my son. I know there will be struggles and I hope to overcome the obstacles as well as he and his mother has.
@@jellybelly1490 I promise both of you that there's good people out there, and i hope your kids get them on their paths💗 Sending both of you love and good vibes all the way from Dominican Republic
@@mmg8830 That is very Sweet of you, Thank you !
@@mmg8830 💖❣️💖❣️💖❣️
@@jellybelly1490 Like what Mai Tea said, for every bad person, there are a dozens, hundreds, thousands more good people. My sister is autistic, and while I've gotten mad at the disdainful treatment she got from some people, there are always good people who renewed my hope in humanity. Recently, we were shopping at a craft store and while I was picking things out, my sister was skipping around and giggling. Then, a woman came over to us and handed her a DIY craft kit and passed me the receipt, telling me "No no it's nothing, I just want to give her a gift. I've paid for it already, here's the receipt." I felt like crying at that time. So I just want to let you know that there's so much more acceptance of autistic people in this world now, and there are always good people who understand and accept them for being who they are.
When Chester said "In fact I don't think animal would call each other different species unlike us who call each other different races." Woah! (dub) That was lit!
i can empathetically understand chester's situation and his parents' situation. because i myself am also autistic, mild condition. i can talk normally like normal people and more socially active, though i still prefer alone by myself at times.
like chester's mother, it was hard for my mother to raise me up and made me become more like a normal person. it was really hard for me back then, to converse with people around me...
too painful to think back about it.
chester, even though we never met each other, i would like to tell you that you are not alone. lets strive to achieve greater heights and we will overcome our respective challenges in our lives despite our autism, jia you
He is lucky to have such a thoughtful and loving mother.
He's really talented 😊 I wish him all the best for his future 💫
Chester is a handsome boy and his art work is so exclusive.👍
Meanwhile, there's me, another person with mild autism with crap drawings.
@@zulthyr1852 I feel u bruh. I am on the spectrum as well.
@@zulthyr1852 I'm worse, trust me. I can only draw stick figures.
@@zulthyr1852 I can help you.
I hope that teacher gets to watch this.
People need to open their minds. Educate ourselves about autism. We will learn alot. Dont treat this as diabilities treat this as abilities. Dont treat people with disable treat them they are able. 😍😍😍
learn2love madness ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I get what you are saying, but we cannot ignore disabilities completely either, as we need ramps, elevators, specialized educational services, sign-language interpreters and Braille books. We need to value our diversity because it’s our greatest strength, but we also need to acknowledge that some people aren’t able to do things the standard way. It’s not a crime, just an observation.
0:03-0:07 He likes guns and Godzilla...
*Finally, a man with some taste*
My son has autism 💕🧩 this young man is awesome.
What a Smart, handsome, caring and loving young man!!
Thank God his Family git him the Help he needed!!
God bless ya'll@!😊❤
it’s just beautiful to see such amazing people shine their light on us in their own ways despite going through so much difficulty in life. may more amazing things happen to Chester, his mum and the entire family. 🤟🏼
Such an inspirational young man!! Keep being yourself, Chester!!
I just found this , what a moving and inspiring story and I'm surprised that he's so mature and speak very well. All my respect to his mom and family in taking care of him. I'm sure he's going to be okay in the future with the right guidance from the teachers , family and friends around him , stay strong and may God bless you 😘
he was my senior back then. Very nice guy, always afraid to approach him cause he seemed like really cool back then. yeah
He behaves and speaks better than most Singaporean kids his age. He is indeed blessed to have very supportive parents who care so much about his well being and future. It's a fact that autistic kids truly love their parents til death. They are the true definition of Superparents who struggle to take care of their autistic child and it's not easy being in their shoes. Great job what they have done to help him succeed in his life. I wish him all the best and that he'll make his parents very proud of him which he already has.
The love and bond between Chester and his mother is so precious :)
This was so loving to see. Being a teacher, I see this a thousand times over, parents choosing mainstream over fear. But as you can see, it can be debilitating for the child. I loved seeing this child thrive, thank you for this video!
Best wishes to this family and those alike.
Hi chester! I am a sped teacher here in the phils. This video is inspirational. I hope and pray my learners will flourish like you did as well. Thank God clicked on this vid. 😊
Chester you're such an incredible, artistic person. Way to go man👏👏👏🙏
This is such a very touching docu about asd. I am a mom of 2 kids on the spectrum and I wish them all the best! Thank you so much for sharing your Autism journey.
This has been so helpful, thankyou for sharing
Sending love to Chester and his mom ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hugs to Chester and his Mom.
This was beautiful. It gives me so much hope for my son. Thank you for sharing your experience.
A actually good documentary. I wish something like this done about depression
Chester is awesome. Smart, well spoken, adorable and artistic.
Chester you are a bright young dude! God blessed you and your mom. Mummy is so awesome
I hope Chester sees all these positive and encouraging comments 😀 thanks for sharing
Im so happy to have come across this.. My hopes for my recentñy diagnosed boy just went so high I have justifications to hope high for him, just like any other parent hopes for their child.
Chester, your descriptions of your life are so helpful and an important teaching tool. You are a wonderful, gifted and beautiful young man and I can tell how proud your Mom is for you.
As Autistic Parents we start from nothing and we do our very best to learn along with our child(ren). We make mistakes along the way, that's a given, but we also realize that we are the ones blessed. ❤
He's so handsome, talented and eloquent! I'm as far as I know not autistic, yet I struggle with words sometimes, and he expresses himself so well, not only with art but also with words... I'm stunned.
I feel so sad for the boy and his mum whose trying to help. The teachers need to learn empathy and how to help students.
I think you are awesome mom. ❤ And Chester, well spoken, kind and lovely gentleman.
Thank you for Chester and his family for being a light at the end of a tunnel, for sharing their story. I am a teacher in a public school here in the Philippines. We have students who are like Chester and other students as well who can only read our lips when we teach. But parents insist that their children be part of the mainstream. Though we are blessed with a majority of understanding students but coping with the curriculum, socializing and our (teachers') inability to accommodate to these students prove to be both a challenge from both ends.. Hopefully the level of awareness eventually increases so that children/young adults like Chester be eventually fully understood and accepted in society no matter what.
thank you for giving us hope ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Chester. I needed this.
Watching this 6 years after this video is posted, this family is happier and coping well 🧡
LOVE THE EPILOGUE 💐💐💐
You are so adorable Chester.You inspires many of us 😀
This video made me cry because it’s so kind
You're right Chester. There's no definition of normal. Be yourself now that you've discovered what you can achieve, so much more. All the best. Be stronger, Chester's mum.
Wow! It is so inspiring to watch how he blossom.. cherish and embrace the quirkiness that come with Autism. My son didn't say full sentences til around 5. He aslo struggled with making friends under we moved him to another schools. It is important for parents to educate themselves and their children about Autism.
The love they share is undescribable but oh so beautiful
She’s such an awesome mom
He and his mother spoke very well even better than most Singaporeans in general and the family was lucky to have this kind-hearted young man.
We are very proud of your family and may God always protect and bless you and your family abundantlly
Lots of love from Indonesia ❤
My 6 yr old girl is diagnosed with very mild autism.. Chester's example is so motivating to learn more about my kid ..Lot's of love
Chester, you’ve grown up so well.
he speaks so well, very bright and intelligent person. he can definitely pursue an art career. ❤️❤️
God bless you Chester and your mom! 🥰
Thank you for sharing your story. The greatest thing you can do is go on living your life pursuing your passions. Bless you and your beautiful soul and unique mind
Bless his mum she just wanted what was best for him
I can so identify with the Mum, especially in respect of the teacher. My son is 34 now. Not married and in no relationship. Now beginning to feel accepted in the world. I love my son so much.
Wow, what he said at the end xo. God bless momand family
That's actually a very nice drawing!!
EDIT: ITS BETTER THAN MINE
the way he thinks is better than the one who we so called normal.
love u chester ur amazing thank u for sharing your story
Listening to the kid.. amazing!
wow this is so inspiring
Chester, teacher not understanding a person did not only happen to you. That can happen to everyone, I can tell you that. Sometimes the stories my son has are bad. It is true what your mum said, you can not do anything, you have to learn to be resilient and handle these things.
In terms of psychological issues Singapore is still ages behind the West. Anyway, it is 4 years later now. I am glad that you found the right way for you, and I hope that you are a really happy person now. We need more of such videos to let people see.
My older son has autism & we say people with autism are gifted than others because they can focus 100% on what they are doing without distractions. If most of us can have & understand the gift of mind & capabilities People with autism have, things will be better. I try to see & look @ things through his eyes. Goodluck man, you got this. Your parents, especially your Mom did well by you👌😍🙏
he should become an artist and make stories and stuff :O hes good!
I’m an English teacher and watch lots of videos from this channel. Of course the Singaporean accent and dialect is just as good as any other but… from an international perspective Chester speaks more clearly, including in terms of intonation, than anyone else I have ever seen here. Really impressive.
I am angry with that teacher for not allowing him to go and had to suffer such humiliation of wearing his dirty pants. If I were the mother I would have confronted the teacher and report her/him. If that teacher by chance saw this, SHAME on you!!!!
.... no definition of normal - these are words of wisdom, so powerful 💪
That’s messed up how those kids treated him. He’s honestly a cool dude.
Amazing mini movie. I am autistic as well but, Im not the same as he is, I wasnt bullied as much but there were people that strongly hated me at school. Im currently 17 and getthing through high school, and my interests are gaming and musicianship.
Hello do you need help with the cure
Even teachers are human, the issue is will they realize they are wrong and change. I pity Chester because he had it tough. I hope things improve for him and his mum. Stay strong