My Fiancée and I Don't Agree On The Wedding Budget!
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- My Fiancée and I Don't Agree On The Wedding Budget!
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If you have a $1500 budget for a wedding dress, don't try on $3000 dresses.
Right?!
You would think that would be the most common sense thing to do lol
For a dress you wear only one time? Crazy.
I didn't try a dress over $800, and they were all nice. You don't accidentally try on expensive dresses when you give the consultant a budget and especially if you confirm price before trying them on!
Maybe that once used $3000 dress for $799 ;)
The Wedding lasts a day, the Marriage lasts a lifetime. Be Wise
Thank you. I have saying this forever. Weddings are unbelievably overrated
Exactly. People waste too much money on a 5 hour party as if it promises a long lasting happy marriage 🤦🏻♀️
@@SummeRain783 Hideous waste of money, that could be used as a down-payment on a home.
Go to “Barely Used Wedding Dresses”and buy or rent one.
Or lasts a couple years lol and poorer
Dude, I’m telling you. My husband and I spent almost 20k on a wedding which we cash flowed. My parents spent another 5k, if I could go back and spend 1/2, I would. Don’t do it. Agree on a final number. Life is so much more than a wedding. It’s 1 day! You have your whole life to live.
I would much rather spend 5k at a wedding and keep that other 5k for the honeymoon!
@@LaniakeaLeathercrafts 6/26/21....Or for CUSHION/MINIMUM BALANCE in new MARRIED COUPLE SAVINGS ACCOUNT.
For EMERGENCY---or down pmt on a house---or beginning RETIREMENT account.....
@@LaniakeaLeathercrafts agreed!
I have heard so many say this! The ones getting married rarely think about it.
I have to ask how many people came to your wedding? 😄🤔
Not sticking to this gigantic budget sets the tone for the marriage. She needs to grow up and be a responsible adult.
Seriously. Don’t try on a dress that’s outta your price range!
I think wedding is up there on the top 10 ways people get burried into debt.
Yup, both ends, the wedding itself and the inevitable divorce. Very expensive indeed.
Divorce doesn't create debt. It may divide it and create debt down the road w life style sacrifice
@@Dan16673 a lot of people get into serious financial issues during / after divorce proceedings, especially if it gets "mean". Lawyers love that kind of stuff.
So is being bent over with your wife
@@darex0827 Divorce is not inevitable lol
Don't be fooled. She knows the price range of dresses. The problem is her wanting to impress other people who at the end of the day don't matter.
Exactly what it sounds like.
Big red flag. Imagine when they budget for a home or car.
pull up pull up pull up
Ohh our budget is 200k but THIS perfect house is 275
Exactly. Everything will be an exception: a house you live in, grad school that will impact the rest of life, a baby will be a one time event so raise him/her like the sky is the limit, etc.
Dont ever go into debt. Especially for a wedding party
Groom: "We agreed on a $10k budget." Bride: "That's a good starting point." LOL
If you buy something and it brings more stress into your life you’re doing it wrong.
100000% facts!
True!!
Her being in debt with free school is a sign of her spending habits. He should be the leader here and if she doesn't agree, kick her to the curb.
I picked up on that too: what did she spend that student loan money on? (Maybe rent, maybe partying; we just don't know.)
Completely agree… adios
My thoughts exactly.
Maybe not kick her to the curb right away but they DEFINITELY need to be equally committed to financial peace.
If they have a budget for the dress, why on earth would she try on something that exceeds the budget? He should not marry this princess.
It’s her wedding day. She is supposed to be a princess on that day. It’s a once in a life time event. It’s not the time to penny pinch.
@@johnmartin4641 A 10k budget for a wedding if not penny pinching. No one should go into debt for a wedding. And why is she going back on her word? She agreed to the budget. There are plenty of good dresses in the 700-1000 range.
@@johnmartin4641 Although, if they only make a nickel, might be wise to pinch a penny. They set a budget for a reason...
@@nls8520 if he’s not financially stable, he shouldn’t be getting married.
@@johnmartin4641 Being stable does not mean being frivilous spending on a single fantasy day. Normal people.set.a budget, its not penny pinching at all actually, not everyone is wealthy. Rather than insane spending on his little princesses big day, being stable indicates he would want to save for their future and retirement...
Weddings are a huge business marking opportunity for people to just waste money on a few hours of your day. Don’t believe the lies and dreams the wedding industry is trying to sell you to get you to buy that thousands of dollars worth of dress. Buying a more expensive dress won’t save your marriage lol. Focus on the bigger picture
Fact, the price of your wedding dress won’t save the marriage. I wonder if she cares how much he is spending on his suit.
They’re in trouble if she spends 30-40% of the budget on the dress, unless it’s a small family gathering. Also beware that the tailoring can cost almost as much as the dress itself!
My daughter got married recently. The dress was "only" $900, but the tailoring was $800.
I would have thought tailoring is free with a dress purchase. It is in suits.
@@reykennedy5716 Not with wedding dresses. The tailoring is typically much more extensive. They often disassemble the dress and resew it. My daughter had three fittings. The dress did end up fitting her perfectly.
And the veil and the jewelry ......
This cracks me up, in the dress store, I told the assistant don't bring me anything more expensive than $200. Guess what they didn't bring me any $3k dresses. Why sign yourself up for dissappointment? LOL
My wife spent $200 on her wedding dress. We spent less than $2000 on the entire wedding lol
Including the rings??? Or without the ring prices added in
Same here, but spend even less. I was always more concerned whats in the dress.
@@MulataLinda8 sorry. without the rings. I didn’t count those because we bought hers like a year before For like $1400 and my ring was like $99 lol
@@MansterBear what kind of ring was yours for $99? Was it tungsten
Mine is very expensive... 😭😭😭 I told my fiancee please shop around before u buy that price
And it was probably the same fun and excitement as a 50k wedding?
As soon as he said he was debt free and she wasn’t you knew where this was headed
He is also working full-time and she's in school.
Hold off on the wedding, wait until she graduates, she gets a job and pays for the extra needed for the wedding. Mom is getting free education, I bet she is living at home,how does she rack up debt???
Why would she be living at home just because she has free tuition
@@blackbutterfly233ify Because thats how you do it today or she is living with him.
If they have the venue and reception they can't hold off or else they gonna be paying some fees
THIS is the Dave vibe 😊
Whatever you pay for a wedding dress it will not be worn more than a few hours! Whatever your fiancée does before you marry will be magnified afterwards. Undermining an agreement in one area could well lead to division in the future.
Amen @Deb Fryer!
I spent $27 on my wedding dress and I still got a lot of compliments on it.
My wife’s wedding dress was $300 and she looked amazing in it. And I honestly wouldn’t know the difference between a $300 dress and a $3000 dress
My wife and I got married at the court house and same day took a honeymoon trip to Maui and spent the money on us. Best $35 I’ve ever spent
Same here Dee. congrats.
My husband and I did the same. $50 for court fees and done. No regrets.
2nd marriage?
@@jacobo9611 First
@@kelleep535 Congrats , smart move , i dont see justyfication to spend ten of thousends for party ,than live in death for years.
As a bridal consultant I will say there are very expensive gowns out there but the shop I work at we have over 100 gowns around 1k-$1,500 and we have a good amount under 1k. We never pull over a brides budget unless she is adamant about trying something over on. TV shows really give a unrealistic price you don’t need to break the bank to have your dream dress friends
I think they're not taking into account EVERYTHING else. I would actually just do courthouse and worry about honeymoon/party later
What websites do you recommend for wedding dress shopping, please? I'm looking, and I'm weary of JJ HOUSE.
Statistics show those who do not spend lavishly on a wedding have a happier marriage then those who go all out… Budget! Budget! Budget!
very true
Same goes for ring size/price
I spent a lot of money on the wedding and reception to only have people nitpick my choice of colors, brides maid dress, food, but drink all my alcohol. It's money wasted to impress people which some are there just to criticize. It's best to put the money towards the honeymoon or home purchase. 🤔
I was overjoyed to get married in a $100 wedding dress. AO is 100% right.
Wise lady. My sister bought her wedding dress for $100 and I made her double-tiered veil with tiara, pearls, and rhinestones for less than $50 and no one can tell me that she didn't look gorgeous!
AO 6:12 "but you can go on Amazon and get a dress for $500" haha right there with you my guy
A budget is a budget. NO COMPROMISES 🙅🏿♂️
Who actually set the budget, though?
He's nickle and diming her.
Here’s $1000 cash, that’s all she getd
@@maryann7619 He’s paying for the entire thing she’s no contributing any money she’s in school with no income, and he offered to spend 10K if you can’t have a nice wedding for 10k your to materialistic.
@@maryann7619 Nickle and diming her, on a wedding he’s paying for? On the budget she agreed to? Yea ok.
My dress cost $199.95 from David's Bridal sales rack.
here's an idea. When you go into the store, tell them what your budget is. This is crazy to get all upset over something that "might" happen. If you can spend $2k...tell them you only want to see dresses in the budget. Welcome to life and a budget.
Same strategy for a car, a house, entertainment, decorating..........
Sounds like he’s paying for the whole wedding and she’s not paying anything. That’s why he’s iffy on the budget and she’s not bothered a all about the cost. If it was coming out of her pocket then she’d be more cautious of how much is being spent
and that's the wrong way to think because once they are married her money and his are one, separate account or not, only people who get a pass on thinking like that is children
Traditionally the groom/his family is supposed to pay for the honeymoon and family luncheon; the bride/her family is supposed to cover her dress, the wedding, reception, etc,..
Sorry Dorothy - it's not 1973 in Kansas anymore, lol@@lovetobe6118
She will wear the dress once, you can find a fashisonable decent wedding dress for 500-700 and personalize it for extra 300. Put the money towards the honeymoon.
I like your thinking
Historically Women were buried in their wedding dresses, the vail became a shroud.
You wear it twice.
I even found a beautiful one at the Salvation Army for $120; my “dream dress” but still had attributes to it that I wanted and is pretty much in brand new shape, so I’m not complaining one bit!
@@gretaeder5996 your still $90 over budget,.,, jk good job
@@jacobo9611 I should sell the car then right? Serve rice and beans and beans and rice at my wedding too?
😆😆
Average cost of wedding: $50K
Average cost of divorce: 50%
Lie. Avg wedding is in the $20k range
I went to a small private store. I found a $200 wedding dress, embellished it.
I never got married because the guy was a con artist.
I totally agree with Anthony on this, if you send her out without financial paramiters she will come home with a $8000 or more dress. Got to have a range to stay in.
Perhaps the groom needs to suggest that the car budget is not enough because he has fallen in love with the idea of a 'once in a lifetime' sports car to arrive at the ceremony. See her reaction.
You set a price and the store will find a dress for her in that budget. Wedding dress shopping is like house shopping. The store will not show you a dress outside of your budget.
Yes they will....they sneak a beautiful one in there and say "oh just try it on".
@@Casinogirl56 that's a stupid sales person. If you show a house they don't qualify for you don't make the deal. If you show a dress out of budget you run the risk of not making the sale. Stupid sales person.
As someone married for 12 years, that ending was PERFECT.
Back in my day (insert eyeroll), people got married in a backyard with simple Laura Ashley-type dresses. Casual was in. I don’t know what the heck happened! Probably the influence of reality TV and social media.
People lost common sense
I'm trying to figure this out myself and I'm a young guy. When did weddings start costing 10k as a starting price?! This is crazy to me.
Back in my day, Some got married so they wouldn't have live in the barracks! Oh! and get "extra dependent pay" too!
It is all endless marketing and advertising, and then conditioning from birth in the USA to have a big wedding, making it "the bride's day". We act like diamond engagement rings have been a "forever tradition"....nope, started being a thing in the early 1950s with the most hated male slogan; "A diamond is forever" . SMH.
Imagine if a man was this immature about budgeting for a day’s event
Guys nowadays are just supposed to “man up” and do whatever to please their woman. Notice there’s no such thing as “happy husband, happy life”!
Pig Roast for my future lady, all you can eat, lol
That's why she is in debt, spending money she doesn't have. That man should run away
or ... ORRRRRRR shes being careless and selfish by worrying that 1/2 thier wedding budget of 10k wont cover her "Need to feel special"
@@Howdy762 Major Simp.
My husband and I set a budget of $600. I made my dress, had a sheet cake, reception at church meant no alcohol. Still happily married decades later.
If a woman started acting like this about the wedding, she’d become my ex real quick lol
Tell her that she can have the more expensive dress but then everyone gets served dog food.
We were broke, we did the cooking and my mother-in-law to be heated it up and ran the buffet line. Our friend was the photographer. I was the DJ. We had the reception in a free public hall. All in all, our wedding cost under $2k. We have been married over 25 years, own our house, have 5 cars and travel the world. How much you spend on your wedding has NOTHING to do with how successful your marriage will be.
I came her for a simp answer and I wasn't disappointed
😂
You mean the Ramsey answer? Like the millennial dating scene is not a dumpster 🔥.
Should anyone be surprised that the Simp Ramsey Show gave a major simp response? Nope. It's pathetic how beta these girl hosts are.
She is proving that she will never follow a budget.
Run Forest run!
My wedding dress was $500 and it was gorgeous 😂
STAY ENGAGED LONGER until you figure out your money issues...SHE NEEDS TO FOLLOW THE BUDGET AS A FIANCE AND ESPECIALLY AS A WIFE!!! COMPROMISING ON A BUDGET IS NEVER EVER A GOOD IDEA 👎👎👎BAD START.
Is she really the right woman for him? As per DR, money problems/ money fights is among the leading causes of divorce.
3k for a wedding dress should be wayyyy more than enough. Just make the budget at 3k.
Good advice, and how many millions is your worth?
Haha nice
AO: “You’re gonna spend five to six thousand dollars and you’re only gonna wear it one day.”
Preach brother!!! 🗣 🗣
I bought my dream drss off the clearence rack at a dress shop. The original price was over $2000 and I got it for 750. You have to bargain shop and you can save so much. Even at the major houses they all have clearence sections.
She’s already tried on dresses and has a $3000 dress already picked out...
I don't even need to watch this to know SHE wants to spend more than HE does, amirite?
Wonder what kind of car he drives, or how many must have electronic toys.
@@maryann7619 - yes, he could be a big fool too, but two fools do not make a sage.
@@maryann7619 Probably has more than a 1-day use to them though
We had a Zoom wedding during the pandemic. Saved so much money. Less than 10 people present total but a couple hundred tuned in watching.
Let her pay for the dress, problem solved.
There are really nice dresses on Etsy for $500. Lots of ways to economize on a wedding.
Less is more. Don’t buy the lie that you have to spend a fortune for a nice wedding.
$10k is not a fortune, especially how expensive weddings are now.
DONT DO IT!!!!!!
Only sain advice on this chat!!
Growing up as a kid of a broken marriage, I've had a practical view about the wedding day.
Court house wedding in a white cocktail dress that I can rewear on an ordinary dinner. Humble home feast for immediate family & closest friends. Then allot majority of the budget to the honeymoon trip.
I never understood but regularly surprised by brides & grooms who want a big & showy wedding. The "bigness" is no guarantee to a happy & healthy married life.
They show you dresses according to your budget. Don't go looking without a budget. This is not men's wear. Also my daughter got a $3k dress for $80 at Good Will. It just need to be dry cleaned and was amazing.
I feel for the guy, but "I am on the same page and she is not on the same page" is a grammatical impossibility. Whose page is it? Mine, hers or ours?
Why can’t people understand what a big waste of money weddings are
Anyone that can’t be bothered to give their wife/girlfriend/fiancé one special day doesn’t deserve to be married or in a relationship. Don’t be a cheapskate when it comes to your wife/girlfriend/fiancé.
@@johnmartin4641 simp again
@@johnmartin4641 BETA MALE!
Hahha I am in the same ballpark as Anthony! My wife and I managed to keep our wedding to just under 5k. Prioritized investments and putting 20% down on our first mortgage. That’s just us. You need to have a game plan as the man. Then she will follow lead. This is what I did. If she wants to splurge on a certain item such as the dress or the food or the music. You agree that y’all only have one item to splurge on. Choose wisely. My wife chose the dress and we had family make the food and a dj. You can do it wisely. Don’t need to spend an arm and a leg to have a nice wedding
Not every woman follows his good lead. Not every man is making good decisions worth following. Before marriage is a good time to determine both.
@@Sir_Viver as the man it is up to you to maintain frame and ensure she feels secure enough to trust your lead. Can’t expect a woman to submit. You need to prove worthy of leadership
@@anthonylozano8035 notice I said "good" lead. There are women who rebel against men simply because they are men. I've seen it firsthand. How it was intended to be is different than how it is.
@@Sir_Viver of course. That’s because modern day “womanism” tells them to. Find one that doesn’t ascribe to that b.s.
If she has a debt free education, why all the CCard debt?
My wife had her dress handmade in the Philippines for about $700 and that's the rushed price. Done in five or so days. We even watching them working on it. It was probably the most expensive and nicest one in any of the shops in Cebu. About a 10ft train, extremely detailed. Most of the dresses there are about 100-200 dollars equivalently and equal about a 1-3,000 dollar dress in the US. Hers I can only guess is about a 10-15,000+ dollar dress. That was a huge savings.
The dress is the most important part of the wedding huh .. lol good luck boys and girls , you only live once.
You only try on a dress within your budget. Don't try on one above your budget and you can't fall in love with it! Easy😊
Never understood why people finance tens of thousands of dollars for a party.
Same here.
If I have a $20,000s for a car, I don’t go test drive $40,000 vehicles…..no matter how much I like them.
Renting a nice wedding dress could be an option.
Alterations on my dress were over $1,000. This is common, but no one tells you that. But once you buy a dress, you are not allowed to return them in most shops. So... If you buy a dress exactly in the budget, you are over budget!
Anthony is really good at dissecting a person's questions.
This is WHY AO IS STILL SINGLE!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
And rich with loving family and friends. Sounds like a great life to me !
Stop being a beta and let her walk all over you. A budget is a budget, if she wants to spend more tell her to graduate and get a job.
Me and my boyfriend are just planning to get married on the city hall with no ceremony even though we have some money I'd rather use the wedding money on other things
Use percentages to help. Set your budget, and the dress shouldn't exceed 10%.
This was so insightful! Yo I would be thankful for any amount I would get for a dress that a blessing! Getting married is blessing in and of itself !!
IMO the dress is not the problem, there will be other financial issues down the road. This is only a symptom of a root problem she has. She may have the dress she wants but trust me there will be other disagreements relating to money down the road..its her mindset
In certain cultures a $10k budget for a wedding would be an embarrassment.
In certain cultures it's acceptable to s in the street.
in those cultures the parents pay for the wedding not the groom
@@reesercliff not at all. My wife and I paid over $50k for our wedding.
AO is right! If it's over budget, don't try it on. Tell the saleslady what you like about the dress and what your budget is!
Anthony is RIGHT! And if she has a budget before shopping then she just won't even try on anything above budget.
Weddings are a planned event, no need to go into debt, but don’t cheap out on it either. Plan accordingly and if you need more in your budget, save a little longer.
I would love to hear her side . Something tells me she would have more information to offer that would be really helpful. This guy said they already have the venue and catering picked out. So obviously the budget is dwindling.
I'm not sure I believe that she would try on wedding dresses have to put them over a budget either she's already tried on some more expensive dresses or something. I don't see how this could always ready because the argument if she hasn't even tried on a wedding dress yet
You guys need to watch "Say yes to the Dress". Don't talk about dresses until you've been shopping for one. Before you all jump on me, my mom and I made mine so I know frugal. LOL.
Decide your budget before shopping for a dress, and then don't try anything on beyond that budget. Apparently, Ken hasn't watched Say Yes to the Dress. :)
Mine in the day $160.00 plus alterations. A NEW magazine dress. Got in 3 months start to finish!
My fiance, he set a budget of 10k to buy me a diamond ring for our engagement.
But I ended up taking him to an Asian jewelry stores and got a ring for $450. And I feel happy. I also told him, I dont want to spend $$ for a wedding party. I dont need it. I want to spend $$ for 3 weeks of honeymoon.
The dress is the thing to shop smart on surely...?
His attitude is all about him making room in the budget. Is he the only one in the financial plan for this?
We were married overseas, we had no money for the wedding and my Dad sent us £200
We managed to pay for everything that was necessary.
My wedding dress cost £25
That's because it's a marriage for one and a day for another
Some people use the wedding to compensate for something else lacking; e.g., a statement/validation for friends .
I wouldn't give her a extra 1000 its just a dress.. sweet heart... focus less on the wedding and more on being a good wife one that bring light into the marriage... Not darkness debt... you should never go out trying to spend the whole budget. When your worries are on dresses and money budgets.. you might want to ask yourself iam i truly ready to be married. I can't even keep my money right...
This is a sign of things to come.. pack up your toothbrush and run.
Love when Anthony is on!
I agree with Anthony on this 100%. Try on dresses only within your budget. The shops are going to intentionally show you options so you can spend that extra money. I went over by a couple of hundred bucks but then had to go back to my original budget and cut that amount of money somewhere else. Flowers, accessories, etc. It's just one day and I love that we didn't over do it.
Good advice. Let her decide how she wants to shuffle the money
She afraid he’s to strict on the budget. Just wait until marriage, then real life comes in. $$$$$$$
His allowing her to spend X amount ona wedding dress!?!? she's not a child. They BOTH should agree on the price
3k on a dress to wear once? Not happening unless I have 30k or more in DISPOSABLE cash laying around.
Anthony is correct. You dont go dress shopping without at least an approximate budget.