@@sofiay5470 Then it's extremely important is that you show no feelings or emotions to them. Keep it professional, even if they might not be. The feedback and interactions should be factual, based on clear facts and not on feelings. If your boss is being passive-aggressive then this person is toxic and you need to get out of there as soon as you can!
@@sofiay5470 thats what I have received from my supervisor. Latest feedback, told me my colleagues complained i always late during shift changes. Then I have asked all my colleagues in team and said, he is lair because no one complained to him.
I understand that negative feedback is necessary for employees to grow & learn. Seems like some days the supervisor is only pointing out negative feedback while overlooking the positive. No balance.
I completely agree with you. Which is why these tips are given for employees with a healthy working relationships with their managers. I made a few videos on how to handle toxic management and the approach is really different when your boss constantly micromanages and belittles.
Thank you so much for the feedback! I am really glad you noticed that phrase, sometimes we get dragged down by negative feedback at work and we completely forget that it doesn't change who we are as a human being.
I don’t mind constructive criticism, and would rather know I am doing something wrong. However, if it’s all negative and putting you down I don’t like that and makes you feel worthless
I've been working for 14 years and I have received my first negative yearly performance feedback. Hence why I landed here. Will follow these tips, thank you.
I received enough criticism until finally I decided to quit my job, I did not quit yet, but I am planning to soon but I am scouting for new better jobs first. The only advantage of excessive criticisms is that it makes you review and reevaluate your whole job as a concept, not your performance but your job itself can contain a lot of flaws but you did not notice them because you were too comfortable to see them. Life is hard and tricky.
You are absolutely right. If you decided to leave, this isn't due to a flaw related to your performance, it is due to your job being a place you don't belong to. The sooner you realize it, the better.
In this video I was referring to dealing with feedback which is constructive. The feedback which isn't constructive, and which is given you by someone who clearly doesn't want it to be helpful, should be taken completely differently. Is your boss that is giving you hard times?
EMMOTION by Marat My Boss is supportive but I am working with five consultants in a clinic and they are not happy about my performance and some of them want to transfer me to another section. I am scouting for ways to escape my job to another, do you agree?
@@Hossam_1993 Having a boss who is supportive is actually a huge plus at any role. How long have you been working there for? Are you happy with the job itself? Do you think these consultants are right about your performance? If you feel that they are right and that you might need to work harder in certain areas or to learn something new, etc.; then escaping to another job is not a solution. Some colleagues can be negative to newbies at work due to many reasons, these issues are usually temporary and tend to fade away. If the job itself is not making you happy then that is another story!
EMMOTION by Marat These consultants are kinda right since I am easily distracted, but some of the flaws they pointed at were overrated. Like when they said those staff who arrived after me are far better than me without comparison!! I could not correlate it with reality since two of them were learning from me. The fact that they are taking bad impression is a red flag to me since impressions are hard to change. In addition, in my job I dont feel like a decision maker, instead a decision follower. I only follow orders and policies of the superiors which means there is no creativity in what I do. I want a job that gives me meaningful presence, I feel like a slave. By the way do you do Skype session? I am interested in talking to you.
Of course! Constant negative feedback should ring the alarm, because things are clearly not working out well. Occasional negative constructive feedback helps us grow!
Thank you very much, Doris! I am also happy to see you :) Negative feedback from a manager is quite impossible to ignore though. Have a great day my dear friend! :)
What really unsettles people in the workplace is restructuring. I had an enhanced role, which meant I did extra duty’s and tasks. Now, I am old this doesn’t apply anymore, I feel quite upset and hurt. Just shows, experience doesn’t mean much
I am really sorry you are going through that. It's something that we don't usually notice until it is directly related to us. The majority of companies do their best to make employees drive the company through the tough times, but it is never the other way around. Once the restructuring takes place, the employees who overworked and who gave so much to the company can be easily let go. Which is why it's important to keep our own priorities in mind. Do you feel your job is in danger?
I just landed here after my supervisor said something about my manuscript. I hope i can outgrow the bad feeling that comes with the negative feedback. Also what things can someone do to make themselves feel better while handling the feedback.
This video should relate to a place with a healthy working environment, where the management wants you to grow together with the company. Which is why it is really important to handle negative feedback and turn it into something benefitial.
that's exactly what I'm going through. my first couple months I was a star worker and went above and beyond. I was very open about promotion and I did all I could to try and get there then they bs and lie to me giving me the run around and now I slow down so I constantly catch heat but idc cause as soon as something else comes along, I'm gone with the wind. sometimes working hard does nothing but get you taken advantage of
@@애다 luckily i got out and landed an office job in a warehouse. long hours but it pays my bills. it been almost 2 years now and i got 2 raises since i started. due to inflation i’m gonna ask for more when my next anniversary comes up
What happens if your supervisor is playing games with you on a daily basis? Root cause... he feels that his job security is being threatened by your prescence. Making you go around in loops in the workplace and then judging you for time management when you have actually delivered inspite of the extra work.
I do not fully understand what to do with the emotions that trigger after the negative rude tone feedback case. Do I really need to say "thank you" through clenched teeth and lie to myself and to the interlocutor?
As long as you receive feedback which is constructive, say "thank you" and apply whatever the feedback is to your day to day. Showing that you don't like the tone or getting defensive will always go against you, believe me. If your manager is a complicated person to deal with, then you need an exit strategy, because no matter what you will do, they will always be giving you an emotionally draining feedback.
What if manager is supporting the person who has given false negative feedback? How to deal with those false negative feedback? And if we become defensive, it will seems like we're making big issues. How to deal in such situation?
Had the same. Its hard to deal with. But I asked the collegue to clarify more. Why u feels so, but also to check if we have to take another careful aproach with them in future.
So this was nothing official by any means, but a group of friends and I made our own company of sorts where we were leaders in the organization, and I noticed I followed every piece of advice given, but still didn't get respect from them. It seemed like once they got some form of power over everyone else, they started turning into the bad bosses we tried to get away from, and put all blame on a few people, including me. This a common thing?
It's quite curious you are mentioning this. Somehow a lot of people fall into this "corporate trap" once they get an access to power. They start getting less empathic and some become completely indifferent towards "hurting" the rest to achieve their own goals. Have you ever noticed their similar behaviour prior to this experience?
@@myemmotion In small burst, yes, but when it came to one or two individuals that would cause issues, they would never budge on fixing an issue/possible solutions. Doesn't matter much at this point, but I guess I'm just looking for clarity on how to go about these situations.
@@Robpguitar21 If you've seen such toxic traits before, now it's become a lot more visible due to circumstances. I hope you manage to work it out, unless you see it clearly that their attitude wouldn't change. In such case, it's better have as little contact with them as possible. Even if it means for you to leave this company built with your contribution.
So, I have done pretty much every step you mentioned in your video, but seems like it isn’t enough. I am getting frustrated. I am a sever and I know it’s different then other jobs giving you feedback, but at the end of the day it’s feedback. 🥴
I am sorry to hear that. What kind of feedback have you received from your manager? Do you have other team members that feel the same way? Maybe it's your boss who is the difficult one?
@@myemmotion everyone says that I’m doing a great job except the GM. Every week we get the ratings and every week I get horrible reviews. I observed coworkers with the highest scores and see if I can learn something, but no. I do the exactly same thing and honestly didn’t know what else to do. I have worked with the GM, but seems like when we work the same schedule almost everything goes wrong for me. I do everything it’s expected of me. I’m the first one to come in for my shift and the last one to go. Always have a very positive attitude, but nothing seems to work. During training they focus on sanitation and safety which obviously it’s great to learn all that to have a safe work environment for staff and guests, but there’s a whole a lot that you don’t go completely thorough or at all. When the GM is there and I ask a question when I’m not sure how to proceed the reply I get is “Didn’t you go through training?”. And just go and fix it and really don’t explain how I can do it, just gets it done. It was very frustrating. 😐
@@xEvILxJaMMERx I can definitely relate to that. Some people are just impossible to please. Maybe you could try the opposite strategy, stop making a big effort of getting his approval. Do your job the best you can and switch off work when you are done. And let's see if that turns things around. If that isn't working either, at least you've tried it all before considering an exit strategy.
@@myemmotion aww thank you so much, but at this point there’s nothing I could’ve done. Since we get rated every week, I can’t changed what the customers reviews just ended up switching positions. So I’m going to try that. I applied for other positions with other companies and seems promising. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. Up side of this and out of my frustration, I’m glad I got on RUclips and found your video. You’re awesome. 🤗
@@xEvILxJaMMERx You are very welcome! You are doing the right thing. Settling for something which isn't motivating for you on a long term is definitely not a good idea. So fingers crossed, hope a nice new challenge is on the way towards you! Best of luck and keep me updated :)
Great video. My manager sent a message with being disappointed with our team results while i was on sick leave for one month. How should I react? Thank you so much
What if the feedback is on your communication style. For my entire life, I’m too verbose too much information. Trouble focusing the conversation. I’m aware of the issue and try to correct it, but nothing works. 😮🎉
Hi, My last employer has given negative feedback to my current employer in background verification and my company asked to fill separation form, without serving any notice period. What can I do in this case!!? Kindly suggest
Negative feedback when constructive helps people grow. If it’s negative just to be negative and attack then it’s not feedback it’s workplace harassment and bullying
What has been your experience in dealing with negative feedback? What did you think of the video?
I receive it constantly lol
@@albertom7679 Haha, that's being honest for you!
What if the negative impact was given by purpose from the manager to make you feel bad?
@@sofiay5470 Then it's extremely important is that you show no feelings or emotions to them. Keep it professional, even if they might not be. The feedback and interactions should be factual, based on clear facts and not on feelings. If your boss is being passive-aggressive then this person is toxic and you need to get out of there as soon as you can!
@@sofiay5470 thats what I have received from my supervisor. Latest feedback, told me my colleagues complained i always late during shift changes. Then I have asked all my colleagues in team and said, he is lair because no one complained to him.
I understand that negative feedback is necessary for employees to grow & learn. Seems like some days the supervisor is only pointing out negative feedback while overlooking the positive. No balance.
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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I completely agree with you. Which is why these tips are given for employees with a healthy working relationships with their managers. I made a few videos on how to handle toxic management and the approach is really different when your boss constantly micromanages and belittles.
This part and it can really make someone. Feel mentally drained
This is happening to me, it drains me because is 5x in the last 2 weeks, I want to quit my job. But I need the money to pay my bills
Really helpful...especially the line about "your performance has nothing to do with your value as a human being."
Thank you so much for the feedback! I am really glad you noticed that phrase, sometimes we get dragged down by negative feedback at work and we completely forget that it doesn't change who we are as a human being.
@@myemmotion doesn't feel good at all!
@@teegee228 Take the part of the feedback which you choose to work on and leave the rest. You'll do great, I am sure!
I don’t mind constructive criticism, and would rather know I am doing something wrong. However, if it’s all negative and putting you down I don’t like that and makes you feel worthless
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
ruclips.net/video/QJx15we9tJc/видео.html
I've been working for 14 years and I have received my first negative yearly performance feedback. Hence why I landed here. Will follow these tips, thank you.
I received enough criticism until finally I decided to quit my job, I did not quit yet, but I am planning to soon but I am scouting for new better jobs first. The only advantage of excessive criticisms is that it makes you review and reevaluate your whole job as a concept, not your performance but your job itself can contain a lot of flaws but you did not notice them because you were too comfortable to see them. Life is hard and tricky.
You are absolutely right. If you decided to leave, this isn't due to a flaw related to your performance, it is due to your job being a place you don't belong to. The sooner you realize it, the better.
In this video I was referring to dealing with feedback which is constructive. The feedback which isn't constructive, and which is given you by someone who clearly doesn't want it to be helpful, should be taken completely differently. Is your boss that is giving you hard times?
EMMOTION by Marat
My Boss is supportive but I am working with five consultants in a clinic and they are not happy about my performance and some of them want to transfer me to another section. I am scouting for ways to escape my job to another, do you agree?
@@Hossam_1993 Having a boss who is supportive is actually a huge plus at any role. How long have you been working there for? Are you happy with the job itself? Do you think these consultants are right about your performance?
If you feel that they are right and that you might need to work harder in certain areas or to learn something new, etc.; then escaping to another job is not a solution. Some colleagues can be negative to newbies at work due to many reasons, these issues are usually temporary and tend to fade away.
If the job itself is not making you happy then that is another story!
EMMOTION by Marat
These consultants are kinda right since I am easily distracted, but some of the flaws they pointed at were overrated. Like when they said those staff who arrived after me are far better than me without comparison!! I could not correlate it with reality since two of them were learning from me.
The fact that they are taking bad impression is a red flag to me since impressions are hard to change. In addition, in my job I dont feel like a decision maker, instead a decision follower. I only follow orders and policies of the superiors which means there is no creativity in what I do. I want a job that gives me meaningful presence, I feel like a slave.
By the way do you do Skype session? I am interested in talking to you.
Negative feedback is good, but it can drain you if it’s constantly happening
Of course! Constant negative feedback should ring the alarm, because things are clearly not working out well.
Occasional negative constructive feedback helps us grow!
I like turning negative feedback to positive part
Thanks a lot! I am glad to hear that!
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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I ignore negative Feedback ,i give all My best of Job ,and Nice to See you ❤
Thank you very much, Doris! I am also happy to see you :) Negative feedback from a manager is quite impossible to ignore though. Have a great day my dear friend! :)
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
ruclips.net/video/QJx15we9tJc/видео.html
What really unsettles people in the workplace is restructuring. I had an enhanced role, which meant I did extra duty’s and tasks. Now, I am old this doesn’t apply anymore, I feel quite upset and hurt. Just shows, experience doesn’t mean much
I am really sorry you are going through that. It's something that we don't usually notice until it is directly related to us. The majority of companies do their best to make employees drive the company through the tough times, but it is never the other way around. Once the restructuring takes place, the employees who overworked and who gave so much to the company can be easily let go. Which is why it's important to keep our own priorities in mind. Do you feel your job is in danger?
EMMOTION by Marat There hasn’t been any talk of redundancy, but it’s a bit worrying to say the least
I hope it’s just a moment of tension and it doesn’t go any further!
EMMOTION by Marat Worst thing is there is going to be a lot of changes coming
You'll get through all of them, you'll see!!!
You are so good at explaining and pointing out what we should do
THANK YOU
Thank you very much. I am glad you found it useful :)
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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Straight to the point and so useful
thank you for this content Marat
You are very welcome!
Nicely explained, really helpful to change mindset after receiving negative feedback. Thank you so much.
Thanks a lot for stopping by and for your kind feedback! Hope the negative feedback turns into a positive one very soon!
I just landed here after my supervisor said something about my manuscript. I hope i can outgrow the bad feeling that comes with the negative feedback. Also what things can someone do to make themselves feel better while handling the feedback.
Quite often bosses and management is to blame, if workers are getting bad feedback, maybe they have lost motivation ?
This video should relate to a place with a healthy working environment, where the management wants you to grow together with the company. Which is why it is really important to handle negative feedback and turn it into something benefitial.
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
ruclips.net/video/QJx15we9tJc/видео.html
that's exactly what I'm going through. my first couple months I was a star worker and went above and beyond. I was very open about promotion and I did all I could to try and get there then they bs and lie to me giving me the run around and now I slow down so I constantly catch heat but idc cause as soon as something else comes along, I'm gone with the wind. sometimes working hard does nothing but get you taken advantage of
@@michael567jober I agree!!!
@@애다 luckily i got out and landed an office job in a warehouse. long hours but it pays my bills. it been almost 2 years now and i got 2 raises since i started. due to inflation i’m gonna ask for more when my next anniversary comes up
Thanks! Very well explained
Today i needed this.
This is what I needed right now.. 😔 Thank you..
Needed this today. Thank you❤️
What happens if your supervisor is playing games with you on a daily basis?
Root cause... he feels that his job security is being threatened by your prescence. Making you go around in loops in the workplace and then judging you for time management when you have actually delivered inspite of the extra work.
I do not fully understand what to do with the emotions that trigger after the negative rude tone feedback case. Do I really need to say "thank you" through clenched teeth and lie to myself and to the interlocutor?
As long as you receive feedback which is constructive, say "thank you" and apply whatever the feedback is to your day to day. Showing that you don't like the tone or getting defensive will always go against you, believe me.
If your manager is a complicated person to deal with, then you need an exit strategy, because no matter what you will do, they will always be giving you an emotionally draining feedback.
Needed this today, thank you!
I like the tips, but it would be better if you give example of conversation between the boss and subortinate.
Glad to see u again & with another useful video
Thanks so much, Emm. Always glad to read you.
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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this is excellent and very useful for feedback handling
Thanks a lot!
Nice Tips, thanks for sharing
I like this tie
also your video is very clear and easy to understand, good job
Thanks a lot my friend. Have a great day!
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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What if manager is supporting the person who has given false negative feedback? How to deal with those false negative feedback? And if we become defensive, it will seems like we're making big issues. How to deal in such situation?
Had the same. Its hard to deal with. But I asked the collegue to clarify more. Why u feels so, but also to check if we have to take another careful aproach with them in future.
I give my 100% to my job, in stead I get negative feedback again and again😢
So this was nothing official by any means, but a group of friends and I made our own company of sorts where we were leaders in the organization, and I noticed I followed every piece of advice given, but still didn't get respect from them.
It seemed like once they got some form of power over everyone else, they started turning into the bad bosses we tried to get away from, and put all blame on a few people, including me.
This a common thing?
It's quite curious you are mentioning this. Somehow a lot of people fall into this "corporate trap" once they get an access to power. They start getting less empathic and some become completely indifferent towards "hurting" the rest to achieve their own goals. Have you ever noticed their similar behaviour prior to this experience?
@@myemmotion In small burst, yes, but when it came to one or two individuals that would cause issues, they would never budge on fixing an issue/possible solutions. Doesn't matter much at this point, but I guess I'm just looking for clarity on how to go about these situations.
@@Robpguitar21 If you've seen such toxic traits before, now it's become a lot more visible due to circumstances. I hope you manage to work it out, unless you see it clearly that their attitude wouldn't change. In such case, it's better have as little contact with them as possible. Even if it means for you to leave this company built with your contribution.
Sometimes I take a water of a ducks back approach to negative feedback.
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
ruclips.net/video/QJx15we9tJc/видео.html
Very helpful, thanks!
So, I have done pretty much every step you mentioned in your video, but seems like it isn’t enough. I am getting frustrated. I am a sever and I know it’s different then other jobs giving you feedback, but at the end of the day it’s feedback. 🥴
I am sorry to hear that. What kind of feedback have you received from your manager? Do you have other team members that feel the same way?
Maybe it's your boss who is the difficult one?
@@myemmotion everyone says that I’m doing a great job except the GM.
Every week we get the ratings and every week I get horrible reviews. I observed coworkers with the highest scores and see if I can learn something, but no. I do the exactly same thing and honestly didn’t know what else to do.
I have worked with the GM, but seems like when we work the same schedule almost everything goes wrong for me. I do everything it’s expected of me. I’m the first one to come in for my shift and the last one to go. Always have a very positive attitude, but nothing seems to work.
During training they focus on sanitation and safety which obviously it’s great to learn all that to have a safe work environment for staff and guests, but there’s a whole a lot that you don’t go completely thorough or at all.
When the GM is there and I ask a question when I’m not sure how to proceed the reply I get is “Didn’t you go through training?”. And just go and fix it and really don’t explain how I can do it, just gets it done. It was very frustrating. 😐
@@xEvILxJaMMERx I can definitely relate to that. Some people are just impossible to please. Maybe you could try the opposite strategy, stop making a big effort of getting his approval. Do your job the best you can and switch off work when you are done.
And let's see if that turns things around.
If that isn't working either, at least you've tried it all before considering an exit strategy.
@@myemmotion aww thank you so much, but at this point there’s nothing I could’ve done. Since we get rated every week, I can’t changed what the customers reviews just ended up switching positions. So I’m going to try that. I applied for other positions with other companies and seems promising. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. Up side of this and out of my frustration, I’m glad I got on RUclips and found your video. You’re awesome. 🤗
@@xEvILxJaMMERx You are very welcome! You are doing the right thing. Settling for something which isn't motivating for you on a long term is definitely not a good idea. So fingers crossed, hope a nice new challenge is on the way towards you!
Best of luck and keep me updated :)
Thanks for this
You are welcome!
its awesome vdo ! gave a great relief
Thanks for the video
You bet!
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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Great video. My manager sent a message with being disappointed with our team results while i was on sick leave for one month. How should I react? Thank you so much
good video thanks Marat
You are very welcome!
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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Thank you it gives me positive thoughtss
I am really glad to hear that. Hope your work environment keeps getting better. Thank you for stopping by and for your feedback!
Nice video 👍👍
Thank you very much my friend!!!
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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Thanks. This helps.
You are very welcome! Good luck!
I can't be objective about feedback from my boss because he is such a bad manager
That's a different story then!
Colleagues are not friends. Keep distance and walk together.
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Mine is a bully and a terrible manager. No one can please him.
What if the feedback is on your communication style. For my entire life, I’m too verbose too much information. Trouble focusing the conversation. I’m aware of the issue and try to correct it, but nothing works. 😮🎉
I am trying my hardest with #3
Good stuff!
Thanks lot for the feedback!
excellent advice
Thank you!
Wow glad I found this video, many powerful nuggets noted!
1. Don’t be defensive
Hi, My last employer has given negative feedback to my current employer in background verification and my company asked to fill separation form, without serving any notice period. What can I do in this case!!? Kindly suggest
much love EMMOTION by Marat
Negative feedback when constructive helps people grow. If it’s negative just to be negative and attack then it’s not feedback it’s workplace harassment and bullying
Panda Express is the worst
Easier said than done
Great video