Yvonne's group, alongside the NVR parenting approach was transformative for us. She is a wonderfully compassionate and wise woman and I'm so glad she was able to do this talk and speak to nhs in the way x
Amazing stuff! A relative I grew up with did many of the same things as little Toby (he suffered from a neurological condition and adhd) and it is truly the child that pays the price. They see all the awful expressions on the faces of everyone in the supermarket, and hear harsh disapproval while the “well-behaved” “sweet” etc child only sees smiles and hears words of adoration. How cruel.
Bravo Yvonne! 👏👏👏 finding you on Facebook was life changing for me and my family. 3 years on there are still challenges but the daily violence is a thing of the past. Changing my mindset and rising above the judgement of others (mainly professionals!) was key to reducing my daughter’s anxiety led behaviours. Your webinars, strategies and lived experience are invaluable and I’ll be eternally grateful. Thank you 🙏
Regular people don't understand, don't have the experience to know that there are children who are not "regular". They see and hear and feel the world differently, they work harder in that confusion to make sense of it all, they need support and love and compassion and knowledgeable people to help them. I'm so glad you and Toby found those people. BUT the "regular" school and classroom situation is not the place for that, and unfortunately that's what I'm seeing more and more.
Always have compassionate and patience with Love towards your family and children show them that their important should never yell or hit them do it without yelling that way they know what they did wrong
Yvonne has been a life saver for me and so many other parents who are feeling completely hopeless and desperate. There is no appropriate help or support for our children and Yvonne offers light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you. You are amazing!! ❤️
I remember my mother cried when she finally understood what I needed, and understood me as an autist, and realized everything she’d been doing wrong for so much of my life. Of course, even now, she’s still learning, but she also *knows* that there are always more things to learn.
A fantastic Ted talk thankyou! Reading the comments you can tell who actually has experience and who just holds judgements about it. Thank you so much for all you have contributed with your life to families like mine xx
I can't believe this happened to me. FIRST TIME, my son at age 10 intentionally bumping the trolley into aisles and throwing things in the trolley. At 8, my son's odd behaviours just started to surface, so it's not like I was dealing with this for years. I couldn't believe that I was THAT MUM, who people were staring at. 😟😕 At almost 10 he was just diagnosed with level 2 autism. Though he is fuly verbal from age 5, he can write and read very well, but the social skills and social comprehension are lacking. I have to build my own village because there is limited to no family support
I have a neighbor with child misbehaving. sometimes they are give attention with happiness . In other hand, they used to give considered with being angry and loudly advises. Hopefully children need attention by us as parents. I agree with being compassion even thought sometimes parents do not aware about the side. I am going to try giving a little advise to my neighbor as well as I can. Thanks a lot for your topic
I found from my experience and from my daughters struggle that professionals do all they can until we would run through all their bag of tricks. When they are ready to give up, they suggest she just needs more discipline. I needed to say no to her more. I needed to take things from her and limit her socialization. WRONG!!! I’m glad I did not listen to them and kept searching.
She's not saying the world needs to accommodate disruptive behavior. She's saying the world shouldn't blame/judge the parents (seems a simple enough request), and that the medical community needs to change their approach to difficult behavior.
With special needs children, things have to be handled differently, yes. However, with all other children, parenting is still needed. Discipline is still needed. They need a parent, not a friend. They need discipline & boundaries. They have to be taught self control. There had to be consequences to their actions. Otherwise you get the mess we are dealing with today, of spoiled, entitled, brats, who think they can do whatever they want at anytime & expect mom & dad to deal with the aftermath. It is a parents job to teach the child, to discipline the child. Not be their friend. Respect. Self control. Right from wrong. Consequences. Children of today are NOT being taught these things & the world is paying for it. Poor parenting is a disease that has taken over. It needs to be stopped.
If you have a neuro typical child your expectations are achievable. However, a neurologically divergent child has far greater challenges and life is a greater struggle for them. I have worked with autistic children for 20 years and your approach simply doesn’t work. You can’t tell a person who can’t walk, to walk. And ‘disciplining’ that person for not walking is beyond cruel. Not all disabilities are visible.
There’s a difference between bad behaviour and being deregulated with autism. What Yvonne’s explaining is the incredible ways carers who understand their child on another level help regulate them. It’s not condoning bad behaviour. It’s supporting your child’s anxiety and inability to control their emotions while incredibly overwhelmed.
That judgement comes from your inadequate leadership and lack of enforced discipline and rules. Parents fail because of laziness and putting the child's feelings over a proper raising.
I feel you haven’t listened properly to the talk or done any research before making this comment. This woman was awarded an MBE in part for her leadership skills. And she has absolutely succeeded to the highest level as a parent to her 3 grown up happy, healthy, successful children.
Your judgement clearly comes from someone who has not experienced the violent and challenging behaviours that many, many families with children with SEND experience. VCB in children with SEND is extremely common, and has zero to do with lack of enforced discipline and rules. It has nothing to do with laziness or parenting. I guarantee you that my 'lazy' parenting is far from that and that I work extremely hard every single day to make sure that my children's needs are met, and to try and prevent the VCB from happening, but supporting it when it does. When you are supporting children with SEND, and you are supporting the VCB, there is no room for lazy parenting.
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Yvonne's group, alongside the NVR parenting approach was transformative for us. She is a wonderfully compassionate and wise woman and I'm so glad she was able to do this talk and speak to nhs in the way x
Gosh, don't we need more compassion?? What beautiful words of comfort. Yvonne's charity, Newbold Hope has helped us so very much.
She’s so moving to me… to tears and more importantly to act accordingly should I ever find myself in the position of the observer. ☮️💜
Amazing stuff! A relative I grew up with did many of the same things as little Toby (he suffered from a neurological condition and adhd) and it is truly the child that pays the price. They see all the awful expressions on the faces of everyone in the supermarket, and hear harsh disapproval while the “well-behaved” “sweet” etc child only sees smiles and hears words of adoration. How cruel.
Thank you for the work you are doing to bring compassion led parenting to the forefront for children who need it most.
thank you for sharing your experience and your love for your children especially the knowledge you learned from your hard experience.
Yvonne Newbold, you are an inspiration to many.
Bravo Yvonne! 👏👏👏 finding you on Facebook was life changing for me and my family. 3 years on there are still challenges but the daily violence is a thing of the past. Changing my mindset and rising above the judgement of others (mainly professionals!) was key to reducing my daughter’s anxiety led behaviours. Your webinars, strategies and lived experience are invaluable and I’ll be eternally grateful. Thank you 🙏
Regular people don't understand, don't have the experience to know that there are children who are not "regular". They see and hear and feel the world differently, they work harder in that confusion to make sense of it all, they need support and love and compassion and knowledgeable people to help them. I'm so glad you and Toby found those people.
BUT the "regular" school and classroom situation is not the place for that, and unfortunately that's what I'm seeing more and more.
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Thanking you, more!
I learned alot from your presentation and I am so glad that I stopped by and listened.
May God bless you and your lovely family 💕🙏
Always have compassionate and patience with Love towards your family and children show them that their important should never yell or hit them do it without yelling that way they know what they did wrong
Thank you for all the tireless work you do. You are so very appreciated by our community 🫶🏻
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Yvonne, you are the best. Thank you for everything you've done for our family, x
Definitely not judging people with kids making a scene anymore.
Got to stay curious
She's such an exemple for the whole world.
Yvonne has been a life saver for me and so many other parents who are feeling completely hopeless and desperate. There is no appropriate help or support for our children and Yvonne offers light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you. You are amazing!! ❤️
Wow, what a patience
I remember my mother cried when she finally understood what I needed, and understood me as an autist, and realized everything she’d been doing wrong for so much of my life. Of course, even now, she’s still learning, but she also *knows* that there are always more things to learn.
Remember you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens
A fantastic Ted talk thankyou! Reading the comments you can tell who actually has experience and who just holds judgements about it. Thank you so much for all you have contributed with your life to families like mine xx
I can't believe this happened to me. FIRST TIME, my son at age 10 intentionally bumping the trolley into aisles and throwing things in the trolley.
At 8, my son's odd behaviours just started to surface, so it's not like I was dealing with this for years.
I couldn't believe that I was THAT MUM, who people were staring at. 😟😕 At almost 10 he was just diagnosed with level 2 autism.
Though he is fuly verbal from age 5, he can write and read very well, but the social skills and social comprehension are lacking.
I have to build my own village because there is limited to no family support
Thank you!! Much love
I have a neighbor with child misbehaving. sometimes they are give attention with happiness . In other hand, they used to give considered with being angry and loudly advises. Hopefully children need attention by us as parents. I agree with being compassion even thought sometimes parents do not aware about the side. I am going to try giving a little advise to my neighbor as well as I can. Thanks a lot for your topic
Their is probably misunderstanding people but it’s very courageous to try different things that work probably close to a entrepreneurial mentality
I found from my experience and from my daughters struggle that professionals do all they can until we would run through all their bag of tricks. When they are ready to give up, they suggest she just needs more discipline. I needed to say no to her more. I needed to take things from her and limit her socialization.
WRONG!!! I’m glad I did not listen to them and kept searching.
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Demanding the rest of society change to accommodate disruptive behavior makes sense if people didn't have their own issues.
She's not saying the world needs to accommodate disruptive behavior. She's saying the world shouldn't blame/judge the parents (seems a simple enough request), and that the medical community needs to change their approach to difficult behavior.
I don't think you listened properly if that is what you heard, all behaviour is communication and compassion is always what we should have in life.
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My friend's dad treated us with compassion with his belt, when we were playing around in the garage! We never did that again!
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It's called "consequences"
With special needs children, things have to be handled differently, yes. However, with all other children, parenting is still needed. Discipline is still needed. They need a parent, not a friend. They need discipline & boundaries. They have to be taught self control. There had to be consequences to their actions. Otherwise you get the mess we are dealing with today, of spoiled, entitled, brats, who think they can do whatever they want at anytime & expect mom & dad to deal with the aftermath. It is a parents job to teach the child, to discipline the child. Not be their friend. Respect. Self control. Right from wrong. Consequences. Children of today are NOT being taught these things & the world is paying for it. Poor parenting is a disease that has taken over. It needs to be stopped.
If you have a neuro typical child your expectations are achievable. However, a neurologically divergent child has far greater challenges and life is a greater struggle for them. I have worked with autistic children for 20 years and your approach simply doesn’t work.
You can’t tell a person who can’t walk, to walk. And ‘disciplining’ that person for not walking is beyond cruel. Not all disabilities are visible.
There’s a difference between bad behaviour and being deregulated with autism. What Yvonne’s explaining is the incredible ways carers who understand their child on another level help regulate them. It’s not condoning bad behaviour. It’s supporting your child’s anxiety and inability to control their emotions while incredibly overwhelmed.
That judgement comes from your inadequate leadership and lack of enforced discipline and rules. Parents fail because of laziness and putting the child's feelings over a proper raising.
Wow you are a deeply unpleasant person. Thank you for making everyone's days worse with this inaccurate and obnoxious comment.
Yup. The world doesn’t need more weak people.
I feel you haven’t listened properly to the talk or done any research before making this comment. This woman was awarded an MBE in part for her leadership skills. And she has absolutely succeeded to the highest level as a parent to her 3 grown up happy, healthy, successful children.
Your judgement clearly comes from someone who has not experienced the violent and challenging behaviours that many, many families with children with SEND experience. VCB in children with SEND is extremely common, and has zero to do with lack of enforced discipline and rules. It has nothing to do with laziness or parenting. I guarantee you that my 'lazy' parenting is far from that and that I work extremely hard every single day to make sure that my children's needs are met, and to try and prevent the VCB from happening, but supporting it when it does. When you are supporting children with SEND, and you are supporting the VCB, there is no room for lazy parenting.
Awake but UnConscious: Define autism. It’s what the talk is about.
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Isn’t she that nanny from south park
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