Thanks for watching my video. If you'd like to learn more about creating a strong emotional connection with your ex, then check out this: ruclips.net/video/8pM1PxNaYBI/видео.html
I'm a 38 year old male, just had a bad break up with a female who essentially moved on to another female(Stud) she works with. I was in no contact for going on 4 weeks. Just last night she texted me " How are you? And Why haven't you texted me to at least see how I'm doing" after this text I did everything wrong based on your videos. All your RUclips coaching went out the window and my heart and instinct took over. One of Her last statements to me was "And I'm not saying we are Back Together" Our Relationship would be 3 years in June. Any help would be appreciated.
I like the important point you make about being genuinely prepared to fix what was wrong with yourself in the relationship, because if you're not then you are just setting you both up again for hurt.
That's true, Jeremy. If we want to have a healthy and lasting relationship, we have to make that authentic change inside out to inspire the affection of the other person.
I'm no relationship expert, but why the hell do you want your ex back? I sure as hell wouldn't want my ex back. Think about why it ended in the first place, simple as that. I know it can be hard when the wound is still fresh, but I doubt changing your way of living, looks and even personality will make things much better. Everything is not just about you, it is also about your ex. Don't waste your time on him/her, it will not give you anything but the same shit again.
Why would you interact with them though, Coach Corey says you either take it or leave it. If they don't give you what you want, you walk away, especially if they broke up with you
My ex and I have had two conversations after our breakup that went fairly well. She is dating someone at the moment and he knows that we have had these conversations. The last conversation we had she bust out in tears saying she doesn't know what to do then she hugged me and told me to hold her tight. We are about to have a semester break for about a month and I want to know will I still have chance with her or no because of time ? Thanks in Advance
My ex's rebound smokes weed, cusses like a sailor, is rude to me, uses annoying slang, listens to bad music and Idek everything else. Those are all things my ex knew I was against and she's talking to someone that is gonna lead her to Hell. I changed but it may be too late for me to get her back and recover things, especially because her mom is against us being together -- we're not even supposed to talk, but we still do. She moved to the next county over and this new guy has so many heads over me in the attraction game whether it be not being constrictive/controlling, mean, a loser, etc. She's started acting like this guy either because I don't try to control her anymore or because she loves him (a better word may be better) and acts like her new love. I never truly changed myself until it was too late, but there's a girl at Church I think I might start talking to. She's pretty and she seems to love the Lord, but I think she'd just be a rebound because she just "ticks off boxes" such as that she is less toxic/dramatic, maybe has a more conservative relationship with the Lord, etc. I don't wanna do that though:(
we are in 4 years relationship. 3 weeks ago we broke up. now she has new boyfriend. now what should i do. i love her very much how to get back together.
I need help. I've been implementing the decoy affect with my ex. We still stay in contact, and see each other about 2 times a month. I've made major improvements, and he's even commented that I'm doing much better and he's proud of me. I'm so much better than the person I was, but I believe he's dating someone new, and remaining friends with me. How come the decoy affect is not working for me?
Hi Clay! My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. She met this guy at work maybe 4 months ago and eventually left me for him. I tried to chase her back for a week after we split but nothing happened. Then I tried not contacting her 5 days ago. Now she told one of our common friend she misses me. But she's still seeing the other guy. What should I do next?
Im scared that I don't stay in friendzone forever.I asked her "do you look at me as friends and think you can never be with me"and she said "why never?" But she has someone now and I hope I dont stay in friendzone
Bud please let me explain, my ex is dating someone else and I'm not threatened by the guy. He won't be as good as me, my concern is in her mind if she's dating him then she's not focusing on me, she's non responsive to me and this makes it harder for me to make things beautiful again with her.
My question is What if my ex-girlfriend left our 8 years relationship for another dude that she monckey branched me and she claimed to have a good connection with ?
Clay i went to my Ex gfs house today we kissed she told me she loves me but told me about her new boyfriend i need help get her back we got 10 years together i told her think about me her get back together i she goes i know you back of my hand goes i know you better then your self i need help Bud )
Hi Clay, me and my ex got to see each other earlier, we've had lunch and dessert and got to roam around the mall, talking things, catching up on each other and stuff. I got her to laugh too and such, tho we also got to talk about the past but we made it pretty light to laugh it off too. And you know what? We had fun! We are actually gonna go see each other in weeks time(maybe soon) Moments later, after we went home I saw her on instagram with this other guy she started seeing. (which she told me about as well when we were catching up) A part of me says no matter what the odds Im gonna win even though it hurts like hell. Another part of me says, if I dont do something quick she will end up with that guy. Clay, I felt like im on a race against time I dont know what to do. I wanna do something to get her back fast, but I gotta face the fact I am an ex, so I think I had to take things a bit on a slower pace like rebuilding the friendship, connection and re-arttraction. Yes, I didnt show any form of jealousy towards her new guy. As a matter of fact I didnt react much when she says that. I dont know what to do at this point, I don't wanna give up on her yet. Can I still stay and keep fighting? Or no, live and let die? I am getting pretty anxious and nervous. :(
@@maybugz it's already been a year since this happened. In the end I just gave it up and moved on and she didn't get the guy she liked too (she told me all that like many months later after I made this comment) Thankfully, she and I got to rebuild our friendship til today. Lots of stuff to learn I'll give you that.
Hi Clay, I have been in No contact for most of the 3 months, very little texting. Since that time I have worked on my self and turned my self into the new Alpha Male. I have used your advice and have just had a coffee with by ex , I did not mention anything about the relation. It all went really well. Just some things that I notest; she look upset/fedup but the main thing was she would not look at me in my eyes, it was as if she was talking to an invisible person to her right, she would only look into my eyes when I looked away. I could do with some help please. Thank you and good work.
+Clay Andrews I broke up with my girlfriend and she is now dating someone else. but we already broke up ones and got together again, is there a chance it will happen again?
I just contacted my ex after a month of no contact, everything was light and bubbly until she told me that her nieces funeral is tomo, she currently has a boyfriend. I don't know what to do??????
My ex of 2 1/2 years rebound is my Friend/second cousin and we look a lot alike. We played in a band together and when i started dating her, our band was falling apart anyway and i was done and he was controlling of me in the band and didn't talk to me after for the longest time after i "broke up" with him. we did make up or whatever and everything seamed "cool" for a while but he never cared about me look back at it now. make a long story short they work next to each other and have been slowly talking for months and now and she has been emotionally attached to him at the least the whole time,and never really broke up with me. she would text me and say she doesnt know whats going on,she doesn't want to be with anyone let alone me,only thing that kept us apart was herself. and i told her i miss her and she replied back she misses me too up until a month ago, then i found out that they were talking and hanging out and they both denied it,told me everythings gonna be okay and she did a total flip flop and said that it i need to help myself,its was all my problems and suffering that ruined everything and she had done all she could to help me see it. theirs a lot of missing information that probably should be here but hope you can understand what i'm going through
I did no contact with my ex when he started dating someone new and told me to forget he exists he has contacted me to ask how I'm doing I said good and than he contacted me again a month later saying hey I replied 3 days later cause I didn't see the fb message and he didn't reply back to me at all??? I still love him but why he did that
+Kevin Roos The answer is you never contact them or care about showing them the ''new you'' cause chances are they are already with someone else don't really care.
Clay Andrews first time: like a normal shy stranger, busy with the phone. I said hallo however because she noticed me, i was on my way. Second: i didnt aknowledge her , wr both wainting on the streetlight, and looked at her as she were another girl at the other side of the street. So i was natural staring but not so focused and she smiled like controlling the smile shy, it was maybe like a joke for her(?). She said hallo first. After these day she meet another guy, but hier at the uni such encounters can mean nothing: hands and kiss and didnt see yet. Yesterday i was on similar situation: now she passed by, but i was hearing music and learning, and look to a friend fixed. I didn’t want to systematically greet and „be there“ for her. Because its maybe already too much that when i see her i look for passing by or be noticed (?) here can be another danger: it should be really not a childish showing up. I want to look at her with good vibe and cause that she reacts to me first. Thats my „plan“. Another thing is the social sufocation: the guy she may be dating is on a group of friends in which I am the older one, so he kind respect me naturally. I lost her because of a false accusation of sexual harassment or stalking. Now i managed to prove the contrary and get my inscription in the university back and other things. Criminalization of flirting or reaching out or approaching should be one very important discussion after the feminism as a authoritarian movement. What you saw on movies or literature should not be criminalized. I fear your videos tends to the nice guy staff (?) anyway i thank you SO MUCH. A video on topic hallo, positioning and body language is FUnDAMENTaL and i never find it on youtube, only similar ones where a nice ex is already presumed...
Hey. I really want my ex-ish back bad and I don't know want to do because there isn't a video on exactly my situation. She had been talking to a boy much longer then she had been talking to me but we started talking and quickly we started hanging out and she told me she was going to stop talking to this kid. After she stopped talking to this kid we were going to become official and she knew that. But she stopped talking to me and became official with the other kid. I fucked up and sent her over emotional text. I don't know what to do , all I know is I just want her back so bad. I would do anything in the world to be with her again.
hey, what if I finish the no contact rule right now and I've found out that my ex is in a rebound? Should I contact her as you said after the no contact or wait until they finish and just continuing work on my self? thanks and love your videos!
Could you make a video on how to actually get your ex to talk to you and hang out with you when they’re seeing someone? We are talking but I feel like she is holding up out of respect for her rebound. And anytime I’ve asked to meet up for coffee or hang out she politely declined and says we can plan something soon but never actually follows through??
Hey Josh, It is important that you have to be mindful of your ex's emotional readiness. We cannot convince someone to hang out with us if they are not fully comfortable with. That is why Advanced Relational Skills are the basic foundation of the process and not just the techniques.
Im in no contact and after more then 5 months she finally started interacting with another guy about 1,5 weeks ago. I think she dated on Sunday. I know I shouldnt really know, it isnt like I got it from social media or common friends, but I kinda fell in the trap that I noticed she was online on whatsapp and got sucked into monitoring it. Normally she didnt come online for days and now she is online pretty much for hours a day. Anyways doesnt matter, Im leaving on a holiday in 4 days. So what do I do? Break no contact before I leave or wait till after. In 16 days its her birthday, maybe reach out then. Or should I just go over and try to talk things out. How do I approach this. I mean in two weeks a lot can happen. But if I contact now then Im gone for like 10 days on a holiday, the timing is kinda bad... Sidenote, the activity is dropping since yesterday. Maybe it didnt go that well and its in my interest to let this bleed out and just send something on her birthday. My birthday was a month ago and she also congratulated me. Honestly if she hooks up with him in 4 weeks its obviously she tries to get over me and I need to rethink if I want her anyways. Also when Im back from holiday I got something interesting to tell. Its kinda a gamble if she is into this new guy or if he fucks up. I actually think her first date might be dissapointing after me. Not to be to arrogant, but my first date was also me kinda lowering the bar just to ‘have something going’ and I feel after 5 months she might feel that she should date others since she wanted this break up. Lot of guessing, but oh well, any advice would be appreciated.
I was very horrible boyfriend in the begging of my 2 year relationship and I waited too long to improve upon it now she's gone with someone else who she's admitted to me she feels trapped but also wants to be with him at the time. could this work for me???
can the decoy effect still works if she blocked me in social media and she always tell to our co workers that she is not interested at me at all since me and my ex are co workers even in our mutual friends outside work she still always tells that she don't love me and not interested in me anymore
I need a video on what I should do... My girl and i dated for 13 months, we just broke up, she says she doesn't want us back together, that it wasn't meant to be, that i did stuff and told her those things were easy to change if it meant losin her, we cried a lil n she told me no still, she says she wants me to be happy and move on, what do i do? I really love her still, she loves me still but we're done, help?
We broke up 5 months ago and she's only just started going out with this guy, we are in college so I see her everyday and she tried to hide it from me.. what should I do
Hi Kathy, Not necessarily after ANC. The connection has to develop in a gradual manner. Start with something light and more comfortable for both of you. Also, you need to define what you mean by emotional connection. Because two people can be emotionally connected as long as the interaction results to a positive experience. All the best. :-)
What if your not talking though? Or that her stuff is still at yours (being apart almost 4 months) was together 10 years but is seeing someone else who’s doing “all the right things” at the moment taking her places and buying stuff (which she told me it wasn’t about those things) when I mentioned about doing them
Hey my ex is currntly with another guy and me and her had several emotional conversations in person since the breakup. She cried once and said that she does not know ehere to put her self and she hugged me and said I miss you. Do I still have a chance with her?
what should i do i see my GF with another guy two times now i feel she loose interest in me and still, she initiates contact with me should i breakup with her because when i told her to hang out with me she makes an excess she is busy and I know she is not busy I cannot talk about another guy maybe she feel me week and jealous . i want to go in no contact but I cannot because we are in the same university and we almost see every day before she used to text and video call me every night but now she dont .I rarely initiate contact with her in the night i am confused. This is happening from last week
Hi Alex, It is important for both of you to have a healthy conversation to understand each other. Seeing your GF with another guy will just feed some assumptions on your end because you feel that she lost interest with you. Try to have an open communication to understand where both of you are coming from. Avoid assumption and doing drastic decisions out of being emotional. But instead try to understand the whole situation before making any decisions. All the best.
I have a situation and tbh it’s driving me mad, started getting my ex back within 2-3 weeks she left her relation came over hung out till late, then they got back together a week later, then 2-3 weeks passed she broke up with him deleted all his photos, she came over that weekend hung out slept together both nights (not sex) seemed like we were having a great time she kept not wanting to leave. Then the very next day she says she needs space fast forward 2 weeks we chat occasionally then bam she posts that she’s going on a date with the dude she just broke up with... I’m so connnfused? Welll I posted this comment yesterday I asked her last night what was going on she was hot n cold and she then messaged me to call her... it wasent her it was her boyfriend now I’m blocked on all socials... I didn’t even do anything I’m so sad seems like meant nothing
Hey, guys Me n my ex have been broken up for n we haven't talked 5 months she is dating someone. found out she was with someone for the passed 2 months. So I did a drunk text that was embarrassing, I didnt beg her back, I just told her that I blamed myself but I think she has some to blame. and I told her I found out about the guy. n asked for the real reason for the break up (which I feel like I know) so I could get closer.... she saw it but never replied. truth is I want her back... and I'm thinking of sending a fb message (not friends) but I'm thinking of apologizing for that since it happened a week ago. "hey, wanted to apologize for my last message. it was just my anxiety. Hope ur having a great day! OR should I not apologize and just go straight to a feel good text.. which I dont know what to put. any advice please
Our relationship w/ my ex 2 years, she broke up me after our 2nd anniversary. After 3 months of break up, my ex hanging out w/ my best friend. Do I feel bad?
+Ryanzkie Blue i could totally relate to that. right now mine are living together and its disgusting. if worse comes to worse its easier to see him as some sort or splenda you that she is trying to use as a substitute of you.
well my ex got a new BF that lives in Florida and we live all the way on the other side of the country. me and her still hang out and talk. I can make her laugh a lot but idk if she wants me instead of him. she's moving to Florida next year though so what do you think I should do?
Gf of 8+ years broke up. Been 3 months now. She started dating a guy exactly the same as me but 8 years younger (Asian, married with 2 children). They were work buddies for one year. I have done NC for one month and improved myself. Ex and me have had no contact for the last month as she felt it was unfair on her relationship. Any suggestion on how to proceed?
Me and my ex Broke up a little over a year ago. She has been dating the new guy for almost a year I was in another relationship also I’m finding out I still love my ex what are the chances she feels the same
following no contact as suggested..after 32 days i msgd her..and got positive reply ...now in big dilema ..should I continue as step by step path shown by u(msg her on 3/4/5 alternate days as per her response) ...or can i hang it for 18 days ...as I have my life changing exams ,n have to revise for dat ...if I get negative respose it can deviate me again ,till d time wat i have achieved via no contact (mental peace/confidence) will lost again ...how should I proceed.... thanks aloot ..for the right path u have shown till date .. date ..thank
Dear Clay, my ex and I did have a bad break up. Ik was not paying attention during the last months of our relationship and sometimes I was negative towards her. When she did break up she did a sudden clean break up. I havent heard from her since and she did not reply to any of my texts or calls. I ended up stalking her a few times meeting her at her house and after work to speak with her, she immiately called the police so I went away. Now after 5 weeks she did start dating someone new. I dont know what to do as there is no contact at all with her so I have no option to have a light or positive contact with her. I do know that after our 2 year relationship I find her really suitable for me and I really want her back. Do you have any advice for me? Thanks in advance. Karl
Lol.. Worse thing happened! She went for my best friend. We weren't best friends without a reason! We acted just alike she saw in him what she saw in me expect he came out nicer because I had a lot of stuff going on and couldn't focus myself around her.
Hi Clay! But what about my case where my ex girlfriend broke up with me about two months ago and she has been dating another one a month ago?! I am shocked I do not even want her I don't know?! I think she liked him during our relationship because our argument and break up was because of him and she always speak good about him. She is stone cold and she said that she did not believe in relationship and is now dating another dude?! What should I or can I do?! Pls help! She said that everything was just a mess!!
Hi Clay I haven't seen or talked to my Ex for more than 30 days and she said to my friend behind my back that the relationstip was a total mess and that she also regrets of ever being in a relationstip with me? She had a husband before but she did not seem bother or have any problem when he was out with other chicks at town! What should I know and how can I understatements her more because she is a tough and cold woman! How can I learn to understand her more and kind of making her appreciate me? I don't wanna lose more time because I am scared to death that she would meet someone else or it would be easier for her to move on, she have had two relationships one where she was married for over 11 years where she also has a daughter with her ex husband! Now only a month after our breake up she let many unknown student guys and girls to sleep over at her house without her daughter being there?! God knows what has happened those night?!?!?! But are there still an ounce of hope left?? Than
+Abid Khan You sound desperate for a girl that doesn't give a fuck, just move on. there's nothing you really can actively do to get her back You're the only one still holding on to something that has passed. She can't be loyal so why would want her back anyway?
what's the point of getting back someone who doesn't care about your feelings enough to unrespect you and going out dating people? fuck it dude, we need someone who who doesn't go there getting on dates once they finish the relationship, it's about respect with yourself although it may hurt not getting her back and drowning yourself in alcohol and sadness we should put ourselves in first place, no matter what, is a sense of commitment.
+Chessia Teta Imma working on it, Chessia. Moving back to the USA, holidays and finding a place to call home has set my video schedule back. I PROMISE you'll see more of me soon:)
+Chessia Teta interesting points ,if anyone else wants to discover get your ex back now try Morundan Get Back Mastery (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my partner got great success with it.
+Chessia Teta I have spent months studying making your ex want you back and discovered a fantastic resource at Partner Reboot Recipe (google it if you are interested)
+Clay Andrews - hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to discover best get your ex back book try Stiklind Text Ex Fixer (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my mate got great success with it.
I was surfing all information about a rebound relationship, everybody are saying don't worry about other relationship, but he is rubbing in my face how he is better off with a new woman. I dig dipper, there no love, and no sexual attraction. Finally she made him stop talking to me, he doesn't response to my messages or phone calls. It had been 4 month since we broke up. What should I do?
+Marina Sw I was in such situation in the past NEVER THOUGHT I COULD EVER BE HAPPY AGAIN BUT WHEN I MET the great Dr.KALAMASHAKA. ALL MY PROBLEMS BECAME STORY It all started with a small argument after that he stopped picking my calls and replying my sms,I was so sad, one day he finally called and said it was over. I tried everything possible to get him back but it did not work until I met Dr. KALAMASHAKA and told him my problem in which he told me all my problems will be solved within 48 hrs which I thought was impossible until the same man that told me it is was over came to my office and begged for my forgiveness publicly with roses in his arms it was the happiest day of my life having the love of my life back in my arms.we have been together now for 6 months and the love between us is now stronger than ever.If you are a woman or a man and you are facing any kind of problem in your relationship or marriage quickly contact the great man of spell directly on email: jkalamashaka@yahoo.com Ashley Massachussett, USA s.y2k@aol.com
+Marina Sw maybe just maaaaaybe... fucking forget about him?? I was in the same situation you were and I bullshitted myself into believing the advice from this idiot works, and believe me it mostly doesn't. It's not gonna work out if you broke up... ever
James Cavill thanks! It had been 3 mo since I posted my comment. A lot of things changed, he finally kicked her out, but things do not work btw us as it used to be. On the top of it, I just found he cheated on me with her, and I do not know how to react to it. (we haven't spoke yet since saw each other the last time)
hi coach plz guide me i have been in realtion with one girl we have very good relation but today she text me she has found some very special friend then i reply best of luck with you new friend then she said what about your feeling? i replied my feeling is positive then she asked my why? then i replied emoji of laughing so i am very sad now please guide me what should i do to get her back i don't ack like needy she always try to initiate contact with me
what if we dated 4 1/2 years. she was very hurt she caught me texting another I admitted that I kissed this other girl.. 3-4 months later after break she with some one else. we talked aboit marriage until day of break. sje blocked me and changed her number. then unnlocked me on fb for a week then blocked the same month of her rebound...
Clay, in my particular situation, my ex and I have been broken up the last 10 months and upon reconnecting with her initially in December, I’ve been using ARS strategy since February. A lot of progress has been made but the guy she’s dating now has been a fixture in her life since October and until recently they’ve begun dating exclusively. Before then, she was casually dating several people. So what I’m getting at is, he’s not exactly a rebound but someone she has deep feelings for. Do I still continue ARS strategy and the pointers in this video? Thanks.
Me and my girlfriend have broken up about a month ago and she's with someone else, so about 2 weeks ago she asked me if she wanted to go out for dinner and we went out for dinner and we keep going out to places to eat, let's just say I spend more time with her then she does with him. Am I doing good?
that's awesome man. I don't think my ex is seeing someone but it's been a little over a month so the possibility is there, and if she asked you out that's a huge sign, make a damn move. I wish my ex would ask me out :(
That's the one man, I'm trying to get her back. She always tell me not talk to other girls even though she has a boyfriend. I just hope it works out for you and me, just keep picking away at it.
watch more videos of this guy, he's good actually, you'll be able to see what's your next step, I'm just about to finish my no contact (but we have kids so it's kinda hard ) so it seems like the bad vibe is slowly fading away, but I'm not sure if it's because she's moving on or because she's thinking about the good times we had, I'll need to figure that out, anyway, you're not too far man, good luck and hopefully things work out!
That sounds like a bad situation. I had a bad breakup 4 years ago which tipped me in to a big depression, and i caused it too, i ended it with her then wanted to get back her a cople of weeks later. I did all the wrong things. I made one about it some years later that may help others ? If you want to watch it just type in......... " Some blokes guide to relationship breakups" Any comments or feedback on there welcome, im not trying to sell anything or promote religion ! Thanks. Justin
As you mentioned in the vidoe, what if the rebound is a similar guy. My ex has a new bf she knew for 2 years and i can safely say he is quite similar to me. What does this mean?
my x girlfriend is with someone else, she broke up with me in June got with someone eles came back in August an tried to make us work an get back together then wanted to be single but went back an forth with the rebound an another new guy..... she has message me in November an nothing after that she seems happy on facebook an her friend say she is..... do I have a chance to get her back.
Thanks Clay we got into a big arguement over the weekend. she was calling me. alot. before that. now put it back again ohboy. all i got was her call me then hung up. to bad. grrr this break up.its both are fault not making progeress get back together now am trying to romantically get her to call me again to bad
she broke up with me 1 1/2 weeks ago. We didn't have contact since then besides one quick phone call. She got a new boyfriend. Should i contact her and ask for a dinner and give her the option to call me back if she refuses or do no contact? No contact will most certainly lead to her having sex with that guy tho and shes completely in love with him right now so i don't think there is much of a chance for me? Hope to hear from you Clay, Greetings from Austria
What about if my ex girlfriend of almost 2 years is "dating" someone new (I haven't seen nor do I know who this person is that she is dating) I am 33 years old and she's 27 as of yesterday. Her and I sort of split up a month and a half ago, we still talked daily for the majority of the days up until last week I decided to try the no contact, we've been like this before didn't talk for 2-3 days and she reached out, this time I reached out and told her happy birthday. But a quick rundown, her and I get along well, we've been in love with one another. Unfortunately I did tell a lie a few times to her which has hurt her deeply I wish I could take the lies back, we still talk about trying again with one another she just says she needs space to think because she says I may do it to ber again and she says that she thinks I just want to see if I can get her to leave the "situation" alone (her words) and run back to me. That's why I think it's a rebound relationship. We talk about her moving in with me soon, I sent her flowers to her job 2 weeks ago and she cried, so I know she still loves me.. she's sent me pictures of rings, so if she was in a relationship or with a new guy why would she conduct herself like that towards me? Any ideas on how I can get her to feel secure enough to come back to me and be with me? I am genuinely in love with her and I feel that she's still in love with me. Any suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!
Hi Jeff, I'm sorry to hear about the breakup nd we understand that this may be a tough time for you. We hope that you are holding on well. We feel that your ex's may be a bit confused after the breakup, given that it had just happened a month and a half. There could still be a lot of emotions going on. The best thing that you can do right no is to respect your ex's wishes and apply Active No Contact immediately. In that way, you are giving your self that time to work on the Advanced Relational Skills that we teach inside our course. Why don't you send our team an email so we can pick things up from there. Our email is hello@modernlove.life All the best.
kchiang4 9 months is a long time for her not to even reach out to you once. If i were you, I would be the one to finally reach out to her....as long as you're emotionally ready. Good luck!
Hi Todd, We have to hear that non verbal message that is being sent out by our ex or the person. Why do you think they block us? What do you think could she be feeling right now? If you were in her shoes, why do you think you feel that need to block a person temporarily? From there, you will be able to understand where your ex is coming from. :-) All the best.
Clay Andrews that doesn’t explain how I can get through to her. She blocked me because we had a fight and we both said some mean things to each other, but for some reason her things are acceptable and my things are not. So what do I do with that?
Me and my ex ended around a month ago and she is now seeing someone else. I’m the only guys she’s ever loved and it’s not a word that she just throws about. Things ended because we began to argue over little things and in her eyes it became stressful. I last saw her a few weeks ago randomly at the side of the road. I pulled over to see if she’s okay and we chatted for abit. And then we started kissing each other. But nothing came out of this. A few days later I began trying to message her and she told me to concentrate on myself and that when I am good we can meet. My worries are when to reach out to her? As her birthdays in December this could be a good time? But I personally think that could be too long away and by that time I’m worried in case she starts getting serious with the new guy so I was thinking of reaching out in a couple of months? Any advice?
Hi MrFIFATIPZZ, It really depends on your own readiness when it comes to reaching out to her. Just make sure that you have worked on the Advanced Relational Skills that we teach and that is something that you have solidified during the Active No Contact period. You can check this video as well. All the best. >> ruclips.net/video/uuBm8dMCO7s/видео.html
This is just superb, I been tryin to find out about "separated wife is dating" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Jenaniel Forgiveness Blueprint - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.
hi everyone ,if anyone else is searching for best get your ex back book try Grathaw Ex Returner Expert (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my co-worker got excellent success with it.
all that happen to me was, i got strung along while she was with her new boyfriend which eventually she ended up marrying him even after she cheated on him with me a couple times
Hi Amanda, There are no quick fixes in getting our ex back as it is a process that you have to go trough. If you have watched the video, it will provide you the basics to start your journey on a positive foot. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time and we hope that you are holding on well.
+ex in the city dang I'm already moving to another girl :( BUT... Make a video how to impress a girl like what do they like about boys also it's been 9 or 10 months since we had our last conversation I had with my ex so... Yeah
hay clay bro u mean i have to show my ex that i am not that guy with she break up right i show her i am changed i am so attrative i am full diffrent right
What if she told me to come and see the puppies our dog had but i told her i was busy and to text me the next time shes free do i wait on her or do i text her
@@stevenroberts9097 just poped up and I heard it out,,,believe me you don't really want her back after she's been with another,,I've been in that situation and have never been sorry I didn't take her back.
No need for any of this advise in my opinion, going total no contact heals more importantly than anything Give them something that ‘ only you ‘ can give them.. Your absence
It's like asking how deep is deep. It really depends to be honest. Other's may feel that two weeks is too long while others would consider years as too long. So it's a matter of personal perspective.
I know this says "she" but ... My ex husband broke up with me 4 months ago... Begged and pleaded etc.... then in Oct. He told me our divorce was final and he was already dating someone else.... He has "officially" been with her for 2 moths (officially meaning everyone knew he was dating now) They got this i love you mushy stuff all over facebook apparently etc.... Everytime he would talk with me he was cold... I dont need or want anything from you etc..... Text him yesterday just to say merry christmas... no response all of a sudden..... I feel im losing and alone.... Can someone help??? I havent asked him to come back since Oct told him it was good to date etc cuz i didnt want him to know exactly how pissed off i was and how much it hurt..... Im so lost... started ANC 8 days ago finally... but like i said that one text and that was it for a merry christmas to my ugh well ex step son now... :( ..... Have i lost??
+Erica Johnson Hi Erica if you don't mind me calling you that I just want you to know that I have been through a similar experience I was not married to my ex but I was engaged to her and we were in a long distance relationship with her and I was with her for over 5 and a half years and I was engaged to her for over 4 and half years and I did love her with all of my heart and we had our ups and downs and our really bad fights and stuff like that but she ended it with me in mid October of last year but we kept in contact and she went hot and cold with me got close to me one minute then backed off the next. In mid November we got close again but then she backed off and then a couple days later she added this guy on her Facebook and told me he was just a friend anyway on the last week of November I contacted to see about meeting up and stuff and she was fine with and was missing me and she said she couldn't wait to see me and stuff for then a few days later she was making excuses of why we couldn't meet up soon and then all of sudden she is going out with this guy and she didn't tell me and I felt devastated and that she said she didn't love me so I went all the way down to where she stayed to talk to her and she said the same thing to my face even though she was giving me mixed signals by saying one thing and acting like another. They have been together for at least 6 weeks now and they are mushy over each other on Facebook and she blocked me and deleted me like I was nothing to her and that everything I had done for her and everything we had been through together meant nothing as she had conditions with her health and I was always supportive and there for her I wasn't perfect but I would have done anything for her and then she treated me like this and shattered me into a million pieces.The best thing you can do is the Active No Contact rule it really is not easy as you have so many thoughts going on in your head about your ex being with someone and why are they ignoring you because I did the same as yourself and texted her a Merry Christmas and I got nothing back it was like I never existed in her eyes yet she had opened up with me more than any man ever before !!. The best thing you can do is not hang on like you are doing but create your own life and you are not losing at all what you are doing is starting from scratch and rediscovering yourself which is what you need to do. You need to get out and have some fun with your friends and do your hobbies if you have any or try new ones and try to get a grasp on the emotions that you are feeling right now because that is the worst part to be honest is the thoughts in your head and how you feel and if he doesn't respond well that is his problem you are worth so much more than how you are being treated by him so don't try to talk to him at the end of the day you are a strong individual who can get over this and you should never let anyone make you feel this way. I know I'm not a professional but if you don't try to create a happy life for yourself then you will never move on with anything or enjoy anything but if you make that change and do things slowly and the best that you can and now and again subtly make it look to your ex husband that you can live without him then he will start to see that you don't need him and it could make a difference I hope in some way this might have helped and if you need to talk then I'm here to listen. Please take care and just do one step at a time to make things better in your life.
Well I'm glad I could help Erica and remember you are worth more than the way you have been treated and you are an individual and should enjoy life !! :)
Thanks for watching my video. If you'd like to learn more about creating a strong emotional connection with your ex, then check out this: ruclips.net/video/8pM1PxNaYBI/видео.html
I'm a 38 year old male, just had a bad break up with a female who essentially moved on to another female(Stud) she works with. I was in no contact for going on 4 weeks. Just last night she texted me " How are you? And Why haven't you texted me to at least see how I'm doing" after this text I did everything wrong based on your videos. All your RUclips coaching went out the window and my heart and instinct took over. One of Her last statements to me was "And I'm not saying we are Back Together" Our Relationship would be 3 years in June. Any help would be appreciated.
Hi Clay, thanks for this video, How can I be your client?
I like the important point you make about being genuinely prepared to fix what was wrong with yourself in the relationship, because if you're not then you are just setting you both up again for hurt.
That's true, Jeremy. If we want to have a healthy and lasting relationship, we have to make that authentic change inside out to inspire the affection of the other person.
it's hard for me not to beat up my ex rebound
KJ hustle guy real shit
I hired a gunman realtalk
I did homie...
I got you man, her rebound is someone who was supposed to be my friend
If you dont get her back, you can always grab yourself an assault charge instead
Sometimes Its hard to know that they'll won't look at you the same way you look at them
I like the decoy effect. I am a magician and I am all about misdirection
I'm no relationship expert, but why the hell do you want your ex back? I sure as hell wouldn't want my ex back. Think about why it ended in the first place, simple as that. I know it can be hard when the wound is still fresh, but I doubt changing your way of living, looks and even personality will make things much better. Everything is not just about you, it is also about your ex. Don't waste your time on him/her, it will not give you anything but the same shit again.
Because I'm married to my ex, we share a child together. I love her
100 % true
Why would you interact with them though, Coach Corey says you either take it or leave it. If they don't give you what you want, you walk away, especially if they broke up with you
we been broken up 7 months after 10 years
I’m so sorry man. I know what it’s like.
This makes so much sense and inspiring. Thank you, Clay!
her rebound its exactly like me 😂
ivan Ballesteros broooo same asf my exes rebound looks exactly like me 😂 they bout to breakup I'll give it 2 months at best
BlueRayyne broo! sadly they have 6 or 7 months 😂😟
did the rebound fail?
how did it went? did it fail?
Her rebound is my best friend
i feel for u man
FaZe Pompeo yeah man I know it's tough. Me best friend was sleeping with my ex behind my back for months after we broke up. Almost killed me.
hope u blocked them both
Same
Still your bestfriend???????????
My ex and I have had two conversations after our breakup that went fairly well. She is dating someone at the moment and he knows that we have had these conversations. The last conversation we had she bust out in tears saying she doesn't know what to do then she hugged me and told me to hold her tight. We are about to have a semester break for about a month and I want to know will I still have chance with her or no because of time ? Thanks in Advance
my bully has taken mine
What happen
She ain't huggin ya when tryone is throttling her....let go bro
Impossible. except time tells you really 💘 her.
The thing is how do I get this connection back because she doesn’t want to stay in contact with her ex while in another relationship
My ex's rebound smokes weed, cusses like a sailor, is rude to me, uses annoying slang, listens to bad music and Idek everything else. Those are all things my ex knew I was against and she's talking to someone that is gonna lead her to Hell. I changed but it may be too late for me to get her back and recover things, especially because her mom is against us being together -- we're not even supposed to talk, but we still do. She moved to the next county over and this new guy has so many heads over me in the attraction game whether it be not being constrictive/controlling, mean, a loser, etc.
She's started acting like this guy either because I don't try to control her anymore or because she loves him (a better word may be better) and acts like her new love.
I never truly changed myself until it was too late, but there's a girl at Church I think I might start talking to. She's pretty and she seems to love the Lord, but I think she'd just be a rebound because she just "ticks off boxes" such as that she is less toxic/dramatic, maybe has a more conservative relationship with the Lord, etc. I don't wanna do that though:(
we are in 4 years relationship. 3 weeks ago we broke up. now she has new boyfriend. now what should i do. i love her very much how to get back together.
Shivam Vishwas same
She was cheating in you if it that was close to the breakup
What if your in a LDR and she is seeing someone a week before you broke up? she was going through hard times and I wasn't there?
Holy shit we have the same situation lol but mine is a week after
I need help. I've been implementing the decoy affect with my ex. We still stay in contact, and see each other about 2 times a month. I've made major improvements, and he's even commented that I'm doing much better and he's proud of me. I'm so much better than the person I was, but I believe he's dating someone new, and remaining friends with me. How come the decoy affect is not working for me?
Hi Clay! My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. She met this guy at work maybe 4 months ago and eventually left me for him. I tried to chase her back for a week after we split but nothing happened. Then I tried not contacting her 5 days ago. Now she told one of our common friend she misses me. But she's still seeing the other guy. What should I do next?
No contact and self heal, and move on .
What happened to your story? I'm having the same shit as you.
Im scared that I don't stay in friendzone forever.I asked her "do you look at me as friends and think you can never be with me"and she said "why never?" But she has someone now and I hope I dont stay in friendzone
Don't be talking to her none stop if u don't wanna be in the friend zone
Bud please let me explain, my ex is dating someone else and I'm not threatened by the guy. He won't be as good as me, my concern is in her mind if she's dating him then she's not focusing on me, she's non responsive to me and this makes it harder for me to make things beautiful again with her.
This exactly, homie, fuck that other guy. I'm worried about the same thing in my case.
I'm in same situation for my guy ex n I know it will work I just let their relationship take its course 💯
My question is
What if my ex-girlfriend left our 8 years relationship for another dude that she monckey branched me and she claimed to have a good connection with ?
Clay i went to my Ex gfs house today we kissed she told me she loves me but told me about her new boyfriend i need help get her back we got 10 years together i told her think about me her get back together i she goes i know you back of my hand goes i know you better then your self i need help Bud )
Hi Clay, me and my ex got to see each other earlier, we've had lunch and dessert and got to roam around the mall, talking things, catching up on each other and stuff. I got her to laugh too and such, tho we also got to talk about the past but we made it pretty light to laugh it off too. And you know what? We had fun!
We are actually gonna go see each other in weeks time(maybe soon) Moments later, after we went home I saw her on instagram with this other guy she started seeing. (which she told me about as well when we were catching up) A part of me says no matter what the odds Im gonna win even though it hurts like hell. Another part of me says, if I dont do something quick she will end up with that guy. Clay, I felt like im on a race against time I dont know what to do. I wanna do something to get her back fast, but I gotta face the fact I am an ex, so I think I had to take things a bit on a slower pace like rebuilding the friendship, connection and re-arttraction. Yes, I didnt show any form of jealousy towards her new guy. As a matter of fact I didnt react much when she says that. I dont know what to do at this point, I don't wanna give up on her yet. Can I still stay and keep fighting? Or no, live and let die? I am getting pretty anxious and nervous. :(
Hey Darren, how did things pan out for you?
@@maybugz it's already been a year since this happened. In the end I just gave it up and moved on and she didn't get the guy she liked too (she told me all that like many months later after I made this comment)
Thankfully, she and I got to rebuild our friendship til today. Lots of stuff to learn I'll give you that.
@@darrendecepida6204 yeh it's nice when you can put all that shit far behind you and still talk as friends without all that emotional turmoil.
Update?
@@karlbeats4026 To make it short. I've moved on.
You should do and q&a video or answer someone's question about their relational (failed or not)
Hi Clay, I have been in No contact for most of the 3 months, very little texting. Since that time I have worked on my self and turned my self into the new Alpha Male.
I have used your advice and have just had a coffee with by ex , I did not mention anything about the relation. It all went really well.
Just some things that I notest; she look upset/fedup but the main thing was she would not look at me in my eyes, it was as if she was talking to an invisible person to her right, she would only look into my eyes when I looked away.
I could do with some help please.
Thank you and good work.
Either there is no contact you dont meet and text and claim no contact...weakAF
+Clay Andrews I broke up with my girlfriend and she is now dating someone else. but we already broke up ones and got together again, is there a chance it will happen again?
I'm in the same situation, how did it go for you? FOcus on the positives, try an make her laugh!
I just contacted my ex after a month of no contact, everything was light and bubbly until she told me that her nieces funeral is tomo, she currently has a boyfriend. I don't know what to do??????
My ex of 2 1/2 years rebound is my Friend/second cousin and we look a lot alike. We played in a band together and when i started dating her, our band was falling apart anyway and i was done and he was controlling of me in the band and didn't talk to me after for the longest time after i "broke up" with him. we did make up or whatever and everything seamed "cool" for a while but he never cared about me look back at it now. make a long story short they work next to each other and have been slowly talking for months and now and she has been emotionally attached to him at the least the whole time,and never really broke up with me. she would text me and say she doesnt know whats going on,she doesn't want to be with anyone let alone me,only thing that kept us apart was herself. and i told her i miss her and she replied back she misses me too up until a month ago, then i found out that they were talking and hanging out and they both denied it,told me everythings gonna be okay and she did a total flip flop and said that it i need to help myself,its was all my problems and suffering that ruined everything and she had done all she could to help me see it. theirs a lot of missing information that probably should be here but hope you can understand what i'm going through
I did no contact with my ex when he started dating someone new and told me to forget he exists he has contacted me to ask how I'm doing I said good and than he contacted me again a month later saying hey I replied 3 days later cause I didn't see the fb message and he didn't reply back to me at all??? I still love him but why he did that
Emily Marie same girl
The question is how to get in touch with your ex again. You want to show her the new 'you' but you also don't want to look needy.
+Kevin Roos The answer is you never contact them or care about showing them the ''new you'' cause chances are they are already with someone else don't really care.
Rock N hey ur here too
I just say hallo. No talk. Just positive eye contact.
How has that been working for you?
Clay Andrews first time: like a normal shy stranger, busy with the phone. I said hallo however because she noticed me, i was on my way. Second: i didnt aknowledge her , wr both wainting on the streetlight, and looked at her as she were another girl at the other side of the street. So i was natural staring but not so focused and she smiled like controlling the smile shy, it was maybe like a joke for her(?). She said hallo first. After these day she meet another guy, but hier at the uni such encounters can mean nothing: hands and kiss and didnt see yet.
Yesterday i was on similar situation: now she passed by, but i was hearing music and learning, and look to a friend fixed. I didn’t want to systematically greet and „be there“ for her. Because its maybe already too much that when i see her i look for passing by or be noticed (?) here can be another danger: it should be really not a childish showing up.
I want to look at her with good vibe and cause that she reacts to me first. Thats my „plan“. Another thing is the social sufocation: the guy she may be dating is on a group of friends in which I am the older one, so he kind respect me naturally. I lost her because of a false accusation of sexual harassment or stalking. Now i managed to prove the contrary and get my inscription in the university back and other things.
Criminalization of flirting or reaching out or approaching should be one very important discussion after the feminism as a authoritarian movement. What you saw on movies or literature should not be criminalized.
I fear your videos tends to the nice guy staff (?) anyway i thank you SO MUCH. A video on topic hallo, positioning and body language is FUnDAMENTaL and i never find it on youtube, only similar ones where a nice ex is already presumed...
Hey. I really want my ex-ish back bad and I don't know want to do because there isn't a video on exactly my situation. She had been talking to a boy much longer then she had been talking to me but we started talking and quickly we started hanging out and she told me she was going to stop talking to this kid. After she stopped talking to this kid we were going to become official and she knew that. But she stopped talking to me and became official with the other kid. I fucked up and sent her over emotional text. I don't know what to do , all I know is I just want her back so bad. I would do anything in the world to be with her again.
hey, what if I finish the no contact rule right now and I've found out that my ex is in a rebound? Should I contact her as you said after the no contact or wait until they finish and just continuing work on my self?
thanks and love your videos!
Could you make a video on how to actually get your ex to talk to you and hang out with you when they’re seeing someone? We are talking but I feel like she is holding up out of respect for her rebound. And anytime I’ve asked to meet up for coffee or hang out she politely declined and says we can plan something soon but never actually follows through??
Hey Josh, It is important that you have to be mindful of your ex's emotional readiness. We cannot convince someone to hang out with us if they are not fully comfortable with. That is why Advanced Relational Skills are the basic foundation of the process and not just the techniques.
Im in no contact and after more then 5 months she finally started interacting with another guy about 1,5 weeks ago. I think she dated on Sunday. I know I shouldnt really know, it isnt like I got it from social media or common friends, but I kinda fell in the trap that I noticed she was online on whatsapp and got sucked into monitoring it. Normally she didnt come online for days and now she is online pretty much for hours a day.
Anyways doesnt matter, Im leaving on a holiday in 4 days. So what do I do? Break no contact before I leave or wait till after. In 16 days its her birthday, maybe reach out then. Or should I just go over and try to talk things out.
How do I approach this. I mean in two weeks a lot can happen. But if I contact now then Im gone for like 10 days on a holiday, the timing is kinda bad...
Sidenote, the activity is dropping since yesterday. Maybe it didnt go that well and its in my interest to let this bleed out and just send something on her birthday. My birthday was a month ago and she also congratulated me. Honestly if she hooks up with him in 4 weeks its obviously she tries to get over me and I need to rethink if I want her anyways. Also when Im back from holiday I got something interesting to tell.
Its kinda a gamble if she is into this new guy or if he fucks up. I actually think her first date might be dissapointing after me. Not to be to arrogant, but my first date was also me kinda lowering the bar just to ‘have something going’ and I feel after 5 months she might feel that she should date others since she wanted this break up. Lot of guessing, but oh well, any advice would be appreciated.
Why does my ex listent to her brother who says not to be with me?
+Matt Brady or her best friend and not me
I was very horrible boyfriend in the begging of my 2 year relationship and I waited too long to improve upon it now she's gone with someone else who she's admitted to me she feels trapped but also wants to be with him at the time. could this work for me???
can the decoy effect still works if she blocked me in social media and she always tell to our co workers that she is not interested at me at all since me and my ex are co workers even in our mutual friends outside work she still always tells that she don't love me and not interested in me anymore
I need a video on what I should do... My girl and i dated for 13 months, we just broke up, she says she doesn't want us back together, that it wasn't meant to be, that i did stuff and told her those things were easy to change if it meant losin her, we cried a lil n she told me no still, she says she wants me to be happy and move on, what do i do? I really love her still, she loves me still but we're done, help?
We broke up 5 months ago and she's only just started going out with this guy, we are in college so I see her everyday and she tried to hide it from me.. what should I do
What if we haven’t been in contact for a year she is dating someone new I dated someone new and realized what she really meant to me
Hey clay, So do you focus on The emotional connection after doing active no contact?
Hi Kathy, Not necessarily after ANC. The connection has to develop in a gradual manner. Start with something light and more comfortable for both of you. Also, you need to define what you mean by emotional connection. Because two people can be emotionally connected as long as the interaction results to a positive experience. All the best. :-)
What if your not talking though? Or that her stuff is still at yours (being apart almost 4 months) was together 10 years but is seeing someone else who’s doing “all the right things” at the moment taking her places and buying stuff (which she told me it wasn’t about those things) when I mentioned about doing them
Hey my ex is currntly with another guy and me and her had several emotional conversations in person since the breakup. She cried once and said that she does not know ehere to put her self and she hugged me and said I miss you. Do I still have a chance with her?
what if she doesn't want to talk to you? how would you work for the betterment of your connection then?
Clay, but how do you make that connection if you are broken up and have been for a long while???
what should i do i see my GF with another guy two times now i feel she loose interest in me and still, she initiates contact with me should i breakup with her because when i told her to hang out with me she makes an excess she is busy and I know she is not busy I cannot talk about another guy maybe she feel me week and jealous . i want to go in no contact but I cannot because we are in the same university and we almost see every day before she used to text and video call me every night but now she dont .I rarely initiate contact with her in the night i am confused. This is happening from last week
Hi Alex, It is important for both of you to have a healthy conversation to understand each other. Seeing your GF with another guy will just feed some assumptions on your end because you feel that she lost interest with you. Try to have an open communication to understand where both of you are coming from. Avoid assumption and doing drastic decisions out of being emotional. But instead try to understand the whole situation before making any decisions. All the best.
I have a situation and tbh it’s driving me mad, started getting my ex back within 2-3 weeks she left her relation came over hung out till late, then they got back together a week later, then 2-3 weeks passed she broke up with him deleted all his photos, she came over that weekend hung out slept together both nights (not sex) seemed like we were having a great time she kept not wanting to leave. Then the very next day she says she needs space fast forward 2 weeks we chat occasionally then bam she posts that she’s going on a date with the dude she just broke up with... I’m so connnfused? Welll I posted this comment yesterday I asked her last night what was going on she was hot n cold and she then messaged me to call her... it wasent her it was her boyfriend now I’m blocked on all socials... I didn’t even do anything I’m so sad seems like meant nothing
Hey, guys Me n my ex have been broken up for n we haven't talked 5 months she is dating someone. found out she was with someone for the passed 2 months. So I did a drunk text that was embarrassing, I didnt beg her back, I just told her that I blamed myself but I think she has some to blame. and I told her I found out about the guy. n asked for the real reason for the break up (which I feel like I know) so I could get closer.... she saw it but never replied.
truth is I want her back... and I'm thinking of sending a fb message (not friends) but I'm thinking of apologizing for that since it happened a week ago.
"hey, wanted to apologize for my last message. it was just my anxiety. Hope ur having a great day!
OR should I not apologize and just go straight to a feel good text..
which I dont know what to put.
any advice please
Our relationship w/ my ex 2 years, she broke up me after our 2nd anniversary. After 3 months of break up, my ex hanging out w/ my best friend.
Do I feel bad?
+Ryanzkie Blue i could totally relate to that. right now mine are living together and its disgusting. if worse comes to worse its easier to see him as some sort or splenda you that she is trying to use as a substitute of you.
well my ex got a new BF that lives in Florida and we live all the way on the other side of the country. me and her still hang out and talk. I can make her laugh a lot but idk if she wants me instead of him. she's moving to Florida next year though so what do you think I should do?
Gf of 8+ years broke up. Been 3 months now. She started dating a guy exactly the same as me but 8 years younger (Asian, married with 2 children). They were work buddies for one year. I have done NC for one month and improved myself.
Ex and me have had no contact for the last month as she felt it was unfair on her relationship.
Any suggestion on how to proceed?
start contacting her via sms
where does no contact play in this
My ex’s rebound looks like me and his sister Ashleigh looks like my sister Ashleigh
Me and my ex Broke up a little over a year ago. She has been dating the new guy for almost a year I was in another relationship also I’m finding out I still love my ex what are the chances she feels the same
following no contact as suggested..after 32 days i msgd her..and got positive reply ...now in big dilema ..should I continue as step by step path shown by u(msg her on 3/4/5 alternate days as per her response) ...or can i hang it for 18 days ...as I have my life changing exams ,n have to revise for dat ...if I get negative respose it can deviate me again ,till d time wat i have achieved via no contact (mental peace/confidence) will lost again ...how should I proceed....
thanks aloot ..for the right path u have shown till date .. date ..thank
What if your ex broke up with their rebound to get with someone else?? Good video btw
Drfinnest16 leave her alone. You see her pattern?
Dear Clay, my ex and I did have a bad break up. Ik was not paying attention during the last months of our relationship and sometimes I was negative towards her. When she did break up she did a sudden clean break up. I havent heard from her since and she did not reply to any of my texts or calls. I ended up stalking her a few times meeting her at her house and after work to speak with her, she immiately called the police so I went away. Now after 5 weeks she did start dating someone new. I dont know what to do as there is no contact at all with her so I have no option to have a light or positive contact with her. I do know that after our 2 year relationship I find her really suitable for me and I really want her back. Do you have any advice for me? Thanks in advance. Karl
Pieter abc try the NC!!
Lol.. Worse thing happened! She went for my best friend. We weren't best friends without a reason! We acted just alike she saw in him what she saw in me expect he came out nicer because I had a lot of stuff going on and couldn't focus myself around her.
if he's actually a good friend of yours he'd back off
Hi Clay!
But what about my case where my ex girlfriend broke up with me about two months ago and she has been dating another one a month ago?! I am shocked I do not even want her I don't know?! I think she liked him during our relationship because our argument and break up was because of him and she always speak good about him. She is stone cold and she said that she did not believe in relationship and is now dating another dude?!
What should I or can I do?! Pls help!
She said that everything was just a mess!!
she's a mess. stay far away from her!
Hi Clay I haven't seen or talked to my Ex for more than 30 days and she said to my friend behind my back that the relationstip was a total mess and that she also regrets of ever being in a relationstip with me? She had a husband before but she did not seem bother or have any problem when he was out with other chicks at town! What should I know and how can I understatements her more because she is a tough and cold woman!
How can I learn to understand her more and kind of making her appreciate me? I don't wanna lose more time because I am scared to death that she would meet someone else or it would be easier for her to move on, she have had two relationships one where she was married for over 11 years where she also has a daughter with her ex husband! Now only a month after our breake up she let many unknown student guys and girls to sleep over at her house without her daughter being there?! God knows what has happened those night?!?!?! But are there still an ounce of hope left?? Than
+Abid Khan You sound desperate for a girl that doesn't give a fuck, just move on. there's nothing you really can actively do to get her back You're the only one still holding on to something that has passed. She can't be loyal so why would want her back anyway?
what's the point of getting back someone who doesn't care about your feelings enough to unrespect you and going out dating people? fuck it dude, we need someone who who doesn't go there getting on dates once they finish the relationship, it's about respect with yourself although it may hurt not getting her back and drowning yourself in alcohol and sadness we should put ourselves in first place, no matter what, is a sense of commitment.
Where are u Clay?we need new video
+Chessia Teta Imma working on it, Chessia. Moving back to the USA, holidays and finding a place to call home has set my video schedule back. I PROMISE you'll see more of me soon:)
+Chessia Teta interesting points ,if anyone else wants to discover get your ex back now try Morundan Get Back Mastery (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my partner got great success with it.
+Dominic Willson arent there for free? Seems like everywhere one has to pay for it
+Chessia Teta I have spent months studying making your ex want you back and discovered a fantastic resource at Partner Reboot Recipe (google it if you are interested)
+Clay Andrews - hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to discover best get your ex back book try Stiklind Text Ex Fixer (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my mate got great success with it.
I was surfing all information about a rebound relationship, everybody are saying don't worry about other relationship, but he is rubbing in my face how he is better off with a new woman. I dig dipper, there no love, and no sexual attraction. Finally she made him stop talking to me, he doesn't response to my messages or phone calls. It had been 4 month since we broke up. What should I do?
+Marina Sw
I was in such situation in the past
NEVER THOUGHT I COULD EVER BE HAPPY AGAIN BUT
WHEN I MET the great Dr.KALAMASHAKA. ALL MY PROBLEMS BECAME STORY
It all started with a small argument after that he stopped picking my calls and replying my sms,I was so sad, one day he finally called and said it was over. I tried everything possible to get him back but it did not work until I met Dr. KALAMASHAKA and told him my problem in which he told me all my problems will be solved within 48 hrs which I thought was impossible until the same man that told me it is was over came to my office and begged for my forgiveness publicly with roses in his arms it was the happiest day of my life having the love of my life back in my arms.we have been together now for 6 months and the love between us is now stronger than ever.If you are a woman or a man and you are facing any kind of problem in your relationship or marriage quickly contact the great man of spell directly on email: jkalamashaka@yahoo.com
Ashley
Massachussett, USA
s.y2k@aol.com
+Marina Sw maybe just maaaaaybe... fucking forget about him?? I was in the same situation you were and I bullshitted myself into believing the advice from this idiot works, and believe me it mostly doesn't. It's not gonna work out if you broke up... ever
James Cavill thanks! It had been 3 mo since I posted my comment. A lot of things changed, he finally kicked her out, but things do not work btw us as it used to be. On the top of it, I just found he cheated on me with her, and I do not know how to react to it. (we haven't spoke yet since saw each other the last time)
hi coach plz guide me i have been in realtion with one girl we have very good relation but today she text me she has found some very special friend then i reply best of luck with you new friend then she said what about your feeling? i replied my feeling is positive then she asked my why? then i replied emoji of laughing so i am very sad now please guide me what should i do to get her back i don't ack like needy she always try to initiate contact with me
what if we dated 4 1/2 years. she was very hurt she caught me texting another I admitted that I kissed this other girl.. 3-4 months later after break she with some one else. we talked aboit marriage until day of break. sje blocked me and changed her number. then unnlocked me on fb for a week then blocked the same month of her rebound...
help please I think here sistr s are jealouse
Clay, in my particular situation, my ex and I have been broken up the last 10 months and upon reconnecting with her initially in December, I’ve been using ARS strategy since February. A lot of progress has been made but the guy she’s dating now has been a fixture in her life since October and until recently they’ve begun dating exclusively. Before then, she was casually dating several people. So what I’m getting at is, he’s not exactly a rebound but someone she has deep feelings for. Do I still continue ARS strategy and the pointers in this video? Thanks.
Me and my girlfriend have broken up about a month ago and she's with someone else, so about 2 weeks ago she asked me if she wanted to go out for dinner and we went out for dinner and we keep going out to places to eat, let's just say I spend more time with her then she does with him. Am I doing good?
that's awesome man. I don't think my ex is seeing someone but it's been a little over a month so the possibility is there, and if she asked you out that's a huge sign, make a damn move. I wish my ex would ask me out :(
That's the one man, I'm trying to get her back. She always tell me not talk to other girls even though she has a boyfriend. I just hope it works out for you and me, just keep picking away at it.
watch more videos of this guy, he's good actually, you'll be able to see what's your next step, I'm just about to finish my no contact (but we have kids so it's kinda hard ) so it seems like the bad vibe is slowly fading away, but I'm not sure if it's because she's moving on or because she's thinking about the good times we had, I'll need to figure that out, anyway, you're not too far man, good luck and hopefully things work out!
Hay Esperanza how does it work with no contact if u have kids together how does it wrk
She's friend zoning you
Does this apply on everyone? men and lgbt relationships as well?
What if you work with your ex should you use limited contact for 30 days before using quality time?
That sounds like a bad situation. I had a bad breakup 4 years ago which tipped me in to a big depression, and i caused it too, i ended it with her then wanted to get back her a cople of weeks later. I did all the wrong things. I made one about it some years later that may help others ? If you want to watch it just type in......... " Some blokes guide to relationship breakups" Any comments or feedback on there welcome, im not trying to sell anything or promote religion ! Thanks. Justin
As you mentioned in the vidoe, what if the rebound is a similar guy. My ex has a new bf she knew for 2 years and i can safely say he is quite similar to me. What does this mean?
my x girlfriend is with someone else, she broke up with me in June got with someone eles came back in August an tried to make us work an get back together then wanted to be single but went back an forth with the rebound an another new guy..... she has message me in November an nothing after that she seems happy on facebook an her friend say she is..... do I have a chance to get her back.
Why would you want that? You are not an option. Choose you or be gone. Fuck that...
Thanks Clay we got into a big arguement over the weekend. she was calling me. alot. before that. now put it back again ohboy. all i got was her call me then hung up. to bad. grrr this break up.its both are fault not making progeress get back together now am trying to romantically get her to call me again to bad
she broke up with me 1 1/2 weeks ago.
We didn't have contact since then besides one quick phone call.
She got a new boyfriend.
Should i contact her and ask for a dinner and give her the option to call me back if she refuses or do no contact?
No contact will most certainly lead to her having sex with that guy tho and shes completely in love with him right now so i don't think there is much of a chance for me?
Hope to hear from you Clay,
Greetings from Austria
Nah a girl dosent fall in love that quickly she is just using him because she can't deal with the breakup!
.......Her name was Freya..... :'(
What about if my ex girlfriend of almost 2 years is "dating" someone new (I haven't seen nor do I know who this person is that she is dating) I am 33 years old and she's 27 as of yesterday. Her and I sort of split up a month and a half ago, we still talked daily for the majority of the days up until last week I decided to try the no contact, we've been like this before didn't talk for 2-3 days and she reached out, this time I reached out and told her happy birthday. But a quick rundown, her and I get along well, we've been in love with one another. Unfortunately I did tell a lie a few times to her which has hurt her deeply I wish I could take the lies back, we still talk about trying again with one another she just says she needs space to think because she says I may do it to ber again and she says that she thinks I just want to see if I can get her to leave the "situation" alone (her words) and run back to me. That's why I think it's a rebound relationship. We talk about her moving in with me soon, I sent her flowers to her job 2 weeks ago and she cried, so I know she still loves me.. she's sent me pictures of rings, so if she was in a relationship or with a new guy why would she conduct herself like that towards me? Any ideas on how I can get her to feel secure enough to come back to me and be with me? I am genuinely in love with her and I feel that she's still in love with me. Any suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!
Hi Jeff, I'm sorry to hear about the breakup nd we understand that this may be a tough time for you. We hope that you are holding on well. We feel that your ex's may be a bit confused after the breakup, given that it had just happened a month and a half. There could still be a lot of emotions going on. The best thing that you can do right no is to respect your ex's wishes and apply Active No Contact immediately. In that way, you are giving your self that time to work on the Advanced Relational Skills that we teach inside our course. Why don't you send our team an email so we can pick things up from there. Our email is hello@modernlove.life
All the best.
My ex's rebound looks strikingly similar to me. What does this mean and does the decoy effect apply?
@Ryan, even how similar your ex's rebound looks like with you, you will still have a unique personality. Yes, the decoy strategy can still be applied.
It means he throttling her and you're not...move on
What if my ex still isn't making contact even after 9 months of no contact?
kchiang4 9 months is a long time for her not to even reach out to you once. If i were you, I would be the one to finally reach out to her....as long as you're emotionally ready. Good luck!
Fuck that shit move on bro. Ik it hurts but move on. 9mouths damn you could of had to girls by then
I think you should of tried contacting her a few months after the break up or less
What if it's her ex she is with again ?
but what do you do if shes blocked you from calling or texting her?
Hi Todd, We have to hear that non verbal message that is being sent out by our ex or the person. Why do you think they block us? What do you think could she be feeling right now? If you were in her shoes, why do you think you feel that need to block a person temporarily? From there, you will be able to understand where your ex is coming from. :-) All the best.
Clay Andrews that doesn’t explain how I can get through to her. She blocked me because we had a fight and we both said some mean things to each other, but for some reason her things are acceptable and my things are not. So what do I do with that?
Me and my ex ended around a month ago and she is now seeing someone else. I’m the only guys she’s ever loved and it’s not a word that she just throws about. Things ended because we began to argue over little things and in her eyes it became stressful.
I last saw her a few weeks ago randomly at the side of the road. I pulled over to see if she’s okay and we chatted for abit. And then we started kissing each other. But nothing came out of this. A few days later I began trying to message her and she told me to concentrate on myself and that when I am good we can meet.
My worries are when to reach out to her? As her birthdays in December this could be a good time? But I personally think that could be too long away and by that time I’m worried in case she starts getting serious with the new guy so I was thinking of reaching out in a couple of months?
Any advice?
Hi MrFIFATIPZZ, It really depends on your own readiness when it comes to reaching out to her. Just make sure that you have worked on the Advanced Relational Skills that we teach and that is something that you have solidified during the Active No Contact period. You can check this video as well. All the best. >> ruclips.net/video/uuBm8dMCO7s/видео.html
how to get your ex back when shes dating someone else make sure you get a hotter girl to make her jealous lol or win the lottery!
If you really want your ex back,
you need to go watch this video, right now!
Watch Now===>>>>> MyExLove4Ever.blogspot.com
This is just superb, I been tryin to find out about "separated wife is dating" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Jenaniel Forgiveness Blueprint - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.
hi everyone ,if anyone else is searching for best get your ex back book try Grathaw Ex Returner Expert (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my co-worker got excellent success with it.
all that happen to me was, i got strung along while she was with her new boyfriend which eventually she ended up marrying him even after she cheated on him with me a couple times
I found this video on Magic Returner Miracle - there's many good videos there that should help out
how do u get ur ex back when u love her and need her but she is with ur best friend and u are slowly dieing
Hi Amanda, There are no quick fixes in getting our ex back as it is a process that you have to go trough. If you have watched the video, it will provide you the basics to start your journey on a positive foot. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time and we hope that you are holding on well.
I broke up with my girlfriend like 4months ago how can I get her back how can I tell her that I want her back?
+ex in the city dang I'm already moving to another girl :( BUT... Make a video how to impress a girl like what do they like about boys also it's been 9 or 10 months since we had our last conversation I had with my ex so... Yeah
hay clay bro u mean i have to show my ex that i am not that guy with she break up right i show her i am changed i am so attrative i am full diffrent right
how to be a stalker 101
her new boyfriend is new
Thank you
Should i give her active no contacT?
how can i do this if she deleted me off everything and doesn't speak to me?
What if she told me to come and see the puppies our dog had but i told her i was busy and to text me the next time shes free do i wait on her or do i text her
She may have taken that as you blowing her off. So, if you want to be in contact with her, you're probably going to have to initiate things yourself.
Clay Andrews what if she is talking to someone else
Why the hell would a real man want her back??? I know I wouldn't.
Everyone must make their own choices. "Real men" and "fake men" alike.
Then why are you here?? 🤣
@@stevenroberts9097 just poped up and I heard it out,,,believe me you don't really want her back after she's been with another,,I've been in that situation and have never been sorry I didn't take her back.
No need for any of this advise in my opinion, going total no contact heals more importantly than anything
Give them something that ‘ only you ‘ can give them..
Your absence
How to do this if she blocked you etc then
He was the only one who was able to help me out if you need help.. 🌹🌹
W.h.a.t.s.a.p.p h.i.m.. 🌹🌹
+ 2 3 4 9 0 2 2 6 7 9 2 7 8 🌹
What is the world is all this ?
It was so good until the needless shaming at the end lol
How long is too long apart?
It's like asking how deep is deep. It really depends to be honest. Other's may feel that two weeks is too long while others would consider years as too long. So it's a matter of personal perspective.
@Clay Andrews 6 years together. 2 years apart. 1 year NC.
What if i already attacked his new?
SAAHAK lol what did you do ?
Lol same. At least he's dead now.
I know this says "she" but ... My ex husband broke up with me 4 months ago... Begged and pleaded etc.... then in Oct. He told me our divorce was final and he was already dating someone else.... He has "officially" been with her for 2 moths (officially meaning everyone knew he was dating now) They got this i love you mushy stuff all over facebook apparently etc.... Everytime he would talk with me he was cold... I dont need or want anything from you etc..... Text him yesterday just to say merry christmas... no response all of a sudden..... I feel im losing and alone.... Can someone help??? I havent asked him to come back since Oct told him it was good to date etc cuz i didnt want him to know exactly how pissed off i was and how much it hurt..... Im so lost... started ANC 8 days ago finally... but like i said that one text and that was it for a merry christmas to my ugh well ex step son now... :( ..... Have i lost??
+Erica Johnson Hi Erica if you don't mind me calling you that I just want you to know that I have been through a similar experience I was not married to my ex but I was engaged to her and we were in a long distance relationship with her and I was with her for over 5 and a half years and I was engaged to her for over 4 and half years and I did love her with all of my heart and we had our ups and downs and our really bad fights and stuff like that but she ended it with me in mid October of last year but we kept in contact and she went hot and cold with me got close to me one minute then backed off the next. In mid November we got close again but then she backed off and then a couple days later she added this guy on her Facebook and told me he was just a friend anyway on the last week of November I contacted to see about meeting up and stuff and she was fine with and was missing me and she said she couldn't wait to see me and stuff for then a few days later she was making excuses of why we couldn't meet up soon and then all of sudden she is going out with this guy and she didn't tell me and I felt devastated and that she said she didn't love me so I went all the way down to where she stayed to talk to her and she said the same thing to my face even though she was giving me mixed signals by saying one thing and acting like another. They have been together for at least 6 weeks now and they are mushy over each other on Facebook and she blocked me and deleted me like I was nothing to her and that everything I had done for her and everything we had been through together meant nothing as she had conditions with her health and I was always supportive and there for her I wasn't perfect but I would have done anything for her and then she treated me like this and shattered me into a million pieces.The best thing you can do is the Active No Contact rule it really is not easy as you have so many thoughts going on in your head about your ex being with someone and why are they ignoring you because I did the same as yourself and texted her a Merry Christmas and I got nothing back it was like I never existed in her eyes yet she had opened up with me more than any man ever before !!. The best thing you can do is not hang on like you are doing but create your own life and you are not losing at all what you are doing is starting from scratch and rediscovering yourself which is what you need to do. You need to get out and have some fun with your friends and do your hobbies if you have any or try new ones and try to get a grasp on the emotions that you are feeling right now because that is the worst part to be honest is the thoughts in your head and how you feel and if he doesn't respond well that is his problem you are worth so much more than how you are being treated by him so don't try to talk to him at the end of the day you are a strong individual who can get over this and you should never let anyone make you feel this way. I know I'm not a professional but if you don't try to create a happy life for yourself then you will never move on with anything or enjoy anything but if you make that change and do things slowly and the best that you can and now and again subtly make it look to your ex husband that you can live without him then he will start to see that you don't need him and it could make a difference I hope in some way this might have helped and if you need to talk then I'm here to listen. Please take care and just do one step at a time to make things better in your life.
Thank you!!!! That helped me tremendously! !!!
Well I'm glad I could help Erica and remember you are worth more than the way you have been treated and you are an individual and should enjoy life !! :)
My ach/brother, you are right.