6 Things I Definitely Won't Accomplish By 30 | The Financial Diet
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Chelsea shares scary things no one tells you about turning 30 in this video: ruclips.net/video/StU2WN4PSDY/видео.html.
I'd like to speak to a couple of your points, I'm 63 and looking back at my life:
1.) I got married at 19 and we never had kids as I didn't think I'd be a good mother. I'm not sorry about that one bit. It was good decision.
2.) We bought a house at 21 for $14,500.00 that was real fixer upper. We are still living there in 2018.
3.) When I was 35, my employer paid for me to take classes at the University of Akron for Electronic Technology and I was able to transfer to the highest paid union job in the company. I was subsequently promoted to management from the union job and increased my salary by 10% over the union job. I also got additional bonuses and benefits.
You never know which path is best, you just have to go with your gut and find your way in life.
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Speaking as a millennial:
1) I know some people who would struggle to afford even one kid and yet are constantly being bombarded with the message that they MUST have kids.
2) Buying a house is not remotely possible for many people in their 30's, let alone at 21. And yes, this is despite living very frugally. You can't save up for a down payment if you barely make enough to cover rent and food.
3) These days people are grateful if their employer even pays a living wage and provides health insurance. A job that would be willing to invest in your education and training, and allow you to unionize, is a fantasy for most people.
slphaccad I’m 22, married, lived in a skoolie to save up money and plan to buy land in a few years. It’s possible if you think outside of the box. Don’t victimize yourself, overcome the hardships!!
@@SynterraSteen just because you can do it, doesn't mean everyone can. Good for you, but all situations are different.
6 Things I Definitely Won't Accomplish By 30
1. Cut something out of my diet 1:04
2. Have kids 3:44
3. Stop having acne 5:55
4. Own a home 8:20
5. Have an adult wardrobe 10:50
6. Get a college degree 13:13
Silbersilben thank you!!!
Spoiler!!! ;)
Not all heroes wear capes...
Thank you!
You are awesome. Thank you!
Turning 30 - today , i didn't accomplish any of this ..but I got my salary yesterday and paid last payment on car
MiriamNone
Congratulations! That too is an accomplishment.
Congrats on paying off your car!! It's a big accomplishment. If you are feeling motivated, start saving the amount of the car payment in an account for your next car. It's good to be ahead of the curve for such a big expense.
Thank you. I will start saving. Although I do agree that it's important to be ahead I don't want to stuck in thinking of car, the car is done. Its time to move on.
Happy late birthday and congratulations!!
Wierd flex but ok
Well done for being so honest about not wanting to have kids. I honestly think not everyone is suitable for that and I don’t want them myself, instead I’m going to travel the world because this is the only thing I will ever regret not doing.
I turned 30 last month and am graduating from the university this year. I was told many times I’m a failure for not going to the university sooner and not having a career at 30. The point is no one should tell what to do and when to do it.
I went to university at 18 and finished my Master at 29. I have 2 Bachelors and a Master now and it took me a year to find a job. For which I didnt even need a degree. Such is life.
seraphiccandy21 Are you happy with what you do now and what you have achieved? You must be a very smart person
I felt like such a failure for not going to school sooner for such a long time, but I graduated at 30, and now I'm 32. I work a good job. I live in an area I love. My savings and retirement aren't what I wish they were but we are working hard to catch up. Life is so much better than it was before I went back to school and had to constantly struggle just to make ends meet. The point I'm trying to make is that I felt like a massive failure for so long for not accomplishing things fast enough, but I'm glad I've moved at my own pace and I think you should be proud of your accomplishments.
Angela Quillen I just had my final exam today so it's all done and official :) You're right, I'm learning to be proud about what I did and it's great to hear that you did acomplished something important to you too :)
@Joannaa I think happy is a strong term. I suppose you could say I am content. In the time it took me to finish my degrees both my parents passed away. Neither of them ever saw me in my first job. Neither of them will be at my wedding or see my children one day . I always hoped to support them when I had a good job one day but now that wont happen.
During my studies I thought that simply having as many degrees would immidiently get me a good job when I graduated. I didnt realise how important experience is. I am not in the job I hoped for much less dreamed of. But I am earning a decent wage. I have some friends and keep in contact with my brother who lives 4 hours away. I'm fine and its okay.
Everything you talked about in this video is about self awareness. Being okay with the fact that we aren't perfect humans and that we don't have to fall in line with societies time line of how we should live our life. I love that you speak the truth about owning a home. It's not always for everyone, and that's okay. Same thing about not wanting to have kids because you think you wouldn't be a good parent because of your personality traits. Thank you for sharing.
As someone who is starting a doctorate this fall...
People with doctorates are often just as clueless as everyone else. It just means you know a ton about a specific thing. If I'm not talking about educational policies that affect English language learners or different pedagogical practices that properly support ELLs, I'm almost certainly out of my element.
WMDistraction What was your reason for starting your PhD, if I might ask? Research? I'm almost done with my graduate work in TESOL.
It's an EdD, actually, because I wanted a more practice-focused degree.
The reason I started it is because I looked at the types of jobs I wanted (professor, district-level education administrator) and the people who had those jobs, and practically all of them had a PhD or EdD, leaning toward EdD. It's also been a life goal of mine, and I could afford it, so I went for it. Chances are that it's probably going to increase my income to some extent while also greatly increasing my job opportunities.
Oddly enough, despite it being a practice-focused degree, my dissertation (as I envision it 5 semesters out, and we all know how the best laid plans go...) will probably be very theory-based, since that kind of analysis has been my wheelhouse since I can remember.
WMDistraction I would like to get a doctorate as well, but it will have to wait. Best of luck!
WMDistraction I have way too many different interests to go for a doctorate! To pick one interest or narrow it down would mean I would be neglecting major sections of who I am. Maybe it's my age...but I feel like it is not.
I admire those, like yourself, who can specialize in one or two things!
I mean, I have a ton of interests, but not all of those can make a return on investing in education or I'm already far too specialized to appreciably improve my credentials in other skills I have in comparison. Video and board games are hobbies that will, in all likelihood, never make me a dime, I never want to make music a profession, and my programming skills are below average, so leveraging my ESL skillset for a salary seems a good route. Having a doctorate does not mean closing out other interests by any means.
I am so sick of people telling me I will change my mind about not wanting to have children, or worse- regret not having children. *eyerollllllllll*
Girrrrllll u are not alone! They won't never live our lives but they always wanna have an opinion about it. Not having kids isn't a bad choice, is a huge sense of good responsibility!!!
I'm 35 next month, and don't own a home, don't want to have kids, and still occasionally dress like a 90s pop band member (my sweater today has ruffles on it - sounds worse than it is, honest!) and I can honestly say this is the happiest I have been for many years. I think it's really about what you want to achieve, rather than what you think you should achieve. Don't get me wrong, I'd love the security of owning my home...but that means sacrificing moving to a different town or country next month. Also, I feel the same way about my dark circles! :)
Kezla thank you for this. I'm 24 and have been seriously shifting my goals because my life had taken several hard hits in the past few years making me realize I can't and might not even want to do the things I had planned for so long. "It's about what you want to achieve rather than what you think you should achieve." I'm gonna put that in my journals :)
I am 29, you sound just like me, lol
Mandi Lu 💐 Life certainly challenges us at times! I like to think everything happens for a reason, we just can't see it at the time. And that we're never dealt more than we can handle. But when I'm in the midst of something awful, even I struggle to hold that in my head!
We do so much "shoulding" and can be our own worst enemy. I feel I should own a house by now, but when I look at my life, honestly, I'm in a good place, and that's really all that matters.
(it's also perfectly ok to change your mind about goals and milestones too 😀good luck on your journey! )
PS. I didn't start journalling till last year... And i wished I had started much earlier 💡
Kezla There's no shame in renting. I rented until 2 years into my marriage, after we were debt-free.
As someone with an advanced degree who teaches at the collegiate level, I'd like to say thank you for recognizing that a Bachelor's is not necessary for a successful life. So many people do not understand that and waste time and money trying to achieve something they never needed or use. That mindset ends up devaluing the educations of those of us that do use our degrees and work in our respective fields.
And when I told my family I wasn’t going to college, they laughed
It is so surprising to hear that you feel so insecure about your personal style, especially about it being "adult". To me you are one of the most "adult" seeming people ever. You seem so composed and like you really have your shit together so it was very interesting to hear you felt this way. I hope you see yourself as we do some time and feel better about it :)
Thank you! I'll be 30 in two months and one thing I'm learning to trust (thank you Sophia Bush) is that 'you're allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously.' 💕 To everyone turning a new leaf in their life, keep fighting the good fight ✊🏼
Yes!!
I agree with all of these! I lived all of my 20s thinking I'd be a failure if I didn't accomplish xyz by 30. I'm 36 and what I learned is that between the ages of 32 to 35, approximately, one tends to become disillusioned with a lot of things in your life and you're ready for an overhaul. Seriously, I've been experiencing a second teenagehood, if you will. I am so glad I didn't have kids or buy a home before 35. My goals, dreams, aspirations, desires have completely changed.
It's so true that people have kids just because they feel like they owe to society/parents/past-partners... Ultimately, the kid grows up neglected. It's simply not something people should do for someone other than themselves.
I live the points you made about owning a house and the diet thing.
It was sad to hit 30 and realize that some of the goals that I have weren't done... but HERE'S TO 40!! ;)
Im 27, I don’t have a college degree and have an awesome job. My husband is about to finish his PhD (woo hoo). And looking at his student debt I’m happy I dropped out of college. But I could not be more happy and proud of my husbands accomplishments
I needed this video more than I can possibly say. I'm 24 and panicking about what I might not accomplish by 30, which is ridiculous. I have ambitious creative and professional goals for my life but I'm also working on my anxiety and more positive ways of thinking.
I am the same, I feel ya. Turning 25 this month...
This was, really, a personal video and all I want to say about it is, thank you for sharing!
As a 20+ year old coming to grips with the idea that she's not sure she ever wants kids, and who has a Bachelor's but is getting nowhere in her job search for a job related to said degree, this video is incredibly reassuring. The "adult" wardrobe is another thing I'm thinking about recently: I don't have an office job, but feel like I should be looking into more "adult" clothes. But for the first time, I'm able to choose what I wear outside of what was dictated. I like the pop culture t-shirts and things that I can get now.
I'm just, really grateful that you made this video. Because a lot of what you mention here sounds familiar, and it's a relief to hear that I'm not completely messing up my first attempt at adulthood (though there is a lot I need to work on).
The next time you get clothes, pick one item that will never go out of style and you can wear to an interview. I have 3 good “adult” outfits and I get by with that
Turned 35 a few months ago. I can relate to all you've mentioned with the exception of personal style (have found it when I was a teenager and still stick to it - classy with a twist) and starting my bachelor's this fall - "chic old lady" :D
Found myself enjoying your videos more and more because they are simply relevant to me. Keep up the great work!
A good insight into pretty much everyone's life in 30s, learning to accept flaws and that life will not always fall within society's norm.
Being 29 and going through the 'I should've accomplished X, Y, Z by now' phenomenon, I find this video very relatable and helpful. Very uplifting too, thank you!
Thank you very much for being so honest with yourself on the kids-thing. A lot of women doubt they will be a good mum until they become one and hormones kick in - but also a lot of women were right about their doubts. My own mother for example is a career woman who LOVES her work and is really good at it. But she was a big failure as a mother because her children were always second in line to the carreer, so when she came home from a long fulfilling but stressful workday there was no energy left for taking care of our emotional needs. Working part-time might have helped, but her work was too important for her to even consider that.
Being a mother is a very demanding job, that like any other important job needs a certain set of skills and interests and a high amount of dedication to be done right.
All of that said: A surprising amount of men do have a lot of the required skills and the necessary dedication and can do an awesome job as stay-at-home-dads if the couple is brave enough to challenge the stereotypical family structure.
Hi Chelsea! Thank you for the video and for talking about so openly and honestly. Hearing you talking about these things is like a breath of fresh air...thank you. You are such an inspiring person! Keep up the good work! :)
Hearing your voice brings me this nostalgic feeling of a Fall, saving money, investing in quality not quantity, a nice apartment and being a better adult (physically/mentally/emotionally). ❤️
WHAT I was certain you had a degree!! I feel so much closer to you now. You made it on my "businesses I admire and want to model" list. Love u!
Really good. I honestly underestimated how much parents can influence me on what I should and shouldn't accomplish by 30. Sometimes seems like they want you to "do whatever you love", but lots of things like finishing college and/or having kids is heavily implied (particularly kids if you're a woman). But your college story really made me think more about how I shouldn't be beating myself up about not finishing my Associates. It was getting way too expensive with someone of my income and some of the other financial advice I've received at home has definitely been less than ideal... I guess that's why I'm here hah. Definitely important to become who you want at whatever age you want. Great video.
I can agree with your personal style point SO MUCH. It doesn’t help living in a big city where you can see others looking so fab, so frequently.
I'm 42 and I still don't own a home, that's due to not residing in one place for too long. I think owning a home should not be set by a deadline, it should be tied to your status in life.
I haven't done it myself but my understanding is that Whole 30 is so restricted because it's not meant to be a long term lifestyle/ diet change. it's for figuring out your individual digestive sensitivities because unlike allergies they can be harder to notice. Anyone who does whole 30 for more than 30 days is missing the point.
It worked amazingly for me
Your honesty about your decision concerning children is refreshingly necessary. Thank you for sharing that
This is a great video. As someone soon to be 29 whose life is nothing like I had ever imagined, both is great ways and not, I find it incredibly relatable. Fantastic!
Is it kind of dumb how relieved I am to see this? I've been following this channel for a while and always pictured Chelsea as a person who really has her shit together, because she does, but this is so humanizing in a very comforting way.
I'm turning 25 in December. I still don't have my acne and weight issues figured out, I just recently figured out my "adult" hairstyle after years of doing absolutely the wrong thing (box dyed blonde on waist-length hair is a big NO and I'm ashamed of how long it took me to figure that out), etc. But more importantly, I am just about to graduate with my AS in business while most of my friends from AP and acadec in high school are in grad school. I always felt embarrassed and stupid for not getting through school as quickly, but this video is a big reassurance that I might be doing just fine.
TFD really killed it this week with videos. [And the website is always excellent] Thanks for the honesty!!
I generally like all of your videos but this one was especially relatable for me as a single 28 year old. I appreciate the honesty and frankness in your videos, as well as, of course, the financial advice. It's empowering for everyone but especially women like me 👏
I appreciate your comment about kids. I am someone who has always known in my heart I wanted to have kiddos. But for someone who doesn't have that same longing, I think it's very respectable and moral that you won't have a child you don't "want" because you recognized it before finding yourself pregnant. I commend you for that! And your comments on a house are excellent too, and as something to add, make sure it's in a location you love and that you can see yourself raising kiddos if you DO decide you want them! We just purchased our home a year ago and are more and more thankful each day for our location compared to our previous residences. Thanks for the video! I love your content!
This is one of my favorite videos of yours! I was totally not expecting you to cover some of the biggest things I told myself I would conquer BY 22. While I know I need to change my eating habits somewhat and loosen my psychological thralls on food, I have started doing some things that take away the stress of choice and find that I am totally fine without doing these crazy diets. I DID think that I didn't have the discipline or self-love or whatever to change (and mind you I wanted to change my eating habits for acne too), and spent approximately 5 years or more at this point imagining that I would commit sometime and realizing that I've been feeling like half a person with half a life without these changes. It's always a 'I'll need to cut out this first' before I, I don't know, figure out the secret to curly hair. Ridiculous things really. It's so refreshing to hear this kind of thing and at the very least give myself the break I need to try things that will likely work better for me now, or even just accept that I'm not incapable, I can just choose not to and still be an acceptable human being. Thank you so much!
This is legitimately the most honest and healthy channel on youtube. if only there were more girls like you and less ''fashion influencers''. We would all end up with less anxiety and insecurities. And a healthy mindset :) thankyou for being YOU !
Love your honesty and vulnerability in this video! Everyone has certain expectations of themselves and SO much of it is based on what their parents or society told them. But all you can truly do in life is be yourself, and not let others get to you.
Thank you for being so honest! This video has so much value to me. We don't achieve all goals set conscious or unconsciously, and that is more than just fine.
Honestly, I think you should at least try reducing/removing dairy for at least a month. Reducing dairy and getting decent sleep has gotten rid of 80% of my acne ^^ you don't have to cut it out completely, just reduce your intake and you might see results :)
I can't even put into words how much I love this video! I don't understand where society got the idea that everyone's life was supposed to be the same. That everyone's life should have the same path/timeline and should be comprised of and measured by specific metrics which somehow define us as good humans. I love seeing people talk honestly about how it's OK to not be the same as everyone else. There is not only one way to be happy. Great video!
What a great concept. I really enjoyed this video, I will be 30 in less than a year and getting my bachelor's degree in nursing is weighing heavy on my mind. I had no idea you didn't have a degree, you speak like a very well educated person and you are obviously successful.
Chelsea, you are my spirit animal. I also have rosacea and adult acne, and you look mixed with Asian and white like I am. I also love this channel because I only started learning more about personal financial responsibility in the past couple years and have become much more frugal over time.
Thank you for sharing these, Chelsea. I constantly get nagged about not being a homeowner (incredibly difficult in my area) and how I will “eventually change my mind” about having children. I feel similar to you - it just doesn’t align with what genuinely makes me happy, joyous, and fulfilled. I don’t think it’s “selfish,” as others like to say. Why bring a life into this world solely to fulfill society’s expectations? I appreciate your candidness and admire your diligence in going forward confidently with your own life.
Thank you so much for talking about education. Even though I have a degree, I feel like I'm nowhere near as intelligent as I should be. One of my greatest fears is not being able to contribute impactful ideas in my work environment.
Well, maybe You should watch some videos on psychology and impostor syndrome? Just to find out how to prevent this from messing up Your life. As for impactful ideas- it comes from mass media myths around innovations. So maybe read about where innovations really come from? Since it's mainly perfecting already existing knowledge (so takes education) and practical experience (what takes simply years of hand-on work experience) and group work/team work what means good communication with people. If You take care of all this in the end You will contribute impactful ideas to Your workplace. Just give Yourself time to do so. Don't rush it. And don't try to go it alone. Since Noble prizes are always results of group effort. Even if general public want to perpetuate the false idea of one exceptional "talent" or "genius". It's always group effort. So being good team player is essential.
I needed to watch this, I'll turn 30 in february and I've been feeling a lot of pressure!
Great video. Coming up on 30 myself this year and it's nice to stop and think about the things that I won't accomplish and be ok with them! Amazing how those expectations in your head can create such a negative perception of your life when in actual fact I'm loving the life that I have even though its not what I'd imagined by 30.
YES! Whenever I explain to people that I don't have the qualities of a good parent, they never take me seriously. Not everyone should be a parent, and being honest about it should be the way to go instead of blindly jumping into parenthood. When all the signs point to it not making you any happier as an individual, you have to put your foot down.
Been on a wave watching your videos here and there. I appreciate the sound advice and sincerity of your videos. They're also very nicely edited, lit, and edited in a cozy minimalist way which is nice.
Love hearing so much honesty, that's what I want from RUclips. Thank you Chelsea
As a 30 year old I can also say that all the things that I wanted to do much earlier in my life than by 30 but I waited for was a good decision. Setting strict time limits is silly, not always are you ready for the things you want to do by a certain age.
And on another note, I really like listening to your voice and the way you speak. You sound confident and it is easy to listen to you and understand what you want to share :)
Wow, what a great video. I'm a very goal-oriented 27 year old and I'm constantly telling myself things I'm going to do before I'm 30...but why? Why that age? It seems like the main theme of the video is that society has taught us that age 30 is some kind of expiration date when it really isn't. I also really appreciated the part about not having kids. I don't feel that it's in the cards for me either but I maintain the "never say never" attitude as well. Great content, really enjoyed it!
Thank you x3 for this! I can't tell you how much I used to agonize over these worries (still occasionally do) because I'm turning 30 in a year and still have to finish school, find a decent paying job, start saving for retirement and invest the little money I have in some sort of asset. Still have to pay off loans, work on my health and maintaining clear skin, and figure out what the hell I want in life! I am dating someone much younger who seems to have most of this already figured out and that used to upset me even more. Now I know that my life is not supposed to be measured up and graded, it's meant to be lived. And all the living I have done, both good and bad, has shaped me into the person I am today. Stronger, more confident and self-sufficient than I ever thought I could be. I can relate to almost everything Chelsea has said and it is comforting to know other people are like me and they've been successful regardless of past mistakes or unmet expectations.
Thank you for talking about kids. I’m 27, and I don’t know if the constant anxiety about kids means I’m not ready yet, or that I don’t want them at all despite my husband/in laws/friends insisting it’s a thing you do and then love. I wish there was less pressure so I would know for sure if my resistance to kids is because they’re just not for me, or because of the pressure around having them- especially by age 30.
I also have adult acne and I KNOW dairy is the cause, but I still keep eating cheese and drinking milkshakes.
Why don't you try some plant based ice creams. They also super delicious. A bit more expensive but you can just make it a habit to eat a little bit less. Instead of milk shakes I blend up frozen bananas with soy milk and vanilla essence. Love it -) It might also help you to educate yourself about dark side of the dairy industry. It is really horrible how the calf gets separated from its Mum so that we can drink the milk. Check out the video "Dairy is scary" It is super short but incredible well done. I wish you all the best with your acne. My skin has improved immensely after quitting dairy.
Yes, if cutting out anything from a diet would make sense this would be cow's milk. It's good for majority of newborn cows and very harmful for most adult humans. So going lactosis free actually makes a lot of sense. While going gluten free or carbs free not so much.
I seriously don't understand this logic- there's plenty of dairy free cheese and you can even buy dairy-free milkshakes depending on where you live if you don't want to make it yourself. This is like my sister- she used to make herself sick because of dairy and it's just crazy. Luckily she's mostly vegan now (still eats eggs) though :)
Same. Milk is my god. I'll limit my dairy consumption now and again, but I won't fully cut it out. Non-dairy options taste completely different and just aren't relevant (unless your interest in dairy has never gone beyond "generic smooth texture").
lmao story of my life. and I'm lactose intolerant. Oat milk is a saviour but I will always love my 2% milk.
About the wardrobe thing, I feel you ! The feeling of having nothing to wear is common, but I spend the last 2 years trying to fix it and actually I find a trick : having the basic. I'm not pretending that I have the better style but buying the basic clothes (there is a lot of list dedicated to them on the internet, and they always come back to the same items), that fit you (and don't hesitate to get them retouched if some parts are too long), and that are in quality fabric is worth it ! It's actually a money saving because when you have the back tee-shirt, the right jeans, etc... You don't feel like you have nothing to wear anymore and don't have to buy so much new fashion items anymore ! A video dedicated to clothes spending in The Financial Diet would be appropriate I think :) I spend so many years buying cheap and unstyled clothing in quantity when I didn't even had the basic ! It's once you have the basics that you can buy more excentric clothing, not the other way around
This is so accurate for me. I just turned 30 last November and I went through the same things. One life changing thing I did accomplish was I overcame my alcoholism and I shaved my head. It may sound weird but it was a big thing for me.
Thank you for talking about parenthood. I can relate. I also "would not be a good parent" because my goals are incongruous with what I would need to do to feel I was a good parent. Justifying myself gets old.
My analogy is: Parenthood is like a garden. They take work and constant maintenance and responsibility, and are incredibly fulfilling.Plenty of people don't have the space, money, time, or ability to create a garden, and we don't ask them "When are you planting tomatoes? When will you invite me over for a bbq? You should move to a place with a garden so we can come over and enjoy it. It will make you so happy to invest all this time and money, because that is what makes women happy!"
I hear you on personal style. I started sewing a lot of my own clothes last year and I love almost everything I make.
I really enjoyed this video. It is very refreshing and candid! I learn more from TFD than I do in my college courses.
I never set any goals to accomplish before 30 but I'm 29 & a half right now and after 10 years of being a drug addict, I'm happy just being healthy and supporting myself. For years I compared myself to everyone else, I worked to get rid of that and it makes a big difference in your life. I feel like that's all we're ever trying to do until you get old enough and you just don't care anymore.
I definitely want to be as confident and self-aware as you are by the time I hit 30. Work in progress :) Thank you for vouching your support for ethical vegans!!
6 things I won’t accomplish by 30
1. Get 8 pack abs
2. Become a Billionaire
3. Grow a foot taller
4. Retire
5. Win the lottery
6. Be 31 years old
:)
Good list :)
Build a time machine to do number 6
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That last one...
Mind of Love very deep. I understand though, live everyday as if it could be your last.
This philosophy helps me to not stay dwelling on anything for long. If my girlfriend and I have an argument, try to resolve it quickly.
Great insight 👌
Why won't you live to be 31?
I love your ideas on parenthood!! Something a lot of people need to hear
Chelsea! This video is amazing. I'm only 27 but these are definitely things people leave to hear. I love this!!! Thank you for your channel and thank you for this video
the College thing resonates heavily. I'm in a sector where many of my colleagues have a phd and sometimes I have to Remind myself that even without that i am qualified for my job. It does mean I feel like I should get ny phd some day, but I'm almost 30 and it's not like a phd is done overnight. it's a huge time and Money investment. and Frankly i invested that time in different ways into my career (Volunteering, trainee position, etc)
I feel totally the same about not having kids, and have experienced the whole " nooo you'd do fine" or "you'll change your mind". It's nice to hear someone else feels the same way.
I'm so excited to have found your channel! Your videos are the most self-reflective and helpful videos I have ever watched. Thanks for the awesome work!
Thank you so much for voicing your thoughts on not having kids. I've never wanted to have kids and it's so infuriating when people say things like "Never say never!" or "You'll probably change your mind." I'm 28 and pretty damn sure I know myself better than anyone else.
I can't believe I'm not alone! I told my mom when I was around 8 that if I decided to have kids I would adopt. I've gotten so many crazy looks from people about being so aware about that while in elementary school and I'm so happy that I'm not alone. In regards to the make-up issue, I'm 27 and I have severe KP, eczema still and I hardly wear makeup because I still have no idea how to do it. That's one thing I thought I would have figured out already. Funny how it's so different for us! Thanks for putting out this video!
Thanks Chelsea :) Your candid videos are so calm-inducing. I also don't want kids for the same 'I don't have the right personality' reasons. Have known it forever, but only just starting to accept it age 30. Feels good to own it.
I like the fact you are true to you. God bless you. Making sure you are a honest about your life. You guys are awesome.
Good for you for being so honest and open about parenthood! I also know that it's just not for me, but people like to try to convince me that I actually do want children and that I will, in fact, be a good mother ("Because it'll just come to you naturally!"). So I like to tell those people that I'm a very selfish person and I very much enjoy my lifestyle, and if I did have children I would eventually resent them for getting in the way of that. I've never had to have that conversation with the same person twice.
The homeownership discussion is very real. I'd never have been able to stay in Chicago if I hadn't become a homeowner because my mortgage is the same as it was in 2009 when I bought my condo but rents in Chicago have doubled in that time. I could never afford $1700/month for a one bedroom (I mean I COULD if I also didn't ever eat again and never left the house). That said: I know people who've taken a loss on homes because they bought in an area they thought would gentrify and it didn't, so that whole thing about location is very true in real estate. What you said about the responsibility is also real: being a homeowner often means writing checks with at least 3 zeros on them for repairs. It pays to be your own landlord in some ways but it hurts like hell when you're paying for repairs. That's not for everyone regardless of what age they are. You have to really want that journey.
Chelsea I started my degree at community college and am now moving over to get my Masters in Nursing. Do you know what I've been doing for 12 years? Doing administration in a graduate school. The running gag with the staff is that we never want to get doctoral degrees as a result of working with professors who have them. Trust and believe me when I tell you: having a doctoral degree just means they've completed a dissertation, which doesn't even have to be a decent one. It just needs to be completed. The dissertation doesn't make them smart. Maybe they've read more than you about a particular subject but believe me as someone who's operating behind the curtain: that degree doesn't make anyone smart. They aren't better than you-I promise!
I needed this video. So much yes. Let it go! Also, freaking love your hair 😍
A degree doesn’t make you who you are, it’s just a means to an end. Unless you are a doctor or a lawyer it’s not always necessarily Your experiences and skill set are what you need the most. Many of the worlds most successful innovators don’t have college degrees. I truly believe that you do not need a $400 class to be knowledgeable. Degrees are more about competition and establishing a basic set of concepts about a field of study.
Loved what you said about not wanting to have kids and how you feel about parenthood not being for you. I'm the same and I know people mean well when they say I'd be a great mother. But honestly, it's just not for me. Thankfully my parents are super chill about it and never expected me or put any pressure on me to have kids. :)
Turning 40 in exactly a month. Still don't own a home (oh Seattle) never wanted kids and still get acne too. The older you get, the more you realize what's important to you and what's not. This won't stop people from telling you how to live, but it's really freeing to realize you don't have to care. I'm sure your 30's will be amazing.
Seriously our lifestyles just have nothing to do with our parents lifestyle but also maybe we overestimate the life they had really this is just a reflection of its qualities I think we were as kids expose to the huge pressure regrets etc of that “accomplished lifestyle”.
Thanks, Chelsea, for sharing such personal information on this channel. Keep up the good work.
Chelsea, you are so encouraging to listen to. Thanks for making videos like this!
I appreciate this video so much. Thank you for talking about a woman's choice to not have children. The more women who speak about it, the more normal it will become, and the less grief we will all get from everyone around us. Thank you.
Great list, I turn 30 at the end of this year and I can't believe it. Some of what I won't accomplish is some of what you said as well. I won't have kids, I am still single and not married. Having acne is nothing but the truth, but this year I have been putting more into my skincare, more so than makeup.I don't own a home. I literally had three items that I wanted to do by 30 this year: enroll in grad school, cook more, and see the Backstreet Boys in concert. All of which are happening this year. We can't achieve everything.
It's the dairy. Same problem here. When I cut out dairy, my eczema and acne disappeared pretty quickly. Now that I'm being stupid and eating dairy again, it's all back.
I used to struggle with my skin for years and also used to have the mindset of I cant cut out dairy, especially being European and most meals consisting of diary, but once I finally decided to try a dairy free life and saw how amazing my skin looked I never looked back. Also cutting dairy is way cheaper than medications and an extensive skin care routine
Thank you so, so much for making this. I'm glad to not feel so alone on this anymore.
i am in awe of the honesty in this video. thanks
I've been doing intermittent fasting for well over a year now (I started out doing it to lose weight, which I did - down by a bit more than 30 pounds and I've been at my goal weight for about 6 months now). I LOVE intermittent fasting - it's made becoming and staying at a healthy weight nearly effortless. For all the reasons you stated, it's perfect for me. Love not having to not entirely cut out any foods - all things in moderation. Love not having to count calories (since I just physically CAN'T eat more than I can burn in that short window of time). The one down side I've found (a small one, admittedly) is that it's sometimes hard to say "no" to a lunch out. I sometimes go because sometimes lunch needs to happen. :)
Thanks for speaking this out 😭 Do I need to buy and own one asap?! Was my recent anxiety, when I’m still in a stage where my career could take a lot of twists and turns. Also, hard agree with the wardrobe hehe I thought I would be PROFESSIONAL looking by this age lol
I'm 37, I still have acne and rosacea. I have cut out the dairy which helped a bit, but not fully. We bought a house when we got married at 27, had a job loss, and rented out for less then it cost to maintain the house every month. I didn't think that we would be moving back with parents at 29, but you have to do what you have to do. We can not compare ourselves with our parent's generation.
I am in my early 20's but I related so much to this video on self-awareness and being okay with your choice. You know, at the end of the day it's your life and honestly who gives a crap about the opinion of others, if its not something you want and will not make you satisfied.
I went ahead and completed another year of my postgrad and earned my diploma, purely because one potential path in my career will require that diploma. 2 years down the track, i realised i probably would never walk down that career path, but what i learned in that diploma has equipped me very well in the current moment. Sometimes you just get pleasantly surprised by the decisions you make, even though they look like bad ones.
You won't be the only 80 year old with acne, at the very least I'll be right there with you! I feel like my acne eased off in my early 20s and then got worse than it did in my teen years in my mid 20s.
Such good content!! Thank you for this reminder. Also loving the natural transition into talking about a sponsor. 🙌🙌
I recently went through the same thought process regarding a University degree. I have completed one one-year and one two-year college certificate programs and am almost finished a second two-year college certificate program but that didn't seem good enough.
I started listening to podcasts where they interview people who dropped out of masters and PhD programs and have them explain why, started looking into the costs associated with the university degree and the difference I can expect in income and realized that:
1) I'm not 18, I'm 29 so if I started a full-time bachelors degree now I wouldn't magically be getting the same life experience now as I would have 11 years ago.
2) If I take an online bachelor's degree I'm basically just spending a lot of money to do research into my field that I'm already doing without having to spend money
and 3) If I were to complete my current certificate program and take some management workshops my current experience I can still work my way up the career ladder to a place that I would be happy with
Wow... I have never had a video speak to me so well. Every single thing you listed is something that I have also struggled with
Even though I am someone who wants kids, I love how open you are about not wanting them. Parenthood isn’t for everyone and more people should be accepting of that.
Amazing video content! It's like you took a tour in my head! I turned 30 in January and felt like shit for 1) not being able to lose weight (145 lb) on vegetarian consisting of90% carbs diet, 2)still dealing with fucking acne, 3)single, having hard time dating & no desire to have kids, EVER, 4)only have an associate degree (dental hygienist) and few other shitty feelings about myself that I've been trying to accept and learn to live with... Thank you for making these great videos Chelsea, wish you the best!
good on you for knowing yourself well enough to know about not wanting kids. I just had one after 30 and lived a wonderful life before kids and have one now that I am ready. Not having kids is great and having kids is great. So always do what is best for you. It's wonderfully hard work being a mom and hard work not so do what you want.