Gaslighting Man "Rescues" Ex-Wife After Brutal Home Invasion | Rodney and Morgan Metzer
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- This video answers the question: Can I analyze case of Rodney Metzer?
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I’ll take stupid plans that have absolutely no chance of succeeding for 600 please.
Absolutely agree. Am I the only one who's a bit surprised he got 25 years in prison for it with 45 years of parole after? I mean I've seen people convicted of 2nd degree murder who get less time than that. Most people guilty of manslaughter get considerably less time in prison than that... what makes the difference here? Is it begause he was charged with 14 different counts, was he possibly overcharged?
Don't get me wrong, what he did was psychotic amd he deserves many years behind bars, but he wasn't trying to end her living and yet he got more time than many people who do cause death or who falesly accuse others and get them locked up for years for example.
@@jtzoltan I don't feel an ounce of pity for him. As Dr. Grande mentioned, he was going to kill her and something changed his mind. What she experienced is traumatic on so many levels- not to mention what the kids must be going through. It's attempted murder full stop.
@@jtzoltan Agree, even though what he did was bad, it does seem excessive
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He couldn't accept not having complete control over her; now, he will have no control over anybody for 20-25 years.
Some of them think they have control over the one's effing them up the A!
There are narcissistic dangerous people out there who will spend years charming you, learning you, leaning into more and more manipulation. RUN FROM THE RED FLAGS ALWAYS, YALL. Look out for the red flags if you haven’t. I feel like everyone who stumbles upon the Dr Grande here has some sense.
I'm not sure why her parents didn't call the police when a 19 year old started dating their 14 year old.
Thank you for a hot minute that’s all I heard.
Yeah exactly. Not only is that a crime for a good reason, but no emotionally well-adjusted 19 year old would ever do that. That alone should have been overwhelming evidence that he was bad news.
He didn't exactly date her -- he started grooming her.
The fact that her parents did nothing to intervene makes me think that their household wasn't the healthiest either.
They’re trashy just like their kids. Wouldn’t suprised her parents also have similar age different
Why anyone would get married that young in modern times is beyond me. Her “boyfriend” was sick from the word go.
I knew a woman who escaped from a similar abuser. Her husband would come home from work angry, verbally abuse her until she said something back and then beat her senseless. He told her that it was her own fault because she couldn't keep her mouth shut. One day she decided to not react, no matter how bad the verbal abuse. After 45 minutes of verbal abuse, he beat her anyway. When she said, "But I didn't say anything." He said, "But you were thinking it."
That's when she knew at that he would end up killing her if she didn't get out of the marriage. When he left for work, she packed up everything she could fit into her car and left. She heard through family that he was looking for her "to beat her within an inch of her life" for embarrassing him by leaving. She moved two states away and lived in fear that he would find her and kill her.
Nah, as soon as I saw the thumbnail, I started speculating about what could be happening in a situation like this.
Punctuation is a good idea here.
@@Flamsterette open to suggestions
Obligatory joke under every video
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I’m speculating in my mind. 🌵 🤓 👓
Gaslighting is really dangerous. Escape the first time you’re a victim of it
Part of the nature of Gaslighting is that the victim doesn't realise it's happening.
@@eadweard. that’s true. I’ve identified gaslighting in my last relationship. I would always call it out on the spot and they would deny it like I’m crazy. 🤌🏾 chefs kiss gaslighting
@@Topself24 You have my sympathies. It's a very sinister dynamic.
For sure, you start to believe everything is your fault and start apologising for everything. It really takes a toll on your self esteem
It probably started when she was 19.
Rod was also EXCEEDINGLY creepy. I'm glad Morgan survived - this was a better outcome than I expected, though still awful. Another great case breakdown, Dr. G.
Yes! I love when Dr. G marks someone as exceedingly creepy!
@@babsdavis1228 This guy fit the bill. Dr. G's list of adjectives was still excellent, though.
Rodney's ego was the most important thing in the world to him. And people that pretend to have illnesses, like cancer, disgust me.
She was only 14 at the start! No victim blaming. She should have had more support and protection
The video preceding this one also featured a girl aged 14 who married her perp. Hopefully Morgan will have a better outcome in the decades to come
I do BLAME it and always will. THEY think they are grown and know it all. They are NOT innocent 👹🐍🤷
@@SayNoToGod the name says it all. Must be trolling
@dariamancini963 uh YOU wish. I know these entitled browdz who THINK THEY ARE GROWN disturbs you but it's true. And a name means NOTHING 🤡
@dariamancini963 HAHA my name doesn't represent me. Stay mad that THEY are not innocent because THEY are arrogant. JUST like you for making assumptions about a name. Cultivate MORE brain cells 🤡
It makes me wonder what percentage of women are married to men like Rod. Thanks for the great critique Doc. 😊 Acutely accurate as usual.
Borderline personality disorders and being histrionic are actually more prevalent in women. Narcissism is only very slightly higher in men than women. Schizoid affects more men, but they are usually never in long-term relationships.
I've read stories where people married people who ended later revealed to be their stalker.
@@joewilson3393 I guess my question would be were they true stories as in this horrid case?
@STR82DVD Yeah, in one example she figured out her husband of 18 years had stalked her for two years before they "met" because he kept souvenirs.
@@joewilson3393 Positively gruesome.
Spoiler!!! I am always so relieved to see a story that doesn’t end in a massacre, and with the perpetrator safely behind bars.🙏That said, I’m astonished at the strength of this woman! Married at 18 yrs old, lost her first baby, then managing to survive this profoundly disturbed man? Just incredible. I pray she can finally find peace knowing he’s in jail and can’t physically hurt her (or those kids!) anymore🙏
BEST COMMENT EVER!!!!!! You said it!❤
Yeah she sounds like a very strong person mentally. Can’t imagine if I was put in that position at such a young age. One always hopes they would rise to the occasion under that kind of hardship and be able to cope but that’s impossible to know having never experienced anything like that.
Married at 21, not 18. Molested since 14 though.
,😮 glaze over??? Plz explain this??
This one hits home. My ex husband said he was dying of cancer to cover up his drug use, told my family the same lie 😬Then he threatened me with a rifle...luckily he didn't act on that. Great breakdown again of another sad case. Thanks Dr G😊🖤🖤
Well at least he wasn't vanilla. I know you girls don't like dating boring guys.
@@Idontcare0990what's wrong with you?
@@Idontcare0990 You're a very rude jerk.
@@jordahnnelson9926 Thanks. That's the nastiest comment I've heard in awhile. Typical keyboard narcissist bully.
@zenawarrior7442 they are all over video defending this guy and blaming women for being abused at the hands of their partner. what's so funny about this type of loser is that they get mad whenever someone characterizes men as dangerous yet are the first ones to defend abusive violent men. likely because they feel some type of affinity to the abuser and see any criticism of abusers as criticism of themselves.
So glad he ended up in jail and that Morgan and her children are safe - at least for the next 20 years.
He couldn't deal with real issues, so he kept creating some he thought he would, huh
Ironically, getting himself arrested saved her in a way, so kudos to him, I guess.
that’s video games for you.
An adult man dating a 14 yr old child is creepy af
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She wanted good S with an older guy.... 😂
Creepy is an understatement
Yeah that’s not a healthy gap. Don’t even think that’s legal either. 17 and 15 , 18 and 16 ok, 14 is an 8th grader with a 19 year old adult man. That’s weird
@@NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTimehe's a pedophile, plain and simple 🤷
@ingridmay66 really? You think a 14-year-old wanted sex with an older guy?
Now for my analysis: glitter does indeed go everywhere and makes a mess.
It’s the herpes of the craft world.
Nice to see someone survive a Dr Grande video
So, is my math right…?
He was 19 years old (old enough to be a college sophomore) dating a 14-year-old? (possibly an 8th-grader)?
That in itself seems pretty creepy. 🤮
dogs gonna bark, cows gonna moo, Georgia gonna Georgia ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Isn't it illegal?
I think it was high school senior and freshman
Bro manipulating someone is an unsustainable way to maintain a relationship. U have to become a better person and think about the happiness of the other person not just your own. And some relationships just aren't meant to be
Thank you Franco. You said that very well, also wait til the other person is older than 14 to date.
If u are not mentally challenged as an adult u cant be manipulated..u either just chose to go wit what one is saying or u vet a person and if what they say not true then they lied
@@misstbullRod, is that you?! When they let you out of jail?!?! 😂😂😂
@@wanya_telbornThe truth can be hard to understand but you'll get there.
He was 18-19 y.o. , when he started a relationship with a 14y.o. girl. This whole relationship was one big manipulation. She never had a chance to understand what he is before she married him.
This is just like the Riley Gaul story. Riley tried these same tactics on his ex girlfriend, except in that case it ended in murder. How sad.
Given she was just a very, very young child when they started dating, she probably grew up and became her own person that he could no longer easily manipulate and control, hence the rage outbursts. I am glad she and the kids survived.
I had an ex who was exactly like this & I could see him doing just this tactic. It's creepy. He even poisoned my food once just to "save" me & take care of me to show me how good of a guy he was.
Have you ever heard of gangstalking?
I know it's wholly unprofessional of me but I wrote "women with a clothing deficit" in my clinical notes yesterday 😂
She had no dating experience just the way he wanted it.
Okay... so can his sentence include that his jail job is managing supplies for arts & crafts, specifically ALL THE GLITTER? 🎊🎇❇✨🤣
Someone should send him a letter in jail just full of the most obnoxious glitter 😂
So many crazies out there. Best not to allow your emotions to over ride logic.
Shes lucky to be alive
What an awful man. When he starts screaming in jail, someone with a strong grip and a big back will whisper from behind ‘Shhhh, you’re just being dramatic’.
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Keep the gay fantasies to yourself, please
Let us hope
You might be a sociopath.
Lol!
I'm consistently shocked at how stupid these people's plans are. There was never any chance that this would work. How did he manage to convince himself that this was good idea?
because narcissists believe their own hype and think they are smarter than everyone else
So glad she is alive and he is behind bars!!!
Why is Rod Smiling? The Gothic Horror of Imbecility
"...I heard a gentle tapping, tapping at my chamber door..." Poe has informed all of us that Gothic literature requires a deep focus on the inner emptiness we all live with. In this dramatic case presented in a highly analytical manner, Dr. Grande verifies the truth of Poe's fascination with morbidity. In the account and including the smile, we see only two people. The world as we know it is in total eclipse. They lived in a psychological dungeon unrelieved by any light from above, or even just ordinary daylight. This is certainly another addition to the ever expanding Gothic literature of darkness.
Dear Dr G, a terrific informative annalysis. Especially the reasons you found as to why he did not kill Morgan. I agree, and that she did not understand that he was dangerous. Luckily she lives on and the children still have their mother with an absence of their father. So the end result is good. Rodney is no longer a danger in her life and is not in the children's lives too. Lucky for Morgan as she likely would never be safe or free of him. Great choice of case to analyise. Many kind thanks, from Australia.
funny how u can tell a narcassist in like 1 second of looking at their own images
lol this is what’s wrong with people overusing these terms. If you think you can tell a narc by looks alone, you’re most likely wrong A LOT & also extremely judgmental
I think after watching enough of your episodes i can see the pattern of those fragile personalities who are insecure and will go as far as harming wife or children just to protect their fragile ego
Holy smokes... The whole time I was watching this video, I kept thinking "please tell me he didn't kill her, I just can't handle this right now..." Thankfully he didn't because I would've went in my backyard and cried lol...
I've never heard Dr. Grande list more negative traits than he does in this case.
Definitely a new record. Even more than OJ!!
The way list was just going on and on
All these cases highlight just how simple minded most of these criminals are! Such fantasy like thinking. Like if it’s believable by them then everyone will believe them!
You’re right! I guess that’s the narcissism- they assume they are smarter than everyone else 🤨
In some of his other videos Dr. Grande has made a point abt this that I’ve found very elucidating and has stuck with me for a long time. He’s said that the personality characteristics that drive people to commit violent crimes are also often characteristics that will ensure they get caught. So for example being impulsive, arrogant, and unable to control one’s emotions might contribute to a person committing a violent crime and then also contribute to them not having the insight, patience, and self control to adequately conceal the crime.
The most terrifying kinds of offenders are the people who have the inclination to commit violent crimes but that are also very disciplined, insightful, organized, and highly functioning. One doesn’t immediately suspect them and they have some of the traits needed to actually escape justice.
Not a hot Rod
*In Rod we trust*
That was my nickname.
He chose a child to manipulate and control. Were her parents OK with it?
I like your cactus garden
He was nineteen while she was fourteen.. yeah.. gaslighting isn't the only thing he did! Wow.
Yep, playing with glitter sure does make a mess!
dude......."create a wound" is a hell of a workaround phrase. that's actually one that has a serious, sober sound to it
Excellent work, as always Dr Grande ❤❤❤❤
What’s happening now? Thanks for all the excellent videos, Grande. ❤ Much appreciation!
😮😮 There's a similar crazy case like this. The guy did it because his girlfriend wanted to be celibate until after they got married, the guy was impatient and stagged a kidnapping and suggest s3x before they were k1ll3d.
I’ve never forgotten that case.horrific
He did that story.
Oh yeah , Grande covered that kinda recently
That guy pulled alllll the stops to try to get laid
Yikes
Remember people - if you’re going to look up incrementing things on the Internet, be sure a borrow a friend’s cell phone to do it on.
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Incriminating..and i agree wholly😂👌
Nah your friend will be the first on newsnation telling all your secrets with video.
Or if you're going to do it at the library don't bring your sister with you while you do it. I was looking at picture of women with large posteriors (for research purposes) & I found one girl who's azz was wider than she was tall, & as soon as my sister saw her picture she laughed so loud that the on duty librarian kicked us out.
That or learn how to actually mask your IP address.
hopefully Morgan can find a man that will truly win her heart
she needs to use this as an opportunity to make meaningful changes
including becoming less naive in relationships
Dr Todd DRAGGED Rod with that description
Millions and millions of women in the world, leave that * one * that wants nothing to do with you alone!
They’re raised to put one woman on a pedestal
@@ayamystic2You don't understand men very well.
@@Idontcare0990rods behavior is normal for men?
@@jordahnnelson9926- It’s timeless-Remember Shakespeare’s famous scene where Juliet cries out from the balcony, “Romeo, where fore art thou?” but then Romeo appears menacingly behind her in a ski mask and with one punch knocks her out for two-and-twenty hours.
@@ayamystic2 And then control and abuse her.
It is a real tragedy that so many women have to become involved with guys like that. Also, because it is so hard for them to get out of situations like that and then on top of that they had kids! Good thing that this kind of behavior carries a long prison sentence...
Bro, they don't have to, they fucking choose to. Many are drawn to emotionally unavailable men, this is a basic yet uncomfortable psychological fact
@MH-hy2ot what exactly is this "psychological fact" and what are you sources?
@@MH-hy2otah yes.
The ol’ “It’s their fault for picking the wrong man.”
At FOURTEEN.
Totally 👍
Another great analysis, thanks! Why don't you do the OCEAN analysis any more? Very useful. Missing it
I'm wondering why you didn't mention that he SAd Morgan during the attack? It makes the whole thing more insidious
I think Morgan's quick thinking also helped save her life. She managed to say the right thing - a loving comment about her husband - at the right moment
Doesn’t that glitter around the holidays make you crazy?
It may be April or May and you’re still dealing with it.
Thanks, Doc.
I 'rescued' my now wife from someone just like that.
Same story, naive, innocent, first 'real' boyfriend, first sexual partner.
With nothing to compare the relationship with, gaslighting aplenty, deliberate isolation from her parents and sisters, and two children to protect with nowhere to go; it was a nightmare at home and false smiles to the world.
I got her and her children out of there.
She is very happy now but still bears the emotional scars of those 20+ years of hell.
The now ex husband is scared of me but still tries to play mind games with her as court orders insist he must have a meaningful relationship with the children. Ever the Narcissist, he uses this avenue to manipulate her and make her feel worthless. He's a grub.
I'm pretty certain that I could dress in a gorilla suit, and my SO would recognise me in the dark, just by the way that I moved.
There's one way to find out.
All of these toxic relationships show good reason to focus on higher education first and foremost so you're independent and have time to grow as a person before entering into a relationship and bearing children - maybe channels like this one will be a shining light - because the world sure isn't a perfect place and we all can learn positive ways to maneuver through it.
I counted twenty negative qualities attributed to Rod. 😂
Just RODiculous🤯
Gene RODdenberry is going to make a movie about it
@@carpathianken😂
Very pRODuctive😜
Thank you again Dr. Grande 🙏
Thank you, Dr. Grande. Glitter is the bane of my existence.
Now that was a proper sentence, and a good fit for the crime
Good video. Very weird and scary guy. Would love to hear your OCEAN analysis of this, please consider doing them again
Narcissistic abuse is the worst. Just glad she survived it.
Always creeps me out when there’s such an age difference in the relationship, at such a young age.
Thanks Dr. Grande
Just a reminder, I'm not commenting on this video, only speculating on what a comment might look like on a video like this 😂
Excellent, enjoyable watch. Thank you.
Dr. G - "What do I think happened in this case? This is just a theory, my opinion....."
Me: Here we go!!!!......
Not s sceric of insight between them. I'm glad she got out alive and he's no longer her problem.
Thanks Dr Grande, an interesting thought that “the view from the inside of a marriage is a lot cloudier”
Nice button-down shirt Dr. Grande
men who can't provide for their kids and themselves usually hurt people that love them the most
He was 19 years old "dating and sexual active" with a 14 year old girl. Love Ya Georgia.
Yeah, that only ever happens in Georgia. FO
I'd love to hear your thoughts on Terrance Howard
Rod: *buys zip ties for absolutely no reason*
Also Rod: “Officer, I have no idea what these things are!”
Those poor kids must have been so traumatised by their dangerously sick father.
10:13 Yeah, but what do you REALLY think of Rod? ;-)
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That's a sucker move for him to fake that deadly illness as a way to get back with her through guilt and pity. I know someone personally who had pancreatic cancer and died from it.
Hey Dr. Grande, you should do a video on Earl Leonard Nelson. He was a serial killer from the 20s. Very sad story.
Morgan is fortunate to be alive. It is a shame that her parents did not intervene in the early stages of the 19-14 yo relationship. If they had done so she might have been able to pursue a healthy relationship when she had gained more maturity.
Rodd watched waaaay too many 90s sitcoms.
Please ladies when you are dating a guy who suddenly gets angry and yells, run the other way. You will never change him. It is just some baggage that he has and unless he's willing to seek anger therapy or whatever, the fighting just gets worse. My ex-husband had a huge temper and he would become irrational when he got angry. It was scary. Finally I realized he had a lot of unresolved issues from his childhood and I actually get very scared when people yell at me. Hence, he is my EX. Too many women try to stick it out with their husbands hoping they will change because he would end up apologizing and promise not to do it again. But, it never ended. Just be safe.
This was super BIAS!!! They never even found the mystery intruder! 😡😡😡
When you look at the world through rose tinted glasses, red flags just look like flags.
Glad she made it out in one piece.
Rod . . . maybe move to another town so you can get her out of your head (too late now)
Hi Dr Grande - please could you analyse the case of Dr Michael Mosley’s death
Morgan, at 14, did not have the experience to recognize a dangerously demented person.
Narcissists consider a hello as true love and never accept that they are not better than others.
If rejected and commit offenses, their arrogant mind cannot accept their faults and transfer faults to their victims.
Rodney looks like the person who called me racial slurs in halo 3 odst all those years ago
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Nah that person was 13 lol
I believe you, he just has that look
Because he's white? Lol
Wasn’t that pretty much every player?
"Zip ties? I ain't ever heard of them."- Rod
I love how Dr Grande gets faster as he goes down the adjective list 😂
Her "friends..." Way to abandon someone at risk.
She need the classes on healing from Narcissistic Abuse. 😢
Glitter, the herpes of the craft world. Dimitri Martin
As bad as this situation was it probably ended as well as it could’ve. She is fortunate to be alive and he is gone for a good length of time. What a piece of work and a sad excuse for a man. She should have never had to deal with such a terrible situation.
Showing up on holidays even though they were divorced aka the George Costanza😜
Always interesting
Thank you ❤
My first husband was like that. He screamed at me and our children from morning til night. Men who are mean like that never change. I divorce him.
Can you cover the case of former White County, Tennessee Sheriff Oddie Shoupe surrounding a controversial deadly force order (comments were caught on a body camera, and the order was made because he didn’t want his vehicles damaged due to PIT maneuvers) and controversial searches? I would like to see the factors in that.