How Anxiety Affects the Brain 9/30 How to Recognize and Turn off the Fight/Flight/Freeze Response

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  • Опубликовано: 28 дек 2024

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  • @TherapyinaNutshell
    @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +62

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    • @wtfhappenedtome
      @wtfhappenedtome 3 года назад +3

      Please can you put this series of videos into one playlist, it’s really hard to find them all, either on RUclips or in your channel. Thank you so much they are amazingly helpful.

    • @tarabedford8329
      @tarabedford8329 3 года назад

      She has stolen, plagiarized, a copyrighted title "Therapy In A Nutshell",
      from a well known psychologist, Dr. Patricia L. Bay, LMFT, that came up with this name and the
      therapy behind it, over 20 years ago with her first book, tv show, live radio show, national tour and
      Spotify podcast! Dr. Patricia Bay, LMFT, has been a psychologist for over 30 years. This woman is misrepresenting the name Therapy In A Nutshell as her own creation when it is not. If you want to follow
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    • @wtfhappenedtome
      @wtfhappenedtome 3 года назад +4

      @@tarabedford8329 you are confusing the terms "copyright" and "trademark" - I actually work in this field. Copyright is for artwork, photographs, etc. Trademark is for names, phrases, etc. The owner of this channel does in fact appear to have a newly registered Trademark for "Therapy in a Nutshell" as of January 2021, which you can see here tmsearch.uspto.gov/bin/showfield?f=doc&state=4807:5ldhe9.2.1
      The writer of the book you mentioned - yes she does have a copyright on her book, but she never registered the trademark and did not "oppose" (challenge) it being filed, which she could have - cocatalog.loc.gov/cgi-bin/Pwebrecon.cgi?Search_Arg=therapy+in+a+nutshell&Search_Code=TALL&PID=Q5BVqlbDwQCnwDODWlwumMEZhd8I&SEQ=20210518051811&CNT=25&HIST=1
      Interesting situation.

    • @loislangley2975
      @loislangley2975 3 года назад +3

      Thank you for sharing your knowledge and time. I appreciate these videos very much.

    • @emeldareclusado269
      @emeldareclusado269 3 года назад

      @@wtfhappenedtome ww

  • @careyannesh
    @careyannesh 3 года назад +647

    As a person who can’t afford therapy, thank you for your efforts. It means a lot.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +71

      Glad it can help

    • @eatyourcake621
      @eatyourcake621 3 года назад +6

      Yes, very useful indeed. Anxiety comes when I least expects it and in many shapes or forms. ruclips.net/video/_x566CPJIOU/видео.html This is a good depiction of the kind of anxiety I've had.

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 3 года назад +4

      Ditto!,

    • @sgasercretiiiii
      @sgasercretiiiii 3 года назад +10

      I agree. I appreciate this so much

    • @mns8732
      @mns8732 3 года назад +25

      @circa dian: as someone who afforded years of therapy, following these suggestions are just as valuable.

  • @mohammedalshannat2385
    @mohammedalshannat2385 3 года назад +286

    I can't afford therapy. I am from Gaza. You saved my life and thousands in Gaza! Keep up the good work, Emma!❤

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +25

      Thanks Mohammed

    • @thehighpriestess8431
      @thehighpriestess8431 3 года назад +1

      What about people who already have a Skillshare account

    • @matbritton6816
      @matbritton6816 3 года назад +13

      Be safe, and good luck for your nation. 🍀🦋

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад +4

      Mohammad, Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice and have a healthier life. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад +2

      @@matbritton6816 Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice and have a healthier life. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @sammirolo
    @sammirolo 3 года назад +88

    I am in therapy, and I have found myself (more than once) explaining and discussing things with my therapist that I have learned from this channel. I can't help but feel that without you and your channel - I wouldn't be getting the same level of help that I currently am.
    Thank. You. So. Much.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +6

    • @tuxedoneko9837
      @tuxedoneko9837 3 года назад +1

      Ditto

    • @sabinacarter3873
      @sabinacarter3873 3 года назад +2

      The best book for anxiety is Clare Weekes Selfhelp for your Nerves. Saved my life. It's all about your thoughts

    • @sammirolo
      @sammirolo 3 года назад +1

      @@sabinacarter3873 I will have to look into that. 💙 Thank u so much for the recommendation!!

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад +1

      @@sammirolo Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice and have a healthier life. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @RedBroski
    @RedBroski 3 года назад +60

    The weirdest thing about this fear response is how it only feels terrible when you think about it. A panic or anxiety attack feels like the end of the world, but in an actual dangerous situation, you hardly even feel it.
    Like you said...it gives tunnel vision and you don't even think. I always found it weird how I would have these intense panic attacks, and feared those feelings because of how they caused me to catastrophize and spiral into darker and darker thoughts.
    Yet, one time I accidently kicked in a wasp nest, and got chased by the entire hive. I felt like a ghost. It was the coolest and most surreal experience, terrifying yes, but in the moment there were no spiraling thoughts. Just "RUN." And I practically flew across the field, I felt like Usain Bolt.

    • @Zoentje89
      @Zoentje89 3 года назад

      It So Difficult thing to explain or to control anxiety and panic attacks fear 😨. Am suffering from panic attacks sometimes i feeling the same like it's end of the world 😓😫😆😅
      Am trying hard to control if possible I can

  • @cest.lucille
    @cest.lucille 3 года назад +105

    I suffer from severe social anxiety. Thank you Emma for helping us get through this very unpleasant feeling. We don’t need these in life!

    • @sararh9665
      @sararh9665 3 года назад +5

      I used to suffer from severe social anxiety too but I got better thanks to useful techniques like on Emma 's videos, also I recommend you to check Dr Thomas Richard online therapy for SA, It helped me great deal.

    • @nancymosby7369
      @nancymosby7369 3 года назад +3

      What does social anxiety feels like for u?

    • @adamanthony7465
      @adamanthony7465 3 года назад +5

      Embrace your anxiety..hold it in your arms...it's a part of you...in loving it...the pressure cools

    • @cest.lucille
      @cest.lucille 3 года назад +1

      @@adamanthony7465 i try :)

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад +3

      @@sararh9665 Join a public speaking course. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice and have a healthier life. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @Clemmy020
    @Clemmy020 3 года назад +109

    It gave me a smile on my face realising that the fight flight freeze reaction that i so often 'suffer' from is actually a sweet loving (but often overactive and exagurated ) reaction of my brain to keep me alive: it wants me strongly to live! That makes ME to want to live, because its MY brain! I'll just need the skills and insights to relax and soothen her. Maybe some might think: duhh! But for me that was a new insight, kind of an epiphany. Thank you for your great videos; you present the information in such a nice and educative way that i totally connect with and relate to it eventhough i'm not an english speaking person by origin. Keep up the good work. Thankfull greetings from Amsterdam!

    • @dianeford7330
      @dianeford7330 3 года назад +2

      Me too!

    • @heatherprivatecraftandchat3345
      @heatherprivatecraftandchat3345 3 года назад +1

      Do you notice any patterns or certain situations where you're experiencing an overreaction? I have re watched this video a few times and am having a hard time applying it .

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад

      @@dianeford7330 Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice and have a healthier life. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад +1

      @@heatherprivatecraftandchat3345 Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice and have a healthier life. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @yoo77full
      @yoo77full 2 года назад

      I love this comment 💜

  • @TherapyToThePoint
    @TherapyToThePoint 3 года назад +188

    I find that accepting anxiety instead of fighting anxiety can reduce the intensity of what I am feeling.

    • @mrblue1179
      @mrblue1179 3 года назад +9

      Mee too... I learned to accept it than to fight.. it's seems easier to overcome it...

    • @imathumb
      @imathumb 3 года назад +8

      it's absolutely essential 💖

    • @alondralima9442
      @alondralima9442 3 года назад +6

      Yes. I dont hyperventilate anymore.

    • @heatherprivatecraftandchat3345
      @heatherprivatecraftandchat3345 3 года назад +6

      I'm having a hard time applying that...

    • @adamanthony7465
      @adamanthony7465 3 года назад +5

      Thank you and I am with you in your conclusion...we don't resolve anxiety though pressure to change... acceptance is part of love..

  • @jennyfulcher8035
    @jennyfulcher8035 3 года назад +15

    I've suffered from generalized anxiety disorder all my life. I've learned to relax through breathing, humming, meditating, going on walks, self-soothing, etc. However, I don't always do this and then my anxiety returns. I'm a highly-sensitive person and tend to be hyper-aware of my body sensations, so it's especially important for me to calm down and try to be more of an observer. Your video is a reminder of what I need to do. Thanks for sharing. Jen

  • @swathi5773
    @swathi5773 3 года назад +140

    How to turn off fight flight fawn response
    1. Become aware of your triggers
    2. Learn to notice your body signs
    3. Notice that you are flooding
    4. Pause
    5. Try to calm down
    6. Ask for a break
    7. Commit to coming back to issue
    8. Time to Self sooth
    9. Come back to problem from calmer perspective

    • @bernadettemeade7259
      @bernadettemeade7259 3 года назад +3

      How can you become aware of triggers when you struggle with panic attacks which come out of nowhere?

    • @adamanthony7465
      @adamanthony7465 3 года назад +1

      @@bernadettemeade7259 Focus on the time well before the attack... where were we the previous day...with whom?

    • @CutieRingoJoy
      @CutieRingoJoy Месяц назад

      ⁠ Formication @@bernadettemeade7259I don’t even know mine , mine body is tense 24/7 for over a year I’my nerves are itchy from

  • @Ostipherous
    @Ostipherous 3 года назад +24

    It is amazing how we can authentically help each other, by revealing our vulnerabilities. Recognising we are from the same design makes it all a little easier.

  • @kimberlydavis5034
    @kimberlydavis5034 3 года назад +6

    I have complex-ptsd, major depression, anxiety and ocd. I also have social anxiety and that's not counting all my other health issues. It's a daily struggle.

  • @TwattyWankers
    @TwattyWankers 3 года назад +11

    I finally blew up emotionally towards my mom today after years of repression. Felt like a huge weight lifted off my body. I’ve had gut & anxiety issues for forever, & I could feel the anxiety and gut feelings strongly when venting. Makes sense why my repressed emotions effect my gut etc. I cut her off and am going to focus on not repressing my emotions as well as being myself without fear of being judged etc, I’ve repressed that for forever too.

  • @supereurobeat
    @supereurobeat 3 года назад +13

    I have wasted so many decades on anxiety and depression to end up where I am right now. Thanks for offering these free courses and I am willing to listen and follow your recommendations. I hope I end up in a better place after they are done. :)

  • @peterderun5212
    @peterderun5212 3 года назад +13

    Never realised going blank before a talk was actually a protective responseto a perceived threat! The 3 F's are amazing - will need to increase my knowledge on how they operate in my life. Thanks!

  • @WendyMcMullen118
    @WendyMcMullen118 3 года назад +9

    I love your videos. I'm 58 years old and have been in therapy for most of my life and I'm so stunned at how much more knowledge I've acquired after watching your videos. My youngest daughter struggles with anxiety and these videos are wonderful for her as well.

  • @Dinwadonyachannel
    @Dinwadonyachannel 3 года назад +23

    Thanks a million it s reallly helpful
    I suffer every night from flight or fight response

  • @sans9089
    @sans9089 3 года назад +53

    im learning so much i looooove this course :) cant believe we get this for free thank you

  • @AbstruseDaPoet
    @AbstruseDaPoet 3 года назад +11

    Thank you and I learned to not see anxiety as bad but as a normal thing and it has gotten better to manage instead of trying to control or suppress it.

  • @Vee_of_the_Weald
    @Vee_of_the_Weald 3 года назад +6

    Emma, you’re wonderful inside and out - open smiley face, cheeky smile + calm and friendly voice as well as the generosity to offer your therapeutic knowledge to those of us who can’t access therapy for financial or physical reasons. A big thank you from Kent 🇬🇧

  • @stevenbrown7852
    @stevenbrown7852 3 года назад +4

    I had a very unnerving situation so I prayed to Jesus help me.A river of peace began to flood my soul.Praise God.

  • @dianeolson8449
    @dianeolson8449 3 года назад +17

    My life is starting to make sense!

  • @shaggybg
    @shaggybg Год назад +2

    Thank you for describing the FFF response. I think I understand it better and how it's controlled by the emotional brain, and shuts down the thinking brain.
    Steps how to turn off the FFF: 15:30

  • @knottymom88
    @knottymom88 3 года назад +8

    I could listen to your voice all day :) your delivery is calm and direct, for my simple mind :)

  • @MG-kp4qw
    @MG-kp4qw 2 года назад +3

    I found your channel a couple of weeks ago. After years and year$ of talk theraphy and no results, I'm feeling hopeful again. Thank you. Saludos from Argentina! 😊

  • @korab.23
    @korab.23 2 года назад +2

    I was in a highly emotionally charged situation and my fingernails turned blue. I now understand the depth of how I really felt. Thank you for the work you do, so many of us don't know where to look for help. We don't know what we don't know and this helps so much!💜

  • @VirtualFeats
    @VirtualFeats 3 года назад +54

    This is such a realistic video thank you for sharing - If you are reading this - you are doing great, it will get easier and be better tomorrow! Sending a like and love from Ireland 🇮🇪 forgive yourself ❤️

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +2

      Thank you so much!

    • @VirtualFeats
      @VirtualFeats 3 года назад +1

      @@TherapyinaNutshell you are most welcome

    • @sheronme6643
      @sheronme6643 3 года назад

      Blessed love to you fr Jamaica 💯❤

    • @VirtualFeats
      @VirtualFeats 3 года назад

      @@sheronme6643 thank you - a little positivity goes a long waay

    • @IngunnWanderer
      @IngunnWanderer Год назад

      Lots of love from Norway :)

  • @abi.kelias402
    @abi.kelias402 Месяц назад

    I suffer from anxiety disorders😓 my anxious thought patterns makes me anxious. Anxiety becomes a part of life now.

  • @NeuralRetraining
    @NeuralRetraining 3 года назад +12

    This information is so helpful for a myriad of chronic conditions! I suffer from a debilitating chronic illness and this is invaluable. Thank you!

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +1

      Glad you find it helpful!

    • @SA-px3ln
      @SA-px3ln 3 года назад

      What has helped you?

    • @NeuralRetraining
      @NeuralRetraining 3 года назад +2

      @@SA-px3ln The fight flight freeze response is connected to the nervous system. To being able to calm it has been essential for me calming my symptoms associated with nervous system dysfunction.

    • @SA-px3ln
      @SA-px3ln 3 года назад

      @@NeuralRetraining I’m asking what has helped with sickness nervous system what do you do?

    • @NeuralRetraining
      @NeuralRetraining 3 года назад +1

      @@SA-px3ln look at the main video on my page. It starts to explain everything I’ve done. And then I have multiple playlists that I made explaining exactly how I do it “Lessons in Neuroplasticity.” I hope that helps! It’s too much to type up!

  • @1LeslieRoot1
    @1LeslieRoot1 2 года назад +1

    I want to thank you for your videos. You are truly a very caring and wonderful person for helping everyone in this way. ❤

  • @fghjk3456
    @fghjk3456 Год назад

    Even looking and listening to this lady calms me down.

  • @carriefawcett9990
    @carriefawcett9990 3 года назад +2

    I'm in Australia. I can't afford therapy and am really struggling with anxiety and stress. So glad I found your channel. Thanks🙏🌸🇭🇲💕

  • @yasminazab4892
    @yasminazab4892 3 года назад +1

    I totally believe this video should be compulsory for every child in every school ♥️

  • @southcountysue3811
    @southcountysue3811 3 года назад +6

    I cannot afford therapy. Thank you for these videos.

  • @RandomvideosGRs
    @RandomvideosGRs 3 года назад +3

    From experience, The instant cure for anxiety is to understand the fact that there are infinite amount of possible outcomes in this universe and our brain only thinks of a handful . A bad outcome can become the means of a good outcome in the future. Just like that a good outcome can become the means of a bad outcome. For example, you lost your job (bad thing). But then you got a new job which is better ( bad thing led to a good outcome.) It's an endless cycle. So just go with the flow and don't think about it . 😄 Goodluck.

  • @omisha797
    @omisha797 3 года назад +3

    When I listen to your vids I feel less hopeless and I feel like I can be okay. Thank you❤️

  • @adayinthelight7575
    @adayinthelight7575 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for this. This is better than therapy. I find in therapy they just let you talk. It’s not useful.

  • @stephanieh3945
    @stephanieh3945 Год назад

    It’s so nice to not have to wait 3 months in between each appointment for therapy. Thank you for your series

  • @dharmeebhagwandass8422
    @dharmeebhagwandass8422 3 года назад +2

    I went through a period of anxiety. Thanks for sharing such explanation.

    • @marciab1279
      @marciab1279 2 года назад

      You said a “period” of anxiety. Do you still suffer from it. If not, what did you do?

  • @quarteracreadventures855
    @quarteracreadventures855 3 года назад +5

    I think you are a wonderful presenter. I would never guess that you had anxieties about this. Thank you for the information.

  • @alisiajennings861
    @alisiajennings861 Год назад

    This video has impacted my life in such a positive way. I now understand what my brain is doing. Thanks Emma

  • @pilotintraining18ify
    @pilotintraining18ify 3 года назад +3

    The amount of anxiety I have is crazy rn. I notice that my anxiety tends to be around social and relationship situations as I journal through this series. I've discovered that when you are experiencing anxiety, it is most important to deal with the anxiety FFF's first before you can work through your deeper emotional issues otherwise it feels as though I'm spinning my wheels while stuck in a rut(its okay cause I'm not going to hurt myself but the rut gets bigger due to uncertainty or wheels spinning). I think for anxious ppl trying to learn emotional skills. This video is probably the most important since I've been trying to force myself to face my emotions when I feel triggered. Not the best, I'm learning that it's not a distraction to go do something that calms your anxiety. It's important in order to access your higher functioning part of your brain which allows for rational and reasoning. Brute force with my emotions is what I've been doing and it's not the best solution. I need to take care of myself first

  • @kimiriz9343
    @kimiriz9343 2 года назад

    Many cannot get help because when these people talk a lot they are labeled as crazy. Everyone is busy engaging in providing physical needs and the daily routine even in care centres to keep things in order. These patients are usually ignored. Most cases are not serious and they can be help. The covid makes things even worse. The sufferers usually just have to endure. Hope more people are aware of this type of problems and can at least help those in their own family and be more patient and understanding regarding their condition. Thanks to Emma and Anna for the practical and helpful tips. God bless.

  • @sparrow2831
    @sparrow2831 3 года назад +8

    I truly enjoy these videos. Healing my mind is a beautiful journey that you’ve made possible. Thank you 🥰

  • @bribbri3697
    @bribbri3697 Год назад +1

    I have lived in a near constant state of the fight flight response my whole life

  • @caleuxx9108
    @caleuxx9108 2 года назад

    Oh, this is soooo good ! - Parts of the brain that take care of survival and then other parts that are for thinking.

  • @Rome274
    @Rome274 Год назад

    I struggle with anxiety every day . Thanking you so much

  • @adamhominem
    @adamhominem 3 года назад +6

    Thanks so much! This series in particular has already had such a meaningful impact on how comfortable I am being with my own thoughts. I look forward to the other episodes!

  • @kwilson5832
    @kwilson5832 2 года назад +1

    As a child, I was punished for making bad decisions. I grew in to an intelligent, caring, talented, well spoken adult. However, it's only now (and I am in my 50s) that I have realised that I have spent my entire adult life with a fear of making bad decisions. My brain makes up thoughts and beliefs to prevent me from getting in to situations where I have to make a 'big' decision.
    A few years ago, I had been dating a girl for four years when I inherited some money. I had been saving to buy my first home for years and I was in a great financial position. But I needed to choose a location and a house. I was fairly sure that my job would be moving from 25 miles away to nearer to my girlfriend's home, where I was living at the time, but a voice in my head told me to keep saving until I knew for certain if my job would be moving. I obeyed it, and just looked online at houses for sale in both locations, each time wondering 'what if it turns out to be in the 'wrong' location?'
    I ended up priced out of the market and my girlfriend dumped me, making me homeless. It's only since then that I have realised I have had a problem for my whole adult life. I dated a lady in my 30s, who I really should have married. It was only after we finished that I realised what a mistake I had made by not asking her to marry me.
    I can look back rationally at when I received my inheritance now, and cannot believe or understand what must have been going through my head. I'm sure this isn't the first time in my life when I have looked back and wondered 'what was I thinking', but Emma sums it up perfectly in this video when she says that 'your thinking brain shuts down when you're highly emotional'. At the thought of having to make a 'big' decision, I subconsciously get emotional, thinking that I will be punished if I get it wrong, so don't make a decision at all.
    I was incredibly indecisive with both my long-term partners. I wonder how they put up with me. I went to test drive cars, liked them, but then still had to 'go away to think about it' before I would buy one. I seem to wait until I have no choice before I make a decision.
    There are numerous times in my life when I realise that I want something that I could have had, but can't any more. I should have married either of my long-term girlfriends, I could have easily bought a house when I inherited, when interest rates were low, but didn't. Now I'm homeless, so having to try to buy one. House prices are 50% higher, mortgage rates have quadrupled. I'm priced out of the market where I would like to buy (and if I had been able to think rationally when I inherited, I would have realised where I should have bought).
    I've never considered myself to have anxiety. I've researched it, so that I could help others manage theirs, but never thought that what I was reading applied to me. All of what I read and watched implied that people think 'this is an anxiety inducing situation, I think I'll run away'. Sure, I get a bit anxious if I have to speak in a meeting, but I don't 'run away'. My triggers are more subtle. When I knew my job may be moving, I knew that 'my job' wouldn't exist any more and that I would be given a different one. My counterpart's job at the company taking us over became available, on higher pay than I was on, but I still didn't apply for it, as I was anxious about the change of location (even though in my head, I knew I would have to move anyway). I liked the culture of my old workplace, feared the change, saw the takeover as a threat instead of an opportunity and resisted the move, even though I had no power to.
    I've always been indecisive and and overthinker. I bite and pick my fingernails and the skin of my fingers and thumbs. I fidget a lot, but I wouldn't have described myself as being 'anxious'. I'm one of those people who others probably think that I'm good at everything. I'm intelligent, talented, logical, well spoken, good at sport etc. But I know that if I won't be good at something, I don't even try, for fear of embarrassing myself. I wouldn't dance at a party, try to draw a picture, get involved in a conversation about something I know nothing about etc.
    I so wish that I had realised that I had a problem years ago. Every day, I break down as I think how my life could have been if I had known about my anxiety even 5 years ago. I've ruined my ex-girlfriend's dreams of having children, after she invested so much in to our relationship. I've cost myself a fortune financially, because of the 'cognitive distortions' my anxiety caused. I find it really hard to understand how I've gone from being able to buy a lovely home for my girlfriend and me to live in so that we could marry and start a family, to being homeless and priced out of them market within 5 years.

  • @christinaa.4903
    @christinaa.4903 3 года назад +24

    Hey Emma, I have learnt so much from your videos! You have such an amazing way to explain topics, simplify them and also present them interesting. Thanks so much for your work

  • @theWARMJET
    @theWARMJET 2 года назад +1

    Great stuff. Ive been stuck in anxiety and fear all my life

  • @edwardanderson1431
    @edwardanderson1431 Год назад

    You helped me a lot through this single video. A bout more than my half lifetime, more than 30 years, I don’t know what happened. When I speaking public, when I date a girl, I was freezing so many times, I can’t make a sound, say a word. I lose so many opportunities like jobs ,girls, I still unmarried. I blamed me so many times. I analyzed me so many times. There is no results, no improvement. Today at this lonely night in someplace in this world, at this moment I seemly find the answer. I must say thank you with my poor English.

  • @jamiecarr9341
    @jamiecarr9341 3 года назад +2

    So incredibly valuable. Thank you so much for your time in sharing your hard-earned knowledge. You may not be able to even begin to understand the full impact of your caring.

  • @saravone3292
    @saravone3292 2 года назад +1

    THANK YOU!!!
    I’ve been stuck and you bring clarity and so many answers I’ve wanted to know. Thank you thank you thank you!!!

  • @jamesaron3853
    @jamesaron3853 3 года назад +2

    I really hope your videos never end. I find myself looking forward to them. Your voice is soothing and the way you explain things always gives me hope and makes me smile. My fight or flight comes with extreme fear and doom, mainly from panic attacks starting at 12yrs old. Being 40 now they are not any less scary. Maybe you know about this and could touch on it in a future video. Thanks, Emma!!!

    • @heatherprivatecraftandchat3345
      @heatherprivatecraftandchat3345 3 года назад

      I'm interested too, I'm in a similar situation.. .

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад

      @@heatherprivatecraftandchat3345 Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад

      James, Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @debanwitahajra
    @debanwitahajra 3 года назад +1

    I listen to your videos when i am studying. I find it so comforting. 😂😅

  • @saulosalaber5807
    @saulosalaber5807 Месяц назад

    Very good and comprehensive video. Congrats and thanks for the way you did it!

  • @jackieshorter756
    @jackieshorter756 3 года назад +3

    You are a real genuine lovely person, thank you 😊

  • @paulineince6433
    @paulineince6433 Год назад

    Thanks so much Emma, I’ve never heard the FFF response explained so clearly before. This has been so helpful.🌺

  • @ahmetberat7357
    @ahmetberat7357 2 года назад +16

    Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression , I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here

    • @eliascharles9742
      @eliascharles9742 2 года назад

      Psychedelics are the reason why i didn't take my life when i was at my end . I was stripped of my ego and saw the beauty of life and interconnectivity and even though i still battle anxiety and depression , I'm doing better everyday and will never think in such a self destructive way again .

    • @frankjohnson6631
      @frankjohnson6631 2 года назад

      LSD and mushrooms completely changed my whole outlook on life . I became a better version of myself This experience gave me a lot of confidence about my self and my body . A bunch of bad thought / behavior patterns were broken . One of these was pretty bad OCD that made me wash my hands a lot . It gave me a lot of hope that things will be fine , this is the one thing that I heard throughout the trip : Everything is alright . The main reason for the trip was my severe depression and it definitely helped me ( although it's not gone ) . Before all I could do was lay in bed . Now I am trying to rebuild my life one step at a time which wasn't possible before . "

    • @dennisn.ripley4697
      @dennisn.ripley4697 2 года назад

      I have been having constant and unbearable anxiety because of university.
      dr.jeromespores is life saver. Thank you

    • @amandaleonice1657
      @amandaleonice1657 2 года назад

      I had a moment on my first mushroom trip where i was lying in bed and lost total connection to my physical body . I felt as i was just a dot of energy on my pillow such a crazy feeling and made me smile , really realized that we are really nothing but energy and had an overwhelming feeling from that trip onwards .

    • @amandaleonice1657
      @amandaleonice1657 2 года назад

      @@dennisn.ripley4697 Does dr.jeromespores ships?

  • @angelicadaria9081
    @angelicadaria9081 3 года назад +1

    Thank youuuuuu so much fo all your videos! May God bless you and your generous heart for sharing these things to the world especially to those who needed this the most. Thank you🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @andyroach420
    @andyroach420 3 года назад +10

    Thank you for your contribution for mental health. I watch your videos and I"m on the fence for therapy. I use your videos as a help for my anxiety.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад

      Thanks Andy

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад

      Andy, Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @heathermatthews7422
    @heathermatthews7422 Год назад

    I am in this state now. Thank you for your help ❣️🌻

  • @theadventuresofedlucille
    @theadventuresofedlucille 3 года назад +9

    This has been so informative. Many thanks Emma🙏🏼.

  • @honestlyyours1069
    @honestlyyours1069 3 года назад +4

    This video is fascinating in the information it provides about common signs of anxiety and why our brain reacts in the way it does. Personally, I found that coffee is a major trigger for producing panic attacks and extreme anxiety. In the future, I'm going to try to cut down quite a bit in my coffee consumption.

    • @jadebinns964
      @jadebinns964 3 года назад

      Me too, coffee kickstarts my fight response and affects my digestion and nerves. It sends me into a hypo mode where my heart & breathing rate are rapid. I’m much better on decaf or tea :)

  • @sittienorfatimamarohomsali9761
    @sittienorfatimamarohomsali9761 2 года назад

    Your videos is really helpful. I am from Philippines and I am looking forward to watch your video everyday. Thank you so much. You are a life saver to people like us who have panic attacks and anxiety.

  • @sharomscheller1430
    @sharomscheller1430 2 года назад

    I am so so appreciate these videos. I am learning so much👏

  • @jaynettemeceali8064
    @jaynettemeceali8064 3 года назад +1

    Its refreshing to hear what most of us already know presented in an it's newly discoverd Information format. Well done beautifully spoken. Thank you. very enjoyable .

  • @ilovehorses5714
    @ilovehorses5714 3 года назад +1

    Maybe it's time to start enjoying teaching your good stuff and knowing from the get -go your audience loves you, appreciates what u have to share with them, and is excited to listen to you. ❤️
    Your voice is pleasant and you say thoughtful and helping things. You share what wisdom you've learned because you care about ppl, and ppl know this .
    Thank you for your help! ❤️

    • @ilovehorses5714
      @ilovehorses5714 3 года назад

      Think that everyone single person in that audience is a new, fun friend that cares about you and that you could have the best bar b q with, ever!!!!

  • @rashid_falak
    @rashid_falak 2 месяца назад

    I dont have any illness but this helps a person very much

  • @yourfavoritestranger4786
    @yourfavoritestranger4786 3 года назад +4

    I love and appreciate your vids
    You are the only channel that I would like their vids before watching bc I am always sure that I would like it

  • @aleciaupson9977
    @aleciaupson9977 Год назад

    So helpful. You have gotten me through some tough times ❤❤❤ thanks a million

  • @rufusemmanuel7688
    @rufusemmanuel7688 11 месяцев назад

    I really appreciatte you. You have changed my life for the better!😊

  • @gjaylau1
    @gjaylau1 2 года назад

    so amazing for you to offer all this amazing content for free !

  • @michaelpeet-yd4on
    @michaelpeet-yd4on Год назад

    Thank you so much! I have anxiety disorder and this taught me allot!
    Michael/college student Las Vegas, NV

  • @melissabrooke1146
    @melissabrooke1146 3 года назад +5

    This is wonderful that you’re providing help for those of us with anxiety. Mine is mostly under control with medication as it was truly debilitating with agoraphobia, but I still get anxiety with lightheadedness when driving on a fwy, especially if I’m unfamiliar with the route. I did a course decades ago which still helps as I was instructed to put thumb and index finger together that relates to when I listened to calming dialogue. I think I need CBT and should pursue that. One time when on the fwy, I got so lightheaded that I thought I was going to pass out but then it peaked and quickly went away. Scary!

  • @SupMitchiz
    @SupMitchiz 3 года назад +10

    Greetings from England. These videos are really informative and helpful. I suffer from DPDR and have lived in freeze response 24/7 for almost 5 years. Thanks for what you do

    • @elenagarciabroock2356
      @elenagarciabroock2356 3 года назад +3

      Sorry to hear that. I also suffer from DPDR and I feel almost like I'm living half a life. It sounds dumb, but being kind of stoic helps me a bit, like not trying to fight it.
      Really hope you get better. Sending love your way!

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +4

      Hi! Thanks for your kind words, keep working and learning about the fight/flight/freeze response, I have a video about being stuck in the freeze response and there are a lot of good books out there about how to soothe the body. especially "Healing trauma" by peter levine

    • @SupMitchiz
      @SupMitchiz 3 года назад +2

      @@elenagarciabroock2356 It's okay, and thanks so much, I hope you get better too

    • @SupMitchiz
      @SupMitchiz 3 года назад

      @@TherapyinaNutshell You're welcome, and thanks for the recommendation. I'm just doing almost everything to tone the vagal Nerve, and Jordan Hardgrave's Depersonalization course

  • @smyrnasstory
    @smyrnasstory 3 года назад +14

    “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, But a good word cheers it up”

    • @amarieneal7233
      @amarieneal7233 3 года назад +4

      Good Bible word 🙏to remember for faith & peace to prevail!!!

  • @rosemaryclarke2348
    @rosemaryclarke2348 2 года назад

    AT LAST SOMEONE WHO ADMITS WE'RE HUMAN ANIMALS! HUMANS ARE ANIMALS!🥰🥰

  • @adamanthony7465
    @adamanthony7465 3 года назад +1

    As our health system focuses on Covid response .. thank you so much for the space you are bringing through your dedication.

  • @victorias4505
    @victorias4505 3 года назад +4

    Thank you so much for putting this on RUclips!

  • @Gnotesamurai7
    @Gnotesamurai7 3 года назад +4

    People i know need this.

  • @Gabeloveyou
    @Gabeloveyou Год назад

    Adore your glowing hair…soothes me ❤❤❤.

  • @excellentmastermindexperience
    @excellentmastermindexperience 2 года назад

    I am finding this so helpful just to understand so many things and process . Thank you

  • @farmerjohn6526
    @farmerjohn6526 3 года назад

    Under this Administration we all need therapy for anxiety..it's a pandemic.

  • @kausarjaffry3699
    @kausarjaffry3699 2 года назад

    I am sharing your videos to my friends and family. Stay blessed 💕🙏🏽

  • @bebo173
    @bebo173 3 года назад +8

    ♥️Thank you so much, you are such a cure ♥️

  • @ej_1600
    @ej_1600 3 года назад

    Thank you so much . This series is helping me transform my life for the better

  • @tonylittleification
    @tonylittleification Год назад +20

    I have been practising the Mindfulness of Breathing technique ruclips.net/user/postUgkxIIDVgnLN8pF_fPOyoZ1nTjbLvvZcib6r as taught in this CD for about 2 years having read about it in Paramananda's Change Your Mind book and taken a real liking to it. However at times I struggle to remain focused on the breathing and thought that at such times this guided version might suit me. So after two years I finally decided to buy it! The first 7'24 of Track 1 of the CD is a body relaxtion which I do not use: I don't like body relaxation techniques and I find 27' just a little too long for meditation. The remaining 20' of gentle, guided meditation helps me tremendously to relax and stay focused. I find him's voice very soothing and whilst he is present to guide you through the 4 stages of the meditation, his presence is not intrusive or distracting. For the past two years I have tried to follow this technique as best I can with gentle meditation music despite music not being recommended. Having used this CD a couple of times I think I will try from now on to adopt a new routine of no music and just this CD as I find it so helpful. I realise now that the music really is distracting and I have enjoyed listening to the ambient sounds around me which I am normally unaware of. I can not comment on the other 2 tracks of Metta or Walking Meditation as I bought the CD solely to help me with the Mindfulness of Breathing and it does just that - very effectively. In my opinion this CD is money very well spent as it will guide you through a thoroughly useful and beneficial meditation technique and I don't think you can put a price on that.

  • @zoilaabejo3375
    @zoilaabejo3375 3 года назад +1

    You have a very helpful video.I thank you for your informative explanation how brain works and how body react normally.

  • @crstarkey
    @crstarkey Год назад

    One of my biggest challenges is catastrophizing. Anxiety rushes in automatically, my face gets flushed, then the thoughts of FUD arise. All happens so quickly. Never used to be this way, so strange. It's like fear meets uncertainty which lowers confidence. In reality, the situation is nothing. So far, catastrophizing has proven false 100% of the time, yet I fall for it emotionally nearly every time.

  • @Zoentje89
    @Zoentje89 3 года назад

    Thanks for this informative
    It really helps me alot i
    Have panic attacks and anxiety thinking bad thought
    Hope one day ill go off this situation

  • @filipgajtanovski9166
    @filipgajtanovski9166 2 года назад

    I really liked how you explained the brain structure and functions in a context of what happens where and how we can utilize or better understand interworks ❤️

  • @Secretzstolen
    @Secretzstolen 2 года назад

    Ohhhh that explains why colors would suddenly look brighter for me whenever I had panic attacks in my teens, it's like someone turned up the contrast to my vision

  • @patti9699
    @patti9699 3 года назад +1

    I think you're knowledge and deliverance is wonderful!

  • @kritikapoudel8470
    @kritikapoudel8470 3 года назад +5

    Please make some videos on intrusive thoughts. It would be great!!Thank you for your videos.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +8

      totally on my to-do list. Section 22 is on the skill of cognitive defusion, which applies to intrusive thoughts, but I will make a specific video about it

    • @kritikapoudel8470
      @kritikapoudel8470 3 года назад +1

      @@TherapyinaNutshell thank youuu so very much !!!

  • @rlogs9015
    @rlogs9015 3 года назад +4

    Thanks a ton for this series, it’s a godsend :)

  • @ahealingplace7350
    @ahealingplace7350 2 года назад

    I love ❤ neuroanatomy so this session is probably my favourite so far!!! Thank you so much Emma for your hardwork in making these videos and allowing us to access then here on youtube... I'm learning so much and I'm so grateful
    God bless you ❤

  • @maurakennedy5952
    @maurakennedy5952 3 года назад

    Surely if your going to doctors to get help for all these years he is not doing his job so where is there is one to go or are people not listening the lady is giving very good advice please listen it's for your own self wish this help was out there years ago keep well

  • @Bri-vy7zx
    @Bri-vy7zx Год назад

    The freeze response can also slow your heart rate significantly, especially in little kids. I read a case where a toddler was a victim of attempted murder - cut with a knife from ear to ear. Her mother died, and she was found 12 hours later, Alive. Her body slowed her heart enough that she didn’t bleed out, a result of freeze response